It’s here again… that awful feeling: I’m behind.
You swore this year you’d print those adorable Christmas cards with your family’s smiling faces in front of a glowing tree, but it’s December and you haven’t even started.
Your friends are sending you theirs, and just seeing them makes you feel guilty.
You’re scrambling to shop for presents online, wondering how you’re going to fit it into your budget.
And that damn elf on the shelf?
Hasn’t moved for days.
Mama, the holidays are a stressful time for most people.
But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be quite this bad.
If you’re feeling behind, and like you can’t rest because there just.isn’t.time… this episode is for you.
We talk about:
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How to clean up after the holidays without feeling overwhelmed
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Why you feel “behind” and what to do about it
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Relearning how to rest, when adulting made you forget
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How to make time to recharge when there just isn’t any time
There’s no law that says holidays have to be hard. Join me in choosing calm over chaos this year.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-218-holiday-self-care.
The cure to your holiday hangover: quick & easy steps to get your home back to its normal level of chaos after the holidays!
https://www.patriciasung.com/holiday-hangover
Looking for a quiet fidget to help keep you and your kids peaceful when life feels uncomfortable?
Calm Strips are the way to go! Touch, scratch or trace the textured surface to regulate restless energy, increase focus, and remind yourself to breathe.
Head over to CalmStrips.com and use the code MOTHERHOOD20 for 20% off orders of $20 or more.
Ever feel like making friends is a puzzle you can't quite solve?
You're not alone, mama!
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, we unpack the nuances of friendship with our guest Caroline Maguire.
Caroline is a leader in social skills development and the author of the book, “Why Will No One Play With Me?” – a handbook on how to communicate social skills training for your kids… and yourself!
If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD impacts how you make and keep friends, this episode is for you.
We're talking about those oops-did-I-say-too-much moments and the I-have-no-idea-what-to-say ones.
Caroline answers questions from listeners like:
- What do I do when I’ve been ghosted?
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How do I reach out when I’ve been distant due to my ADHD?
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How should I approach talking to my friends, co-workers or bosses about how my ADHD affects my communication style?
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How do I help my kids have successful friendships without pushing them too hard?
Our relationships shape our lives – but they’re not easy when you have ADHD. So let’s dig in and figure it out together.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-217-adhd-and-friendships-with-social-skills-expert-caroline-maguire
What’s your ADHD Parenting Style? Find out at patriciasung.com/quiz because you’re not your average mama bear!
Looking for a quiet fidget to help keep you and your kids peaceful when life feels uncomfortable?
Calm Strips are the way to go! Touch, scratch or trace the textured surface to regulate restless energy, increase focus, and remind yourself to breathe.
Head over to CalmStrips.com and use the code MOTHERHOOD20 for 20% off orders of $20 or more.
How do you feel when you think about taking ADHD medication?
Nervous?
Hopeful?
Overwhelmed?
The process of obtaining and finding the right medication can feel like A LOT.
First, you have to approach the subject with your doctor (who may or may not be well-informed about ADHD) -- and then there is finding the right type and dosing of medication, dealing with potential side effects, and the whole process of trial and error.
It never goes perfectly. But it can go more smoothly -- when you take a few steps to plan and prepare for it.
On this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I share all my best tips and strategies for starting ADHD medication that I learned the hard way -- from tackling that first conversation with your doc, to riding out your first few months.
You'll learn:
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Tips for remembering to take your medication daily (No more, "Ugh, did I actually take that today?" moments)
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How to take your medication for maximum effectiveness
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How to work with your doctor to start and stop medication safely
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Tips for finding the right dosing
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What to do if you can't afford your ADHD medication
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Tips for approaching the topic of ADHD medication with your doctor (No, you're not a "drug seeker"!)
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And so much more!
Your first go-round with ADHD medication doesn't have to be a disaster. You deserve to feel confident, informed and fear-free while you find a treatment plan that works for you.
**This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.**
This episode is part of our Best Of Series by your requests and originally aired in June 2022.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-216-what-i-wish-i-knew-before-taking-adhd-stimulants-best-of-series
What if you could feel productive and accomplished, knowing you showed up for the people and things you love most? What if you could look back at your day, and know you did what was on your to-do list?
It’s possible with the Daily Planning for Moms with ADHD course, where I teach you how to keep a calendar and organize your to-do lists in a way that makes sense for your ADHD brain.
Join today at: bit.ly/adhdplan
“I’ve tried everything!”
When you’re dealing with a particularly frustrating problem that’s gone on for years, like parenting your exasperating child, looking for relief from a chronic health issue, or advocating for your child struggling at school, you start to run out of energy AND optimism.
When you’ve got a situation that feels hopeless…
When you’ve run out of ideas…
When you’ve looked under every rock and barked up every tree…
Should you just give up?
Sigh.
Except you REALLY want to find a solution. You’re not ready to give up on your kid, your health, the things that truly matter to you.
What’s a mom to do?
My kindergartener surprised me with his fresh take on counting last week, and it made me think twice about how I look at the same-old-same-old.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing five valuable ways to find a fresh perspective when you feel overwhelmed or stuck. Let’s look outside the box and past the same advice you’ve heard 37 times to find what you actually need or could use.
These are the kinds of problems that are worth another go. You’re worth it, too.
Get some cheerleaders in your corner and join our free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/motherhoodinadhd
After our first session together, you’ll know how to stay cool when your Uncle Roger starts with his political BS at the next holiday party. It won’t ruin the day for you.
Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching ends today! Registration reopens in January.
The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now to get signup details, so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.
You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-215-dont-know-what-else-to-do-how-to-solve-hopeless-problems-feel-stuck
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
What’s your story of working under an unqualified or unsupportive boss? I’m sharing a few of my terrible boss experiences.
But today’s episode is not just about the bad bosses in the workplace. As a parent, we often feel underqualified. You don’t want to be a “bad boss”, but no one handed you an instruction manual when your children arrived!
What do you do when you don’t know what to do?
When you don’t feel sure of your choices, it starts to seep into your confidence level. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) shows up to make you doubt your parenting decisions, increasing the guilt around what you should have done, and layering in the shame on how you’re ruining your kids forever with your mess ups.Yikes!
RSD also taints how we relate to our partners, which can stir up the same conflict over and over again. It influences how we react to the slightest eyebrow raise and every “what if” scenario. It makes you scared to bring up important conversations.
Knowing it’s not just you is half the battle. Let’s dive into how we can better support and care for our families and partners, by starting with ourselves.
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-214-parenting-lessons-from-bad-bosses-when-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-rsd-affects-parenting-partners
When you know how to stay calm, your child’s meltdown over leaving the holiday party won’t ruin your day. You can respond firmly and lovingly because you’re in control of your emotions.
Next week, Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching is open to the waitlist for 3 days only.
The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.
You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
What does the inside of your kitchen junk drawer look like?
And why is it always in the kitchen?
We all have a random smattering of ideas laying around and today I’m sharing a few that wouldn’t necessarily make a whole episode in and of themselves, so I’m combining these random thoughts rattling around my brain into one Junk Drawer episode.
First, we cover a few questions around ADHD medications with some crowdsourced helpful tips on how to find medicine with shortages happening everywhere, as well as what it feels like when I forget to take my medicine (a clear indicator towards it not being addictive when you use it as prescribed).
We’re also talking about emotions surrounding a late ADHD diagnosis, exploring feelings of frustration and grief while questioning if things would have been different had we known earlier? Shout-out to listener Sara, who suggested this topic!
Then, I’m celebrating our amazing sponsors: Skylight Calendars, Calm Strips, and Time Timers, who believe in our mission and help keep this podcast free for you. I’m so thankful to be working with great companies who are amplifying our goal of sharing quality ADHD info in the world. You’ll only hear recommendations for great products that I love and use myself.
Finally, I’m wrapping up by courageously reading some of my bad reviews (yikes!), an experience that can be both daunting and enlightening. Here’s how I deal with negative feedback and RSD, and still choose to share so much of myself online.
Let's dive into this "ADHD Junk Drawer" together!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-213-late-diagnosis-grief-find-forget-to-take-adhd-medicine
Curious how ADHD shows up frequently in women? Download this free checklist of ADHD symptoms to help you feel confident at your diagnosis assignment or in your own knowledge of ADHD.
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com.
“Should I become a mom if I have ADHD?”
Here’s an episode you’ve been asking for - pregnancy and ADHD! You ask me so many questions around pregnancy friendly symptoms management, ADHD medication while pregnant, and the big question of should I even have kids if I can’t take care of myself???
It’s been almost 6 years since I was pregnant, so I called in a friend who’s in the thick of it.
Today’s guest is Candin Phillips of Humanity Hive. Candin is a licensed therapist with over ten years of experience working with people with ADHD. While her little one just arrived, she was pregnant with her second child during the recording of this conversation.
Candin and I recount some of the struggles that come with being pregnant with ADHD and share what’s working for us and our clients. We discuss how pregnancy can affect your ADHD (spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone!) and answer YOUR questions submitted through Instagram and my free facebook group.
Neither Candin nor I are licensed medical doctors, so please take all of our advice as advice you got from friends and talk with your medical team to find the best decision for you.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-212-pregnant-with-adhd-should-I-become-a-mom-if-I-have-adhd-pregnancy-with-candin-phillips
Looking for support on how to treat your ADHD beyond medicine? Grab my free list of strategies and ADHD treatments at patriciasung.com/beyond-meds
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free!
I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar frame as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed.
Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
When you’re dreaming about taking time for yourself, does that nudge (or wave) of guilt make you pause?
Today, I’m reflecting on 5 things I learned this weekend while I hung out with many of you.
This past weekend was my ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat and we had a blast! It was soo soo good and I didn’t want it to end! We rested, we ate hot food, and we focused on ourselves.
One of the things we all discussed was how refreshing it was to be the most important person on the agenda, and the moms wished they could stay another day (or 3, lol!). Next year’s retreat will also be a weekend, but I’m certainly dreaming of longer trips in the future!
Listen in as I discuss what you all told me are the challenges of being an ADHD mom and the importance of embracing our unique strengths and abilities. We need self-care and the incredible impact it can have on ourselves and our families, so you can feel strong about prioritizing your well-being and break free from mom guilt.
Want to join us next year? Join the waitlist for the 2024 retreat here: https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat-waitlist
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-211-power-of-community-5-things-i-learned-from-hanging-out-with-adhd-moms
Make your life easier as a mom with ADHD. All of my free resources are in one place! Download my ADHD Mama Toolkit for support and strategies to create a life fit you and your family.
Appointments, birthdays, permission slips, library books, names, the one thing you went into the store for…
In today's episode, I delve into one of the most frustrating features of ADHD: forgetting important things.
From my personal experiences of forgetting to pick up THE ONE THING that my husband had requested while I went backpacking through Spain to missing my child's swim lesson due to a mix-up in scheduling, we’ll explore the guilt and shame that often accompany these forgetful moments.
But it's important to remember that having ADHD is not an excuse for forgetfulness, but rather an explanation. But how do you clearly make the distinction in your intention so everyone’s not mad at you for forgetting the thing for the 300th time???
In this episode, we explore the delicate balance between understanding the role of ADHD and taking personal accountability for our actions. Join me as we uncover strategies and insights to navigate through forgetfulness and rewrite our stories from shame spiral to success story.
Get ready for a powerful (and uncomfortable) discussion on forgetfulness in motherhood and ADHD.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-210-sorry-i-forgot-excuse-explanation-adhd
Time blindness. YES. It's a very real thing and it can be a challenge for lots of people with ADHD.
I'm here to tell you there IS HOPE!
I created a resource for mamas like you so you can stop waiting until the last minute to complete the project, send in the forms, or do the shopping.
Stop stressing about time. It doesn't have to be that way.
Grab my Secrets for Overcoming Time Blindness, a free resource on my website here:
Oh, the lies you’ve been told about your brain…
Today’s guest challenges the traditional description of ADHD, viewing it not as a disorder, but as a unique collection of traits that showcase different ways of thinking and experiencing emotions.
Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist, audiologist, and clinical and cognitive neuroscientist specializing in psychoneurobiology and metacognitive neuropsychology. Her passion is to help people see the power of the mind to change the brain, control chaotic thinking, and find mental peace. She shares her profound knowledge and insights on how the mind can shape and transform the brain, offering hope and practical strategies for finding mental peace in our daily lives.
We dove into everything from habit formation, ADHD brain scans, the difference between the mind and the brain, self-reflection and self-management, and tools to manage our messy minds. This episode is a beautiful blast of science sprinkled with well-earned mothering experience.
Her latest book, How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess: A Guide to Building Resilience and Managing Mental Health, is available now.
Learn more about Dr. Leaf at:
Her website – https://drleaf.com/
Instagram – @drcarolineleaf
Facebook – Dr. Caroline Leaf
Twitter – @DrCarolineLeaf
Let’s dive into our messy minds, mama.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-209-adhd-lies-cleaning-up-you-and-your-childs-mental-mess-building-habits-neurocycle-caroline-leaf
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
When you want to help your kid, but you’re triggered yourself, it’s really hard to show as the mom you want to be.
Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often.
We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. Giving you the confidence that you can change the things you want to change cuz you’re not doomed to be a hot mess.
This is a two-part episode, so you can go back and listen to last week’s episode with the exclusive group discussion and this week you get a peek into the free monthly coaching available to Meetup members.
Mamas inside of our community volunteer to be coached about whatever’s on their mind, and I help them work through it. Jess shares her struggle with anger and yelling at her family, which I think we can all relate to!
When you use your emotional regulation tools, you’ll feel more clear and connected in those overwhelming moments. With visualization techniques and a reminder to embrace who you are and how your brain works, you can find peace and happiness amidst the chaos.
In last week’s episode, I dove into our monthly theme, talking about why we get so upset and what we can do about it. How do we manage our emotions throughout the day to be able to have something left in the tank for after school and homework, or the witching hour and bedtime, without losing your ish and shutting everyone out?
Each week we start the meeting with 30 minutes of getting stuff done, then social time for the second half.
Every week is different because ADHD needs a lot of variety! However, there are some repeating themes, like once a month I do free live coaching and every month I share exclusive lessons and discussions within the Successful Mama Community only.
Other weeks, we hang out in small groups and chat, because there is so much power in showing up, getting things done, and finding support in a community of moms who understand the struggles of parenting with ADHD.
Ready to join us? Head to patriciasung.com/meetup and sign up for Successful Mama Meetups before our next meetup!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-208-live-adhd-coaching-how-to-stop-yelling-as-a-mom
We have 2 bonuses inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month:
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
And when you opt to join the Meetups with an annual membership, I’m giving you my original course for free: Daily Planning: How to Use a Planner for ADHD Moms, which is normally $267.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
Did you spew angry volcano-vomit on your family today? Or yesterday? Or right before this, which is why you’re listening to this episode right now? IYKYK.
Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often.
We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. Giving you the confidence that you can change the things you want to change cuz you’re not doomed to be a hot mess.
In this portion of our July meetup, I’m talking about why we get so upset and what we can do about it. How do we manage our emotions throughout the day to be able to have something left in the tank for after school and homework, or the witching hour and bedtime, without losing your ish and shutting everyone out?
Each week we start the meeting with 30 minutes of getting stuff done, then social time for the second half.
Every week is different because ADHD needs a lot of variety! However, there are some repeating themes, like once a month I do free live coaching and every month I share exclusive lessons and discussions within the Successful Mama Community only.
Other weeks, we hang out in small groups and chat, because there is so much power in showing up, getting things done, and finding support in a community of moms who understand the struggles of parenting with ADHD.
This is a two-part episode, so you’ll hear the exclusive group discussion this week and next week you get a peek into the free monthly coaching available to Meetup members. Jess shares her struggle with emotional outbursts, which I think we can all relate to!
This monthly theme aims to help us understand ourselves better, find strategies to take care of ourselves, and connect with the mothers we truly want to be.
Ready to join us? Head to patriciasung.com/meetup and sign up for Successful Mama Meetups before our next meetup!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-207-angry-mom-how-to-stop-yelling-at-your-kids
We have 2 bonuses inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month:
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
And when you opt to join the Meetups with an annual membership, I’m giving you my original course for free: Daily Planning: How to Use a Planner for ADHD Moms, which is normally $267.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
You want to grab dinner with your best friend…
You want to do that cool volcano science project with your 4 year old…
You want to snuggle on the couch with your partner and watch a movie…
But you also need sleep.
You feel like the worst friend, daughter, mom, partner, when you promise to do something and then cancel plans at the last minute because you don’t have the energy to do it when the time comes around.
You’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, and at capacity on top of the guilt. Ugh.
Having ADHD can feel really unpredictable when you never know what you’ll have the energy to do.
How can we set up a system that works for you and prioritizes what matters most to you?
When we’re not leaning into the kind of plans that make sense for our brains and energy patterns, it all feels way harder than it needs to be.
So how can we make this feel easier? Let’s discuss!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-206-lots-of-ideas-moms-too-tired-to-plan-need-energy
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
When your child charges in the room raging or super sour, how do you react?
Do you immediately tense up, knowing that the battle is about to begin?
When your spouse arrives home, do you listen to the noises they make outside the door to prepare yourself if they’ve had a rough day at work?
Does your stomach fall into the pit of your stomach, because you know the rest of the night is ruined?
For most of my life, someone else’s bad mood would ruin my mood. Every time.
And I hated it.
It didn’t matter if it was family, friends, waitress, teacher… I felt them.
I didn’t want their sour, grumpy, or angry feelings poisoning my mentality. But I didn’t know how, or even that I could, separate their feelings from my own.
Many of us with ADHD, especially those who are more inattentive or socialized as women, are emotional sponges when it comes to other people's feelings, problems, and struggles.
From a strength side makes us super empathetic and great friends. Where it can become a struggle bus is when we don't know how to turn it off. Our big, messy emotions don’t have to be a liability!
It may have taken me 40 years, but I want you to know that it is possible to still be a highly empathetic and kind person who also holds tight boundaries and takes care of themselves.
Today I’m sharing one of the strategies to do it!
I pulled a clip from the last round of my ADHD group coaching program, Lighthouse, teaching how you can begin to define your boundaries, understand where and how you feel safe, and lean into your big emotions as a strength.
So get comfy, lower as many distractions as you can, and let’s dive into how you can keep the yuck out while still connecting with your children, spouse, or coworkers in a way that is comfortable and secure for you.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-205-emotional-spongs-stop-absorbing-others-feelings-boundaries-emotional-regulation-adhd
If you’d like more support like this, the next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching starts September 14th.
In 3 months together, we’ll get your daily schedule sorted and your emotional regulation tools sharpened, so that you can connect home to what matters to you, start trusting yourself again, and and build the life you want to live.
Register now, as there are only a couple of spots left: patriciasung.com/lighthouse
How many times have you questioned whether you are a “good mom”?
In the last 2 months, I’ve asked myself this at least 4000 times. This summer did not go as expected which made me doubt if I’m being a good mom.
Am I spending enough time with my boys?
Am I putting my phone down and paying attention when they talk?
Am I making my kids a priority over endless stress and anxious thoughts swirling around my head?
Here’s some wise advice I received recently from an older, more experienced mom, on how to deal with challenging decisions and seasons. Plus, I’m sharing what is working for me to keep my head above the water and continue paddling (upstream) right now.
For more emotional regulation support so you can feel like you’ve got this even when life feels like you’re paddling upstream, join me at the Create the Calm all-inclusive luxury weekend retreat or for the next round of small group ADHD coaching.
Retreat registration closes TODAY, August 31st!
The next round of group coaching starts September 14, 2023.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-204-how-to-be-a-good-mom
READY TO GET AWAY?
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas!
You're officially invited :)
“Gift yourself the opportunity to meet like-minded people (literally), make instant friendships, and the space to finally be yourself.” –ADHD Mama T.H.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Grab your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
Are you juggling 6,358 things?
If life’s been a little too much today or in general, let’s talk. I’m hanging on for dear life as things get next-level chaotic over here in the Sung house…
And I haven’t lost my ish on anyone yet! *celebration*
Last year, I couldn’t have said that.
I would have yelled at kids or my spouse or both, felt awful about it, and then hid under my covers and as I sunk into shame and guilt.
But this year is different.
I’m prioritizing different things, and they aren’t fancy or obvious self care ideas. It’s the little things. It’s the tools I’ve built up in my emotional regulation toolbox to take care of myself, which allow me to keep moving forward and get stuff done without shutting down or exploding. Even with a giant weight on your shoulders, you can be mentally present with your family. (You can watch my Instagram stories @motherhoodinadhd for the behind the scenes of the chaos LOL.)
Listen in for what’s helping me right now, as I hope it helps you, too.
I’m also sharing behind the scenes of the retreat in this episode, because you are invited! Come hang out with me and 8 other mamas next month! You deserve rest, care, and relaxation, too. Because taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.
Learn how to Create the Calm in your life at this year’s luxury retreat for ADHD Moms.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-203-create-the-calm-retreat-adhd-lesser-known-ways-to-reduce-stress-for-moms
You’re not alone.
“This is a chance to invest in yourself and build a community that will empower your future. Worth it!” –ADHD Mama D.B.
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! And we hope you’re coming, too!
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Having a circle of moms who support you and believe in you matters. Register for your all-inclusive ticket here:
“My partner says I’m using my ADHD as an excuse. They’re not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!”
You shared your relationship struggles and you’re not the only one!
Today’s guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don’t understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.
We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) when it feels like your partner is constantly criticizing you, how all of this affects intimacy, and life after divorce.
Melissa is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and works with couples impacted by ADHD. There’s hope for your relationship, too, mama.
Let’s dive into your questions!
Links mentioned in this episode :
Melissa’s recent read: Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible
Melissa’s Blog post: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/maybe-just-maybe-adhd-excuse-act-heartless-jerk
How to connect with Melissa:
Her website: http://www.ADHDmarriage.com
Her instagram: @adhd_marriage
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
How do you explain ADHD to your child?
Start with the Journey with Me Through ADHD, a podcast for kids. Katelyn’s humongous heart for helping kids understand their ADHD is contagious! She knows just how to explain tough or complicated stuff in a digestible manner so kids can feel confident and empowered.
Katelyn speaks straight into the heart and mind of kids with ADHD. Helping them learn and understand the way their brain is wired differently and come up with tools and strategies that work best for them. Her podcast is a great conversation tool for trusted adults to use as you navigate this diagnosis alongside your child.
In this episode, Katelyn Mabry and I chat about Practice Makes Progress Not Perfect: ADHD and Perfectionism on her podcast, Journey With Me Through ADHD, where Katelyn helps educate, empower, and encourage kids with ADHD and their families to understand their unique minds and discover tools and strategies that will help them thrive day by day. All this while gaining confidence in who they were created to be!
"Practice makes perfect" has always been a phrase that drives me bonkers because it's just not true!!! NO ONE is or ever will be perfect! We all make mistakes and then are faced with the choice of how to respond to our mistakes!
Who else here struggles with perfectionism? You may even have it and you don't even realize it's a struggle! Often times, kids are asked to "try harder" or are told that they are making "careless mistakes" and over time, this can lead to becoming a perfectionist because of fear of failure or simply not wanting to make a mistake and upset someone. In this episode, you will hear from Patricia Sung, who has ADHD like we do and she is on a mission to help other mamas with ADHD through her podcast titled, "Motherhood in ADHD."
You may be wondering why she's on a podcast for kids with ADHD and the answer is simple...she was a teacher for 7 years to kids from grade 4th-7th and has a passion for sharing her own journey through childhood with ADHD. One of her biggest challenges has been battling being a perfectionist. She shares about the kind of armor she found helpful as an ADHD warrior and uses a great visual of becoming a scientist as we face new things!
Be sure to subscribe to the Journey With Me Through ADHD Podcast.
Katelyn Mabry’s website: www.katelynmabry.com
Katelyn Mabry’s instagram: @journey_with_me_through_adhd
Katelyn Mabry’s Facebook: Katelyn Mabry's ADHD Journey
Katelyn Mabry’s Twitter: @katelyn_mabry
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-201-practice-makes-progress-not-perfect-adhd-perfectionism-journey-with-me-through-adhd-podcast-katelyn-mabry
Struggling to let go of perfectionism?
Hop into Successful Mama Meetups because you deserve to make mom friends who are letting go of perfection, too! Join us here: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
Have you ever hated your own child?
While you may not want to say it out loud, sometimes parenting is just. so. hard. that this burning hatred overtakes you in a fiery blaze. And when your child is extra… extra needy, extra sensitive, extra different, extra angry, extra aggressive, extra anything, the usual parenting advice doesn’t work.
Maybe you feel like a failure or a terrible mom.
Meet Megan Champion, who started her podcast as a “regular mom” who needed to know she was not alone struggling to parent her out-of-the-box child. So she shares stories from other “regular” parents, who are navigating out-of-the-box kids. Megan’s vulnerability and openness is refreshing in a world of glossy Instagram photos. We finally got to meet in person in May and she is just as kind and honest in person as she is online, which is a delight!
In this episode, Megan Champion and I chat about Understanding ADHD in Neurodiverse Kids and Their Parents on her podcast, On The Hard Days, where Megan validates the experience of her listeners through story-telling so that they feel seen, heard, and understood. Today, you’re hearing part of my story as both a mom and as someone with ADHD. Megan shares:
Patricia Sung is just the person I needed to talk to. She has ADHD and understands its nuances to a fault. She has her own podcast, Motherhood in ADHD, and is a featured guest speaker in my support group community, Mothers Together. In this episode, she was able to answer so many of my questions. We could've talked for hours longer! Here's just some of the things we discuss:
-Postpartum anxiety and the tie to ADHD
-The hyper vigilance in recognizing the same diagnosis in our kids as we have
-How everyone's ADHD looks different
-Building up your ADHD child
-Supporting undiagnosed kids by looking for behavioral patterns
-Tantrums vs. meltdowns
-ADHD and setting parental boundaries
Be sure to subscribe to the On The Hard Days podcast.
Megan Champion’s website: www.ontheharddays.com
Megan Champion’s instagram: @on.the.hard.days
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-200-understanding-adhd-neurodiverse-kids-parents-on-the-hard-days-megan-champion
You’re not alone.
“This is a chance to invest in yourself and build a community that will empower your future. Worth it!” –ADHD Mama D.B.
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! And we hope you’re coming, too!
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Having a circle of moms who support you and believe in you matters. Register for your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
When you've got PMS on steroids, the rage and depression are exponential.
Ever hear of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder?
They call it PMDD for short, and it's a very real and serious hormonal disorder that affects up to 10% of women! And it’s much more common when paired with ADHD.
Symptoms include things like mood swings (aka rage attacks), sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, depression, and even severe panic attacks.
Many women with PMDD are either extremely tired or have bouts of insomnia. And then there's excessive crying and other emotional swings. Not to mention all the bloating, gastro issues, food cravings, and possible weight gain.
Phew. I need a nap after writing that alone!
Today my guest Heidi and I unpack what PMDD is, the symptoms of PMDD, how PMDD can be linked to postpartum issues, and how to talk to your doctor about getting a diagnosis.
If you've been following along in 2022, we've talked a lot about menstrual health, hormones, and cycle syncing. We've uncovered numerous ways our menstrual cycle relates to ADHD symptoms in women. It's fascinating and disturbing at the same time. But there is hope, Successful Mama!
Heidi Hogarth is a naturopath, a mom of two, and a PMDD survivor. She's on a mission to support women who suffer from PMDD and help them find the best natural health tools so they can get off the hormonal emotional rollercoasters & back to their calm, positive, and loving selves.
She's a wealth of knowledge when it comes to understanding symptoms of PMDD. She offers insight into what supplements and dietary changes can help you when you feel like you are suffering from PMDD.
A big thank you to Heidi for helping women understand their bodies so they can do what they can to live a happy and healthy life.
Find Heidi here: https://fundamentalwellbeing.life/
Follow Heidi on instagram: @heidihogarth_naturopath
If you are looking for more resources to help you along in your ADHD journey, grab my free ADHD Mama Toolkit. It’s full of great resources, including support for emotional regulation, taking care of yourself, and a checklist of ADHD symptoms to bring to your diagnosis appointment.
Go to patriciasung.com/toolkit. Not only will you be able to download ADHD resources on the spot, but you'll also get more ADHD mom tips right to your inbox. :)
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-199-feeling-rage-before-your-period-pms-symptoms-treatment-premenstrual-dysphoric-disorder-adhd-pmdd-heidi-hogarth
Need an Energy Recharge after your unending fickle energy fluctuations, mama?
There's a new workshop coming just for Successful Mama Meetup mamas called ADHD Energy Recharge.
I’ll explain how I set up my days to work WITH my “unpredictable” energy fluctuations, so I’m not burnt out, overwhelmed, and canceling last minute plans.
You’ll walk away knowing how to uncover your patterns and work with your fickle energy levels, so you can quit guiltily cancelling plans last minute and kick some booty when you're feeling good!
Successful Mama Meetups' September theme is all about energy regulation and supporting your natural energy patterns! Come join us!
Join us at patriciasung.com/meetup before the workshop goes live and it's yours as a welcome bonus for joining.
With a community of ADHD moms to lift you up when you’re struggling, you’re ready to take a baby step forward, even with ADHD.
Part 2 of thiis episode is located in episode 128
When your ADHD is invisible, we can start to feel like maybe we’re making it up…
Maybe you aren’t really struggling more than others…
Errrrrrrt. Stop that.
Today we’re talking to Christina Crowe about how to make the Invisible Visible. Because ADHD is real even when you can’t SEE its impact on everything. I love Christina’s super practical way of explaining the hard stuff, as well as how she always links her information back to real research and science.
In this episode, Christina and I chat about what moms with ADHD really need to know on her podcast, Making the Invisible VISIBLE, where Christine believes great mental health information should be available to everyone, and loves creating content that makes all of the invisible things VISIBLE.
Christina Crowe is a Canadian Registered Psychotherapist, clinical supervisor and RELENTLESS mental health advocate. Christina believes great mental health information should be available to everyone, and loves creating content that makes all of the invisible things VISIBLE. This show features Christina’s favorite experts on mental health topics like anxiety, ADHD, relationships, self-advocacy, health system navigation and, of course, the occasional rant.
Be sure to subscribe to the Making the Invisible VISIBLE podcast.
Christina’s website: https://digalittledeeper.ca/christina-crowe-podcast-ontario.html
Christina’s instagram: @digalittledeepertherapy
Join Christina’s course, DIY * ADHD
Christina was also a guest on my podcast on Episode 143: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-143-why-you-choose-to-take-adhd-medication-decide-for-your-child-christina-crowe
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
This episode includes an affiliate link, which does not change the amount you pay, but may direct a portion of the purchase price to me.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-198-what-moms-with-adhd-need-to-know-making-the-invisible-visible-christina-crowe
Wish you could get a sneak peek before joining? You can!
You’re invited to Successful Mama Meetup’s very first Open House!
Join us on July 26th for either of our meetups, and meet the other moms, see who you’d hang out with at the retreat, so you know we’re the kinda people you wanna hang out with before you jump in. (hint, we’re pretty amazing IMHO.)
No charge, no pressure. Just come hang out at one or both of the events!
Let me know you wanna come right here and I’ll send you the zoom link.
And since it's on Zoom, everyone can come no matter what part of the world you live in. And for our mamas in Asia and Australia, the second meetup is on Thursday, July 27th for you.
When was the last time your ADHD affected your kids and you were kicking yourself for it?
While you get frustrated enough that your ADHD affects your own life, it's 100 times worse when it hurts your kids. Meet my friend, Laura Froyen, PhD. Laura and I connected over our mutual love for advocating for kids. Her take on gentle parenting is refreshing and doable.
In this episode, Laura and I chat about how to deal with ADHD as a mom on her podcast, The Balanced Parent Podcast, where she helps families connect more deeply and authentically.
Laura writes:
ADHD is getting a lot of buzz out there in the world recently, and many adults, especially women (who as girls perhaps had their symptoms overlooked) are getting diagnosed, sometimes alongside their kids. I've spoken to quite a few of you who have gone through this process and so many of you have expressed initial feelings of relief, that there is a real, true reason that things have always seemed a bit harder for you, and it's not because you're a failure, you're just wired a bit differently. But after that relief there tends to be a feeling of... "Ok, what now?"
So, if you're newly diagnosed with ADHD , or even if you have some suspicions that this may be going on for you or your kids, this episode is for you! I have brought in a friend and a colleague, Patricia Sung, who is an ADHD expert and the host of the Motherhood in ADHD podcast. She helps moms with ADHD get themselves together one step at a time and feel confident in running their family life. After years of serial entrepreneurship and teaching middle school, she has a uniquely practical perspective on strategies for building a life that works when your brain is different.
Whether you have it yourself and it complicates your life or if you're noticing it in your kids, Patricia will help us figure out how to make things a little bit easier for you.
Here's what we talked about:
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Learn about your (or your child's) brain and how your ADHD affects you (or your child)
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Recognizing you need help and finding the right person (therapist/coach)
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Common symptoms of ADHD that we need to look out for
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How ADHD affects your motherhood
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Strategies to help overwhelmed moms
Be sure to subscribe to The Balanced Parent Podcast!
Laura’s website: https://www.laurafroyen.com/
Laura’s instagram: laura@laurafroyen.com
Laura’s Facebook – Laura Froyen, PhD
Find our episode details here: https://www.laurafroyen.com/podcast-internal/127
Laura's previous Episode 122: Tantrums or ADHD Meltdown? How to Deal with our Children’s BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-197-coping-with-adhd-mom-balanced-parent-podcast-laura-froyen-phd
You’re not alone.
“This is a chance to invest in yourself and build a community that will empower your future. Worth it!” –ADHD Mama D.B.
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! And we hope you’re coming, too!
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Having a circle of moms who support you and believe in you matters. Register for your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
Wish you could get a sneak peek before joining? You can!
You’re invited to Successful Mama Meetup’s very first Open House!
Join us on July 26th for either of our meetups, and meet the other moms, see who you’d hang out with at the retreat, so you know we’re the kinda people you wanna hang out with before you jump in. (hint, we’re pretty amazing IMHO.)
No charge, no pressure. Just come hang out at one (or both) of the meetups!
Let me know you wanna come right here and I’ll send you the zoom link.
And since it's on Zoom, everyone can come no matter what part of the world you live in. And for our mamas in Asia and Australia, the second meetup is on Thursday, July 27th for you.
“Is this an ADHD thing?”
This question comes up a lot!
It’s hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren’t the only one struggling with something.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfortable in knowing how ADHD shows up in women in real life.
Included in this episode is a checklist of ADHD symptoms that you can fill out and take with you to your doctor appointment, so you can feel confident and prepared to ask about an ADHD diagnosis.
This list is particularly helpful for women who don’t present the typical ADHD symptoms, so if you’re curious about inattentive ADHD or how successful, high-achieving women with graduate degrees have ADHD, this episode is for you!
This episode is part of our Best Of Series, and originally aired in September 2022 as episode 158.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-196-adhd-inattentive-symptoms-what-does-adult-adhd-look-like-in-women
Wish you could get a sneak peek before joining? You can!
You’re invited to Successful Mama Meetup’s very first Open House!
Join us on July 26, 2023 for either of our meetups, and meet the other moms, see who you’d hang out with at the retreat, so you know we’re the kinda people you wanna hang out with before you jump in. (hint, we’re pretty amazing IMHO.)
No charge, no pressure. Just come hang out at one or both of the events!
Let me know you wanna come right here and I’ll send you the zoom link.
And since it's on Zoom, everyone can come no matter what part of the world you live in. And for our mamas in Asia and Australia, the second meetup is on Thursday, July 27th for you.
If you’re listening to this episode after July and want to come to the next Open House, join the waitlist, and I’ll let you know next time I host one!
Do you feel like motherhood’s been kind of a raw deal?
Meet my friend Kelly Donahue, founder of Badass Moms. Kelly and I were in the same Integrative Life Coach certification course and I fell in love with her spunky spirit and gentle tough love.
She just launched her podcast earlier this year, talking to women who found their fun and let go of the impossible “selfless mother” standard we were raised with. If you’re ready to ask for what you want, have more fun, and dismantle internalized patriarchy, this show is for you.
In this episode, Kelly and I chat about how much I hate sticker charts when they turn into shame highlighters, and how I can’t stand imaginative play with my kids on her podcast, Badass Moms. And I have zero shame about that.
Kelly shares:
On this episode of Badass Moms, host Kelly Donahue speaks with Patricia Sung, an adult ADHD coach and speaker, about how moms with ADHD can rise above the overwhelm and build a life they love in a way that works with their ADHD brain. They discuss practical strategies for managing time and achieving goals, and how to find confidence in running both family and work life. The episode aims to support moms who have ADHD or suspect they have it to lead their family well while enjoying motherhood.
Be sure to subscribe to the Badass Moms Podcast!
Kelly’s website: https://badassmoms.com/
Kelly’s instagram: @kellydonahue_badassmoms
Find our episode details here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nMMYRpoKrDQdevRih2jzb
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-195-good-moms-play-with-kids-why-sticker-charts-adhd-hell-badass-moms-podcast-kelly-donahue
Craving people who understand how you work instead of judging you???
Come hang out with me and other ADHD Moms in our twice weekly Successful Mama Meetups! Join here: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
“Why didn’t anyone tell me that years ago?!?”
Perhaps you’ve asked that question at least 542 times along your ADHD journey. IYKYK
Sarah Snyder and I met a while back and immediately hit it off in chatting about the nitty gritty of ADHD - all those lesser known symptoms, connections, and themes around ADHD. You know, all the things about your ADHD you wish someone had told you years ago.
I first joined her on her podcast, Adulting with ADHD, a few years back to talk about pregnancy and ADHD. With the tagline "Self-empowerment for people with ADHD", The Adulting With ADHD Podcast explores the intersection of ADHD, hormones, trauma, food, and more. Sarah aims to provide information for ADHD adults that's probably not in the brochure at the doctor's office.
Sarah and I chat about the intersection of chronic illness and food. Sarah shares:
In this episode, I chat with Patricia Sung, host of Motherhood in ADHD, about the intersection of chronic illness, eating and ADHD.
Highlights:
- Patricia's story
- The food and stress connection
- What NOT to do when you're struggling with food, chronic illness & ADHD
- What you CAN do instead
The intersection of autoimmune diseases, food allergies and food intolerances with ADHD is one of my current hyperfixations, and this episode brings you a taste of what I’ve learned over the past 3 years of eating a highly restricted elimination diet in the treatment and remission of my psoriatic arthritis, mold toxicity, and fight against autoimmune issues and inflammation.
Did the elimination diet of no sugar, gluten, dairy, soy, eggs, dyes, processed foods, etc., cure my ADHD? Listen in!
Be sure to subscribe to the Adulting with ADHD Podcast.
Sarah’s website: https://adultingwithadhd.com/adhd-in-women/
Sarah’s instagram: @adhdadulting
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-194-adhd-food-chronic-illness-adulting-with-adhd-podcast-sarah-synder
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Light Bulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Super stressed and need a break? We’re learning more about your stress response and how it relates to treating your ADHD symptoms at our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat, October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas!
“Honestly, this was one the best weekends I've had since becoming a mom. I've never felt so seen and understood. I would hop on a plane and go again. No hesitation! I'll follow y’all anywhere, moms.” –ADHD Mama J.Q.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy. I take care of you while you learn how to take even better care of yourself, in a way that’s sustainable for real momlife.
Because you can take care of your family when you’re in a healthy place. Sign up here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
What does your “It Mom” Era look like?
What do you believe in your It Mom era? How do you carry yourself? How do you trust yourself?
Meet Sloan Echavarria, also known as Sloan the Beast. As a modern entrepreneur, Latina Video creator, and Mom of 4, Sloan helps busy mom CEOs create their unique work/life balance as they curate a life they are obsessed with- without compromises! She is unapologetically herself, and I’m so proud to call her my friend. We’ve been podcast buddies for the last 2 years, although her YouTube channel, Sloan the Beast, is currently the best place to find her.
In this episode, I’m taking a sharp left turn from the norm and talking about running a business as a mom. Sloan and I chat about entrepreneur struggles, balancing motherhood, business, and living out your mission.
Today is a glimpse into the mind of Business Coach Patricia! While this episode is from 2021, we talked about a wealth of business knowledge that is still relevant today.
This is a live episode from on her podcast, Nothing for Granted, where Sloan helps women and minority owned business find funding for their dreams:
Are you struggling with how to market yourself without sounding sticky and salesy? Do you wish you could figure out the secret to standing out as a professional in a “vanilla ice cream” industry?
Host of the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, Patricia Sung joins me on Fishbowl Live! Together we discuss how marketing yourself properly affects pricing, how to create content, business timelines, and so much more.
Be sure to subscribe to the Nothing for Granted podcast, as well as Sloan the Beast YouTube channel.
Sloan’s website: https://www.buffaloambitionco.com/
Sloan’s instagram: @sloanthebeast
Find our episode details here.
While I’m slowing down for the summer, making space for more family time and accounting for our emergency construction project, I simply couldn’t leave you hanging for the next few weeks. And my ADHD brain didn’t want to do another vanilla Best Of series… Cue Lightbulb!
Welcome to the Best Of Friends Series, where you are meeting a few of my favorite friends in the podcast community. I’m sharing interviews that I have done on other friends’ podcasts. Not only do you get a new episode, I hope that you’ll find a few shows to add to your podcast queue. There’s a wide variety of topics coming your way, so keep an eye out for a new friend each week of the summer.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-193-adhd-business-coaching-how-to-attract-clients-stand-out-mom-entrepreneur-nothing-for-granted-podcast-sloan-the-beast-echavarria
Ready to Get Away?
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! You're officially invited :)
“Gift yourself the opportunity to meet like-minded people (literally), make instant friendships, and the space to finally be yourself.” –ADHD Mama T.H.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy. Put it on your calendar now. Because you deserve to take care of yourself too.
Grab your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
What does your ADHD look like?
Does it look like impulsiveness, hyperactivity and the irresistible urge to fidget – the signs we constantly hear about in men and boys?
Or does it look more like forgetting to put on deodorant or brush your teeth, trouble keeping track of all your kid’s appointments, absent-mindedly twirling your hair, or excessive talking when you get excited?
(If you’ve ever gotten “talks too much” on your report card as a kid, you know what I mean!)
ADHD can look different in women – and just because you don’t have the “classic” signs, doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, Dr. Sasha Hamdani, a board-certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist, shares about the symptoms of ADHD in women, and SO much more, including:
*Dr. Sasha’s own diagnosis story, and her experience as a mom with ADHD
*ADHD diagnosis in children: how to talk to your kids about their diagnosis in a non-judgmental and supportive way
*When it’s time to seek professional help for your ADHD symptoms
*ADHD and hormones: how your cycle affects your symptoms
*Self-care tips for the emotional side of ADHD
*The benefits of partnering with an ADHD specialist, and how to find the right professional
*How to speak to your loved ones about your ADHD, while clarifying it's an explanation and not an excuse
*Answers to all YOUR burning questions that you shared in our Motherhood in ADHD private Facebook group (P.S. You should join if you haven't yet!)
BIG thanks to Dr. Sasha Hamdani for sharing your wisdom and expertise with us!
To hear more about ADHD from Dr. Sasha, follow her on Instagram: @thepsychdoctormd
To learn more about Dr. Sasha’s psychiatry practice, visit her website: drhamdanimd.com
**This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.**
This episode originally aired as episode 140 and is part of our summer Best Of Friends series.
Craving people who understand how you work instead of judging you???
Come hang out with me and other ADHD Moms in our twice weekly Successful Mama Meetups!
Join here: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
Avoid religion and politics!
While that’s usually great advice, today I’m not following it.
Many mamas have asked me to do this episode for at least a year and I didn’t feel qualified. So I did what any good ADHD-er does, and procrastinated on this episode, ha! Until my conversation with Laura Matteson on Episode 183...I knew it was time.
My faith is a big part of who I am, why I started this podcast, and how I make my choices.
So I’m sharing my story: my childhood and my past, my self-loathing and self-doubt, and how I became a Christian. My spiritual beliefs shape who I am, how I live, what I share, and the decisions I make. I also discuss how I believe that ADHD and Christianity can exist together.
This is not an episode where I quote a bunch of scripture and tell you what you should believe. I didn’t create a community of ADHD Moms so that I could help only the people who look and sound like me or believe the exact same thing that I do. Ew.
Our ADHD Mom community exists to support all types of moms with ADHD, and I will fiercely protect this safe space. Anyone who chooses to be divisive or disrespectful can see their way out until they are ready to see the people as people.
My hope is that you feel comfortable asking questions respectfully, and curious enough to listen to a perspective that is likely different from your own, both for the mamas who are and are not Christian.
Here’s another layer of me,
Patricia
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-191-find-faith-know-your-worth-christian-perspective-adhd
Goldfish crackers are not lunch.
Are you only giving yourself the bare minimum leftovers of everything: scraps of time, energy and money?
Today, we're talking about something that most moms can relate to: mom guilt. We’ll give up anything and everything in order for our kids to have more.
We want to feel strong, confident, and happy as mothers, but sometimes the pressures of keeping up all.the.things. can feel overwhelming. You need breaks before you break.
Why do you feel guilty? And how can you remind yourself that YOU MATTER? Let’s explore these guilty feelings together.
It’s time to prioritize our mental wellness, grow our self-confidence, and make bold decisions for self-care - together.
Ready to get away? Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! Grab your all-inclusive Early Bird ticket now!
“This weekend was nothing short of a dream weekend come true! It was life changing to learn, to witness and experience the bonding amongst a group of women. I felt truly celebrated every moment. To bond with so many women neurodivergent mothers was truly a gift in itself.
Only a mother could have thought of that many ways to check off the boxes.
"✅treat, ✅pause, ✅relax"
🧘♂️🧘♂️🧘♂️” –ADHD Mama K.P.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Sign up here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
Early bird tickets close May 31st.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-190-feeling-Guilty-Spending-Money-Time-on-Yourself-3-Stepshto-Overcoming-Mom-Guilt
Who’s in your support circle?
Moms often put ourselves at the bottom of the list, including friendships and how we surround ourselves with support.
Yet, you need support just as much as your children do. You need real-life connections. You deserve rest and down time.
Cuz here’s the truth: we can’t regulate our own emotions when we’re burnt out, worn down, and feeling alone. And when we can’t regulate ourselves, guess who else isn’t regulated while hitching a ride on your struggle bus… yup, your family. Yikes.
Today we’re talking all about why I started this all-inclusive annual luxury retreat & conference for ADHD moms and who this event is meant for. Here's your official invitation to join a welcoming group of moms in person to rest, hang out together, build your support system, and learn to take care of yourself.
Early bird registration starts today through May 31st, so grab your ticket here. The first few moms who register will be given the opportunity to register for one of the intimate VIP sessions, too!
And if you can’t make it this year, what will you do to take care of yourself? Because you deserve care, too.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-189-Support-for-ADHD-Mom-Friendship-prioritize-yourself
When were you diagnosed with ADHD?
In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, Dr. Dawn Kamilah Brown, “The MD with ADHD” joins us to share her advice on what to ask and disclose during your ADHD diagnosis appointment. She also explains what she wishes everyone knew about what’s next after leaving their ADHD diagnosis appointment. We cover the value of a full spectrum care plan: including your doctor, therapist, coaching, behavior management, medicine, ADHD-friendly strategies, and mental wellness care.
Late diagnosis of ADHD is increasingly common as we learn more about ADHD and how it shows up in adult women. Dr. Dawn knows well, as she was diagnosed well into her journey to becoming a psychiatrist. As she vulnerably opens up about the grief of a late ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Dawn shares how she picks herself up when she’s feeling low and how she balances being a multi passionate multiple business owner.
As one of the nation’s most acclaimed ADHD experts, double-board certified Child, Adolescent, Adult and Sports Psychiatrist, Dr. Dawn Kamilah Brown (aka Dr. Dawn Psych MD and "The MD with ADHD"), is an internationally recognized two-time #1 best-selling author, Forbes Writer, Blogger, Podcaster, Producer, Keynote / Corporate Speaker, and On-Air/Media-influencer.
She is also the Founder and CEO of Mental Healthletics PLLC ™ and the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of the ADHD Wellness Center PLLC.
I can't wait for you to meet my ADHD doctor!
Find Dr. Dawn on Instagram here:
Join Dr Dawn’s online Facebook support and empowering group for female caregivers who parent children with ADHD: supermoms.group
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-188-how-life-was-changed-by-late-adhd-diagnosis-with-psychiatrist-dr-dawn-kamilah-brown
After your family trip is over, do you look more like Clark Griswald than the refreshed luminescent being you were hoping for?
The trip was wonderful while you were there, but why is it SUCH a rocky ride with grumpy kids and a tired mom for an entire week afterwards?
Transitions are difficult for ADHD, and coming back from a trip doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable emergency landing back into real life.
Today I’m sharing my proactive plan for easing back into real life after a vacation.
With a new strategy in play, you’ll be asking, “when's our next trip?”
Ready to get away? Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! Add yourself to the retreat waitlist, and I’ll let you know as soon as early bird tickets are available so you can score the best pricing and payment plans.
“Gift yourself the opportunity to meet like-minded people (literally), make instant friendships, and the space to finally be yourself.” –ADHD Mama T.H.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Join the retreat waitlist.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
When it’s time to leave on a trip, are you up at 2 AM stuffing random clothing in your suitcase because half of your clothes are still in the washer and you’re so delirious, you forget your underwear?
That was me up until about a year ago.
But this year’s spring break trip, I had everything packed and ready to go before 9 PM.
Can you even picture it???
Today I’m sharing my system for packing for a vacation or trip that works for my ADHD brain.
Plus I’ve put together my Kids’ ADHD-Friendly Vacation Packing List based on ages: Babies, Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Elementary, that will take a bunch of decision fatigue off your plate.
You’ll have everything you need with you, so you can rest and relax on your vacation.
Ready to get away? Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas!
Add yourself to the retreat waitlist, and I’ll let you know as soon as early bird tickets are available so you can score the best pricing and payment plans.
“This weekend was nothing short of a dream weekend come true! It was life changing to learn, to witness and experience the bonding amongst a group of women. I felt truly celebrated every moment. To bond with so many women neurodivergent mothers was truly a gift in itself. Only a mother could have thought of that many ways to check off the boxes. "✅treat,✅pause,✅relax"🧘♂️🧘♂️🧘♂️” –ADHD Mama K.P.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Join the retreat waitlist.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-186-ADHD-Friendly-Vacation-Packing-Plan-Suitcase
When it’s time to plan a trip, do you feel less like a blissful honeymooner and more like Tom Hanks in Castaway? And you haven’t even left yet…
Look, you know you’ll love the vacation when you’re on it, but getting ready for a trip is mostly ADHD hell.
Planning, organizing, packing, thinking forward in time, blech.
And yet, you want to make great family memories that your kids look back on and reminisce, so what’s a mom to do?
Today I’m sharing my system for planning a vacation or trip that works for my ADHD brain.
Plus I’ve put together a helpful one-page ADHD Vacation Planning Checklist that will take a bunch of decision fatigue off your plate so you can look forward to the rest and relaxation that you deserve.
First time traveling without kids? The mamas in Successful Mama Meetups shared their wisdom and tips on how to handle your first time away from your family.
Ready to get away?
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up on October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas!
Add yourself to the retreat waitlist, and I’ll let you know as soon as early bird tickets are available so you can score the best pricing and payment plans.
“Honestly, this was one the best weekends I've had since becoming a mom. I've never felt so seen and understood. I would hop on a plane and go again. No hesitation! I'll follow y’all anywhere, moms.” –ADHD Mama J.Q.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Join the retreat waitlist.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-185-how-to-plan-a-vacation-or-trip-with-adhd
Are you listening to this podcast at 1:30 AM while rage cleaning your kitchen?
…when you “should” be sleeping?
Ask me how I know.
Sleep issues often go hand in hand with ADHD. In today’s episode, I’m sharing what’s working for me to fall asleep quickly and go to bed earlier. But it doesn’t include all that stuff you’ve heard a million times before and roll your eyes at. (I’m looking at you, “consistent bedtime.”)
Sure, we know that’s all helpful stuff, but as moms, we have a different bar to measure against.
When ADHD people struggle to fall asleep, it’s often because our brains are going 100 mph. When we’re anxious, our brains are also going 100 mph.
Coincidence?
Personally, I don’t think so.
You can learn how to drift off to sleep quickly and peacefully.
You can learn what to do when you feel your panic rising to find calm and stay present in the moment.
To help you, I’ve put together Slow Down, Be Present: a calming audio private podcast for both sleep and anxiety. And it’s only $9. Snag yours here: https://www.patriciasung.com/slowdown
Get the private podcast for free as a member of Successful Mama Meetups when you join by April 18th: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
Plus Successful Mama Meetups now has a second meeting time on Wednesdays at 9 PM Eastern (3 PM Hawaii, 6 PM Pacific, 7 PM Mountain, 8 PM Central which is Thursdays at 9 AM Hong Kong, 11 AM Sydney)
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-184-how-to-fall-asleep-faster-go-to-bed-earlier-as-a-mom-with-adhd
“The only reason why someone might not like a visual checklist is if they don't understand what the task is. So that's where a demonstration might be needed. Or they feel like it's too hard, in which case you can break up that into even more mini tasks.” –Laura Matteson
Notice how Laura takes the shame and responsibility off the learner when they are stuck. This is my kind of mama and teacher!
Our guest today, fellow ADHD mom, Laura Matteson, shares with us how to use visual strategies to enrich our lives, communicate with our kids, and bring more fun into our everyday lives.
Laura shares her ADHD journey to self-acceptance and how she now uses her ADHD gifts to help moms, kids, and business owners find more joy in learning.
We also cover how to overcome obstacles to bringing more visual communication into your family, including the ever-present “but I’m just not creative.”
Join us as we dive into how to connect more with your child through communication that works.
Laura (she/her) is a visual translator and founder of Illustrative (a visual support studio) and spends most of her time managing her ADHD/Dyscalculia, 2 children, 1 spouse, 1 creative business, and 3 flower boxes (that are miraculously all still thriving!). Through all of these facets of her life, Laura has seen that when people show up as their natural selves, they conserve energy for what matters. She loves helping other external thinkers communicate in their own way while also being understood by others.
Links mentioned in this episode:
• Laura's Website: https://www.illustrative.us
• Laura's Instagram: @illustrative.us
• Stop Medusa Mom download this free video to help you calm down when you're about to lose your cool
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-183-more-than-chore-charts-visual-communication-connect-with-your-ADHD-child-Laura-Matteson-illustrative
What’s your most shameful secret you’re hiding in your closet of skeletons? Today I’m sharing one of mine: the way I had been treating my family.
It was… not good.
Correction, it was a poop show.
This time last year, I was overwhelmed by life and I had lost my joy.
I was secretly an angry mom who yelled every time I got frustrated.
I was a closet doom spiral-er who was ready to fight at every comment from my husband.
Because of it, lies like “you’re a terrible mother” and “my partner is always criticizing me” played on repeat 24/7 in my mind. = Level 10 B.S.
The shame layered on thick and the denial of how bad it had gotten was no longer ignorable.
Come on my journey of the last 12 months where I went from full-blown RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) plus trauma response disaster zone to my current place of calm, forgiveness, and grace when I mess up. Cuz I’m still human.
My hope is that if this is you, too, you’ll join me in Lighthouse, my group coaching program that starts next month.
Because you and your family are worth it.
Full Stop.
Links mentioned in this episode:
• Lighthouse Group Coaching for Emotional Regulation enrollment ends April 4th or when all 8 spots are filled: www.patriciasung.com/time-management-mastery-for-adhd-moms#lighthouse
• Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms also closes April 4th: bit.ly/adhdframework
To read the transcript, links, and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Consistency is not a requirement for success, even though a lot of people will tell you otherwise.
You are not them.
You’re a mom with ADHD.
You have tiny humans that are not predictable.
You have hormones and a cyclical nature.
Perhaps your gift is persistence.
What can you do with that? A whole lot.
Let’s talk about being successful with ADHD in ways that do NOT require consistency.
Discover the step-by-step process that’ll take you from Hot Mess Express to Time Management Master.
Join today by visiting this link: bit.ly/adhdframework
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-181-mom-with-adhd-fear-of-failure-consistent-versus-persistent
Ever follow a friend's advice only to realize that it was never gonna work for you?
They meant well, but all you got was frustration and heartache.
Who do you look to for guidance on your ADHD?
When you want to learn how to swim, you choose a swim instructor who knows what it’s like to be in the water.
Are you looking for someone on dry land to give you swim instructions?
When you have ADHD, comparing yourself to anyone who doesn’t have ADHD is a surefire recipe for low self-esteem. And taking advice from them is good in theory, but somehow never comes together.
So how do you find the right person to help you be successful? Let’s discuss.
Join the Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms waitlist to be the first to know when registration opens!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-180-follow-the-right-leader-for-your-adhd-family
It only took me 41 years, but I finally found a type of time that ADHD is not only compatible with, but excels at.
What else are we great at? What are the strengths of ADHD? There’s a long list.
AND you can feel like having ADHD makes your life really difficult at the same time. Both can be true.
But is ADHD a superpower? Is it the thing that makes you amazing, superhuman, and destined for greatness?
Or is ADHD as a superpower simply another toxic positivity trope designed to ignore the hardships?
Before anyone grabs a pitchfork, let’s discuss.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-179-is-adhd-a-superpower-adhd-strengths
When you don’t realize that you’re frustrated until after you’re yelling at your entire family…
When you don’t notice you have to pee until it’s an emergency…
When you don’t catch that you’ve been thirsty for hours…
It’s embarrassing, frustrating, or both when you don’t feel like you’re in control of your own body. Struggling with your interoception is an everyday occurrence for people with ADHD.
How can you strengthen your awareness and tune into your body’s cues so that you feel more sturdy, stable, and present throughout your day?
Today’s guests and friends, Elizabeth Brink and Anna Lopez share how you can begin to listen to your body and feel connected to your brain, body, and feelings.
Anna Lopez is a neurodivergent, single, mom of two boys living in Austin, TX. She’s a psychotherapist, psychiatric PA, and neurodivergent coach, who loves helping people learn about their brain and lift the shame of the way it shapes how they show up in the world.
Elizabeth Brink is a trauma-informed, body-based coach for neurodivergent people. Elizabeth believes the wisdom of the body offers a unique shortcut to fully embracing the self, which is critical for lasting change.
We dive into polyvagal theory, somatics, and interoception, to link the science and the art of listening to yourself and building your self-trust.
Connect with Elizabeth and Anna, find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-178-adhd-hypersensitivity-sensory-overload-interoception-and-somatics-elizabeth-brink-and-anna-lopez
When you live on the water, you need different things: Sturdier, waterproof supplies. Hurricane-proof windows. Lots of rope to tie down your things.
Life at sea is rough on the merchandise.
Are you prepared for the storms?
Are you ready for the incoming tide?
Or are you drowning while everyone around you asks why don’t you just write yourself a to-do list?
It’s time to take lessons from a sea-worn sailor.
Hop into my boat and let’s go for a ride!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-177-lost-at-sea-with-adhd-stop-floundering
For a long time, body doubling made me want to cringe. I prided myself on being a self-starter. I didn’t need help. And I certainly didn’t want anyone watching me do stuff.
Eep! Perfectionist alert!
Was I totally wrong about body doubling? Could it be a way for ADHD brains to get more done? To feel accomplished? To stay motivated and finish tasks?
Have I found a way to make this work for me or do I still recoil with heebie jeebies? Let’s discuss!
Links mentioned in this episode:
Sandra Coral’s Podcast - Neurodivergent Narratives
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Having someone on your side who understands makes everything easier. Especially when you’re learning how to navigate parenting your neurodivergent child.
As a child psychologist, Dr. Carrie Jackson coaches parents on how to work in harmony with their ADHD child. As someone who also has ADHD herself, she helps parents with novel strategies that fit with their own, as well as their child's neurodiverse brains.
On today’s episode we talk about avoiding major meltdowns by learning your child’s patterns, diffusing tense situations, navigating when to step into your child’s conflict and when to let them resolve it on their own.
You can use many of these emotional regulation strategies for your own neurodivergence, too, mama! Let’s lean into working with our ADHD brains instead of against them.
Find more about Dr. Carrie and download her free resources at www.iparentadhd.com or download her app https://www.smartcookie.app/adhd-program/.
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Looking for your kind of people? Join our free Facebook community for a supportive group of ADHD moms to lean on during your ADHD mom journey.
I hate goal trackers. They are sticker charts for grownups. (I also despise sticker charts.)
I’m not a New Year’s resolution person. I never stick with them.
I’m annoyed by the New Year, New You messaging in January. Barf.
I am, however, big into Growth. Goals. Being the best version of you.
Goal setting is difficult for ADHD so I’m offering 3 questions to ask yourself as you wrap up the year and look ahead to the new year. Let’s change it up and think about the new year in an ADHD-friendly way.
You are more than your failed goals.
In the process, I’m sharing behind the scenes of what I’m no longer here for and what I have planned for ADHD Moms in 2023.
Let’s do things differently, Successful Mama.
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Post-Holiday Hangover Cure for Disorganized Mamas
Successful Mama Gift Certificates
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
We’re in the thick of the holidays and perhaps your sanity is already wavering. School performances, shopping, baking, less sleep, unusual schedules, no routines, more asks… yikes!
We still have 2 more weeks to go!
In today’s episode, I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and make the holidays enjoyable for both you and your family.
Free resources mentioned in today’s episode:
3 Steps for Preparing for the Holidays
The Post-Holiday Hangover Cure for Disorganized Mamas
Not sure what to put on your holiday wish list? Ask for a Successful Mama Gift Certificate and choose your course, community, coaching, or retreat next year to lower your stress, take care of yourself, and get your life in order.
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
What’s the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan?
While many kids with ADHD do well in school, a much greater percentage struggle to excel. The system is complicated and confusing. The first step is understanding what your options are. In public schools in the US, there are both 504 plans and IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) to help students with disabilities struggle less.
Today I’m inviting you into an ADHD coaching call with a mom who asked for help in understanding how to help her son who seems to be doing okay so far… but what about when he doesn’t?
While we usually focus on you, the mom, in your coaching call, we often we will discuss your kids because they are who made you a mom!
Because I have worked in both public and private middle schools before I became a mom, I want to share with you a simple explanation on the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan. Plus I’m including my two cents on when is a good time to seek out these accommodations for your child.
Grab your free ADHD Strategy Guide: My Secret to Overcoming Time Blindness
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Thank you, sweet mama!
In the US, it’s Thanksgiving today and I’m so thankful for you and this community.
And to say thank you, I’m sharing my Black Friday specials today. You can grab them through Cyber Monday with the coupon codes on my website.
If you’ve been thinking of joining me for a course, community, or coaching in 2023, this weekend is the best time to do it!
You can join Successful Mama Meetups for a sweet deal, grab a gift certificate for 10%-15% off, or get a PatriciaPay bonus of 10% on your purchase this weekend.
If you’re not sure what to put on your holiday wish list, might I suggest a gift certificate for next year’s annual ADHD Moms retreat, coaching, or learning more about your ADHD.
Have a great holiday weekend and I’ll talk to you next week, Successful Mama!
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process.
Episodes 167, 168, and 169 discuss the key ingredients to ADHD-friendly goals.
In the final segment of the series, I’m inviting you to join Successful Mama Meetups, beginning December 7th, 2022! Until now, these meetings were only available to my current clients. As of today, you can join us, too!
These meetups are a twist on productivity, planning, accountability, and community. You’re invited to meet other moms who get you and understand the struggle, make friends, and build your support system. We meet weekly so you’ll actually make a plan for your week that makes sense for you. And we make it fun cuz how can it not be fun when you get a bunch of ADHD’ers together???
This weekend you’re invited to join us for a VIP (Very Impulsive Person) special - check your inbox or listen to this week’s episode for details!
With a community of ADHD moms to lift you up when you’re struggling, you’re ready to take a baby step forward.
It is possible to plan your week and achieve it, even with ADHD.
Sign up at patriciasung.com/meetup
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process.
Today is Part 3, following through on your goals. When you tend to forget about the goal you set, how on earth can you stick to it? Here's the answer.
If you haven’t already listened, go back two episodes and listen to Parts 1 and 2 about planning when you’re not good at planning, and finding your motivation.
Part 1 - Episode 167: How to Make a Plan When You Stink at Planning: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 1
Part 2 - Episode 168: How to Find Your Motivation When You Just Don’t Want to Do The Thing: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 2
Stay tuned for putting it all together tomorrow.
It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD. For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet at patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting
When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process.
Today is Part 2, finding your motivation. When you just don’t want to do the thing, how can you tap into that elusive motivation?
If you haven’t already listened, go back one episode and listen to Part 1 about planning when you’re not good at planning: Episode 167: How to Make a Plan When You Stink at Planning: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 1
Stay tuned for Part 3 when we’ll discuss follow-through.
It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD. For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet here: patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process.
Today is Part 1, planning when you stink at planning. I’m sharing 3 critical ingredients to making an ADHD-friendly plan, so you’re not beating your head against the wall using the advice that doesn’t make sense.
Stay tuned for Part 2 tomorrow when we’ll discuss finding your motivation.
It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD.
For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet at patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
We’ve officially entered the marathon of the holiday season!
How can we prepare for the holidays so that our sanity is still intact come January?
Maybe you want to start some holiday traditions instead of zipping through in a blur by the skin of your teeth?
Maybe you want to enjoy the season instead of drowning in overwhelm after 17 special events, 16 extra desserts, 15 late bedtimes and a neurodivergent kid in a pear tree?
Two ADHD moms in our community asked and I’m answering:
Here are my 3 steps to preparing for the holidays so that it’s a magical time for not just your kids, but you, too. For an actionable plan to design a holiday season you're excited to enjoy, watch this masterclass at no-charge on how to plan your less stress holidays: patriciasung.com/less-holiday-stress
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
When a thought pops in your head, do you feel like you need to do something with it right away or else you’ll forget?
That whack-a-mole thinking is a stressful way to live. Not everything we think of is both urgent and important. Actually, most things are not important and very few are urgent.
But how do we determine what really matters? Prioritizing is really difficult when you have ADHD!
Meet Tracy Stanger, an anti-hustle business coach for moms. Even if you don’t have a business, you’ll want to hit play for these gems on prioritizing and learning to say no. Motherhood is a whole lot like running a business, as you are the one juggling all the things, filling in all the paperwork, managing the people, spending the money, and executing the tasks.
Tracy believes we deserve work that lights us up and makes an impact on the world, and that we do have plenty of time for that work, even with motherhood trying to take it all up. The solution is to do Less But Better (instead of trying to #doitall). She helps her clients and students find YOUR most impactful tasks and make it easier to get those things done.
Grab Tracy’s free guide to How to Find 1-2 Hours in Your Day, which starts the process of Sort, Purge, + Organizing by helping you start to figure out what you WANT to do and get rid of the stuff you don't HAVE to do, off your to-do list. https://www.tracystanger.com/find-hours
Find Tracy here:
Website: tracystanger.comInstagram: @tracy.stanger
Join us in doing Less But Better!
Grab your free ADHD Strategy Guide: My Secret to Overcoming Time Blindness, to help you bring the not-now into the now and live your life the way you want to - with less stress and more joy.
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Maybe you’re not as terrible as you think. Do you often explain away your achievements?
You got that new job by sheer luck…
Not sure how you won that award…Must have been a fluke!
See how everyone else is brilliant and accomplishes their dreams… and you’re just sucking at regular life?
STOP. Give yourself some credit, mama!
What if Imposter Syndrome is the thing that steals your joy over and over again?
Imposter Syndrome is way too common in the ADHD community, especially in women with ADHD. I’m here to put an abrupt end to it. Now.
Today we discuss what Imposter Syndrome looks like, how it relates to ADHD, and what you can do when you feel like a fake or fraud (cuz you aren’t.)
You’re working really hard and it’s time to celebrate.
Grab your Free ADHD Support Guide: ADHD in Women: A Checklist of Common Symptoms
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
How many times a day do you get stuck spinning in circles because you have no idea what to do next?
You know you have a lot to do, but you’re not sure what to do next. So your anxiety goes up, making it harder to figure out. Maybe you panic about how much you need to do (and nothing gets done during a panic attack.)
Maybe you disassociate to escape the overwhelm (and nothing gets done when you freeze.) Then you beat yourself up for not getting anything done (and nothing gets done while you shame yourself.) It just gets worse and worse.
Getting stuck in ADHD paralysis is a very real part of everyday life for people with ADHD. It sucks.
But we don't have to stay there. Here are seven practical steps to get you out of the panic zone and move forward again.
This episode is a snippet from what Patricia shared at The Power of The Pause ADHD Moms Retreat in October 2022. Join the waitlist for the 2023 Retreat here and be the first to know the details.
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
You wake up in the morning and think, "Dang it! I wasn't gonna drink last night." Now you feel like crap and don't want to get out of bed.
A lot of us live in the middle ground: you wouldn't consider yourself an alcoholic, but you also aren't exactly happy with your relationship with alcohol. It’s an awkward place to be.
…Maybe you're making up rules for yourself like you'll only drink on weekends, on special occasions, or with friends.
…Maybe you say you'll have just one glass of wine, but it turns into two or the whole bottle.
…Maybe you're a Groundhog Day drinker… Every morning you make a pact with yourself and you inevitably break it. Again and again.
Let's pause the spiral of shame and have an open conversation about how alcohol is a popular and culturally acceptable method to tone down the chaos in your mind so you can chill out in the evenings - particularly useful when you have ADHD and loud children.
Let me be clear: I'm not here to tell you never to drink again. I want you to have the relationship YOU want with alcohol, no matter what it looks like.
Today's guest is Carolyn Robistow, LPC, and host of Brain Unblocked: The Brainspotting Podcast. Carolyn helps high-achieving, health-minded perfectionists squelch brain blocks and unhelpful habits. She is dedicated to helping entrepreneurs get out of their heads, stop drinking, and start living optimized AF.
Carolyn side hustles at her private practice, The Joy Effect, an in-person and virtual counseling practice in The Woodlands, TX, where she specializes in Anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
You don't have to painfully shame yourself into a new way of doing things. Let's dig into the tough conversations, Successful Mama!
Learn more and connect with Carolyn:
Website: www.carolynrobistow.net
Practice Website: https://joyeffectcounseling.com
Instagram: @carolynrobistow
Facebook: Carolyn Robistow
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
As we enter ADHD Awareness Month, our theme is “Do Less to Lower Your Stress.”
You have an overflowing plate as a mom with ADHD. How do you take things off your plate? *panic ensues*
Good question! I’m giving you permission to scrap some stuff and make your life easier today. Tell me what you did to lighten your load, Successful Mama!
Free resources & sign up for courses: motherhoodinadhd.com
What do you do when your ADHD child is always making you late? How do you deal with an ADHD kid who takes a hundred years to get ready in the morning or at bedtime (or all the time!)?
Jaymi asks this question about what to do when her ADHD daughter is not moving in our free Facebook community.
Not only is it stressful and frustrating, it creates a domino effect of problems for the rest of the family.
And full disclosure, I was that kid! My mom called me the poky little puppy.
Today I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and teach your ADHD child the skills they need to get moving.
For more support in creating ADHD-friendly morning routines that lower your stress and get you moving out the door faster, grab The Simple Morning Routine for ADHD Moms with Smart Speaker Support.
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
I recently got rejected from something that mattered to me. And it stunk. RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) and trauma response all rolled into one giant ball of suck.
One of the hardest parts of parenting is talking to our kids about hard things, like rejection, sadness, and disappointment especially when we don’t feel like we are good at those skills ourselves.
When disappointment strikes, how do we work through those feelings? And how do we teach our kids to do the same?
Here’s how I worked through the sadness recently and explained the tough stuff to my kids.
It’s time to take care of a very important person in the family: Mom.
We’ll relax, rest, have fun, and build friendships with mamas who think like us. Plus learn how to take care of our impressive yet ever-moving brains.
Join us in Houston, October 7-9, 2022 for the very first ADHD Moms retreat! Reserve your ticket here: patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
We went to the Johnson Space Center during the last week of summer and got to sit in Mission Control for the Apollo 13 mission. At Mission Control, they monitor everything from the fuel level, oxygen level, the trajectory, and even the poo.
Guess who is Mission Control for your entire family?
Yup, you.
No wonder you’re exhausted before you even get out of bed!
Two things that exhaust me a lot are timekeeping and emotional regulation.
Let’s talk about how you can take care of yourself as a mom with ADHD during these impossible missions.
For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
Episode 76: Planning for the New Year with ADHD: One Month at a Time and Overcome Time Blindness
Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to Deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen
To read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.
“Is this an ADHD thing?”
This question comes up a lot!
It’s hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren’t the only one struggling with something.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfortable in knowing how ADHD shows up in women in real life.
Included in this episode is a checklist of ADHD symptoms that you can fill out and take with you to your doctor appointment, so you can feel confident and prepared to ask about an ADHD diagnosis.
For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.
When impulsive behavior bites you in the butt again, it’s discouraging!
I’m sharing how I slow down impulsive leaps that kick my butt.
In a brand new format, a listener (one of you, mama!) shares her question and I answer!
Today Irina asks how to stop impulsive spending. It’s not as easy as “well, just don’t buy that.”🙄
These impulsivity tips aren’t just for money! Even if you are a savings queen, these strategies will help you anytime you feel like your ADHD is sabotaging your well-laid plans.
When you want a chance to slow down and take care of yourself, join us at the ADHD Moms Retreat in Houston, October 7-9. Reserve your ticket here. We're diving deep into The Power of the Pause during our Saturday discussion, along with having a great weekend full of rest, relaxation, food, friendship & fun.
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
It was our worst morning last school year. I screwed up big time, and left school drop off feeling demoralized and ashamed.
This is not how I want mornings to go with my kids.
Do you feel that way in the mornings, too?
When our ADHD causes consequences for our kids, the guilt and shame kick into high gear.
Thankfully, most mornings are not like this for our family. Our mornings are usually smooth and happy, and I have time for a good conversation with my oldest before he leaves for school.
How can you feel refreshed, relaxed, calm, motivated during stressful mornings, too? Today I’m sharing how our ADHD friendly morning routine keeps us on time and motivated to tackle the day.
Here’s my secret to a simple ADHD morning routine and how I use our smart home speaker to keep us on time for school. You can have this level of peace in the mornings, too, mama!
When was the last time you said something you wish you hadn’t?
Your impulsive tendencies affect you in more ways than simply putting your foot in your mouth…again.
Even when it may seem impossible, you can build in the practice of slowing down. Why does this matter for busy ADHD brains? Let’s discuss why you crave peace in your turbo-speed brain and how it helps both you and your family when you sloooooooow down.
When your brain goes non-stop, how do you create calm in chaos? We’ll dive deep into this discussion at our ADHD Moms retreat in October. You deserve a weekend to rest, focus on you, and learn how you best slow down to take care of yourself (and not snap at your kids every day.) Join us here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
What do women with ADHD need right now? Well, a lot of things, and community is high on the list. This episode amplifies and celebrates the trailblazing voices and experiences of women and female BIPOC individuals within our ADHD family.
In July, ADDA hosted the International Global Gathering conference to spark conversations on how to thrive with ADHD. If you're not familiar with the non-profit ADDA, check out their membership - they have had solid resources, events, and support groups for adults with ADHD for over 30 years.
One of the events I was honored to moderate during the virtual conference was the Women’s Town Hall. The ladies had a lot to say, so I broke it into 2 episodes:
The first part of the event features ADHD Women Trailblazers with guests Laurie Dupar, Liz Lewis, Terry Matlen, and Linda Roggli, hosted by ADDA Board Member, Michelle Price.
The second part of the event features ADHD Women Trailblazers in the BIPOC community, led by Inger Shaye Colzie, with guests Sudhita Kasturi, Victoria Novaro, and Stacey Machelle.
It’s time for us to band together in conversation to change the paradigm of ADHD in women.
Want to join me in person to talk about your ADHD? Our ADHD Mom Retreat is October 7-9 and you’re invited. Reserve your ticket here.
What do women with ADHD need right now? Well, a lot of things, and community is high on the list. This episode amplifies and celebrates the trailblazing voices and experiences of women and female BIPOC individuals within our ADHD family.
In July, ADDA hosted the International Global Gathering conference to spark conversations on how to thrive with ADHD. If you're not familiar with the non-profit ADDA, check out their membership - they have had solid resources, events, and support groups for adults with ADHD for over 30 years.
One of the events I was honored to moderate during the virtual conference was the Women’s Town Hall. The ladies had a lot to say, so I broke it into 2 episodes:
The first part of the event features ADHD Women Trailblazers with guests Laurie Dupar, Liz Lewis, Terry Matlen, and Linda Roggli, hosted by ADDA Board Member, Michelle Price.
The second part of the event features ADHD Women Trailblazers in the BIPOC community, led by Inger Shaye Colzie, with guests Sudhita Kasturi, Victoria Novaro, and Stacey Machelle.
It’s time for us to band together in conversation to change the paradigm of ADHD in women.
Want to join me in person to talk about your ADHD? Our ADHD Mom Retreat is October 7-9 and you’re invited. Reserve your ticket here.
Today I'm explaining what I do when I walk in the door after a long day.
Before the chaos really takes off, I take a few minutes to sort the clutter of backpacks, diaper bags, lunch boxes, and work bags and prepare for the next day. This gives me less to do before bed and keeps the to-do list short in the mornings.
Starting this chain of events sets yourself up for a handful of habits that will make your life easier. Less to do before bed when you have absolutely no energy, and less to do in the morning when you're already running late, amirite?
**Note: This episode originally aired in April of 2019. As I take a break for the summer and quality time with my family, I'm sharing episodes that will help you get ready for the summer, support you with some integral support skills for ADHD, and then get ready for the new school year.
To hang out with me over the summer, you can:
1) hop on over to our free Facebook community -AND/OR-
2) join me on Wednesdays during our weekly meetings by signing up for my course, Daily Planning for ADHD Moms, or my program, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms.
I'm cooking up some good stuff behind the scenes. Plus, I'll see you in the fall with brand new episodes! Talk to you then, Successful Mama!
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Transitions are rough for ADHD.
Back to School season brings a mountain of new details to absorb, way too many forms to keep track of, and deadlines swarming like flies.
So I created a Back To School preparedness list: let's turn the craziness into calm in August and September. When we have thought about how we can prepare for what we know is coming, it makes the doing a lot less overwhelming.
That means that we can use our finite amount of energy that's left over to tackle the unpredictable that inevitably comes with a new school year. And if the school year has already started for you, listen in; these tips can be used to make any part of the school year feel in control.
For more on school support for kids and moms with ADHD, listen to:
- Episode 26: Build a supportive Partnership with your child's teacher
Episode 27: How to tell your Child's Teacher about their ADHD
Episode 34: How to use Parent-Teacher Conferences to Help your ADHD Child at School
This episode originally aired in August of 2019. As I take a break for the summer and quality time with my family, I'm sharing episodes that will help you get ready for the summer, support you with some integral support skills for ADHD, and then get ready for the new school year.
To hang out with me over the summer, you can:
1) hop on over to our free Facebook community to meet your people and feel like you're not a weirdo -AND/OR-
2) join me on Wednesdays during our weekly meetings by signing up for my course, Daily Planning for ADHD Moms, where you'll get your day organized and actually show up for stuff mostly on time, or my program, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms where you'll create the best daily routine for you and your family that your ADHD brain will actually be okay with following. Get stuff done while you love your life & your brain.
I'm cooking up some good stuff behind the scenes. Plus I'll see you in the fall with brand new episodes! Talk to you then, Successful Mama!
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Less late is the goal.
Sure, we wish we were on time.
Let's take some baby steps and be a little less late.
Today we'll discuss why we are frequently running late, discuss executive functions involved in the project of leaving your house with kids in tow, find our motivation to make changes, and walk through a few skills, like counting up the minutes you truly need to walk out that door calmly with everything you need.
If you're as time blind as I am, you'll want to ask for help in completing this homework since chances are you were overly optimistic (a.k.a. mindbogglingly incorrect) in your estimations.
Being more timely is a learned skill, so we are not doomed for all eternity, mama!
**Note: This episode originally aired in May of 2019. As I take a break for the summer and quality time with my family, I'm sharing episodes that will help you get ready for the summer, support you with some integral support skills for ADHD, and then get ready for the new school year.
To hang out with me over the summer, you can:
1) hop on over to our free Facebook community -AND/OR-
2) join me on Wednesdays during our weekly meetings by signing up for my course, Daily Planning for ADHD Moms, or my program, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms.
I'm cooking up some good stuff behind the scenes. Plus, I'll see you in the fall with brand new episodes! Talk to you then, Successful Mama!
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Behind The Scenes Sneak Peek? Yes, please!
My summer devolved into chaos, and I’m sharing why. Things have not - at all - gone as planned, yet I’m leaning into it.
The difference between rest and recovery is confusing, and our ADHD brains like neither. We like to plan lots of stuff to do in our rest time. And then we’re surprised when it’s not restful! Yet rest is a must-have for our busy brains.
Figuring out how to serve you better is always on my mind, so here’s what I’ve been working on behind the scenes.
In this raw, unedited episode, I'm sharing what's happening Behind the Scenes this summer, including the very first Successful As A Mother Retreat.
When you want to show up on time and prioritize your To Do List in a way that makes sense to your ADHD brain, join Daily Planning for ADHD Moms. Payment plan available until July 31st.
Behind The Scenes Sneak Peek? Yes, please!
What horrible work experience have you had? Were you fired? “Let go”? Embarrassed for all of time?
In this raw, unedited episode, I'm sharing what's going on Behind The Scenes this summer, and today it’s the story of when I was “let go” from work. Sharing our stories is what allows us to connect, so I’m going first.
How can we grow our ADHD Mom Community? By hanging out together, in person!
You’re invited on an all-inclusive, curated weekend getaway with Patricia is the first of its kind: for ADHD Moms (and moms that think they have ADHD.) You’ll enjoy 4-star accommodations, unparalleled experiences, and gourmet meals, all while making friends with moms who understand how you think and love you just the way you are.
Best of all, you don’t need to plan or organize anything once you arrive at the hotel. I’m taking care of YOU! Every meal, every activity… you simply arrive at the hotel, and everything is taken care of for you from there. You’ll arrive home refreshed and rested.
Book your ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat by August 8th for early bird pricing. This is a small group, so if you’re coming, don’t wait long to reserve your spot.
Pack your bags, and I’ll see you in October!
Behind The Scenes Sneak Peek? Yes, please!
You are meant for more, mama. You are meant to be successful with ADHD because that is how you were made. So how do we get you unstuck, moving forward, and living the life you are meant to live?
I want to help you find it.
In this raw, unedited episode, I'm sharing what's happening Behind the Scenes this summer. I totally hopped on a soapbox here, and I’m here. For. It. No more hiding - confidently claim what you’re awesome at and shine on, mama!
If one of these 2 spots is meant for you, sign up here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhdcoach
Behind The Scenes Sneak Peek? Yes, please!
In this raw, unedited episode, I'm sharing what's going on Behind The Scenes this summer as I take a break from creating new episodes to... make a new episode today!
Over the last 6 months, I've been volunteering with ADDA, a non-profit that serves Adults with ADHD. This weekend is the ADDA Global Gathering - an innovative, virtual, around-the-clock international conference for Adults with ADHD.
You're invited to visit the new virtual reality "ADDA-verse" (free for the 36 hours of the conference) to learn about ADHD in an ADHD-friendly way, and mingle with other ADHD Adults.
Join me for an informal conversation on Friday night about "Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: ADHD & Self-Doubt," and as I co-host the Women's Town Hall on Saturday night.
Let’s hang out! Register at no charge here: https://add.org/addaverse-open-house/
You can attend the main sessions as well (ticket required: https://homecoming.add.org/ ) on ADHD@Work, ADHD & Me, and You, Me & ADHD.
Come find me in the ADDAverse July 22 and 23 and say hi! (I'll be dressed in head-to-toe yellow as one of the volunteers.)
Don't you wish there was a five-question Cosmo quiz that would tell you a definitive yes/no answer to the question "Do you have ADHD?"
Well, our brains are a little more complex than that.
I'm no doctor, but here's the first time I addressed this question on the podcast.
Let me point you in the right direction and help you figure out the right doctor that can help you find out if you have ADHD. Getting the right diagnosis from a qualified and experienced professional is the first step in your journey to healing and a joy-filled life.
**Note: This episode originally aired in June of 2019. As I take a break for the summer and quality time with my family, I'm sharing episodes that will help you get ready for the summer, support you with some integral support skills for ADHD, and then get ready for the new school year.
To hang out with me over the summer, you can:
1) hop on over to our free Facebook community to meet your people and feel like you're not a weirdo -AND/OR-
2) join me on Wednesdays during our weekly meetings by signing up for my course, Daily Planning for ADHD Moms, where you'll get your day organized and actually show up for stuff mostly on time, or my program, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms where you'll create the best daily routine for you and your family that your ADHD brain will actually be okay with following. Get stuff done while you love your life & your brain.
I'm cooking up some good stuff behind the scenes. Plus, I'll see you in the fall with brand new episodes! Talk to you then, Successful Mama!
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
It's June, and your kids are either home now or about to be home for the whole summer. That is three unstructured months of chaos ahead of you... cue panic!
Wait! It doesn't have to be!
You asked; I answered: What does Patricia's summer schedule look like?
With a few minutes of planning, you'll create a flexible structure to fit any family during the summer break and all year long.
No need to panic nor roll your eyes at me! Having a schedule doesn't mean you're stuck with a minute-by-minute inflexible itinerary sucking the fun out of every hour. Your summer vacation can still be full of fun and freedom and impromptu activities without you losing your sanity on the daily.
Having a running list of activities to keep everyone entertained keeps my stress down and decision fatigue low. There's no scrambling around in the morning trying to figure out, "Mom, what are we going to do today?" Or the wasted mornings where I can't figure out what the answer is, and all of a sudden its lunchtime, and I still don't know what we're going to do today, and it's half over!
Today we're walking through what the schedule setup looks like, as well as how I have implemented that framework for our family with specifics on time and activities. Our family has used this basic schedule for multiple years, and we adapt it as our kids grow from babies to toddlers to preschoolers to elementary school to adults (that's for me, the mom.)
**Note: This episode originally aired in June of 2021. As I take a break for the summer and quality time with my family, I'm sharing episodes that will help you get ready for the summer, support you with some integral support skills for ADHD, and then get ready for the new school year.
To hang out with me over the summer, you can:
1) hop on over to our free Facebook community to meet your people and feel like you're not a weirdo -AND/OR-
2) join me on Wednesdays during our weekly meetings by signing up for my course, Daily Planning for ADHD Moms, where you'll get your day organized and actually show up for stuff mostly on time, or my program, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms where you'll create the best daily routine for you and your family that your ADHD brain will actually be okay with following. Get stuff done while you love your life & your brain.
I'm cooking up some other stuff behind the scenes. Plus, I'll see you in the fall with brand new episodes! Talk to you then, Successful Mama!
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
How do you feel when you think about taking ADHD medication?
Nervous?
Hopeful?
Overwhelmed?
The process of obtaining and finding the right medication can feel like A LOT.
First, you have to approach the subject with your doctor (who may or may not be well-informed about ADHD) -- and then there is finding the right type and dosing of medication, dealing with potential side effects, and the whole process of trial and error.
It never goes perfectly. But it can go more smoothly -- when you take a few steps to plan and prepare for it.
On this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I share all my best tips and strategies for starting ADHD medication that I learned the hard way -- from tackling the first conversation with your doc, to riding out your first few months.
You'll learn:
- Tips for remembering to take your medication daily (No more, "Ugh, did I actually take that today?" moments)
- How to take your medication for maximum effectiveness
- How to work with your doctor to start and stop medication safely
- Tips for finding the right dosing
- What to do if you can't afford your ADHD medication
- Tips for approaching the topic of ADHD medication with your doctor (No, you're not a "drug seeker"!)
- And so much more!
Your first go-round with ADHD medication doesn't have to be a disaster. You deserve to feel confident, informed, and fear-free while you find a treatment plan that works for you.
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
What if you could look back at your day, and know you did everything on your to-do list? What if you could feel productive and accomplished, knowing you showed up for the people and things you love most?
It’s all possible with the Daily Planning for Moms with ADHD course, where I teach you how to keep a calendar and organize your to-do lists in a way that makes sense for your ADHD brain.
Join today at: bit.ly/adhdplan
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Stimulant medication for ADHD is a hot-button topic.
Everyone has something to say -- your friends, your coworkers, your uncle's cousin's brother's barber, and of course, the internet.
They'll tell you about the person they knew who "went crazy" on stimulants.
They'll tell you how ADHD medication will change your personality or turn you into a zoned-out zombie.
They'll tell you, you probably don't need medication unless you're struggling in school or at work.
SO when that small voice inside of you asks, "Could medication help?" It's hard to hear it through all that noise.
And while most people are well-meaning, most of the negative stories you hear about stimulant medications for ADHD are utter nonsense.
It's "Medication May" (and June) on the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, and we're continuing our series with an episode dedicated to busting myths about stimulant medication. And boy, are there a lot of 'em!
But we're just choosing 10 for this episode, including:
- Will ADHD medication make me a zombie?
- Is medication just for kids?
- Can ADHD medication become addicting?
- Do I need periodic breaks from my medication?
- Is coffee a safer alternative to stimulant medication?
- And 5 more pervasive myths you won't want to miss!
This isn't medical advice. The point of this series is to take away the fear and shame of taking ADHD medication and to arm you with quality information so you can make the right decision for yourself and your life.
And hopefully, you can serve as an educator to the people in your circle with mistaken beliefs about ADHD medication.
And we can end the stigma together.
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
Would you love a more peaceful morning as an ADHD mom? How about some help to navigate ADHD time blindness, so you can finally get your kids to school on time? You can get these in your inbox TODAY by visiting patriciasung.com/resources.
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Can I get addicted to ADHD medication?
Is Adderall the same as meth?
With questions like these circling within communities and around the internet, it's no wonder so many ADHDers are confused, and sometimes terrified to take ADHD medication -- or to tell their family and friends they're on it.
It's "Medication May" on the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, and the goal of this episode series is to break stigma, bust myths and equip you with as much knowledge as possible about ADHD medication.
So you can feel confident in making the choice that's right for you.
On this episode, we continue our conversation with Board-Certified Pediatrician and ADHD specialist Dr. Carolyn Parcells. She gives us an overview of ADHD medication, answers commonly-asked questions, and busts several pervasive myths.
You'll hear about:
- The basics of ADHD medication -- the different types and how they work in the brain
- The differences between stimulant and non-stimulant ADHD medication
- ADHD medication and kids -- the types of medication for different age groups, risks, and benefits
- The complete low-down on ADHD medication and risk of addiction
Answers to questions like:
- Why is my medication less effective before and during my period?
- Can I double my dose if it's not working?
- Are there certain people who should avoid stimulants?
- Should I take a break from my medication so I don't develop a tolerance?
- And more!
Thank you, Dr. Parcells for your sharing your wealth of knowledge as an ADHD specialist!
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
What if you could learn an easy, 3-step system for organizing your day, sorting through your to-do lists, and keeping your commitments? What if you had a group of other ADHD moms to hold you accountable week to week?
It's all possible with Daily Planning for ADHD Moms. Figure out your life in a way that makes sense for both your mom-life and your ADHD brain. Join us here!
Connect with Dr. Parcells, read the transcript, and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
You should be able to get your kids to school on time.
You should be able to remember all your appointments.
You should be able to handle life without medications.
So many moms with ADHD have a habit of should-ing all over themselves.
Because we're still fighting the shame, embarrassment, and stigma associated with adult ADHD diagnosis.
During “Medication May” on the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, we want to encourage you to replace all your “shoulds” with “deserve.”
You deserve to be able to get your kids to school on time.
You deserve to be able to remember your appointments.
You deserve mediation so you can handle your life better.
This episode features Board-Certified Pediatrician and ADHD Specialist Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parcells. As a doctor, and a mom with ADHD, she’s very familiar with the shame, stigma, and “shoulds”.
In part one of this two-part conversation, you’ll hear about:
- The hidden strengths in ADHDers
- The pros and cons of “leaning in” to your ADHD brain and doing things differently
- How the ADHD community can work to fight the shame and stigma of seeking treatment or medication for ADHD
- Why getting treated for your ADHD is never a “waste of resources”
- How to handle the fear and potential shame of telling friends and family you have ADHD
- And more!
Thank you, Dr. Parcells – for sharing your stories and insights!
In 11 weeks, you’ll set up a smooth, low-stress plan for your mom-life by designing your daily rhythms and routines fit for your ADHD brain. Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms is starting NOW! Join us here: http://bit.ly/adhdframework
Connect with Dr. Parcells, read the transcript, and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
How will ADHD medication affect my life?
What will my family and friends think if I tell them?
Will ADHD medication change my personality?
There are so many fears, worries, and what-if's surrounding taking ADHD medication.
You may have heard family or cultural messages your entire life that says medication is wrong, harmful, or shameful.
With all of the stigma and negative buzz, it’s no wonder so many ADHD'ers are confused and worried about taking it.
There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of about taking ADHD medication. When you really dig into the data, it paints a very different picture -- one that deserves a closer look.
It’s “Medication May” on the Motherhood in ADHD podcast. This episode series aims to arm you with the knowledge and confidence you need to make the right choice about taking (or not taking) ADHD medication.
In this episode, Canadian Psychotherapist and fellow ADHD mama Christina Crowe discusses:
- The pros and cons of taking ADHD medication, and the surprising risks of untreated ADHD
- Questions to ask when you’re choosing a doctor to treat your ADHD
- What to consider when deciding if medication is right for you
- Christina’s thoughts on “big pharma” and the idea that the pharmaceutical industry is profiting off of mental illness medication (and other common fears)
- Christina’s personal journey with ADHD diagnosis in her late 30's and her biggest struggles with parenting her ADHD child
- The difference between mindfulness and meditation (Yes, there's a difference!)
- And more!
Thank you, Christina, for joining us and offering your incredible knowledge and insights!
Connect with Christina, read the transcript, and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
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What if you could learn an easy, 3-step system for organizing your day, sorting through your to-do lists, and keeping your commitments? What if you had a group of other ADHD moms to hold you accountable week to week?
It's all possible with Daily Planning for ADHD moms. Figure out your life in a way that makes sense for both your mom-life and your ADHD brain. Join us today! bit.ly/adhdplan
How do you feel about ADHD medication?
Are you taking it? Does it help you focus and thrive?
Or are you medication-curious, and a little freaked out about it? That’s totally okay.
Are you anti-medicine? That's alright, too.
Most ADHDers who are new to medication have a LOT of questions, like:
- How does ADHD medicine feel?
- How do you know if your ADHD medication is working?
- How do you decide if medication is the right choice?
On the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, we’re kicking off “Medication May” (and probably a bit of June too!), by giving you the complete low-down on ADHD medication, so you can make the choice that’s right for you.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
- Why I choose to take medicine, and my personal experience with different types of ADHD medication over the past 20 years
- Why I stopped taking medication in the past, and how I managed without it
- The unnecessary shame and embarrassment many ADHDers feel when seeking ADHD meds (Let’s break the stigma, shall we?!)
- How to tackle the fears and “what ifs” around taking medication by becoming as informed as possible
- How ADHD medication isn’t a “magic wand” that solves all your problems – and additional ways to support yourself
- The difference between stimulant and non-stimulant ADHD medication (and my experience with both)
- Why it’s okay to start and stop medication (and how to work with your doctor to do this safely)
- Answers to the most frequent questions asked by listeners
- And more!
Let me be clear: This is not medical advice. I'm not here to tell you what you should or should not do.
My goal in sharing my treatment journey is to share with you as much knowledge and confidence as possible, so you can decide if ADHD medicine is an option you'd like to try. Because you are the only one who can decide what is best for you.
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Lower your stress and learn how to create a rhythm for your day with Time Management Mastery for Moms with ADHD.
Over the next 11 weeks, you’ll create a flexible framework for your day that’s fluid enough for your ADHD brain to stick with, and structured enough to feel like you’re in control.
Join today by visiting this link: bit.ly/adhdframework
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Parenting as a single mom with adult ADHD is extra hard.
There's homework, housework, and after-school activities to manage on your own.
There's the pressure to put healthy food on the table every night when you're already exhausted.
There are bills to pay on one income.
And then there’s your ADHD symptoms and emotional exhaustion – the guilt, shame and inadequacy that come with being divorced and never feeling like you’re good enough.
If you need to hear this today: You are a fantastic mom.
And you're not alone.
There are a bunch of single moms in our Motherhood in ADHD Community. Reach out and find your village!
Since I’m not a single parent, I reached out for some help from a few friends.
In this special request (from one of YOU!) episode of Motherhood in ADHD, you’ll hear expert advice from 5 single moms who know the struggle and have found tools to help them thrive in parenting and in life.
These single moms shared:
- Self-care tips for single moms
- How to let go of the perfectionism and comparison
- The benefits of living simply as a single mom with ADHD
- Advocating for your children with ADHD
- The importance of setting boundaries as a single mom
- And more!
A special thank you to the incredible single moms who contributed their heartfelt wisdom to this episode:
Pam McCurry, Motherhood in ADHD listener
Yakini Pierce, ADHD Parenting Coach and Podcaster, ADHD Love
Instagram: @adhdlove2020
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDLove2020
Nicki Maher, ADHD Mom Influencer
Instagram: @nickimarieinc
Facebook: Homebase with Nicki
Anna Lopez, Psychiatric Physician's Assistant
Instagram: @adhdinatx
Natalie Nolan, ADHD Coach for Divorced Women
Instagram: @ADHDDivorce
Which Mama Animal are you?
Take the Quiz: What's your ADHD Mama Parenting Style?
Because you're #NotYourAverageMamaBear
Share and tag me on Social Media!
What if you could find a group of ADHD moms to connect with and ask questions, share advice, and most importantly – know you’re not alone? You can! Join the Motherhood in ADHD Facebook Group today!
What does your ADHD look like? Does it look like impulsiveness, hyperactivity and the irresistible urge to fidget – the signs we constantly hear about in men and boys?
Or does it look more like forgetting to put on deodorant or brush your teeth, trouble keeping track of all your kid’s appointments, absent-mindedly twirling your hair, or excessive talking when you get excited?
(If you’ve ever gotten “talks too much” on your report card as a kid, you know what I mean!)
ADHD can look different in women – and just because you don’t have the “classic” signs, doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, Dr. Sasha Hamdani, a board-certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist, shares about the symptoms of ADHD in women, and SO much more, including:
- Dr. Sasha’s own diagnosis story, and her experience as a mom with ADHD
- ADHD diagnosis in children: how to talk to your kids about their diagnosis in a non-judgmental and supportive way
- When it’s time to seek professional help for your ADHD symptoms
- ADHD and hormones: how your cycle affects your symptoms
- Self-care tips for the emotional side of ADHD
- The benefits of partnering with an ADHD specialist, and how to find the right professional
- How to speak to your loved ones about your ADHD, while clarifying it's an explanation and not an excuse
- Answers to all YOUR burning questions that you shared in our Motherhood in ADHD private Facebook group (P.S. You should join if you haven't yet!)
BIG thanks to Dr. Sasha Hamdani for sharing your wisdom and expertise with us!
To hear more about ADHD from Dr. Sasha, follow her on Instagram: @thepsychdoctormd
To learn more about Dr. Sasha’s psychiatry practice, visit her website: drhamdanimd.com
Learn how to feel more put together by organizing your to-do list in an ADHD friendly way, and keeping your commitments to yourself - all part of the Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course. Join here: bit.ly/adhdplan
Which Mama Animal are you?
Take the Quiz: What's your ADHD Mama Parenting Style?
Because you're #NotYourAverageMamaBear
Red the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.
How did you figure out you (possibly) have ADHD?
We all have our own unique journey to an ADHD diagnosis.
Maybe you have a formal diagnosis from a doctor and a prescription for ADHD medication, and it’s helping you live your best life.
Or maybe your ADHD is self-diagnosed. You’ve done the research, you check all the boxes, you know in your heart that this is why you’re struggling, and you’re choosing to manage it on your own.
What matters most is that you feel seen, supported, and encouraged.
But what if you’re on the fence about getting a professional diagnosis for your ADHD?
What if you're (understandably) concerned about the cost of care, or feeling overwhelmed by the process of finding the right doctor?
Maybe you've had a bad experience in the past where you've felt uninformed, shamed, embarrassed, or doubted your own perspective.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I’ll share my thoughts on this topic. You’ll hear:
- Why people decide to stick with ADHD self-diagnosis (Absolutely NO judgement here!)
- Why the simple validation that you have ADHD can improve your mental health and wellbeing
- 5 reasons why a formal diagnosis can improve your mental health, work and school accommodations, relationships with others, and more
This episode will help you take the worry out of the equation and feel supported and validated that you are making the best decision for you.
In 11 weeks, you’ll set up a smooth, low-stress plan for your mom life by designing your daily rhythms and routines fit for your ADHD brain. Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms is starting NOW! Join us here: bit.ly/adhdframework.
Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
What’s wrong with my child? Why won’t they listen? Why is everything a negotiation?
Why do I have to keep yelling, making threats, and going from 0-100 in a split second?
What’s wrong with me?
Mama–you’re not the first one to ask these questions. We’ve all flipped our lids, cried in the bathroom, felt horribly guilty for yelling at our kids and wondered, at the end of the day, if we’re just defective parents.
What if there’s nothing wrong with your child, even though they’re a little…spicy?
And what if there’s nothing wrong with you? What if a few more tools in your toolbelt are enough to be the kind and compassionate parent you want to be?
Meet Mary Van Geffen, parenting coach for parents with spicy children. She’s helped thousands of moms practice staying calm, kind, and firm with their strong-willed children, and she’s a mom with ADHD, just like us.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, Mary and I discuss:
- Mary’s journey to her ADHD diagnosis and the self-acceptance that followed
- Her struggles with parenting as an ADHD mom and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how tools like self-compassion help her cope with overstimulation
- What it means to have a “spicy child,” and why we can stop trying to figure out “what’s wrong” with our kids
- Self-regulation, self-compassion, and other practices that support us through parenting stress and overwhelm
- Cycle syncing and parenting – how we can sync our parenting style with our menstrual cycle to plan activities around our energy levels and show up for our children as the best version of ourselves
- The 1-minute meditation that helps you get out of your swirling mind and into the calmness of your body when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed
During the episode, Mary mentions Rich Roll, who had Lisa Miller, PhD on his show (episode #654). She wrote the book called The Awaken Brain.
Mary also mentions during the meditation Shirzad Chamine, who researched and wrote a book around Positive Intelligence.
Find it here: We Should All Be Millionaires
A big thank you to Mary Van Geffen for sharing her heart-centered wisdom with us!
To learn more tools for parenting spicy children, follow Mary on Instagram at: @maryvangeffen
Visit her website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/
Or join the waitlist for her live, 8-week course, Moms of Spicy Ones: http://www.maryvangeffen.com/waitlist
Learn how to organize your to-do list and your commitments to yourself in the Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course. Join here: bit.ly/adhdplan
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Mama–when was the last time you spent time alone?
And no–I don’t mean the 2 minutes you spend in the bathroom while the dog scratches at the door and you can hear someone yelling “moooom??” from some distant corner of the house. I mean real alone time–as in, away from your family, inaccessible, OFF THE CLOCK.
Has it been a while?
Have you…ever had any real alone time?
If you haven’t, it’s understandable. Maybe you just can’t find the time. Or the childcare help.
Maybe you feel selfish or wrong for taking time to yourself.
We feel like we have to be the glue that holds families together, right? Without you, wouldn’t your family just…fall apart?
Maybe. But maybe that’s okay.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I’ll share 11 lessons I learned from my first solo vacation as an ADHD mom, and more. We’ll talk about:
-Overwhelmed moms who formed “escape plans”--from becoming a nun to checking into rehab (Yeah, motherhood is hard.)
-How my vacation almost didn’t happen because my ADHD brain mixed up the dates and miscommunicated them to my spouse.
-How I felt after getting 10 hours of uninterrupted sleep (YES, this really happened)
-How stepping back can increase our kids’ resilience
-Relationships and ADHD–why it’s so important for us to voice what’s in our head so our partners can understand how our extraordinary brains work
-The time-driven nature of motherhood, and how getting “off the clock” can relieve anxiety for moms with ADHD
-The difference between self-care and after-care, and why it matters
-Chronic illness and motherhood–how you’re more capable than you think when you’ve slid into a dark spot
As an ADHD mama, you’re already a superstar. Listen to this episode to find out how self-care can help you shine even brighter.
Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms is starting NOW! In 11 weeks, you’ll design your daily rhythms and routines for a smooth and successful day. Join us here: bit.ly/adhdframework
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Have you ever wondered if you need therapy for your ADHD?
That question can feel overwhelming for ADHD mamas. You’re thinking:
Do I really need therapy if I’m not in crisis?
What if my therapist doesn’t understand my ADHD brain?
What if they tell me I’m just a hot mess and there’s no hope for improvement?
What if I don’t like my therapist and I’m stuck in weekly sessions I don’t know how to get out of?
I hear you mama, and I’ve been there.
But what if I told you I knew someone who could answer all these questions–a licensed psychologist, consultant, speaker, educator, and most importantly–a mom with ADHD?
Meet Dr. Han Ren–she’s our guest for this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, and she addresses all these questions and SO much more. We talk about:
-Dr. Ren’s own journey to ADHD diagnosis, and how she felt like she was “tricking” her psychiatrist into prescribing stimulants (Until she realized she ACTUALLY needed them!)
-The cultural impact of ADHD, breaking generational cycles, and how Dr. Ren worked to decondition her belief that it was a character flaw
-Navigating friendship with ADHD–and how to handle it when you feel like you’ve been “too much” in your relationship
-Normalizing indecision and changing your mind–why it’s totally okay to hobby hop
-When to go to therapy–and how it can help ADHD moms thrive, even when we’re not in crisis
-How to choose the right therapist for you, AND how to fire your therapist if they're not a good fit–no guilt, shame or ghosting necessary!
-Parenting well with ADHD–Dr. Ren shares how it’s made her a more compassionate mom
-How Dr. Han sucks at cleaning her house (YES, she really is just like us!)
Mama, you deserve to feel your best, and if that means finding a therapist to walk through life with you, then I support you 100%, and this episode is for you!
I want to thank Dr. Han Ren for gifting us with her incredible knowledge, inspiring activism, and empathy as an ADHD mom.
https://www.amazon.com/What-My-Bones-Know-Healing/dp/0593238109/ref=nodl_
To watch Dr. Ren normalize therapy and lift up communities of color through relatable and educational content, follow her on Tik Tok: @drhanren and Instagram: @dr.han.ren
To learn more about Dr. Ren’s therapy practice, visit her website.
Get your life together next month when Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms opens for enrollment. In 11 weeks, you’ll design your daily rhythms and routines for a smooth and successful day. Join the waitlist here: bit.ly/tmmwaitlist
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
True or false: we all have the same 24 hours in a day…?
If you said FALSE, you're 100% right, mama.
Sure, we have 24 physical hours. But depending on our abilities, circumstances and responsibilities…
Those hours look VERY different.
To a carefree, neurotypical teenaged boy, an hour might feel like eternity. He can hang out with friends, do some homework, watch a show, eat some food.
Leisurely.
To a work-at-home mama of 3 with ADHD, dinner on the stove, laundry to fold, an appointment she's late for, keys she can't find (again) and a puppy that needs house training…
Not so much.
A 500lb barbell is the same weight to an Olympic weightlifting champion as it is to me!
But he and I have a unique set of skills and abilities that mean he can lift it, while I just look at it and laugh.
Time is the same way, friend. It's measured the same. But we are not all equipped equally in how we spend it.
You’re putting in double the effort to get half the output than other people can. I see you.
This week's episode of Motherhood in ADHD is your permission slip to STOP beating yourself up for being 'bad with time’ and not ‘hustling’ your way to success.
Give it a listen and discover why you may have a different 24 hours than 'other moms.'
And as always, head over to patriciasung.com/resources for loads of free tools to help you feel more in control of your day and life.
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Do you struggle with reading or math? Do you lose your place easily when working? Is reading sheet music ridiculously hard?
Well, it might not be your eyes OR your ADHD, mama. It might be something called Irlen Syndrome.
Not only does it tend to go along with ADHD (& autism!), it can lead to misdiagnosis.
Irlen Syndrome, also called Scotopic Sensitivity Syndrome, is a perceptual processing disorder, not a vision problem. For those of us who have it, it can lead to some funky vision impairment and:
- Extreme light sensitivity
- Wanting/needing to read in dim light
- Seeing waves or “rivers” in between the lines of text as we read
- Poor depth perception
- Bad coordination issues & clumsiness
- Low self-esteem or motivation
…and more.
However, even if you get this diagnosis, there’s good news:
There are things that can help!
Tune in to this week’s episode of Motherhood in ADHD to find out more about this condition and learn what you can do to counter these tough symptoms, including what symptoms to look for in children.
Learn more about Irlen Syndrome.
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And if you’re tired of labeling yourself as a disorganized hot mess mama and could use some real life organization skills designed specifically for ADHD mamas…
Click here to learn more about Daily Planning for ADHD Moms - where you’ll learn how your unique brain can best use a Planner and a To Do List to stay organized and on track.
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Do you judge yourself, mama? Do you ever wonder why YOU’RE the mom who can’t seem to keep it all together? Why you hop from idea to idea, project to project, and can’t seem to stay organized enough to get anything DONE?
This week’s episode is permission to knock it THE HECK off.
We’re talking to multi-passionate entrepreneur, professional idea hopper, and mom of 4, Angel McElhaney. She’s an ADHD mom, just like you, who used to think there was something wrong with being the big picture idea person instead of the nitty gritty details lady…
Until she realized there’s magic here.
We’ll hear from Angel how her life and motherhood changed when she embraced one of the superpowers of her ADHDness.
Listen as she explains the difference between being a visionary - the idea person - and an integrator - the doer.
Friend, be prepared to be extraordinarily impressed with yourself and your abilities after this episode.
And bring a pen because we talk about real life hacks that’ll give you some a-ha moments, guaranteed.
Catch up with Angel here:
Website: www.angelmcelhaney.com
Social Media:
@angel.McElhaney
@controlthechaosmamapodcast
@podcastschoolforsquirrels
Join our free Facebook Community for Moms with ADHD.
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
“Less crying. Less meltdowns. And that’s just for me!”
That’s what Jess, Time Management Mastery graduate & ADHD mom of 2 said after her 11 weeks in the Time Management Mastery program.
Instead of listing all the life-changing features you’ll find inside of Time Management Mastery, this week we’re letting you hear it from your peers…
The moms who’ve walked every day in your shoes.
They’ve lived through the chaos, guilt, frustration and loneliness of ADHD motherhood.
But thanks to Time Management Mastery, they’re no longer hanging on by a thread. They’re letting go of perfectionism and unrealistic expectations, and learning how to trust themselves. These mamas understand more of their ADHD brains, empowering them to build the life they want to live.
In this week's episode, you’ll hear from Jess, Mel and Dominique. Moms just like you who’ve been treading water and barely keeping their heads above the surface.
Sick of ending each day feeling frazzled and upset…
They took the leap to ask for help. Now hear how they’ve gone from hot mess express to smooth(ish) operators.
They’ll share their a-ha moments and biggest takeaways as they transformed their lives with Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms.
You’re not alone, mama.
Take a few moments to listen to this episode and if the ONLY thing you take away is the realization that you belong to this amazing group of women…
It’ll be worth it.
Sign up for Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms here: bit.ly/adhdframework
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Are you an ADHD mom who’s tired of barely treading water? Sick of ending each day feeling depressed and frustrated with yourself?
I get it, mama. You start every day with the best intentions. But somewhere between kids, work, laundry, the puppy that keeps peeing on the floor, the bills you forgot to pay AGAIN, and so. much. more…
It all feels like too much.
If you’re like me, you’d LOVE to have solid routines for morning and bedtime…
You’d kill to be able to stick to a schedule and just feel so much more organized.
But…
Planners, programs, and experts haven’t been able to help you because they’re designed for those brains that can just ‘decide’ to do something and then…do it.
AKA: not your brain.
It’s time to stop fighting against the way your amazing brain works, my friend.
Episode 131 dives into a unique new resource created JUST for moms with ADHD so they can work WITH their unique brains to finally master time management.
If you’re ready to say goodbye to always feeling behind and just surviving motherhood…This episode is for you.
Discover the step-by-step process that’ll take you from Hot Mess Express to Time Management Master.
Prefer reading? Click here to read the transcription of this episode.
Not all experts are created equal.
There’s literally an expert for EVERYTHING under the sun.
Productivity, positivity, mindfulness, fashion, health, wellness, love, parenting…
Pick any topic and there’s someone shouting their opinions about it.
Yes, they offer tons of information, insight, and guidance and help LOTS of people.
The problem is…many of these experts are spouting advice from a neurotypical brain FOR a neurotypical brain.
Now don’t get it twisted…I’m not saying ADHD brains can’t latch on and get great value from some of those experts.
What I’m saying is there’s a big gap in the information given and how ADHD brains processes that information.
And for ADHD moms who are trying to get their crap together and finally start having FUN being as a mother…all of this “expert” advice can leave them feeling frustrated, defeated, and totally helpless.
Have you ever found a system from the latest productivity book and tried implementing it in your life and it just didn’t work?
Did you think, “I’m trying all these things they say to do…WHHHHY won’t these strategies work for me!?”
Well, on today’s episode we’ll talk with an ADHD mom and Time Management Mastery student, Amanda, about her journey with ADHD. She talks about how she kicked non-ADHD standards out the window and opted for ADHD systems created BY and FOR ADHD brains.
We cover #allthethings including:
- Common ADHD misdiagnosis (bipolar, anxiety, depression)
- How Time Management Mastery was developed and how it helps
- Why learning to manage our time is important for our kids
- Creating a system that builds in FLEXIBILITY for ADHD
- Overcoming obstacles and finding JOY in being an ADHD mom
If you often struggle with managing your day-to-day life…I encourage you to join the waitlist for Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms.
Amanda's story is a true testament of what can happen when ADHD moms finally decide to do things differently and create systems that work for THEIR minds.
The waitlist is still open for the next session of Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms. Be the FIRST to know when doors open and get a special BONUS for being an early bird for once.
Join the waitlist here ---> https://bit.ly/tmmwaitlist
Mother Necessity has dropped a lot of babies on this earth. When was the last time you learned something new or figured out a major problem out of pure necessity?
Like, if you didn't figure something out and FAST - you would lose your ever-lovin' mind? or job? or partner?
Today is a treat: ADHD Mom Entrepreneur Angel McElhaney guest hosts the podcast and asks me all about how and why I created the framework behind Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms.
This system was born out of SHEER necessity (for my sanity) and now it's helping dozens of ADHD moms figure out how to work WITH their ADHD brains and build a daily routine that fits their special flavor of ADHD + their family dynamics.
Back in the day, I was in a place where mothering was not fun. All my pre-mom skills were not working and I was falling apart at the seams. I felt like I couldn't keep up, and I was in a perpetual state of failure.
I was one more sensory overload input away from a total MOM-SPLOSION.
It was a hard tour of duty, and I often wanted to give up.
I KNOW there are many of you reading this right now who are currently in that trench that feels like the pit of despair.
Big hugs, mama.
After I finally realized what I was doing wasn't in alignment with what my ADHD MOM brain NEEDED, I decided "the heck with normal...I'm gonna do this MY WAY."
While I'd been trying to organize my time, I was using 2 unworthy starting points: A) what *the experts* say is the right way and B) my previous phase of life, aka, a non-mom.
And motherhood changes things (as if you hadn't noticed, lol!)
So, what did I do?
I used my super creative problem-solving ADHD brain and unpacked what was REALLY happening during my day that made everything feel so overwhelmingly scattered and #hotmess vibes.
Through my own ADHD knowledge and a TON of outside research, I built a system for myself that eventually developed into a framework that has been helping DOZENS of ADHD moms finally feel like they have the tools to manage their days like a totally in control boss.
The waitlist opened today for the next session of Time Management for ADHD Moms. Sign up before the official opening, and grab your special BONUS for being an early bird for once. :Smile:
Join the waitlist here ---> https://bit.ly/tmmwaitlist
In YOUR GUT!
Clean gut + Good bacteria = MORE Seratonin AND a Happier Brain
Our bodies are amazing and far more interconnected than we often realize.
Today's episode is part two of a fascinating conversation with naturopath, a mom of two, and a PMDD survivor, Heidi Hogarth.
Heidi is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to understanding our body chemistry. I couldn't get enough! Today's episode covered:
- The connection between gut health & brain health
- Why it's important to focus on creating a healthy gut microbiome
- How anti-inflammatory diets help minimize extreme hormonal shifts
- What foods, supplements, and vitamins promote a healthy gut
- Using Tapping or EFT to help regulate stress
- What cycle syncing teaches us about our bodies
I left this conversation feeling more intrigued about how our bodies work, and ready to hyperfocus on my next biology lesson.
It's also encouraging to know that there are simple diet changes and natural remedies we can make in our every day lives to bring ourselves to a more balanced hormonal and emotional state.
Learning about how your body works can REALLY help you live better. My hope is you take away at least one tip or piece of information that leads you down a path to healing.
Healing is hard work, but sooooo worth it, Successful Mama!
A big thank you to Heidi for helping women understand their bodies so they can do what they can to live a happy and healthy life. You can learn more about Heidi by visiting her website. You can also follow her on Instagram and Facebook to learn more about PMDD.
If you are looking for more resources to help you along in your ADHD journey I would like to invite you to head to my resource page and snag some great free tools.
Go to patriciasung.com/resources. Not only will you be able to download ADHD resources on the spot, but you'll also get more ADHD mom tips right to your inbox. :)
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
- International Association of Premenstrual Disorders
- Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the
- Feminine Path to Power Book
- Cycle Synching Basics for ADHD Women: Your Hormones are Your Energy Superpower #116
- Tapping (EFT) as Treatment and Self Care for Adult ADHD with Kate Moryoussef #89
When you've got PMS on steroids, the rage and depression are exponential.
Ever hear of pre-menstrual dysphoria disorder?
They call it PMDD for short, and it's a very real and serious hormonal disorder that affects up to 10% of women!
Symptoms include things mood swings (aka rage attacks), sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, depression, and even severe panic attacks.
Many women with PMDD are either extremely tired or have bouts of insomnia. And then there's excessive crying and other emotional swings. Not to mention all the bloating, gastro issues, food cravings, and possible weight gain.
Phew. I need a nap after writing that alone!
Today my guest Heidi and I unpack what PMDD is, the symptoms of PMDD, how PMDD can be linked to post-partum issues, and how to talk to your doctor about getting a diagnosis.
If you've been following along on in the last few months, we've talked a lot about menstrual health, hormones, and cycle syncing. We've uncovered numerous ways our menstrual cycle relates to ADHD symptoms in women. It's fascinating and disturbing at the same time. But there is hope, Successful Mama!
Heidi Hogarth is a naturopath, a mom of two, and a PMDD survivor. She's on a mission to support women who suffer from PMDD and help them find the best natural health tools so they can get off the hormonal emotional rollercoasters & back to their calm, positive, and loving selves.
She's a wealth of knowledge when it comes to understanding symptoms of PMDD. She offers insight into what supplements and dietary changes can help you when you feel like you are suffering from PMDD.
A big thank you to Heidi for helping women understand their bodies so they can do what they can to live a happy and healthy life.
If you are looking for more resources to help you along in your ADHD journey I would like to invite you to head to my resource page and snag some great free tools.
Go to patriciasung.com/resources. Not only will you be able to download ADHD resources on the spot, but you'll also get more ADHD mom tips right to your inbox. :)
➡️ Tell me in the comments, have you ever experienced any PMDD symptoms and wondered if there was more going on under the surface? ⬅️
FOR THE BLOG:
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
International Association of Premenstrual Disorders
Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the Feminine Path to Power Book
Cycle Synching Basics for ADHD Women: Your Hormones are Your Energy Superpower #116
Tapping (EFT) as Treatment and Self Care for Adult ADHD with Kate Moryoussef #89
When you've got PMS on steroids, the rage and depression are exponential.
Ever hear of pre-menstrual dysphoria disorder?
They call it PMDD for short, and it's a very real and serious hormonal disorder that affects up to 10% of women!
Symptoms include things mood swings (aka rage attacks), sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, depression, and even severe panic attacks.
Many women with PMDD are either extremely tired or have bouts of insomnia. And then there's excessive crying and other emotional swings. Not to mention all the bloating, gastro issues, food cravings, and possible weight gain.
Phew. I need a nap after writing that alone!
Today my guest Heidi and I unpack what PMDD is, the symptoms of PMDD, how PMDD can be linked to post-partum issues, and how to talk to your doctor about getting a diagnosis.
If you've been following along on in the last few months, we've talked a lot about menstrual health, hormones, and cycle syncing. We've uncovered numerous ways our menstrual cycle relates to ADHD symptoms in women. It's fascinating and disturbing at the same time. But there is hope, Successful Mama!
Heidi Hogarth is a naturopath, a mom of two, and a PMDD survivor. She's on a mission to support women who suffer from PMDD and help them find the best natural health tools so they can get off the hormonal emotional rollercoasters & back to their calm, positive, and loving selves.
She's a wealth of knowledge when it comes to understanding symptoms of PMDD. She offers insight into what supplements and dietary changes can help you when you feel like you are suffering from PMDD.
A big thank you to Heidi for helping women understand their bodies so they can do what they can to live a happy and healthy life.
If you are looking for more resources to help you along in your ADHD journey I would like to invite you to head to my resource page and snag some great free tools.
Go to patriciasung.com/resources. Not only will you be able to download ADHD resources on the spot, but you'll also get more ADHD mom tips right to your inbox. :)
➡️ Tell me in the comments, have you ever experienced any PMDD symptoms and wondered if there was more going on under the surface? ⬅️
FOR THE BLOG:
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
International Association of Premenstrual Disorders
Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the Feminine Path to Power Book
Cycle Synching Basics for ADHD Women: Your Hormones are Your Energy Superpower #116
Tapping (EFT) as Treatment and Self Care for Adult ADHD with Kate Moryoussef #89
Scatterbrained. Distracted. Overwhelmed. Drowning. No motivation.
I know why your day feels so chaotic and out of control as a mom with ADHD because I am a mom with ADHD.
As I reflected on the episodes we produced over the last two and a half years, I realized that some of the top-rated Motherhood in ADHD episodes deserved another time in the spotlight. These topics were just TOO GOOD.
Today's "Episode Encore" is all about understanding the #1 reason your day feels chaotic and out of control as a mom with ADHD.
We talk about the frequent ways our ADHD derails us.
As a mom living with ADHD you have tons of things to manage - kids' appointments, house things, work, relationships...etcetera...etcetera.
Phew...Not to mention finding time to take care of your own health and well-being. Trying to find the time for it all can make you want to crawl back into bed and hide under the covers!
Look, I totally get it! There are LOTS of mamas out there feeling the exact same way as you and it hurts my heart.
So, now I teach ADHD moms how to overcome this challenge in the Time Management Mastery for ADHD moms course! By implementing this simple framework in your life it will take you from frazzled and freaked out too, "Hey...I have my crap together!" You CAN manage your ADHD brain AND your time - to make them BOTH work for you.
I want you to feel amazing about your schedule. I want you to be overjoyed when you reflect on your week and realize - you did SO MANY things that you wanted to do with your time!
Time Management Mastery opens back up NEXT MONTH so get your spot on the waitlist to be the first to know when you can join. Sign up here: bit.ly/adhdframework
"I'm a failure. People don't like me. I just keep screwing everything up!"
If any of those thoughts have crossed your mind and you are continually overcritical of yourself...this episode is for you.
These types of thoughts happen to everyone (including our neurotypical friends). For those of us with ADHD, these constant and reoccurring negative thoughts are a force to be reckoned with. But they don't have to control you or overshadow your life.
As I reflected on the episodes we produced during 2021, I realized that some of the top-rated Motherhood in ADHD episodes deserved another time in the spotlight. These topics were just TOO GOOD.
Today's "Episode Encore" is all about understanding Self Regulation and our executive function plays a part in how we feel about ourselves.
I share information about Self Regulation including reflection, impairment, sensory overload, fear, frustration, anger, embarrassment, anxiety, friendships, dopamine, CBT, celebrating our wins, managing self-criticism, and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
It's the whole enchilada in this one! Have a listen and let's learn about our ADHD brains and how we can work WITH them instead of against them!
DID YOU KNOW? There's a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Register for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms - sign up here --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
Here >>> JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
As we wrap up 2021, let's revisit a few of Motherhood in ADHD's top-rated episodes. Today's "Episode Encore" is all about understanding emotional regulation and how executive function plays a part in how people with ADHD manage their emotions.
Explaining ADHD WITHOUT discussing Executive Function is like reading a book and skipping every other chapter. It just doesn't make sense because you lose part of the context, right?
Executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. And as the CEO of our brain if regulates pretty much everything in today's discussion about Emotional Regulation.
Today we cover the basics around sensory overload, fear, fight or flight, frustration, children pushing our buttons, anger, embarrassment, period cycles, hormones, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, Bipolar, and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
Holy Moly, Batman! Lots of juicy good stuff in this one. Have a listen and let's learn about our ADHD brains and how they work.
Guess what, I have LOTS of free resources for you, Successful Mama. Check out all the goodies I've created for you on my resource page here. Not only will you be able to download ADHD resources on the spot, but you'll be on your way to getting more ADHD mom tips right to your inbox. :)
DID YOU KNOW? There's a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Register for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms - sign up here --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
Here >>> JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
Listen to the transcription here.
Links to resources mentioned in this episode:
Episode 37 on Letting Go of Thoughts
Dr. Sandra Kooij’s Women, ADHD, and Hormones webinar with ADHD Europe
Dr. David Goodman’s article on Emotional Regulation
What happens when brains feel fear?
What is Emotional Lability?
Defining Sensory Processing Disorders
Free resource from Patricia: Managing ADHD Beyond Medicine
The Disorganized Mom’s Guide to a Peaceful Morning: Patricia’s free how-to video series to bring calm to your mornings in 5 steps
Understanding how YOUR brain actually works makes it easier to establish systems and create a plan that will work for YOUR brain. Plain and simple.
Simple...but not necessarily easy.
Let's just say ADHD and executive function aren't great friends.
What does that mean for us? It means we end up fighting our brains in a battle royale of figuring out what the MOST important thing is we should be doing at any given time.
Many times it feels like we're stuck trying to solve the longest word problem in 12th-grade algebra. Ain't nobody got time for that!
ESPECIALLY for moms. It's a real challenge for ADHD brains.
But if I had to guess I'd say you're the type of mom that's always up for a good challenge.
In today's episode, we talk all about why moms with ADHD struggle with prioritizing and what to do so you can actually stick with your plan.
Did you know there’s a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan.
If you've been following along you'll know that I've been celebrating my 40th birthday this week by giving YOU a gift! Today's the last day to save $40 on Daily Planning for ADHD Moms! Use code HAPPY40 and sign up here --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
Here >>> JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
Today is my 40th birthday! As I celebrate a new decade, I'm taking a moment to appreciate all of you, and say thank you for your support.
I want your 2022 to be start off with you feeling confident and capable about how you approach your day. As Annie Dillard says,
"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives."This is why I created Daily Planning for ADHD Moms for you. To build a life that you love - and that starts by knowing how you want to run your day, using a system that is set up by an ADHD brain for your ADHD brain. And fits mom life.
We learn how to keep up with our calendar and tackle the mile-long to do list, so that you can stop feeling the shame of forgetting appointments or "not doing anything today" and start feeling good about yourself again.
My birthday flash sale starts today and runs through Thursday, December 16th, so use the coupon code HAPPY40 and snag Daily Planning for ADHD Moms for $40 off in honor of my 40th trip around the sun.
Sign up at bit.ly/adhdplan
Next year is going to be your year to bloom, so let's see where you go, and how you change and grow!
Don't "manage emotions". Understand them instead.
Dr. Laura Froyen is our guest this week and she digs into the underlying causes that propel our kiddo's BIG FEELINGS.
Listen to this episode to learn more about:
- Understanding the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown
- Why and when our children might need to "borrow" regulation from us
- How to react and what to say when your child seems inconsolable
- The importance of allowing feelings and emotions to move through the body without getting stuck
Learning more about emotional regulation helps us ALL understand our big feelings and unpack the root cause behind the emotion.
The way she speaks with kindness and patience in her voice is not only because she is a professional in the field of emotional regulation, she's also a mother...a mother with ADHD at that.
So she gets it, Successful Mama. We can do this!
Teaching a child how to self-regulate their emotions can feel like an uphill battle, especially when we struggle with it ourselves. But with the right information and the right support...YOU CAN make progress and YOU WILL help your child understand the information UNDER the emotion. You got this.
Speaking of support and resources, head over to my website to download a plethora of helpful ADHD tools and resources to help you navigate your world as an ADHD mom. Download your free resources at patriciasung.com/resources
Oh - and I popped in a little hint about an upcoming surprise I have in store for you. Make sure you tune in next week to see what it is!
Post any tactics you've found to help your kiddo through their BIG emotions in the comments. The more information the better!
Dr. Lauren Froyen has her Ph.D. in human development and family studies and has been helping individuals, partners, and co-parents become the parents they truly want to be. She uses her experience specializing in marriage and family therapy to help restore balance and compassion to families while bringing calm and JOY back into their daily lives. Follow her on Instagram and check out her podcast here. You can also join her Facebook Community here.
Links to things mentioned in this episode:
- The Invisible String Book
- The Kissing Hands Book
- The Purrble Calming Toy Companion
- The Enchanted Life: Reclaiming the Magic and Wisdom of the Natural World
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
Join here >>> JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
What is scientific research REALLY doing for women with ADHD?
It might *feel* like there is no research being done to help women with ADHD...but my guest today has insight into what's ACTUALLY going on behind the scientific research curtain.
Dr. Michelle Martel, a professor and Director of Clinical Training of Psychology for the University of Kentucky, utilizes a translational, “bench to bedside” perspective to examine developmental pathways to Disruptive Behavior Disorders (DBD) and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), using multiple levels of analysis.
Her bio is impressive and our conversation is SO GOOD.
Her research uncovers what's really going on in the brains of people with ADHD and further - figures out what's going on internally with our hormones.
Dr. Martel brings tons of knowledge around how our hormonal fluctuations affect our ADHD symptoms AND what that means for our mental and emotional health.
I'm thankful for people like Dr. Martel who have dedicated time and energy to helping the ADHD community. Her research is not only fascinating, it gives YOU, Successful Mama, options to improve your life by understanding your body.
DID YOU KNOW? There's a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Register for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms - sign up here --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
ADHD is NOT well understood by most doctors.
I know, shocking, right? We often expect our doctors to be the "know all, be all, end all" of medical information, and as much as they want to help us... they just don't get the in-depth training necessary on every single area... And ADHD is one of them.
This Q&A session covers my top recommendations when it comes to prepping for an ADHD Diagnosis appointment.
Don't get me wrong, I truly believe most doctors want to help us and their hearts are in the right place.
I also believe it's important to be our own advocates by making sure we understand our diagnosis and we're prepared to ask the right questions.
The question, "How should I prepare for my ADHD Diagnosis appointment?" comes up a lot so I thought it was time I shared my two cents on the subject.
Don't worry, Successful Mama. The info in this episode will help you feel confident talking with your doctor about your options and what the right path FOR you will be on your ADHD journey.
What other tips would you give someone who's about to talk to their doctor about getting an ADHD diagnosis? Drop your thoughts in the comments.
P.s. Real quick - I wanted to mention the totally free Motherhood in ADHD Facebook community. If you're looking for other moms who "get it"...I invite you to join us. Always accepting new members. :-)
How am I going to teach my kid to be good at stuff that even I'm not good at?
Today's episode is an ADHD Q&A session focused on helping you find ways to teach your child the important life skills they need to be responsible adults.
Okay, so maybe you aren't great at being on time or keeping up with laundry or remembering someone's name...but there are lots of things that you ARE GOOD at.
Let's focus on the good stuff, shall we?
Listen and learn how you can use what you ARE good at to create a path that helps your kiddo learn those life skills and reminds you that you ARE a Successful Mama.
One quick tip - keep things simple and positive.
I hope this episode helps you realize teaching responsibility to your child doesn't have to feel overwhelming or scary. You got this!
Oh, and since you're here I want to remind you I have some free resources to help you, parent, as a mom with ADHD. There are LOTS of goodies for you so head over to the resource page on my website and grab them up. patriciasung.com/resources
Showing our kids success with ADHD is 100% obtainable for them is NOT impossible.
Today is Part 2 of a conversation I was lucky enough to have with my friend Katelyn Mabry. (If you missed us last week go check out Episode 117 and hurry back!)
Katelyn's a special education teacher and author who grew up having an ADHD diagnosis and that led her to want to help others like her through teaching.
During this episode, Katelyn gets deeper into her professional opinions about:
- How to explain to your child that they have ADHD
- What to do to teach them new responsibilities and skills
- How to help our ADHD children move forward when they are feeling stuck
- And what we can do to connect with our kids on a deeper level to form solid safe foundations.
If you're feeling a little overwhelmed by a potential ADHD diagnosis for your kiddo or if you're already there and still working out how to talk with your child about their ADHD THIS is the episode for you, Successful Mama!
Check out Katlyn's book, “Hi, It’s Me! I have ADHD!” and her podcast for kids titled “Journey With Me Through ADHD."
Special thanks to Katelyn for hanging out with me and sharing her empathy-inducing knowledge with us! Learn more about Katelyn on her website here and check out her book “Hi, It's Me! I Have ADHD” on Amazon. You can listen to her podcast, Journey With Me Through ADHD: A Podcast for Kids and follow her on Facebook and Instagram.
REMINDER: There's a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Sign-ups for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms are open! Click here to sign up --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Listen to full episodes at www.motherhoodwithadhd.com or find us on your favorite podcast listening app.
Today I chat with special education teacher and author Katelyn Mabry about her experience growing up with an ADHD diagnosis, which led her down the path of teaching. Her ADHD influences how she approaches teaching, and how she navigates being a mother with ADHD.
Katelyn shares some great insights that demystify why we shouldn't fear the ADHD label, but rather we how we can embrace it. When we're able to understand the reasoning behind our struggles, it can only help us make positive future progress.
We discussed labeling our kids, our own feelings of fear and uncertainty, and how we ADHD'ers tend to have a lower sense of self-worth and confidence, mostly due to lack of information.
She coaches us by teaching our kids to accept and feel comfortable around people who are different from us, and why it's important to lead by example the best we can. You've heard it before, our kiddos are like little sponges!
The way Katelyn has made educating kids and parents about ADHD to help them understand how we can all learn to approach any "disability" with more curiosity and empathy, rather than judgment or criticism is downright inspiring.
Part 1 of this conversation with my friend Katelyn is packed full of all kinds of relatable goodness, Successful Mama!
Check out Katelyn's book, “Hi, It’s Me! I have ADHD!” and her latest venture - a podcast for kids titled “Journey With Me Through ADHD. Katelyn lives in Wisconsin with her husband and 4 young kids. Her passion is to speak into the hearts and minds of children and families with ADHD so they all feel connected and understood!
Speaking of feeling connected...it's one of the main reasons I created the Motherhood in ADHD Facebook community that's totally free. If you're not a member of that group yet - head on over and join today!
Special thanks to Katelyn for hanging out with me and sharing her empathy-inducing knowledge with us! Learn more about Katelyn on her website here and check out her book “Hi, It's Me! I Have ADHD” on Amazon. You can listen to her podcast, Journey With Me Through ADHD: A Podcast for Kids and follow her on Facebook and Instagram.
Looking for a little more added support? There’s a place for you!
Here >>> JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
Hold up...You're telling me we can harness the power of our cycles by syncing our activities with our hormone and energy fluctuations!? Can we say mind blown?
When I learned how cycle syncing helps women create a lifestyle based on their own body's natural flow of hormonal changes, I was hooked.
And then, finding out how our menstrual cycles & our hormones affect our ADHD symptoms and energy levels, I went into full hyperfocus mode: Chronic fatigue and energy regulation are serious issues for women with ADHD.
I know this chat with wellness guru and creator of The Productive Mum community AND podcast, Sara-Jane Ladums (aka SJ) is going to help soooo many ADHD mamas.
She and I dive into the basics of cycle syncing and:
- the struggles and symptoms we face during our cycles
- how what we eat affects our hormonal levels
- learning to accept our bodies and work WITH what's going on internally
- how we can use our cycle to understand our energy regulation
- why an analogy of the seasons can help us understand the phases of our cycles
Cycle syncing is absolutely fascinating and it doesn't have to be overly complicated. There are lots of simple ways you can implement the awareness of it into your daily life.
Think about ALL the things going on in your bodies...would you be willing to make a couple of tweaks so you allow yourself to feel and be your best? If so - I encourage you to consider learning more about cycle syncing.
I want you to realize how you can set your body up for success by listening to what your body needs, and making sure to support it with understanding and grace.
You live in an amazing body that can grow an entire human, mama. I hope you enjoy all the info and advice that SJ gives during this conversation. I was soaking up alllll the goodness and I want you to know, you can feel better in your body.
Special thanks to SJ for hanging out with me and sharing her energy-giving knowledge with us! Learn more about SJ on her website here and check out The Productive Mum Academy here while you're at it.
REMINDER: There's a place where you can get your calendar and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you enjoy more time with your kids while feeling confident + capable in your day... even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Sign-ups for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms are open! Click here to sign up --> bit.ly/adhdplan
JOIN THE MOTHERHOOD IN ADHD COMMUNITY
Links to things mentioned in this episode:
The Stefanie Gass Show - Episode 338: Instagram Detox
All right, today we're talking about the elephant in the room: MENSTRUAL CYCLES.
I know, I know - not everyone's favorite subject! But it's something we all deal with so we might as well discuss how our hormones and our periods affect us as mamas with ADHD.
When you think about hormones, think about HOW MUCH your body has evolved through your life. Adolescence, puberty, pregnancy, postpartum...there's no denying everything's in flux pretty much all the time.
So, the question is what do we REALLY need to know and how can we navigate our ADHD symptoms while our bodies are on a constant hormonal roller coaster?
Sadly, there isn't a lot of research on the topic but there are a few really great resources that I'm excited to share in today's episode!
Don't worry mama...I got you!
I did a looooot of digging and I think you'll love the tools and resources I'm sharing. They'll shed some light on how our bodies work and what to do to be even MORE successful and gracious with ourselves as a woman with ADHD. Plus a big thank you to my friend and mentor, ADHD Coach Elizabeth Brink, for the research help! @coachelizabethbrink
Want to dive in more? This topic comes up sometimes during our weekly group support calls for Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course. It's currently open for enrollment!
Let's get your calendar crap and to-do list organized one step at a time, so you feel confident + capable in your day, even when your ADHD hijacks your plan. Click here to sign up --> bit.ly/adhdplan
Join us in the Motherhood in ADHD Community Support Group on Facebook!
Next week we're diving into cycle syncing! When I first understood how cycle syncing worked and started implementing it into my life...it was a GAME CHANGER!
Links to things we talked about on today's show:
- The ADHD Enclave
- Glowing Period Tracking App
- Hormones for Life Article
- PubMed Article - Prevalence of hormone-related mood disorder symptoms in women with ADHD
- Healthline Article - How to Work with Your Period, Not Against It
- YouTube Video - Your Menstrual Cycle Is More Than Just Your Period
- OurBodies Ourselves Article
- Medical News Today Article - How can your period affect bowel movements?
Links Use these links to save on products I mentioned today:
If you didn't know - Fishbowl allows users to have live conversations with the audience! This episode features some great convos with people just like you!
This Part 2 of my convo with the amazing Jessi Romero is FULL of great advice and juicy ideas that will really help ADHD moms and really ANYONE with ADHD.
We cover great tips on:
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Ideas on organizing your workday
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Useful Tools & Software we swear by
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Blending digital and physical tools to maximize time
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Routines and why they're important for our ADHD Brains
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How to stay motivated while navigating life with ADHD
ADHD brains are wired differently and we have to remind ourselves to lean into our ADHD so we can use it to our advantage!
If you struggle with consistency, prioritizing, imposter syndrome, or managing the roller coaster of emotion/energy as a mama with ADHD, THIS is the episode for you.
Jessi shows us you ARE SUCCESSFUL as a person with ADHD. Juggling #allthethings isn't easy - but when we simplify it helps us manage our energy and makes us feel confident as we move through our everyday lives.
More info about Jessi:
Jessi is a Houston Colombian-American toddler mom that started a community in 2020 that has grown over to 35,000 ADHD'ers today that are either wanting to jump into entrepreneurship or currently running their own businesses. She got tired of trying all the neurotypical advice for business owners and failing one too many times at it. Now she coaches ADHD Entrepreneurs how to structure their business to their brain and implement growth strategies that don't make them cringe or worse, burn out.
Reminder: Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course and weekly accountability group is OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT! Let's get your calendar and to-do list organized and create a plan for your day.
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Would you be willing to do a live interview in front of 800+ people?
Our new friend Jessi Romero jumped right in with me as we hosted a fantastic LIVE chat on Fishbowl about overcoming and succeeding in the workplace when you have ADHD. Was it luck or was it all of the awesome ADHD Brains that joined together that made this episode so motivating?
Not that I had any doubts because Jessi is an amazing resource and mentor for ADHD female entrepreneurs. She teaches, strengthens, and encourages female entrepreneurs with ADHD to run their own businesses by leaning into their ADHD.
During Part 1 of our conversation, we focus on navigating life as a person living with ADHD.
We discussed:
- Using ADHD to your advantage (Could it be your secret weapon?)
- Emotional dysregulation and how it shows up in our work
- Why we struggle with AND how to overcome imposter syndrome
- Why it's important to ask for help when we need it
How to prep yourself for a job interview
There's LOTS of goodness in this one, Successful Mama! Jessi's experience as an ADHD Business & Marketing Coach, a mama, and a leader in the ADHD support industry gives her great insights into the common struggles of women who have ADHD and what they can do to achieve the success they crave.
Special thanks to Jessi Romero for joining me for today's episode! You can find her in her free Facebook community, on her website, and on her socials (Facebook & Instagram).
If you haven't already, make sure to subscribe to the Motherhood in ADHD Podcast to be notified for Part 2 of our convo when it drops next week!
More info about Jessi:
Jessi is a Houston Colombian-American toddler mom that started a community in 2020 that has grown over to 35,000 ADHD'ers today that are either wanting to jump into entrepreneurship or currently running their own businesses. She got tired of trying all the neurotypical advice for business owners and failing one too many times at it. Now she coaches ADHD Entrepreneurs on how to structure their business to their brain and implement growth strategies that don't make them cringe or worse, burn out.
Join us in the Motherhood in ADHD Community Support Group on Facebook!
Scatterbrained. Distracted. Overwhelmed. Drowning. No motivation.
There's a framework for that!
I know why your day feels so chaotic and out of control as a mom with ADHD because I am a mom with ADHD.
We'll dive into the frequent ways our ADHD derails us.
Then I have three words for you:
TIME. MANAGEMENT. MASTERY.
For a lot of moms, managing their time looks simple. But we're not like other moms - we're ADHD moms.
I'm a mom who is determined to not let my ADHD brain control me.
I set out and developed a framework that has helped me (and lots of other ADHD mamas) frame the beautiful life I am creating.
Granted the pictures aren't always perfect...but let's just say, they absolutely ALWAYS have character. ;)
As a mom living with ADHD you have tons of things to manage - kids' appointments, house things, work, relationships...etcetera...etcetera.
Phew...Not to mention finding time to take care of your own health and well-being. Trying to find the time for it all can make you want to crawl back into bed and hide under the covers!
When you're ready to emerge from the covers - all you have to do is sign up for Time Management Mastery and implement my simple framework to help you truly understand how you can manage your ADHD brain AND your time - to make them BOTH work for you.
I want you to feel amazing about your schedule. I want you to be overjoyed when you reflect on your week and realize - you did SO MANY things that you wanted to do with your time!
Today is the LAST DAY to sign up for Time Management Mastery in 2021.
Sign up now because we start on Monday, October 4th! (Registrations closes TODAY Sept. 30th so don't "do it later"!) bit.ly/adhdframework
**Bonus** All the mamas who join this round of TMM can sign up for Daily Planning for ADHD for $100 off! That's over 50% off. Bundle and save - because who doesn't love a twofer, right!?
NOTE: I will NOT be offering Time Management Mastery again for the rest of the year. So grab it now, because it's seriously so good. :)
Sign up today: bit.ly/adhdframework
Several mamas have asked for more details around Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms, and maybe you've been thinking the same thing... Is this class right for you? I'm sharing 8 questions and answers to help you make the best decision possible.
Sign up for Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms at bit.ly/adhdframework by Sept 30th!
Does your day ever feel like you're trying to bake cookies without a recipe and have no idea what's in the pantry?
Do we have any clean bowls?
What's the oven temp?
How do I only have 3 chocolate chips???
And why does everyone else get a laminated recipe card and a fully stocked pantry?
Sometimes it can feel like we just can't manage in the real world. We are constantly shown how "normal" people plan, organize, and manage their time -- which never seems to work out for us when we have ADHD.
The problem is, we're not normal. We are unique. And we need unique tools that were developed for our uniquely amazing brains to help us feel like we have some semblance of control over our time and our lives.
Today we're discussing the 4 reasons we struggle to get everything done, and what we can do about it. I'm sharing the tools I use (and teach!) that help lots of ADHD moms feel capable and confident about how they manage their own time.
Yes, it might feel like we're on an energy roller coaster, but when we know how the ride works, and understand the ups & downs a little better, we can prepare ourselves to not only have a successful ride - but also ENJOY it!
I'm also sharing the first peek into my new course, Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms!
Today's the first day that it's available for you to sign up! bit.ly/adhdframework
I'm explaining all the details during today's episode. Sign up now because we start the first week of October! (Registrations closes on Sept. 30th so don't "do it later"!) bit.ly/adhdframework
**Bonus** All the mamas who join this round of TMM can sign up for Daily Planning for ADHD for $100 off! That's over 50% off. Bundle and save - because who doesn't love a twofer, right!? NOTE: I will NOT be offering Time Management Mastery again for the rest of the year. So grab it now, because it's seriously so good. :)
Sign up today: bit.ly/adhdframework
Ouch! Taking responsibility for our ADHD brains can sting a little. But it's not hopeless!
Just because it's hard doesn't mean we can't set meaningful goals and achieve the things we really want.
Today is round two with ADHD Life Coach Jessica Heimsoth. She shares:
- The REAL reason many people with ADHD don't reach their goals
- The LIES we frequently tell ourselves that hold us back from being successful (Jessica totally called me out here!)
- Learning how your brain functions will propel you forward
- Proven strategies to feel productive and accomplish your goals
- What to do if you're overwhelmed by all the goals goals goals talk? and
- When is it okay to stop pushing and just be who you are where you are?
Lots of brilliant wisdom in this one, mama. This episode is a big hug wrapped in truth and love. I'm so ready for you to hear the actionable tips Jessica shares in part two of her interview.
But more importantly, I want you to know that you are wonderful and worthy and loved just as you are. You are good enough, no matter if you crush 30 goals this year or do nothing extra beyond raising your humans. You're doing a great job surviving in this crazy world. You are not broken, and you are not alone.
During the episode, Jessica mentions the book We Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rodgers. Find it here: We Should All Be Millionaires
Learn more about Jessica and ADHD Coaching on her website. Also, make sure to connect with her on Instagram and Facebook.
Big thanks to Jessica for sharing her knowledge and her compassion for those of us living with ADHD. The community appreciates you and all you do!
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What do you do when you are struggling to meet a goal and aren’t sure what to do next?
There is help available! An ADHD Coach can help you find a tailored solution to overcome your obstacles.
Perhaps you’ve heard of ADHD Coaching, but aren’t sure what it is or if it’s right for you.
Let’s discuss:
• what is ADHD Coaching
• how to find the right ADHD coach for you
• should you choose a life coach who specializes in ADHD
• what questions to ask a prospective ADHD Coach
• what to look for in a coaching relationship
• red flags in your first meeting with an ADHD Coach
• how to tell if a coach is the "real deal", and
• how to work through the fear of scheduling a discovery call with a new coach.
Jessica Heimsoth of Every Thought Captive Coaching joins us to break down the process and highlights thoughts to consider when searching for a perfect ADHD coach for you.
Jessica (@EveryThoughtCaptiveCoaching) works with the adult Christian ADHD community to not only help them find solutions for working with their own brains but also give them practical tools and resources that fit their individual needs. She works with her clients by creating customized client-focused strategies for things like goal-setting, emotional regulation, accountability, and improving relationships (just to name a few!). Her goal is to help you with YOUR goals and help you become the best version of yourself, ADHD and all.
Jessica shares her own ADHD journey from wanting to be a novelist, to her own late ADHD diagnosis, to how she manages ADHD as a mother. Her biggest triumph is when she's teaching Christians with ADHD how to get unstuck while taking control of their lives and giving God ALL of the glory.
There's SO MUCH good stuff in this one, mama! I can not wait to see how you thrive with the right help, Successful Mama.
Learn more about Jessica and ADHD Coaching on her website and follow her on Instagram and FacebookBig thanks to Jessica for sharing her knowledge and her compassion for those of us living with ADHD. The community appreciates you and all you do!
"It doesn't have to be perfect to still be good."- Allie Casazza
Today is Part 2 of my interview with The Purpose Show host and minimalist educator Allie Casazza! We dive deep into the questions that YOU asked in our Motherhood in ADHD Facebook community:
- how to use mental momentum to get and stay motivated.
- how to channel energy into decluttering instead of schlepping your piles from room to room.
- how to make homeschooling simple and fun.
Allie also tells us her thoughts on staying focused and stopping the overwhelm of decluttering. She also drops a few gems on how to reduce the dreaded paper clutter that comes with parenting. Listen in to see what she suggests!
A big thanks to Allie for joining us on the show! I appreciate her heart for helping us ADHD mamas and how she reminded us that things DON'T have to be perfect to be good.
If you haven't yet, go back and listen to Part 1 of our chat. Allie and I chatted about how to make our motherhood easier in modern times. She explained her minimalism philosophy about how clutter is a thief - not just of our space in our homes, but our time and our energy. We also talked about the "why" behind decluttering and practical first steps to declutter your home.
Don't forget to grab her FIRST book titled Declutter Like a Mother. It releases on September 7th.
P.S. You can sign up for Allie's signature course, Your Uncluttered Home using my affiliate link: bit.ly/Noclutter. When you sign up, you're supporting the Motherhood in ADHD podcast, bringing more free resources to yourself and all the ADHD mamas!
Learn more about Allie on her website, follow her on Instagram, or get connected with the community in her free Facebook group.
Organization and clutter are huge obstacles for ADHD. When my house is cluttered, my mind is cluttered! The unnecessary junk takes up a significant amount of my mental bandwidth, so I've worked dang hard to get rid of the things that are not serving me.
I want to help you do that, too. Today, you're in for a treat!
Allie Casazza of The Purpose Show Podcast is here to share her wisdom on decluttering and minimalism for moms. Allie's podcast is the very first podcast I listened to, so she was watering the podcast seeds for Motherhood in ADHD. While Allie doesn't have ADHD herself, she was raised by an ADHD mom, is married to her ADHD spouse, and is a mom herself to 4 kids, and her oldest Bella has ADHD as well.
I've gotten to know Allie through her business and podcast mentorship, and I just adore the way she teaches - and you know that as a teacher, I have pretty high standards. Allie's all about figuring out what makes sense for you and your life, and not about doing what everyone else is doing. Her methods are very ADHD-friendly, and her love and compassion for our people and how our brains work simply shines through.
Allie and I chatted about how we can make our motherhood easier in modern times -- where support for moms runs thin and social media only shows us everyone else's highlight reels. She explains her minimalism philosophy and how clutter is a thief - not just of our space in our homes, but our time and our energy. We also get into the "why" behind decluttering and talk about practical first steps to declutter your home. She shares how to make decluttering fun, build momentum, and what we can do to reward ourselves for a job well done.
Her first book, Declutter Like a Mother, releases September 7th; it's an easy read that makes sense to my ADHD brain.
This show is compiled of ALL the good stuff and I am so honored to have Allie as a guest! Listen to the full episode and drop your favorite golden nugget in the comments!
Sign up for Allie's signature course, Your Uncluttered Home: bit.ly/Noclutter. By using my affiliate link, you are supporting the Motherhood in ADHD show and bringing more free resources to all the ADHD mamas.
Learn more about Allie on her website, follow her on Instagram, or get connected with the community in her free Facebook group.
There's a perfect system that will work for YOU...but spoiler alert - you won't find it on a shelf at target.
The BEST way to find a daily planning system that works for you is to CREATE EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED. Instead of trying planner after unused planner, and forcing them to sorta work, let's make the unique system that fits your life.
While it may feel overwhelming at first, when we have help, we can learn to develop systems that work FOR us instead of feeling like a failure because we wasted yet another notebook and feel no closer to success.
If we expect a tool, i.e. some random planner, to teach us how to be organized, we'll continually be disappointed by this inanimate object that can't solve our organizational woes!
The moral of the story: we can definitely find ways to plan, organize, and execute tasks that work for our ADHD brains when we have a plan to use the system.
"How I am going to stick with this, Patricia???"
Don't worry - I got you!
This is why Daily Planning for ADHD Moms includes a weekly group call. Together you will feel supported and encouraged to continue to make progress on your new habits and the changes you're making in your life.
Community is key - and there's so much power when you know and communicate with other mamas who are just like you. You'll no longer feel like you're alone on an ADHD mom island!
Having that connection with other mamas who know EXACTLY what you're going through every week makes ALL the difference. And it's what students who take the course say is their favorite part. Yes, they find great success with the modules and tools inside the course but having that actual connection and support is something you can look forward to every week.
I know you want to learn, feel seen, and get the advice and tools you need to create a system you know will work FOR YOU! You can do it - we can help!
Tomorrow is the last day to grab the Back to School Bonus and save 20%! Click here: bit.ly/adhdplan and grab your spot now.
No matter if you're a full-time working mama, a mom who's also a full-time student, or if you're a stay-at-home or work-from-home mum - if you have ADHD, you can use this framework.
Today we hear it straight from students of my Daily Planning
for ADHD Moms course. They share how it worked for them and what happened when they created a system that works for them. They discuss how they've developed solid habits and how they've figured out how to forgive themselves when they fall off track. Because they know even when, (not if, but when) they fall off track, any baby step they take forward is STILL a step in the right direction.
We talk about what it's like when you have a foundational system in place and how much easier it can be when life happens and you need to adjust to new changes - because let's face it, our lives are ALWAYS changing.
I'm honored to share this episode that highlights some of my amazing students who did the work and made the changes they needed to work WITH their ADHD brains instead of against it!
These mamas united together, went through the content in their own way, all while connecting with each other on a deeper level every week at our weekly meet-ups. The Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course taught them how they can take control of their own lives and now they've developed their own habits that keep them feeling capable and confident when planning out their everyday lives.
You'll hear real ADHD mamas talk about their "ah-ha" moments, discuss their favorite aspects of the course, and tell us all about what they appreciate most by having a framework they can use every day.
They started out feeling confused, helpless, and hopeless, and they finished feeling supported and seen. Now, they have all the tools they need to tackle their plan, even when life throws them a curveball.
From daily & weekly check-ins to being diligent about communicating the plan to their families, these mamas are more mindful and understand what a big difference ADHD planning can make for them.
I want this goodness for you, too, mama!
Join me, and more ADHD mamas, in my **Daily Planning for ADHD Moms** course and weekly accountability group. Let's get your calendar and to-do list organized and create a plan for your day.
It's your last few days to cash in on the 20% off Back to School Bonus!
Click here: bit.ly/adhdplan and grab your spot now!
We can be successful with ADHD when we start living purposefully like we have ADHD.
The obstacles pop up like weeds when we try to live life like we don’t have ADHD. I pretended like I could be "ADHD-free" for many years. And I failed over and over.
I finally realized that THIS is what I needed in order to successfully plan my day with ADHD.
When we think about what systems we should have in place, we need to consider what works for an ADHD brain. If we don't consider how our brains process differently, we will always be trying to jam a round peg into a square hole.
Creating a plan that actually WORKS for the ADHD brain means sometimes we have to chisel out a square hole on our own! "Neurotypical planning" is difficult for many of us - because it wasn't meant for us!
The system I've created with the ADHD brain in mind makes planning actually achievable.
Now, I'm not saying it's easy...and I'm not saying it doesn't take some guided effort. What I am saying is there is a way, a system, that I can show you that will help!
Join me, and more ADHD mamas, in my **Daily Planning for ADHD Moms** course and weekly accountability group. Let's get your calendar and to-do list organized and create a plan for your day.
Click here: bit.ly/adhdplan and grab our 20% off Back to School Bonus through Aug 27th!
It's frustrating when we can't seem to align what we want to accomplish with our energy levels or create a line of sight to the end goal.
It can be defeating, but I'm here for you! You are not alone and there are so many mamas here rooting for you.
There ARE ways you can work WITH your ADHD brain to maximize your output while you manage the energy roller coaster that is living with ADHD as a mama.
And as much as our well-meaning neurotypical friends try to help us with comments like, "Well, just use a planner" or "Pay more attention" - it falls flat because our brains don't work that way. But when we understand how our ADHD brains function best, we can create and implement systems made for our brains to support our success.
One of the best things I've found for mamas like us is having a support system of other women to whom we can relate. There's freedom in being in a group of women who we know won't laugh at us when we say we have to set a reminder to "eat lunch" or we'll forget... Because it's likely they do the same thing!
That's what my **Daily Planning for ADHD Moms** course and accountability group are all about. I'll be there to help you get your foundations in place and guide you when you get off track. It's time to feel confident and capable when planning your day.
You can feel successful while navigating life with your ADHD brain! And I'm here to help! You can control the chaos.
Here's your official invite to join me and more ADHD mamas in my **Daily Planning for ADHD Moms** course and weekly accountability group. Let's get your calendar and to-do list organized and create a plan for your day.
Click here: bit.ly/adhdplan and grab our 20% off Back to School Bonus through Aug 27th!
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Happy Podcast Birthday, Mama! We made it 2 years together. Whoo-hoo! Thank you for being a part of my village.
We're going back to the beginning...the very first 4 episodes of the podcast are about First Steps. So today's episode is Part 5, summarizing all of the amazing things you have taught me over the last two years of sharing my life with you, and you sharing yours with me. We talk about the 3 pillars of success for ADHD brains:
1)learn about your ADHD brain: What is ADHD? (Episode 69), comparison, superpowers, and is it worth getting an official ADHD diagnosis?
2)put on your oxygen mask first: why self-care matters, learning to trust yourself, and filling your toolbox.
3) ask for help: finding a safe place to talk, support groups like The Enclave, and adult accommodations.
While these aren't "easy fixes," there are so many ways to help ourselves feel better and do better. And I'm here to help. One baby step at a time leads us forward. Progress over perfection!
Interested in my upcoming class on overcoming time blindness by using your calendar effectively? Add yourself to the waitlist at patriciasung.com/adhdcalendar
Do you want to be on the podcast? I need your help. What is your best advice for other ADHD moms to take care of themselves? I want to know. Send me your best advice at patriciasung.com/shareadvice And you might be featured on an upcoming episode of our self-care series.
www.patriciasung.com/resources for more info & free resources.
Do you often tell yourself you're a failure? Do you have trouble making friends or reading social cues? Do you view yourself with an overcritical eye, feeling like you keep screwing up over and over? Is pausing, stopping yourself, or assessing the situation a rare occurrence?
I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. Our Self Regulation discussion includes reflection, impairment, sensory overload, fear, frustration, anger, embarrassment, anxiety, friendships, dopamine, CBT, celebrating our wins, self criticism, and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. The whole enchilada. Let's learn about our ADHD brains.
For more info & details, plus free resources: motherhoodinadhd.comIs your usual December a last minute frenzy, full of half finished projects, overspending, juggling your parents and in-laws, and ending with kicking yourself for what you didn't finish? It doesn't have to be an entire month of holiday stress. You can have a Christmas or Hanukkah season filled with the activities that you and family enjoy. But how? Let's make this happen and it starts now. It's time to cut the chaos and instead make great memories with our families.
Enroll at www.successfulasamother.com
Sign up for the free webinar Nov 6th at 11 AM CST: www.patriciasung.com/freeholidayclassWhat do you say when people ask you: What Is ADHD? I didn't have a good answer, so I dug into the scientific research. We're talking about the neuroscience of ADHD, what happens in your brain between the neurotransmitters, neurons, and synapses, that make up this neurological medical condition. I'll also debunk some ADHD myths and common misconceptions, as well as explain how stimulants affect the ADHD brain. There is so much more to ADHD than meets the eye. When you understand how your brain works, you can be far more confident that your decisions fit your lifestyle and choices. Let's learn about our ADHD brains!
www.patriciasung.com/resources for more info & free resources.
- Is your version of an alarm clock your child peering over the bed claiming starvation?
- Are you flying out the door, rushing everyone along in mild panic and high stress?
- Do you spend more than five minutes looking for shoes, keys, or coats? More than 10 minutes?
- Are you still in your pajamas at lunch time more days than not?
- Does your morning look like what you want it to look like?
Getting multiple people ready and exiting the house on time requires epic-level executive function ninja skills. I used to think it was impossible! I was always 30 minutes late, sweating, grumpy, anxious, beating myself up for the three things I forgot, yelling at my family, just in time to plaster a fake smile on my face and turn on my sweet “Hi, how are you?” voice upon arrival. And that is simply not the mom I want to be. And now, I'm not…on most days. Can I help you get out of the chaos - anger - shame spiral that happens every morning?
I know you’re ready to make a change, so join me and other mamas for The Disorganized Mom’s Guide to a Peaceful Morning: 5 doable steps in 5 short videos, and it’s free! Take my hand and let’s make your mornings better. Sign up at PatriciaSung.com/peaceful-morning
www.patriciasung.com/resources for more info & free resources.
Are you a planner? Or are you more of a "maybe should have made a plan before I tore out that wall in my kitchen" kind of person?
I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make, from career choices to when to brush your teeth. One area of EF is Planning. Or the lack thereof, being the hallmark of ADHD. How does it affect an ADHD adult? Let's learn about our ADHD brains.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/resources along with several free resources for ADHD mamas, including my favorite ADHD resources, tools beyond medication, a back to school checklist, and The Disorganized Mom's Guide to a Peaceful Morning.I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make. Episode 53 covers the basics of EF and now we will dive into prioritizing. Or the lack thereof, being the hallmark of ADHD. How does it affect an ADHD adult? Let's learn about our ADHD brains.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/resources I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Stinky pandemic school options + Explosive nature of ADHD = The Dumpster Fire version of the first day of school. Despite all of my preparation, Virtual School was even more taxing than I had imagined: executive dysfunction + sensory overload + transitions nightmare + juggling siblings + tech issues. Did I mention my 5YO doesn't even know how to use a computer? *cue frustration* I'm sharing my remote learning struggle in hopes that you don't feel alone, and do feel more prepared as we step out of our comfort zone and into being a Teacher's Aide during virtual learning. (Good news: it is getting better as we go.)
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/resources I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.How do we get ourselves and our children ready for school among the chaos and stress of the pandemic? We can prepare for a good portion of the craziness by making a plan and helping our kids (and ourselves) know what differences to expect this year. Listen as I share what you can do at home to be ready for both walking back into the school building, as well as setting up at home for virtual learning (24:50)! Grab your checklist for free!
bit.ly/pandemic-school-checklist
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.When you are ready to make some positive changes in your life, this is the book I want you to grab. James Clear has created the 4 laws to build habits in a simple and doable fashion, perfect for the disorganized, scattered person who struggles with consistency and building momentum. I'll walk you through how I built my plan for going to bed earlier using his 4 laws. You can use the 4 laws to build good habits into your life and make your goals easier to achieve, too. If I can get my sleep disordered ADHD self to bed earlier, you can certainly do hard things as well!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make, from career choices to when to brush your teeth. Keeping up with doctor appointments, insurance, tests, labs, medicine, etc., is so much information for my brain to keep track of! Here are the ways I stay on top of all the juggling.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make, from career choices to when to brush your teeth. One area of EF is Focus & Consistency. Or the lack thereof, being the hallmark of ADHD. How does it affect an ADHD adult? Let's learn about our ADHD brains.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.We’re more than halfway through the year. Even though 2020 did not turn out how anyone planned, we still have 5 months to do some good work. My word for 2020 is FAILURE because I tend to play it safe. I'm a recovering perfectionist. What about you? How can you pivot on the goals you wanted to achieve this year to fit this crazy situation? It's not going to be like this forever, mama. It will get better. Don't throw 2020 in the trash just yet.
For more info & free resources: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes
I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make, from career choices to when to brush your teeth.
One part of EF is Working Memory. We use it constantly. Every minute of every hour of every day. How does it affect an ADHD adult? Let's learn about our ADHD brains.
For resources:
bit.ly/MIAShowNotes
I can not explain what ADHD is without discussing Executive Function, because executive functioning is the CEO of our brain. You use it to run your life: your productivity, efficiency, family, work, friendship, including every single decision you make, from career choices to when to brush your teeth. This episode kicks off my Executive Function series where we'll learn what is executive functioning, discuss how we can see the EF-ADHD connection in our everyday lives, so that we can improve our day-to-day. Time to learn about our ADHD brains.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Struggling to start? ADHD brains easily feel overwhelmed by big projects and too many options. When I'm feeling stuck, here's what I do to calm the chaos, overcome fear, and break down big projects: I do one action. That's it. Just one. Join me for a pep talk on baby steps, because YOU can do one thing, too!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.How can we be better friends? Adult ADHD makes it difficult to juggle social cues, keep up with friends, and show how much you care to the people who mean the most. Let's talk some practical strategies. I also sat down with Noelle Rhodes of Friending podcast this week and discussed friendship struggles when have adult ADHD, feeling scattered or overwhelmed, so be sure to Listen in on my chat with Noelle here.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes
I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.My little sister called for advice on how to help her best friend, who just found out her mom has terminal cancer with 12 months to live. Since our mom passed away of cancer when we were young, my sister felt like she should know what to say, yet she was stuck. Grief is strange like that. A death 15 years ago can choke you up like it was yesterday. Sharing the burden of grief and death is not easy and it's scary. And that's just what a good friendship relies on: support through the tough times. I'm here for virtual hugs and to help get you through.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Potty Training is one of the great obstacles of parenthood. You're really excited to get to the other side and never change another diaper! You're also dreading the effort, stress, and cleanup that goes into process. Because... SO MUCH PEE. Here are my 10 tips to set yourself up for success and get your child using the toilet in 3 days using Lora Jensen's three day potty training method: it's as quick, easy, and efficient as toilet training can be. Yes, it's possible; I've done it twice. No more diapers! Underwear, here we come!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.FAIL: That's my 2020 word of the year. I know, that sounds ridiculous, so listen in while I explain why this is the perfect choice for me to achieve new levels of success this year. What about you? How do you feel when I ask you how your 2020 New Years Resolution or Goals are going? If it's panic, self-loathing, or disappointment, fear not! There are still 9 months left in the year to do great things. Quit clinging to that negative attitude and let's figure out what we can do to get your goals going again. ADHD will not hold us back from kicking some butt this year, especially our own!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.We're in the thick of crazy times. Nothing seems right and everything is stressful. I'm in a state of mourning how life as we knew it is gone. There is so much we can not control, so let's focus on what we can control: how can we adjust our lives to make the best of a down-right awful situation and navigate the grief? Here's what I have been doing to set priorities, modify my mindset, and adjust the basic necessities to create a balanced mama and a peaceful family as we grieve the loss of so much. Because we all know an ADHD family feels stuck and cramped at another level.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I'm back! My break was half amazing and half messy, and I'm sharing my mindset goals when life gets out of control, unexpected hiccups occur, systems breakdown, and everything feels overwhelming. I'm slow rolling into 2020 as I learn to balance things while I take on a huge project for my son's school. This fundraiser is using all of the executive functioning skills that don't come easily with ADHD. I have one month left to blow this event out of the water, so wish me luck and say a whole bucket full of prayers for my sanity.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I'm here to practice what I preach, ADHD mama! So here's an imperfect episode to explain why I'm not going to publish an episode every single for the next few weeks. It's time to prioritize and practice being imperfect.
Meet me over at www.motherhoodinadhd.com.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notesI believe perfectionism is an epidemic among ADHD women. Too many of us mastered this coping mechanism as young women in an effort to align the messages we received as girls with the reality inside our brains. And while it served us for a long a time, it doesn’t have to cripple us any longer. Let’s discuss how we got to this place, what our current beliefs are, & how we want our thoughts to match with our priorities and values. In Part 2, we’ll practice being imperfect!
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A little thank you note from me to you, sweet mama!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Why? Why do you have that goal? Why are you trying to make a change? ADHD often gets us stuck. We aren’t sure how to proceed. It’s overwhelming and overstimulating. Or we forget about our new goal and make the same impulsive/bad/unhelpful choice as last time, tossing our new goal into the black hole along with all the forgotten goals and changes we never made. Figuring out WHY we are trying to achieve a goal makes us far more likely to stick with it. But not a surface why. Let’s dig down deep to the real why.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Our brains do a great job of keeping us alive. Thanks, brain! But in our brain's wiring for survival and safety lurks a strong aversion to risk, new or scary things, and the unknown. This makes changing anything and everything feel like a Herculean effort. Before you get discouraged, listen up to how this made my struggles easier to deal with...we can still do the hard things when we have the right mindset.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Some of your thoughts are garbage and you need to let go of them right now. Not everything your brain thinks deserves your brain power! We talk Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Intrusive Thoughts, and how we can mistakenly think we're taking control, when were actually giving our power over to our fear. Utilizing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), I've learned how to let go of harmful and fearful thoughts, and now I am using my energy for productive, useful thoughts. I wish words could adequately explain the freedom I've gained over the last few months. Hallelujah!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.You are an amazing, loving, perfect-for-your-kids Mother. If you are struggling to think of a reason why, I asked four Powerhouse ADHD Mom Role Models to share their ADHD Ninja Mom Skills with you. I am honored to share their wisdom, honesty, and encouragement with you, Mama. In honor of ADHD Awareness month, let's celebrate how our ADHD makes us incredible.
My panel of experts:
Laura, The ADHD Mama, ADHD Video Creator
Tracy Otsuka, Lawyer & ADHD Podcast Host
Jaclyn Paul, Author & ADHD Blogger
Stacey Turis, Author & Life Coach
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So many of us with ADHD have been beaten over the head regarding all of the things we don't "do right". I want to challenge you to think about what you DO do right. You are a Bad A$$ Mama who can do tremendous things. You have admirable personality traits. You can do things few others can do. What are the skills that make you unstoppable? Let's all agree to stop the negativity tape that plays on repeat in our minds and record a new soundtrack that reminds ourselves how our ADHD makes us remarkable. How? Let's talk.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notesIn all my years of parent conferences, most parents asked about their child's grades & that's it. That's a wasted opportunity! You can learn so much about your child from their teacher, as can the teacher learn about your child from you. You, mama, set the priorities for your child's growth, so it's time to team up & build that relationship. Everyone is on Team (your child's name). Ready, Set, Goal! Here are the questions I wished parents would ask me, covering preschool to high school.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.In honor of ADHD Awareness Month: You asked; I answered! When did I get diagnosed? How has my life been affected by ADHD? I'm cracking open the history book and sharing my diagnosis, struggles, failures, as well as my successes. From sweet childhood, disastrous college years, and flawed career choices, I'm an open book. I would love to hear about you, too, so let's trade stories, Mama!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.In honor of ADHD Awareness Month: You asked; I answered! When did I get diagnosed? How has my life been affected by ADHD? I'm cracking open the history book and sharing my diagnosis, struggles, failures, as well as my successes. From sweet childhood, disastrous college years, and flawed career choices, I'm an open book. I would love to hear about you, too, so let's trade stories, Mama!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Where has all my money gone?
Are you woefully distraught as you wait for payday to inch closer?
It's time to quit that negative thinking.
Cast the vision of your future and set your priorities. We all know we should spend less but how do we actually cut back our spending? It's time to make a few phone calls and some sacrifices, in order to reach the goals we are pursuing and achieving.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.When you hear "budget", what are the first three words that come to mind? Fulfillment! Success! Accomplishment! Um, no? If yours are all pessimistic, then it's time to quit that negative thinking. Cast the vision of your future & set your priorities. Your budget is a financial road map that YOU create to achieve YOUR goals. Future-you is depending on Present-you to get it together. YOU are driving this mother. Now let's make that budget. You can do it.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Hello, Skeletons in the closet! I am a raw and open book today. I'm sharing my myriad of mental health struggles: anxiety, depression, postpartum anxiety (PPA), suicidal thoughts, what it feels like to have a panic attack, and the tools in my toolkit for getting through the overwhelming hurdles. If you're struggling like I did, please reach out for help right now with someone you trust. All the hugs from me to you, Mama.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I asked a few of my favorite positive ADHD Instagram role models to share what has been most impactful in learning to love themselves with ADHD. I'm so excited to share their wisdom, honesty, & positivity with you, Mama. So grab your coffee, relax, & let's get to loving ourselves a little bit more today! My panel of experts:
Alissa @alissaswonkybrain
Dina @theadhdlawyer
Jessica @everythoughtcaptivecoaching
Jon Jon @adhd_jOnjOn
Kristen @i.have.adhd.podcast
Liz @healthyadhd
Marc @wellnesswithmarc
Sandra @theadhdgoodlife
To reach out to any of our guests, please head to https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes
for their contact info!
More happiness? That's a goal worth pursuing for all of us. In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks shares where we often stumble and how to dissolve our obstacles to live a more full life in our Zone of Genius. We're not settling for Excellence here, mamas. We are sifting through societal stigmas and childhood wounds to find ways to overcome our worry, incompetence, and self-imposed limitations. Scary? Yes. But we can do this! It's time to level up!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.If you have a child who needs a little more one-on-one time and attention from his/her teacher than your average bear, then this episode is for you. Start the year off right with a quick meeting with your child's new teacher to get to know each other, set expectations, and get your kiddo the help they need to be successful starting in September.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Have you heard these before?
Your electricity will be cut off next week!
Late fee!
Who's been there a time or seventy three?
Managing our money is a huge struggle for the ADHD brain. In this series, we straight talk strategies to keep ourselves in control of our dollars and out of trouble!
Let go of the fear and stress that we get from even thinking about our bills by building a system to keep our bills from falling through the cracks.
We don't have to be a bill-paying kung fu master; our goal is to have a simple plan in place to avoid the bill collectors from a-calling. Choose which method works best for you and let's get this accomplished. No more bills arriving on pink paper! Adulting, check!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Are you tired of Declined!, Overdraft Fee!, Money slipping through our fingers like sand? Managing our money is a huge struggle for the ADHD brain. In this series, we are straight talking strategies to keep ourselves in control of our dollars and out of trouble! After years in the banking industry, I've seen my share of overdrawn accounts and fees. I share my tried and true tricks and tips to keep your account above zero. Have a listen to see which ones will work for you and then set up that back up plan for when the doodoo hits the fan.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Budgets, bills, and impulse buys, oh my! Managing our money is a huge struggle for the ADHD brain. In this upcoming series, we're going to straight talk strategies to keep ourselves in control of our dollars and out of trouble! Let's talk practical steps that you can do today to set up your future self for success. Creating a plan to build your savings account can be set it and forget it, KISS. Let's do these now and check off your adulting for the day!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Why does it take so dang long to learn anything (and I mean, everything) new?!? When we are learning a new skill, we want it to be automatic. But it's not! It takes a long time to solidify any new routine, habit, skill, etc. Instead of getting frustrated at ourselves or our kids, let's view it like potty training. Together, let's make a plan on how to get it done with motivation, patience, and persistence. We're going to implement, Mama! All good things are worth the wait. And the good news is that my podcast doesn't require you to clean any poop.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Let's do scary things together! This episode is all of my tried and true tips, tricks, and opinions on how to air travel with your tiny humans, from birth through age 4. It is so worth all of the tantrums, crying (both you and your children), jet lag, and delayed airplane flights in order to create amazing family memories. Because let's be honest...we're dealing with the crying and tantrums anyways, so we may as well do it somewhere fun with panoramic views, am I right? So book that plane ticket and let's go!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Chasing "work-life balance" has only appeared in the hot topics list for the last 30 years or so. Is finding a balance between the weight of motherhood, the stress of work, and seeking a joyful life even possible? Let's flip the conversation and discuss how we can pursue a balance mindset! Release the overwhelming and exhausting goal of to-do list perfectionism and we'll focus on pursuing your priorities that truly matter.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Now that I've been doing this podcast for a minute, this question comes along often. Do you want a five question quiz that tells you a definitive yes/no answer? Well, our brains are a little more complex than that. I'm no doctor, but let me point you in the right direction and help you figure out the right doctor that can help you find out if you have ADHD. Getting the right diagnosis from a qualified and experienced professional is the first step in your journey to healing and a joy filled life.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too."You learn courage by couraging." Mary Daly. I started swim lessons this week at the ripe old age of 37. After I explain how I impulsively got myself into this mess, I want to show how we can role model bravery for our kids, and how this situation parallels the new and scary things we ask of our kids quite often. How can we overcome what's holding us back? Especially fear! What if I look stupid? What if I am terrible? Let's let go of our perfectionism, step out of our comfort zones, embrace bravery, and figure it out together. It's never too late to try something new!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notesBrene Brown, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways! Honestly, she kinda lost me in the beginning of the book, and then it came full circle and I figured out why all that discussion at the front end was life-changing. As a shame researcher, Brene gives practical advice on how identify, and subsequently counter, shame. A must-read for all who are struggling with shame-ridden secrets rotting away at our insides, which I am pretty sure is 99% of us.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.We moms are the worst at taking time for ourselves. Well, as the saying goes, you can't pour from an empty cup. And you surely can't pour from an empty cup for the next 18 years and expect great results. So let's figure out what re-energizes you and overcome the obstacles that are keeping you from spending some time on yourself. Self-care is not a bad word. And because you need a little me time to preserve your sanity, sweet mama.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.ADHD explains a lot of why we do what we do and why we are the way we are. But there is a fine line between explaining why we do (or don't do) something, and allowing ourselves to use that explanation to habitually excuse ourselves from improving. Are you struggling with this like I am? Just a little self-conviction this week.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.While obviously the goal is to be on time, let's take some baby steps and be a little less late. We will look at why we are frequently running late, discuss executive functions involved in the project of leaving your house with kids in tow, find our motivation to make changes, and walk through a few skills, like counting up the minutes you truly need to walk out that door calmly with everything you need. If you're as time blind as I am, you'll want to ask for help in completing this homework, since chances are you were overly optimistic (a.k.a. mindbogglingly incorrect) in your estimations.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.It's ridiculously hard for people to understand what they can not see. So what can we do to help our loved ones understand what's going on in our ADHD brains? Spoiler Alert: It is not an easy answer.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Today I'm explaining what I do when I walk in the door after a long day. Before the chaos begins, I take a few minutes to sort the clutter of backpacks, diaper bags, lunch boxes, and work bags, and prepare for the next day. This gives me less to do before bed, and keeps the to do list short in the mornings.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.I study naturally organized people like it's my job. In this episode, I share 9 ways I've implemented their habits of constantly tidying into my life, which help keep my house relatively organized and most tasks accomplished in a timely fashion.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.Forgive my stuffy nose as I tearfully send you big hugs if you are having a hard day, too. When your best friend is moving away, it's just as hard in your 30's as it was when you were a child. Let's wallow for a bit and then put on our big girl pants together.
We can do hard things, mama.
A podcast of encouragement and strategy on how to make your motherhood with ADHD better day by day. Patricia recommends and shares her thoughts and opinions of The Disorganized Mind by Nancy Ratey. If you're ready to get started with ADHD coaching but aren't ready to invest your dollars, this may be a good place to start.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.A podcast of encouragement and strategy on how to make your motherhood with ADHD better day by day. Today on Motherhood in ADHD, we are discussing first steps. In Part 4, Patricia shares a rapid fire list of strategies and ideas you can use to make positive changes quickly.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.A podcast of encouragement and strategy on how to make your motherhood with ADHD better day by day. Today on Motherhood in ADHD, we are discussing first steps. Part 3 covers being honest with yourself, as it will allow you room to grow. Tough to do, but true!
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.A podcast of encouragement and strategy on how to make your motherhood with ADHD better day by day. Today on Motherhood in ADHD, we are discussing first steps. Part 2 discusses outlining what your success story will look like with vision boards and goal setting.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.A podcast of encouragement and strategy on how to make your motherhood with ADHD better day by day. Today on Motherhood in ADHD, we are discussing first steps. In Part 1, I'm explaining why it's so important to obtain a professional diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, understand how your ADHD brain functions, and find a few cheerleaders to keep spirits up. Community and connection are vital for women with ADHD.
Find the info & items mentioned in my podcast here: https://www.patriciasung.com/show-notes I also put together a free list of my favorite resources for ADHD mamas; snag that there, too.