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Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

The Joyful Courage Podcast is a place for inspiration, education and entertainment on the parenting journey. You are not alone, and this podcast exists to remind you of that... I am your host, Casey O'Roarty, and I am honored to get to share conversations with leading parenting experts about challenges that show up while we raise our kids. PLEASE NOTE: The show is rated "explicit" because sometimes I say "hell," "damn," or "pissed off." Rarely will you hear any of the more offensive swear words - just trying to keep it real over here. Feel free to head over to my website www.joyfulcourage.com for more information about online and live classes, as well as to read my blog. Opt in now for a four part FREE offer from moving from Chaos to Calm in your home athttp://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos-to-calm-sign-up Thank you for listening!

2022-07-04 15:00:00

Summer Throwback: Eps 215 on Showing Up with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson

Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August.

I am kicking things off by returning to a show that had me fan girling all over the place… Not one, but TWO of my fave voices in parent education made time to talk with me - it was amazing. Episode 215 with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. We talk all about the book they co-authored, The Power of Showing up.

Find it on the website at besproutable.com

2022-07-04 15:00:00

Eps 332: Solo Show- The Challenges of Giving Up Control with Our Teens

In this episode, Casey breaks down what “getting out of your kid’s way” looks like and the challenges of giving up control.

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2022-06-27 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 276 with Rae McDaniel

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2022-06-23 15:00:00

Eps 331: Raising Allies with Traci Baxley

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2022-06-20 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 248 with Maureen Muldoon

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2022-06-16 15:00:00

Eps 330: Learning about the Parenting Identity Development Model with Mercedes Samudio

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2022-06-13 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 35 with Dr. Jen O'Ryan

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2022-06-09 15:00:00

Eps 329: Being With What's Coming Up for Your Teen

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2022-06-06 15:00:00

Eps 328: Kirsten Cobabe Teaches Us How to Deepen Our Relationships With Teens

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2022-06-01 15:00:00

THURSDAY THROWBACK: Eps 266 with Dr. Jud Brewer

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2022-05-26 15:00:00

Eps 327: Revisiting Fiercely Committed, Lovingly Detached

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2022-05-23 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 270 with Dr. Aprile Andelle

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2022-05-19 15:00:00

Eps 326: Zen Parenting with Cathy Adams

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2022-05-16 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 43 with Jiovann Carrasco

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2022-05-13 01:07:24

Eps 325: SOLO SHOW Parenting for Mental Wellness

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2022-05-09 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 170: Exploring the Energy of Emotion with Sara Harvey Yao

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2022-05-05 15:00:00

Eps 324: Mental Health for Moms with Charlotte Avery

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2022-05-03 06:50:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 98 with Kerry Foreman

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2022-04-28 15:00:00

Eps 323: Alternatives to Punishment Part 6

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2022-04-25 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 262 with Dr. Pamela Ellis

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2022-04-21 15:00:00

Eps 322: Alternatives to Punishment Part 5

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2022-04-18 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 174 with Oren Jay Sofer

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2022-04-14 23:45:00

Eps 321: Alternatives to Punishment Part 4

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2022-04-11 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 106 with Alexandra Hughes

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2022-04-07 15:00:00

Eps 320: Alternatives to Punishment Part 3

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2022-04-04 15:00:00

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 80 with Rachel Macy Stafford

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2022-03-31 15:00:00

Eps 319: Alternatives to Punishment Part 2

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2022-03-29 00:15:00

Eps 318: Alternatives to Punishment Part 1

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2022-03-21 15:00:00

Eps 317: Teen Relationships with Christy Keating

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2022-03-14 15:00:00

Episode 1: A Conversation about Emotional Triggers with Andy Smithson of TRU Parenting

It was my great honor to spend over and hour on the phone with Andy Smithson of TRU Parenting recently.

We spent our time really digging into the way emotional triggers show up while navigating the challenges of raising kids, and Andy shared some of what he offers parents in the way of finding their calm. Enjoy!!

"Not knowing is one of the most powerful tools and skills that we have as parents... It keeps us curious makes us let our children guide the process..."
- Andy Smithson

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Childbirth: My Journey from Fear to Peace

The Quick Calm Toolkit

How to Stop Yelling in 21 Days

Get Off That Train!

TRU Calm: Parent Relaxation and Self-Renewal Series


* Be sure to listen at the end of the podcast for a special discount offer from Andy to be used towards this product!

2022-03-14 07:08:37

Eps 316: Teens, Therapy, and Mental Health with Dr. Melanie McNally

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2022-03-07 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 6: Encouragement

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2022-03-03 16:00:00

Eps 315: Ian's Back Sharing Truths About His Screen Time

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2022-02-28 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 5: Focusing on Solutions

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2022-02-24 16:00:00

Eps 314: Becoming Tech Intentional with Emily Cherkin

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2022-02-21 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 4: Discipline that Teaches

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2022-02-17 16:00:00

Eps 313: Solo Show- The Basics of Family Meetings

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2022-02-14 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 3: Effective Communication

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2022-02-10 16:00:00

Eps 312: Teen Skin Health with Dr. Mona Gohara

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2022-02-07 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 2: Belief Behind Behavior

2022-02-03 16:00:00

Eps 311: Solo Show- 2 Assumptions That Support Parenting Teens

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2022-01-31 16:00:00

Becoming Sproutable Eps 1: Mutual Respect

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2022-01-27 16:00:00

Eps 310: Live Coaching - Food, Eating, Body Image, Teens

Check out the show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-310-food-image-body-image-teens/

2022-01-25 01:58:57

Eps 309: Solo Show- Paradox, Parenting, Pot Smoking

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2022-01-17 16:00:00

Eps 308: Finding Our Optimism With Summers McKay

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2022-01-10 16:00:00

Eps 307: 3 Steps for Creating What You Want In 2022

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2022-01-04 04:10:00

Eps 306: Rowan's Year In Review, Tattoos, and Tinder

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2021-12-28 05:15:00

Eps 305: Unpacking Violence in Schools with Lisa Sabey

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2021-12-20 16:00:00

Eps 304: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Diana Hill

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2021-12-13 16:00:00

Eps 303: Solo Show- Minimizing Phone Drama

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2021-12-06 16:00:00

Eps 302: Creating Tradition and Connection with Ericka Sóuter

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2021-11-29 16:00:00

Eps 301: Setting Expectations for the Holidays

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2021-11-22 16:00:00

Eps 300: Becoming Aware with Dr. Dan Siegel

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2021-11-15 16:00:00

Eps 299: SOLO Show- Tips on Validation

To see the show notes, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/299 :)

2021-11-08 16:00:00

Eps 298: LIVE COACHING Routines and Transitions

Go to the Joyful Courage website, www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/298 for show notes and more information!

2021-11-01 15:00:00

Eps 297: Solo Show- Thoughts On Motivating Adolescents

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2021-10-25 15:00:00

Eps 296: The Work of Romantic Partnership with Jayson Gaddis

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest today is Jayson Gaddis.

Jayson is an author, a relationship coach, a relationship expert who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school, which is how to do relationships.

Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship education programs and trains relationship coaches all over the world.

He has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels and is the host of the Relationship School podcast with over 5 million downloads and over 330 episodes.

He is the visionary behind The Relationship School. His first book, Getting to Zero, will be out in October.

Takeaways from the show:

Jayson’s story

The inspiration for Getting to Zero

High stakes relationships 4 categories conflicts that come up in relationships “Standing for 3” Having control over your expectations Being willing vs willful Becoming a deeper human What “getting to zero” means The relational blueprint Broadening your perspective Making a safe space at home

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I picture myself being more upright and expanding my chest to meet all the challenges of my life. That feels like a really good feeling in my body right now and a good inspiration for me

Where to find Jayson:

Book: Getting to zero | Instagram | Podcast | Website

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage Membership

For the last time this year, the doors to the Living Joyful Courage Membership are open!

The membership is for moms of tweens and teens to have a place to come for community and support.

Don’t you wish there was somewhere you could go and just be super real about all the things when it comes to being a mom and a woman in the world? Somewhere you wouldn’t be judged or worry about being judged by having those moments of wanting to check out and call it a day...somewhere you are encouraged to show up just as you are and be held in all of your glory, all of your fear, and all of your desire to be better? That’s what this membership is all about.

The Living Joyful Courage Membership is a community support that includes two monthly group coaching calls, one 30 minute 1:1 call each quarter, an active community forum, and a book club each quarter, and there is also a retreat every quarter!! There are also discounts you benefit from being an active member.

If you’re interested, go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-10-19 15:00:00

Eps 295: Avoiding Codependency with Alana Carvalho

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest today is Alana Carvalho.

Alana is a licensed mental health counselor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns and becoming more authentic.

She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life.

Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island. Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting is now available on amazon.com.

Alana maintains her private practice in Midtown Manhattan and is currently seeing clients virtually. You can connect with her through her website, Instagram, podcast or you can email her at alana@alanacarvalho.com

Takeaways from the show:

Alana’s story Codependency in the context of parenting Developing community outside of family members Being supportive vs controlling Creating a safe space for your kids Validation and support coming into play Empowering your children by asking if they want your help Being in relationship with kids who are in resistance Example moving through hard things for your child How you respond is where your influence lies Building resilience

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it’s exactly what we’re talking about. It’s pushing yourself to grow in these uncomfortable ways and doing it knowing that’s what brings joy into life and relationships, by pushing out of your comfort zone and taking a look at yourself.

Where to find Alana:

Instagram | Book | Website

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Living Joyful Courage Membership

For the last time this year, the doors to the Living Joyful Courage Membership are open!

The membership is for moms of tweens and teens to have a place to come for community and support.

Don’t you wish there was somewhere you could go and just be super real about all the things when it comes to being a mom and a woman in the world? Somewhere you wouldn’t be judged or worry about being judged by having those moments of wanting to check out and call it a day...somewhere you are encouraged to show up just as you are and be held in all of your glory, all of your fear, and all of your desire to be better? That’s what this membership is all about.

The Living Joyful Courage Membership is a community support that includes two monthly group coaching calls, one 30 minute 1:1 call each quarter, an active community forum, and a book club each quarter, and there is also a retreat every quarter!! There are also discounts you benefit from being an active member.

If you’re interested, go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc

Doors open October 1st, 2021.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-10-11 15:00:00

Eps 294: LIVE COACHING Influencing Sibling Dynamics

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a live coaching session!

Takeaways from the show:

Challenges in the sibling dynamic Owning your peace Learning about relationships Remembering our kids are still developing their skills Flexing resiliency muscles during conflict Belonging and significance Becoming more secure in relationships = more easy going Practice asking if your kids need help Highlight tools your kids use in the heat of the moment

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

(Giselle) Joyful courage is riding out the journey, being open to the ups and downs and understanding that there is a meaning to everything that happens to us. Only when we show up and we lean into those challenges is where we become courageous.

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Living Joyful Courage Membership

For the last time this year, the doors to the Living Joyful Courage Membership are open!

The membership is for moms of tweens and teens to have a place to come for community and support.

Don’t you wish there was somewhere you could go and just be super real about all the things when it comes to being a mom and a woman in the world? Somewhere you wouldn’t be judged or worry about being judged by having those moments of wanting to check out and call it a day...somewhere you are encouraged to show up just as you are and be held in all of your glory, all of your fear, and all of your desire to be better? That’s what this membership is all about.

The Living Joyful Courage Membership is a community support that includes two monthly group coaching calls, one 30 minute 1:1 call each quarter, an active community forum, and a book club each quarter, and there is also a retreat every quarter!! There are also discounts you benefit from being an active member.

If you’re interested, go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc

Doors open October 1st, 2021.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-10-04 15:00:00

Eps 293: New School Parenting with DJ Johnson

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s guest is DJ Johnson. DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson is a husband, father, author, mentor, coach, counselor, and sports statistician. He grew up in the Indiana foster care system and yet despite that, has gone on to lead a successful, and fulfilling life. Before spending nine years in the foster care system, DJ suffered child abuse, domestic abuse, and emotional trauma. At one point, he wanted to end his life, but he realized that he was on this earth for a purpose.

DJ fulfills that purpose by using his experiences not only to help establish relationships with the students he serves, but he helps parents better connect with their teenagers.

DJ specializes in helping parents bridge the communication gap between them and their child to ensure that their child has room to be the best versions of themselves.

Takeaways from the show:

DJ’s story Adverse childhood experience Using your experience to help others Old school parenting way going out the window Getting the hang of the new school parenting Balancing being kind and firm Different parenting styles fit different children Foundation of respect and dignity with your kids Conditioning coming to the surface Let teens learn through experiences Repairing relationships

Where to find DJ:

Website | Instagram | FaceBook

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

When I think about courage, I think about when you’re initially jumping into courage and there’s fear behind it or it’s a serious thing. When we add joy to it i think it’s the excitement of doing something that's mostly going to end up in a good result.

So Joyful Courage to me is “I am happily jumping out and taking a leap to something I think is ultimately going to benefit me and my family.”

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Living Joyful Courage Membership

For the last time this year, the doors to the Living Joyful Courage Membership are open!

The membership is for moms of tweens and teens to have a place to come for community and support.

Don’t you wish there was somewhere you could go and just be super real about all the things when it comes to being a mom and a woman in the world? Somewhere you wouldn’t be judged or worry about being judged by having those moments of wanting to check out and call it a day...somewhere you are encouraged to show up just as you are and be held in all of your glory, all of your fear, and all of your desire to be better? That’s what this membership is all about.

The Living Joyful Courage Membership is a community support that includes two monthly group coaching calls, one 30 minute 1:1 call each quarter, an active community forum, and a book club each quarter, and there is also a retreat every quarter!! There are also discounts you benefit from being an active member.

If you’re interested, go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc

Doors open October 1st, 2021.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-09-27 15:00:00

Eps 292: SOLO Show- Being Present With Your Teen's School Discouragement

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Parenting group School trouble The uncertainty of COVID Feeling powerless Questioning traditional school system Emotional honesty Getting to the root of your fears Getting curious with your kids Notice when you become dysregulated You get to set boundaries Letting your kids feel the tension of life Love, accept, and be available

Eps 242 with Ned Johnson | Eps 21 with Jessica Lahey

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Parenting for The Season You’re In

Parenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey.

It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding.

Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL.

And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons

The six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-09-20 15:00:00

Eps 291: Getting Optimal Sleep with Julia Glowinski

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest this week is Julia Glowinski. Julia is a registered social worker, a certified sleep consultant, and a cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia clinician. She’s an expert in all things related to sleep and how to achieve optimal sleep.

Julia is passionate about working with individuals and families experiencing sleep difficulties. Her focus is on building a strong foundation for healthy sleep to promote long lasting sleep improvements.

Julia uses an integrative approach to uncovering the many factors that affect sleep quality. This includes paying close attention to emotional well being, diet, physical activity, sleep hygiene, stress and overall mental health.

As the relationship between mental health and sleep is significant, Julia’s strategies incorporate mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help quiet the mind.

Takeaways from the show:

Julia’s journey of becoming a sleep specialist Sleep quality affecting mental health Healthy sleep analytics Sleep science in the adolescent brain Circadian rhythms Challenges of getting good sleep The root of sleep deprivation Routines before bed Strategies for getting optimal sleep Healthy screen habits during the pandemic

Resources from Julia:

Website | Clinic | Instagram

See you next week!! :)

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think it means finding the joy and beauty in the unknown and trying to continue to push forward with a sense of joy.

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Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Parenting for The Season You’re In

Parenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey.

It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding.

Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL.

And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons

The six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-09-13 15:00:00

Eps 290: SOLO SHOW-Validation, Mutual Respect, Back to School

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!

Takeaways from the show:

Starting the school year Validating our kids Mutual respect Setting personal boundaries What communication can look like in your house Respect through parent lens vs. teen lens Owning up to what’s been said The realness of dysregulation

See you next week!! :)

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Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Parenting for The Season You’re In

Parenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey.

It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding.

Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL.

And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons

The six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-09-06 15:00:00

Eps 289: Parenting for Social Justice with Dr. Traci Baxley

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Traci Baxley from the Parenting for a Brave New World Mini Summit that went live January of 2021.

Dr. Baxley is a mother, cultural coach for parents, she’s a speaker, an educator, and a diversity inclusion and equity consultant. She is passionate about supporting families with intentional parenting.

Traci is the founder of Social Justice Parenting, a philosophy that is rooted in radical love and activism. In her work with parents, Dr. Baxley discusses new ideas in parenting for our current social climate that moves families away from fear-based parenting styles.

Social Justice Parenting guides parents in raising independent, compassionate, and socially conscious children.

Takeaways from the show:

Belonging advocate Social justice parenting Breaking down anti-racism Performative social justice vs. active social justice ROCKS acronym Sitting with being uncomfortable Start at home Normalize black excellence Looking at privilege from multiple identities Radical love Seeing humanness in others

Resources from Traci:

Social Justice Parenting TedX | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn

See you next week!! :)

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Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting programs; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-08-30 15:00:00

Eps 288: Understanding Screens and Setting Limits with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov from the Teens and Screens Mini Summit that went live in the fall of 2020.

Dr. Milovidov is an internationally known digital parenting coach, author, lawyer, and law professor.

She is the founder of DigitalParentingCoach.com and provides information and support to caregivers, parents, and anyone who is looking for the best practices when it comes to social media, internet laws, and the internet at large.

Elizabeth’s publications include: The Parent’s Guide to Parenting in the Digital Age, The Parent’s Guide to Youtube and Youtube Kids, and The Parent’s Guide to Digital Detox and Disconnect.

Takeaways from the show:

Elizabeth’s story Recommendations for screen time App limits Mistakes parents make with phones Children’s right to privacy Parenting common sense Curiosity is natural Handling uncomfortable conversations Family media agreements Privilege without responsibility is entitlement Cyberbullying

Resources from Elizabeth:

CyberBully Research Center | FaceBook Group | Website

See you next week!! :)

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Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting programs; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-08-23 15:00:00

Eps 287: Exploring Risky Behavior and Teens with Alyson Schafer

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week I am revisiting my conversation with Alyson Schafer from the Risky Behavior and Teens Mini Summit that went live in the summer of 2020.

Alyson is one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She’s a family counselor with a private practice in Toronto and has presented to audiences all around the world.

She has regular media sports, is the author of three best selling books; Breaking the Good Mom Myth, Honey I Wrecked the Kids, and Ain’t Misbehavin’. All three of these books have been translated to multiple languages.

Alyson recently launched a podcast called Parenting the Adlerian Way, which you can find on most major podcast platforms.

Takeaways from the show:

Fear around risky behaviors Framework for the teen years Children’s behavior doesn’t reflect how you’re doing as a parent Holding a safe place for mistakes Non-attachment to outcome Allowing teens to have compassion for our experience Acknowledge your kids might need space from you How risky behavior looks in boys vs girls Letting go of the reins Winning cooperation vs forcing compliance Motivational interviewing

Resources from Alyson:

Brainstorm by Dan Siegel | Website | Podcast | Instagram | FaceBook

See you next week!! :)

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Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting programs; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-08-16 15:00:00

Eps 286: Sex Education with Amy Lang

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week I am revisiting my conversation with Amy Lang from the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens Mini Summit in the spring of 2020.

Amy has been a guest on the podcast and is a super great friend of mine. She is my go to person when I have questions about my teen’s sexual development.

Amy has been a sex health educator for over 20 years and helps parents of all beliefs talk with their kids of any age about the birds and bees.

She is the author of an award-winning book, Birds and Bees and your kids- a guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love, and relationship. As well as Dating Smarts- what every teen needs to know to date, relate, or wait.

Takeaways from the show:

Family values Your kids are going to have sex The importance of communication with your teens Sex safety Stop filtering for your kids Broader ways of looking at sexuality Have conversations about values Don’t be afraid to prepare before a conversation

Resources from Amy:

Website | Podcast | Online Solution Center | Instagram

See you next week!! :)

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Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting programs; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-08-09 15:00:00

Eps 285: Revisiting ADHD with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart.

Dr. Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist and board-certified in clinical child and adolescent psychology. You may know her from her amazing content and reels she puts out daily on Instagram.

Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is passionate about serving families in her local community in the state of Texas and beyond.

Takeaways from the show:

How ADHD shows up in the teen years ADHD in boys vs. girls Rejection sensitive dysphoria Diagnosis of ADHD Task initiation Choose the relationship with your teen Openings for talking about tools and strategies

Resources from Ann-Louise:

Ebook | Dr. Becky Bailey | Rebecca Bransetter | Instagram | FaceBook | Website

See you next week!! :)

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Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Living Joyful Courage Membership for Moms of Tweens and Teens

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

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Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting programs; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-08-02 15:00:00

Eps 284: Positive Discipline and the Teen Years

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!

Takeaways from the show:

The adventure of parenting teens Brain development in teen years Private logic Nurturing teen relationships Influence around how we show up for our kids Fiercely committed, lovingly detached Looking for solutions Communicate with your child Privilege and responsibility The importance of individuation

See you next week!! :)

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Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Living Joyful Courage Membership for Moms of Tweens and Teens

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting program; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-07-26 15:00:00

Eps 283: Parenting Through Chronic Illness with Liza Blas

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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My guest today is Liza Blas.

Lisa is the host of the Very Happy Stories podcast. She brings hope, empowerment, and inspiration to her audience by shining light on complex topics impacting many families today. Liza’s stories are inspired by her own experiences raising two kids, both suffering from conditions like depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD and even Lyme disease.

Liza shares her best practices through her Very Happy Stories podcast, speaking engagements and personal coaching, where she serves as a Thrive Guide to parents who are struggling.

Before launching her podcast, Liza was a successful commercial real estate broker specializing in the development of medical facilities, surgical centers and build-to-suit properties.

Takeaways from the show:

Liza’s family story of Lyme disease Struggles of your kids get you where you need to be Being in difficult times with peace and acceptance Speaking to acceptance Ways to use gratitude Forgiveness Self care as a non-negotiable

Where to find Liza:

Website | FaceBook | Podcast

What does joyful courage mean to you?

I love that term. For me it’s how do you want to live your life? In love or fear? I love the two words together because it gives you the permission to be joyful and loving and add some fun into the fearful moments of life. Joyful courage to me is how I want to live. That’s what I want to model for my kids.

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

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Living Joyful Courage Membership for Moms of Tweens and Teens

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting program; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows you how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-07-19 15:00:00

Eps 282: Letting the Heart Lead with Sarah Maclaughlin

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin. Sarah is a social worker, parent educator, and author of the award winning best-selling book: What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children.

She is a writer, trainer, and content expert for Zero to Three, a national nonprofit dedicated to ensuring that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life.

Sarah maintains a blog, writes the parenting toolbox column for Portland Main’s Parent and Family, and has been featured many places online including the Huffington Post and this podcast: eps 30 & eps 52

Her latest book is called Raising Humans with Heart and is an invaluable resource for moms, dads, and caregivers everywhere.

Takeaways from the show:

Sarah’s new book Getting curious about behavior Parenting manual we all have Trusting maturity will come around Mistakes are the primary learning tool for humans Stay current with your own emotional process Fiercely committed and lovingly detached Being supportive without being suffocating Separating our regrets from our kid’s lives You have control over the narrative Willingness vs. willfulness Conflict is a relationship builder

Where to find Sarah:

Instagram | Twitter | FaceBook | Raising Humans with Heart book

What does joyful courage mean to you?

What comes to mind is really tied to what we’ve been talking about. The bitter and the sweet of these relationships with our kids. They’re so important to us and we have to be courageous to be able to let them go. They need roots and wings. We can’t keep them in a cage, we have to let them fly.

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Living Joyful Courage Membership for Moms of Tweens and Teens

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting program; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-07-12 15:00:00

Eps 281: 4 Questions For Bringing More Ease and Less Urgency To Right Now

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!

Takeaways from the show:

PNW heatwave Moving into July Unsettled energy Feelings around covid regulations being lifted Stress with going back to normal 4 questions to support in creating the experience you want Creating ease

See you next week!! :)

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Join the Email List!!

Sign up for the Joyful Courage Email list now and enjoy 7 Tips for Connecting with your Teens. I will share with you 7 tips over 7 days that, if you put them into practice, WILL make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Each day you will get an ACTION step and BONUS step if you are feeling like an overachiever.

Head to www.joyfulcourage.com/email. Sign up and stay more connected!!

::::

Living Joyful Courage Membership for Moms of Tweens and Teens

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

::::

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way

Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way is a 6 session online workshop designed to support participants in learning all they need to teach the Parenting the Positive Discipline Way curriculum.

Developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, this program provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classes. This curriculum can stand alone or can offer significant enhancement to other parenting program; it emphasizes experiential activities that reach the heart to inspire deeper understanding and change.

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/teachparents

The six sessions start Monday, August 23rd and run Mondays and Wednesdays for three weeks from 5-7:30pm PDT

Early bird pricing is good through July 23rd.

:::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-07-06 06:26:47

Eps 280: Reparenting Ourselves with Leslie Priscilla

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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My guest today is Leslie Priscilla. Leslie is a first generation non-Black Chicana mother to three biracial children ages 8, 3, and 2.

She is a descendant of Indigenous Tarahumara Rarámuri and Spanish lineages who has resided on occupied Tongva (ton-va) and Acjachemen (hash-i-men) land, also known as Orange County, CA, all of her life.

Leslie shares her medicine by offering coaching, workshops, support and advocacy for Latinx/Chicanx families locally, nationally, and internationally both in-person and online via the Latinx Parenting organization.

Formerly an early childhood teacher and 1:1 behavioral coach, Leslie has worked with children and families for over 13 years. She has a dual degree in Child Development & Family Studies as well as Family Life Education from CSULB, and attended the Masters in Social Work program at Cal State Fullerton before pausing to focus on her babies and the Latinx Parenting movement.

Leslie is trained as a facilitator in various parent education curricula including Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Parenting, Positive Discipline, Supporting Fatherhood Involvement (SFI), Community Parent Education (C.O.P.E) and others.

She has facilitated groups in both Spanish and English for hundreds of parents in schools, transitional homes, teen shelters, drug rehabilitation centers, and family resource centers throughout Orange County, CA.

Over the years, Leslie has long worked within mental health agencies in positions serving as Interim Director of Parent Education for the Child Abuse Prevention Center in Orange County, Youth & Professional Programs Manager for NAMI Orange County, and as a Consultant for the Dads Matter Program of Children's Bureau.

Takeaways from the show:

La chancla culture History of oppression showing up in parenting Treating children with the same respect as adults How conditioning shows up in parenting Parenting for the long term Awareness in your relationship with your children Decolonization Patriarchal value in latinx culture Dealing with negative opinions on Instagram Respect is valuable You cannot parent your children without reparenting yourself

Where to find Leslie:

Instagram | Website | FaceBook | Twitter

Resources:

Spare the kids book | Support Scholarship Funds

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage to me means very much what Brenne Brown would talk about when it comes to being brave, showing up as yourself and finding joy in the experience of living. Really living and receiving all the beauty and experiencing all the joy. Sometimes we forget to enjoy our kids because we focus so much on parenting them and all the tools. I think Joyful Courage is really allowing ourselves to experience it as a whole.

See you next week!! :)

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JULY MEMBERSHIP

Hi friends - are you loving this show? Intrigued by the topic that is being teased apart?

Hungry to dive deeper into discussions like this and others??

I am so excited to let you know that JULY enrollment is open for the Living Joyful Courage Membership program.

Each quarter members get:

A 30 minute one on one call with me Twice monthly group calls A private book club A content rich webinar A virtual retreat Ongoing support and connection in out community space PLUS access to all past teen summits during your time in the membership….

This is a group for moms of tweens and teens. Moms who are looking for that extra layer of growing and learning around showing up through the twists and turns of adolescence.

It’s a messy time.

Maybe you have raised your kids with PD and are finding that you are unsure what this looks like during middle and high school?

Maybe you are just coming into the positive parenting conversation, and need support for shifting into a more connected, less controlling role with your growing child.

Or maybe you are looking for a community of like-minded mamas that are passionate about staying in the motherhood conversation.

We’ve got you.

Here’s what some of the mamas are saying:

“It is great to know that I have a place to go when I'm really struggling with parenting. I feel more hope having this group.”

“I don’t feel as alone, it’s so nice to communicate with so many Mom’s who have an idea of what I’m experiencing. I’ve never felt supported in my parenting journey before and you help me feel supported, thank you Casey! I love the community space. It’s so helpful to be able to reach out for support when I’m experiencing a parenting challenge and to be able to support other Moms who need support too.”

The membership doors will be open through the month of July!!

Go to joyfulcourage.com/ljc to get signed up.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-06-28 15:00:00

Eps 279: Solo Show- Breaking Down the Process of Making Agreements

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Today’s episode is a SOLO show!

Takeaways from the show:

Making agreements with your kids Creating a win win Brainstorming solutions that are related, reasonable, respectful, and HELPFUL Keeping things simple and concise Iceberg metaphor Handling peer pressure Letting go of your kids having the same priorities as you Reign in your criticism Take a break when things get heated

See you next week!! :)

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MAMA’S RETREAT

I see you mamas working hard to support your kids. I can feel you walking the edge of sticking to boundaries and letting things go.

It is exhausting. So…. How about you take a little time to yourself? How about you block out 3 hours to explore your needs and nurture your desires? Give yourself the reset you need to move into the summer months feeling really good.

You deserve to be seen mama. Let yourself be seen. Join me and a circle of other amazing women June 27 from 12-3pm PST as we move, ground, and reflect our way to our inner voice, our soul’s song.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/retreat to get yourself enrolled!!!

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-06-21 15:00:00

Eps 278: Addiction Inoculation with Jessica Lahey

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Jessica Lahey.

Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence.

Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs.

Takeaways from the show:

Secrecy and shame around substance abuse Jessica’s story The process of recovery The normalization of adult drinking Pluralistic ignorance Authoritative parenting Knowledge about raising kids and substances Teaching kids why they shouldn’t be using substances Knowing risk factors of substance abuse can help you protect your kids Understanding the teen brain Scripts to give your kids to get out of situations Relationship matters

Where to find Jessica:

Hot Wings article | Website | Instagram | FaceBook

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

This whole book I wrote has been a massive exercise of joyful courage to me. This was the book that all of that crap that I’ve been through has led to and I’m so proud and happy. It has also been terrifying to put my story out there into the world knowing that substance use disorder is really encamped so there’s people with really strong feelings around how things are expressed. The whole thing has been sheer happiness that this thing is out there but also I’ve been using a lot of courage because it’s really scary to put your story out into the world but it is also incredibly empowering.

See you next week!! :)

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MAMA’S RETREAT

I see you mamas working hard to support your kids. I can feel you walking the edge of sticking to boundaries and letting things go.

It is exhausting. So…. How about you take a little time to yourself? How about you block out 3 hours to explore your needs and nurture your desires? Give yourself the reset you need to move into the summer months feeling really good.

You deserve to be seen mama. Let yourself be seen. Join me and a circle of other amazing women June 27 from 12-3pm PST as we move, ground, and reflect our way to our inner voice, our soul’s song.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/retreat to get yourself enrolled!!!

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-06-14 15:00:00

Eps 277: Solo Show- Getting Out of Our Teen's Way

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Life updates The power of the tension of life Getting out of the way so your kids can feel the tension of life Pushback against traditional education Get curious about what’s important to your kids Being an unconditional parent Kids who have the opportunity to decide for themselves are the kids that thrive Teens need to have space to feel out what they want

Resources:

Dr. Hina Talib | Brave New World Summit

See you next week!! :)

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PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU’RE IN

I took the feedback of all the parents who went through in March and have added a week and tweaked the content a bit to make it an EVER MORE transformational learning experience!!

ENROLLMENT IS OPEN AND SPACE IS LIMITED.

Parenting for the Season You're in (or “the seasons course” as I like to call it) is a five week class for parents of middle and high school aged kids. It is a space for learning the PD tools that support connection and firmness, as well as a gentle look at the ways we may be getting in the way of our adolescents' growth and development.

We will connect around the collective experience of raising teens, learn about teen brain development, consider our parenting style, embody connected firmness, and learn encouragement tools that will sustain us in the years ahead.

After going through the program in March, one parent shared:

I have been struggling with consequences for my teens - what should they be and why aren't they working! We have been locked in a power struggle with my younger teen and I found myself trying to force him to do what I want - control instead of collaboration. This program helped me pivot away from consequences and reframe situations with a view on solutions, and really thinking harder about what part of the work or choice is really mine and which is his..

And another parent offered

I loved how it consistently (the course) helped me to see another way and learn how to be and remember to be in relationship with my teen and not simply trying to fix or control the challenging behaviors.

This is deep learning, my friends, check it out at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to get more info and claim your spot!

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-06-07 15:00:00

Eps 276: Understanding Gender Expression with Rae McDaniels

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest today is Rae McDaniel.

Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity.

They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club, a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease.

Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago.

They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master's of Education in community counseling.

Takeaways from the show:

Ray’s story Gender spectrum Expanding and exploring gender Deep dive into pronouns Gender shakes people’s fundamental ideas of the world How parents can support their kids coming out Gender dysphoria Tips for parents to support and accept their child in a scary world Safety within the trans/non binary world Celebrating gender expression The world needs people who are their most authentic selves

Resources from Rae:

Sissy by Jacob Tobia | Fiction book: Juliet Takes a Breath | PFLAG | the Transgender Child | the Transgender Teen | Gender Unicorn | Resource Page | Rae’s instagram | FaceBook | Website | GenderFck Club

What does joyful courage mean to you?

Full expression. I also think of the words pleasure and audacity when I think of joyful courage. It’s not about not being afraid, it’s stepping into the arena even though we are afraid. So to me joyful courage means stepping into the arena, whatever that means to you, in the fullest expression of yourself and doing so in a way that also focuses on joy and pleasure.

See you next week!! :)

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PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU’RE IN

I took the feedback of all the parents who went through in March and have added a week and tweaked the content a bit to make it an EVER MORE transformational learning experience!!

ENROLLMENT IS OPEN AND SPACE IS LIMITED.

Parenting for the Season You're in (or “the seasons course” as I like to call it) is a five week class for parents of middle and high school aged kids. It is a space for learning the PD tools that support connection and firmness, as well as a gentle look at the ways we may be getting in the way of our adolescents' growth and development.

We will connect around the collective experience of raising teens, learn about teen brain development, consider our parenting style, embody connected firmness, and learn encouragement tools that will sustain us in the years ahead.

After going through the program in March, one parent shared:

I have been struggling with consequences for my teens - what should they be and why aren't they working! We have been locked in a power struggle with my younger teen and I found myself trying to force him to do what I want - control instead of collaboration. This program helped me pivot away from consequences and reframe situations with a view on solutions, and really thinking harder about what part of the work or choice is really mine and which is his..

And another parent offered

I loved how it consistently (the course) helped me to see another way and learn how to be and remember to be in relationship with my teen and not simply trying to fix or control the challenging behaviors.

This is deep learning, my friends, check it out at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to get more info and claim your spot!

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-05-31 15:00:00

Eps 275: Solo Show- How Does Firmness Show Up For You?

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Authoritative vs authoritarian parenting Connection and firmness coexisting Connecting to yourself Bring firm does not equal being mean Where authoritarian parenting can show up Authority with your kids vs over them Connection requires self regulation

See you next week!! :)

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PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU’RE IN

I took the feedback of all the parents who went through in March and have added a week and tweaked the content a bit to make it an EVER MORE transformational learning experience!!

ENROLLMENT IS OPEN AND SPACE IS LIMITED.

Parenting for the Season You're in (or “the seasons course” as I like to call it) is a five week class for parents of middle and high school aged kids. It is a space for learning the PD tools that support connection and firmness, as well as a gentle look at the ways we may be getting in the way of our adolescents' growth and development.

We will connect around the collective experience of raising teens, learn about teen brain development, consider our parenting style, embodying connected firmness, and learn encouragement tools that will sustain us in the years ahead.

After going through the program in March, one parent shared:

I have been struggling with consequences for my teens - what should they be and why aren't they working! We have been locked in a power struggle with my younger teen and I found myself trying to force him to do what I want - control instead of collaboration. This program helped me pivot away from consequences and reframe situations with a view on solutions, and really thinking harder about what part of the work or choice is really mine and which is his..

And another parent offered:

I loved how it consistently (the course) helped me to see another way and learn how to be and remember to be in relationship with my teen and not simply trying to fix or control the challenging behaviors.

This is deep learning, my friends, check it out at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to get more info and claim your spot!

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-05-24 15:00:00

Eps 274: Raising Thrivers with Dr. Michele Borba

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba.

Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons.

Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine.

Takeaways from the show:

Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term.

Where to find Dr. Michele Borba:

Thrivers the book | Twitter | Instagram

See you next week!! :)

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Minimizing Risky Behavior Workshop

Thursday May 20th 5-6:30pm pacific time

FREE

Join me and other parents as we dig into all of this and more- teen secrets, connection, firmness, and REALLY seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn.

REGISTER NOW - we are gathering next Thursday, May 20th, from 5-6:30, but you are going to want to enroll NOW to be sure not to forget and miss the goodness.

This is a highly interactive workshop, aiming to land the learning in a powerful way, to ensure you can take it an apply it immediately.

The link to register is www.joyfulcourage.com/risky, go claim your spot!! Bring your parenting partner, tell your friends - you will learn a ton AND we are going to have a good time.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-05-17 15:00:00

Eps 273: Casey Interviewed On the Adventure of Raising Teens with Mindy Duff

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Today’s show should have been a solo show BUT I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of a book launch event last week, and was interviewed by Mindy Duff - one of the authors of the new book, Motherhood diaries. We had such a good time during the interview that I asked Mindy if she would share it with me so that I could turn it into a podcast!

Mindy Duff is a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, speaker and published author. Her mission is to help individuals uncover their best selves through the power of nutrition, self care and self love.

Takeaways from the show:

Evolution is endless The gifts of hard situations Practicing not taking it personal Navigating the teen world Holding space for self-expression How we are holding learning and public education What self care looks like Your kids are NOT a projection of you Important things to remember when parenting teens Relationship is always first

See you next week!! :)

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Hey friends!

You all know that I am DOWN with therapy. I am a strong believer that the parenting journey brings up ALL THE THINGS that we are carrying around from our childhood, all the beliefs about our worthiness and enoughness - and it can really get in the way of creating deep, authentic, HEALTHY relationships with the people we love the most, in the HERE and NOW.

This is why I am so proud to be partnered with Better Help. Because WANTING a therapist and FINDING the right one for you can be super challenging.

Timing, travel, cost - all of it can get in the way of getting to the soul healing work that therapy can be…

But Better Help is a solution. Better Help is online counseling - a service that provides support via your computer or smartphone - you can choose to connect through conference calls, phone calls or even text messages.

It might seem weird to think about NOT stepping into an office and meeting with your therapist face to face, but I am here to say FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE that it is just as powerful to work with someone via the computer or phone. Shout out to my therapist, Mark, who helped me through my darkest parenting days AND a major family health crisis…

I am confident you can find someone to support you, too.

And the Joyful Courage community gets 10% off their first month!

Go to www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage to get started today.

Help is available.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-05-10 15:00:00

Eps 272: The Many Faces of Motherhood with Alyssa "Twist" Light

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing.

Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars.

Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens.

Takeaways from the show:

Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent Having healthy adults for kids to open up to Being unconditional and non judgemental

See you next week!! :)

Find Twist:

FaceBook

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

In those moments that we have the opportunity to do something fun or do something we’re supposed to do, we should definitely eat dessert first.

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Hey friends!

You all know that I am DOWN with therapy. I am a strong believer that the parenting journey brings up ALL THE THINGS that we are carrying around from our childhood, all the beliefs about our worthiness and enoughness - and it can really get in the way of creating deep, authentic, HEALTHY relationships with the people we love the most, in the HERE and NOW.

This is why I am so proud to be partnered with Better Help. Because WANTING a therapist and FINDING the right one for you can be super challenging.

Timing, travel, cost - all of it can get in the way of getting to the soul healing work that therapy can be…

But Better Help is a solution. Better Help is online counseling - a service that provides support via your computer or smartphone - you can choose to connect through conference calls, phone calls or even text messages.

It might seem weird to think about NOT stepping into an office and meeting with your therapist face to face, but I am here to say FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE that it is just as powerful to work with someone via the computer or phone. Shout out to my therapist, Mark, who helped me through my darkest parenting days AND a major family health crisis…

I am confident you can find someone to support you, too.

And the Joyful Courage community gets 10% off their first month!

Go to www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage to get started today.

Help is available.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-05-03 15:00:00

Eps 271: Grounding, Current Events & Being a Daring Parent

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-04-26 15:00:00

Eps 270: Mental Spring Cleaning with Dr. Aprile Andelle

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle!

Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world.

She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help.

She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long.

She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations.

She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle---except plants… She says, "you can never have too many plants and green stuff" --- is described as "that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less", and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a "deep, campfire-style" conversation on Clubhouse.

Takeaways from the show:

Aprile’s journey to becoming a therapist Psychological cleaning program Maintaining a positive, steady state of mental health Feelings are temporary Think before you speak Responsive vs. reactive Inner voice Being inside of possibility vs. drowning in uncertainty 3 steps of psychological spring cleaning Vulnerability is what makes you brave Marie Kondo your mind Recommit to your goals

Where to find Aprile:

Website | Instagram

Use code JoyfulCourage21 for a 50% discount on a discovery session with Dr. Aprile!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage to me means being able to experience every single day me, authentically, doing exactly what brings me joy, whether I have courage or not I’m going to step into it because on the other side there is joy. Oh and lots of green stuff and water! I think joyful courage is just really living an authentic life that leads you to joy.

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-04-19 15:01:00

Eps 269: Solo Show Dissecting Beliefs Behind Behavior Part 4- Assumed Inadequacy

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child

Previous shows about mistaken goals:

Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal Chart

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-04-12 15:01:00

Eps 268: Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague talk powerful DARES for boys

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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My guests today are Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague.

Ted and Anna Marie are friends, parents, and anti-violence educators. They work for A Call to Men, helping men and boys promote healthy manhood and prevent violence and discrimination.

Ted works with professional athletes, business leaders, activists, and boys just like the ones you have.

Anna Marie is a storyteller at heart and a devoted boy mom. She is nationally recognized for creating and executing award-winning, multi-platform campaigns to advance critical social issues like improving education and ending violence against women.

Takeaways from the show:

Prevention of violence and discrimination against women and girls How the book of dares are changing people’s lives Making an effort to talk about emotions with your boys Socialization of masculinity Being vulnerable is a strength How to support the men and boys in your life Messages men are getting from society Peer influence in middle school Developing a critical lens on how women are treated What healthy manhood looks like The danger women/people are in because of the ways we are raising our boys Treat your kids like an adult Having conversations with your boys that aren’t always in your face Raise boys to value girl’s experiences just as much as they value their own

Where to find Ted and Anna Marie:

The Book of Dares | Website | FaceBook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Anna Marie: In the context of this conversation, it’s authenticity for two reasons. I think it requires joyful courage to be your authentic self but I also think authenticity will foster joyful courage in your life.

Ted: I’m inspired by the joyful courage that I see in our youth. I think about my children and I think about my son who came out as gay when he was 15, he’s now 18, and the courage it took for that and the joy he’s experiencing in embracing his full self.

Also when I see Anna Marie’s son Jack wanting to be the best son and man he can be and understanding all that he is in being a white male at 12 years old with certain privilege. Just as my children, while 4 of the 6 are black, have privilege as well. There's a race privilege, there’s a class privilege and there’s a gender privilege. The next generation is really giving me joyful courage.



See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-04-05 15:01:00

Eps 267: Solo Show- Dissecting Beliefs Behind Behavior Part 3: Revenge

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s episode is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Beliefs about belonging and significance Overview of mistaken goals Third mistaken goal: Revenge Tune into your experience as a parent Signs your child’s mistaken goal is revenge How adults contribute to our child’s belief of not belonging The coded message behind revenge Uncertainty of the world right now playing a part in our kid’s lives Revenge isn’t lashing out, it's passing on the hurt Tools to support you and your child in their mistaken goals Your job as parents to make your kids feel like they belong Let your child know you see them

Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Mistaken Goal Chart

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-03-29 15:01:00

Eps 266: Unraveling Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Jud Brewer.

Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein.

He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT.

A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety.

Takeaways from the show:

Jud’s journey with anxiety Number needed to treat Where anxiety comes from Why anxiety has increased in the past year Tools to help parents stay calm The benefits of mapping habit loops How our brains are wired for reward value The power of fear and worry in parents Becoming disenchanted by your behaviors Bigger better offer The reward value of worrying vs. being curious Mindfulness of emotions Cause and effect relationship

Where to find Dr. Jud:

Website | The Craving Mind Book | Unwinding Anxiety Book

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

This phrase comes to mind, I think it’s a quote from James Stevens, “curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.” So to me joyful courage means that when we can bring curiosity with us everywhere, we have the courage to face anything that we need to face.

See you next week!! :)

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP
Community and Coaching for moms raising adolescents

You know how I am so passionate about supporting parents in our journey through the teens years… You have seen me really niche down and offer resources and coaching for this super special parenting season.

And YOU know that I believe that community is EVERYTHING, right?

Well, I am creating the MOST amazing community space for moms navigating the tween and teen years -- the Living Joyful Courage Membership.

The terrain gets ROUGH when we move into the adolescent years with our kids… Even the most committed “positive parenting” mom may be finding herself out of her depth when the challenges start to show up.

It’s messy.

And moms need a place and a community that can be the soft landing for her to roll around in the messiness. A place that celebrates the challenges as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. A place that puts relationship first - relationship with self, with our kids, with the world around us.

I am really just teasing you with this right now. Doors will open for this magical space mid April… If you are interested in being on the wait list to find out more go to www.joyfulcourage.com/ljc.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-03-22 15:01:00

Eps 265: Solo Show- Belief Behind Behavior Deep Dive Part 2: Misguided Power

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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This week’s episode is a SOLO show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Adlerian theory Our perception of belonging and significance colors the lens we see the world out of Undue attention review Honor your kids beliefs Second mistaken goal: Misguided power Notice how your child’s behavior makes you feel Power struggles Ways adults add to this behavior The importance of teaching your kids to contribute in ways for them to use their power You are not in control of your kids Teens want the acknowledgement of how capable they are Acknowledge your part in the stuff that’s gone down with your teens House rules audit The importance of practicing follow through How to make your child feel a greater sense of belonging and significance

Coaching Page | Eps 261 | Eps 129 | Eps 177 | Eps 218 | Eps 261 | Eps 263

See you next week!! :)

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Parenting for the Season You’re In - MIDDLE SCHOOL AND BEYOND

I am super excited to announce that there is a BRAND NEW LIVE CLASS happening for parents of Middle Schoolers and BEYOND in March!

Each week will be a live session with me, where I will deliver content and facilitate learning, followed by time for parent hot seats - time for parents to share their real and relevant challenges and get laser sharp coaching from me! AND, each week participants will get a downloadable guide as well as a companion audio meditation to use to stay connected to what they are working to integrate into their relationships with their adolescent.

Some of what we will cover includes:

Being with the roller coaster of the teen years Recognize where we are adding to our kids discouragement, and how to step back into relationship Communication tools that build resilience and connection How kindness and firmness looks the same, and different as our kids get older Being the parent you want to be

School, screens, peers, attitude - all of what you learn during the Seasons course will support you showing up to the challenges of THIS season in a way that aligns with your values.

Here’s what parents said about the Seasons course:

“In these uncertain times I needed the grounding I get from Positive Discipline. Casey does a brilliant job of teaching the core concepts and guiding you through the challenges of putting them into practice. This program is for everyone. If you are familiar with Positive Discipline it’s a fantastic refresher. If you are new to Positive Discipline this will be a game-changer for your family. Your time and money will be very well spent. ”

— Mama Sarah

“I loved learning what draws us closer to our children and what pushes our children away. I know this stuff, however it was good to have it in a list that so clearly gave me visuals for how those actions show up in my life.”

— Mama Kimberly

Head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to find out more.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-03-15 15:01:00

Eps 264: Michelle Icard Shares about the Crucial Conversations to Have With Our Middle Schoolers

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Michelle Icard.

Michelle is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen and Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People.

Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than twenty camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Takeaways from the show:

Being the leader and designer of your life Michelle’s new book: 14 talks by age Fourteen How lots of little conversations are more helpful than one big conversation BRIEF acronym Conversation crashers Be specific with your kids Isolation is a part of exploring independence Sitting inside of having tough conversations with your child Having trust in your kids that they will learn from their mistakes Having a neutral expression while talking to your kids

Where to find Michelle:

Website | Instagram | FaceBook Group | 14 Talks By Age Fourteen Book

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

When I hear Joyful Courage I think it has to do with being brave without worrying about the outcome, just for the moment of the bravery. Like the joy of taking the leap or asking someone out without worrying how it turns out.

See you next week!! :)

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Getting clear on Boundaries, Consequences and Punishment: Middle School and Beyond…

FREE WEBINAR THIS TUESDAY (that’s tomorrow for anyone listening to this show the day it’s coming out) from 5:30 - 7pm PST.

This webinar is for you if you are a parent or a caregivers who are currently parenting kids in middle and high school. The information presented and activities facilitated come straight from Positive Discipline theory.

During the webinar we will:

Connect around the common goal of raising teens with character and life skills Tease apart the difference between punishment, consequences and boundaries Learn the tools and mindset for more collaboration, problem solving and follow through

Participants who engage in the webinar, try on the learning, and put the tools into practice will be able to make an impact on the challenges they are facing with their child. AND, this may be a starting point for you. There is nothing magic about what is shared in this webinar, the magic exists in how you implement what you learn and your willingness to try again and again and again.

All you need to do to get signed up is go to joyfulcourage.com/webinar

::::

Parenting for the Season You’re In - MIDDLE SCHOOL AND BEYOND

I am super excited to announce that there is a BRAND NEW LIVE CLASS happening for parents of Middle Schoolers and BEYOND in March!

Each week will be a live session with me, where I will deliver content and facilitate learning, followed by time for parent hot seats - time for parents to share their real and relevant challenges and get laser sharp coaching from me! AND, each week participants will get a downloadable guide as well as a companion audio meditation to use to stay connected to what they are working to integrate into their relationships with their adolescent.

Some of what we will cover includes:

Being with the roller coaster of the teen years Recognize where we are adding to our kids discouragement, and how to step back into relationship Communication tools that build resilience and connection How kindness and firmness looks the same, and different as our kids get older Being the parent you want to be

School, screens, peers, attitude - all of what you learn during the Seasons course will support you showing up to the challenges of THIS season in a way that aligns with your values.

Here’s what parents said about the Seasons course:

“In these uncertain times I needed the grounding I get from Positive Discipline. Casey does a brilliant job of teaching the core concepts and guiding you through the challenges of putting them into practice. This program is for everyone. If you are familiar with Positive Discipline it’s a fantastic refresher. If you are new to Positive Discipline this will be a game-changer for your family. Your time and money will be very well spent. ”

— Mama Sarah

“I loved learning what draws us closer to our children and what pushes our children away. I know this stuff, however it was good to have it in a list that so clearly gave me visuals for how those actions show up in my life.”

— Mama Kimberly

Head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to find out more.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!



2021-03-08 16:00:00

Eps 263: Solo Show- Belief Behind Behavior Deep Dive Part 1

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

::::

This week’s episode is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Perception matters The goal of behavior is to find and feel a sense of belonging and significance Iceberg metaphor Mistaken goals: Undue attention Connection vs. attention Tune into how your kid’s behavior makes you feel Parents contribute to beliefs kids have about connection The coded message behind annoying behavior is notice me and involve me usefully Redirect by involving your kids in a useful task Say what you will do Avoid special services Plan 1 on 1 time with your kids Involve your kids in creating routines

Eps 261 | Downloadable Mistaken Goal Chart

See you next week!! :)

::::

Getting clear on Boundaries, Consequences and Punishment: Middle School and Beyond…

FREE WEBINAR THIS TUESDAY (that’s tomorrow for anyone listening to this show the day it’s coming out) from 5:30 - 7pm PST.

This webinar is for you if you are a parent or a caregivers who are currently parenting kids in middle and high school. The information presented and activities facilitated come straight from Positive Discipline theory.

During the webinar we will:

Connect around the common goal of raising teens with character and life skills Tease apart the difference between punishment, consequences and boundaries Learn the tools and mindset for more collaboration, problem solving and follow through

Participants who engage in the webinar, try on the learning, and put the tools into practice will be able to make an impact on the challenges they are facing with their child. AND, this may be a starting point for you. There is nothing magic about what is shared in this webinar, the magic exists in how you implement what you learn and your willingness to try again and again and again.

All you need to do to get signed up is go to joyfulcourage.com/webinar

::::

Parenting for the Season You’re In - MIDDLE SCHOOL AND BEYOND

I am super excited to announce that there is a BRAND NEW LIVE CLASS happening for parents of Middle Schoolers and BEYOND in March!

Each week will be a live session with me, where I will deliver content and facilitate learning, followed by time for parent hot seats - time for parents to share their real and relevant challenges and get laser sharp coaching from me! AND, each week participants will get a downloadable guide as well as a companion audio meditation to use to stay connected to what they are working to integrate into their relationships with their adolescent.

Some of what we will cover includes:

Being with the roller coaster of the teen years Recognize where we are adding to our kids discouragement, and how to step back into relationship Communication tools that build resilience and connection How kindness and firmness looks the same, and different as our kids get older Being the parent you want to be

School, screens, peers, attitude - all of what you learn during the Seasons course will support you showing up to the challenges of THIS season in a way that aligns with your values.

Here’s what parents said about the Seasons course:

“In these uncertain times I needed the grounding I get from Positive Discipline. Casey does a brilliant job of teaching the core concepts and guiding you through the challenges of putting them into practice. This program is for everyone. If you are familiar with Positive Discipline it’s a fantastic refresher. If you are new to Positive Discipline this will be a game-changer for your family. Your time and money will be very well spent. ”

— Mama Sarah

“I loved learning what draws us closer to our children and what pushes our children away. I know this stuff, however it was good to have it in a list that so clearly gave me visuals for how those actions show up in my life.”

— Mama Kimberly

Head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to find out more.

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-03-01 16:00:00

Eps 262: Supporting Our Teen's Pathway to Higher Education with Dr. Pamela Ellis

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Pamela Ellis.

In her more than 20 years working in education research and as a financial executive in the private sector, Pamela Ellis—The Education Doctor® has emerged as a leading authority on what it takes for students to thrive in education and, thereby, in life.

Her work supports parents find the school where their children can thrive—the one that feels like home.

Takeaways from the show:

Struggles parents are going through with supporting kids for college Myths about getting into college ACT and SAT myths Looking for a college that fits with you How soon parents of college bound kids should be making moves for their future Benefits of taking a gap year Breaking down what to think about as your kids move through each year of high school Reading for pleasure Understanding scholarships

Where to find Pamela:

Real Ballers Read | Pamela’s Website | FaceBook | Instagram

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage to me is confidence. That’s what’s key and that’s why I can do what I do with so much energy and smiling and having that Joyful Courage, it’s the confidence.

See you next week!! :)

::::

Parenting for the Season You’re In - MIDDLE SCHOOL AND BEYOND

I am super excited to announce that there is a BRAND NEW LIVE CLASS happening for parents of Middle Schoolers and BEYOND in March!

Each week will be a live session with me, where I will deliver content and facilitate learning, followed by time for parent hot seats - time for parents to share their real and relevant challenges and get laser sharp coaching from me! AND, each week participants will get a downloadable guide as well as a companion audio meditation to use to stay connected to what they are working to integrate into their relationships with their adolescent.

Some of what we will cover includes:

Being with the roller coaster of the teen years Recognize where we are adding to our kids discouragement, and how to step back into relationship Communication tools that build resilience and connection How kindness and firmness looks the same, and different as our kids get older Being the parent you want to be

School, screens, peers, attitude - all of what you learn during the Seasons course will support you showing up to the challenges of THIS season in a way that aligns with your values.

Here’s what parents said about the Seasons course:

“In these uncertain times I needed the grounding I get from Positive Discipline. Casey does a brilliant job of teaching the core concepts and guiding you through the challenges of putting them into practice. This program is for everyone. If you are familiar with Positive Discipline it’s a fantastic refresher. If you are new to Positive Discipline this will be a game-changer for your family. Your time and money will be very well spent. ”

— Mama Sarah

“I loved learning what draws us closer to our children and what pushes our children away. I know this stuff, however it was good to have it in a list that so clearly gave me visuals for how those actions show up in my life.”

— Mama Kimberly

Head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to find out more.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-02-22 16:00:00

Eps 261: Solo Show- Getting Curious About the Belief Behind Behaviors

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This week’s podcast is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Concepts and theories of Positive Discipline Belief behind behavior Iceberg metaphor Positive discipline 101 Behaviorist vs. Positive Discipline The concept of belonging and significance School drama You must start with self reflection if you want to create lasting change Pay attention to how it feels when school drama comes up with your child The first reason for our kids to misbehave is that they desire attention and connection If kids don’t get the connection, they move on to seeking power

Eps 259 | Alison Smith interview

See you next week!! :)

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Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-02-15 16:00:00

Eps 260: Nurturing a Growth Mindset with Alexandra Eidens

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My guest today is Alexandra Eidens.

Alexandra is the founder of Big Life Journal, a growth mindset company for children and teens. Alexandra’s company specializes in creating practical tools to help parents and teachers integrate growth mindset into their everyday lives.

Their guided journals are now used by over 500,000 children world wide. When not creating journals, Alexandra is reading the latest research on brain science and the mind-body connection.

Takeaways from the show:

The foundations of Big Life Journal Nurturing a growth mindset Personal development in parenting Growth vs. fixed mindset Model the human experience to your children Be process oriented vs. outcome oriented Teach your children to set learning goals Rejection is an indication that you are putting yourself out there How to deliver feedback to your child Make a habit of learning new things Embrace struggle and adversity Compare yourself to yourself only Engage in deliberate practice Comfort vs. stretch zone Model being vulnerable in your own experiences The best thing you can do as a parent is love your kids unconditionally

Where to find Alexandra:

Ebook | Big Life Journal | FaceBook

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It means to be brave, to do whatever you want to do in life. Taking a step into the unknown and creating the life you want to live. The first step would be to understand what kind of life you want to live. I know that it’s not an easy step, but that’s the joy part of it. The courage is actually doing it.

See you next week!! :)

::::

Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-02-08 16:00:00

Eps 259: Solo Show- Exploring "Is This Positive Discipline?"

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s podcast is a solo show!

Takeaways from the show:

Teen Counseling The 5 Criteria of Positive Discipline Questions to ask yourself to see if the response your giving in a situation meets the criteria for Positive Discipline Come into it expecting your kids to follow through Your kids behavior lets you know what kind of experience they’re having Invite your kids into more expression of what’s going on for them Most of our mischief comes from the perception that we don’t feel like we matter Everyone has their own unique lenses they see out of Whatever we do, we want our kids to feel more connected, seen, and like they matter Trust the process Our kids learn through experience over time Celebrate mistakes, focus on solutions Model your own self-regulation Help your children discover how capable they are Recognize this isn’t a formula or a gimmick Healthy human beings are expressive

Resources mentioned:

Jane Nelsen Positive Discipline Website

See you next week!! :)

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Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-02-01 16:00:00

Eps 258: Teasing Apart Emotional Labor with Gemma Hartley

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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My guest today is Gemma Hartley.

Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10

Takeaways from the show:

Gemma’s journey of being a writer The article that started her career Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it Teasing apart emotional labor The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders What are shared standards Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone Make it normal to talk about emotional labor Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids

Where to find Gemma:

Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article

What does joyful courage mean to you?

I think for me it means doing the scary and vulnerable work that's going to lead to a life with more joy.

See you next week!! :)

::::

Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-01-25 16:00:00

Eps 257: Solo Show- Opening Up to Your Resistance

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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This week’s episode is a solo show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Birth story of my first child How resistance and tension can affect your relationship with your kids Recognizing your own resistance will open up a deep personal inquiry Your teen has their own experience and mistakes to make on their path of life Journal about resistance Broaden your relationships by looking into yourself to where you hold resistance Your teens emotional development is still in the process even if they look like full-grown humans Parenting for a Brave New World Summit

Click here to listen to the interview with my daughter Rowan

See you next week :)

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Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-01-18 16:00:00

Eps 256: Untigering Our Parenting with Iris Chen

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This week my guest is Iris Chen.

Iris is a writer, unschooler, and founder of the Untigering movement. After starting out as a hardcore tiger mother, she began to untiger when she saw all the negative effects of her authoritarian parenting. Now she’s on a mission to empower others families by promoting mental health, peaceful parenting, and educational freedom for children. She recently moved back to California with her husband and two sons after 16 years of living in China.

Takeaways from the show:

Tiger parenting and its cultural meaning Iris’ experience growing up and how that played into her parenting How patterns of how you were parented can show up into the subconscious Shifting to a different way of parenting Doing the inner work so your relationships with your kids can improve Holding space for your emotions Learning to filter assumptions about children and parenting through a lens of love and respect and anti-oppression The swing from demanding parenting to permissive parenting Leaning into trust and connection Having a positive way to manage dysregulation Taking apart the baggage around making mistakes in parenting Making mistakes is an opportunity to model ownership, responsibility and humility Holding mutual respect in the relationships with your children Bringing awareness to the fact that children are worthy of honor and dignity and certain rights

Where to find Iris:

Website | Book | Instagram | Facebook

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I really love how you paired those two words together because they're not often put together like that. But when I think of Joyful Courage in terms of parenting I think of a kind of hopefulness and a trust. No matter what the situation is, there's still that underlying spirit of hopefulness and trust. The courage to let go. The courage to let go of the lie that we need to be in control of the lie that we have to be the one in charge and do things the way it's always been done. The courage to try something new and to let go.

See you next week :)

::::

Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestreams , monthly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

::::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2021-01-11 16:00:00

Eps 255: Solo Show Exploring the Possibilities of a New Year

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

Join the Patreon Community and enjoy livestreams of solo shows, group coaching and a powerful community!

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This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!

Takeaways from the show:

The refreshing new start of 2021 Relationships strengthening Choosing into feeling grateful for things that exist in your life Possibilities of the present moment Practice returning to the present moment again and again Feelings about the new year What are you willing to surrender to this year What Joyful Courage stands for Growth is the purpose of everything in life Tending to relationships that matter in our life The importance of taking an opportunity to grow New mini summit with an opportunity of a VIP pass Think about what you want to create this year

See you next week :)

::::

Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit

We are all walking into a new year with baggage - some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020.

The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having.

I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. And five guests that deliver the tools all parents need to be in the CREATION of the Brave New World that includes us all:

Navigating the changing and challenging school model Adolescent mental health in times of uncertainty Raising the social justice advocates we need Modeling and embracing financial literacy during difficult times Tending to our parenting soul

This summit will be releasing February 1st, but you can sign up for the summit right now for an early bird special of just $29!! This includes the 5 interviews and a BONUS course.

I am also offering a NEW feature to the summit, a VIP offer. VIP’s get a swag bag (while supplies last & U.S only), a summit workbook, and post summit live classes with the speakers. Your summit VIP pass will get you access to useful tools to support your learning and opportunities to interact with the expert guests.

Head over to joyfulcourage.com/bnw to find out more.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2021-01-05 08:43:15

Eps 254: Real Talk with a 15 Year Old

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My guest today is Ian O’Roarty.

Ian is my youngest child, he turned 15 October 30th, and is a freshman in high school. He is the baby in the house, and taller than us all. He is passionate about basketball, loves his friends, and has melted my mama heart since day one. I say that Ian is my “positive discipline” kid because he was the one who was always game to create a routine, or role play a situation, he was willing.

I’d say that Ian and I are very close, I will let him share his experience during the interview… He has always been really open with me, and it doesn’t seem like that is really anything that we haven’t talked about… He loves family time, when we are all together, and is super stoked to have his drivers permit.

I am honored that he is willing to come share candidly with all of you on the podcast.

Takeaways from the show:

Coping with covid Challenges in the last year Being a close relationship with your parents Having a sibling who is going through mental health issues Messaging on swearing in our house Reading agreements Screen time Thoughts from a teen about watching the Social Dilemma Video games and limits Managing screen time with online school What it means to Ian to “be a man” Toxic masculinity Goals for the future Advice to parents raising sons

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

When I hear Joyful Courage I think about you and your company. I think it’s cool you help people. It’s good you're giving parents tools to mend their children.

See you next week :)

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I am jumping in SUPER EXCITED about a new program I am creating and I NEED YOUR HELP.

I had a realization that I tend to think that I KNOW what you want and how you want it, and with the new year, I am shifting towards wanting to get CLEAR about what you want and how you want it.

SO, I have created something and I am looking for a team of people to check it out and offer me feedback about what you think.

PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU'RE IN is a 4 part program that is fully downloadable and designed to be consumed at YOUR pace.

I think it's amazing, AND I am looking to find out what YOU think. I am offering it up to those of you willing to be my BETA group at a steep discount in exchange for your thoughts.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-12-21 16:00:00

Eps 253: Solo Show- Three Things

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This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!!

Takeaways from the show:

Beta group Introducing the next mini summit Discovering your most authentic way of being Being responsible for yourself and how you show up Connection to self, family, and community Surrender to being imperfect Teens teach us that flexibility is imperative Trust that things are temporary Create a safe environment so your teen can share what they want from an authentic and open place Caregiving is always in motion Owning discovery around money Trusting the unfolding of life Be with what comes up, feel your feels

See you next week :)

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Parenting for the Season You’re in BETA group

I am jumping in SUPER EXCITED about a new program I am creating and I NEED YOUR HELP.

I had a realization that I tend to think that I KNOW what you want and how you want it, and with the new year, I am shifting towards wanting to get CLEAR about what you want and how you want it.

SO, I have created something and I am looking for a team of people to check it out and offer me feedback about what you think.

PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU'RE IN is a 4 part program that is fully downloadable and designed to be consumed at YOUR pace.

I think it's amazing, AND I am looking to find out what YOU think. I am offering it up to those of you willing to be my BETA group at a steep discount in exchange for your thoughts.

Please check it out at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-12-14 16:00:00

Eps 252: An Honest Conversation with Rowan About Her Journey of Mental Health and Self Discovery

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My guest today is Rowan O’Roarty.

Rowan is my oldest child, she will be 18 in January, and one of my biggest teachers of personal growth. As we all do, we learn who we are as parents, through our relationships with our children. Rowan made me a mom, and continues to influence who I am in the world as I navigate what it means to mother her.

Rowan has been through her own journey of personal discovery over the past few years, maneuvering mental health challenges, dropping out of school, completing her GED, and stepping in to big responsibility while her dad and I were gone for 2 months going through my husband's cancer treatment.

I am honored that she is willing to come share herself and her journey so candidly with you all today.

Takeaways from the show:

Where the anxiety started When Rowan became aware of her anxiety Things we did that helped Rowan cope with depression and anxiety Panic attacks Navigating anxiety attacks and how parents can be supportive What depression feels like Things parents can do that are helpful to their teen’s mental health Dialectical behavioral therapy Realizing only YOU can change your experience What Rowan has learned about herself these past few years Mental health and high school Rowan’s freshman year Opting into online school Dropping out of school and gaining parent’s support The GED test Plans for the future

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, when I hear Joyful Courage and I put it into the context of mental health in teens, I think of having courage. Having the courage to choose joy when the circumstances are against you or things aren’t working out. Finding joy and being so courageous to chase after it and be joyful.

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Parenting for the Season You’re in BETA group

I am jumping in SUPER EXCITED about a new program I am creating and I NEED YOUR HELP.

I had a realization that I tend to think that I KNOW what you want and how you want it, and with the new year, I am shifting towards wanting to get CLEAR about what you want and how you want it.

SO, I have created something and I am looking for a team of people to check it out and offer me feedback about what you think.

PARENTING FOR THE SEASON YOU'RE IN is a 4 part program that is fully downloadable and designed to be consumed at YOUR pace.

I think it's amazing, AND I am looking to find out what YOU think. I am offering it up to those of you willing to be my BETA group at a steep discount in exchange for your thoughts.

Please check it out at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-12-08 07:04:49

Eps 251: Solo Show on Gratitude and Finding Acceptance

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This week is a SOLO show!

Takeaways from the show:

Gratitude Grow through what you go through Shifting to be grateful for the experiences you’re put through Working on self regulation Model for your kids what effective problem solving looks like Embodying the life you’re living Allowing fear or resentfulness to change into gratitude and strength Doing the work to be in a different headspace when the same problems show up Personal growth isn’t linear Practicing being mindful

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-12-01 16:00:00

Eps 250: Eps 250: How to Navigate Parenting In the Shadow Of the Coronavirus with Dr. Jennifer Variste

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Dr. Jennifer Variste’s desire for pediatrics began at a very young age because her visits to her pediatrician were usually positive experiences. Later she fulfilled her dream and obtained her medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. She went on to complete a pediatric residency at UT Houston Health Science Center.

After residency, she returned to practice in her hometown of College Station, Texas. Dr. Variste is grateful for the five years she spent treating families there and for the relationships and connections she made. She now practices in Spring, Texas at Family First Pediatrics.

As a board-certified pediatrician her passion is to empower moms and dads to raise their kids to lead happy, healthy lives full of precious memories and discovery. She desires to create the same positive experiences for her patients that she had with her pediatrician as a young child.

Takeaways from the show:

COVID and schooling

How the pandemic is showing up in doctors’ offices

The experience of covid in children is not the same as some of the complications older adults may suffer

The coronavirus family causes symptoms of the common cold in kids all the time

Anxieties that are showing up for parents during the pandemic

Some kids may learn better in a school environment than online

Speaking to your pediatrician about your child going back to school

How parents can ensure their kids stay safe when going back to school

Tips for parents of older kids to ensure they are being safe

Acknowledging how annoying it is that things are so uncertain

Focusing on the things that we can do during the pandemic

Well visits are important as ever

Parents are going through a very difficult time, but you’re doing a great job

Look to your pediatrician as an ally to your family

See you next week! :)

Find Jennifer:

Instagram | FaceBook

Resources Mentioned:

American Academy of Pediatrics & HealthyChildren.org (pandemic related information)

What does joyful courage mean to you?

Right now I feel like parents have to maintain that. It's critical now more than ever. As a parent, you are the gatekeeper in your home. I think you had alluded to this earlier Casey when you mentioned the 15-minute NPR and listening to all of the covid updates, you want to make sure that you maintain a positive environment and a positive atmosphere in your family. If we have to turn off the news for a while and do something positive with our family, that's fine. If we have to not watch the news and maybe just get updates from the local county website because those are more practical and relevant to us, that's fine too. You have the courage to stand up for your family and make decisions that maintain that positive environment and atmosphere for your family.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-11-23 16:00:00

Eps 249: Solo Show: Hope, Trust, Gratitude

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This week’s episode was a solo show!!

Takeaways from the show:

The emotional experience of this past week Hope trust and gratitude Willingness to try something different Choosing to be your best self What it means to have hope Believing you can have what you want Embodying your beliefs Being intentional with your thoughts Manifesting what you want in life Right now is the time to feel connected Changing your inner dialogue so it aligns with what you want Our kids always long for belonging and significance Trusting the process Keeping the faith Being grateful for the challenges in 2020 Focusing on the good coming out of your struggles There is more than one path and narrative your teens will go on

See you next week! :)

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-11-16 16:00:00

Eps 248: Maureen Muldoon on Raising a Transgender Child

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I am so excited to welcome my guest, Maureen Muldoon.

Maureen is a a spiritual Pied Piper, shameless storyteller and speaker who is transforming the way people think of church, sex, spirituality, and creativity. Actress, author, activist, she celebrates the miracles that live beneath the mundane and is devoted to helping others to CREATE their most engaged and unapologetic life. Today we are going to talk about her experience of mothering a transgender son.

Takeaways from the show:

Raising a transgender child Coping with society’s opinions A parent’s role in understanding How acceptance changes your child Kids wanting to be acknowledged for how they seem themselves Self expression Sitting with the suicide rate as a mom of a transgender son Finding a greater peace of mind Letting go of deciding what identifiers you bring forth in your children Becoming aware of the ways you tell your narrative Things parents without transgender kids don’t understand Being gentle to parents who don’t understand so they can be gentle to your child out in the world Keeping an open mind and an open space to listen to your child How you can be more supportive of families with transgender kids

See you next week! :)

Find Maureen:

Website | SpeakEasy Community

What does joyful courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means innocence, where everyone's innocent. No one's guilty. Everyone's allowed to take up as much space as possible.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-11-09 16:00:00

Eps 247: Solo Show About Dealing With Our Triggers

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Today’s podcast is a solo show!!

Takeaways from the show:

What is a trigger How our histories determine different triggers Dealing with situations that trigger you Making it right after you get upset Breaking down what it feels like to get triggered Willingness to reflect on your own emotions Being a good role model for handling emotions to your kids Teen’s moods affecting our own How our teens trigger us like no other Recognizing your experience The importance of connecting with your kids Having compassion and curiosity while in conversation How crucial it is to stay nonjudgemental

See you next week! :)

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I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-10-31 07:32:49

Eps 246: Bellamy Shoffner On Being a Single Mom and A Revolutionary Human

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Bellamy Shoffner is a single parent, writer, and equity advocate specializing in fostering thoughtful connection and conversation among communities. Shoffner’s Revolutionary Humans produces a magazine, retreats, and free community events. All for parents and educators committed to social justice.

This past summer the Joyful Courage community raised $800 in support of Bellamy and her work – I am so honored for the chance to connect with her here on the podcast.

Takeaways from the show:

Social justice Passive reading vs. retaining the information Hold the Line magazine Teaching our kids to be accepting of each other's differences Creating a world where kids can are out of harm’s way based on any part of their identity Acceptance vs tolerance Challenges of being a single parent How outside help isn’t always appreciated Teasing apart tokenization Putting in the work to understand social justice Key things parents can do to fold racial awareness into parenting their kids Taking people as they are and see what happens Having relationship with vulnerability Dealing with people who have opposing views

Find Bellamy:

Website | Instagram

What does joyful courage mean to you?

Oh, wow. On a personal level I think it means the will to take every day as a fresh chance to have a good day and to be joyful and to not live too much in the past and to just appreciate and have gratitude for what is happening now. Every day takes courage sort of naturally and so to find the joy in that is pretty powerful. On a professional level, I think just believing that something can get better and that things will improve and that in 40 days, we'll be able to celebrate. Yeah, just hope I think this is my priority there.

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Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-10-26 15:00:00

Eps 245: Solo Show- Teasing Apart Vulnerability In the Present Moment

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Today is a solo show!!

Takeaways from the show:

Self care matters Surrendering to the things you can’t control How letting go can change your experience The healing of meditation Being in the present moment Anchoring yourself while also being on the edge of your vulnerability Facing the unknown and creating a sense of security Human tendencies getting in the way of being okay with fear Possibilities of the unknown How narratives can be confining Control is an illusion Being with the fact that the future is uncertain The present moment is the only place where change happens Creating a practice of returning to presence Unconsciousness vs. consciousness

See you next week! :)

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I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

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SUPER FAM

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-10-19 15:00:00

Eps 244: Connie Feutz Teaches Us How To Be Mindful With Our Partners

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Connie Fuetz is a clinician with over 35 years of clinical experience who specializes in working with couples and is one of the six original Master Clinicians invited into the Gottman Institute in 2000, John Gottman has called Connie "an extraordinarily-gifted couples counselor" to whom he would send his own family.

After leading the two-day Art and Science of Love workshops in Chicago for years, Connie created her own one-day workshop for couples called the Mindful Couples Workshop, which she led for years in Bellingham WA and Victoria BC. She has expanded that course into a 5-week online course for couples, called A Mindful Love Course. A couple's workshop you can do from the comfort of your own home.

Connie feels blessed and honoured in her work alongside couples. A resident of the Northwest for 35 years, she lives in gorgeous Bellingham WA with her family.

Takeaways from the show:

The depth of couples therapy can be challenging and profound Both parties are responsible for change in therapy Focusing on your relationship with your partner will help your teen Why mindfulness is so important in our intimate relationships Tools to help you choose in to your partner How marathon intensive therapy is helpful Not engaging when flooding Naming the negative interactive cycle that happens when we’re in distress Prompting a healing conversation Having humility and vulnerability in conversations with your partner Making sure the message of love gets through How the pandemic has been causing stress in households Dealing with perpetual issues in a different way because of COVID Setting the context for the spirit of intention How dedicating little bits of time to your relationship will keep it alive Switching from a business type of relationship to a romantic one Using persuasion in a safe way The importance of being on equal ground with your partner Learning your partner’s love language

Find Connie/resources:

Website | Mindful Love Course | COVID resources

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love that phrase. That concept, those words. To me I'd have to say because we're talking about relationships, it means grounding myself in the courage to look at myself, at my triggers, at my missteps, but to look at myself with joy rather than with judgment. The courage to look at me and the parts of myself that are blooming and the parts of myself that might be dark, but to do so joyfully and lovingly.

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Register for the Teens and Screens Audio Summit

I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestrams , mothly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-10-12 15:00:00

Eps 243: Solo show about The Social Dilemma, and the general dilemmas of life right now

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Today is a solo show!

Thanks to the patrons who showed up with me for the recording!

Takeaways from the show:

Thoughts about the Social Dilemma movie How big social media platforms are using the users Our attention is the product online Conversation starters around screen use Creating an environment where checking in is a normal thing What to expect from the screens and teens summit The mixed feelings around social media Juggling the things life throws at us How do we make room to fall apart Crying releases stress The trauma of the pandemic Having compassion for your teens All problems are relative, no matter how “small” Giving yourself space to grieve and release energy Taking time to care for yourself In order to change your experience, you have to recognize what’s happening The normality of struggle right now Recognize your wallowing Being in the practice of moving forward


See you next week!

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Register for the Teens and Screens Audio Summit

I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestrams , mothly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-10-05 15:00:00

Eps 242: Nurturing a Self-Driven Child With Author, Ned Johnson

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Ned Johnson is president & founder PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.

A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test preparation, anxiety management, and student performance, Ned has been a professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, with more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and reach their full potential.

In 2018, Ned co-authored, With Dr. William Stixrude, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others.


Takeaways from the show:

Supporting our kids in stepping into their autonomy How to let go of control and have faith our teens know what to do Teaching your kids to be resilient and able to tolerate stress Leading your kids to intrinsic motivation What is a healthy sense of control The brain’s experience with stress Releasing the expectation of competency all the time How autonomy looks in a pandemic Alternate routes of education How passionately pursuing pastimes is most major contributor to intrinsic motivation Being sympathetic to our kids and ourselves The time it takes teen’s brains to fully develop varys Going through hard things gives us strength The teenage experience overlapping with the pandemic Teens crave relatedness Connect with your kids through what they love Reminding yourself as a parent, your job isn’t to make your kids care Having sympathetic conversations with your kids Being able to just be with our kids when they’re having a hard time

Find Ned:

Website | Twitter

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

What a fun question. This may be just a slice of it, I think people mistakenly think of courage and fear as opposites, but they're not. Courage is only exemplified, demonstrated, experienced when you're afraid because when you aren't afraid it doesn't take anything to be courageous. Courageous is doing the things that you know to be true, that you know to be valuable, even when you're afraid to do them, and that's just hard to do. From my experience, the joyful part of this is that it can be deeply satisfying to do the things that are important, even when they're hard to do. The real joyful part of it probably comes back in the telling of it later.

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Register for the Teens and Screens Audio Summit

I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

:::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestrams , mothly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-09-28 15:00:00

Eps 241: Solo Show - Musings on Parenting as Transformation

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Today is a solo show straight from my journal!

Thank you to the patrons who were watching the livestream with me - I love speaking to a live audience!

Takeaways from the show:

Our experiences with the state of the world Thoughts from Casey’s journal Personal transformations through the world’s disarray Choosing self time when you’re moody What you’re feeling now is valid and you have a choice to how you show up with it Being worried about the future because kids don’t have as much motivation for school Shifting your mindset when worry shows up How traditional schooling can change False illusions that you can plan your child’s future Conversations around nurturing motivation How we respond to events and experiences in our life is the only thing we have control over The divine nature of the parent-child relationship Spirituality fitting into the parenting conversation Life is happening for you Considering the human you are continuing to become Internal experiences can influence the outside experience Our soul is calling for growth Trying on the lens of self-reflection

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Register for the Teens and Screens Audio Summit

I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media….

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

:::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestrams , mothly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-09-21 15:00:00

Eps 240: Exploring the divine purpose of the parenting journey with Michelle Bowen

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Michelle Bowen is a parent empowerment coach, entrepreneur and mother to a child who she gave birth to at the early stages of her awakening. The only way for Michelle to continue to further expand in her awakening was to utilize her relationship with her child. Your Child is Your Guide was birthed from her own process with her child that brought about an enormous transformation in her own life. In her practice, she specializes in guiding you to the realization of the divinity of your child and your relationship with them which initiates a level of accountability that aids in the acceleration of both your healing and actualization. Michelle learned that her child was her guide and provides you with guidance and applicable practices that allow you to see the same. The courses created by Michelle along with her other offerings show you how to achieve the actualization of the unconditionally loving relationship you want with your children.

Michelle's story of coming into motherhood

Spiritual teachers that influenced Michelle

How her baby brought up places for Michelle to grow

Michelle explains what “being awakened” means to her

Learning how to unconditionally love ourselves as we parent our children

How our relationships with our children are divine “co-creations”

How parenthood highlights our conditioning

The difference between resistance vs being open to learning about yourself on the parenting journey

The messiness of the practice

Trying something new can feel uncomfortable and awkward

Shifting from our children’s behavior triggering us to our children’s behavior triggers our CONDITIONING and places we still have yet to heal

Michelle talks a bit about current racial unrest and her experience of being raised by immigrant parents

The message of unity

Speaking up speaking out even when it is uncomfortable

Find Michelle:

Website | Instagram | Facebook
Take her free course: https://parentempowerment.teachable.com/p/parenting-is-your-gateway-to-freedom

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

That's a beautiful question. Doing the work that we are called to do and the work that the Divine relationship between us and our children inspire, and doing it courageously and happily.

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Register for the Teens and Screens Audio Summit

I have five AMAZING guests talking about all things screens – our teens attachment to their screens, setting limits that are useful, gaming, tech and the brain, and finally, having those conversations about WHAT they are posting on social media…

Inside of these interviews are tips and strategies for helping our kids stay safe online, developing their own internal compass around using tech, knowing when their screen time is a problem, and how to nurture your RELATIONSHIP with your teen so that they will drop their defensiveness and engage in meaningful conversation with you.

Cost is $29 until the summit starts.

The summit will go live October 12th – 16th. It is appropriate for anyone raising tweens/preteens or teens.

The conversations are enlightening and helpful – find out more about the speakers and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/tsms

:::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $1, $5, $10/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy biweekly livestrams , mothly group coaching, and Podcast Recap discussions. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-09-14 15:00:00

Eps 239: The podcast is BACK and it's a brave new world...

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

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TODAY IS A SOLO SHOW!

I am so excited to be back here with you all… What a summer. I am so excited to reconnect and reset for the coming months, and to let you know what to expect for me, the community and the podcast

Before I get into it…

Patreon patreon/com/joyfulcourage Livestreaming Monthly group calls Join us!!

The Risky Behavior and Teens summit was AMAZING – thank you to my guests and everyone who registered – If you missed it, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/summit-shop and check it out – you can also see and purchase past summits that you may have missed.

AND THANK YOU JOYFUL COURAGE COMMUNITY!

Because of you I was able to send $800 to Bellamy Shaffner from Revolutionary Humans – place where parenting and social justive intersect. I love her work and am so happy to support her! I still have some intention bracelets left from the fundraiser – go to www.joyfulcourage.com/blm to check out what is still in stock.

On a professional level

Evaluated representation on the podcast/ what I want the “ecosystem” to look like Can get ever better at vetting guests and seeking out more diverse voices AND, really pretty proud of who I have had on What are the conversations that I want to be having, that I see as useful? Parenting coupled WITH the personal growth and BEING that we need when showing up for our kids and our life

On a personal level

As some of you know, back in the fall my husband was diagnosed with cancer

Summer of treatment The family dynamic Self/soul care has been everything What we are heading into Putting surrender into practice is a deeply meaningful way

On a collective level…

Covid flushing up uncertainty

Health issues Relationship issues Parenting issues Acknowledging our own relationship with uncertainty – can we surrender to not knowing? Can we let go? Can we hold that we may just be in the birth canal of something new and different if we trust the process? Where is resistence ADDING to our suffering? Can you deep dive into that?

And the politics…

You aren’t here for politics, AND… This is who I am I do identify as a democrat I believe that the strongest countries take care of their most disenfranchised people I believe that institutional racism is real I believe LQBTQ people deserve equal rights I believe in the importance, and the urgency, of slowing down climate change and thinking about future impact of how we treat/use our planet I am disgusted by what’s happening to families at the boarder. The podcast WILL reflect this ^^^ and that is ok, it’s MY show YOU get to decide what you take away, what you leave behind, and whether or not to listen in… My guests WILL align with my internal compass I WILL talk about my own learning and processing as a human, as well as a parent

SO TOTALLY GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF YOU.

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-09-07 15:00:00

Eps 238: Solo show - a personal share about what's next for Joyful Courage

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Today is a solo show from me… And I am sharing some personal thoughts and plans for Joyful Courage and what to expect through the summer and into the fall.

What a wild first half of 2020

Covid 19 Quarantine School from home Personal struggles Racial uprising…. Stay tuned for a way that you can support a powerful black woman owned biz in the coming weeks

2020-06-24 15:00:00

Eps 237: Nurturing an Anti-Racist Home Environment (and so much more) with Vivek Patel

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Today’s guest is Vivek Patel. Vivek is a conscious parenting educator who works with families to help create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has dedicated his life to spreading awareness and supporting change in schools. He's worked with youth organizations teaching conflict resolution anti bullying and leadership through movement martial arts and dance. As a conscious parenting educator, he has written hundreds of articles and has 60 parenting videos, you can find his writing on Facebook, the meaningful ideas website and YouTube. We are discussing how to take current events and bring the learning into the home. Join us!

" Being anti-racist...It's a mindset that we look at the world through that we analyze the systems that we engage in with, that we listen to language with, and, and everything from media and advertising to government systems to educational systems, the correction system, the legal system, the financial system, the housing system, everything.”

“ From the micro to the macro, being willing to look at those things and see look for look at and look for the inequities, to be willing to see them inside yourself and and other people and the systems and the anti racist part of it is to be doing something to actively change it.”

“When we lift up the people that are oppressed, all of us benefit from it.”

“Conscious parenting is cycle breaking”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why conscious parenting? Vivek’s activism journey What it means to be anti-racist From micro to macro, reflecting on self and systems The role of self-love and compassion The power of coming together Celebrating the discomfort Opening ourselves up for better relationships and interactions Our parenting relationship and our influence around topics of race Moving away from perfectionism and embracing the practice of becoming anti-racist Conscious parenting as cycle breaking Should we shield our kids from the pain of the world? Kids and fairness: leveraging their intuition towards acts of changemaking Why you need to do your own work, face our own fears and where to start Six relationships that drive change Modelling anti-racism for our kids Zooming in, zooming out, and condoning bad behavior Modelling our use of power, how we engage with power and why it’s important Control and consent in parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

You know, activism contains both joy and pain. I've been doing activism for 30 years, like I said, and I think that it's the ability to embrace both of those things that makes it brings our power. A friend of mine recently asked "Vivek, how do I do all this self examination without being completely exhausted and in pain." and I said, "You can't really, we have to accept that part of this growth is part of the pain and then Can we find joy in embracing our pain? Can we find joy in embracing the whole of who we are? The pain of who we are the errors that we have, the mistakes that we make, you know, even you noticing that about the picture you had about the grandma, can you find joy in noticing that racist lens?” Maybe I'll say racial lens to soften a little bit.

And so that's what I feel about, about joy. I think joy, one of my sayings is, I use the word happiness, but I think it applies the same one of my sayings is, "Happiness is not an emotion, it's a foundation. It's deeper, it's something deeper than the dualities that we experienced, the variety that we experienced. The connection with joy is something that's a connection with my deep self. It's what I call the "ocean self", you know, we're all waves on the ocean. And there's a Casey wave and a Vivek wave.

I see all the different waves around. And I think that each of us as waves really are just different forms of the same ocean and so when I'm in touch with my ocean self, that's when I feel the most joy. And the ocean self can hold my pain and can hold the transitory type of joy.

And then courage. I think courage is an inward journey and an outward journey simultaneously. I think courage is the inward journey of really knowing myself, of being able to face myself, love myself, and also be very, very honest with myself. And the outward journey is the choices I make in the world, what I choose to say, what I choose to think, what I choose to learn, how it's used to treat people. And what I choose to stand up for and who I choose to protect.

I think that it's that kind of combining of the inward and outward journey simultaneously from the experience of knowing our ocean self and our wave self. So put all of that together and you have joyful courage.

Resources:

You Are Racist video

Schoolclosures.org

FB Page – Meaningful Ideas, Gentle Parents Unite
Meaningfulideas.com – writing
You tube – Meaningful Ideas
Weekly podcast – Gentle parents Unite Podcast
Gentle Parenting Patreon – coaching, meditation for parents, social justice education, live on Thursdays

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This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-06-18 03:30:00

Eps 236: Solo Show - Chores and Allowance

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Solo show – last minute decision to wait on the conversation that I was going to air today….

Before we start, reminding you all that I have a PD Class on zoom beginning next Monday

6 weeks 5-7pm PST Ages 5ish – 12ish $150/household joyfulcourage.com/6week pd REGISTER More info A place to ask questions

Today I am going to talk about chores and allowance

There was a post from a mom in on of the Joyful Courage FB groups a few weeks ago reflecting on how it was time for her 11 and 5 year old to begin chores and allowance. The comments were a range of advice, with many parents speaking into separating chores from allowance. I promised the group that I would speak into this on the podcast.

Before I do though, I want to say that you get to take this information and make it your own, right? You get to decide what is best for YOUR family when it comes to chores and allowance. I also acknowledge that being able to give our children and allowance isn’t something that everyone can do. Please listen for the underlying spirit instead of listening thinking there is a “right” way to do this.

Also, I want you to notice if you are listening though the filter of “my kids won/t…” or “what happens if they don’t…” or you will miss the message.

There is a level of significance and mattering that shows up when our kids are expected to be in contribution. Trust that. Trust them.

So chores – contributions/family work

So much online for age appropriate chores They are enthusiastic when young although it may be a challenge for us Less enthusiastic when older which is also challenging

We started when our kids were young and we have been through MANY different routines for family work. They have always been expected to take care of the kitchen after dinner, and help out around the house.

I have lived through the same pushback that everyone else gets, and I hold that “we all live here, we all take care of our home.” This is just what we do. When the kids moan or complain, I work hard not to get sucked in, instead say, “I know – there are other things I want to do right now too” or “what would help you in getting this done?”

Some kids more easy going than others

Have a plan, be explicit

Co-creating routines

Daily Weekly Family house cleaning party Check in on how it’s working (family meeting) Tweak as necessary

Inside the plan be explicit about what is a “completed job” and when it needs to be done by

Take time to train:

You do the task while child watches You do the task together Child does task while you watch Child does the task independently

Fold this into the fabric of your family
Don’t be rigid
Ask for their ideas

Allowance – we don’t pay for chores…. Story about rowan and ian

“yeah but” – typically don’t need to threat or reward – and will be explicit “your jobs need to be done before you leave the house/jump on a screen/lunchtime/etc”

We don’t pay for chores.

We started giving the kids a small allowance when they were young so that they had money to learn to manage.

Save Give Spend

As they got older, their allowance increased and what we would pay for decreased

Time out in the world with friends Haricuts Cosmetics Shoes (Ian is obsessed)

Not so much allowance that they could do whatever they wanted, just enough so that they would feel the tension and learn to “manage” their money.

There are bigger jobs around the house that we pay for – car washing/lawn mowing – but other than that, allowance is separate from chores.

Resources:

Amy McCreedy on Joyful Courage Eps 62 – Teaching our Kids Money Sense
The opposite of spoiled by Ron Lieber
Montessori guide to age appropriate chores (handout online)

Because I know you are thinking…. But what about when they don’t help out…??

Build relationship.
Build relationship.
Build relationship.

Create an agreement around chores:

“I have a problem and I need your help”

There is a lot to do and you need ot help out Brainstorm a list of things to do around the house This week, pick one a day Thank you for following through OR I noticed you haven’t followed through, please get that done Tweak as necessary

You’ve got this friend! Let me now what you put into practice and any questions or feedback that you have.

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This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-06-10 15:00:00

Eps 235: Solo - Educating ourselves to be better for people of color

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Today I am solo.

I have a heavy heart this week, and a short show. I know I promised something on chores and allowance but you will have to wait a few weeks for that.

This week I want to highlight a few shows that I have done in the past and offer up some resources to keep learning and growing as humans – because that is what my work si about – Joyful Courage is about embracing opportunities to grow, even when it’s messy and wobbly.

As someone with an audience that is largely white women, I am going to step into THIS opportunity to share some thoughts and steps to be better. I am heartsick over here as I reach out to my friends who are also people of color, letting thme know that I see them and I stand with them. I am heartsick all the time when I think about the conversations that they need to have with their children that I will never need to have with mine, because of the color of their skin. I am heartsick when I consider the fear they hold every time their partner or child leaves the house.

Enough.

And white women… we have power. We have so much power. My intention here is to invite you in to your own learning about your power, about your implicit bias, about the conditioning that continues to lead us all through a system that is designed to lift only some of us.

And I get it, where do we start? What do we do? It is uncomfortable, we don’t want to say the wrong thing, we don’t want to add to the hurt and the micro aggressions with our unintentional ignorance. But doing nothing and continuing to say nothing is not ok.

Time to speak up. To stand up. To learn, to be corrected when we get it wrong and take it with humility. To be uncomfortable. Because guess what? The black people in this country have been uncomfortable since the beginning. They have been beaten down, silenced, abused, ridiculed, traumatized and more – since the beginning. We can be in the growing pain of learning to be better.

Here are a few places to start.

I shared these podcasts on my social media this week – be sure to check them out:

The first conversation is with Jason Frelot from Kids and Race. He and I discuss the role of parenting in dismantling racism, understanding whit privilege and so much more. Jason is an activity in Seattle and has created programs for parents AND kids that cultivate “socially responsible and culturally aware children.” Listen: http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/78

I would also like to share my conversation with Danielle Slaughter from Mamademics. Danielle is the mom of two boys and an academic. She writes a brutally honest blog called Mamademics and also offers powerful courses through her site, Raising and Advocate. Follow her, learn from her, support her work. Listen: http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/151

And more recently I invited my friend, Yolanda Williams onto the podcast to discuss her work with the Parenting Decolonized Podcast and her powerful group for black families working towards conscious parenting, Conscious Parenting Time. Yolanda is a powerhouse in the intersection of race and parenting in America. Follow her, listen to her. Listen: http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/223

IF you love consuming content through audio, here are the two books that I am working through:

White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin Diangelo

So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo (Ijoma Aloo)

There are so many others out there as well – do your research and consume to learn.

Other podcasts that I would encourage you to subscribe to are:

Parenting Decolonized
Parenting and Politics
Codeswitch

SEEK OUT people to follow and learn from on SM – a few that I appreciate are:

Austin Channing Brown
Rachel Elizabeth Cargle
The Conscious Kid

And of course the people highlighted in the shows above.

Donate:

Here are 7 organizations to consider donating to AND I would find out what groups are active in your local area and show your support there as well -

Know Your Rights Camp
Showing Up For Racial Justice
Blackout Collective
NAACP
Black Lives Matter
Minnesota Freedom Fund
ACLU

We can do better people.

And if you want, join me every day for the first 10 days of June at 8amish on the Joyful Courage FB page for a short video supporting us all with living joyful courage in the context of current events.

Love you

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This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-06-03 15:00:00

Eps 234: Examining Female Sexuality with Leah Carey

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Today’s guest is Leah Carrie, a sex and intimacy coach who helps women shed shame about their sexuality and communicate about what they really want in the bedroom rather than just tolerating what they're given. Her clients learn to embrace their sexuality no matter what it looks like. She is the host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex.

Sexual freedom is a subject that is deeply personal to Leah because she spent most of her life being a very good girl. Most of the sex she had was either boring or painful, but she endured it because she didn't know she was allowed to ask for anything different. Having taken her own journey to sexual freedom, she is now passionate about breaking the silence, fear and shame around women's sexuality and pleasure and redefining what it means to be a good girl. Join us!

" I discovered, not only is it okay to be as interested in sex as I've always been, but it's okay for sex to be pleasurable. And it's really, really okay for me to ask for what I want.”

“I had spent my whole life thinking that I was giving consent for all of the sex I had been having, because I wasn't saying no. It turns out that's not what consent means at all. Consent is active and enthusiastic.”

“We're all so afraid of being judged.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The role of tantric massage The meaning of consent Sexual healing and sex work The criminalization of sex work How sex ed is approached in other countries How to say and accept “no” Postpartum sex and expectations Sex positive parenting Quarantine touch deprivation

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, it means figuring out what we really really want and asking for it. Courage is, I think, figuring out what we want. And being willing to admit that maybe somebody else is interested in giving to us and the joyful part of that is sharing it and believing that maybe we could get it. And I really don't want people to be walking around like I was for the first 42 years of my life, believing that I was just supposed to accept whatever I was given and I wasn't allowed to ask for anything more. And since I have learned a new way of being, my life has changed dramatically in the best possible ways. And so I want that for everyone.

Resources:

Good Girls Talk About Sex
The Three Minute Game

Where to find:

Youtube | @goodgirlstalk on FB | @goodgirlstalk on Insta | FB Group | Website | Twitter

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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2020-05-27 15:00:00

Eps 233: Solo with Casey exploring awareness and learning to let go of the beat up

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Ahhh, hello.

It’s been a couple weeks and I am so glad to be here with you, just the two of us. Life keeps lifing…. If you are in the US, quarantine keeps quarantining…. I have personally been in the practice of riding the waves of all the things over here…

Before I get into content over here… I want to shout out to my daughter Rowan! She is learning about coding and social media management and will be doing more of my Instagram posts in the future – be sure to head over there and show her a little love.

I also want to highlight my VERY FIRST REVIEW on itunes!!! A little over FIVE YEARS AGO I started this show (can you believe it’s been that long??) And my very first review came from a fellow podcaster – Lauren Fire. She wrote:

Lauren Fire, 05/29/2015
Passionate and inspiring podcast!

I love your passion for this topic, thanks for creating such great content and helping out parents! Welcome to the podcasting world! -Lauren Fire, Inspiring Mama Podcast

I am sharing this because I remember reading this review and it meant the world to me. Singe Lauren chimed in, over 100 of you have let me know what you think about the show through rating and reviewing on iTunes. I am really hoping that more of you write in. Reviews support the show in triggering iTunes to make it visible to ever more people looking for parenting support and inspiration. If you aren’t sure HOW to leave a review, head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/itunesreview and see a tutorial there to help you out.

Also, we have moved to Wednesday for release day!! Woohoo! Those of you on my email list were informed last week about this change. With all going on with my husbands health, this was a move I needed to make, thank you for understanding.

The last time I was solo with you all, I spoke into respect, and lid flipping, and striving for doing what is effective, rather than thinking there is a right and wrong way….

Today I want to talk about beat up.

There tend to be two extreme ends of the spectrum…. THre are those of us who have a crazy ideal that we are trying to live up to – typically one where we don’t make any mistakes and show up perfect in all the roles we play. None of us can ever really get there, but we are striving for it. The self talk may sound like:

“I have to be more present with the kids.”

“I need to make more homecooked meals.”

“I’ve got to catch up on housecleaning/laundry/yardwork….”

“I’ve GOT to loose some weight…”

We are AWARE that there are steps we can take to move in the direction of the life we want to create, AND, when we aren’t taking the steps, or aren’t creating this perfect life, we collapse into defeat. Awareness is high, beat up is high. It’s a tough place to find ourselves.

Or there is the opposite extreme. There are those of us that are shooting from the hip all the time and if everyone else can’t get with the program, that is there problem. We don’t see why anyone needs to be in a parenting class, or read a book, or doing any of the self help stuff, because we see the world clearly through our lens and know what to do in any given situation.

We are the people who don’t take any ownership of our kids behavior. The question when our kids get into mischief is often “what do I have to do to you to get you to behave?”

Personal awareness is low. Beat up is low, unless you count the beat up we do to others who make life hard for us.

Now, I don’t imagine that there are a lot of people in the second group listening to my podcast, because you all know how invested I am in personal growth and how passionately I believe in the ways parents influence the behavior they see from their kids. But I think it is valuable to consider those two extremes.

I think MOST of us fall in the middle.

We might have an ideal when it comes to parenting and how we shoe up in the world, but it is more of a compass for the direction we want to be headed, not necessarily a destination that we can ever arrive at.

We get that life is uncertain and unpredictable, and how we respond to what shows up matters and influences the unfolding.

We see our kids as their own separate entities, yes, and when things start going sideways we take a step back to consider what we may be doing to contribute to how they are behaving. We try to remember that our children are on their own journey, that they belong to themselves, first and foremost, and we get to caretake for the first part.

We do the best we can, AND, we get that the house isn’t going to always be clean (and oh man it is so nice when it is), meals aren’t always perfect (yeah for take-out and meal kits), AND it is impossible to be present for our family 24/7.

We do the best we can.

Awareness is high, most of the time, and beat up? Beat up is something that lives inside of awareness, meaning, when we go there, WE WORK TOWARDS RECOGNIZING THAT IT ISN’T USEFUL OR TRUE. We let go of the beat up. We move on. We make it right. We try something new next time.

I am going to give you an example of this…. Last night I became aware of something my husband did that sent me right into judgement and a feeling of loss of control. My experience first was surprise, then disappointment, then fear. My tummy was tight, my jaw was clenched, my shoulders became rigid, and I did what I always do when I feel that way. I went on attack.

What I wanted from my husband, if I am honest, was for him to tell me I was right. I was looking for some groveling, the kind of apology that sounds like, “babe, I am so sorry…” And if I am totally honest, I just wanted that so that I would know that he felt BAD and I still would have been angry.

The family was getting ready to take an evening walk, something that has only JUST started happening and I love it – love being together exploring the neighborhood – but I was too busy wanting to make my husband feel bad so I said, “I’m not going.”

For real. I had my own little teenage tantrum.

I was aware of what was happening. I was even aware that if I took the walk I would probably shift how I felt and get over it, but gosh darn it, I didn’t want to get over it. I needed him to KNOW the seriousness of his “mistake” and feel the pain.

So lame, I know, but I just couldn’t let it go. My ego mind was in control, egging me on, encouraging me to hold out ---- for what??? I don’t know, for someone to tell me I was right and he was wrong.

They got home and I was still in my room. I barely spoke to my husband, wouldn’t look at him, yelled at my son…. GAH. It was embarrassing, and yet I was totally swept up.

And when I look at it now, I wonder if holding on to the anger kept me from feeling the embarrassment of how I was acting? Maybe? By the time I woke up this morning I was totally over it. I thought about how I had behaved and I gave myself a huge eye roll. I got up and made a warm drink and wrote in my journal on the patio. I wrote all about the experience of last night. And what I noticed was there was no beat up.

I was not beating myself up for letting my human-ness fly. Instead, I am aware that I could nave done better. I could have made a different choice. I could have let my anger go, joined my family on the walk, and released the grip my ego had on me. And I didn’t. And I now have the chance to make things right with my peeps. In fact, I already started.

My point is that we can have ideals to move towards, but the process of heading in their direction is messy. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and we will make lots of mistakes. Lets just settle into that reality. We will make lots of mistakes. Not because we are bad or worthless – but because we are HUMAN.

And what a gift to model this healthy messiness to our kids. They get to witness and learn from how we own and navigate our mistakes.

Lets keep our awareness high, friends, and the beat up low. Lets strive to be better, and embrace our imperfection. Let’s be ok with two steps forward, one step back – this is the dance of life.

2020-05-20 15:00:00

Eps 232: Exploring Consciousness with Dr. Habib Sadeghi

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I am so excited to welcome my guest, Dr. Habib Sadeghi.

Dr. Habib Sadeghi is the founder of Be Hive of Healing, an integrative medical center based in Los Angeles. He specializes in multi-disciplinary treatment for chronic illnesses that include osteopathic, anthroposophical, environmental, psychosomatic, family, and German new medicine, as well as clinical pharmacology.

He served as an attending Physician and Clinical Facilitator at UCLA-Santa Monica Medical Center and is currently a Clinical Instructor of Family Medicine at Western University of Health Sciences. Dr. Sadeghi is a regular contributor to Goop, CNN, BBC News and the Huffington Post, and is the publisher of the health and well-being journal, MegaZEN.

Dr. Sadeghi believes that most problems between parents and children (or indeed, between any two people) are a problem of CONNECTION. By building stronger connections with our children, we are able to move beyond the fighting, yelling, nagging, or other struggles, and into a place of mutual respect and understanding, where real problem-solving can occur. In turn, when we care for our own and our children's mental and emotional health and healing, we drastically reduce the potential for physical diseases, as the mind-body connection is so deep.

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2020-05-13 15:00:00

Eps 231: SOLO SHOW - Moving from Right/Wrong to Effective and Remembering that Self Regulation is Learned Over Time with PRACTICE

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Hi! Welcome back…. Those of you that are new to the podcast I want to give you a warm welcome, I am so glad you are here. As the longtime listeners know, this show is part informative and educational, part deeply personal, and always authentic and, I hope, relatable. That is always my goal.

We are on a collective journey.

Good/ bad, right/wrong, winning/failing à how about effective/ ineffective?

Takes the judgment out Allows us to know be in this role where we SHOULD know exactly what to do Shifts us out of the idea that there IS a right thing to do

It’s all a grand experiment.

Shout out to my new group of parents who are doing PD with me through zoom. So excited to be in service…

What I notice:

I always encourage people to speak up I prompt when I feel the energy shift Common Won’t work for my kid I’m not her It’s too late Kids have to pay for their behavior

This last one is a big one. None of us want spoiled kids AND we all want to feel respected. So, letting go of their mischief when they are flipped is really challenging because this is when they are at their worst.

Let’s review the brain science

Brain in the palm of the hand review THIS MEANS, they aren’t consciously aware of what they are doing/saying when the brain stem of the amygdala is in charge – NONE OF US ARE YET, we get really worked up about how our kids treat us when they are flipped – I GET IT – I live here too, I have teenagers that are normal teens and they flip and get nasty to me – just as when I flip I tend to get nasty too. We are taking it TOO DAMN PERSONAL when they behavior IS NOT ABOUT US – their behavior is their level of emotional response coupled with the tools they have at their disposal – and when we are flipped, we’ve pretty much lost the tool box that is so accessible when we are in our rational brain. Imagine…… you’ve had a really tough day. You’ve really worked hard to get all that needs to be done complete, you’ve cooked for everyone AND taken care of paying the bills, your kids have been a pain, but you’ve kept it together. And then, you see your oldest picking on your youngest. You lose it. You come completely unglued on your oldest. Blah blah blah, you slide into your flipped lid and you shame and blame and basically let your emotions run the show – the emotional freight train has pulled in and picked you up…. Some time passes and you get yourself together. You realize that maybe you don’t know the whole story of what was happening with your kids and maybe your oldest didn’t need the wrath that you delivered. You acknowledge your mistake and the way you treated her. You reconnect and work to repair the relationship. You may even do some reflecting on how you can set yourself up for success the next time you are caught up in this type of challenge. You work on your own practice for learning more tools to stay peaceful and present even when it’s hard to do. Do you need a punishment? A consequence so that you won’t act like that next time? NO, that never would occur to you as helpful, and yet, how often do we impose this on our children??? Most of us who get stuck here have childhood stories of parents who ruled with an iron fist, who “wouldn’t tolerate” back talk, disrespect, sassiness. That modeling became ingrained into us and now we are finding ourselves confronted by a child who is falling apart and it feels personal. Our experience gets wrapped up in the childhood experience of having to follow the demands of our parents or else, the unresolved hurts from that time are triggered and that’s deeply painful and we grasp for control which looks like yelling, intimidation and punishment…. If this sounds familiar to you – please go see a therapist, because this is going to keep coming up inside your relationships until you get it healed. And if you don’t you will be passing on these same triggers to your kids and THEY will need to go to therapy. Free them from your issues, PLEASE. They are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment, I promise. So, what TO DO? Talk about how it feels to have a flipped lid Begin to identify the feelings/experiences that take you or them there Brainstorm things that make you feel BETTER when you are noticing your lid flipping Come up with a plan of action the next time the train shows up Practice Have compassion because this is HARD WORK Teach/model/practice repair and reconnection.

Circling back…. This is about being effective and helpful. Meltdowns are not a character flaw, they are an indication that something has happened that we, or our kids, don’t have the tools to navigate in the moment.

It’s not about you.

So, this week, when you have a meltdown and are an asshole to your kids, model what it looks like to own it, “Wow, I really lost it and treated you badly. My emotions got the better of me.” And make it right, “I am so sorry, and I am going to pay more attention to when I am getting close to flipping out, and take care of me when I feel that tightness in my body happening.” Then bring it back to the message of love, “I love you so much.”

And when THEY have a meltdown and are assholes to you, show a little grace. The uncertainty of the world is IN OUR FACE right now and they only have so much capacity for keeping it together. Remember that it’s not about you. Support them in calming down, and then LATER, have a conversation about the experience of the meltdown – guiding them to connect to themselves and to you, and ultimately giving them the tools they need to repair.

Love you. We’ve got this.

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READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

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2020-05-05 15:00:00

Ep 230: Bracha Kopstick On Raising Kids to Have a Good Relationship with Food

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Today’s guest is Bracha Kopstick . She is a registered dietician specializing in adolescent nutrition. She helps parents feel calm and confident with raising adolescence to have a positive relationship with food and their body. There's a lot of contradictory information about feeding kids but she clarifies and educates parents so that they can raise adolescents with a positive food relationship without the shame and guilt. Join us!

"Kids are starting to gain weight in their journey to adulthood. And not only is it not something to be afraid of, but this is necessary weight gain. And I really wish that parents would recognize that this is something that is so necessary and can accept that weight as not something negative, but as something that’s part of just growing and development.”

“Nourishing ourselves with food that is enjoyable and tastes good is something I think is really important.”

“Kids really thrive on predictability and knowing when they can expect to have food.”

“Food is so much more than just nutrition. It's about relationship.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Where kids encounter diet culture Weight gain as part of puberty How the concerns of parents can amplify the insecurities of their growing teens What a balanced meal looks like Nourishment and food as more than fuel Balancing structure and freedom in guiding food choices Meal scheduling - why it’s important How often your teen should be eating How to approach snacking Cooking with kids How parental body image impacts kids Breaking through your body image issues Parents’ roles in helping kids find peace with their food

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It's having that courage to move away from our past, moving away from the mainstream media and culture messages around food and our body and moving towards a more joyful connection with ourselves with our kids and with our bodies and food in general.

Resources: Recipes on her website

Where to find Bracha: Website | Instagram

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2020-04-28 15:00:00

A quick check in :)

Hello Joyful Courage family – how are you today? I hope that your quarantine isn’t too overwhelming and that you are finding opportunity to choose into peace and connection amidst the chaos and uncertainty….

I wanted to show up here and let you know that I am taking this week off from recoding a podcast. For those of you who have been following, you know that my family is going through a new challenge that continues to unfold. I am choosing to use my energy to hold space for my family and the tasks that come with health challenges. I know you understand…

Many of you continue to reach out and send me love and well wishes – thank you! I have also had a lot of you ask what you can do, how you can help. With my husband out of work, I am looking for more ways to serve you while also supporting my family.

At the end of the month, I am running two 6 week Positive Discipline Parenting classes. They will both run April 30th through June 2nd. I am going to follow the format I use when facilitating a live class, but adapt it for zoom. I have chosen two times with the hope that one of them will work for you. There is an 8-10 PACIFIC class, as well as an 8-10 EASTERN class.

This workshop is for parents with school aged kids – 5-12. We will dig deep into PD theory, tools and strategies, as well as the practice of navigating the triggers that show up for each of us so that the tools and strategies are AVAILABLE to us when we need it the most.

If you are interested in learning more – go to www.joyfulcourage.com/6weekpd - my daughter and I created a funny video there, and you will find some FAQs, as well as buttons for registering. There is limited space, so get your registration in asap. Again, we start April 30th!

Much love to each of you – I will be back next week with an interview for you! Big love

2020-04-21 15:00:00

Eps 229: Parenting through a crisis with Dona Bumgarner

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I am so excited to welcome my guest, Dona Bumgarner!

Dona is a life coach for frustrated moms who are exhausted living in a culture that doesn’t support them well, which can lead to feeling very out of control of their own time and energy. In her work, Dona helps mothers re-engage with their own desires and design a mothering style and family life that feels authentic to their personal values and goals. She believes that when parents have their needs met, they have more energy and patience to engage with their children in healthy and productive ways.

Today we are going to discuss how to recover space for ourselves after our family has weathered a crisis that may have caused us to put everything on hold.

Where to find Dona:

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest

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2020-04-14 15:00:00

Eps 228: SOLO SHOW Living Inside of Uncertainty

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Today is a SOLO SHOW and I am off the cuff – sharing deeply from what is currently alive for me.

Listen in as I tease apart and work towards making sense of living with uncertainly.

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2020-04-07 23:34:52

Eps 227: Problem Solving with Cynthia Klein

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My guest today is Cynthia Klein.

Cynthia is an Educator, Coach, Speaker, and Author. Through her work, Cynthia helped parents of children from age five to 30.

Through a strong desire to create a great relationship with her own child, Cynthia’s journey to developing herself as a parent began early on. By building Bridges 2 Understanding and cooperation rooted in mutual respect, she was able to achieve the connection she longed for with her teenage daughter.

Cynthia understands the challenges of parenting and provides solutions that are unique, effective, individualized, and enduring. You can achieve results that will change the course of your relationship with your children and your family’s dynamic now and for generations to come.

Cynthia’s education includes a B.A. in Psychology, Training and Human Resource Development Certificate, California and New Mexico teaching credentials, numerous parent education certificates, and life lessons gained from raising a successful daughter who values her mom’s opinion.

Her book is titled, Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation.

"It's all about still having your authority in your power, doing it in a way that is respectful.”

“What do I feel, think or do differently to get a different response?”

“You can’t control your children. You can only influence.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The difference between hard and soft power and leadership and control Building a foundation to prepare for challenges ahead. When kids complain about limits Why it starts with changing yourself first Why you need to ask yourself who owns the problem Problem solving roles: director, collaborator, or supporter Building emotional connection first Some of the ways that parents show up as adversaries in their relationship with their kids The think/feel/do cycle Moving past the victim mindset What being a collaborator means Timing your conversations How to stop blocking communication The power of writing things down What happens when we make assumptions vs approach with curiosity Helping your kids feel heard Soliciting ideas in problem solving Making a plan together and instituting a trial phase What to do when your plan doesn’t roll out the way you expected Using empathy to redirect

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It was interesting with this question, what came up for me is I find parenting especially teens and young adults scary, because my daughter was bullied and because of that she had all these girls turned against her and she was traumatized for many, many, many years, many years. And so she did a lot of challenging risky behavior and so I had to feel a lot of fear. And for me to feel that fear, and to realize that that's fear for now. And then for me to put that fear aside, because to be able to look through my child's current scary behavior, to look at her potential, instead of instead of the actions at that moment what she was doing, because to believe in her that right now she's doing these things because of her lack of belief in herself. And I think having that feeling about her made her always be able to call me when things were really rough and they got pretty darn scary. But because of that, that I see as my courage, to have that courage and still find joy amongst the fear to not make that everything what I was feeling, to still find the joy and love with her, which made it so she could talk to me and connect with me. And at last, starting probably her late 20s, she kind of got it all together.

Resources:

Ally Parenting: A Non Adversarial Approach To Transform Conflict Into Cooperation

Where to find Cynthia:

Bridges2understanding.com

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Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-03-31 15:00:00

Eps 226: SOLO SHOW Parenting in the age of Covid-19

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Hey listeners!!

I am recording this Sunday, it will go live on Tuesday – and I can’t not talk about Covid 19, the coronavirus – because it is absolutely right here, right now, and the reality for the world right now.

I want to start with whoa. I mean, whoa right? This is a weird and wild time. We are facing something that few of us have ever experienced before – the news, the leadership, the unknown – it is all right there.

Dr. Shefali, author and conscious parenting guru called this time a chiropractic spiritual realignment. I have been listening a lot to Dr. Shefali, she has been live streaming so much goodness through her FB page and her group, “Superpowered: Transform Anxiety into Resilience.”

I love her take on the world because she speaks so much into being with impermanence, being with uncertainty.

Because ---- impermanence and uncertainty aren’t new – you all have been listening to me talk about this for the last six months and beyond as I navigate all the fun with my teens. I know you are in your own practices, because you let me know! I get emails nearly every day from listeners that reach out to let me k now that my story is their story, that they are in the muck with their kids and they feel so good to know they are not alone….

You aren’t alone. ALL OF US live in daily uncertainty. We never know how things are going to turn out, although MANY of us live under the illusion that we do, under the illusion that we can control the events of our lives…. Now, we have influence, of course, but control? Yeah, no. We ALL have the unexpected show up in our lives – good, bad and ugly – we make plans, we cross our finders, we do our do, and what happens happens, right?

I have been fascinated by listening to people share about how there isn’t any MORE uncertainty because of the corona virus – it just feels that way because we have been under the impression that we know what is going to happen, we had our routines, we had our rhythm, we knew what to expect each day. But this pandemic has yanked that comfy security blanket away and we have no choice but to stare down uncertainty – and oh man, ITS SO FLIPPING UNCOMFORTABLE!!!!

Sigh.

Ok, so I am here to help.

Yes, it’s uncertain, and yes, we have kids to raise and jobs to try and do fro home and bills to pay and oh man they all eat so much!!!

I reached out to the members of my patreon group and asked them what their biggest challenges are in this new normal.

Here is some of what they shared:

Audrey, mama to 4 year old shared:

Challenges: keeping my fear and anxiety under wraps. They can show up as irritability and impatience. Also, never having a break because there’s no adult to relieve me. My 4 year old complaining anytime I take time for myself or the meals I’m making (they’re lacking creativity).

Gratitude: extra time to do art with her. All the outside time with her when the weather allows. The fact that my mom is taking us seriously and being very careful. That I have really awesome neighbors in case I need some thing. That I saved all the old cloth wipes and the wet bag from when I cloth diapered, in case I really can’t get TP.

I love that Audrey mentions how HER fear and anxiety can show up as irritability and impatience, I am ABSOLUTELY noticing this with myself as well. And it’s funny, I am not in a panic and tell myself I’m not anxious, and yet, the anxious energy is still manifesting in my short (ish) temper with my son, sorry Ian.

This is super key:

How are we taking care of ourselves?

What are we doing to release our fears/worries?

Meditation – some of your fave people are offering live streams every day

Journaling

Yoga – Fightmaster yoga 90 day fix

Be in nature – LISTEN TO NATURE

We have no choice – we have to get creative and take care of ourselves. Slow down. Well, we have no choice but to slow down do we, now is the time to create some new habits in taking care of ourselves.

Kristin, mama to 3 boys, 9, 11, 13 shared:

Challenges: school is like medicine for my kid with ADHD and my other child with anxiety.. without it they are really struggling and I'm struggling to stay afloat and healthy in my responses. I'm finding gratitude in that I know this is going to teach us to get back to the basics and to find joy in simple pleasures.

Yes! Love that Kristin brings up “School is like medicine” for her kids – all the more useful to create a rhythm/routine to your days. I am not talking about the color coded routines that have been floating around FB and IG – although if that is working for you great! I am talking about working with your child to CO-CREATE routines for this time together. When are they getting up? What time if breakfast and are they helping to cook it? (yes! They should!) what are you all focused on during the morning between breakfast and lunch? What is happening at lunch, another great time for the kids to contribute!! What is happening between lunch and dinner? Where is there learning time? What is learning time for you? What does that mean? Do your kids have teachers that have sent home work? Online? IF yours are little – how are you PLAYING? Because this is where they learn – through play. Create a rhythm, try it for a week, tweak it as needed after that first week.

Symone, mama to a 15 and 17 year old wrote:

Challenges: trying to not over analyze ever move my youngest is making - is her lack of interest in most things including doing online school, going to slide into the big depression she was in at the end of last year? Not being able to look forward to going back to Australia in August if flights are still cancelled- will it push her over the edge?

Gratitude- so thankful we still have FaceTime and internet to feel connected with friends and family. Also grateful for every glimmer of interest in doing something with us outside of their rooms!

Yes! I Love the gratitude here. It IS so easy to slide into the what ifs – what if we trust that our kids are going to be just fine, even if they aren’t super motivated to do their online school? What if we remember that one day will will look back at “that one time when there was a global pandemic” and see that while it made an impact in our lives, the disruption to academics was the least of our worries.

This is an amazing time to take some lessons from our homeschooling and unschooling friends…. What do your kids want to learn about? What are they curious about? What can you study – you don’t need to go anywhere when you have the internet. AND acknowledging my privilege in having the internet. But really – let them lead!!

Heidi, mama to an 11 year old and an 8 year old, and long time client and friend wrote:

Some of the things I think about can be viewed as both/and. Grateful to be working from home And it can be a challenge as this is new for many to navigate And I recognize that some people do not even get this as an option. Grateful for time & space for things to slow down, enjoy little things, recognize when kids ask for my attention and when sometimes I have not been as present as I could be. And it can be challenging to try and figure out how one day we were with other people and now we are not.

We do not live in an area/neighborhood so we do not organically see others outside unless we go to people. So far we haven’t even gone to visit grandma & grandpa across the lake and so far the kids haven’t wondered too much about this.. though I know that other little cousins are visiting them today. I try to reframe social distancing with physical distancing.. and still, this is so hard to wrap my heard around for a long period of time. can we eventually go hang out and be firm on that when we do so we will respect each other and stay 6 ft away from each other. This is all new. I am a hugger! :)

For home school, I am grateful that my kids will be able to help navigate this for themselves once they have information from their teachers next week- AND I am not a teacher. My son has had a great year, will this impact him? My daughter struggles in math and this has been a big year with a new math curriculum. How will this impact her? For me, I am grateful for having been practicing Positive Discipline, and my work with you, Casey to have that as a foundation for me & my family- we actively have family meetings, routines.. that this is all practice not perfection. My kids each have a white board and are in creation of helping to make their own routine. - which I thought was cool to see. as often when I make a routine it is like, ugh and an eye roll. The word of encouragement I try to lean into is to allow space for Flexibility.

Yes, yes, yes to FLEXIBILITY!!! And I love how Heidi speaks into the things she already has in place that are supporting the whole family during this time – routines and family meetings.

And speaking of family meetings…. I have recently revamped my Family Meeting Ecourse, which is 6 emails over 6 weeks that support families in creating this new, and super powerful routine. I am making it available FOR FREE for families that are ready to go next level with it. I have also added some other resources to a webpage to support you due to the context we currently find ourselves in.

If you are interested, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/corona

Family meetings, routines, self care. THIS is the foundation we NEED to be present and flexible during this time – to be WITH the uncertainty that we are staring down.

Finally, Melissa, mama of three wrote:

Challenges: similar to others, I have struggled with not having space/time away from my kids! I'm trying to juggling homeschooling all 3 because they thrive when learning in a structured way.

Gratitudes: my neighborhood that has really risen to the occasion by offering each other support. Also I am taking this as an opportunity to reassess our priorities. For instance, if none of us miss swimming lessons, why were we ever doing them?! Why don't we always go for walks / play games etc ?

YES – love this message of simplifying our lives!!! Reassessing what is important. You know who is loving this pandemic – MOTHER EARTH. She can breathe again. Her waters in many places are running clear. We humans have been on this crazy consumer roller coaster and this whole thing is forcing us to STOP.

And the opportunities that exist when we are forced to stop and slow down? Time together. Time to soothe, to tend, to BE. Slow down.

Big thanks for my patrons for all their contributions to this particular show – I made the ask this morning and so many jumped in to share about their experiences….

If you are interested in becoming a patron, it’s super easy! Just go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and sign up to be a part of the Super Fam. You’ll get to join our FB group where I do weekly lives on Mondays and Podcast recaps on Fridays. And starting this month (tomorrow, yesterday J ) I am going to do a monthly “office hours” on zoom where parents can show up and get some coaching from me. Check it out – www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

AND, to get your hands on the FREE resources I have available for you all right now – go to www.joyfulcourage.com/corona -

Don’t forget – the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens is happening April 6th – 10th. Cost is $29 until the day we start, then it will jump to $49 – enroll now – you don’t want to miss it. The guests are fantastic, the conversations are relevant and useful, you’ll get a gorgeous ezine with all of the content from the interviews inside…. So good. Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/sems -

All the links I’ve mentioned are in the show notes.

I love you all – stay healthy! Stay home! Wash your hands!!!

I will be back next week with an interview for you all www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-03-24 15:00:00

Eps 225: Kristina Kuzmic is sharing her story of staying grounded on the wild ride of life

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"Don't be passive Don't be apathetic, don't hold still, keep moving forward and get feisty and proactive.”

“Even on bad days there are good things. But don't hold still, don't wait for this or that to happen before you start living your life.”

“You're just gonna die waiting. Stop waiting and just do what you can now.”

“It's amazing how life can change when you do get proactive.”

“What's familiar to us is criticizing ourselves and not giving ourselves enough credit and focusing on the things we did wrong or didn't accomplish.”

“One thing that's helped me is just realizing in the moment when they're really struggling, is that the only thing harder than raising a teenager is being a teenager.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why you shouldn’t wait How Oprah discovered Kristina Why we need to get uncomfortable with self-criticism Why you need to write Ta-da lists instead of To Do lists Maintaining perspective about things that didn’t get done Making a habit of personal growth Empowering our kids to do things for themselves without taking over Having compassion for our kids Creating space for sharing and connection in your relationship with your kids Searching for love in your marriage Love as a daily choice Why asking for help is important

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It means being willing to be uncomfortable. We kind of touched on it earlier and just dipping your toe and maybe even jumping in to something that seems so scary but you're doing it because you know it will lead to something better so often you know where we're waiting for somebody to send us joy, waiting for someone to knock on our door and give us joy and really to reach joy. I think it does take courage. So I love the name of your podcast because to me, courage leads to joy.

Resources:

“Hold On, But Don't Hold Still: Hope And Humor From My Seriously Flawed Life.”

Where to find Kristina:

KristinaKuzmic.com

Kristina Kuzmic on Facebook

Kristina Kuzmic on Instagram

Kristina Kuzmic on Twitter

Kristina Kuzmic on Youtube

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This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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My guest today is Kristina Kuzmic.

Thirteen years ago, Kristina was a broke and defeated mother of two; recently divorced; juggling jobs and sleeping on the floor next to her kids. She never imagined that a lo-fi cooking show she pieced together to reach other moms in the trenches would get Oprah’s attention.

Today, she speaks directly to her 2.8 million Facebook followers in honest, funny parenting videos on topics from “Mind your own Motherhood” to a satirical PSA “4 Reasons women should NEVER breastfeed in public.” Her star is rapidly rising, and she recently took her message of acceptance and resilience on the road to 22 sold-out cities.

Her witty, knowing, and sympathetic voice is captured on the page in her first book HOLD ON, BUT DON’T HOLD STILL: Hope and Humor from My Seriously Flawed Life.

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Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-03-17 15:00:00

Eps 224: SOLO - Creating mindfulness in our romantic partnerships

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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SEX ED FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!

Enrollment is OPEN NOW – learn more about this offer and register now:
www.joyfulcourage.com/sems

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Today is a solo show – woop woop!

Being in a mindful relationship…

What is mindfulness? Why is it important on the parenting journey? Why is this important in life?

I went to a mindful couples workshop with my husband this weekend

Why did we go?

Morning of…

How I did my work when it was hard to do

Modeling setting intention

Letting go of being attached to the experience of my husband

Why this is relevant to our kids and parenting and life

Setting the context with how I showed up and what I was willing to own

Offering lots of loving support, acknowledgement, options

While also leaning in and inviting vulnerability – speaking into the elephants in the room, making things explicit

Learning processes for deeper listening and communication

SO MUCH like PD Connect before correct/redirect Positive Intent Looking for solutions not blame The iceberg Process over product – Relationship is everything!!! Took the trainer aside to share….

One of the processes reminded me so much of the Family Meeting, but instead of using the model for the family, you use it as a couple.

Safe space for venting about a few things that rubbed you wrong A useful place for problem solving I would add time to celebrate each other before getting into it…. One of our “issues” is talking about money – ben makes most of it, I budget and try to save it. This is a hard one for us to discuss without having clear goals that are the boss. Come together to have a vision What is this going to take Weekly check ins on how we are doing

I also have some amazing clients that are such an inspiration to me.

Super intentional with checking in on relationship Super articulate in how they are celebrating each other

20 years later…. It takes work

Awareness that we are in an ebb Willingness to do something about it

Kristen Bell – “I will be with Dax on the porch at 80” – we can get through anything

So yeah, tend to your relationships – we talk so much about our relationship with our teens and younger kids here – equally if not more important is our relationship with our partners.

Hope you are feeling inspired!!

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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2020-03-10 15:00:00

Eps 223: Decolonizing Parenting With Yolanda Williams

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Today’s guest is Yolanda Williams. Conscious parenting is really close to her heart, and she knows what it feels like to grow up without a voice and with violence as a consequence. Raising a black child in a world filled with white supremacy can seem insurmountable at times but she firmly believes that conscious parenting is activism against racism. Yolanda is raising a carefree child to be her authentic self, unafraid to use her voice to stand up to oppression with unshakable confidence and self love. Yolanda wants to help teach other parents to do the same. She's the co founder of Conscious Parenting Time, whose mission it is to decolonize minds by teaching the art of conscious parenting to raise intellectually spiritually and socially free black children. She's also the host of Parenting Decolonized, a podcast on a mission to shine the light on how colonization has impacted the black family structure and what to do about it. Join us!

"I'm not here to make anybody else feel comfortable with the truth of racism, but it's supposed to make you uncomfortable.”

“If I feel like you are genuinely asking a question and I don't feel like you're trying to center yourself when you ask this question, I will politely answer it. But my job is not to educate white people on racism. That's not the job of any person of color.“

“Being White and Whiteness are two separate things. I don't think people really realize that because whiteness is a construct, just like race is.”

“Our culture does judge black parents more harshly. Period.”

“Our kids may already be targeted just because of their race, nothing that you can do is going to stop a bad police officer or a bad teacher or someone who is just a racist from being that person.”

“I'm not going to change who I am to make white people comfortable.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The difference between being White and Whiteness How the Black parenting experience is different The subtle and not so subtle ways that parenting has been colonized Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome The risks and challenges that come with parenting from a place of fear Parenting a Black child as a Black person vs as a White person Authoritarian parenting attitudes and dignity double-binds Belonging and significance in the face of racism Internalized racism - what it is and what it looks like How early unconscious biases show up in education Cultural pride as a way to insulate against racism Curating an environment that centres cultural pride The importance of Black history Being intentional about decolonization The Black Panther and their policy

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

You know, when I think of joyful courage it makes me think of this quote by Audrey Lord and it's like the basis for everything I do. She said, "Raising black children, female and male in the mouth of a racist, sexist suicidal dragon is perilous and chancy. If they cannot love and resist at the same time, they will probably not survive." So that's like love and resistance. Yes, what joyful courage is for me. I mean, I have to have courage to change the status quo. And I have to model what joy and unconditional love looks like inside my home. Because home is where security and safety is and love. And as scary as being a black parent is sometimes I can't tell you how much joy it gives me to be raising my daughter in this revolutionary way and to watch her grow into an amazing black woman. Like, it gives me a lot of joy. I love that.

Resources:

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome

Amazon Prime documentaries by Henry Louis Gates, Jr.

Where to find Yolanda:

Parenting Decolonized Podcast

Parenting Decolonized Facebook Page

Conscious Parenting Time Facebook Page

@cptime Instagram

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:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-03-03 16:00:00

Eps 222: SOLO SHOW - how's the connection at your house?

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Hey all!

Today is a solo show… I am so honored to be here with you.

Today is all about connection and relationship (again, I know, but really, it’s what’s up).

Broken record in the conversations I am having in the teen group as well as the super fam Relationship relationship relationship Not as a “strategy” When relationship is offer, disconnection si present, its like we are on unstable ground Belonging and significance Being seen and heard Feeling valued/ Feeling safe– routines/agreements/family meetings At their heart they are a connection activity

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection, communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. Registration for the Winter Academy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-02-25 16:00:00

Eps 221: Sarah Rosensweet talks Positive Parenting and letting go during the teen years

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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My guest today is Sarah Rosensweet.

Sarah is a Peaceful Parenting leader and coach. Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy. Parents are in charge but give their kids the support they need to meet their expectations. She emphasizes connection and supports parents in prioritizing relationship with our kids.

Sarah knows that our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids.

Sarah and I spend time today discussing some of the biggest take-aways from The Self Driven Child – a powerful resource written by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson.

What you’ll here on this episode:

What has changed for Sarah as a coach as her kids have entered the teen years The Self Driven Child There can only be one driver on the train – that is your child We need to manage our own parental anxiety We get to trust that our children know what they need Sarah shares a personal story about her son and his report card and how she used what she learned from the Self Driven Child Our response matters Allowing our kids to make decisions about their own life Letting our own limited yet intense beliefs about all the possibilities get in the way “We care so much that they don’t have to.” We have to trust our kids to learn from all of their choices It’s hard to give up the drivers seat Resiliency comes from surviving difficult things Our teens are moving with a limited bank of experiences Using curiosity is powerful and ask our teens if they want to hear our opinion We can be involved, without controlling their every move The sweet spot Middle ground for encouraging teens to nurture relationship Stay Connected to Your Teenager by Michael Riera Loosening up the limits “It’s your call…” Casey shares her story about her teen daughter dropping out of school The number one thing teens need from their parents….

Where to find Sarah:

Website | Facebook | Peaceful Parenting with Teenagers

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

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The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey:

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection, communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. REgistration for the Winter Acadmy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-02-18 16:00:00

Eps 220: SOLO SHOW digging into strategies for creating space for emotional safety for your teens

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Today is a solos show - YAY!

Coming off of the mental health mini summit… I am reminded time and time again about the importance of creating an environment that support our kids-teens in being who they are. A space that feels emotionally safe.

We hold the container, we set the tone, right?

Before we can do that we really need to decide what it is that we want to create?

Speaking with clients about this, before a big conversation or event, I will aks them, well, what is it you want to create? What is most important for you that your child receives?

Strategies for creating a home environment that nurtures safety

Routines/Consistency/dependable structure Asking permission/Being curious Being available/Non judgmental Validate their experience Own your stuff Trust that your kids ARE thinking about what is best for them Power of perspective - 3 bs and the outside observer, remembering the iceberg

Therapy -

One of the things that has been really useful for me lately that I am digging into through therapy is identifying key times in my life where I felt lost, isolated, and really pulled away from my parents…. And if I could go back that that girl to tell her what she needs to hear…. Some of what has come up has been:

This must be really hard, it must feel really confusing
You are ok just as you are, you are enough and worthy of love
I am here for you

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey:

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection, communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. REgistration for the Winter Acadmy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-02-11 16:00:00

Eps 219: Being a Shameless Mom with Sara Dean

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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I am so excited to welcome Sara Dean to the Joyful Courage Podcast. Sara is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, a top rated podcast with over 2 million downloads. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space. After enduring a long infertility journey, and then a full blown identity crises following the birth of her son, Sara took her background in psychology/health/ wellness and rebuilt her identity – one step at a time. Today, Sara motivates and inspires women to stop shrinking and start growing in every aspect of their lives. She is on a mission to inspire women and moms, in particular, to live bigger, bolder, braver #everydamnday.

"I realized over time that I wanted to be having conversations about helping women take up space, rather than always trying to shrink in the space they existed in.”

“Perfect is paralyzing.”

“If you're in perfectionism, there's no momentum.”

“We need to give ourselves permission to feel in big ways and to be vulnerable with those feelings.”

“It's okay to cry, but suffering in silence is the most surefire way to destroy yourself.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The role of mindset Outcome versus process goals Moms and worthiness Why perfect sucks Perfectionism, procrastination and high achieving women How perfectionism robs you of momentum Doing B- work The role of routine and structure Creating mental freedom Giving ourselves permission to feel Intuition and finding the lessons in the chaos Learning to sit in discomfort Finding gratitude in hard moments and hard phases The universality of challenges and trauma Why women suffer in silence

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So for me, joyful courage means finding joy in being uncomfortable. So I think about courage around, like, embracing discomfort and intentionally doing uncomfortable things. That, for me, is how I frame courage for myself. And last year, I made myself pickup skiing even though I'm terrified of heights and chairlifts, and speed and I think that chair lifts are like death traps. But I made myself take up skiing because we wanted my son to ski. And so I learned how to ski. And it took a ton of courage, pretty much didn't want to do it at all, ever, every time I went up to the mountain, but I also got up there every week and was like, “Oh my gosh, look how beautiful it is up here.” There were so many rewards from it. And I also had not pushed my body, as someone who's been in fitness for many years, I hadn't pushed my body in a new physical endeavor in a really long time. And I forgot how rewarding that was to find strength in something physical, something new that was physical. And so there was just all of these rewards that came out of it that I did not expect that had nothing to do with like, actually skiing down the mountain that became kind of like “Oh, cool. And I also get to ski down the mountain on top of all these other things.” So yeah, so I would say, finding the rewards in discomfort and then seeking that and then moving forward seeking more discomfort, which I'm, like, stubbornly seeking discomfort.

Resources:

Tenacious Mamas Mastermind

The Life Coach School Podcast

The Miracle Morning

Where to find Sarah:

Shameless Mom Academy Podcast

Shameless Mom Academy

Shameless Mom Conference

Shameless Mom Facebook Group

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Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

February 3rd – February 7th – 5 interviews over 5 days to deep dive into some of the mental health challenges that are showing up with teens.

There is a lot happening right now for teens, and it can feel scary. When mental health challenges show up in our family, we tend to isolate ourselves, adding to the stress of what we are going through.

I created this mini summit for parents with teens who are having a hard time, AND for their friends, family and supporters. Lifting the understanding of the entire VILLAGE makes a huge impact on the individual. Get yourself registered now!

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

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PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-02-04 16:00:00

Eps 218: SOLO SHOW Revisiting the power of the 3Bs

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SOLo SHOW

Interviewed for the positive parenting conference by Sumitha Bhandarkar from afineparent.com and she wanted to interview me about my book – fun to remember that I wrote a book!

Deep dove into the three Bs.

Then last night I had my first of 6 live parenting classes here in Bellingham.

Being vs doing

Theory, belonging and significance

Power of perceptions

Humans are social beings – everything in the context of relationship

Iceberg

why is it important to keep in mind? HALT Problem we see is a solution/response to a problem we don’t know about Mistaken beliefs about self/others/world Why is it hard to remember to consider the iceberg? BECAUSE WE ARE USUALLY PISSED ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING AT THE TIP!!

WE HAVE OUR OWN ICEBERGS!!

At the tip of our iceberg is our emotional/instinctive response to the behavior we are seeing right?

And what is under the surface?????

HALT!! Feelings of defeat and beat up about mistakes we made… Conditioning/baggage from our own experiences

Ahhhhh – so many icebergs!!

So we are wired to connect…. And remember what Dan and Tina shared in EPS 215 --- the four s’s – seen, safe, soothed, secure. THIS IS WHAT OUR KIDS NEED, and isn’t it what we need too?

We get to learn to offer this up to ourselves

Back to the three Bs – this is one tool to support us in creating the four S’s for ourselves, so that we can then offer them up for our kids – show up better, attuned, connected, loving.

Lets play with the 3 Bs…. I am going to guide you through them, while also explaining deeper the purpose and power of each B….

Breath

The breath is an tool that directly effects the nervous system – and when we are in fight or flight, you can bet our nervous system is working overtime -rapid heart beat, tension, we are full of adrenaline…

Attending to breath allows for a settling in…. a slowing down… an opening….

Body

Riding the breath into the body in search of any leftover tension…. Allow the breath to soften the body, the small muscles in the face, the neck, the shoulders….

We want to soften the body, open the body so that we can soften and open the mind….

Balcony

Once you feel yourself soften, find your balcony seat, imagine that you can lift up and out of your body and look down at your experience, as if you are watching a show from a balcony seat – you are accessing your outside observer. The part of yourself that is separate from your experience, knowing that you are having an experience…

From this place, this outside observer place, look at yourself through the lens of compassion, through the lens of love…. What is happening under your iceberg? Can you be a nonjudgmental observer? What happens when you get curious about your experience….?

Breath body balcony – the 3 Bs.

This is a practice. One that becomes useful when we choose into it over and over again. It becomes useful when we become familiar with it.

We have to practice.

This is a tool that is useful in the heat of the moment, if we’ve practiced.

So here is your homework – and shout out to any of my BTC parents who are listening in, this is their homework this week too:

Set some alarms/reminders on your phone.

3/day Do the practice when you are prompted Work, grocery store, bedtime….. Do the practice intentionally

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Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

February 3rd – February 7th – 5 interviews over 5 days to deep dive into some of the mental health challenges that are showing up with teens.

There is a lot happening right now for teens, and it can feel scary. When mental health challenges show up in our family, we tend to isolate ourselves, adding to the stress of what we are going through.

I created this mini summit for parents with teens who are having a hard time, AND for their friends, family and supporters. Lifting the understanding of the entire VILLAGE makes a huge impact on the individual. Get yourself registered now!

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

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PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-01-28 16:00:00

Eps 217: Exploring Collaborative Emotion Processing with Alyssa Blask Campbell

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today’s guest is Alyssa Blask Campbell. Alyssa has her Master's of Education in Early Childhood. She is a leading expert in emotional development speaking to people around the world. She is a podcast host for Voices of Your Village and the CEO of Seed and Sew. Alyssa has been featured As an emotional development expert and publications such as the Washington Post, Kids VT and Family Education. After co creating the CEP method, which she's going to tell us all about, she researched it across the US and co authored a book on it scheduled for publication next year. Alyssa is deeply passionate about building emotional intelligence in children, stating that it's never too early or too late to start, thank goodness. Alyssa shows up as approachable and welcomes people into her village to get support at all ages and stages shame free. Join us!

"In order to be able to do that social piece, the kindness, the respect the empathy, the social awareness components, we have to know how to navigate the self awareness and self regulation first.”

“Sometimes times it's really just getting down to what is our feeling about what they're feeling or experiencing.”

“I believe that it's our job to find the calm, not their job to get calm for us.”

“It's safe for me to feel this because it's not going to last forever.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The difference between social and emotional development The role of self awareness and self regulation Coping mechanisms versus coping strategies The five phases of emotion processing Coping mechanisms as numbing agents Fine motor activities as processing tools Changing habits one at a time Reflective Practice - what it is and how it works Finding the calm for your kids Mirror Neurons and the neurology of calm Addressing bias as a step in the parenting education journey Taking care of your physical health so you can self-regulate Allowing yourself to feel Recognizing feelings Empathizing and connecting vs noticing Helping your kids feel felt Finding security in your feeling Yale research on anxiety in kids The relationship between anxiety and fear Problem solving and conflict resolution Identifying when you’re ready for problem solving What makes Voices of Your Village Podcast awesome

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think for me joyful courage is the ability to step in to the fear and the unknown. In that pursuit or desire of getting back to the calm, easy, joy, if you will, like when we have those tools to process the hard stuff, when we're courageous enough to do this work to build our self awareness and to put the mirror up to ourselves and not just to our kiddos. When we are courageous enough to do that, then we get to live with more joy and calm and peace.

Resources:

Free Emotional Coaching Guide

Where to find Alyssa:

Facebook

Instagram

Voices of Your Village Podcast

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-01-21 16:00:00

Eps 216: Solo Show - Transformation starts with us

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today is a solo show! I am sharing about what is happening in the Joyful Courage community these next few weeks:

Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

Podcast Recap LIVES added to the Patreon community

www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

Other topics that I am speaking into:

Resentment on the journey Making self care happen Being in choice And making choices that allow us to let go Being a model Transformation starts with us

How are you showing up for your family??

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2020-01-14 16:00:00

Eps 215: The Power of Showing up With Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guests are Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. Dan is an internationally acclaimed author, award winning educator and child psychiatrist. He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, where he also serves as a co investigator at the Center For Culture, Brain And Development, and co director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. Dan co authored some of our favorite parenting books, including The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. With the other guest joining us today, he also wrote Brainstorm: The Bible for Parents of Teens, Parenting From The Inside Out and Aware, which came out the summer of 2018 and he came on to discuss that book with me.

Dr. Tina Bryson is the other guest that we get to hear from today. She is the co author with Dan Segal of three New York Times bestsellers soon to be four and is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California. Tina is also a pediatric and adolescent, psychotherapist, she keynotes conferences, and conducts workshops for parents, educators and clinicians all over the world. There is so much more I could add to the bios of both of these guests I could truly go on and on. They're here today to share about their latest book, The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become, and How Their Brains get Wired. Join us!

"One of the best ways for us to predict how well a kid turns out is by looking at this research from decades and decades and across many cultures that says that the way a parent shows up and whether the degree to which they provide secure attachment relationships, that this is a huge predictor for how well kids turn out on many things that we measure them on.”

“The science of attachment is so powerful.”

“No matter what happened to you as a parent, how you come to make sense of what happened to allows you to be present.”

“The brain wires based on the kinds of experiences we have.”

“Every child is different. Every parent is different, every situation is different. And the key is really more about being present and attuning.”

“What your child needs most from you is to show up.”

“The messiness, the disconnection, the inevitable ruptures. That's a part of life. The fact that there are ruptures doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. It means you're human.”

“You can always begin again, knowing the direction you want to take.”

“If we can show up in that moment, and help the other person feel safe and seen and sued. That's always the right answer.”

“It's about helping the child know, at the end of the day, that if something goes wrong, if they are in distress, if they have a need, we will see it, and we will show up for them flawed, not perfect.”

“This science is full of hope.”

“It isn't about perfection, it's about presence”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Secure attachment as a predictor of future success The Power of Showing Up What parents need to understand about attachment Does attachment involve just one attachment figure? The different ways parents can show up What attachment teaches kids The science of attachment and how it applies to everyday life Mutual belonging and connection How experiences wire the brain Showing up for ourselves The value of a coherent narrative The 4 S’s Repairing ruptures What conflict can teach What the 4 S’s look like in action The difference between fostering attachment and being permissive Predictability as safety Expanding the container of consciousness and the window of tolerance Experiences with attachment across generations The ongoing opportunity for development Paths of Hope and where they lead Why parents need people to show up for us too Aiming for presence, not perfection Self as embodied and relational Learning to tolerate uncertainty

Resources:

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

The Yes Brain

The Baby Book

Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

The Power of Showing Up

Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN

Brainstorm

Parenting From The Inside Out

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Dr. Tina Bryson

Dr. Dan Siegel

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2020-01-07 16:00:00

Eps 214: Solo show - Celebrating and reflecting on 2019

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Today is a solo show, reflecting on 2019 – the celebrations, the lessons, all of it. I am so grateful for the community and the love you send me and each other on the daily!!

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2019-12-31 08:01:58

Eps 213: Deep Diving into Self Care with Aparna Venkataraman

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Today’s guest is Aparna Venkataraman. Aparna is a parent coach, meditation teacher, motivational speaker and global wellness advocate for doTERRA essential oils. Her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem solving skills guide her in supporting parents of babies, toddlers and teens to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, confidence building and light hearted mindfulness techniques.

She values authenticity, which you all know is one of my favorites, a kind nature, motivation, love, compassion, gratitude and humor as key components of a beautiful life. She’s here to share ways that families can relieve stress through self care, mindfulness and effective communication. Join us!

"Self care means to me to find ways to connect back to what is lighting me up, what is helping me to find peace and stay connected to my authentic self.”

“There are simple things you can do each day that can help you to create a routine where you're feeling connected to yourself and not just waiting until the weekend until you have much more time”

“We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a certain way and to show up in the world as somebody who has it all together. When we're really actually stressed, really, really stressed on the inside.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Self-care beyond manicures and exercise Why self care doesn’t have to wait for the weekend The pressure to keep up appearances How to tell when you’re connecting to your authentic self What is intrinsic self care The power behind finding our why How spirituality can be helpful The role of breath in self care Stress, parenting and mindfulness Tips for learning mindfulness Ways to start small in your mindfulness Laughter as stress relief

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So joyful courage in the context of an intrinsic self care practice, that's the courage to show up. vulnerably, really, and to do what I really want to do, and even if it doesn't make sense to anyone, or even to myself, but to do what feels good and what I want to do, and to not be afraid of sharing that if I feel like sharing that with somebody, but to not be afraid to find the joy in things as we just talked about when things don't feel great, not being afraid to do that and knowing that when I'm doing that I'm taking care of myself and I'm helping myself to really make the day feel a little easier so I can move through my day too. That, I think, is joyful courage when I'm taking care of myself and doing something that feels great especially on those days that don't feel great.

Resources:

Essential Oils

Where to find Aparna:

Website | Instagram | Facebook

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2019-12-17 16:00:00

Eps 212: SOLO SHOW about becoming a more explicit and less resentful parent

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SOLO SHOW!

I have shared about going to therapy – and quite a few of you have reached out and shared that this has prompted YOU to find this kind of support in your community – SO HAPPY!

I told you how I shopped around and chose on that I thought was the right fit. I had actually had some one I trust and worked with suggest that somatic therapy was really the fit I wanted, so that is what I looked for.

Even after shopping around, after a few sessions, I felt unsatisfied with the experience. IT felt slow and directionless. Now, this could ABSOLUTELY say something about me, right? Have I spoken before about my need to get things moving and FIX problems???

I have another friend that told me that I would LOVE who she was seeing – it’s a man, interestingly enough I thought I wanted to work with women but I LOVE THIS GUY. And while he isn’t solving my problems and going into “fix it” mode – the masculine energy is what I am noticing is supporting the work. But it also feels balanced because there does seem to be spaciousness, but my experience of the time spent with him feel directional.

So, all that to say that you all have permission to change up your mental health team if something feels off. Unapologetically.

Today I want to talk about something that has been coming up for me, AND with some of my clients. I have a feeling you are all going to relate with this as well.

So let me set this up and you can decide if you can relate….

You are looking ahead to the weekend. Everyone is going to be home on Sunday and you would really like to have a family day, time together doing something…. Maybe you’ll all decide to go to a movie or do a project, but you know that time together is something you all need and Sunday is the perfect time….

Sunday rolls around and your partner gets busy with a home improvement project that looks like it is going to last all day, one of you kids has made plans with friends and gets irritated when you tell him nope, you have to be home. And maybe the other child is looking for “alone time” rather than “together time.”

Literally no one is on board with a family day.

Maybe you use language like:

“I was kinda hoping we could do something with the kids today” or “It’s important to me that we spend time together as a family” or “I really wish you wanted to hang out with us”

And then our people carry one with the home improvement, making plans with friends, or retreating into their bedroom.

And what happens to us? Well, what happens to me is I start to feel really angry and resentful. I feel slighted, disrespected, dismissed. I then continue to interact with my family from this place. The energy of the house shifts and everyone is now MOTIVATED to be busy with their own thing, away from mom, who has now moved into bitch/blamer mode.

From the outside looking in, this is ridiculous, right?

Did I even explicitly SAY to my family, “lets spend Sunday afternoon together?” and make it a plan? No.

Were my family rejecting me when they carried on with what they needed/planned for that day? No.

Did I actually FUEL disconnection in my response to them? Yes.

Right, get it together, Casey.

But in the moment….. In the moment it feels like rejection. IT feels like no one cares. Thoughts of failure show up, catastrophizing…. Comparison to other families that are FOR SURE joyfully doing something wonderful with THEIR families. What is wrong with us?

And all of this comes also with tightness in my chest and belly, a clenched jaw, furrowed brow – an overall experience of tension. And that is the physical sensation that typically leads me into a mindset of poor me, gosh darn it, I am hurting and they need to know it.

Its funny too, when I am feeling this way, I get really uptight if the kids are on their screens, or their rooms are a mess – all of a sudden I can see a million things that bother me and I am throwing it at them.

And it isn’t about the screens or the rooms, it’s about the hurt I am experience, that I actually set myself up for!!

And this can really sneak up on you too, right? When you expect one response and get something else? This is something I am working out with my therapist, because when my expectations are challenged, I go into fight or flight – typically fight mode. My thinking gets rigid, and I am grasping for control…. Yeah, it’s a control thing I think. And I am sure this can be traced back to my interpretation of stability or instability growing up.

So what do we do??? IF you have read my book, you know that I highlight that experience of awareness “I know I am pissed and should calm down” coupled with the justification of “but god damn it they need to KNOW”

Yeah……. Raise your hand if you know the struggle. It’s like the emotional experience has tentacles and it’s holding us captive. Because if we move through it, move through or anger and resentment in a positive way, and then show up from a place of connection and love, what?

There is this idea that if others don’t feel our pain, they are somehow getting away with something. The reality is, when what we are being triggered by is an internal experience that we are having, and then responding to others from that place of pain, all they really are is confused, or perhaps scared.

So, how about we choose to do something different when this resentment shows up? Lets start with getting some space.

Meme:

I am unworthy.

I am noticing, that I am having the thought, that I am unworthy.

I am being rejected/dismissed/ignored

I am noticing, that I am having the thought, that I am being rejected/dismissed/ignored

Is it true?

Yes or no – what can I do about it?

If the answer is yes, have a meaning full conversation with the people that you feel are involved (I love the conversation I had on Eps 174: Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer, check it out)

If the answer is no, take care of yourself. Feel your feelings and give yourself a chance to process them. Journal. Talk to a friend. Talk to your therapist. Be with your experience and move through it, rather than avoid it or distract yourself from feeling it.

Ok, so what can we do to be proactive?

If you want something, be explicit about it, not vague. You can’t expect for your children to tease apart your generalizations to hear what you are really trying to say.

This sounds like:

“Sunday afternoon we are all going to be home and I would like us to do something together from 1-5, so don’t make any plans, please.”

As the holidays get closer, know that you are going to be making lots of plans and expectations in your head. Take this opportunity to speak into the experience you would like to have. Encourage and invite your family into the planning so that they know what to expect and what YOU expect. Find flexibility too – because you are SHARING the experience with others…

Helpful?

I love this topic – know that I am actively practicing what I shared with you today, all the time. Imperfectly.

We are all in this together, friends!!

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2019-12-10 16:00:00

Eps 211: Finding the joy in missing out with Tonya Dalton

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Today’s guest is Tonya Dalton. Tonya is a productivity expert, writer, speaker and founder of Inkwell Press Productivity Company, a company centered around productivity tools and training. she released her book The Joy of Missing Out on October 1, she's going to share a little bit about her book with us. Tanya is also the mother of two teenagers and really knows what it means to be the leader of a family. Join us!

" I love that it feels like a permission slip. Like I feel like I have permission to just stop chasing my tail.”

“We're filling our calendars, but we're not really filling our souls.”

“it's really about mindful living. It's really about living with intention.”

“Productivity is not about doing more. It's about doing what is most important.”

“Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.”

“None of us truly have it all together all of the time.”

“Balance is a myth.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The glorification of busy The obligation and pressure to be busy How not being busy makes us feel about ourselves How being busy keeps us from nurturing ourselves and others Quality over quantity Embracing imperfection Releasing the need to be busy “Shoulding” on ourselves and why that’s not helpful Living mindfully with intention Prioritizing activities instead of trying to do all the things Letting go of “Some Day” Syndrome The stories we tell ourselves and unreasonably high expectations Getting curious about our responses to life Examining our comfort zones and if they are serving us How releasing perfectionism supports connection Letting people lift you up as a gift to them Family as a team Sunday planning as a ritual Division of labor based on team member needs and supporting each other Belonging and significance and filling each other’s buckets Encouraging ownership and buy in with your kids Letting go of balance Finding flexibility in the mess

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love this question because I think joyful courage to me really means the ability to stand up, to feel confident in your choices, and to live the life you really want. Because here's the truth, you know, living a life is centered on your priorities and letting your priorities sit front and center every day is a choice. And it's not always an easy choice because people will question it. People will pull you in different directions wanting you to say yes to things when really you should be saying no. And so really joyful courage is standing tall and standing true to what is most important to you.

Resources:

The Joy of Missing Out

Productivity Paradox podcast

Weekly kickstart notepad

Where to find Tonya:

TonyaDalton.com

Inkwell Press

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Parenting is messy. Alongside all of the joy comes and emotional freight train full of challenges and frustration. Your child can instantly trigger strong reactions that leave you feeling angry and out of control. What if you didn’t respond so emotionally every time? What if you could learn to be more present to the experience you were having? Might you feel like a better parent?

Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey helps parents navigate the roller coaster of parenting to reveal:

How identifying your body’s physical reaction to stress is the first step to taking control of your parenting

Why our past experiences add to the conflict with out kids and what to do about it.

Real-life stories from parents riding the emotional freight train.

The Three B’s Method to change your reaction anytime, anywhere.

How to grow your relationship with all of the people that you love.

From toddlers to teenagers, Joyful Courage is the practical and thoughtful resource for parents to navigate the challenge of raising children while choosing to be connected and engaged. Parents can learn how to be the best for their families with Joyful Courage.

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-12-03 16:00:00

Eps 210: SOLO SHOW Navigating fear and trusting our gut

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Today is a solo show.

I missed you all last week…. As you know, I am in the throes of navigating my own parenting journey and sometimes that means stepping away from my professional work to focus on my family.

For all of you out there who are feeling like you are the only one struggling on this path, it simply IS NOT TRUE. We all have our own way of sharing with the world, and many people just don’t. They keep the hard stuff to themselves, leaving the rest of us thinking that their lives are easy-breezy.

This podcast, and this episode, is my way of pulling back the curtain and sharing from am deeply authentic place. The Joyful Courage community is a place for all of us to bring our whole, vulnerable selves.

There is plenty to worry about on the parenting path, especially as our kids transform into teens and beyond. When is the fear useful, and when is it getting in the way of hearing our own wise, intuition? I explore that today.

I hope you enjoy it!

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2019-11-26 16:00:00

Ep 209: Mindful Mama Mentor, Hunter Clarke Fields, supporting us in raising good humans

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My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields.

Hunter is a yoga and mindfulness coach, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, and supporter of moms near and far. She is also a mama herself and walks her talk with her two daughters. I had the great pleasure of being a guest on Hunter’s podcast and am thrilled to host here on the Joyful Courage Podcast.

Hunter’s book, Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids is available now, and I am super honored to share her wisdom with you all today.

Where to find Hunter:

Raising Good Humans Book Page: Raising Good Humans Book.com

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2019-11-12 16:00:00

Eps 208: Solo Show - keeping things real while navigating a tough season of parenting

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This week is a solo show and I am totally going free style. There aren’t much for show notes, I hope you listen and that what is shared resonates with you. We are all in this together!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-11-05 16:00:00

Eps 207: Talking Gen Z and Screens with Jaynay C. Johnson

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today’s guest is Jaynay C. Johnson. Jaynay is a therapist, speaker and author, dedicating much of her time and energy to serving adolescent girls and their families. From suffering from teen depression to being written off from family and teachers as being just another troubled teen, Jaynay has always been a firm believer that at any given moment you have the power to say "This is not how the story is going to end." Jennay chose to take control of her story, choosing to dedicate her life to uplifting and empowering the leaders of tomorrow. Jaynay's body of work includes published books, magazine features, radio interviews and multiple guest appearances. A lady of elegance, poise, motivation and hope for tomorrow's leaders Jennay embodies an uplifting message and presentation style that she believes the ones coming behind her will need in order to reach their greatest potential. Join us!

"I think the space where parents miss a great opportunity is to empathize.”

“The reality is phones are not bad. Internet is not bad. It's a tool.”

“If as the parent, you're constantly making the choices for them, you're almost telling them that you don't think that they can make good decision.”

“It is important for us all to just take a proactive approach and have conversations around the best practices of social media, the best practices of having a phone. And I think we just need to be doing that more frequently than we are.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The evolution of the concept of adolescence The audacity of “I know, because I was a teenager.” Empathy and raising teens Giving teens enough information to make informed decisions The value of appropriate openness Intergenerational differences The role of mobile phones and when they tend to be introduced to Gen Z Important conversations to have about phones with your kids Big issues facing teens and their parents Emotional intelligence and how it factors into the decision of which paths to pursue Timing of college and the need to be open minded Teaching your kids to trust themselves Challenges facing teens and families of color Being cognizant of cultural differences

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So joyful courage means to me that, although it can be rough to have certain conversations and to pull out some of the, you know, darker sides of life, I find joy knowing that once we pull them out, they get a chance to see the light. And from there, everything goes up and up. So that's what it means to me, that I had the courage to pull it out. But then you're happy because it's out and once it's out, it can breathe.

Where to find Jaynay:

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2019-10-29 15:00:00

Eps 206: The path to radical acceptance

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hey friends… thank you for meeting me here. Thank you for seeing me and for sharing the ways that this podcast resonates with you and supports you. I have received feedback from so many ofyou talking about how this show is a lifeline for you, and a place where the experience you are having on the parenting journey is validating.

When I first started this show….

I had been practicing and facilitating PD for about 7 years Blogging about my experience was landing with readers My community and access of parent educators was growing and I wanted to share conversations with all of you I was looking for a creative way to share content and build my biz I released my first four episodes on April 9th of 2015, my kids were 9 and 12 – in third and sixth grade…. Seems like a lifetime ago

What I didn’t see coming….

How easy it was to be in conversation with people I admired about the parenting jourey That I would really be talking so much about HUMANING My desire to do solo shows and share so vulnerably would be so strong That my solo shows would land so deeply with the community That I would feel such a deep connection to listeners That the show would become a life line for ME The tension of leading a community while also navigating the experience of my own children’s teen years….

I’m in a time of transition….

My offerings are geared more and more to parents of teens – this has been the result of looking for support myself and not finding offers that were useful to me, that spoke to me and my style of parenting… I want to be having conversations about the teen years – but also about humaning, because inside of all of this work we are growing and developing as human beings – every single day I am living this…. What I am also noticing is that there are less interviews that I want to be having…. I am feeling less connected to the interview format and more drawn to just speaking directly to you…. So I hope that is ok……

Life happens for you

This season is unexpected Long time listeners know that I am in it deep and practicing every day to be as aware and awake as I can with my teens We’ve dealt with it all and continue to e surprised by what is showing up – like, really surprised We can’t know how the narrative will go – we can convince ourselves that we can control it only to be shown time and time again that we CAN NOT I am again in a new place of being show that I have NO CONTROL of the narrative when it comes to my kids….

Radical Acceptance

Have you heard of this? DBT (which I haven’t ever done and know really nothing about accepting something with all of your soul opening yourself to fully experience the reality of the moment Fighting reality continues suffering Being in acceptance allow “radically accept that you want something you don’t have and it’s not a catastrophe” – Marsha Lineham The moment your in and the past – but you can change from there Reality is what it is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTG7YEWkJFI

Past and future fucks us up

How many of us feel guilty and rack our brains looking for where we screwed up? If we did it differently we wouldn’t be in the situation we are in…. But but but…. Shouldn’t we think about the future? And how can we not??? I have hopes and dreams for my kids, of course. THEY ARE THE DESIGNERS OF THEIRL IFE AND HOW CAN I GET OUT OF THE WAY???????? Creating a space that is pure enough for them to trust themselves.

Popular conversations

Would have us believe that there is a five step process for getting the outcome we want with our kids Popular conversations would have us believe that parenting is about them and not us Popular conversations would have us believe that if things go sideways it is about something that we are doing wrong, that there is something to fix Popular conversation blames the world today, technology, and teens themselves for what we are seeing

What if popular conversation is wrong

What if parenting is all about us?

What if no matter WHAT we do, our kids are going to experience the path they are meant to experience?

What if right here, right now, is exactly as it is meant to be?

Radical acceptance.

If this is exactly where we are meant to be, with all fo the challenges that exist – and I see you out there. Those of you with kids who are navigating mental health challenges, drug use and abuse, risky behavior –

I see you out there who FROM THE BEGINNING were invited into radical acceptance due to your childs different abilities – whether they be physical, mental or emotional. You are the ones that all of us can learn from. This is old news, this idea of accepting reality AS IT IS. Thank you for being models for the rest of us and modeling what this looks like….

If this is exactly where we are meant to be, if we accept rather than resist the reality that we are finding ourselves in day to day, then there must be a purpose.

Perhaps it is as simple as sitting in this space. Allowing the physical, emotional, and spiritual experience of this acceptance to live without trying to make it go away.

My own experience with this….

Eps 203 I talked about getting a therapist Current situation creating a physical response in my body Somatic therapy/radical acceptance called me to transform the experience What also shows up….. self doubt (the ego is super loud) Back to radical acceptance, back to turning inward and being with what is showing up

Raise your hand if you can’t sleep?

Raise your hand if your belly is tied up in knots?

Raise your hand if you are experiencing feat that is with you all.damn.day?

I see you.

Radical acceptance. Things are as they are.

Feel that Notice what shows up Allow it to have a voice How does your body respond? What happens when you bring compassion? Can you be with it?

We are not in charge of the narrative that is our children’s lives. Yet , as that narrative plays out, we can write our own narrative about how we are going to show up……

And right now, the narrative that I am writing is one of radical acceptance.

I love you!

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

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2019-10-23 15:00:00

Eps 205: Wendy Bertagnole breaks down the sensory system in a way that makes PERFECT SENSE!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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My guest today is Wendy Bertagnole.

Wendy Bertagnole, is a lover of chocolate, lifter of heavy weights, believer in wearing yoga clothes most every day, and a mother of three kids. She works with moms who are frustrated with their children’s behavior, helping them to once again enjoy motherhood and their children. With an undergrad degree in child development and a masters in special education, Wendy has taken what she’s learned, while also raising her three kids, to serve others

Wendy knows that not every child shows up 100% happy and willing to cooperate every moment of every day, which can be frustrating. She believe every behavior is a form of communication and her mission is to help every parent understand what their child is communicating through their behavior.

Wendy’s work is aligned with the mission of Joyful Courage and I am thrilled to have some time to talk with her today.

Find Wendy:

Website | Podcast | Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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2019-10-15 15:00:00

Eps 204: SOLO SHOW Time for therapy

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today is a solo show – woohoo!

I am having a really hard time prepping a solo show…. Part of the problem is that I feel like I am really in my own work of finding some space inside of my fears and worries about my parenting.

Am I too permissive? Am I avoiding conflict? Or am I meeting my kids where they are at?

Am I being pragmatic, or is this confusing?

Am I enabling or am I meeting my children where they are at?

What is going to happen to them?

Will they be able to cope in the future?

Will they ever feel passionate about anything?

Do they feel worthy of showing up, standing up, giving back?

I literally have been waking up in the middle of the night gripped with tension in my body and mind, spinning through all of these questions, coupling this with “what if…”

Well – I made an appointment to see my fave energy worker to see if I could get some help with removing these blocks, letting go so I could release these fears. And you know what came up – it is time for me to get some therapy.

Yup.

See, I am super aware of what is happening when it is happening. I can see the way I am in the middle of my family, grasping for strings to bring me a sense of control and safety – what is really happening is that I am becoming so entangled in their experience, that I may actually be making things worse… Or maybe not, but the dynamics in my relationships are not what I want them to be.

Shift into love. Shift into connection. Surrender, let go.

But what happened, what I learned or was reminded of from my energy worker, is that the “shift” I want to have happen, that I actually want to have happen, is bypassing the very real need that my inner girl has to be seen and heard and felt.

Between the messages I received growing up, and the persona that I try to fill in my career, there is this mistaken idea that to belong, or to matter, or to be “doing my work” I need to not fall apart. That falling apart is somehow weak, or a crutch, or I don’t know…. Not enlightened?

I can pinpoint times in my life where my experience was being dismissed, where I was told that there wasn’t space for me to breakdown and I have internalized that to the point where I can’t move through my pain.

And right now, the pain is fear and self doubt and worry…. My system wants to take the short cut to just breathing, finding neutral with my body and taking the balcony seat (doesn’t that sound familiar?)

And I am not here to say that the breath body balcony tool isn’t helpful, I do believe it is, AND there are times when the work that is being called for goes deeper than mindfulness with breath and journaling.

Working out what I am being shown as a place to get messy and dig in is actually going to support me in using mindfulness/the 3 Bs as tools for daily practice of being in relationship with my teens, WITHOUT bringing in the baggage of what I am holding from my own past…

It’s like when I work with teachers, I get to facilitate PDC, which is super useful all of the kids, and there are a small percentage of the kids that need more, right? For various reasons, there are some kids in the classroom that need more, they need a team, they need creative problem solving that is a bit more out of the box than the majority.

That is where I am at right now on my own journey, and I need a team. I have some things to work through, beliefs to reframe, and some validation of my human experience to receive. I get to spend some time digging into my stuff in a way that lets it all come undone, finding a feeling of safety for being with the breakdown, so that I can breakthrough what is on the other side of these limiting beliefs.

Thank you so much for listening…. Please let me know how this show has resonated for you.

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

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2019-10-08 15:00:00

Eps 203: Dr.Rob Reiher digs into parenting above the noise

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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My guest today is DR. ROB REIHER.

Rob is a highly respected developmental and educational psychologist. He is a media expert who studies the escalating impact of tech, media and consumerism and it’s accompanying “noise” on children, families and society.

Also, Rob has extensive experience as a researcher, counselor, speaker, consultant, and educator. As an adjunct professor of Psychology at Woodbury University in Burbank California, Rob created and taught the first INNERTAINMENT course in the country. Rob has written two books and is the co-author (with Daniel Acuff Ph.D.) of Kidnapped: How Irresponsible Marketers Are Stealing the Minds of Your Children. He is also the co-host of the Live Above the Noise podcast.

I am thrilled to have Dr. Reiher on to support us in developing tools for this landscape of parenting.

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-10-01 15:00:00

Episode 202: Natha Campanella on using astrology to support our parenting

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today’s guest is Natha Campanella. She is a professional writer, a mother, a teacher, an astrologer and intuitive guide. Natha is also a certified master life coach and she uses a unique blend of modalities and her approach with an emphasis on traditional coaching and astrology. She often supplements with knowledge from the enneagram. We will be discussing astrology. Join us!

"There's something that is very objective about astrology and also very validating.”

“The beautiful thing about astrology it is that it is so similar to the way that we as humans just navigate the world.”

“Meeting them where they're at is understanding who they are, and then working with them from that place.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How natal charts are created and what they mean What archetypes are and what they do How a chart is laid out and what each section symbolizes Ways your sign can influence your approach to life How you can use your astrological information to shape your choices Astrological insights as additional, objective, non-judgmental information for self-exploration Why charting your family can be helpful Astrology as a means to meet your kids where they are at How astrology can interface with or be complementary to positive or peaceful parenting Using astrological information to navigate parenting challenges Astrology and the iceberg metaphor Resources for understanding astrology Ways to work with Natha

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think joyful courage means to me that, you know, even when stuff feels really hard, which it does a lot. Especially, I don't know for the rest of you, but for me, that there's always this sort of invitation to be courageous and keep moving forward and to really look for what is joyful within the context of what's happening. And I always find really amazing things even when I'm, you know, having a dark night of the soul. It's like "Oh, you know, look at how beautiful that bumblebee looks on that flower right now" and so you know, it's like always just seeking out, always knowing that there is something beautiful happening and that can bring joy.

Resources:

Caroline Myss - Sacred Contracts

Astro.com

The Inner Sky

Jan Spiller

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube

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Joyful Courage Academy Parenting Teens

September 30th – November 1st

The program consists of weekly content – and I am taking what I have been sharing as audio and adding a “webinar-ish” component for those of you that are visual learners – an active community, and a 90 minute one on one call with me to go deep into what your individual challenges are. YES! I am only taking 15 people in each track so if you are into it head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt right now and get yourself registered.

This program is an investment. It is an investment in time and money. And considering what we tend to easily spend money on, isn’t THIS, our relationship with our growing kids, worth the investment???

www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt check it out and make it happen, space is limited.

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-09-24 15:00:00

EPS 201: SOLO SHOW What it means to meet our kids where they're at

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hello! You have found yourself listening to Joyful Courage – and conscious parenting podcast, where we talk about the everyday challenges of parenting and HUMANING in a real and transparent way – I am your host, Casey O’Roarty. I am a Positive Discipline trainer and parent coach doing my very best to raise my own two teens agers in a way that grows their internal sense of being the creators of their own lives, and supporting other parents in doing the same with their kids.

The interviews and solo shows you will hear on this podcast are my explorations of how to be as authentic and mindful as we can be, while treating the fellow humans in our life, small and big, with the dignity and respect they all deserve.

If you like what you hear, please rate and review this show on apple podcasts. And stay tune till the end of the show to hear about how you can join the Joyful Courage community online.

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Yay! I’m back! I’ve missed you all!!! It isn’t often that I take time off of this podcast, and I am really grateful to have taken the past few weeks off.

Some of the things that went down included:

Working with three elementary schools here in Bellingham! Supporting the staff members with implementing Positive Discipline in the classroom

Shout out to teachers – they are on the font lines of making the world a better place, and just like all of us, doing the best they can with the tools they have. I have worked with many teachers doing the PD trainer, and I have come across some that are deeply discouraged, and others that are super encouraged and what they all have in common is that they show up each day for the kids in their class. And I just want to say that the ways that parents treat their children’s teacher makes all the difference. Build that relationship – it will benefit not only your child, but all the children in your child’s class because a teacher that feels connected to the families he or she serves is going to show up better – belonging and significance are not only what our kids need, it is what all humans need.

I launched the Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit Encore Offer!

I just couldn’t put these conversations to rest – they were so rich. I know that the whole online summit formula is to give you way more than you can consume in a short period of time and then sell you the whole thing so that you can actually get what you need at your own pace. I followed that formula last time and it felt weird…. I do need to make a living people, and the content I create does have significant value, and…. This felt weird to me. So what I did was I distilled down the content so that it is in bite sized pieces. And omg, going through these audios again was so amazing – I am in a different place than when I recorded these interviews and it really speaks into how our lenses, or our listening, changes over time…. Anyways, I had over 200 people tune into the summit and the feedback was so great!!! If you missed it, I *am* selling the package, with all the interviews in full, for a limited time on my website. $49.

Another significant thing that went down in the last few weeks is that MY SON HAS STARTED AT HIS NEW SCHOOL!!!

Remember, we moved? Do you remember that my son was not so excited? Actually, he was pretty pissed about the whole thing and had a pretty low key summer up here, worrying about what his new school and life was going ot look like.

He did make one friend prior to school starting here in the neighborhood. Shout out to Leona who saw my post in the neighborhood moms FB group about looking for another 8th grader who likes basketball to hand out with my son and got in touch. They hit it off and it made a world of difference for Ian to have a friend walking into the first day.

And just as I suspected, he was fine. Better than fine, he was like a celebrity. And that is how it’s been since school started. He is building a friend group full of really sweet, kind kids. I get to trust his judge of character and remember that Ian likes to be around kids that are nice and fun. Yay. Big exhale there.

So the family is settling in well up here in Bellingham, super happy about the big move….

Today I want to talk about something that I brought to the Joyful Courage Super Fam group recently. Just to remind you, the Super Fam is a group of listeners who find so much value in the podcast that they are willing to give $10/month as a way of saying thank you. They have all received a half hour coaching call with me, and get to participate in a weekly FB Live that I do in our private group. If you are interested in finding out more, go to www.joyfulcourage.com and click the donate button on the navigation bar.

So anyways, I wanted to share what I was teasing apart with the group today for the podcast….

It’s the whole idea of “meeting our kids where they’re at” - We hear these words, but do we really know what they mean?

I really was reminded, over and over again as I curated the interviews for the teen summit, that relationship is everything. Relationship matters people. And often relationship is the starting place for any kind of problem solving/solution finding to happen. We have to pay attention to relationship. Its super foundational, right?

And sometimes, our kids behavior has more to do with how they are feeling inside of relationship with us than anything else – so doing the work to be connected, non-judemental, curious, present, vulnerable, transparent and honest makes a huge difference.

Plus, when our kids are having a hard time, and the relationship isn’t there, the idea that we can meet them where they’re at just isn’t possible. It isn’t possible. Our kids feel met when they feels seen and heard and understood.

So yes, PSA for building relationship. Do it. Work on it al the time. Ask your kids how they know that you love them. Ask them what they think YOU think about them. Get curious to find out what their experience is of you and then listen without talking. Listen. Take it in. And adjust accordingly….

Ok. Back to meeting them where they’re at.

When our kids are having a hard time, when humans are having a hard time – they don’t want to be fixed, and cajoled out of their experience, they want to feel felt. They want to know that you are there with them. They want to know that you see them in their experience. And if your kids are teenagers – they DON’T want to hear what you think about it.

I repeat – teenagers DO NOT want your opinion. They just want you to see them.

Believe me, this is tough. Because I have a lot of opinion. I am a fixer – you have heard me say this before. I am a coach – I COACH PEOPLE TO CREATE RESULTS IN THEIR LIVES AND RELATIONSHIPS – why the HELL wouldn’t my kids want me to coach them????

Oh right, I am their mom.

And they’re teenagers.

Meeting our kids where they’re at is being present inside of an open mind. Allowing yourself (yes you, parent) to be in the space of not knowing, not judging, not opinion-ing, simply BEING with your child.

Now, there may be some mirroring – “you really thought you would get that job and you didn’t” or “you were playing with that game and your brother came over and grabbed it” or “you were telling a story at dinner and were interrupted” – stating what you are hearing out loud for your child to hear.

There may be some validating of feelings, “I bet that feels discouraging” or “that must have been annoying” or “I’m wondering if that hurt your feelings?” but remember that you are just MAKING A GUESS HERE. And that ALL FEELINGS THEY ARE HAVING ARE VALID.

Because, if you are a normal parent, there has probably been a time where you child has shared what is bothering them and how they are feeling and you may have dismissed it or told them “you don’t have to feel that way” or some other you’re -getting-it-wrong kind of response. We all do this from time to time when we are less that conscious of what we are doing. Not judging, just highlighting. And you may have been right – AND the way our kids feel about their experiences are incredibly valid to them, and dismissing that is just plain RUDE.

Yup. Meeting them where they’re at sometimes requires us to not say what we want to say. Sometimes it requires patience and waiting for the opportunity to ask permission. “Can I share an idea with you?” or “Can I tell you what I think?” and being ok with them saying “no” or “not right now”

You all know about the flipping of the lid – the brain science of when we are triggered and don’t have access to our thoughtful, logical mind. If you don’t, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/teachbrain to find out more.

Brain science tells us that meeting our kids or any human where there as is really about being with them during their hard time. That the being with is actually what will build the bridge back to that logical, thoughtful brain, and open the space for our kids to have problems solving conversations or simply to open up more to us about what is going on in their life.

Meeting them where they’re at is about where they are in the moment. The moment holds so much information too, right?

And I think next level is recognizing what is happening for US in the moment. In PD this is the first step for finding the Belief Behind the Behavior.

Are we annoyed as a response to their behavior? Angry? Hurt? Hopeless?? Let’s get clear on the ways we are feelilng, like, deep down, and we can start to understand what is going on for them…. Feeling annoyed typically means our kids are feeling disconnected and are looking to be recognized and acknowledged, feeling angry, like our hackles get raised typically means that our kids are feeling powerless and are looking for control where they can get it – hurt? You can guess that our kids are hurting and passing it along…. Hopeless? That is an indicator that our kids are feeling significantly less than perfect and would rather you not take time to notice….

Now, this isn’t our child or teen being naughty, bad, or misbahving, this is our child or teen navigated their world using the lens they have. So this INFORMATION can help us meet them where they are at to connect and be present to what they need.

So good. And it takes work. It requires we adults do what we need to do to have a clear enough mind to recognize what is happening when it’s happening, you know what I mean?

But but but – my teen is so disrespectful, or they’re lying, or they just don’t care…. Meet them where they are. Be with them. Deepen and nurture the relationship you have with them. Support them in feeling felt. Validate them – and then use curiosity to understand even deeper and find solutions that are useful to them.

WHEW!!!!!!!

I know….

So I have a resource for you. If you are listening and nodding your head and thinking yes yes yes and I could use some support IVE GOT YOU!

I am running the JCA again. This will be the fourth round of this, the third time I have focused on teens. But this time there will be two tracks – those of you with tweens and preteens, I see you and I am hearing your feedback. I am going to run a track for parents with kids in middle school as well as a track for kids with older, high school and beyond kids.

The program will start September 30th and registration is open now.

Go to my website – joyfulcourage.com/jcapt and dial it in. The program consists of weekly content – and I am taking what I have been sharing as audio and adding a “webinar-ish” component for those of you that are visual learners – an active community, and a 90 minute one on one call with me to go deep into what your individual challenges are. YES! I am only taking 15 people in each track so if you are into it head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt right now and get yourself registered.

This program is an investment. It is an investment in time and money. And considering what we tend to easily spend money on, isn’t THIS, our relationship with our growing kids, worth the investment???

www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt check it out and make it happen, space is limited.

Thank you for listening!!! You can always get MORE Joyful Courage by following me on IG and FB and joining the conversation in my FB Groups – Live and love with Joyful Courage and Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens. Check out my website for more offers like my BOOK, soon to be in AUDIOBOOK FORMAT, one on one coaching and the archive of this podcast.

Signing off for today my friends and leaving you with this ….pause, take a deep breath, ride it into your body, step up to the balcony seat and trust that everything is going to be ok.

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2019-09-17 15:00:00

A Super Short Announcement from Casey

HEYYYY!!

This isn't a full episode - just a quick announcement letting listeners know that the show is going to take a month off and come back strong September 17th - woop woop.

Listen in and find out how to stay connected.

Big love,

Casey

2019-08-20 15:00:00

Eps 200: SOLO SHOW Navigating my open, honest relationship with my teens

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today is a SOLO SHOW!

First, how about a community celebration for the 200TH EPISODE of the Joyful Courage Podcast!!! WOOP WOOP!! It is so exciting to reach this milestone with you all... Along with the fact that the podcast has been downloaded over 550,000 times!! I am so deeply grateful and honored that I get to show up for you each week and that what I create is useful to you....

In honor of the 200th show, I actually have a BRAND NEW SOLO SHOW to share this week. I got some pretty powerful feedback from my teen daughter about my parenting style and the messages she is getting through how I show up and talk to her.

Granted, we are navigating some new territory, and have recently been in some tricky discussions. And at the end of the day, I don't always know what the right thing to do is... You out there with teens may know what I mean, the conversation may sound like this:

Teenager: "But, why can't I ___?"

Parent (racking brain for the perfect , logical answer): "I'm not sure, mostly ___ just feels like it should be a hard no...."

And then you are left feeling like maybe you are holding on to old beliefs, or perhaps it is what other people will think that is getting in the way, or maybe you are having one of those "can you just not tell me and get a little sneaky" moments (yes, these thoughts exist for me too).

While we all want open, honest relationships with our kids - the open honesty brings with it a BUNCH of challenges that catch you off guard.

And honestly, I don't always know the right answer, it's not always neat and tidy over here, AND, it turns out, sometimes my daughter feels like a a giving permission, when really, I am just unsure of what to say do.

You guys. It is so messy.

And this is what I am sharing on the podcast this week. I hope you love it.

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Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit ENCORE OFFER

The Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit first went live in January of 2019. I gave participants each interview in its entirety, for a week of learning. It was a LOT of content for busy overwhelmed parents, so I built a curated navigation system, to help guide and support and I am sharing with you.

I have organized some of the many powerful messages from the interviews and complied them around the themes that are important to get us started.

Those themes include:

Hot topics like screens, sex, body image, risky behavior

Deepening our understanding of this time of life, for both your teen and you, as a parent

Strategies for maintaining and nurturing your relationship

Settling in when it gets messy

Doing our work to get out of their way

The Encore Offer is my gift - free to you. I think this wisdom is so important, I wanted to share with as many parents as possible. And I encourage you to share with others!

We will have more opportunities to discuss working together, but for the time being, I recommend just start by registering and join this learning experience.

Register now: http://www.joyfulcourage.com/tsfall19

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

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2019-08-14 15:00:00

Summer Series: Eps 198, Grounding Ourselves with Kerry Foreman

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am super excited to bring back my conversation from TWO YEARS AGO, Episode 98, with Kerry Foreman. I am THRILLED to be sharing this conversation with you. Kerry is someone that I follow on Instagram and am continuously inspired by how she shows up in the world.

Kerry has an online program for teens that is based in mindfulness. It is a 4 week research based course will allow your teen to develop beginning mindfulness skills and cultivate a mindfulness practice that will reduce stress and improve their mental health. Your teen will become empowered to take control of their well being, become more aware of thoughts and behaviors leading to higher accountability, increase their self esteem, and find an inner happiness not attached to anything external.

Kerry Foreman is a Registered Psychotherapist, with her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She is passionate about Mindfulness and has been practicing and teaching for 4 years. Kerry lives in Monument, Colorado with her patient husband, a teenager, a tween and two rescue dogs, Norman and Fern. Through using Mindfulness to increase her self awareness, she realized that during her childhood she had learned and practiced faulty coping skills. She targeted them one by one, and slowly changed the cycles of her family, learned new behaviors, and worked to create new, positive habits for life. She did this in order to have a successful marriage and to be the kind of Mom she wanted to be. She is passionate about her ability to create change. Change your thinking and it changes your life.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate? Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change? Learning to respond instead if react Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us? Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds? Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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Upcoming Programs from Joyful Courage

Hey all, just reminding you that I am getting ready for the fall. I have decided to RE-RELEASE the Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit in September, and then follow it with TWO Academy tracks in October – one for the 12-14ish crowd, and another for the parents of 15-18+ kids.

The summit is 15 interviews released over the course of a week. You have access during that week to listen. You also will have the option to purchase the interviews if you would like unlimited access.

The Joyful Courage Academy is a FIVE WEEK course is a learning opportunity for parents of teens that includes content, community and a powerful one on one call with me.

I am so excited!!! Make sure that you are all signed up for my newsletter so that you get all the info about how to sign up!! www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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And don’t forget there are lots of powerful convos happening over in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage and the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens group on FB – ask to join!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-07-30 15:00:00

Summer Series: Eps 197, Walking the Tightrope of Raising Teens with Kim Muench

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am bringing back my conversation with Kim Muench. Kim has been on the show a couple of times, but this episode we dig into how the parenting teens experience can really feel like a tight rope walk. Consider the content of LAST WEEK’s show, I thought it would be helpful to share this conversation.

Kim is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- When children arrive at adolescence
- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens
- Choosing your battles
- Defining your family values
- Setting an example for your kids
- Defining non-negotiables
- Ways to offer choices to your teenager
- Detaching from the outcome
- Prioritizing personal care and personal development
- The illusion of control
- Individuation and what that can look like
- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol
- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer
- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach
- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Twitter | Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-07-24 02:11:15

Summer Series: Eps 196, Kids, Drugs and my Conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore

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Today I am bringing back my conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore from episode 128. Liz and I go deep into the conversation of substance use and abuse and how to be in relationship with our kids while also navigating the very real decisions they may or may not decide to make. I know, this topic is tough. We all want our kid to be safe and healthy…. And we all feel the fear around the very real risks some of them take. This conversation is powerful and left me feeling more grounded about this super intense part of the parenting teens journey. Check it out.

Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to.

Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems.

So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful. She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy.

Content:

Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives? What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey Liz shares her moms’ analogy of the two boats Adolescent brain development It’s like a house being build bottom up Built through interactions and the environment kids experience Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up” Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home?? The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence National Academy of Sciences – research on the research Young people using Impacts learning and memory Significant effects on mental health “Regular use” – once every 30 days 2xs more likely to become depressed 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate Initially make people feel calm/relaxed Brain likes to do what’s easy so eventually wants more What about vaping Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids Some kids just the flavoring Not regulated – we don’t know what is in it Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life Rewires/primes the brain for addiction How do we get them to wait???? Relationship is the most powerful tool we have… Share our values… AND – THEY HAVE CRAZY REWARD CENTERS!!! GAH!!! Be present, listen, develop a strong relationship Set clear expectations – bring it up in a variety of ways Continue to bring it back to what their goals are, how might risky behavior get in the way? Help them to “see” the bigger picture Restorative practices: Hold them accountable while offering support What are you getting out of this? What were you thinking? How else can you get thrills? Social connection? Is this a mental health issue? Having these conversations REQUIRES the adults to be in solid relationship with their kids Also, our stuff shows up and gets in the way – fear, rigidity Ok to say, “this is disappointing” “this is hard for me” – they need to know how they are impacting their parents Teens aren’t great with nuance SLEEP MATTERS!! Natural consequences are powerful Boundaries are MESSY How do we balance nurture and structure?? It’s a dance How do we know when it really is a problem? Major changes in physical appearance Personality Participation Peer group changes Public image has changed org – online resources 20-minute guide – helping parents use motivational interviewing 20inuteguide.com Find your people! There is uncertainty and change AND we all have flexible, learning brains – we can be resilient!!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it means trying to see those amazing things that are happening as you move through adolescence – having the courage to stick with your values and follow our instincts…

Resources:
https://the20minuteguide.com/
http://www.drugfree.org/

Good reading on the teen brain:
Dan Siegel Brainstorm
Francis Jensen The Teenage Brain

Links for young people:
http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/
*This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens

http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/
*This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use

Where to find Liz:

Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction)
Linked in

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This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-07-16 15:00:00

Summer Series: Eps 195, Jessica Lahey Talks About the Gift of Failure

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Today we are going wayyyyy back to revisit Episode 21, my conversation with Jessica Lahey about what it means to be an “autonomy supportive” parents.

This was such a powerful revisit for me, four years later, as my kids settle into the teen years and all the challenges and celebrations they get to navigate. I would love to take away the pain and confusion that comes with this time – AND I know that my kids will have their deepest learning through experience…

Such a great conversation!

Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure...

It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure.

Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)...

We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are!

Mentions:

The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey
The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail
Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom
Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com
How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-07-09 15:00:00

Summer Series: Eps 194, Genevieve Simperingham on Peaceful Parenting and Teens

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Today we are going to revisit Episode 138, my conversation with Genevieve Simperingham about what peaceful parenting during the teen years looks like.

Genevieve Simperingham is a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us!

“It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.”

“We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches. The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity The biggest hang-ups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict? Reducing power struggles and rebellion Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices Reconnecting to move past conflict

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again.

Resources:

Aware parenting

Where to find Genevieve:

The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group
Facebook
Website

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This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

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2019-07-04 00:45:45

Eps 193: Revisiting my conversation about teens with Sharon Ballentine

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Today’s show is a revisit of Episode 57, my conversation with Sharon Ballantine.

With 3 children to parent, Sharon turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen!

Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children.

In this episode Sharon also discusses:

How to find answers within yourself You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery” Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change. Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine

Connect with Sharon:

Website - sharonballantine.com

Facebook/sharonballantine

Twitter/LifeCoachSB

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This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-06-25 15:00:00

Eps 192: Talking About Sensory Sensitive Kids with Shelley Francis

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Today’s guest is Shelley Francis. Shelly is an audiologist specializing in auditory processing disorder, and has been working with children for over 25 years. Over the years she has noticed a trend where more and more children are being seen as extra sensitive, not only with their physical senses but with their inner senses as well. By using her own sensitivities, she looks past a child's diagnosis and connects with their heart.

Today Shelly remains motivated by both her passion to help children and her unique perspective in childhood development, which she has described in her book, No Child Left Unwrapped: Understanding and Honoring the Gifts Every Child is Born With. It's her hope that her book and her teachings will help create the needed paradigm shifts within our education system and within our society that will better support our beautiful sensory sensitive children of today. Join us!

“Often we pigeonhole these children thinking that they need to be a certain way to be successful and then they can't be successful because that's not their nature. ”

“There's so much more information out there to receive than just information through our five senses.”

“Everybody needs to know that they're awesome.”

“These children then just feel like there's, there's so much wrong with them, but they're never really getting what's right with them, what's good with them, what's awesome about them.”

“Often the problem we see is a solution to a problem that we don't know about”

“We are always looking at the external for the answer. What if the answer is someplace else?”

“Nobody can deny the fact that we need more people that are empathic or empathetic and compassionate. And that's what we're getting.”

“Let's help our kids when they're young or as early as possible so they don't have to go through as much of these challenges that we've had to go through, that other sensitive people have had to go through in the past.”

“Entangled trauma for a sensitive soul is a recipe for disaster.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The difference between differences and disorder The need to recognize and honor differences Sensory differences - what are they and how do you recognize them? Sensory information, behavior and how they intersect The challenges of living heart wide open for kids who haven’t learned how to release the energy of others Baby steps for supporting sensitive kids The role of meditation as a tool Resilience: what it means and how we develop it Trauma, sensitivity and visualization to create filters for energy

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well it's, it's definitely, you know, joy and courage are two of the beautiful inner gifts that live in our heart. And it's funny you asked that because I, before the interview I actually was was thinking to myself that, you know, I was a little nervous about this. This is all new to me. Putting out a book was new to me, you know, I was very comfortable sitting in my office and having people come to me for so many years and now I'm going out into the world in a different way of being seen and heard and it can cause a little bit of anxiety and you know, nervous about it. But what I thought about was that, you know, tap into my own gifts of the heart and realize that joy and courage help me to get through being nervous about coming out and being seen and heard. So joy and courage are beautiful gifts of the heart that we can develop in our children that can help them navigate this world.

Resources:

No Child Left Unwrapped: Understanding and Honoring the Gifts Every Child is Born With

Where to find Shelly:

https://meetshelley.com/

Facebook

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This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-06-18 21:57:17

Eps 191: Back to the Basics of Positive Discipline

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Hey friends!

Can’t believe that it is nearly halfway through June!

- Book launch – IG Giveaway

- JCA Teens program

- NASAP and TP

- Looking ahead at the summer

- Planning for next fall

o More JCA Teens

o Possible JCA Tweens/Preteens

o Live workshops/classes

Today I want to get back to basics.

I am a Positive Discipline Trainer. My recent time in Tucson at NASAP and co-facilitating the TP has brought me back to the building blocks of positive discipline…. I am also finding myself on exploratory calls with new clients who are eager to do one on one work and looking for resources to share what the philosophy of PD is all about, with the Joyful Courage spin, or course.

So, I decided I would do a show about it. I am excited to share, and if you are someone who feels like you know all about PD, I invite you to listen from a place of curiosity and wonder – to catch yourself when you think “I know all of this” and shift into “what is here for me to learn?”

Because that is one of my favorite things about this work – there are so many layers. Right when I think “oh yeah, NOW I get it” life throws me something new, or my kids step into a new place of development, or I just simply find myself back in my old ways of thinking (because it is so darn familiar) and I realize, yet again, that there is more to learn….

Excited? Me too.

A lot of people hear the words, Positive Discipline and assume that it is all about being nice while we dole out consequences to our kids. Or they get really stuck on the word “positive “ and think it is all about being permissive and letting our kids run the show. Some people mistakenly believe that PD parents don’t ever want their kids to feel bad, and perhaps lump PD with helicoptering, coddling or enabling our kids.

This is totally NOT what PD is all about. To start, one thing I really appreciate about Positive Discipline is that it is a program that has it’s roots in Adlerian Psychology. Alfred Adler was one of the first social psychologists. He worked with individuals and families and found, time and time again, that human behavior was motivated by a sense of belonging and significance. He found that we are always moving towards, or moving from, our sense of connection and knowing that we matter. And when behavior starts to look like mischief, it can be linked back to the individuals perception of belonging and significance. Jane Nelsen, the author and co-author of the library of Positive Discipline books, talks about belonging and significance as our longing for love and responsibility.

- Kind and firm

- Belonging and significance

- Mutual respect/dignity for all

- Encouragement

- Social interest

- Take time for training

- The courage to be imperfect/mistakes as opportunities to learn

- We always have a choice

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2019-06-11 15:00:00

Eps 190: Getting our nutrition on with Lahana Vigliano

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Today’s guest is Lahana Vigliano. Lahana is a certified clinical nutritionist and CEO of Thrival Nutrition. She has her Bachelor's degree in Nutrition Science and currently is pursuing her Master's degree in Nutrition Science. Lahana and her team help support women who struggle with weight loss, hormone imbalances, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, and many other lingering issues that leaves women not feeling their best. She uses food as medicine as well as herbs and supplements when needed to support her clients. She looks at the whole body holistically, making sure women are understanding how nutrition, sleep, stress, and their environment impact their health. She creates tons of free resources on her blog, www.thrivalnutrition.com. We’re going to be discussing nutrition and stress. Join us!

“In the question of “Am I doing enough?” We often are actually doing too much..”

“Everybody's going to be okay if their schedule isn't completely jam-packed.”

“We miss self-care opportunities just because we aren't in the mindset of recognizing that we're having a self-care opportunity”

“Change isn't going to happen just because you want it to happen, but it will happen when we step into action.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is cortisol and what does it do? How cortisol impacts brain growth in kids Most common stressors among parents How sleep interacts with cortisol Cortisol, appetite, and cravings Self-care and reframing what that looks like How much sleep we should be getting to maintain optimal health Finding time for sleep and self-care The stories we tell ourselves about food Making food prep easier Creating barriers around foods that don’t serve us Easy protein sources Ways to make vegetables more accessible Self-limiting beliefs around the scarcity of time and resources Learning to give yourself grace The power of doing something you love Prioritizing self-care to be able to care for others

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So I think just, as my life as a mom, a business owner, a wife, I think it just means to really live life to the fullest, you know, having no fear and just being filled with joy with everything that you do, no matter what season, no matter what time in your life because it's meant to be because it's building me up to be the person God created me to be. So I'm just kind of going through life with that mantra.

Resources:

Under Pressure by Lisa Damour

Recipes on Lahana’s website

Where to find Lahana:

www.thrivalnutrition.com

Facebook

Instagram

Thrival Nutrition Podcast

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-06-04 15:00:00

Eps 189: Part Two of Using the Law of Attraction on the Parenting Journey

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Hey everybody!!!! So happy to be back with you for another solo show – SO MUCH HAPPENING RIGHT NOW!!!

When I work with clients, I always start the hour with a grounding meditation, because I think we should ALL be dropping into the present moment more often, and then I ask, “What are you celebrating?”

I love this question because it reminds my clients that there is always something to celebrate, something to look at as a gift. I know that sometimes if feels like a stretch, but when we challenge ourselves to find some gratitude, it shifts the energy, and opens up more possibilities.

I am going to start this show with my own celebrations:

First, I am celebrating all of the LOVE that the community has showered me with throughout this book launch – you people are AMAZING – thank you for the reviews you have written, the SM shout outs, the sweet comments you are sending my way. I do this work for all of us and I am so honored when you let me know that it makes a difference in your life!

Another celebration is that I am getting the opportunity to practice NOT TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY with my kids lately. Like, a lot. Wrapping up the school year, the upcoming move, and a few other life experiences have upped the level of stress at our house, and the kids are navigating it the best they can. I experience them being irritated, withdrawn, annoyed, not wanting to talk to me, like, AT ALL….. Often this type of behavior is very easy to translate into, “why are you TREATING ME LIKE THIS??” or, “It hurts y feelings when you shut me out” which is actually what I said out loud….

And guess what? They are doing the best they can with the tools they have. They are navigating their life right now and the behavior is simply an INDICATOR that they are in it.

It’s not about me. It’s not about me. It’s not about me….

Back to the celebration, I am in the fire of this! I am in the fire of this and THIS is my opportunity to walk my talk. THIS is when it matters that I CHOOSE to tell the story of “it’s not about me” – the goal is to NOT be in a co-dependent relationship with our children, right? So here it is. That chance to separate myself from my child’s experience/behavior and generate the emotions that I WANT to be feeling, regardless of what is happening for her.

Fiercely committed, yes, lovingly detached, always a work in progress.

Ok, are you ready for me to get on with it???

I want to do a follow up show to episode 187. To remind you, that was the show where I got super excited about the Law of Attraction, and specifically about the opportunity to tell a different story and generate a different experience.

I got a lot of curiosity about that show. And I love that, because I just find the who concept of the LOA so fascinating. What I enthusiastically shared about was how we can shift our interpretations of our current situation, and invite in something new and different.

Let me say, which I hope I said in Eps 187 – I am not a mental health expert, NOR am I a LOA expert. I am a gal who is super excited about my own experience with LOA and see that there is some overlap with the parenting journey.

First of all – let’s start with validating that life can be incredible challenging. Most, if not all of us have navigated hardship – this may be financial hardship, painful relationships, mental/physical health issues, painful loss. Some of us are experiencing these things right now. I want to acknowledge you. You may be in the hardest season of life right now. You may be hurting and really unable to see a future that could be any different than the one you are experiencing….

This is a really hard place to be. The last thing you want to hear is “just change your story and everything will be better” – it feels dismissive, as though the big things you are going through are trivial.

I get that.

AND, I am still standing for you. REGARDLESS of what is currently alive for you – and many of you share with me what you are navigating, you 100% have the power to shift the way you are experiencing it, what you believe about it.

And yes, rocks are hard and waters wet. The bills have to be paid. Your children need you. Your teenager is angry. You aren’t getting work. Your relationship sucks.

So here is my question to you – what do you want?

What do you want?

What do you want most?

Is what you want possible? Meaning, “I want to win the lottery” ok, what will that get you – financial freedom, ok….. so what you want is “financial freedom”- what might happen if you spend some time each day believing that things are in motion to bring financial freedom to you? Are you willing to try? What about creating a gratitude practice right now that includes the things that you currently have that you are grateful for – can you imagine the energy you woud be creating if this was a part of your daily experience? Might you spend more time in the mindset of things are ok? Of I have what I need? And might that shift your trajectory towards more opportunities and experiences? And if it doesn’t, how would it change your life to be in gratitude for what is right now?

“I want my kids needs to go away” or “I want my teenager to lose the anger” again, ok, what will that ultimately get you, a feeling of acceptance, ease, and connection? So maybe the request is “I want to feel acceptance, ease and connection” – and again, what might happen if you spent time each day FEELING those things? GENERATING acceptance, ease and connection for yourself, instead of needing it to come from the outside? What happens when we release our children from the job of making US feel a certain way? Might we show up better for them? Without this expectation and need form them to BE a certain way for us to experience good feelings? AND, you show up differently, so will they – we KNOW this! How many times have you had the experience of looking back at the end of the day and doing a face palm over all the times you made situations worse?? I know I am not alone.

Rocks are hard, water is wet – there are things we can’t change, that we can’t manifest away, but there is ALWAYS choice in how we show up to those things, and in that choice, we can be in the creation of something new. In the way we choose to talk about it, according to LOA, we are sending out signals and messages and vibrations that are being responded to in kind by the universe. http://www.thelawofattraction.com/use-law-attraction-combat-depression/

Again, I am not a mental health professional if you have something like depression going on, please seek the advice of a doctor. That being said, how can it hurt anyone to support them in changing the way they see/experience/talk about their life?

And also, again, there is NO BLAME HAPPENING HERE! None. Take what you want from what I shared and leave the rest behind. If you are resistant to what I shared, challenge yourself there. I do thing this is for everyone, available to everyone, and if you feel like this isn’t for you, I simply invite you to dig in there and do some exploring – and ask yourself, “but what if it was?”

You get to design your life, peeps!! And isn’t that so exciting???

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-05-28 15:10:00

Eps 188: Julie Neale Shares about Motherhood, Activism, and the Power of Voice

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Today’s guest is Mother's Quest founder, Julie Neale. Julie honors both the meaning and the mess of life and parenthood and believes our children and youth challenge us to grow into our best selves. She is on a mission to live a truly epic life and through her example inspire her children to do the same her for purpose.

Her for-purpose venture Mother's Quest provides inspiration, coaching, and community so that mothers and those who work with young people can connect to support and resources, fulfill their unique purpose and live their epic lives. After a 20 year career as a leader in youth-serving nonprofit organizations, Julie turned her focus to coaching training at the Coaches Training Institute and facilitating a process known as Reflection for youth development professionals. Through this and her parenting experience, she realized that mothers and those who mother need an opportunity to reflect on their own growth, dreams, and plans, and created Mother's Quest to champion them with common care .

She masterfully taps into her own curiosity and intuition to help her clients slow down from the business of life and work, reflect on what matters, clarify a future vision and move into action. In the fall of 2017, she founded the Women Podcasters in Solidarity initiative to raise awareness and dollars for social justice issues through the power of podcasting. The first season focused on anti-racism and police accountability. We're going to talk more about that initiative on today's show. When she's not wrestling with her kindergartner or driving her team to basketball practice, you can find her squeezing in 10 minutes of yoga and meditation, believing something is better than nothing and staying up way too late to watch a double hitter of Handmaid's Tale and Super Soul Sunday. Join us!

"It's the discomfort, I think, is when we know we're really on to something.”

“It really starts with like one step, one conversation and everything flows from there if you stay committed to the process.”

“Just say, ‘I'm not going to forget that this matters.’”

“Perfection is really a tool of white supremacy.”

“Even if you start with just one conversation, one relationship that you build or that you extend yourself out to on a cause that matters to you, that is a really powerful place to start with incredible ripple effect possible.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The importance of the modeling of continuing to grow and evolve as a human when that's the expectation we have of young people The value of holding a growth mindset around conversations about race Resources to learn about having conversations about race with our kids What is the Women Podcasters In Solidarity Initiative Giving our boys permission to cry and have emotion The power of conversation to create change Lessons learned from social justice activism How ego gets in the way of relationships Moving from transactional relationships to authentic connection

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, do you know Sage Hobbs? She's another amazing woman podcaster. She has a podcast called Naked Conversations and she interviewed me and we talk about some of these issues as well. She started with, "what does it mean to be brave or what is courage?" and I think at the time I remembered saying "It's like, you know, standing, I don't know if it was standing but standing for what matters to you. And you might have fear but moving through it anyways from a place of love."

And what I'm appreciating about this question about joyful courage is, taking action and standing for the things that matter, even if you might be feeling afraid and you do it anyway from a place of love. Along the way you also find joy. There have been so many moments where I've been cheering, you know, I'm thinking about some women in my community who have been sharing the posts about the Circle of Mother's campaign. And every time I see one more mother reach out to her community, one at a time, donations of $20 or $30, I am filled with joy. There is a joyfulness about, you know, seeing again, the seeds of what you've been planting growing in the ways that you hoped.

Resources:

Slay Like a Mother book

The Mask of Motherhood Ted Talk

Nicole Lee episode on Mother’s Quest podcast

So You Want to Talk About Race - Ijeoma Oiuo

womenpodcastersinsolidarity.com

Ep 37: Generations Rising for Gun Safety with Gloria Pan

Ep 07: Living Out Loud with Jenjii Hysten

Ep 48: Lessons Learned Since Episode 24: Intersectionality and the Age of the New Heroine with Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin

Moms Rising

Ep 54: Superheroes, Fighting Patriarchy, and Courageously Defeating Gun Violence with Ladd Everitt

One Pulse for America

Masterminds and Wingmen - Rosalind Wiseman

Ep 55: From Grief to Advocacy and a Circle of Mothers with Trayvon Martin’s Mother Sybrina Fulton

The Trayvon Martin Foundation

Circle of Mothers retreat

Lucy McBath’s Story

Mothers Against Police Brutality

EP33: Beyond the Trauma: Legacy, Compassion and Change with Mothers Against Police Brutality Co-Founder Sara Mokuria

EP27: On Living an E.P.I.C. Life with Julie Neale

Ep 49: A Conversation About Courage with Sage Hobbs and Julie Neale

Where to find Julie:

Mothersquest.com

Mother's Quest Podcast

Mother's Quest Facebook group

Mother's Quest business page

Mother’s Quest Instagram

Julie@mothersquest.com

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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2019-05-21 15:00:00

Eps 187: Solo show about the law of attraction and parenting

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Heyyyyyy you!

So much excitement – we got out house, kids are on board, book is getting attention, work is good…. Having the experience of seeing all that is abundant in my life has got me to thinking about how I have in the past seen abundance in the lives of others and thought “that will never be me” “I can’t do that” blah blah blah – and I’ve realized that in changing the story, I have changed what has unfolded in my life….. Its amazing.

Our story keeps us where we are

Listening to a lot of law of attraction – familiar?

IF not, let me read what it is from the lawofattraction.com - Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.

We live our stories, we tell the stories we live, we live the story, we tell the story…. Sometimes that can keep us stuck. It isn’t the “stuck” that is bad, it is whether or not we WANT to be stuck where we are that we get to be aware of….

For example – When the life you are experiencing feels really hard and you see your kids as out of control…. And you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the hard, the heavy, someone asks you how you are, you give a big sigh and you respond with “I’m ok, things are hard” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over.

Where is there space for something new? Where is there room to BELIEVE that there is another possibility?? That is where you are. You are resigned. Done and done.

A contrasting picture is one where things are going really well…. Kids are thriving, relationship is good, business is booming, there are so many possibilities opening up for you, and you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the trust, the excitement, someone asks you how you are, you give a big smile and you respond with “I’m amazing, things are so good” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over.

This space feels expansive, it feels like there is an expectancy of more goodness, you believe in possibility, you are open and hopeful.

We get to stay in our lane.

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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2019-05-14 15:00:00

Eps 186: Teasing apart Emotional Regulation with Anna Seewald

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My guest today is Anna Seewald. Anna is a Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author and Host of The Authentic Parenting Podcast. With background in psychology and education, having worked with children for 18 years, today she helps conscious moms and dads to become calm and connected to themselves and their children through trauma-informed education. She believes in helping children by helping parents. She has a private practice that specializes in parent education, where she provides one-on-one parent coaching, parenting, court ordered, and co-parenting classes. www.authenticparenting.com

"Emotional regulation is the ability to regulate our own emotions and choose actions that are appropriate in that situation.”

“We can teach those skills to our children today so that they can have a better life.”

“In order to teach self-regulation or regulation skills to our children, first and foremost, we need to learn those same skills ourselves.”

“There is no misbehavior. There is only behavior.”

“There's nothing wrong with your child. There's nothing wrong with you. This is just simple biology.”

“Our compassion level has to match the intensity of the emotion that child is feeling.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is emotional regulation? Gaining perspective on what it means when our child is emotionally dysregulated Why toddlers struggle with emotional regulation How emotional dysregulation of kids triggers parents How stress contributes to emotional dysregulation in parents How emotional regulation supports conflict resolution, jobs, relationships, academics What is co-regulation? How parents can stay regulated The Four-Step Calm Formula Coaching your child’s emotional regulation The role of compassion in emotional regulation Assessing the level of urgency in an emotionally dysregulated situation Language and emotional dysregulation Mindfulness and emotional dysregulation Validating our children’s feelings in a way that matches the intensity of their distress The impact of dysregulation on the verbal centers of the brain Dealing with emotional dysregulation under time constraints Post-dysregulation problem solving and how to nurture it What to do when your child won’t talk about their feelings The power of relationship in bringing emotional regulation Tips for listeners who are looking to get better at helping their children grow their self-regulation skills or themselves

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

When I hear these two words together, I sort of have this feeling of a child-like wonderous, courageous, right, children have this courage, they're present and they know. They're not diluted with all the societal stuff. So this pure courage that is also joyful, this child-like courage. That's how I have a sense about those two words together.

Resources:

Casey’s Episode on Authentic Parenting

Anna’s upcoming conference - Joyful25 to get $25 off your ticket

Where to find Anna:

Website

Facebook

Authentic Parenting Community on Facebook

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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2019-05-07 15:00:00

Eps 185: How to be fiercely committed and lovingly detached

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Today is solo show – woohoo!! I’ve been missing you all.

I am so excited to have been interviewed by some amazing gals out there in the Podcast world. Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast – www.authenticparenting.com/podcast had me on and we talked about building trust – both in ourselves and our kids. Loved every minute of it and can’t WAIT to meet Anna in person at her conference in May, the Authentic Parenting Conference – www.authenticparenting.com/conference.

I was also a guest on the TILT parenting podcast. Long time listeners of JC will know Debbie Reber from episodes 54 and 145. Debbie is the founder of TILT parenting and host of the TILT parenting podcast - http://www.tiltparenting.com/. Debbie and I talk about my book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey, and connect the dots around how doing our own work around self control and centering is useful for all parents, whether their children are typically or differently wired. Check out those shows!!!

Today I want to talk about a mantra that I have found useful time and time again. I learned it from a friend and mentor of mine – shout out to Denise Yost! – we saw each other for the first time in a while and when I asked her how she was, she responded with “fiercely committed, and lovingly detached”

Fiercely committed, lovingly detached.

It’s this a powerful come from for parenting?

What it means to be fiercely committed?

Creating the environment Meeting their needs Advocating for them Being kind and firm Encouraging them

What does it mean to be lovingly detached?

Allowing them to be who they are Allowing for them to build resiliency through navigating natural consequences Allowing them to be uncomfortable Trusting that they are on THEIR journey Letting go Giving them responsibility over their lives

What gets in the way?

Our dreams/vision for them Our past/failures/mistakes Our assumptions Our addiction to what other people think Our insecurity about “doing it wrong” Our emotional regulation (or lack of) Our lens of the “right/wrong” way

What will help us move towards “fiercely committed, lovingly detached”?

Two list exercise.

Challenges Everyone probably has a really similar list – YAY! Gifts Doubt that you have any particular job description… What about “happy”? Can we hope for content? Can we hope for healthy coping skills and resiliency? Can we hope for grounded and empowered? Remember the challenges are at the tip of the iceberg – and anything we “do” with the challenges should somehow, someway, teach/model/or allow our kids to PRACTICE the life skills we want them to embody.

A bit about DO.

So often parents want to know WHAT DO I DO?? In the moment tools This is a narrow mindset PD is a broader lens than in the moment. TRSUT in developing relationship TRUST that kids do better when they feel batter TRUST that all humans what to be connected and know that they matter and have influence In the moment? Keep everyone SAFE Acknowledge your child’s experience Look for solutions and/or ways of making things right

They are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment.

Just because they can tell you what they will do better next time during a calm moment does NOT mean they will access that when they are flipped Not about being naughty/bad – its about relationship, tools and practice

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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2019-04-30 15:10:00

Eps 184: The Montessori Toddler with Simone Davies

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Today’s guest is Simone Davis. Simone is the author of the new book, The Montessori Toddler. Simone is an AMI Association Montessori International Montessori Educator. She lives in Amsterdam where she runs parent-child Montessori classes at Jacaranda Tree Montessori. Simone is the author of a popular blog, The Montessori Notebook. She is also mother to two young adults. We will be discussing toddlers. Join us!

"In Montessori it's an alternative education system where we're actually following each unique child on their own unique individual development.”

“We start to think that toddlers are giving us a hard time when actually it's them having a hard time.”

“We help them as much as necessary and as little as possible.”

“Montessori is somewhere in between, we call it freedom within limits.”

“It's really just how to communicate in an effective, respectful way.”

“it's really about trusting your child that they're on their own unique timeline and that they're different to everybody else.”

“I think of us as planting that seed as well and nurturing it so that we really recognize that each child's individual, how can I support and help them become the best version of themselves?”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What the Montessori philosophy is all about The role of multi-age modeling in a Montessori environment The importance of taking time for training Preparing the environment and what that looks like How Montessori builds community and independence Teaching kids to care for things and each other: values-based learning How breaking down steps reduces assumptions and frustration The benefits of the Montessori approach Applying Montessori principles to your home What gets in the way of parents for seeing the gifts of the toddler years Practicing neutral observation without assumption like a scientist How the quest for Independence is similar in the teen and toddler years Setting kind and clear limits The value of a rich language environment with the space to try new things Getting comfortable with repeating yourself The role of making amends and modeling doing so yourself The most important thing for parents of young children to know in order to shift into the Montessori mindset

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I do think that you can bring joy back into parenting. Like when you think of parenting a toddler, like you mentioned, it can be hard work, but actually when you see the world through your child's eyes and see that they're not trying to give you a hard time, but they're just kind of super curious, they grabbed that toy out of that child's hand because they want to play with it right now. That's as simple as it is. It's not that they're trying to be naughty and so the courage to follow your child, support them, like "I'm not going to let you take that toy. Let's wait together." But in a very kind and gentle way. And then you'll just find you're more relaxed as a parent and you'll enjoy seeing what your toddler can show you because they have so much to show us about being in the present moment. They'll spot those weeds growing up through the pavers as you walk down the street, they remind us to really slow down and to enjoy every bit of life because I've even just used to spend half an hour going to get the newspaper with my son and we'd walk across the road. It was a block, but it was such a delight to just slow down and enjoy all those little moments, those little toddling legs. I, just, yeah, I'm so grateful for that time and that I didn't let it pass me by.

Resources:

Dan Siegel hand model of the brain video

“The Montessori Toddler” book

Where to find Simone:

Website

Facebook

Instagram

Youtube

Pinterest

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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2019-04-23 15:00:00

Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you.

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Winging it in the closet!

Thank you for the review, Lauren!

Listening to my clients and group participants…. Amazing the expansive way we can see/here for the other person.

The idea that kids get into mischief, make mistakes, AND well meaning, loving parents get stuck into thinking “they are manipulating me/trying to get what they want/playng me” Foundation of Adlerian theory – behavior being movement in the direction of belonging and significance As young children – always perceiving/interpreting/beliefs/action (private logic) Do I belong? Do I matter? Do I have influence? Am I safe? We are asking and answering those questions through our own lens, which has been developed over time, through experience and relationships we have lived through Kids are cut and dry, their private logic is experienced as “truth” Perception of emotional safety matters “I’m curious… I notice you don’t want to talk about problems after the fact…. Can you tell me about that?” Goal is to help them observe themselves Having a conversation about the conversation Curiosity has no agenda, it’s not a “method” Curiosity is non-judgmental and open THIS TAKES PRACTICE PEOPLE! Call it out when the space feels judge-y and own what we have brought in the past Asking VS Telling Experiential activity Play with this!! Remember there are layers!!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-04-16 15:00:00

Eps 182: Finding Your Family's Rhythm with Meagan Wilson

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My guest today is Meagan Wilson. Meagan is the founder of Whole Family Rhythms and living out her mission of helping other mothers, caregivers, and educators to create more clarity and balance within the home. Meagan’s website and seasonal Guides provide support, information, and resources on conscious parenting inspired by the earth, the seasons, and each family’s own unique values. Together, a community of over 25 thousand like-minded Mothers and educators gather each day on her Instagram feed to discuss parenting with love, connection and rhythm.

"Connecting with your family values is this parenting partner exercise.”

“Visual cues, no matter what, they are always very helpful.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What living with the rhythms of the earth and the seasons means What it means to align your life with your values How to document your family values in a meaningful way Discussing your values as co-parents with extended family and caregivers Routine vs rhythm, in-breath vs out-breath times and what it all means Using visuals to create daily habits What it means to be a loving authority Being the author of the boundaries that you're holding Natural consequences - what they are Connecting to something higher than yourself - not necessarily religion

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I cheated a little bit. I looked up the word joy because I told you I really like looking at words. It led me to rejoice, which really made sense to me because when I first read it and thought what's joyful courage? I thought, you know, it's courage to live in that moment. You know, really ground yourself in the present moment. And even if there is suffering around, even if your child is upset and you're holding a space for that, you know, you're really in the moment. And I think that the word rejoice kind of fits in there because it's this sense of gratitude. It's gratitude for the present moment no matter what it's bringing us. So it might not always be this like very happy joy, but it's this sense of gratitude for the present moment and having the courage to try and connect with that as often as we can during the day.

Resources:

Simplicity Parenting

Where to find:

Whole Family Rhythms website - Joyful Courage landing page

Instagram

Facebook

Pinterest

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

::::

Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Be a Subscriber

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2019-04-09 15:00:00

Eps 181: A Solo Show Exploring The Myths and Realities of Positive Parenting

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Hey there!!!

I’d like to start by giving a shout out to the most recent review that the show has received on iTunes – form You are my sunshine

I hear from so many of you about how this podcast support you – if you will, please take the time to write a review – it helps the show in so many ways, one of which is that it makes it more likely to get in front of new listeners!! Thank you –

Myths of Positive Parenting

That everything is peaceful all the time

PD activity that shows the continuum between kindness and firmness parenting styles

Kind AND firm can feel elusive

We are all human beings having a human experience

That kids don’t get into mischief

Kids and teens are perceiving what is happening around them, and making meaning out of what they are perceiving. They filter the world through their individual, developing lens – it makes sense that they get it wrong and response in a way that seems…. well…. Inconvenient.

Our kids and teens are in the process of DEVELOPING and LEARNING life skills. They’ve had limited experience. They are doing the best they can with the tools they have.

That you will enjoy every minute

Uhmmm, who started this rumor?? I guess there are parents out there that truly are in bliss-land all the time when it comes to their kids and parenting. I honestly don’t KNOW them, but maybe they exist. We can love our kids UNCONDITIONALLY, with NO DOUBT, for SURE, AND not enjoy every single minute. AND this does not make us bad parents.

Realities of Positive Parenting

It takes work

Many of us are coming into parenting with all sorts of baggage, and we are all on different parts of the journey of self awareness. Having children, I think, gives us a choice – 1. Resist growing and evolving and stay stuck in power struggles and pain, or 2. Be open to learning and growing and enjoy a connected relationship with our children.

And being open to learning and growing is no small thing. The journey puts everything that we believe, everything that we know to be true in front of us with the question, “what if this isn’t true?” “what if there is another way to see this?” “what if this is simply MY truth?”

And then we get to decide how tight to hold on, how attached to remain --- its wild!

It is more about your self regulation than anything else

I read a great article by Mona Delahooke about challenging behavior and self regulation. She says, “Too often what we expect from children makes a false assumption: that children possess “top-down” control that allows them to think about their bodies and minds and control their behaviors. The truth is that may behaviorally challenged children don’t yet have this ability.

Parents tend to believe that if a child sometimes displays control, then the child always has the ability to do so. That mistaken belief reveals an expectation gap—a disparity between adults’ assumptions and a child’s abilities.”

And – “Self-regulation is a developmental process that we can nurture and encourage in one way: through the experience of emotional co-regulation with caring and attuned adults.”

I love this, because it aligns with what I believe – this work is about US getting our shit together. Yes, of course we want the same for our kids AND, like Dr. Delahooke states, it requires parents to be regulated and attuned to their kids. Toddlers to teens, people.

You child’s behavior is not an accurate indicator of “doing it right”

This is a biggy – all along the way, right? From how they potty train to whether or not they experiment with substances – we are quick to take the blame when things go sideways. And while I DO believe there are ways of being in relationship with our kids that support them in learning and growing, there are also other factors at work – like brain development, temperament, beliefs they have about themselves and others, relationships they are navigating….

What if instead of judging ourselves by our children’s mistakes and mis-steps, we flip the whole thing over and start to tune in with what our relationship with our child is…??

Ask yourself, what does it look like when your child screws up? How are you showing up for them? What are the dots they are connecting? Is there space for them to actually TAKE and HOLD responsibility, or are you, perhaps, unknowingly holding that responsibility?

This has been coming up SO MUCH lately, with the parents in the Parenting Teen Academy that I am running, as well as with private clients AND in my own home. We have a vision for our kids, don’t we? I mean even the most evolved of us want our children to grow into healthy, happy, fulfilled adults, right? How many of us are asking our kids what THEY want? I know that is kind of a “duh” question, but really – WHAT DO THEY WANT?

And I am going to make a very unscientific, not yet backed by science claim, that kids in connected, supportive relationships with their parents, who have a basic idea of what they want, and are allowed to make mistakes, tend to feel that THEIR PATH IS THEIRS THE CREATE AND FOLLOW.

Doesn’t mean they don’t screw up, doesn’t mean they don’t feel the tension of failure – BUT THIS IS WHERE LIFE SKILLS GROW!! We learn through our experiences – and the learning goes next level when there is also someone there to love and support us when we flail

It is messy

Period. It just is. And even the people that you know who really have it together experience the messiness in one way or another. Doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of love. The messiness is a part of the territory, people, so grab a meditation cushion and settle in for the ride.

I say it all the time – I learned it from my friend and mentor, Jody McVittie – the most powerful tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship with nurture with our kids.

And I have a special message for those of you with teenagers right now – there isn’t time to dick around. IF you are finding it difficult to connect with your teen, if you are feeling worried or scared about where you are at, if you feel like maybe you’ve missed the window, YOU HAVE NOT. There is room for you to learn some new tools, there is time to rebuild relationship. You owe it to your kids to try something new and different.

The Parenting Teens Academy is all about this! It is a VALUABLE 4 weeks of community and content DESIGNED to support you in growing connection and responsibility in your home.

Each week you get:

Positive Discipline philosophy and strategies, as well as content around personal growth, to weave into your daily life. You get to be a part of a like minded group of parents who are IN IT WITH YOU and supporting you along the way. You get and hour long one on one call where you and I get to focus directly on what is most important to you right now, with actionable steps for following through with the learning. You get the ENTIRE Parenting Teens with PD Audio Summit as a resource to keep forever

But you have to apply before April 7th.

I am capping the program at 20 participants, and applications are already coming in. I want to be sure that we are a good fit, and that you are ready to do the work and be a part of the community.

If you’ve made it this far, I am going be direct and just say – apply now.

Here is what current participants are saying:

“I am using the content daily and I am feeling like the house and kids are happy for it!”

“There have been so many "ahas" in this program! The things my teen is going through is exactly what he's supposed to be experiencing. Though many of his behaviors are challenging right now, they will serve him well as he becomes independent. A lot of my behaviors are because I have been taking these changes personally and because of fear, and my response is the part of the equation that I can control. Looking closely at my own behavior and gradually making changes to my approach will help me build and maintain a positive relationship with my teen.”

“I have so much confidence in Casey's leadership. It feels very vulnerable to discuss our family challenges with others and dig into my own emotionally raw places. Casey has created a safe and supportive class environment by sharing her own experiences, wisdom and vulnerability while setting expectations of confidentiality and trust within our group.”

I am going to be unapologetic about encouraging you to apply now for this program. It is making a HUGE difference in the lives of parents, and I really don’t want you to miss your chance!!

Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt for more info and to apply. You will also find testimonials there, and FAQs - That is www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt - you will NOT be sorry. Again, I am taking applications through April 7th and the four week program begins Monday, May 6th.

CAN”T WAIT!!

Tune in again next week – I will be sharing an interview with Meagan Wilson – you may know her from Whole Family Rythms. She and I talk a lot about finding and creating flow in the routines of our family. LOVED this convo – until then – BIG LOVE!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Joyful Courage Academy for Parenting Teens

SO EXCITED to be offering up this 4 week program for parents of teens that are looking for support and a connected community to tease apart the challenges of this season of parenting.

Applications are available now through April 7th.
The program will run form May 6th through May 31st.

For more information and to apply go to
www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

"This is great stuff. I appreciate it so much. I feel so much less alone and the positive discipline reminders are so helpful."
- Mama Sue, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

"I really think a huge part of this program is you, Casey! You are so comfortable to talk to and hear from. Then combine that will the realness of the participants and I really am enjoying this!"
- Mama Bianca, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-04-02 15:00:00

Eps 180: Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis Discusses Navigating Trauma on the Parenting Journey

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Today’s guest is Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis. Before attending medical school ,Sarah helped to found a middle school called the Seattle Girls' School. As part of her 5 years with the Seattle girls' school she did admission and taught 6th grade Sarah attended University of Washington Medical School. She completed her pediatric residency at Seattle Children's, has worked in urgent care at Seattle Children's Hospital, then as a primary care physician.

She and her family later travelled to Guatemala for 3 months where she worked in a local hospital and her kids attended school. Her family will return again this year for a visit and to help launch a partnership between a group of Seattle pediatricians and the Guatemalan hospital.

Outside of works there is pursuing her yoga teaching training certificate and enjoys learning about sharing Integrative Medicine tools with her patients as part of a collaboration between Odessa Brown Children's Clinic and Arc of King County. She is helping devise the curriculum for a mindful self compassion course for Spanish speaking parents which she will co-facilitate in the spring.

Her husband Steve is a nonprofit executive director. She is a mom of two delightful children. Today we are talking about navigating our own self-healing. Join us!

"What child needs most is to have a whole adult in their lives”

“Parenting pushes us to our limits. It challenges our core beliefs and just really pushes us in all aspects of our life like no other arena.”

“Part of navigating parenting is being able to identify why we do what we do and how we feel what we feel and how we are expressing it day to day.”

“Early childhood experiences matter and it matters in a very deep way.”

“The ‘why’ matters.”

“What happens from here is really the most important part.”

“This healing is for everyone.”

“Behavior really is always you know movement towards belonging”

“These things are both universal and deeply personal.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Parenting from wholeness, not fear Adverse childhood events and how they affect parents and parenting Adverse childhood events study explained The dose response effect to adverse childhood events How ACE scores impact health (physical and mental) risks
The shadow side of resilience Behavior as a solution to a problem we don’t know about Epigenetics, what is it and what does it have to do with behavior? Being aware of what drives our internal “shark music” Exercising self-compassion around when you’re going to work on your issues How the way we talk to ourselves impacts how we talk to people in our family What embodiment means Encouraging embodiment in our kids Guiding conversations about embodiment Discussing screen time with our kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh gosh so joyful courage to me means being all in, you know, with the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful as Glennon Melton Doyle calls it. It is being willing to feel that discomfort and really trusting that it's going to go to a better place and that it does give you those really joyful moments and those transformative moments even if it, so my my daughter the other day as we were leaving, you know, I was being less than ideal, less than my best self going out the door and she looked at me and she said “Remember, mom, peace begins with me.” and I was like “Oh shoot!” But it’s so true and you know, it's like, we’re going to be okay.

Resources:

ACE Score Resources

Where to find Dr. Sarah:

Instagram

Facebook

Email sarahberganlewis@gmail.com

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Joyful Courage Academy for Parenting Teens

SO EXCITED to be offering up this 4 week program for parents of teens that are looking for support and a connected community to tease apart the challenges of this season of parenting.

Applications are available now through April 7th.
The program will run form May 6th through May 31st.

For more information and to apply go to
www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

"This is great stuff. I appreciate it so much. I feel so much less alone and the positive discipline reminders are so helpful."
- Mama Sue, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

"I really think a huge part of this program is you, Casey! You are so comfortable to talk to and hear from. Then combine that will the realness of the participants and I really am enjoying this!"
- Mama Bianca, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-03-26 15:00:00

Eps 179: SOLO show about trusting relationship and encouragement

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First – let me tell you how much I love the show, Parenthood, on Netflix....

Casey is on solo with you today digging into what it means to trust the process in the context of parenting, Positive Discipline, and leaning on our relationship as the most powerful way to influence our kids behavior.

What does this mean?

Hitting stage Homework stage

The relationships/ life skill development journey

When we are stuck in a place with our kids it is easy to believe that it will “always be like this”

Change happens over time If we want something to be different we have to BE different The dance we do with our kids has explicit steps, well choreographed over time All it take is one person to change the dance (YOU)

What it means to be in an honest open relationship with your children

What can feel like the dark side Curiosity and stalling when you don’t know what to do Notice your fear and let it guide you to pausing Gather your resources Listen to your gut

How to voice concerns without blaming or condemning (thermometer activity)

Encouraging vs discouraging out kids When they are discouraged by OUR behavior they shift OUT OF taking responsibility or even thinking about their own behavior

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
** This will only remain available for a limited time **

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-03-19 15:00:00

Eps 178: Beyond Birds and Bees with Bonnie J Rough

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Today’s guest is Bonnie J. Rough, who is an author, journalist, and speaker focusing on families, health, education, parenting and sexuality. Her latest book is Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality. has written recently for the New York Times on teaching young children about boundaries and consent and the value of childhood crushes, The Atlantic on both the link between sex ed and gender equality and improving school sex ed, the Washington Post on why it’s important to teach sex ed in mixed-gender groups, and New York Magazine on raising kids without sexual shame. Join us!

"What I learned is that the focus on helping kids wait longer is really not and should not be the end all. It’s really more about how can we prepare them to have a positive experience.”

“The Dutch parents who I met and the American ones too who have inspired me on this really are prioritizing their relationship with their kids over their ideals about what and when their kids will do things.”

“If we have those open lines of communication we actually have more control than if we forbid.”

“The more open and transparent we can be with our kids the better.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Cultural differences between the US and Amsterdam around gender equality, nudity, and sexuality Normalizing conversations about sexuality Separating nudity from eroticism Differences in sexual health outcomes between US and Dutch teenagers Ways to keep lines of communication open with your kids Double standards applied to boys and girls Why helping your child maintain cross-gender friendships The importance of knowing your kids’ friends What the research says about teenage sex What to do when you feel you’re late to the party in talking to your kids about sex The importance of not having an agenda when having those curious conversations with kids Owning when we feel awkward or uncomfortable Navigating fear and baggage to become available for conversations with our kids Expanding our own knowledge base to have better conversations

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh my gosh, to me joyful courage is all about that permission, that freeing sense of permission that I got from observing parents who knew that, you know, making little mistakes in a day to day conversation with our kids about healthy sexuality, it's meaningless, those little mistakes. The big thing that we're doing right, you know, having an interest in relating with them on the subject and so when I realize that, you know, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them too much, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them something that wasn't accurate one day and coming back, circling back to it another day. It's, you know, knowing that I could be gentle with myself and that we can actually have fun with the conversation once they kind of got to just be a thread through our normal life, you know, basically joyful courage for me is about going headlong into it, you know, with optimism and cheerfulness and hope and trust.

Resources:

Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality

Where to find Bonnie:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

Instagram

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
** This will only remain available for a limited time **

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-03-12 15:00:00

Casey is Solo talking about how we influence the iceberg

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How we influence the iceberg

Clients come to me to talk about kids behavior

Battles over homework Power struggles Screen time addiction Getting out the door We are mega focused on fixing those problems

The iceberg- behavior we see is a solution to a problem that we may or may not know about

Example that we played with a few weeks ago in parenting class:

Child won’t get ready to go in the morning and family is late getting out the door

Two options for response: What do I have to do to this kid to get her to cooperate? Bribes, threats, punishments What is happening for this child that is getting in the way?

Go to the source

Tell me about the mornings…. I notice that…. How are you feeling….. With new information you can make a plan together to support the child (and you)n in doing better

Transparency

Rowan talking about the future Agitated, closed off, defensive Often my response is irritated that she cant “have” the convo We both are discouraged and the convo is over Maybe I am engaging the wrong conversation Helpful to know what shows up for her when the invitation is to talk about future What is the experience? IS it only with me or others? Might there be a benefit to talking with someone else if not me? What would be useful about having a vision of the future? Deeper even still I notice when this is the conversation you….. I am curious about that? How does it feel when…..?

Sometimes our kids refuse to go there….

How do we let go? What do they need? Recognizing/acknowledging our tendency to hold on/get rigid/ let fear or our agenda drive us…. Mutual respect – respect for child and for self and the situation Honor who they are and their temperament I am ALL IN, lets go deep and swirl around and grow and learn and be super transparent and get it all out – don’t hold back. I process out loud and in the moment…. This is not the way of everyone, def not my daughter.

Summing it up:

Recognize how we are contributing to challenges Own it, and get curious about your child’s experience. Identify the ACTUAL problem Be an open, nonjudgmental listener Look for solutions (related respectful reasonable helpful) Be respectful Honor who you child is in word and action

Before I go….

I have a really exciting update on my BOOK!!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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2019-03-05 16:10:00

Eps 176: Sid Garza-Hillman talking about small steps to a thriving family

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Today’s guest is Sid Garza-Hillman, who is a podcaster and youtuber. He's the author of Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto and Raising Healthy Parents, Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family. Sid graduated from UCLA with a BA in philosophy and is a public speaker, certified nutritionist and Small Steps Coach. He teaches people around the world his unique small steps approach to healthy living at www.smallsteppers.com. His latest podcast, What Sid Thinks is currently available on iTunes. Sid is the Wellness Programs Director at the Stanford Inn Eco Resort. He's an ultra runner and race director for the Mendocino coast 50k trail ultra marathon. Join us!

"However you want to parent, you can't pull that off unless you're feeling good in your life”

“If we can sort of tip the scales in our favor most of the time, then we win the day”

“We are not robots. Our kids aren't robots. We're humans with human emotions and experiences and lenses and it's just so messy.”

“If we can really focus on how we be and how we show up, that's going to inspire, inform, empower and influence what we do.”

“Maybe the perfect version of the human being is one that that is about self care and compassion and has a core of ethic that informs their actions most of the time. ”

“Who am I at my best?”

“You've been defining yourself by how you've been in the external world, when that's been in complete conflict with actually what you stand for and what you value.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Breaking old patterns and habits - managing expectations The knowledge and implementation gap Small Stepping - what is it and what does Are poor choices your problem or your solution? Finding ways to manage stress and making choices to increase the likelihood of success Dissipating stress - making healthier choices to do so Setting the stage for actual change vs relying on willpower Identifying who you are as a parent Reminding yourself of who you are Change as a process of coming into alignment with who you really are Mistakes as a way to model the human experience Dealing with making mistakes with your kids What is a small step? The Goldilocks effect of stress - what is it and how do you find it?? The value of outside interests in parenting and relationships The role of joy in how you show up as a parent Finding 10 minute pockets of joy and what to fill it with The role of self care in our attitude towards parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I would say even people who listen to your podcast, I would say people who, who are even thinking about making improvements as a parent, there was a huge, to me, an inspiring level of courage there that we are saying in the midst of a very challenging world, that's all I'm sure has always been challenging, but we always think this is the most challenging, but for whatever reasons it seems challenging. Yet in spite of that and in spite of the things we read on the news about horrible things that happen in schools and all these kinds of things, in spite of that we're showing up and we're taking our kids and we're doing the best we can and we want to do better. And there's an amazing amount of courage in that simply that decision then to take that further and say, I not only want it, but I want to do it is again, it actually is courageous in the real true meaning of the word. Where I see joyful part of that is to me, my interpretation of that is that it is all to the end of joy, it is all to the end of we do this because we love our kids and we do this because we want to have a meaningful life. And that includes raising families, for many people. And you know, the most meaningful thing for me is raising my children and like we talked about before, you know, letting them see my flaws and letting and my wife letting them see her flaws and understanding there's a certain beauty in that and a joy in that and growing strong kids to be okay with their flaws is just awesome. So anyway, that's where I see joyful courage.

Resources:

Raising Healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family

Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto

Small Steppers

Where to find Sid:

Website

What Sid Thinks Podcast

Youtube

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2019-02-26 16:00:00

Eps 175: A candid conversation with my kids about screen time

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Snowy February in Washington state – wowzer!

Today I am talking about screens and technology

Exciting news- Lisa Damour, author of Untangled and new book Under Pressure: Confronting the epidemic of stress and anxiety in girls

Big deal How I get guests How many say no

My book has a launch date!!

Presale April 10th Official Launch May 20th Join newsletter to keep up with all of the book news and the incentives I am putting together for those of you that choose into presale Just go to joyfulcourage.com/join

iTunes Reviews!!!

From January, a five star review from @chrisnjess – “I found you through Birds and bees and kids and as your podcast began, it was as if you were speaking from my own mothering journey. I feel as if you are another angel in my continuing mothering journey. I found your podcast episode bery insightful, information, and affirming. I am tuning in!! Thank you @chrisnjess!!!! And you all know how much I love Amy Lang from Birds and Bees and kids – did you know she started a podcast too? It’s called “Just say this” - Check it out on itunes or wherever you are listening to podcasts The podcast also received a five star review earlier this month from @urfmama – “ Casey is like my long lost sister that I’ve never met. Like minded is an understatement. When I was feeling down with my mothering I searched “positive Discipline” in podcasts and eureka! Joyful Courage appeared like a bright star in the dark night. I eat this podcast up, I tell every parent I know about it. I find myself nodding while I listen as I do my housework. I feel like my hand is being held and I ‘m gently being led through this incredibly strategic yet unpredictable “chess game” of parenting. Do yourself a favor and soak in the wisdom that Joyful Courage so generously shares. Thank you, Casey, much love from the heartland.” THANK YOU @URFMAMA – one day, one day our paths will cross.

YES! Thank you to everyone that is jumping into itunes to leave reviews – this helps with my visibility – meaning more people are likely to find me – and it also just FEELS SO GOOD to read and know that what I am doing over here in the guest room of my house MATTERS.

Ok…. On to todays content.

Screens

Why?

It is coming up in the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens community, it is coming up in calls with clients, it is coming up in my own life and practice with my kids FOR CERTAIN: it is a big pain in the ass

Today I am going to share and inquiry from my own experience – not because I know the way, or I have it all figured out, but because I am IN IT with you.

Remember last April when I had Dr. Delaney Runston on and we talked about her documentary, Screenagers? There are so many pearls of wisdom and research in my convo with her – be sure to listen or relisten - http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/140 I also had a powerful conversation with one of my colleagues, a positive discipline Lead trainer, about this during the teen summit, which is available to invest in through the end of this month at joyfulcourage.com/teensummit I spoke with Kim Muench about this back in episode 82 – Parenting in the Age of Smart phones… Plus, it has come up in loads of other conversations IT’S NOT GOING AWAY

Here are some of the pain points I am hearing from the community AND experiencing myself:

Limits and boundaries How much to monitor Broken agreements The arguing The internet is forever How will they develop real relationship skills when everything is over text/IM/Snaps Online/SM bullying Sexting/nudes How much time is too much time to be on their phones How to be the lone parents who waits to get their child a phone How to support kids with friends when they don’t have SM/phones Restricting what they do/see on their devices Begin real and honest about our OWN (parents) phone use Using devices as avoidance/escape

Let’s check in with the kids:

How did you feel about making agreements about screens? What is your experience with social media? What do you not like about the phone and SM? What kinds of things do you see happening? Where do you feel like it gets in the way of life? Or do you? What do you like about it? How do you feel about me when I am on your case about your phone use? What do you see me modeling with my phone use? You have some restrictions on your phone – is that helpful?

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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2019-02-19 16:10:00

Eps 174: Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer

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Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!

"If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”

“We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”

“Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.”

“Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Being in response vs reaction Communication as a way of navigating conflict mindfully 3 foundations for successful conversations and effective communication The role of presence in communication The ambient stress of raising a child Owning our responses in times of stress Exercising self-compassion in relation to parenting-related stress Integrating moments of awareness into your day Creating daily rituals into mindfulness Mindfulness as a way to mitigate cumulative stress Mindfulness as a way to be present in our relationships Mindfulness as awareness and a way to raise our baseline kindness and presence Preparing for parenting with mindfulness through practicing Practice as a way of creating a new way of being Creating awareness of the impact of our actions on others Discussing our needs instead of blame Being realistic about our ability to meet all of our child’s needs Intention in communication and mindfulness Approaching communication from a place of curiosity and care Curiosity as a way of being The need for intention to be genuine Feelings of a reflection of needs Increasing emotional literacy to enhance communication Helping children to problem solve as an alternative to “consequences” Connecting before correcting Conflict as an opportunity for learning Where to start when you realize you need to improve your communication Learning to pause, be curious and consider the needs of others Connection through perspective shift

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So I think what joyful courage means to me is it's rooted in the recognition that the places that we struggle, the places that we're scared of the places that we feel pain actually hold the precious gift of our own freedom and when we recognize that having the courage to turn towards those places and to actually include them in our life and learn from them becomes a process that's joyful because we know why we're doing it. It's not just about “I've got to trudge through this” but we've experienced to some degree and have a deep faith that there's there's actually a gift waiting for me on the other side.

Resources:

Say What You Mean book

Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice (Nonviolent Communication Guides)

Text “guided” 44222 to sign up for a short ebook and free guided meditation series

Where to find Oren:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

Twitter

LinkedIn

Youtube

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2019-02-12 16:00:00

Eps 173 - Solo Show about the power of encouragement

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Recap of the summit

What happens when we start having real conversations? Community/support Seeing participants in real life Recognizing our attachments and course correcting Gratitude to guests Gratitude to participants $109 and it is your for eva

Saw Brene Brown

Seen before Appreciate her realness Familiar stories Story of daughter swimming and conversation around being brave IS winning Are these the conversations we are having with our kids? Are we explicit?

What we notice and what we speak

Life skills/qualities Negativity bias How often they ARE using tools/skills – it’s just when they don’t if feels so PAINFUL Our expectation of mastery Layers going on under the surface (meaning of behavior with Alison Smith 110, Iceberg Metaphor solo show 129)

What it takes to stay focused under the surface

Vulnerability and humility – it may not be about you Faith Trust/surrender – let go of your attachment to how you think it should be, and also the idea that you KNOW what’s happening for your child when they haven’t expressed it The idea that all humans ultimately want connecting and to know they matter. All of them. We are hard wired to connect

Our language and messages:

Week three at MMS we dug into encouragement vs praise Process oriented Really seeing the child Naming qualities with evidence My story this morning with the waffles and “what do I do with the mix?” I notice, I appreciate, I trust/know/have faith Not for the short term/immediate – but for the long term, internal voice (ep 136 with Kelly Bos about how NOT to become the voice of your child’s inner critic) it is about below the surface, about supporting our kids in changing what they believe about themselves

I am going to do a webinar this month in the Patreon community to diver deeper into encouragement and I hope you join in! The Joyful Courage Super Fam is a group of parents who are giving $10/month to the podcast to support in the sustainability and create a win/win. Members of the community enjoy monthly webinars and online support through our closed facebook page. Check it out at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

Have a beautiful week my friends!! I am going to be watching my tone this week and really working on the sometimes unspoken messages I am sending to my kids when I am less than mindful of what I am doing – and clean up any messes along the way.

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2019-02-05 16:00:00

Eps 172: Unlearning Supermom with Rachel Butler

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Today’s guest is Rachel Butler. She is an executive and professional coach, an organizational health expert, a wife and mother of 2 boys she is one of those unique women who is both powerhouse and presence. She's a master in organizational systems and she's worked with over 325 organizations. Rachel embodies what it means to be an empowered woman and a conscious mom. Rachel and her mama business partner Gillian Rowinski are the voices behind Unlearning SuperMom a feminist website that supports equal rights and opportunities for women and empowering all of us. We will be discussing Unlearning SuperMom. Join us!

"Our culture has clearly defined what being a good mom should look like and it is oppressive. The martyrdom of being busy, being agreeable, putting everyone else first, running yourself ragged. If super mom is who we become when we are in this world with our eyes closed then unlearning her is a deeply courageous feminist act.”

“Are we doing it because it's a “should” or are we doing it because it’s something that brings us joy?”

“It’s really hard not to get into comparison-itis.”

“I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The impact of childcare costs on returning to work for moms

-The emotional conflict about returning to work

-Keeping it real as a mom

-Who is super mom and where does she come from?

-Re-learning our inherent self-worth that is not based in accomplishment

-Motherhood and martyrdom: when we put ourselves last

-Motherhood messaging and where it comes from

-History of motherhood and women’s work

-The perceived value of women based on their relationship with their children

-Child centred social media messages and guilt

-The value of the messy middle

-Being aware of social media messaging and how it impacts us

-Where do you start unlearning super mom?

-Ways to dip your toe in to shifting towards unlearning super mom

-Stages of learning from awareness

-The mental load we carry

-Checking in with your body

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think one of the phrases that most triggering, I already even brought it up in this conversation, the triggering for me as a parent is like "Oh, just like enjoy every moment. It goes by so fast" that statement brings so much anxiety to me and I really understand the intention of it. I do. But for me and I feel like I'm, you know, I'm someone who's like maybe even obsessively working towards like enjoying, you know, trying to be with my kids and you know, so I find it really and I'm sort of a nostalgic person anyway. So anyway, I get a lot of anxiety from that statement and so I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it, you know.

So I think from, you know, the most impactful things, you know, profound things that I've learned as a parent has really come from, like, the more painful moments of the parent, like some of the suffering that's come, you know, and what I've been able to learn from that and being able to sort of meet it, you know, meet and face all of the really messy stuff and and I think that really is courage, right, like coming up to that really scary, whether it's personal work or complex relationships or whatever and showing up for them.

So I think the, you know, joyful courage to me in that context is really about looking for the meaning and just showing up in your life and allowing that to not, you know, that what's there to not be good or bad, you know and not treating happiness like it's the pinnacle of life experience.

Resources:

Women Who Run With The Wolves

16 Second Meditation

Unlearning Supermom Retreat

Where to find Sara:

Unlearning Supermom

Instagram

Facebook

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2019-01-29 16:00:00

Eps 171: Solo Show - Being the CALM inside the storm

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Today is a solo show all about being the calm inside the storm. That is the dream, isn’t it?? Listen in as I tease apart what this means and offer ideas and strategies around hwo to get there more often.

· Parenting class

· Summit

· Podcast conversations

· E+R=O

· Events and experiences…. 3 Bs

· What if nothing changes?

· What if all we have is how we feel inside of the experience?

· What do we want to BE/FEEL/CREATE??

· Feedback matters – internal vs external validation

· Parenting is a PART of our life that can feel like our WHOLE life

· Energy of emotion

· Personal work, small steps with Sid, ACES with Sarah – unlearning supermom

· Stuck in what it should look like

· What about acceptance of what is? What about surrender to not knowing the outcome?

· Influence yes. Hard work and practice, yes.

· AND you decide how to respond from life --- worry fear, that is the present moment experience you create. Openness, love, that is the present moment experience you create.

· Think about, bring about – energetically we are always influencing our life, our experience

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2019-01-22 16:00:00

Eps 170: Exploring the Energy of Emotion with Sara Harvey Yao

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Today’s guest is Sara Harvey Yao. Sara is a leadership consultant who has developed more than 4,000 leaders across the globe. She specializes in helping leaders navigate pressure and stress by staying present in the moment. Sara is the author of two books, Get Present and Drop In. She’s the mother of two teen boys and can speak firsthand to how the power of presence can transform the parenting experience. We will be discussing. Join us!

"Naming feelings opens the doorways for the energy of emotion to metabolize.”

“When we’re in emotion, we’re in a different part of our brain than the language center so it’s often hard to articulate what we’re feeling.”

“Anger...is a signal fire. Something is going on here. It’s a sign your boundaries have been crossed.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How naming emotions helps us process them

-Facilitating our movement through emotions in the parenting journey

-The power of acknowledging, even to ourselves, when we are struggling

-Feeling vs thinking

-Attitudes and beliefs about feelings that contribute to feeling “stuck”

-Helping our kids name and process feelings and the role of modeling

-Normalizing emotions for our kids

-Anger as a secondary emotion

-What’s really under anger

-Exploring our triggers and where our feelings are coming from

-Establishing a common language with your kids to discuss feelings

-How to support ourselves and our kids to regulate emotions

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

The courage to try something new and if that’s new to, I’m going to try a new parenting technique, if that means I’m going to sit with a feeling instead of stuffing it, I’m actually going to say something instead of not saying something, any new behavior to me takes deep, deep, deep courage and when we take those leaps into courage, for me it always ends up being really joyful. There’s such an empowered, a sense of empowerment and it leads to new opportunities or new directions that I might not have known about if I hadn’t been courageous. So those two words fit so beautifully together, it’s just joyful courageousness when we try something new.

Resources:

Get Present

Drop In

Dan Siegel, Flipping Your Lid

Listen to past show with Sara: Episode 68

Listen to Mindfulness Min Summit

Where to find Sara:

Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn

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2019-01-15 16:10:00

Eps 169: Solo Show, Compassion, Integrity and Bringing in 2019

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Eps 169

Happy New Year!!

Hope everyone had an easy breezy holiday. Grateful to friends and family and all the ways we were supported to enjoy the season.

So much to be excited about.

I want to share a couple of reviews that came through Apple Podcast last month– I am always so grateful when you all are willing to show up there and provide feedback.

This is the podcast I recommend most to friends. Casey has such a great way of breaking down parenthood challenges and offering tips and commiseration with humility. She doesn’t come across as preachy and she is in it with us! Her guests are phenomenal, her interviewing skills are wonderful and her solo show insights always resonate! She’s experiences the humility of parenthood at all stages and it’s evident she truly wants to help. Thank you, Casey! - Cassthurston

I’m a new listener and found you through your excellent Tina Payne Bryson interview. Just listened to your 2018 recap epsiode, as well. Great work! I’ve subscribed and will be a regular listener. I also look forward to reading your book! Thank you for your excellent, realistic parenting insights! – GAC Sunshine

Thank you so much, you two!! And listeners, if you’d like to rate and review the show, I am going to be sharing reviews here – you may hear your name!!! I am really going to be encouraging you all to be sharing the show. I know that the content of this podcast Is useful – you tell me so!!! And I want as many parents as possible to be listening in. This is how we raise a generation that can lead with compassion and integrity - by parenting this way. So in this context, parenting IS social justice. Lets all be a part of changing the course by not only doing our own work to be more attuned and empathetic parents, but to support others in the work as well!

This is something I will be talking a lot about in 2019. Compassion and integrity. And our DUTY to be engaging in conversations that support and forward others this way too! It can feel vulnerable and scary – but too bad. It has to happen.

Speaking of compassion and integrity – and for the sake of the conversation, I define compassion as sympathetic consciousness of another persons suffering and integrity as being honest, decent, and walking our talk – these are two big themes that I want to highlight this year – both in my personal practice of being a parent and a human on the planey, as well as with the people I work with and all of you.

Compassion and integrity.

Today, I am going to share a bit about a book I am reading that is really blowing my mind, it is called The Path is Everywhere; uncovering the jewels hidden within you, by Matt Lacata. If you’ve listened to the show for very long, you know that I love my energy worker/reiki master friend (shout out to Jessica) and she has turned me on to the work of Matt. I am using this book as part of my soul care time, reading a few pages in the morning to gather inspiration.

I am not very far into the book, and what I read this morning gave me pause and I decided that now would be the perfect time to bring it here to discuss with all of you.

The first part of the book is about what the author calls our “shadow” – this is the part of ourselves that lays dormant until it is jostled into wakefulness. Another way to make sense of it is the way that we feel when we are triggered. Our shadow is who takes over when we are riding the emotional freight train. The parts of ourselves that we may cloak in shame or guilt – the parts that we keep hidden.

Most of us have a tendency to want to hide our shadow, keep it deep inside of ourselves, not let it see the light of day. Many of us may think we are pretty successful with this – until we aren’t. A lot of the clients I see come to me because their shadow is making appearances in the parenting journey and they want to fix it, they want to make it go away.

I have a shadow as well – she wants control and order, she wants to know the outcome, and she wants everyone to be on her agenda. My shadow takes the behavior of others deeply personally, quickly manifesting fear, rejection and disrespect whenever I experience criticism and ridicule.

My shadow, your shadow – our shadows are a part of who we are. And if, like me, you subscribe to life being purposeful, then perhaps our shadow isn’t something that we should turn away from, or get rid of. Perhaps our shadow is something we can turn towards and get curious about.

You all know that I love the personal growth and development conversation. You know that I see parenting as one long personal growth and development workshop. And if you have been listening for any length of time, you know that I am deeply invested in supporting others in doing this work along with me.

This is why I am talking about shadow work today.

Matt Lacata writes:

It is important that we cultivate the intention to become more interested in the truth of our experience than in the demand to find relief from our symptoms.

Putting this in the context of parenting, especially as we look ahead to a brand new year and choosing in to growth and possibility, we can consider the truth of our experiences as taking a magnifying lens to our current struggles – bring in curiosity, ownership, honesty – and ask ourselves questions like: What am I meant to learn here? What is going on for me? What is the emotion that I can connect to right here right now? What is the story I am telling myself about my child? Myself? My safety?

Our response might begin with sounding like: “well, I am pissed!” but what is underneath that? If we get into the blame game, I invite us all to bring it back to a focus on self – because regardless of what triggers our reaction, how we react is wholely ours.

This takes practice friends, and a deep belief that there IS something to be learning from these interactions – faith that we CAN learn. Once we step into that truth – that we are all continuing to learn and evolve, then we can really trust that we can be the parent we want to be.

And what about the “demanding to find relief” part of what Matt wrote? Well we are already pretty skilled at this, aren’t we? Let’s consider some ways we find relief – we yell, we blame, we shame, we withdraw either physically or emotionally, some of us use substances – food, alcohol, drugs – to feel that relief.

And what do we know about all of these ways of relieving the pain and discomfort of our experience – they are short term and harmful to ourselves and others. BUT, they seem/feel easier than facing our shadow, and doing the inner work to grow and learn.

And clearly this is BIG. And it is HARD. And it requires us to decide to choose in time and time again…. AND YOU CAN. And isn’t this the ultimate act of compassion and integrity?? SELF compassion and PERSONAL integrity???

IF this is landing for you – bring it up to your therapist, or hire me to coach you and support you in this work, it is what I do! You don’t have to do this alone – the journey is meant to be traveled with others, IMO.

2019 is a year to walk together – to link arms and be in community. I will share a few ways to do that at the end of this podcast….

On a personal note – I want to share solidarity to all of you that deal with partners overseas and single parents. Ben has left us to do some big work in California on the electrical grid. We don’t know how long the work down there will take – could be months. I know it isn’t the SAME as being a single parent, I know that I have the luxury of knowing my partner will be coming home eventually, but I am looking at an extended period of time holding space for the kids without their dad here….

Clearly I will have ample opportunity to lean into the TRUTH of my experiences vs finding short term relief from what triggers me…

Self care will be crucial. Inviting my kids into more contribution will be crucial – this is a place we have gotten sloppy sloppy. Not that the kids aren’t contributing, just that there is very little structure, which makes me feel crazy and get naggy – no fun for anyone.

So yes, I am sure you will hear me mentioning missing my man over the next little bit….

As far as joyful courage is concerned – WOWZER! So much excitement. I have spent the last few weeks writing, recording and editing the interviews for the FIRST EVER parenting TEENS with Positive Discipline Audio Summit. OMG – it is SO GOOD!! 14 interviews with Positive Discipline Educators, Trainers and Lead Trainers who KNOW the trenches of raising teens. Register now – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit.

You will want to register, as I am going to be offering some sweet deals to those that register early in the month. I am so totally excited – again, the link is www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit . If you are a parent of a teenager, I also encourage you to hop into the Joyful Courage parents of teens FB group – this is a space of support and encouragement from other parents of teens. It is a small but growing group – full of insight and community, check it out.

I am also thrilled to invite you into the Joyful Courage Super Fam through Patreon. This is a group of people who value the podcast so much that they are contributing $10/month and enjoy the benefit of monthly webinars and online support from me. If $10 is to big of a stretch, you are welcome to get in there and contribute what you can. Find out more at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage.

Ahhhh – it is good to be back!! I missed you in December!!

Stay tuned, next week I will be sharing a powerful interview with return guest, Sarah Harvey Yoa talking about moving through the energy of emotions – the perfect follow up to todays topic!!! Big love!

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2019-01-08 16:30:00

Eps 168: A solo show reviewing 2018 and getting clear on what we want MOST

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Monday, December 3rd, 5pm PST and 8pm PST

How are you FEELING about the upcoming holiday season? Excited to host family? Hopeful to bring to life magic for your kids? Anxious about everything going to according to plan?? Bracing yourself for your children's behavior???

I am feeling all of that.

Join me for an hour of exploring how to create a holiday season that FEELS GOOD this year. You will get clear on what it is your want, and leave with tools that will support you in facilitating a holiday that values the connection and love we all crave during this season.

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Where we have been:

Podcast highlights

Tina Bryson first interview of the year – SO GOOD!

Got feisty and real about parenting politics in February

Two of my fave “peaceful parenting” experts – Rebeca Eanes and Genevieve Simperingham were on in March and April

You all LOVED Mary Tamborsky – daughter of Jane Nelsen coming on talking about being Raised with PD last May

My interview with Danielle Slaughter last July about privilege and how white women can do better was super powerful

DAN SIEGEL!!!

This fall has been RICH with interviews about teens, energetic connections, self care, supporting our partners….

Not to mention all of the messages I got from you about how much you love the solo shows – thank you for that.

Joyful Courage offers

I loved leading the JC10 twice this year and having that filter into the Joyful Courage Academy. So fun to work closer with you and support your growth in a really personal, connected way.

Next year is HUGE

Be on the look out for more JC10s and JCAs

Stay tuned in for the launch of my first BOOK (woah) in the spring

The patreon community will be on FIYA

AND – an audio summit that I will talk more about later is happening in January.

I am honored to serve you.

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Today’s content:

Parenting through the self doubt and worry

Parenting teens – why have a separate group?

What is missing from the resources?

The continuum of behavior

Attachment and getting a life

Intuition and trusting your gut

It gets ugly

Feeling isolated/shame/ Lisa Fuller episode 87

Why meditation/yoga/journaling matters

What it really means to be aware

The tight rope Kimberly Muench eps 158

Pendulum swing

Trust and surrender over and over again

It’s a crap shoot – the myth of “good parenting”

It’s their journey

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2018-11-27 16:00:00

Eps 167: Stacy Davison is on talking about the power of personal pep talks

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Today’s guest is Stacy Davison. Stacy is an instructional coach, entrepreneur, new mom to a rainbow baby boy. Last year Stacy and her husband started the company Personal Peptalk, a line of motivational and uplifting products which they design, illustrate, and self-publish. In her weekly motivational email on her podcast Stacy candidly shares how she dominates life challenges more mindfully. We will be discussing positivity in parenting and life. Join us!

"It’s easy to meditate up on the mountain top but eventually you have to come down and buy groceries.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Finding zen where we are - preparing for the Super Bowl moments

The challenges of motherhood and the importance of being real about that

Shifting perspective on suffering

Choosing love, joy and compassion in moments of difficulty

How hanging onto suffering hurts us

Letting go of people pleasing to ask for what you need

Positivity in times of sorrow

Supporting friends in times of loss

Love bombs - what they are, how they help

Shifting to empowerment and choosing what you want to cultivate

Being a joy detective

Choosing not to be defined by the things that have happened

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Right, so I’m just getting started on human-ing, I’m 9 months into the journey, but man, it’s been a difficult road already. I’ve had so many opportunities to feel like a failure, to feel guilty and unsure and my goodness, so courage, I think about the willingness to continue to move forward and to continue to take responsibility for my own experiences and my joy so rather than making my son responsible for how I feel, that willingness to continue to look at my own stuff, and look at, “Okay, I’m reacting to my son right now but I think, actually, this has to do with something about me and am I willing to take a look at that for both of our sakes?”

And I don’t think that’s easy. I don’t think the road that I’ve chosen, to be willing to look at the hard stuff, that’s not easy but it’s the path that I’m choosing to go down. I think, as a result, your phrase, your brand, Joyful Courage totally speaks to me. I’m on a mission to find joy and I talk about joy a lot but I think that it takes courage to be willing to look at if I’m not experiencing joy, it probably has a lot more to do with me than it does anyone else around me and I don’t think having a son is going to make that any easier, right, this is another character in my story to get to bring things up for me to get to see that I couldn’t see because I’d never been in the context of a parent. I’m so grateful for him already, for being my teacher and I am brave enough to be willing to continue to travel this road and I’m grateful for friends like you to help me and remind me when I get stuck and need some support because it’s not easy but we have each other, right, and that’s what I’m trying to create with Personal Pep Talk. I don’t have all the answers but I can help love you through it if you’re going through it too.

Resources:

Pep Talk Decks

Where to find:

Personal Pep Talk website - sign up for her Monday Morning Motivation

Personal Pep Talk podcast | Personal Pep Talk Instagram | Personal Pep Talk Tattoos | Personal Pep Talk Facebook

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2018-11-20 16:00:00

Eps 166: Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting

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Solo show!

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This week’s content:

Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers Toolbox metaphor Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment) The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom We can always do better Relationship matters!!!!!! When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone Fear takes us towards harsh punishment Mistakes are opportunities to learn There are always consequences Inviting out kids into relationship Can feel uncomfortable Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids Start paying attention to the body Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility

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2018-11-13 16:00:00

Eps 165: Tammy Keces, Head of Irvine Hebrew Day School, is on talking about turning hate into love

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Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us!

"None of us should feel alone.”

“People are children and they just want to belong.”

“God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.”

“We have to come together now, more than ever.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the wake of tragedy Meeting hate with love - finding inner resources in the face of fear Ways to encourage our kids to accept others The freeing power of compassion Parallels between the Torah and positive discipline How non-Jewish people can support the Jewish community Teaching our kids about leadership and civic responsibility

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point.

Resources:

We’re All Wonders book

Where to find Irvine Hebrew Day School:

Facebook

Website

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2018-11-06 16:00:00

Eps 164: Jeremy Schneider, MFT Talks About Navigating our Partners Parenting Journey

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Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us!

"Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.”

“A lot of parenting is about experimentation.”

“You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.”

“We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Journaling as a way to maintain perspective

-Examining our principles of parenting

-Deciding what kind of people we want to raise

-Personal growth and parenting - how they relate

-Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents

-Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads

-Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach

-The importance of parenting education

-Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain

-How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids

-Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach

-Parenting as a practice

-Finding harmony in parenting styles

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family.

I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos.

Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love.

And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it.

Resources:

Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Twitter

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2018-10-30 15:00:00

Eps 163: Solo show about raising boys, healthy masculinity, and growing emotional intelligence

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Solo Show this week!

First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life.

This week I am talking about our boys.

Toxic Masculinity We have to do better for our boys Partners – emotional intelligence is for everyone Posturing Fragile Egos Curiosity Routine of talking about how we feel It’s not coddling – if we keep toughening them up and having them suppress how they feel we will continue to see cultures where war and violence exist Not blaming Not from a place of fear We all get to be full humans Boys and their fear of labels Build Skills More than just “walk away” Saving face w/o being a dick Being a champion People like him. He can take criticism, doesn’t make people choose friends, and doesn’t blow off someone for a better offer. When people are harassed or demeaned, he intervenes. He’s comfortable hanging out with guys who are both inside and outside the box. He holds his own opinion, but still listens to others. TALK ABOUT IT BEING HARD VALIDATE THEIR EXPEREINCE SUPPORT THEM IN RESPONSES TO LIFE This isn’t helicoptering Belonging significance influence Aren’t feeling it, they will take it where they can Posturing Insecure OR entitled All boys fall into a role where they feel safe Talk to your boys Keep talking Talk about emotions Check your “should/shouldn’t’ at the door Be open, own your mistakes, encourage them when you see life skills on display Love them up

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2018-10-23 15:00:00

Eps 162: Exploring our Energetic Connection With our Children with Jennifer Griffin

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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home

-Taking back your power after trauma

-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?

- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations

-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles

- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations

- Resisting the urge to “fix”

- Understanding generational patterns

- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior

-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”

So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.

Resources:

Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article

Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift

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2018-10-16 15:00:00

Eps 161: Solo Show About Navigating Depression and Anxiety

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Solo show – sharing from personal experience

Recap what is happening with my teenager

If you listened last year, you heard the struggle

Online school

Clients I’ve worked with

Friends confiding in their experience

What the stats say

My experience of finding information

What my gut tells me

The ways the world has changed

Why it’s so hard

Weight of fear/possible outcomes

Lack of control

Our own stories

PD is belonging and significance

Power of perception

What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed

The challenge of meeting them where they’re at

My experience with this….

Not knowing what this means

The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being

The iceberg

Tip of the iceberg

They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out

Grades/friends/activities

Bad after school special

Under the surface

Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling

Feelings of disconnection

Out of control

Anxiety/depression

The range….

Not all or nothing

Grey areas

Our own beliefs about mental health

My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true

My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging

Enmeshment/codependency

I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family

My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am

Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom

Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter

NO BUENO

Getting spiritual

Carolyn Myss

My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan

Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie?

Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends

Letting go/backing off

Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request

Treatment

Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing

You do you. Make choices for your kids.

Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing

Ask permission

Give them space and trust they will come to you

Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off

Ask hard questions

GET SUPPORT

TALK TO EACH OTHER

Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard

Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story

Take care of yourself

Check your codependency

GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.

I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.

Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.

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2018-10-09 15:00:00

Eps 160: Debrena Jackson Gandy supports moms in living their JUICIEST lives!

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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit

-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters

-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs

-Getting past our own default mode

-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom

-When you feel bad about being good to self

-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default

-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it

-Finding a new default for sacred self-care

-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing

-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting

-Being the architect of our own lives

-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life

-Baby steps to getting back into alignment

-Debugging our programming

-How beliefs impact attraction

-The path to transformation

-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes

-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation

-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk

-The importance of asking in prayer

-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful. And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.

So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”

Resources:

Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more

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2018-10-02 15:00:00

Eps 159: Solo show exploring the power and messiness of Positive Discipline

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Returning to the practice

What Positive Discipline is to me….

Belong significance Iceberg Encouragement Kind and firm Presence/seeing/listening

What I have learned over time

My own beliefs get in the way Fear manifests as control and rigidity Trust is the theme of my life

What it means to have a practice

Taking care of me Exploring worthiness Developing intention Modeling what I want Returning to the basics Check assumptions Read and learn about development! What speaks to you??? So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen?

Things to keep in mind

There is no perfect Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me Its messy, not formulaic Blame serves no one There is no end point Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals Comparing is not useful – ever

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Joyful Courage Academy

Participants will gain confidence and clarity, as well as practical tools for navigating the parenting journey with love, connection and presence through deepening their understanding of Positive Discipline.

The power and momentum of learning inside of a like-minded community, a safe space where you can stretch, share authentically, and show up vulnerably is hard to quantify. The Joyful Courage Academy was created to be that place for you. It is a deep dive into the work of becoming ever more conscious and intentional as you bump up against the challenges of raising your kids.

Sign up now – www.joyfulcourage.com/academy

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Intention Bracelets

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Daily Intention Cards

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2018-09-25 15:00:00

Eps 158: Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

"I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.”

“We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.”

“What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?”

“You cannot give what you do not have.”

“These bumps is where we grow character.”

“You can be right or you can be in relationship."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community






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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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Intention Bracelets

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-09-18 15:00:00

Eps 157: SOLO SHOW - Back to school musings with Casey - stress, routines and being more aware

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SOLO SHOW!!

Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.

I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.

And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!

I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!

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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2018-09-11 15:00:00

Eps 156: Heather Chauvin Finds Herself Through Teaching her Children Meditation and Returning to Health

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Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!

"There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."

“We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”

“Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”

“Really, it’s about doing less.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids

- Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode

- Learning to live outside of survival mode

- Meditation as a tool in parenting and life

- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult

- Co-creation as mindfulness

- Mindfulness for older kids

- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids

- The value of quiet

- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness

- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look

- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that.

Resources:

Heather’s TEDx talk

Teach Your Kid To Meditate

Where to find Heather:

Website

Mom is in Control Podcast

Instagram

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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM

I would love LOVE to have you in the membership. It’s some good learning and community – EXACTLY what you need to transform the climate of your home.

Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2018-09-04 15:00:00

Eps 155: SOLO SHOW! Casey is on Deep Diving into Intuition

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SOLO SHOW – woohoo

Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J

Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom Making sense of our spiritual experience Finding intuition while navigating my parenting How conditioning supports/gets in the way How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt “What if the first hit is true?” “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?” Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice PRACTICE MATTERS Becoming an outside observer takes practice We move towards what is familiar Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss Trust What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition?

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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH the end of August!

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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Become a Joyful Courage PATRON!

You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM

I would love LOVE to have you in the membership. It’s some good learning and community – EXACTLY what you need to transform the climate of your home.

Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2018-08-28 15:00:00

Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

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Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!

"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are."

"Presence is a state of perceptive awareness."

"Information is transformation."

"You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The wheel of awareness - what it is and how it helps

-How awareness impacts your body and health

-How being present impacts the speed of the aging process

-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present

-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it

-Cultivating awareness

-Role modelling resilience

-How awareness feeds connection vs control

-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children

-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting

-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents

-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness

-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help

-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress

-The 3 O's what they mean

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage, to me, means having the presence of mind to dive into this receptive state of awareness, this hub of the wheel, to tap into the power of being connected with whatever arises inside of you, this kind of "bring it on" attitude, that's the courage. And the joy that arises as you liberate yourself from what a lot of us get imprisoned by which is "I have to control everything" instead, with presence, you let things emerge within you and then you let integration, connecting with your child, for example, in ways that are filled with love and connection that is honoring who your child is, honoring yourself too, but then linking together with compassionate, close relationships. That's what I think joyful courage and courageous joy is all about.

Resources:

Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human

Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

The Yes Brain

Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn

Where to find Dr. Siegel:

Facebook

Twitter

Youtube

Instagram

LinkedIn

Website

Mindsight Institute

UCLA Mindful Research Centre

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM

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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
October 26th - 28th, 2018

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH the end of August!

Find out more and regiter now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

2018-08-14 15:01:00

Eps 153: Yoga as a Parenting Tool With Naomi Gottlieb-Miller

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Today’s guest is Naomi Gottlieb-Miller. She is a mom, yoga teacher, self-care advocate, Air Force spouse and Star Trek nerd. She is passionate about working with busy moms and empowering them to take better care of themselves so they can re-write the story of what healthy motherhood feels like. She loves to make yoga fun and accessible for everyone she works with. Naomi is passionate about helping people find space for their daily yoga practice. We are discussing yoga, self care and parenting.

Join us!

"Yoga is not just what you do on your mat but it's how you live your life."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Parallels between yoga and parenting Self exploration in yoga and parenting How what we read influences our perception of how we parent Making decisions about what matters to us vs what we "should" do Yoga on social media and competition The five second rule and how it relates to self-care Habit change personality types Yoga as a practice and how it relates to ego The difference between simple and easy Feeling into action and engaging - in yoga and parenting Being with the discomfort in parenting and yoga Therapeutic irritation and holding space and identifying appropriate times for release Creating conscious conversations with our kids Baby steps for starting yoga Starting small as a way to inspire more future What is a mantra and why is it helpful?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Part of the reason that I was so jazzed to be featured on this podcast is I love the idea of Joyful Courage. When I think about Joyful Courage, there's a part of me that's actually reminded of a dear friend of mine who died, not to get all dark and sad but she loved climbing mountains. She was 6 feet tall and basically all Amazon woman, and she would just take on everything with this zest for life, you know, in everything that she did, whether it was climbing mountains or trying to raise a puppy or doing stream samples, checking water, it was just with this absolute utter joy but she was also, she would take on these challenges with this, "Life is meant to be lived." And so she passed away actually in 2005, so it's been quite a long time, she was young, she was 23, she had not yet turned 24, it was the same year I got my yoga teacher training and I try to live my life with that spirit now, with the idea of this zest for life. That things are going to be hard, things are going to be challenging, but damn it, I'm going to climb that mountain because if I didn't, how would I feel? If I didn't what would my life really feel like to me? And so that's the thing that I try to teach my kids and it's really challenging sometimes to encourage them to climb mountains, my kids are five and not yet two, but I want to share with them, because my five year old has that in her, she has that unquenchable thirst for life and she is so joyful and I think of her when I think of Joyful Courage. I think of this idea that life is meant to be lived and it is not easy and there are challenges but those mountains are meant to be climbed, no matter what. And so I try to impart that to my kids even in the really mundane moments when we are sitting at home and watching tv instead of outside climbing a mountain but it's like, "What do you want to do? How do you want to live your life?" Joyful Courage, I think that is a beautiful vision of how I want to move through the world.

Resources:

Naomi’s introductory Yoga videos on her Youtube channel NaomiGottliebMiller

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube: NaomiGottliebMiller

Transform Chaos To Calm Program

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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM

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Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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2018-07-31 15:00:00

Eps 152: No More Mean Girls With Katie Hurley

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Today’s guest is Katie Hurley. She is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specializing in anxiety disorders and stress and learning differences and author. She is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook and No More Mean Girls. She runs empowerment groups for girls. We are discussing girls and their relationships. Join us!

"We have to load them with coping skills because life is hard."

"Teach them coping skills. Teach them how to be kindness warriors. Teach them how to engage in a positive way on social media so that other girls start to follow suit...."

"We owe it to our girls to stop labelling them and let them grow into themselves."

"The more we fail and the more we fail out loud and accept it and acknowledge it and talk about it with other people, the more we grow as humans."

"We have to stop this cult of perfectionism among our girls and the best way to do that is to really open up to them and tell them what we go through."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The changing landscape in the world of girls and bullying

-Why these relationship challenges are starting earlier than ever

-Toxic competition and how it impacts relationships between girls

-How conditioning for high achievement can impact girls

-Shifts in educational expectations and how that affects children

-How attitudes towards sports have changed and what that has meant for girls

-Social emotional learning and the expectation it should happen at home vs. at school

-Belonging and significance in relationships between girls

-How building empathy can be helpful

-The Iceberg Metaphor and how it relates to conflict between girls

- Protective instincts and how they impact coaching empathy and understanding

-Clique behaviors and how they can impact girls

-Modelling those behaviors as parents and exercising compassion in moments of frustration

-Social media culture and how it removes safe spaces at home from interpersonal conflict between kids

-Checking off the boxes and how it can create overwhelm

-How not letting kids make choices can create stress and cause problems later in life

-The importance of coping skills and raising kindness warriors

-The impact of how we talk about school shooters and how that impacts their in-school relationships

-How social engineering by parents can impact our girls

-Understanding where parental interference in interests and social relationships can affect them

-Peer pressure among parents to "check the boxes" for our kids in terms of their extracurricular activities

-How labels affect and limit our girls

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, it just means being joyful about taking great leaps. It's okay wherever you land. Know that you're okay wherever you land and you can always make adjustments and give it another shot.

Resources:

The Happy Kid Handbook

No More Mean Girls

Where to find Katie:

PracticalKatie.com

Facebook

Twitter

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!! Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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2018-07-17 21:00:00

Eps 151: Bias, Privilege and How White Women Can Do Better With Danielle Slaughter

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My guest today is Danielle Slaughter. Danielle is an Academic turned mommy. She has Bachelors of Arts from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor and a Masters of Arts in English from Georgia State University. With a doctoral background in English, focusing on Rhetoric and Composition, Danielle likes to call herself and mothers like her “Mamademics”. Mamademics is a merging of her two “careers”–motherhood and academia. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and two sons were she runs both of her businesses Mamademics and Raising an Advocate.

Danielle has an award-winning blog as well as composition work. She is a 2015 recipient of the Type-A Parent’s We Still Blog Award. A 2016 recipient of the Conference on College Composition and Communications Scholar for the Dream Award. A BlogHer Voices of the Year Winner for 2016 and 2017. As well as a two-time nominee for an Iris Award for Most Engaging Content (2017 and 2018).

I found Danielle this past spring when I was searching for the voices of POC in the parenting world. If you listened to episode 142 you know that I made a pledge to search out a variety of voices and personalities to come and be on the show. Danielle does really important work, and I recently completed a course she offers called “Raising an Advocate” – Danielle has written a lot about the role white women play in raising social justice advocates, as well as the power white women also have to get in the way of social justice….

Where to find Danielle:

Facebook | Mamademics Website
Check out Mamedemics Website to get to the Raising an Advocate course!

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2018-07-03 15:00:00

Eps 150: Solo Show! Getting Real About Transitioning Into Summer

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SOLO SHOW!!

I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!! Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements.

Enjoy!

Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior

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2018-06-26 15:00:00

Eps 149: Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families

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Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families. Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be

-What the Miracle Morning includes

-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning

-The power of waking on your own terms

-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources

-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids

-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right

-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning

-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine

-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning

-Starting small with habit changes

-How to encourage older kids to participate

-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time

-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.

Resources:

The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families
The Miracle Morning for College Students
The Miracle Morning

Where to find Lindsay:

GratefulParent.com
Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families

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2018-06-19 15:00:00

Eps 148: Solo Show - Teasing Apart the External Parenting Experience from the Internal Experience

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Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today.

Wading through our experience to support out children The writing process Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli External and internal are both happening at the same time Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of Sometimes the internal response “works” for us We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement We (parents) go into “fix it” mode Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of? Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor Episode 129 Episode 103 Episode 110 Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together

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2018-06-12 15:00:00

Eps 147: Empowered Stepmothering (and mothering in general...) wth Nathalie Savell

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Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us!

“People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there."

"It doesn't take as much as you think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered."

"Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The mind body connection

-Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness

-The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries

-Building connection in step-parenting

-Control and step-parenting - finding balance

-Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child

-Parenting and commitment

-Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate

-Establishing boundaries for self care

-Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time

-The value of couple work in being a united front

-Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them.

Resources:

Interview series on NathalieSavell.com

Where to find Nathalie:

Nathaliesavell.com
Stepmom Strong Coaching group on Facebook
Stepmom Strong Facebook page
Stepmom Strong Coaching on Instagram

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2018-06-05 15:00:00

Eps 146: Solo Show - Supporting the Village

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Solo show:

Here we are – a new week, another school shooting Expanding from the family unit and into the community Choices we have when we see people who need help We are all in this together – in this life It takes a village and we have to look out for each other All kids deserve advocates, not just our kids What can I do to support connection, feeling felt, feeling understood, inside of my community? Political conflict in the family…. My story and how my brother saved the day Conscious parenting is really conscious living Understanding is not the same as accepting or valuing what others value Belonging and significance matters for children AND adults Listening to understand We get to look out for each other “I see you” Declaring to inquire about mentorship at the local HS What is the action you will take?

Resources mentioned:

Eps 133 – Politics and Parenting

Take the Next Step – Community resource organization

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2018-05-29 15:00:00

Eps 145: Deborah Reber is on Talking About Raising Differently Wired Kids

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Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us!

“It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical."

"Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception"

"We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working."

"Behavior is all information. It isn't personal."

"Judgment is where we create separation."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The loneliness of raising a differently wired kid Accommodating kids with invisible differences Introversion vs extroversion and how they are perceived in the classroom Applying positive discipline parenting philosophies to differently wired kids Managing expectations in problem solving when raising neuro atypical kids Becoming aware of our own judgements of other people's children How to be a support when you see a child acting out in public Approaching neuro differences as parents and discussing them with our kids Educators and parents of neuro-typical kids as allies to parents of neuro atypical kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together.

Resources:

Differently Wired

Where to find Deborah:

Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram

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2018-05-22 15:15:00

Eps 144: Solo Show - is Positive Discipline permissive? No.

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SOLO SHOW!!

Teacher posted about a difficult class…

Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….”

Lets talk about this:

The swing from authoritarian to permissive What is kind and firm Authoritative – structure and freedom The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about. No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship Mutual respect? Problem solving? Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.

Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.

Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”

Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.

Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.

KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION.

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2018-05-15 15:00:00

Eps 143: Mary Nelsen-Tamborski Talks About Making Mistakes and Being Raised with PD

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Today’s guest is Mary Nelsen-Tamborski, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego and also a certified positive discipline trainer and parent coach. Mary’s formal training is secondary to the life training she got from her mother, Dr. Jane Nelsen, a marriage and family therapist and author of all the positive discipline books. Mary is a popular keynote speaker, and workshop presenter. We are discussing mistakes as opportunities to learn. Join us!

“I find that these principles are universal so they are great, obviously for parents and children but it's also just human beings in general.”

"The lens that we see our kids out of is everyone being equally worthy of dignity and respect it's no wonder that how we treat our kids , it should be a mirror of how we treat our friends and how we treat our coworkers and the checkers at the grocery store. It's about human to human relationships."

"You have to break down to break through." `

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How positive discipline impacts other relationships in our lives Positive discipline as a theory and the reality of implementation Mistakes as opportunities to learn and navigating shame Solutions oriented problem solving versus consequences Dealing with your own emotional stuff when encountering challenging behaviour The role of regular family meetings The importance of apologies Making amends after we make mistakes What to do when you "lose it" Post-conflict communication and rebuilding closeness Managing triggers and being called out on your stuff Learning and growing as a family in positive discipline Assumptions & consequences - 3 R's & 1 H Brain development and consequences Genuine curiosity and asking curious questions to improve communication Curiosity as a way of being Shedding ego to engage in a meaningful way Connecting early to keep the lines of communication open for adolescence Treating your children as friends - a positive discipline perspective

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I really think it's about accepting yourself as being an imperfect parent, that there's no such thing as a perfect parent. You would think I would have an amazing advantage being raised by the author, being trained and being a therapist. Like, I really should have this parenting gig down and there's a helpful reminder with my children daily that there is no such thing as a perfect parent and just having, like you had said in the beginning, progress. Progress, not perfection and just really kind of being gentle with yourself that when you do blow it, because you will, having the courage to accept it, admit it, and then repair it and know that this courage stuff is never ending. We get opportunities to practice it daily and you can have joy in that when you accept, when you shift your thinking, as in, "Oh my gosh, I was imperfect, ha! I have an opportunity to teach my child that they get to be imperfect too and that we are in this journey together, this is the first time that I've been a mom of a 9 year or a 5 year old or an 11 year old, this my first time. I can read all the books in the world, I can even be raised by the author and guess what? It's still my first time." So, I'm doing the best I can and the courage to accept that I'm not perfect and we get to be joyful while we go through that process.

Resources:

Jane Nelsen’s book Serenity

Where to find Mary:
Website

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Where to find Mary:

Website

2018-05-08 15:00:00

Eps 142: Collective impact and moving past my whitness

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Thank you community! You are all so amazing.

TOGETHER we are making an impact on the world.

Today is a solo show…. I am getting vulnerable once again and shedding light on an area that I am not so proud of AND see as an opportunity for us all to grow as humans in relationship with each other.

The white bubble.

I know I am not the only person that lives a really homogenous life when it comes to diversity. AND, I know that many of you can celebrate LOTS of diversity in your life and relationships.

Today I just wanted to call myself and anyone else in the community out in an effort to DO BETTER. The world is made up of a variety of people, from a diverse pool of cultures, experiences, and backgrounds.

When I look out into the “positive parenting” world, I see lots of white faces. When I think about the people that listen to my show and participate in my community, I see a lot of white faces.

I love all those white faces AND, I am recognizing that I could do more to bring more diverse voices onto the show and into our community – and into MY personal life as well. AND, because I get to speak from the platform of Joyful Courage, I get to be transparent and invite you all to join me.

Whew!

I am excited! We all get to take steps to shift the way the world is currently operating, and those of us with privilege, even if it is simply the color of our skin, have a part to play in that shift. I hope you will join me.

And for those of you in the community who ARE people of color, please feel free to reach out and let me know how I can do better! I value your voice. Help me find guests that can tell stories and give support from a POV that is different from my middle class white woman lens.

I love you all!

Thank you for listening!!

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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2018-05-01 15:00:00

Eps 141: Local Teen and her Mom on to Talk About Making A DIFFERENCE in the World

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So thrilled to have Aubrey and Becky Springer on today to talk about how to take small steps to make a big difference.

We all hope that our children will be in service to the world, that they will WANT to make a difference, to make the world a better place.

Today’s show highlights what it can look like when being in contribution to the community is the default for a family – and how the way we impact our kids, through the experiences we invite them into, can impact the world.

“We all belong to each other.” – Mama Becky

Links mentioned:

Support Aubrey’s Project
Glennon Doyle
Together Rising
Union Gospel Mission

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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-04-24 15:00:00

Eps 140: Documentary Filmmaker, Delaney Ruston, is on Talking About Screens and Our Kids

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Today’s guest is Delaney Ruston, a documentary filmmaker. She believes in helping kids find balance in our tech filled world. She loves engaging audiences in solution centered discussions. We are discussing her work making the film Screenagers and how to support our kids with finding balance. Join us!

“Just start with one simple change that you want to make and the real growth is when you talk about that with your kids and you show them your journey in trying to make that change.”

“Maybe just pick one thing that you could decide to do that you’re not using tech as you normally would.”

“The key, the most absolute important thing about it is starting with something positive about technology.”

“The brain has a really hard time holding two opposite truths at the same time and it’s particularly hard for kids and teens.”

“To find sustainable solutions for tech balance and the child and teen brain we’re going to have to work together.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The neuroscience of technology use and over-use The individual child and technology use - micro impacts vs metadata Setting attainable goals for technology use reduction The power of changing just one thing Recognizing the difficulty of cognitive dissonance in conversations about technology Reducing defensiveness in technology conversations Why 30% of families are struggling with daily fights about technology What studies say about parent device use Distracted parenting and interactions with our kids Learning new skills: how this changes as kids grow Self-regulation and parenting involvement in creating limits Setting aside screen free time as a family Technology and sleep - setting boundaries for wellness Guidelines for young kids to set the stage for later technology use Sleep time, Study time and Family time - technology boundaries Digital etiquette ideas When you’ve given up and need to reign things in Taking stock of how we use our time How to bring Screenagers into your community School policies: prevalence of device use in middle and high schools Impact of device use on academics in middle and high schools

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think life as a learning adventure is why we are on this planet and any time we can change any situation into a learning mentality it saves the day 100% So, we can only put ourselves in those situations when we have the courage to try something new and to know that when we change our mindset to realize, “Hey, what did I learn from that situation?” That’s where the real joy comes from.

Resources:

Tech Talk Tuesdays

Where to find Delaney:

Screenagersmovie.com l Delaneyruston.com

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-04-17 15:00:00

Eps 139: Solo Show About Authenticity, Choosing In and Being Awesome

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Today’s podcast was created in honor of the 159 parents who enrolled and engaged in the #joyfulcourage10.

Today we complete the program, and begin the practice of sustaining the magic and community that was created there, because of the people who showed up vulnerably, authentically, and courageously.

I love what I get to do.

Thank you to each of you that spent the last 10 days building relationship with me and each other. YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Alright – today’s theme for the show is authenticity and transparency.

Parenting as a journey

Not a secret No hidden agenda About being in human relationship

Modeling

Life skills are learned through modeling Vulnerability and authenticity is learned through modeling Kicking it up a notch is lifting up and OUT of the modeling and being transparent

Human relationships are messy.

Parenting is messy.

Life-iing is messy.

When we actively, intentionally, decide to SHIFT the way we parent, we set ourselves up to be exposed as flawed humans.

Hello vulnerability Hello humility Hello contrary to the “adults are always right”

While the whole Positive Discipline/Positive Parenting approach is SIMPLE – I mean, choose relationship and trust that your children will lean life skills – WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL???

Right, and then we are in life and it is a shit show.

Defeat Self talk Comparison-itis Giving up

Be transparent!

All that modeling??? It is an opportunity to lift up and out of your experience and help you kids see you connecting the dots (or your partner, or you parent, sibling, friend)

Share your journey Ask for help Let people know HOW you would like feedback

If you know with your WHOLE HEART that this makes sense to you, that you believe in this style of parenting, then also believe with your WHOLE HEART that you are capable, worthy and ENOUGH to pull this off.

DO NOT READ PERFECT HERE.

Progress not perfection Progress not perfection Progress not perfection.

TRANSFORMATION IS NOT A FUTURE EVENT. IT IS A PRESENT ACTIVITY. – Jillian Michaels (thank you Jessie for setting e straight on this quote)

Transformation IS happening. Every time you choose into this work.

Do you all know what I mean by “choose in?”

When you hug and melt into it When you breathe it out When you connect When you get curious When you drop your shoulders When you’re mindful When you step away When you try something new When you interrupt your pattern When you acknowledge your self talk, and replace it with an affirmation When you drop the urgency When you drop the rigidity When you listen to your body When you look for perspective When you remember the iceberg When you let go of what society, your parents, your neighbors, your inlaws think you SHOULD DO When you let your heart lead When you honor you

ALL OF THIS IS CHOOSING IN.

So DO IT!

Be unapologetic.

And when it is hard, just own that – THIS MORNING IS FUCKING HARD! Maybe don’t scream it out loud, but acknowledge that it IS hard some days. And exhausting. And thankless.

AND, you GET TO choos in.

You GET TO.

You are being CALLED TO THIS WORK, otherwise, why would you be doing it? Why would you be reading the books and article and listening to the podcast???

I see you. I know you are listening. I know you are trying. I know that your heart swells with love when you look at your sleeping child, and that your mind spins when that same child is awake and impossibly inconsolable….. I see you.

And you can do this. You ARE doing this.

And I see you.

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This is five weeks of deep diving, exploring, practicing, stretching and growing.

Members of the academy will enjoy weekly webinars where we will all be LIVE together, on the screen, interacting in real time around the weeks lessons

ALSO members will enjoy weekly Q and A sessions with me, again, LIVE together

They will enjoy an safe, supporting and ENGAGED FB group for accountability, sharing and celebration.

And VIP members will also receive two one on one coaching calls with me during the course.

The learning outcomes of this program are:

Participants will gain a deeper understanding of behavior and create a vision for their parenting Participants will identify where gaps exist and learn tools for strengthening relationships and expectations Participants will learn language that empowers, inspire and motivates their family. Participants will grow their leadership through proactive and in the moment practices Participants will uncover the deep wisdom that ALREADY exists inside of themselves and use it to show up and design their life

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/academy

Love each and every one of you so much!!!!

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-04-10 15:00:00

Eps 138: Peaceful Parenting our Teens with Genevieve Simperingham

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Today’s guest is Genevieve Simperingham, a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us!

“It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.”

“We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches. The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity The biggest hangups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict? Reducing power struggles and rebellion Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices Reconnecting to move past conflict

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again.

Resources:

Aware parenting

Where to find Genevieve:

The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group

Facebook

Website

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Intention Bracelets

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-04-03 15:00:00

Eps 137: A solo show to inspire you into ACTION to create the LIFE you want!!

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Gratitude to the community, specifically my one on one clients and the membership.

Themes Collective experience My own filter Always in the learning, growing, developing Humaning is simple, not easy

Knowing what we want, not taking action to get there

Identifying what we want Reading/learning tools/strategies Sitting on the outside of it Procrastination Self talk Sneak messages Fear/worthiness/perfectionism

Finding Nemo

Working so hard to get to his goal Dealing with the monkey mind of dory (is there a metaphor here?) Perseverance despite fear Turtle Come into the current, dude Less effort Less resistance More results Bigger possibilities

The Secret/ Law of Attraction / FLOW

What is this all about? The Law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from "pure energy", and that through the process of "like energy attracting like energy" a person can improve their own health, wealth and personal relationships. What you think about you bring about Yes thought AND actively taking steps that move you in that direction NEMO HAD TO SAY YES AND ENTER THE FLOW TO BE A PART OF THE FLOW

What the heck does this have to do with parenting?

Paying attention to the flow What makes it easy to be easy going, even when things are challenging? What do you notice about when your family is more easy going? Under the surface/foundation Routines Common language Needs are met Connected Belonging and significance Have you defined where you want to flow to take you? More of a way of being than a destination, unless you are setting specific goals It is an ACTIVE process – we must be in action FLOW state shows up because it all becomes easier the more we choose in

Choosing in

I say this a lot Being a yes Seizing the opportunities to “practice” the tools TAKING ACTION

If you want things to BE different then you need to BE different

Interrupting the patters Discover what your patterns are Pay attention/mindfulness Ex – phone use When do you use it What do you notice about right before you pick it up? Where do you use it What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern DECIDING to do something different/interrupting Leaving it upstairs in the morning Ex – getting mad at my teenager/taking her angst personally When do you do it What do you notice about right before you yell Where are you typically when you yell What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern DECIDING to practice something different Internal work of allowing HER to be responsible for her feelings and allowing ME to be responsible for mine Creating a “one liner” that supports me in knowing/sharing where I am at Taking care of myself Offering my daughter opportunities to develop tools for taking care of herself – LIFE SKILL Ex – being resentful that no one “helps” When do you do it What do you notice about right before resentment shows up Where are you typically when you are feeling What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern DECIDING to practice something different Creating routines around that particular time of the day Getting face to face and asking for help Smiling Putting on music Being an invitation instead of a nag

All starts with out DECISION to be different

The voices in our head “talking to ourselves” true self talking with ego true self has our back – ego THINKS it has our back but is really about what is easy, safe and /or familiar Simple, but maybe not easy The quicker we decide to act on an idea, the more likely we will follow through Getting out of bed 5 second rule Melanie Robbins (hopefully a guest) Example: Snooze button Exercise Making a smoothie Finishing this outline Putting down my phone Staying off social media

Challenge for you today:

Be clear on the direction you WANT to be going, and WHY you want to go there Notice your patterns that are getting in your way Interrupt the patterns by doing something different Repeat all day long

Listen, we all thrive in community. We thrive when we are being supported and joined by a bunch of other people who are diving into the practices and the work that we are engaging in. Do yourself a favor and JOIN THE #JOYFULCOURAGE10 – this is EXACTLY what you need to step into your OWN flow of parenting. This is the jumpstart you need to manifest the family vibe that you desire. We are on a collective journey, and the #JC10 is the party bus you didn’t know that you wanted on – disco ball and all!! Sign up RIGHT NOW, we start April 1st – www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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2018-03-27 15:00:00

Eps 136: Kelly Bos talks about how NOT to become your child's inner critic

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Today’s guest is Kelly Flannigan Bos, MSW. Kelly is a clinical therapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. As a well-known relationship expert, she has appeared in a professional capacity in countless media markets as a guest and writer. Today we are discussing an article she wrote in November called, “I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic.” Join us!

“We’re not always going to have the perfect reactions and we can certainly apologize when we haven’t kept our cool or done the right thing. There’s ways to model other things like resolution or forgiveness.”

“Does a good brow beating make us feel better, more able to face the challenges ahead of us? Usually not. We often shame ourselves into inertia. Would we ever say these words to a friend? There is a better way. We can be kind to ourselves and get better results and I definitely want kind self talk for my kids."

“It’s a constant journey but it’s one I know I want to be on so I just keep starting again and if I can be self-compassionate to myself, then I have something to give outside as well.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The role of self-compassion in parenting The three tenets of self-compassion Moving past the isolation of the shame of not meeting our own expectations Over-identification with our problems and how mindfulness can make a difference Worry and the reality of the lack of accuracy of our future prediction Phases of parenting and worry Brain development and parenting – developmental challenges Getting out of the emotional whirlwind The role of self-comfort, recognizing and acknowledging our own suffering Self-compassion as a way to build capacity for parenting challenges Self-compassion and it’s relationship to compassion we can extend to others Self-compassion for avoiding depletion Making self-compassion part of common language in the family Family meetings as a vehicle for communicating self-compassion Separating the child from the behavior Problem solving to avoid over identification with problems Fear as a barrier to positive parenting Self care as self-compassion What to do when you have no room for self-care

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think this question is such a great one and it changes often a little bit depending on what we are talking about but I wanted to bring it back to a self-compassion idea. So, joyful courage, when we talk about it today, I’m thinking it really means being able to be loving to myself, even when I don’t feel very lovable, be loving to myself and find that sense of happiness and peace and joy. So being able to push on through things, to hold myself, and know that I’m going to get through this, and I can do something different tomorrow, or I can continue to do it this way, whatever it is, whatever the message needs to be, courageously give yourself that message and you push forward and you’re loving and kind, not judge yourself and finding that you’re a part of many, many people struggling today and you’re not the problem. You’re okay in this moment.

Resources:

I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic

Where to find Kelly:

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Website

Youtube

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2018-03-20 15:00:00

Eps 135: Solo Show - Follow up of the Politics Show and Letting go of Attachment

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Not a lot of show notes today… I am sharing the feedback and follow through of the Parents and Politics show and talking about letting go of attachment and fear.

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2018-03-13 15:00:00

Eps 134: Featuring Rebecca Eanes and the Positive Parenting Movement

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Today’s guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond. Join us!

“I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.”

“Parenting is one long personal development workshop.”

“My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.”

“I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.”

“Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.”

“Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don’t have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there’s not a destination yet that I’ve seen. It’s an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations Positive parenting and what it really means The role of mutual respect in positive parenting Identifying underlying issues under disrespect Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior. Leadership in positive parenting Non-negotiables and positive parenting The value in personal development and parenting Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook Discipline as part of the parenting pie 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think Joyful Courage means being brave enough to go against the grain to live true to you and confident enough to believe in yourself and to do so with joy.

Resources:

Positive Parents website
The Positive Parenting Workbook
The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting
Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide
Positive Parenting In Action

Where to find Rebecca:

Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Positive Parents website
Pinterest
Creative Child Magazine
Mother.ly

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2018-03-06 16:00:00

Eps 133: Politics and Parenting

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Politics and Parenting - can we keep them separate?

Do we want to?

Issues:

Birth Breastfeeding Spanking Schooling Homework

I am recoding Thursday, Feb 22, a week ago, a community woke up to realize that the tragedy that had rocked their community the day before was not a nightmare. 19 year old Nicholas Cruz showed up at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida and killed 17 people. Kids, adults, 17 people who are now being grieved by friends and family….

I am done with this headline

I am also done with feeling like I can’t speak my truth for fear of offending people.

I dove into following the teens that have been energized into action.

I posted my thoughts on my personal FB page.

Wednesday, I posted on my IG account and linked the post to my FB Biz page.

I posted a meme that said “The children almost broken by the world will become the adults who save it.” Crediting Frank Warren for the quote. Here is the post I wrote:

So here is how I am feeling.... My kids aren’t broken, HOWEVER this school shooting/random acts of violence BS had got to stop. Humans are hurting, guns are too available, schools aren’t secure - there is a lot going on under the surface here. I will no longer complain about it, I will ACT. I will be IN ACTION. And with this action I will inspire others to see how THEY can act, including the two that matter most to me.
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Rowan and Ian, I love you. I will fight for you. I will get uncomfortable, and curious, and let go of what people think to fight for YOUR future and YOUR safety. You, and ALL kids deserve this from the adults that came before you.
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Stay tuned.

I got one reply from one of my followers asking me to not get political. She acknowledged that wasn’t why she followed me and advised me to continue on as the resource I am in creating change. She was totally respectful in her tone, however, she was clear with her message.

Sorry, not sorry. I will not be silent. I am a political being. I speak about things that relate to the public affairs of our country. WE ARE RAISING ADULTS – future leaders and citizens of the world – how is that not political???

I don’t imagine that everyone who follows Joyful Courage share all of my views. I am guessing that you all realize that I am a flaming liberal – and if you didn’t, well, cats out of the bag.

I support dignity and respect for all humans. Black lives matter to me. Immigrant lives matter to me. Woman having equal rights, including rights over their body matters to me. I believe that people have the right to gather and worship in a way that works for them. I believe in climate change and the duty we ALL have to honor the earth. I believe that people who are raised to feel connected, loved and as though they matter don’t show up at public or private events with the intent to kill. I do not believe that private citizens have the right to own weapons of war. I believe our schools should be safe and secure. I do not believe that teachers should have guns. I believe in a health care system that is proactive in supporting the mentally ill. I believe in compassion. I believe in civic action.

Some of what I just shared may turn you off to my work and my message. I hope it doesn’t, because at the most foundational level, I believe in love – living it, spreading it, being it. And that is what will save the world.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself” is a message of all major religions – and when THIS is our come-from, when THIS message is what we start to live, the world will be healed.

And I acknowledge that it isn’t easy. It isn’t easy to put ourselves out there and speak our truths

we don’t want to offend we don’t want to argue we worry about what people think we want everyone to be comfortable

And right now the environment is so TOXIC! It is so challenging to talk about the issues that matter the most to us. It is scary to get vulnerable and say what we need to say, to lead from the front.

Today I declare that I am no longer going to worry about ruffling feathers. I will continue to share the content that you have come to love, and I will elevate it by pushing my fear aside.

I will bring more of myself.

I will bring more of my authenticity and truth.

I will leave behind wanting everyone to like me.

I am done with school shootings, and my guess is you are too.

It is time to have hard conversations.

It is time to look for solutions.

It is time to get involved, ask questions, reach out and trust that your voice is valued.

Humans are hurting.

Weapons of war are too available.

Schools aren’t secure.

So lets do something about it.

Here is what I have done over the past few days….

I emailed the admin team at my daughters HS to voice my concern and to educate myself around what is already in place. I also offered myself as a community member to partner with them to be in deeper relationships with parents and community about how they are keeping our kids safe, including fostering a sense of belonging. I put the monthly principal/parent meet-and-greets on my calendar so that I would go. I am not planning on being on the outside looking in anymore. I want those administrators to know me by name. I want to support them, challenge them and work with them to make my kids schools better I put in a call to our district “safety and risk assessment” person. I left a message and will follow up with an email. Again, I invited myself into the conversation and offered myself as a partner in the work he is already doing. I emailed out local “community coalition” about an idea of have for running a film festival in our town to highlight documentaries that invite conversations around teens and screens, toxic masculinity, the message our girls are getting, and anxiety. I am going to foster community conversations about the things so many of us have opinions and fears about but ARENT TALKING ABOUT. All of this on top of calling my representative and showing up to meetings and rallies for smarter gun laws….

This may not have been why you tuned into the podcast today. I thought I gave a pretty good heads up with the title “Parenting and Politics”. The good news is there are over 100 other episodes you can turn to today for parenting tips and inspiration.

Today is about action.

Thank you.

Thank you for listening. I feel as though it is my responsibility to speak these truth, it is my responsibility to not pretend that all is well and good and that the world our children are inheriting is going to magically be peaceful.

We are in the creation of the world we live in. Everything we do is part of the creation.

What we buy Who we vote for Whether or not we speak up when we get that intuitive hit that what we are witnessing is wrong

We are in the creation even when WE DO NOTHING. Even when we turn away because it is too hard, or too scary, or too vulnerable – we are STILL in the creation of the world we live in.

I choose to be in action. And I hope you join me.

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2018-02-27 16:00:00

Eps 132: A conversation with Liz Haske about letting go of worry

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Today’s guest is Liz Haske, a mother, an international teacher and instructional coach and children’s book author. She has over 15 years elementary classroom experience in six different countries and is super passionate about empowering children to be their most courageous selves. Her first book, When Worry Takes Hold, was released in November 2017 and aims to help young children cope with worry by using mindful breathing. Join us!

“It’s about a young girl who’s afraid to do different things and she realizes that she has the power inside her and if she puts her hands on her belly, she can be brave.”

“Stories help us be better people if we are reading the right books”

“We want to empower these little people to realize they can do it. They can develop the tools and they can be confident and they can face what is presented to them in healthy and positive ways.”

“Worry gets bigger and bigger the more that we do it.”

“We can be brave, and everyone has worries … whether it’s helping our kids be brave or us being brave to face whatever parenting challenge it may be.”

“Courage is just a deep breath away.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The basis & inspiration for When Worry Takes Hold Worry as a visitor and the power to ask it to leave Acknowledging & expecting worry Externalizing worry and setting limits Following the why – getting to the root of big feelings Manifestations and signs of worry Addressing underlying worry vs. addressing the behaviors Taking a wide view to problem solving worry How not to take worry related behaviors personally Why trying to talk kids out of their worries doesn’t work Managing worry as a practice Tools for managing worry and how they can be applied to other situations Mindful breathing vs. “Let’s take some deep breaths” The power of mindful breathing How to know when to get professional help (duration, intensity, impact, age appropriateness) Journaling worries to find patterns and icebergs Liz’s upcoming projects on the horizon The importance of exercising self-compassion

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I’m going to answer it in two parts. I’d say the first way, which is for me personally, is finally having the courage to do something I’ve been dreaming about for over ten years and the absolute joy of going through the learning process of taking an idea and turning it into something that kids can hold in their hands and hopefully read and become better because of it. So that is absolutely Joyful Courage.

But I think it’s also in the context of kids the feeling that they get when they face their fear and they realize how empowered they are. It might not be breathing is their strategy, but perhaps When Worry Takes Hold might be a book that just starts a conversation with them and an adult in their life that, “Yeah, you know what, I do get a bit worried. Let’s try this breathing thing.” And, “You know what? This breathing thing isn’t working for me.” But then, there’s now this opening for more tools to be introduced because it’s something that’s been brought to the surface.

The book ends with, “Courage is just a deep breath away.” I think that when children can realize this, they’re empowered. There’s really a pure sense of pride and joy in being brave and finding courage and so that’s kind of what it means to me.

Resources:

When Worry Takes Hold

Where to find Liz:

Facebook

Instagram

Website

Twitter

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2018-02-20 16:00:00

Eps 131: How to use routines to shift the dynamics in your home

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A solo show all about routines

There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier. You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids.

Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group

mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues We find ourselves putting out fires We find ourselves being overtaxed We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand…. We blame out kids We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult” We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb….

Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about.

The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely.

AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines.

Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn’t working!!!

GREAT.

Not all routines are created equal.

Routines are made to be modified and changed up Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL

Mindset matters

This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface

Take a deeper look…

Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side” Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important. Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone Brainstorm ideas/tasks Offer/counter offer if you need to Be open to their ideas Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?” “What is your idea for that?” Cross off anything that isn’t related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the list Work together to create a visual reminder Try it for a week

But, but, but what if it doesn’t “work”

Shifting to what is “helpful” Focus on the process TRUST the process Let the routine be the boss Revisit at the end of the week and tweak if necessary

So many routines….

Housework Family Meetings Mornings Afterschool Bedtime

Take it slow – let go of urgency

How you show up matters

Be in your practice of curiosity and openness – catch yourself when you want to judge (roshambo/coin flip) Currently in a new routine of turning screens off from 5-7. This is a slippery place for us….

Recently posted a handout on the live and love page – will put it in the show notes – for walking through this process. Let me know if you have any questions!

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2018-02-13 16:00:00

Eps 130: Ending the Food Battle with Julie Miller

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Julie Miller is on with us!

Julie is on a mission to live a delicious life and bring joy back to the family dinner table. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator who holds a Master’s Degree in Human Nutrition from Bastyr University. She has over 16 years’ experience sharing food and nutrition philosophy with diverse communities throughout the Seattle area.

Julie currently specializes in helping families find their own positive feeding dynamic so that food is less of a parenting chore and more of a nourishing experience. She believes that connection between adults, children and food sets the stage for a lifetime of personal wellness, including healthy eating. Julie knows, as a Mom, that the constant demand to prepare and serve food can get just a wee bit tiring and tricky. She emphasizes reducing the drama and eating minimally processed foods, while ensuring that children and adults meet their nutritional needs to support growth, development and wellbeing.

Content:

Got into nutrition for personal reasons Had kids and discovered PD So much judgment in parenting – especially fierce around food Helps parents to make parenting around food a nourishing experience for everyone Most typical complaint? “I don’t like it” Second biggest? Picky eating Parental Fatigue – parents DON’T want to cook but DO want to feel kids good food PD says – “Eating, sleeping, pottying, you can’t make them do it!” You CAN work on belonging, significance and influence They need to be guided, not forced Division of responsibility – defining roles (Ellen Satter’s work) Parent responsible for what, when, where AND maintaining connection Child responsible for what they eat and how much Story about Rowan drinking caffeine Over 12 100mg isn’t terrible Under 12 no caffeine Guide THEM in using the information to make informed choices Until it is personally meaningful for them to feel the effects of their choices, behavior won’t change AND they learn what they live Before bed snacks…. Timing Thank you bites?? What about suggesting….. Serve food family style. Parents can mentioned all the items that are available, then the parents job is done…. What about the salad?? Short term vs long term goals Let go of judgement Invite kids into planning/cooking to bulk up their belonging/significance/influence Your job is to provide food, provide some structure and love them unconditionally Let go of self judgement/what others think/fear

2018-02-06 16:00:00

Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior

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Solo show today – from the car…. Thank you for having grace for my audio quality this week!! Feeling inspired to share with you on my way to yoga class.

All about the Iceberg Metaphor

Shout out to all the parents of teens out there who are showing up and sharing and willing to be vulnerable Connecting seeing an iceberg as a metaphor for children’s behavior Unwanted behavior is the “tip” of the iceberg The behavior that we see Under the surface - What’s opening the door to the behavior? Perception of connection Perception of influence Perception of mattering Trauma/adversity Kids are ALWAYS making meaning with their underdeveloped brain – and forming beliefs from that place Lacking skills for navigating the challenges/emotions that show up Moving from a place of strengthening relationship as a way to understand what is below the surface, to help us influence the behavior at the tip Episode 104 on Making Amends Always be moving towards nurturing relationship What are some of the things YOU do to look under the surface? Head over to Live and Love with Joyful Courage and share!

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You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being... Inviting in the qualities that are missing. Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement... You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

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2018-01-30 16:00:00

Eps 128: Liz Blackwell-Moore is on Breaking Down how to Navigate Adolescents and Drug Use (YIKES!)

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Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to.

Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems.

So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful. She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy.

Content:

Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives? What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey Liz shares her moms’ analogy of the two boats Adolescent brain development It’s like a house being build bottom up Built through interactions and the environment kids experience Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up” Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home?? The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence National Academy of Sciences – research on the research Young people using Impacts learning and memory Significant effects on mental health “Regular use” – once every 30 days 2xs more likely to become depressed 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate Initially make people feel calm/relaxed Brain likes to do what’s easy so eventually wants more What about vaping Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids Some kids just the flavoring Not regulated – we don’t know what is in it Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life Rewires/primes the brain for addiction How do we get them to wait???? Relationship is the most powerful tool we have… Share our values… AND – THEY HAVE CRAZY REWARD CENTERS!!! GAH!!! Be present, listen, develop a strong relationship Set clear expectations – bring it up in a variety of ways Continue to bring it back to what their goals are, how might risky behavior get in the way? Help them to “see” the bigger picture Restorative practices: Hold them accountable while offering support What are you getting out of this? What were you thinking? How else can you get thrills? Social connection? Is this a mental health issue? Having these conversations REQUIRES the adults to be in solid relationship with their kids Also, our stuff shows up and gets in the way – fear, rigidity Ok to say, “this is disappointing” “this is hard for me” – they need to know how they are impacting their parents Teens aren’t great with nuance SLEEP MATTERS!! Natural consequences are powerful Boundaries are MESSY How do we balance nurture and structure?? It’s a dance How do we know when it really is a problem? Major changes in physical appearance Personality Participation Peer group changes Public image has changed org – online resources 20-minute guide – helping parents use motivational interviewing 20inuteguide.com Find your people! There is uncertainty and change AND we all have flexible, learning brains – we can be resilient!!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it means trying to see those amazing things that are happening as you move through adolescence – having the courage to stick with your values and follow our instincts…

Resources:
https://the20minuteguide.com/
http://www.drugfree.org/

Good reading on the teen brain:
Dan Siegel Brainstorm
Francis Jensen The Teenage Brain

Links for young people:
http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/
*This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens

http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/
*This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use

Where to find Liz:

Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction)
Linked in

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2018-01-23 16:30:00

Eps 127: A solo show about WHY our job is to hold space for our kids and HOW to do it

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Holding space for having a 15 YEAR OLD!! WHOA!!

What is happening in the BIZ

Membership is HAPPENING Alumni group calls Ecourses Coaching calls What is happening in the collective is happening in the individual I speak to the community and I am speaking to myself TRUST – BIG PICTURE – MARATHON NOT A SPRINT

How to “hold the container”

Jessica talking about “our job is to be the container” Present, available, confident – even as our kids are making mistakes I got you – I am unconditional

Our response matters

Who we be comes before what we do We can handle it Everything will be ok, or not, either way, we stand by our kids We trust that they can handle what life gives them, and we support them inside of that (the world’s consequences, etc) What to do becomes more clear when we practice being in the moment, vs in our emo/fear Learn how to recognize we are there when we are there Practice being with our overwhelm without letting it takes us over (observers) Simple but not easy!!! Takes time!! What we are trying to do is REWIRE the brain (Tina Bryson show 126) Be witness to the presence of the emotional freight train, but let it idle My book!!! Next Fall!!! WOOHOO

Our kids make mistakes

Lagging skills/ impulse/ brain development – DON’T BE SURPRISED BY IT Cause and effect Pushing boundaries to know where they are and who YOU are in the process Making judgements about themselves and their peeps Trust? Safety? Dependability? Can they handle this???

BUT WHAT DO WE DO???

Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting – “I am not going to sit here and pretend that I have all the answers to all of your problems. I don’t know you or your families…” What are the outcomes that you want? What are the skills that you are hoping that your adult child will one day embody? What are the skills your child is showing you (through behavior) that they are missing? What is a solution to the challenge that will help them learn those skills? Is there something to “make right”? How can you say less and listen more??? Remember – finding solutions to problems, including a “plan for next time” or a “plan to fix the mistake/make things right,” finding solutions are always consequences – HOWEVER consequences that we impose on our children are NOT always a solution to problems. WHAT DO WE DO often is a request for “what do we do to them?”

Kids do better when they feel better. – Jane Nelsen

Kids want to succeed, they don't always know how. – Ross Greene

A Misbehaving child is a discouraged child. – Rudolf Dreikurs

Humans are always moving towards a sense of belonging and significance, am I connected? Do I matter? – from Aderian Theory

The most powerful tool you have for influencing behavior is the relationship that you nurture with your child. Choosing into the work of Joyful Courage, which really means being willing to grow and practice awareness, being present to your child and your experience, and hold space for your kids, no matter how they are showing up, THIS will nurture and preserve relationship.

So – what do you think? Does this make sense to you?? Do you have thoughts about this?

Come join the community discussion over in Live and Love with Joyful Courage. This is a closed FB group for listeners and parents that appreciate this conversation and are committed to learning and supporting each other on the journey.

Thank you so much for listening today – super DUPER appreciate all you moms and dads out there doing the work of making the world a better place through showing up well for your children!!

I will be back next week with Liz Blackwell-Moore talking about teens and drugs – GAH!!! I know – it’s scary, but listen anyways because she is brilliant and the conversation is helpful!!

Big love!!

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You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being... Inviting in the qualities that are missing. Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement... You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

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2018-01-16 16:00:00

Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN

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Welcome, thank you for showing up!

Tina Bryson is BACK ON the podcast today!! You all remember Tina from Eps 100 – which happens to be THE most downloaded show to date of this podcast.

Tina co-authored two of MY fave parenting books, the whole brain child and no drama discipline with Dan Siegel and she is BACK on the podcast today to talk about her NEW book, the yes brain.

I am THRILLED she is back on….

Content:

The Yes Brain is available NOW Tina is a mama to 17, 14, and 11 year boys Yes brain and no brain approaches A “yes brain” is a mindset of saying yes to the world, open – neurological state, our brain is integrated and linked up… Over time it becomes hardwired A “no brain” is fearful, reactive Prompted by “what are the skills my child needs to be successful?” – Tina and Dan Siegel wanted to go beyond academics and gold stars They need an integrated brain that has a strong/functioning prefrontal cortex Yes Brain has 4 Components: Balance Resilience Insight Empathy Developmental brain/age/temperament matters Tina shares a story about her own son who seemed to be lacking empathy at a young age Brain develops through experience - What we emphasize (as parents) in our interactions create new linking connection in the brain. Use books, shows, and real world experiences to model and draw forth empathy in our kids Trust development, trust that what you are doing will pay off Supporting our children in feeling their feelings – support them as they practice tolerating difficult feelings Normalize difficult feelings… 2-3 tools to put into practice: Sleep!!! When we sleep the brain LITERALLY freshens up Survive emotional dysregulation When kids are at their worst is when they need us the most Co-regulaton – a soothing presence to communicate “you’re safe, I’m here” Build/teach skills to help them regulate themselves – GREEN ZONE Check out Eps 100 to hear Tina dig deeper into this Teach them to understand themselves Rethinking success Our children having an authentic self that they can trust It’s about the journey and not JUST the destination BIGGER than gold stars and academics Eudaimonia – happiness comes from meaning, connection and peaceful contentment

Tinabryson.com

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You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being... Inviting in the qualities that are missing. Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement... You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

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2018-01-09 16:30:00

Eps 125: Solo Show About Goals, Practice and Living Committed

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Welcome, thank you for showing up!

Content:

Super happy new year

Love that everything is possible Fresh opportunities Embodiment of excitement/anticipation

The work of parenting….

Really the work of human-ing Being in relationship with self/others Recognizing our own conditioning and breaking through to our souls desires Honored to support

Todays topic – what it means to hold the container and get the results you WANT

My experience of big goals and daily intentions/practices – a bit from my conversation with Edna – areas of growth for me around supporting my clients in declaring and creating results in their lives.

Overarching goals “What do you want at the end of our work? How will you measure success?” This can be anything from potty trained toddlers (Katie’s reflection)/easier bedtime/deeper relationship with teens (Lorrianes feedback)/less yelling and more loving… Some is easy to measure, some, not so much…. PLUS it is a pendulum swing Many. Small. Steps.

It is so important to set goals – that way you know where you are going.

Cruise control vs being intentional Being intentional DOES require you to face some hard truths sometimes, to bump up against thoughts/ beliefs / emotions that maybe you have become really skilled at avoiding AND to live the fullest, most authentic life, we must make room for ALL of it – even the stuff that is hard

Setting goals

I have weekly, monthly, quarterly and annual goals They all feed into each other The baby steps I take during the week set up my for the monthly goals,etc The ANNUAL GOALS are the container (remember, I mentioned that earlier?)

Living the practice

It’s not even really about the goals, it is about the journey TO the goals. It is about going 100% Reference Krista’s blog post about 100% is easy https://boldlyembodylife.com/bold-notes/. It’s every moment of saying yes to the practice we have decided to commit to. “To be responsible, keep your promises to others, to be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” – Marie Forleo what this means to me…. Yes to myself for myself How that then influences the entire ecosystem around me What do I mean by ecosystem? What happens in a healthy environment? Everything is influenced

My goals for 2018

Biz Ok – you all know how completely passionate I am about Joyful Courage Elevation with programs and podcast Being my OWN sponsor Continuously working to streamline the exchange of service

2018-01-02 16:00:00

Eps 124: Conscious Communication with Lori Petro

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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro. Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in Conscious communication cards Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there SEEING our children in their emotion/experience They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story) Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding Tell me more about that… It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top Opens up conversation Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation Being firm is a piece of it Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary Conscious communication cards Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week Developed into a model for her parenting program Stress/skills/support Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress) Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills) Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support) Divided into two section Behaviors/words to avoid Examples of what to say/directions to go in Target cards What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior 5 steps for peaceful resolution Parents use the cards in many different ways Post them in their world Sit with them at the end of the day and review them IT’S A PRACTICE Daily Progress not perfection (even for Lori) Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT Lori shares about her personal practices Finding work/life balance Meditation DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking… Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori:

Website l Facebook

Conscious Communication Cards

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2017-12-26 16:00:00

Eps 123: Solo Show - Navigating Big Emotions From Grownups and Kids

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SOLO SHOW

Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be

A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community:

Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids?

My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it.

Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either.

Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility.

Misconceptions (in general):

not ok for our children to see us upset not ok for our children to FEEL upset they’re being naughty they’re manipulating they’re learning “bad behavior” welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior

This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting:

to grow into our best selves

Children are mirrors

not mimics instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting

Children/parenting journey is an invitation

recognizing conditioning recognizing what our “driver” is recognize commitment vs attachment Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison)

Children/parenting journey is unrelenting

The lessons come every day, moment to moment The growth is like peeling an onion There is no where to ARRIVE

Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow

I can’t say this enough Where are your hard edges? Where is there room for self growth? Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity “I am someone with explosive emotions.” We are ALWAYS evolving What can we learn about ourselves? What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful? How can we deliver our experiences and be heard? How can we create a PRACTICE that honors us and our experience while also models the life skills we want our children to one day embody? Practices are UNIQUE and INDIVIDUAL The myth of “balance” Assumptions about our “roles”

Taking care of ourselves and our own self-regulation, in the end, will do more to teach our children and influence their behavior than any tool you can find in a book or the internet.

You’ve got this!

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2017-12-19 16:00:00

Eps 122: Shameproof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be.

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio. For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity Where #endparentshaming came from Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support People doing the best they can with the tools they have Shame as a defense to our own discomfort “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself” You are bigger than your parent role Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey 10,000 feet view We have our own shame conversations…. Reframe the expectations you have of yourself Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry? What do I need, what can I do for myself? How can I use my support system to help me? The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting 18:30 quote People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement Considering FOO – Family Of Origin Write down why these relationships matter to you Still want connection… Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific) Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you Ask for alignment CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J ) Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes How to build support with other parents and non parents A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes:

Website l You Tube

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2017-12-12 16:00:00

Eps 121: Solo show about Intention, Listening, and Courageous Parenting

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be.

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

Visioning about supporting all of you!! E-League The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do! If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience Present moment is key Awareness is grown through practice

Getting hooked

Our kids behavior as bids The lob Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper What is your current story about yourself and your family? Is it true? Byron Katie – turn it around Is it true Finding evidence Accept that this is where you are at. Noticing urgency/frantic energy Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful BBB Breath Body Balcony Courage to trust Follow your intuition Let it go/surrender Trust the people in your life Trust the process Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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2017-12-05 16:00:00

Eps 120: Dr. Robin McEvoy is on Talking About Decoding our Children with Complex Issues

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Guest Intro:

Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado. She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia (illustrated by her daughter). She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development. Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need Checklist is a triage Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations Diet and gut and neurons Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world” Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds) Sometimes the answer is really simple Complimentary/Alternative medicine Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine Putting together the team – who is needed? How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else… You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

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2017-11-28 16:01:00

Eps 119: Solo Show - Deconstructing Natural Consequences and Personal Responsibility

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Dedication to the Conscious Dad who sent in feedback about being excluded. I am so grateful to know that there are dads out there that are enjoying my content!! Big thanks to this dad and all dads that are listening to the show.

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Intro Sharing:

Thank you, listeners!! Honored to serve you… Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there Visioning for 2018

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Content:

Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting? Reference to a poll on my personal FB page Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend? Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well… Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way Parents internal experience takes over Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them Kids need to feel the tension Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn Example – homework Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want Check your assumptions… and check in with your child Humans LONG to be listened to, seen Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect Allow the natural consequence the power that they have Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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2017-11-21 16:00:00

Eps 118: Tosha Schore talks about how we can parent our boys for a more PEACEFUL world

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My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!"

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO Opportunity shows up in raising our boys We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate Documentary of The Mask You Live In Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys Navigating the jockeying for power among boys Redefining what it means to be masculine What is being modeled in the homes for our boys? Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger Popular culture isn’t helpful Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them When our boys make mistakes we need to help them Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development Start talking to your boys Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right” Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!! Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

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2017-11-14 16:00:00

Eps 117: Solo show - A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through

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Content:

I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps! The teen saga continues…. Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits! Teen brain experiences everything so intensely Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender Celebrate the relationship Using and developing breath as a tool 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us! We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface We then choose how to respond End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey Let’s live a life where we are paying attention Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having You can only change yourself, you can’t change others Positive Discipline for Teenagers Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means Kindness only = permissive Firmness only = authoritarian Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents) “What was our agreement?” It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence… The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

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2017-11-07 16:00:00

Eps 116: Mindful Mamas, Shannon and Ashley are on Talking About the Power of Community

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My guests today are Shannon Kinney-Duh, creator of A Free Spirit Life, and Ashley Walburn, owner of Home Holistic, and the founders of The Mindful Mama Movement – a podcast, community that empowers mamas, encourages authentic living and celebrates what it means to live an inspired life.

Shannon and Ashley bring women from around the world, in all stages of motherhood, on a journey of learning how to trust ourselves, how to listen to their intuition, how to let go and forgive, and how to embrace imperfection in the mess of life. They inspire others to practice mothering from a place of presence, creativity, humor and wisdom.

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Content:

How Ashley and Shannon met The birth of the Mindful Mama Movement Podcast The power of trusting our gut is the work of parenting Popular opinion vs turning inward towards our intuition Inspiring women to trust themselves and reconnect to their own intuition Moving from survival to space in our life to enjoy it We are good at the head stuff by dropping into our heart is a powerful way to shift into being with our family HAHA!! Interrupted by the birth of a baby J ((real life people)) Woohooo – Ashley shares the birth story that interrupted our show Creating communities for mamas Going to yoga class and staying for connection with other mamas Who are you? How are you? Inviting community to be together and real Being part of community allows us to discover our own value and wisdom Online communities can be places of powerful discovery, allowing for thought time and the possibility of going deeper Themes that show up in groups – “Am I doing it right?” “Am I okay?” “Is this normal?” “What am I outside of mom?” “How do I find balance and flow while being a good mom?” Exploring our roles People are seeking to be real We are better mamas when we nurture all parts of us Theme that shows up with mamas is desire for simplicity – declutter, let go, surrender Jaws theme music is not helpful!!

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What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

Ashley: Joyful courage, I think for me… The biggest part of what I do, whether it is at a birth or meeting one on one with mothers, is really just finding your power and stepping into your own strength, not giving a shit, anything, a thought about what anyone else thinks – what do I really want? What does my baby really want? And go from my soul… I know this is right, and when I feel grounded and feel like myself, then I make decisions that are mine. When I feel like myself, then I feel braver to do everything. And it gives my kids permission to do the same.

Shannon: Ditto that, and adding having a playful, just making sure we are really following our heart, our instinct, and looking at taking risks with a sense of adventure – that is how I see my daily life – look at this without the jaws music, stay curios, stay playful and light - not always that way - we are so dang serious about this parenting stuff! I just want to look at taking risks and being brave with a sense of adventure, that’s joyful courage.

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Coaching with Casey

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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2017-10-31 15:00:00

Eps 115: Solo show - Exploring trust and surrender as I navigate all there is to learn while raising a teen

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Dedication: I love you Jessica, Micki, Stephanie and Jennette. Thank you for being my support and my safe harbor through the journey of raising teens.

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Solo show! I am digging into my own trenches and what is currently alive in my experience of parenting two adolescent kids. Pulling back the curtain to share what it means to truly pull back the curtain and TRUST the process.

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Content:

The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting Parenting for the long term… Keeping in mind brain development Mistakes are opportunities for learning Everyone should have a voice Relationship matters Kindness, firmness and trust Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices I know I am not alone in this rub We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves We then can evoke trust in our relationships Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes) The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!) Neutral allows space for relationship with our children The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them. Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life! DAILY INTENTION CARDS – 31 cards for setting a daily intention joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards coupon code: PODCAST for 10% off your first order J

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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2017-10-24 15:00:00

Eps 114: Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet

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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you” Navigating fear The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing Our olders have mixed feelings The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings - awareness of what is happening internally for us What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings Cure – more connection, more empathy “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem” Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later” Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day! Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

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2017-10-17 15:15:00

Eps 113: Solo show! Teachers, behavior charts, and how to keep mama bear in check...

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Welcome to this week’s solo show! Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America. Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

Classroom management is slippery Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know” Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home Teachers fall back on behavior systems “Charting” children’s behavior Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom Temperament matters So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need? You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others Teachers have a tricky job Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included Use curiosity How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child” Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others The person that benefits the most is your child!

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2017-10-10 15:00:00

Eps 112: Following Our Kids Lead with Homeschool Unrefined Hosts, Angela and Maren

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

College friends turned podcast co-hosts Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule Freedom to travel Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills Vastness of homeschooling Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism Being conscious about what your main goal is Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready Early entry into extra-curricular activities Simplicity Parenting John Paine Supporting kids through their changes of heart It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story The process of navigating waning interest is rich Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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2017-10-03 15:30:00

Eps 111: Fear, Belonging, Self Acceptance.... It's all here.

Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week! Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

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Todays Content

Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about Shopping cart analogy My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do? The space between authoritarian and permissive styles Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world You have to be who you are So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill Children get to DESIGN themselves Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes

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2017-09-26 15:30:00

Eps 110: Finding the Need Beneath the Behavior with Alison Smith

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting. Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully. As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work. In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

IN THIS EPISODE:

Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior. Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause. Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child. Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences. Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods. Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?. Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to. We chose connection and enforcement that they matter. Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief. Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive. There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child. Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue. An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive. Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

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2017-09-19 15:30:00

Eps 109: Learning How to be a More Conscious Parent by Tuning in to Our Body

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent. Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

What you will hear

The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers) How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness” Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting? What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way? What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey This is a collective journey Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious What do you notice in challenging situations? Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest? Follow the wisdom your body is sending. Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs” Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

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2017-09-12 15:30:00

Eps 108: Meredith Masony is on Sharing Her Story of Humor and Growing Community

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!! She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The parenting struggle is real Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it You deserve more than to survive Parents deserve to thrive Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone? Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose The importance of modeling purpose Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important Balance is tough Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

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2017-09-05 15:30:00

Eps 107: Casey is Solo and Homework is on Fire

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Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both? He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior Kids do more in response with how they feel Getting off the emotional freight train Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence Parents assume children make choices rationally, when in fact they have limited skills Revisiting Dr. Siegel’s “Palm of the Hand” example Assessing what else can be going on inside their body How to identify lacking skills and helping kids deal with the discomfort Letting go of our perspective as the only perspective Letting go of “should” (ex. They should know better)

Quotes:

14:52 “Curiosity really allows us to move past assumptions and get into our child’s world”.

15:07 “Curiosity requires us to let go of the idea that we know all the answers and what it is that our kids need”.

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle

Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dan Siegel's Brain Video

Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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2017-08-29 15:30:00

Eps 106: Becoming Calm Responders with Alexandra Hughes

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road. Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it. With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

What you will hear in this episode:

Alex’s journey into and out of chaos An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom Our vision vs. our reality Why finding calm is so important as a mother The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self Identifying patterns and models in current parenting Understanding where patterns and models come from Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical Understanding the cycles through life Awareness of what we model for our kids Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving How our words create expectations for the inner child Where courage lies Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up” Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

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2017-08-22 15:30:00

Eps 105: Solo Show, A Visit with my 11 Year Old, Shifting our Lens

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Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper. We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!! Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective Power of perception Moving into the perception of being a new sibling What might that look like to a toddler? How we collect evidence to support our perception What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence? Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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2017-08-15 15:30:00

Eps 104: Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships

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Ep. 104 Kristin Hovious

Intro:

Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.) Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD) How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges Modeling is key Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

“I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair. That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings. If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

Where to find Kristin:

Selchicago.com


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2017-08-08 15:30:00

Eps 103: Solo Show Digging Under the Surface of Bedtime Challenges

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Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender. We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh.

Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”.

Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber.

What you will hear:

· Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection

· Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance

· Getting curious, noticing lack of skills to complete task (ie going to sleep)

· Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence

· Children long for connection, they settle for attention

· Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

· Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

· What is my child’s perspective?

· Asking how am I feeding this problem?

Link to Deborah MacNamara

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

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2017-08-01 15:00:00

Eps 102: Learning How Tears Heal with Kate Orson, Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor

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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting Children’s natural healing abilities Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner The benefits of crying Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress How to find ways to connect, special time Learn to listen to your children’s emotions Signs to look for in distressed children Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response Children will release on their own terms Be available and take an interest in them

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying”.

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings”.

“Children need safety to let go of feelings”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day. We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

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2017-07-25 15:10:00

Eps 101: Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers

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Casey is solo!

One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer. Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

· My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
· Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
· Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
· An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
· What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
· How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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2017-07-18 15:30:00

Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers: The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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What you will hear in this episode:

How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD How science can help guide parents in really profound ways Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request Paying attention to a developing nervous system If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior How to influence the nervous system in both self and child Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills When to seek out professional help Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org) New techniques require time and PRACTICE Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you” Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique Body shift can help shift emotions How discipline is teaching We need to give children tools not take them away Thoughts on consequences Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain - January 2018
Showing Up – TBD

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa http://campchippewa.com/

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

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2017-07-11 15:30:00

Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time

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Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house… AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….??

A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence Making agreements to help kids create boundaries Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege Privilege comes after contributions Difference between contribution vs. chores A privilege differs from a reward It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management” Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

Quotes:

“There are ways of being that support us in the journey.”

“Everything is an opportunity to grow, to be better, and to be curious.”

“Underneath all of the behavior all of the challenges and mischief that shows up is the underlying need for belonging, significance and influence. Our children only have so many years of life to filter and make sense of it.”

“In the co-creation of routines and agreements the underlying message is that the child’s voice matters.”

Stay Tuned:

Coming up is our 100th Episode!!! I am so pleased and honored to have Tina Payne Bryson PhD, co-author of the Whole Brained Child, on our 100th Episode. 100 y’all! Can you believe it!? Tell your friends, co-workers and neighbors. Remember to subscribe for instant access to new podcasts and automatic access to scrumptious listening from pasts guests!

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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2017-07-04 15:30:00

Eps 98: Kerry Foreman is on Supporting us in What it Means to be Grounded

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Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love. After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live. Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded, is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate? Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change? Learning to respond instead if react Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us? Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds? Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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“Being a part of the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program has encouraged me to continue practicing to be parent and person that I want to be. I choose my experience to situations. There's no easy answer to fix my kids behavior… It is more about how I be with my kids that creates a good experience versus what I do to make them listen to me.

Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself, and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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2017-06-27 15:30:00

Eps 97: Casey is solo! Connecting before Correcting, Problem Solving and Empowering our Kids

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Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance when disciplining their kids Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase. Brain development plays a major role in behaviors.

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Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself, and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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2017-06-20 15:30:00

Father's Day Bonus - The O'Roarty Family is on the Show :)

Yuo. I interviewed my family. Really it was all in celebration of my husband for Father's Day. Listen in as we talk about a range of things from our birth story, to how AWESOME it is to be married to a parent educator, and advice for moms on how to talk to dads about parenting.

Also, special guests appearances by my kids, who talk about what they love about their dad - from the early years to now.

Let me know what you think!!

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2017-06-18 05:54:31

Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

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Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated. Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too!

Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect. Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom. How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves. Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids! How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule. Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use! You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!

Where to find Melissa:

Facebook l Twitter

Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon

MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE

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2017-06-13 15:00:00

Ep 95: Jeanne-Marie Paynel talks Montessori and Positive Discipline

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The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer. After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development. This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

It’s important to empower our children not enable them Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”. Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them.

Quotes:

“We are not our children’s servants. We are here to empower them to do things for themselves”.

“My child was going to be my guide in my parenting journey”. (a realization)

“A child is an adult in the making”.

Where to find Jeanne-Marie:

Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/

Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l Vimeo

Ebooks and Resources from Jeanne-Marie

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2017-06-06 15:30:00

Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)

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Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self Having a life you enjoy in a body you love Nourishment and movement are a family practice Giving gratitude around nourishment There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

Where to find Julie:

Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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2017-05-30 15:00:00

Eps 93: Carly Mentlik Talks About Support our Tween Girls

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Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project. She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support.

The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Challenges tween girls navigate Elementary to Middle School transition. Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage. How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience. Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment. How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves. The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression. How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween. Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice. What you can expect from working with Carly. Special introduction to The Chakra Girls!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work.

Where to find Carly:

https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/
https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/

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2017-05-23 15:30:00

Eps 92: Jenna Phillips Ballard Talks Fear, and Worth and Shifting to Possibility

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Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love.

After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life.

She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved.

We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us!

“I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

· Compassion as a mindset

· Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles

· How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment

· Managing Fear and operating in its presence

· Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves

· Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking

· How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef

· Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward

· How to be a “meaning making machine”

· Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation

· Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate

· How to get out of your own way

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means finding the joy and the bliss in any specific circumstance, situation, no matter how scared out of your mind that you are – it’s being courageous, staying in the heart anyways, going for it anyway, because joy is a choice. You get to choose joy.

Resources:

The Power of Now

Where to find Jenna:

Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l (Ascension Facebook, Ascension instagram)

Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PST

Facebook l Instagram l Twitter l Unicorn University

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2017-05-16 15:30:00

Mother's Day Bonus! Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are on Encouraging us to Embrace our Shitty Mom Moments

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SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BONUS EPISODE!! Omg. I have been bugging my guests to come and talk to me since meeting them LAST May at the Mom 2.0 conference.

Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are both producers at the Today Show, bestselling authors, and mamas to two kids. Their life is BUSY, and they find humor, compassion and forgiveness around every corner.

They came on the show to talk about their book, Shitty Moms, and the sequel, Shitty Moms for All Seasons. Alicia and Mary Ann keep it real. Their honesty, insights, and willingness to laugh and say what so many of us only dare to think will hook you right from the start.

Please listen in.

Where to find Alicia and Maryann's books:

Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First Year

Shitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us

Shitty Mom For All Seasons: Half Assing it All Year Long

Where to find Shitty Mom:

Shitty Mom on Facebook

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2017-05-11 15:30:00

Eps 91: Janet Allison, From Boys Alive! is on Supporting us in Raising Our Boys

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Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!

“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

​​​​​​​· Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys
· How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail
· Maturity and developmental differences between genders
· Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k
· Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem
· Optimal learning environments for boys
· Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development
· Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery
· Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation
· Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom
· Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask
· How to encourage independence and service to others
· Supporting your child in remembering things
· Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys
· The value of trades education
· The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.

Resources:

The Wonder of Boys by Michael Gurian

Where to find Janet:

Boysalive.com l Facebook l Boysalive Facebook group l Twitter l LinkedIn

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2017-05-09 15:00:00

Eps 90: Larissa Dann is on Talking About How to Let Go of Consequences and Rewards

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Today’s guest is Larissa Dann, a Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) trainer. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us!

“Children don’t misbehave, they behave to meet a need.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Being assertive without alienating our children Using “I messages” to communicate needs Trusting our child’s desire to be helpful vs. presenting requests in a way that is prescriptive Using active listening to gain cooperation The limitations of contingent rewards The impact of rewards on motivation for cooperation – who are they cooperating for Omitting rewards to foster self-discipline and an inner locus of control Preparing children for adulthood by making them less dependent on the judgment of others Using relationship skills to help your child develop a moral compass The power of natural consequences in building resilience and developing internal judgments about right and wrong Trusting children to care and problem solve to find mutual solutions How children’s behavior is impacted by unmet needs Avoiding the temptation to attribute intent or take behavior personally The gift of imperfection and modeling accountability The benefit of modeling alternate skills to teach solutions instead of using punishments The impact we have on the world through our own parenting practices in the way we raise our kids Parenting as imparting soft skills Brainstorming solutions to discomfort when the activity is non-negotiable Creating routines and agreements, doing with vs doing to and communicating expectations in a way that is an invitation to relationship Conflict as competing needs Shifting language around what “works” to what is “helpful” – moving from control to partnership

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

This is what it takes to be a child growing up in an adult’s world and it’s something we so often forget. Children so often are powerless and it takes courage for them to say no when we are the huge person in their life and when they think they might get into trouble and yet they are the most joyful beings on the planet. In the face of the most dire situations, children can somehow find that spark of joy that they can bring out from terrible situations. As a parent, it takes the courage of conviction, to parent against the flow of accepted parenting opinion and practice and the joy comes when you see your children flower and grow sometimes despite your many mistakes.

Resources:

Parent Effectiveness Training

Where to find Larissa:

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2017-05-02 15:30:00

April Bonus: Rebecca Gallagher and I Discuss 13 Reasons Why

** This podcast is marked explicit for a reason!**

So happy to have my friend Rebecca Gallagher, from frugalistablog.com on this bonus episode to dig into the popular and controversial Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. Rebecca is raising teens, and like me, watched the show and had powerful discussions about the themes that show up with her daughter.

Rowan and I actually watched the show together.

The themes that show up in 13 Reasons Why, created by Brian Yorkey and based on a book of the same name by Jay Ashor, are heavy, and intense. Some parents are unsure about whether it is something they want their kids to see.

Rebecca and I don't claim to have answers, but we do discuss our own opinions and experiences we had with sharing the show with our kids and the conversation that showed up because of it.

Topics include sexual assault, bullying, sexual harassment, rape and suicide. Like I said, intense. AND important to be talking about with the young people in our life.

Let me know what you think!

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2017-04-27 15:30:00

Eps 89: Noha Alshugairi Shares About Teaching Positive Discipline and Being a Muslim

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Today’s guest, Noha Alshugairi, is a “citizen of the world,” a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Newport Beach, California and positive discipline trainer. We are discussing positive discipline in the Muslim home. Join us!

“I don’t need to be preaching what Islam says to us in order to be teaching Positive Discipline.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Diversity within the Muslim community (80 groups, with differing faith) How Muslim teachings align with Positive Discipline principles (building social interest, fostering belonging and contribution, understanding the belief behind the behavior, encouragement, mutual respect, kindness and firmness at the same time, short-term vs long-term and focus on solutions) How does Islam promote mutual respect? The concept of obedience as it relates to both Islam and Positive Discipline Doing the best you can with the tools you have – how excellence at 3 or 4 looks difference than excellence in adolescence The impacts of hanging onto childhood hurt in adulthood What non-Muslims are most surprised to learn about Muslim families Concerns of Muslim parents – how to protect children from Islamophobia & how to build a cultural identity they can be proud of? Finding peace through focus on your circle of influence and stepping away from victimhood How to broaden your understanding and support for the Muslim community Connecting with larger groups as minority group members to move past stereotypes

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Having joy while you are facing life. It’s difficult because life is not smooth sailing.

Resources:

Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home

7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Where to find Nosha:

Website – Sakina Counselling

Website – Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home

Facebookl Youtube

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2017-04-25 15:30:00

Eps 88: Angela Pruess Supports Gentle Parents with Special Needs Kids

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Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection Attachment theory and gentle parenting Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self. Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges.

Resources:

Aha parenting website

The Explosive Child – Ross Greene

Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs

Where to find Angela:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Pinterest

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2017-04-18 15:30:00

World Changer Episode: Leanne Kabat, Head Mama of Mamacon

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Leanne Kabat is on the show today talking about her vision of a world where mamas come together to love, support and CELEBRATE all parts of themselves!!

Leanne is the Head Mama of Mamacon, an annual conference for moms in the Pacific Northwest. She shares her story, her inspiration, and her desire to connect mamas not only to themselves, but also to each other.

Join us at Mamacon, April 29th from 2-10pm.

Get your tickets here!! BOGO sale is happening through midnight, Friday, April 14. GET ON IT - bring a friend, TREAT yourself!!

Where to follow Leanne and Mamacon:

Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram

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2017-04-13 15:30:00

Eps 87: Lisa Fuller is on Supporting us With Shame Resilience

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Today’s guest is Lisa Fuller. Lisa Fuller, M.S.W., Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, has been working with parents since 2005 to help them find joy and moment of peace even in the midst of chaos. Lisa’s a compassionate listener whose committed to empowering parents through Positive Discipline’s common sense principles. Having three children ages 21, 17 and 10, Lisa’s steeped in the challenges and joys of parenting. Lisa also offers one on one coaching for parenting and life! She believes the world is a better place when we—adults and children—strive to treat each other with respect and love.

Today we are talking about developing shame resilience.

“Shame is something that we all have. It’s universal. Every human being experiences shame – those who don’t usually have some significant problems. It’s not a bad thing. That’s one good thing about shame – it means you are a caring human being.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is shame and why should we talk about it? How positive discipline relates to shame Shame and guilt – what’s the difference? How do they connect to humiliation and embarrassment? The physical sensations of shame The individual personal nature of shame Practicing critical awareness – how to reality check the messages that are driving your shame The value of having someone to talk through shame with What makes a good person to talk shame with How to encourage shame resilience in children Reducing shame by normalizing experiences Creating opportunities for belonging What it means to lead with the message with love How to connect without trying to fix Empathy and shame – how to support when you can’t relate to the experience Cultivating relationships that allow us to speak to our shame How to show up in your relationships that shows you are a safe place to talk shame Doing vs Being – their roles in building shame resilience Personal practices for finding joy within instead of looking to our children to complete us

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Taking risks with heart. The courage is taking the risks and moving ahead and doing it but doing it with your full being. The last couple years I’ve had some very significant deaths in my life and I think in so many ways it’s been a gift – it does highlight joy, the simple joy of being alive and how I’m able to be more grateful that I have this gift of life which isn’t going to last forever. Losing people who are close to us that’s the upside is that we go “Wow, this is temporary, this life, it really is.” I think when we get caught in the swirl of parenting we can ‘beam in’ – these other, bigger issues help us beam out. Joy helps with shame and getting perspective.

Resources:

The Daring Way

Daring Greatly

Monthly Support Group (With Marcillie Smith Boyle and Lisa Fuller)

Where to find Lisa:

Website l Twitter l Facebook l LinkedIn

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2017-04-11 15:30:00

Eps 86: Cheryl Erwin Discusses the Challenges and Joy of Single Parenting with Positive Discipline

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Today’s guest is Cheryl Erwin, a therapist and parenting educator who began teaching parenting after her marriage broke down. We are discussing single parenting today. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The biggest challenges facing single parenting – finances, housing, misconceptions/stereotypes Asking for help as a single parent Making time for special time and relationship building when you’re outnumbered Using connection to build resilience Self-care and self-compassion after divorce and separation Finding joy vs creating joy – finding happy after separation The blessings and gifts of being a single parent The two kinds of special time The power of routine in single parenthood The value of spontaneity and choosing into lightness Lessons in delayed gratification, hard work and problem solving Learning to grow from mistakes Positive discipline as a single parenting tool Learning to let go after raising kids as a single parent Strength that comes from adversity – a gift of single parenthood Choosing to go high when others go low – child-centered co-parenting Being honest about co-parenting challenge while still being respectful and giving space for relationships to be maintained Single parenting by numbers – 70% of American kids spend some of their time in a single parent household Step parents as blessings to your children The importance of facilitating communication between parents and children during the other parent’s parenting times

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To take each day as it comes and look for what’s right about it not what’s wrong with it and to not be afraid of risk – I’ve never been a good risk taker but as a single mom I learned I have to take some. As someone who now travels the world teaching positive discipline I’ve gotten comfortable with getting on planes and flying off to Egypt by myself when I don’t know anybody there and some of the greatest joy and blessings of my life have been when I found the joy and courage to take an appropriate risk. You don’t have to fly to China or Egypt to do that. You can do it right in your own backyard. Certainly the single parents who are listening know that life can be risky on a pretty regular basis and being able to embrace that and learn the skills you need to be able to do that well will bring you joy in your kids, joy in your grandparents and joy in your own life. At the end of it, my son goes off into the horizon and I’m left with my life and what I make of it and I’m trying to do something with my life that I can be proud of and that’s what joyful courage means to me. It’s taken me all of these 60 years to figure that out.

Resources:

Positive Discipline for Single Parents

Where to find Cheryl:

Website l Facebook

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2017-04-04 15:30:00

0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: The Importance of Self Care

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Yipee - one more day of the 0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta!! Today Julie and I dig into questions from the community surrounding self care. We KNOW it is important, and yet so many of us struggle to get it in! Listen in as Jules and I discuss chores, having the courage to seek out mental health, and how self care tips that help us keep calm during those epic meltdowns.

Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5. She has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators.

Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.

Find more about Sproutable at:

http://www.besproutable.com/
Facebook l Twitter l Instagram

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2017-03-31 15:30:00

0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: Questions from the community

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Julietta is BACK ON to dig into the challenges brought to us by the Joyful Courage community. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5.

Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators.

Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.

Find Sproutable at:

http://www.besproutable.com/
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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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2017-03-30 15:30:00

0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: Development

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You all know that I love me some Julietta Skoog! She is a dear friend and a WEALTH of information. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5.

Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators. Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.

Yup. She's amazing.

Listen in to todays show as we break down Eric Ericksons model of psychosocial development and what WE as parents can do to ensure that our children are developing trust, autonomy, initiative and industry during their early years.

Join us tomorrow as Julie and I dig into challenges sent in from the Joyful Courage community.

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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2017-03-29 15:30:00

Eps 85: Free Range Parenting with Kim Estes

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Today’s guest is Kim Estes, a speaker and coach who talks to parents of kids from pre-school to adolescents about safety concerns. We are discussing free-range parenting. Join us!

“Our kids are wanting to explore their world and it’s our job to teach them to do it safely.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Misconceptions about free-range parenting Boundaries in free-range parenting: subject to change based on individual children and age-level Assessing age and individual capacity specific boundaries – the value of checking in for safety Free-range parenting as giving kids space to practice intuition Fear of judgment and free-range parenting Risk assessment and safety – likelihood of concerns relating to traffic safety and abduction Assessing risk tolerance as parents Stranger safety vs Stranger danger Free-range parenting as freedom within structure Finding the happy medium: learning new skills with appropriate boundaries Being consistent about expectations and boundaries Mistakes as learning experiences – handling situations where things don’t go as planned Being available and non-judgmental when negotiating boundaries – dropping into curiosity to keep communication lines open No questions asked, do-overs on both sides and owning failure Exercising self-compassion and forgiveness when you don’t realize you’re being called to “the big show”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means to me to be able to parent courageously even if it’s uncomfortable, but at the end of the day, having something that feels good for everybody even if it’s the smallest success.

Where to find Kim:

Website l Facebook l Twitter

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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2017-03-28 15:30:00

Eps 84: Oh Crap Potty Trainer, Jamie Glowacki

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Today’s guest is Jamie Glowacki, a social worker who worked with dual diagnosis moms, transitioned to owning a children’s store and then became a potty trainer. We are discussing potty training. Join us!

“I don’t really have a method. You have to take off the diapers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The elimination communication movement Timing of potty training readiness “Pull-ups” and potty training – mixing old and new behaviors. Potty training and instant gratification – the role of patience in the process The myths of potty training Gender and potty training The role of social learning and praise Potty location and using the tool for the task The influence of Dr. Spock and the history of potty training Developmental milestones – should they be child-led? The myth of “readiness” - potty training as a skill that needs to be attended to rather than something that happens naturally in time without intervention The “magic window” of potty training – prior to individuation Potty training as a power struggle “Fear of release” – how to overcome it Managing expectations around developmental milestones and the danger of comparison How potty training challenges vary based on the age of the child Performance anxiety and potty training The best potty and ergonomic angle for potty training specifically for encouraging poop How to modify your potty or reposition your child to improve poop likelihood Rewards and consequences – their role in potty training Potty training power struggles as relationship challenges Potty training regressions – change in routines, the honeymoon period Using blocks of learning to solve regressions “Baby love” as a tool to help kids adjust to new siblings Location specific potty training challenges – how to unpack them Night time training strategies Developmental phases of bladder development

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is a reminder we have to be courageous as parents, we have to be so brave and we have to be constantly evaluating ourselves. The joyful just reminds me to keep it light. This is all just so great. Even in our worst potty training nightmare it’s still so great. Keep our courage light!

Resources:

Squatty potty unicorn ice cream video

Is Night Training Really Necessary – blog post

Oh Crap Potty Training Book

Oh Crap Potty Training video conferences

Where to find Jamie:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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2017-03-21 15:30:00

March World Changer: Tamara Azar and Momentum Education

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So totally honored to have my friend and mentor, Tamara Azar, trainer and coach from Momentum Education on to talk about the important work that Momentum is doing to change the world.

Listen in to the very end to hear about the incredibly generous offer to all the Joyful Courage Tribe!

Find out more about Momentum Education, including upcoming trainings in Seattle, LA, Washington DC and NYC, by visiting www.momentumeducation.com.

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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2017-03-16 15:30:00

Eps 83: Finding our Inner Abundant Mama with Shawn Fink

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Today’s guest is Shawn Fink, also known as Abundant Mama. She is a mom of eleven-year-old twin girls. We are discussing living a life of abundance in our parenting. Join us!

“For me, being awake is being engaged, being thoughtful, being very purposeful, living my values but also being present.”

“Mistakes are opportunities to learn.”

“Abundance is looking at your life and being grateful that you have enough, that you are enough and you do enough – but it’s much more than that. It’s become a lifestyle.”

“There is enough happiness, joy and love in the world for everybody.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Moving from scarcity to abundance mindsets – from jealousy to gratitude Abundance as a way to mother yourself, be authentic and be aware of what’s around and within you Being awesomely awake: paying attention to your life, being mindful and living intentionally Self-care vs Soul-care – what’s the difference and how can it change your life and the way you see it? Being present and discomfort – learning to navigate it vs as being a way to eliminate it How to exercise self-compassion when you haven’t showed up in the way that you’ve hoped to Modelling asking for forgiveness for your kids The joys and challenges of raising tweens Motherhood as self-invention Learning to connect with your children as they grow – navigating relationship change The value in letting kids fail when they need to – leaving room for life lessons and learning how to handle discomfort The power of injecting playfulness into your routine and how it can be productive Finding joy in obligation Building habits for effectiveness in your parenting life

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is the joyful ability to completely show up as yourself and be you, as a mom, it’s really hard because we are trying so hard to keep everyone else happy. There is nothing better for our kids than for them to see us being fully ourselves.

Resources:

Insight timer

The Playful Family E-book

The Abundant Mama online program

10 Habits of Highly Effective Mamas

Where to find Shawn:

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

Pinterest

Website

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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Journey to Joy - a FREE mini ecourse
This month, I am offering you the chance to do the Journey to Joy mini-course as a way to honor all parents.

Journey to joy is about shifting the dynamics of your being to shift the dynamics of your home.

For more information (did I mention it is FREE?) click here. If you already know you are a yes, simply scroll to the bottom of that page, enter your email, and get ready to elevate your life!

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2017-03-14 15:30:00

Eps 82: A Conversation about Parenting in the Age of Smart Phones (ugh) with Kim Muench

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench, a mother of five, parenting writer, a certified parenting coach and lover of parents of adolescents. We are discussing navigating decisions around technology with our kids. Join us!

“Instead of looking at it as a tool of potential destruction, we are looking at it as a vehicle for us to build a circle of trust and communicate even better.”

“Conscious parenting: being mindful and walking the tight rope between giving them autonomy and knowing when to step in and help them see the potential consequences of choices”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Balancing your need for control and desire to protect your kids with providing access to benefits of smart phones Building trust, letting go of our own experiences and not projecting our own mischief (which can lead to friction) Navigating the tightrope: being honest, open and self-aware as you work through technology use with your kids Negotiating smart phone boundaries within your family Scaffolding social media communication – building progressively Adolescent boundary pushing as learning Falling off the tight rope – learning as a practice and getting back up Creating an agreement around technology usage – a collaborative approach subject to revision as needed initiated by either party Limits as helping Why you need open conversation about social media including topics such as safeguards and kindness Technology as distraction and disconnection Reassessing agreements on technology without blame and shame The value of eye contact and being fully present in resolving conflict How to address reigning in technology use under the umbrella of conscious parenting – identifying the source Working collaboratively vs exerting control – what are the outcomes of these approaches?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is embracing your authentic self with enthusiasm and being brave enough to share that with the world – it is an every day practice.

Resources:

Screenagers documentary

Where to find Kim:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

LinkedIn

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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Journey to Joy - a FREE mini ecourse
This month, I am offering you the chance to do the Journey to Joy mini-course as a way to honor all parents.

Journey to joy is about shifting the dynamics of your being to shift the dynamics of your home.

For more information (did I mention it is FREE?) click here. If you already know you are a yes, simply scroll to the bottom of that page, enter your email, and get ready to elevate your life!

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Join the LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE information list TODAY and enjoy freebies and reminders for when it is time to REGISTER for the membership program!!

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2017-03-07 16:30:00

Eps 81: Making room for empathy with Melissa Benaroya

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Today's guest is Melissa Benaroya. Melissa is a licensed clinical social worker with 20 years of experience working with children and families. Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and is trained in Positive Discipline. She is also a Certified Gottman Educator offering the Bringing Baby Home Program for families with young children and workshops on Emotion Coaching. Melissa practices as a parenting consultant, coach and speaker to groups and individuals by blending her clinical training with her knowledge of child development and discipline. In 2011 she co-authored the book The Childproof Parent.

Melissa lives in Seattle with her husband and two children and keeps her sanity with an active lifestyle of running and Crossfit!

“Empathy is the ability to feel and understand what another person may be feeling but ultimately … it means connection … and feeling understood.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

· Learning to use empathy as a first response and a parenting tool

· Empathy as reflecting your child’s feeling back to them versus owning their feelings or relating our own personal experiences

· How using personal experiences in place of empathy can escalate conflict

· How to use empathy to help your child build emotional resilience

· Using empathy effectively to help your child feel heard

· Empathy as a practice and a gradual learning process

· Childhood developmental milestones in empathy

· How to model empathy for your kids

· Using the “Fake It Til You Become It” approach to empathy in your parenting

· Being mindful of your physical self in how you demonstrate and model empathy

· Parenting from the couch as a barrier to empathy

· Echoing, mirroring and repetition as empathy

· The power of validation in feeling heard – when looking on the bright side gets in the way

· Empathy as a transferrable skill.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes courage to take risks and try new things and that’s where joy exists. It’s what parenting requires of us – taking risks and trying new things. Empathy might be taking a risk because it doesn’t feel natural and we are going to have to take lots of risks and try new things throughout our parenting journey. It not only makes us a better parent but it also helps us to grow as an individual and that’s where the joy exists.

Resources:

The Child-proof Parent
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

Where to find Melissa:

Website
Child-proof Parenting website

Facebook

Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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2017-02-28 16:30:00

Eps 80: Rachel Macy Stafford encourages us to choose Only Love Today

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Today’s guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us!

“There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Parenting and opportunities to choose to be mindful Avoiding getting caught up in the moment as a practice Making a “presence” pledge to yourself Surrendering and learning to let go of control and expectations of mastery or of a certain outcome Raising future adults and allowing space for practice Self-care and the importance of “do nothing” moments The value of physical self-care

Resources:

Only Love Today – pre-order until March 7

Where to find Rachel:

Website l Facebook l Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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2017-02-21 16:30:00

Mindfulness Mini Summit 2017: Part Three with Molly Knight Forde

Welcome to DAY THREE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage!

I am thrilled to be talking today with Molly Knight Forde (Episode 7) meditation teacher and guide at the Awareness School.

Listen in to learn:

What is a meditation practice? How to create a practice that works for you?

And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Molly.

Happy Meditating!!

Click here to check out the newest online offer from Molly!

** Stay tuned friends!! I will be creating a page with all the meditations from the summit available to subscribers of the podcasters!!

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link or to donate to the Feeding America fundraiser page, click here.

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2017-02-17 16:30:00

Mini Mindfulness Summit 2017: Part Two with Sara Harvey Yao

Welcome to DAY TWO of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage!

I am thrilled to be talking today with Sara Harvey Yao (Episode 68) author of Drop In: Lead With Deeper Presence and Influence.

Listen in to learn:

Who is meditation for? What are the benefits of meditation?

And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Sara.

Happy Meditating!!

Join me tomorrow as I finish up the mini-summit with a conversation with Molly Knight Forde about creating a lasting meditation practice.

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link or to donate to the Feeding America fundraiser page, click here.

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2017-02-16 16:30:00

Mini Mindfulness Summit 2017: Part One with Jiovann Carrasco

Welcome to DAY ONE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage!

I am thrilled to be talking today with Jiovann Carrasco (Episode 43) from the Austin Mindfulness Center.

Listen in to learn:

What is meditation? What isn't meditation?

And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation Jiovann designed just for parents like YOU!

Happy Meditating!!

Join me tomorrow as I talk with Sara Harvey Yao about the benefits and possibilities of meditation for parents.

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link or to donate to the Feeding America fundraiser page, click here.

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2017-02-15 16:30:00

Eps 79: Mary Jo Lorei Helps us Bring Back the Romance

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Today’s guest is Mary Jo, a coach who focuses on relationships and connections. We are discussing love, romance and intimacy after becoming parents. Join us!

“It’s less about the action you take. We look for the action. There’s so many different actions you can take, it doesn’t really matter. The experience is about the connection to your heart. It’s about being connected to what really matters. The actions won’t sustain you or your relationship. Listen to your heart and let that inspire you.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Finding time for intimacy
• The importance of intimacy – finding your why
• Intimacy as parenting: part of role modeling healthy relationships
• Creating an invitation to intimacy: first steps
• Masculine and feminine energy – what’s the difference and why they are both in all of us
• Balancing energy to promote your child’s autonomy
• Vulnerability, touch and exploring connection
• Vulnerability as strength
• Relationships take two people, but relating takes one.
• Putting up a screen to filter inputs vs putting up a shield
• Distinguishing sex and intimacy – moving beyond euphemism
• Connecting to “adjust the volume” vs “turning from off to on” – making smooth transitions to intimacy through ongoing mindfulness and connection
• Reminding our partner and ourselves of what we appreciate about each other
• Resolving disconnection through self-celebration and self-care
• How to be curious about identifying and problem solving barriers to intimacy
• Engaging universal parenting skills that we practice with our kids
• The power of “I’ve Missed You” and remembering the intention
• Improving the likelihood of successful connection through celebration and reverence vs. complaint
• Letting go of expectations to leave space for what comes naturally

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

The fun in being courageous is getting on that super big rollercoaster. It’s not just about death defying acts of meeting demons. It’s really fun to be courageous because it brings amazing results. Connecting those two words is so important because it takes courage to be joyful and how amazing is courage when it has joy in it. It means to be inspired.

Where to find MaryJo:

Maryjolorei.com
Boldly embody life

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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2017-02-14 16:30:00

Love Note: What is your parenting vision?

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Surprise!

I am excited to be popping in to encourage, inspire and INFORM you about the how and the why to creating a PARENTING VISION.

Listen to this short solo show and then move into action!

Our parenting vision is our COMPASS and what keeps us moving in our desired direction within our relationships with our children.

Click here for the Parenting Vision Guide.

Have a beautiful day!

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

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2017-02-10 03:26:34

Eps 78: Jasen Frelot and I get real about race and racism

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Today’s guest is Jason Frelot. Jasen is a community organizer, father, early childhood educator and social justice advocate based in Seattle, WA. Along with directing Columbia City Preschool of Arts and Culture, he is the co-founder of Kids and Race Seattle, which has been featured in Parent Map Magazine and on NPRs Seattle Affiliate KUOW; the program has served over 500 people to date and rising every month. His various actions around race and social justice have made front page news in Seattle and have been featured on local news numerous times. He has 15 years of working with children in various capacities.

“What we are going for here is real change. What we are going for here is a real conversation that is messy. That means diving deeper into that discomfort.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Racial identity and the inherent problems with color blindness
• How we are teaching white children to be racist and brown/black children they don’t have value (even though we don’t mean to)
• How to respond to uncomfortable questions about race and social order
• Silence and it’s role in reinforcing the status quo
• The role of parenting in promoting diversity
• Equality vs equity – what’s the difference?
• Treating everyone the same and how it perpetuates inequity
• Acknowledging the reality of now: the problem with discussing racism as history and other’s people’s problem
• Achievement gaps vs opportunity gaps
• Fear of being labeled racist and how it detracts from race focused conversation.
• Acknowledging racism as a problem in order to address it
• Understanding white privilege – situational power, structural power and individual power.
• The relationship between privilege and struggle – how they can both be present
• Race as an ongoing conversation
• Impacts of opting out of race-focused conversations due to the magnitude of the issue and the responsibility to persevere
• Recognizing your role in the problem and in how to fix it
• The role of media in how our children view the world and the value of other people - what kids see and what they hear: which impacts children more in the conclusions they draw about the world
• Analogy and allegory vs. representation and conversation in media
• Role modeling respect in our relationships
• Consciously exposing children to diversity
• Equipping our teachers to have conversations about race
• How to be the squeaky wheel about promoting diversity
• Silence as violence: choosing to be uncomfortable and vocal to incite change
• Handling pushback and using criticism as an access point to empathy as an ally

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is talking to your kids about race in a joyful way with a smile on your face. There’s a lot of negativity and rage, rightly so, around this conversation and I, in my workshops, really try to have people leave with a smile on their face. It’s never fun to learn we are unintentionally teaching our kids to be racists. No one wants to hear that but what is fun is having a role in solving a big problem – feeling like you have power, that’s fun. That’s good news! There’s a lot of joy in that! It takes courage to acknowledge we have a blind spot -that there’s something I can do better – to boldly go where very few white people have gone before. It takes courage and it takes joyful courage. I can’t say enough how important it is to be joyful in what it is that we are doing. Go forth, joyfully, be happy about it, have some fun, smile, laugh because this is a long haul. If we’re always miserable about it, we are never going to get where we need to be.

Resources:
Culturally responsive teaching and the brain
Kids and Race Resources

Where to find Jason:
Columbia City Preschool of Arts and Culture, a brand new, social justice based program. Now enrolling for this Spring, and the upcoming school year. for more information go to columbiacitypreschool.org

Kids and Race: Changing the Narrative. March 11th at Epiphany. Tickets available. Contact for future events and information kidsandrace@gmail.com.

Speaking opportunities:
kidsandrace@gmail.com
The Well Queen Anne

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

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2017-02-07 16:30:00

Eps 77: Carrie Anne Killeen talks about parenting for our soul

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Carrie Anne Killeen is a Conscious Parent coach who specializes in assisting parents in increasing peace, love, joy, grace and ease in the home. After living 20 years with a very critical view of herself and those around her, she realized how much love had been missing from her own childhood. Using her children as her biggest teachers, she learned how to heal her own childhood wounds with love, compassion, forgiveness and inner truth. She is deeply dedicated to creating a more peaceful world for children and parents. Carrie Anne inspires parents to see beyond their children’s behaviors to see the hidden truth and wisdom that lies inside their heart and soul. Carrie Anne is a peaceful, single mom of three amazing and highly soulful daughters. She is currently living her heart’s dream in Massachusetts.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Working through emotional triggers with forgiveness and loving your inner child.
• The need to exercising self-compassion as you process emotions
• Emotional purging in a conscious way to move to an easier parenting journey
• Moving passed mindfulness and consciousness to peacefulness
• Functioning as a peaceful human being
• Moving from “doing” to “being”
• The value of peaceful presence, free of emotional trigger, for your kids
• Modelling ownership of behavior for your kids
• Peacefulness as a practice that takes time
• Parenting as an extension of nature: gradually forging new pathways in your relationships and being expansive, not staying “stuck”
The healing power of authenticity with your kids
• Aiming for perseverance and presence, not perfection
• Exercising compassion for others and recognizing we don’t know their struggles
• Learning how not to try to control others and focus on self to remain peaceful
• Journalling as a practice to release emotions
• Finding opportunities for stillness
• Releasing others from the responsibility for reading your mind
• Shifting to a solution focus to create momentum
• Fear: being curious about it to avoid being driven by it
• Showing up in your own home to make a difference in the world
• Practical ways to nourish yourself
• Unconditional love – what does that look like?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful to me is about being present in the moment, choosing to look on the positive side of it. To that actually takes courage. We have a lot of stuff that we have to overcome to be joyful, more joyful. Courage is such an amazing word. I think people have a lot of courage but I don’t think people really know how much courage they can have. To harmonize both of them, and what I feel in your community, is that you can have both of them and be in balance and that’s a beautiful recipe for having a successful and happy life which I feel is available for everybody.

Where to find Carrie Ann: Facebook l Website

3 part webinar series on emotional triggers

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings. You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

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2017-01-31 16:30:00

January World Changers: Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague, Creators of Feeleez

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Full-time parents Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague are the founders of the Center for Emotional Education, with the mission to neurally empower individuals and families through emotional and strategic support. They offer a comprehensive line-up of courses, one-to-one coaching support, and Feeleez - a full set of emotional education tools. Natalie and Nathan have been working for over a decade helping families and individuals feel better, do better, and become the best possible versions of themselves. Their next mini-course – Forget Everything Else: The 5 Do-or-Die Parenting Concepts, starts February 13th.

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2017-01-27 16:30:00

Eps 76: Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, teaches us how to listen

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Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences

• How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving.

• The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children’s lives

• Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline.

• Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior.

• How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings

• Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process

• The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings

• Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension

• Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting

• Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is a human being’s birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it’s like they don’t care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it’s the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren’t hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back.

Resources:

Listen: 5 simple tools for meeting your every day parenting challenges

Where to find Patty:

Hand in Hand Parenting i Instagram l Facebook l Twitter l Youtube

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2017-01-24 16:30:00

Eps 75: Marcilie Smith Boyle Shares Research and Brain Science Behind Positive Discipline

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Today’s guest is Marcilie Smith Boyle, a certified positive discipline trainer and certified life and leadership coach who teaches positive discipline courses live and online, coaches individuals and groups on transitions and parenting, as well as life coaching and executive leadership coaching. We are discussing the science and research of positive discipline. Join us!

“ The tip of the iceberg is what you can see – that’s your child’s behavior, but underneath the surface so much more is going on.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Emerging neuro-scientific research about social psychology informed by function MRIs and PET scans.
• Principles of positive discipline – looking underneath behavior to build skills for long term better behavior.
• Adlerian theory, the foundation of positive discipline
• The connection between behavior and a sense of belonging
• How mutual respect informs better behavior
• The right to dignity and the value of solutions relative to rewards and punishments
• Intrinsic motivation, what it is and why it matters long term.
• The social nature of humans and how that relates to theories of the hierarchy of needs
• The link between physical and social pain and the connection between learning and belonging
• The impact of fight or flight on empathy, learning and problem solving skills
• Relatedness, competence and autonomy and the way they influence behavior and feed intrinsic motivation
• The positive outcomes of met psychological needs in relation to health, creativity, persistence, flexibility, adjustment, well-being, enjoyment, cooperation, engagement and interest.
• Why rewards and praise sometimes backfire: the relationship between contingent rewards, autonomy and behavior
• Baby steps to deepen your positive parenting practice
• The difference made when we get eye to eye with our kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Courage is about being brave, about feeling some fear but doing it anyways. That takes determination and focus. Courage has a feeling of seriousness. When you add Joyful to it, it adds some fun and lightness. Joyful Courage is about being courageous in a fun way. It’s a choice about how you want to practice your bravery.

Resources:

Social by Matthew Lieberman
Hidden Costs of Reward – Mark R. Lepper

Upcoming Offers from Marcilie:
February 8th:: 6 Obstacles to Peaceful, Positive Parenting – Free tele-class
Starting March 1st: Peaceful Parents, Cooperative Kids Interactive Virtual Workshop Series – 8 week series

Where to find Marcilie:

Website l Facebook l Twitter

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2017-01-17 16:30:00

Ask Casey January Episode - Diminishing Defiance

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Thank you to everyone who chimed in for this month's Ask Casey episode! I chose this particular submission because I believe it is something that MANY of us are challenged by. Enjoy!

From Mama Kay:

Defiance. My six year old has recently started saying straight out No's to anything I ask. ANYTHING! I've tried explaining why I ask her to do things and even explain how it benefits her. But it's just no. It's many times in a disrespectful and rude way. I think she is just finding her boundaries and her self confidence but I do not know how to interact with her. I don't want to bulldoze over her feelings or bully her into obedience. But I also don't want her to be disrespectful or be an example of disrespect to her younger siblings. Along with the no is an ability to find something negative about everything. I've had to ask her to go to another room many times because she was affecting her siblings attitude too. I am praying this is a stage but I don't want to break or break her through the process.

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2017-01-12 16:30:00

Eps 74: Talking to Melissa Brown About Blended Families

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Today’s guest is Melissa Brown, a blended family podcaster who works with stepfamilies. We are going to talk about blended families and the challenges they face. Join us!

“Raising children is the biggest rollercoaster ride of your life.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The biggest challenge facing blended families today Dealing with drama while protecting kids from triangulation The value of a child-centered approach when navigating difficult relationships with exes The importance of self-awareness, love and patience in creating a positive environment for kids. How to use problem solving tools you use with your kids with your exes to improve relationships Learning to identify what you can’t control and how to deal with that The mixed blessing and additional pressure of sibling rivalry on blended families and how to handle it How to empower your kids for conflict resolution in blended families and learning to stay out of it, resisting the temptation to “fix” things Protecting your relationship from blended family drama Bonding with step kids – particularly teenagers – keeping an open mind. Finding an entry point for building connection Flexibility and scheduling in blended families Routines and rituals – creating a sense of belonging Consistency between houses, managing energy and big feelings. Leveraging patterns in your blended family – approaching problems with curiosity Dealing with (and expecting) setbacks and recovering when things don’t go as planned

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family – it’s not always an easy journey. Joyful courage to me means understanding the importance of finding joy even through the pain in life. Our biggest growth and our biggest lessons always come from hard times.

Where to find Melissa:

Blended family podcast l Facebook l Twitter

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2017-01-10 16:30:00

Eps 73: Dr. Ross Greene Schools us in Effective Problem Solving

Today’s guest is Ross Greene, an acclaimed author and parenting educator who works with kids with behavioral challenges. We are discussing how collaborative, proactive problem solving can reduce parenting challenges. Join us!

“Kids have information we badly need. If we don’t get that information we are at risk of plunging forward with uninformed solutions based on what we think is going on. Our theories and assumptions are often wrong. If you get what’s the matter wrong, your solution won’t work. The least fallible source of information is the kid.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The role of problem solving in managing challenging behaviors Why sticker charts and rationing of privileges doesn’t work for this demographic Making collaborative and proactive solutions work for your family Changing your mission: finding out what is getting in your kid’s way The benefit of a skills based approach – coaching skills improvement through problem solving The difference between control and influence Parenting and education as partnering and helping Collaborative vs unilateral problem solving Prioritizing unmet expectations to plan proactive problem solving Getting out of the heat of the moment in your parenting Three steps to proactive problem solving The need for realistic, mutually satisfying solutions The danger of too many solutions Differentiating between a failure and a solution that wasn’t mutually beneficial, realistic or incomplete The messy but crucial nature of problem solving Perfection vs improvement over time – being realistic about goals Focusing on the right thing: learning to focus on the root cause of behavior vs the behavior itself.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

There is courage that comes along with being a parent, a teacher and a staff member and doing something different because what you are finding is that what you are doing now isn’t working. I’m delighted to say that there are many many parents, educators and facilities who have had that courage and they have been remarkably helpful to their children, their students and the children in their care and that should bring them a great deal of joy as well. It takes courage to take a look at what you are doing, think about it, and try to do something differently.

Resources:

The explosive child
Lost at School

Lost and Found

Raising Human Beings

The Drilling Cheat Sheet

The B Team – Facebook Group

Elevate Your Parenting – Facebook Group

Lost & Found – Facebook Group for Educators

Lives in the Balance – Facebook Group for Clinicians

Where to find Dr. Greene:

Lives In the Balance
Facebook

Twitter

Centre for Collaborative Problem Solving

Dr. Ross Greene

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2017-01-03 16:30:00

December World Changer: Lauren Gamble shares her organization, Bibs for Kids

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Today’s guest is Lauren Gamble of Bibs for Kids. She helps kids struggling with illness, impoverishment and prematurity by selling bibs and donating 10% of proceeds to causes. Her son was born premature and she was inspired to help others after spending time in the NICU with her new baby. Join us in learning about how to give back to kids in need this holiday season (and every day)!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Life in the NICU – the challenges of prematurity with even a healthy baby, infant health challenges, bonding with other parents facing the same circumstances and 12 long days where time seemed to stand still

• Causes Bibs For Kids supports: premature birth, pediatric HIV, pediatric cerebral palsy, childhood hunger, childhood cancer, and autism

• Prematurity awareness – the selection of this cause was influenced by her own experiences with her son (who is now 4 months old) and the ongoing relationships she’s had with fellow NICU families from their stay

• Pediatric cerebral palsy – the family connection to this challenging disease and how her relationship with her cousin and aunt led her to want to give back in this way

• Pediatric HIV – the family Lauren knows who adopted an HIV positive child and how their life experiences impacted her decision to support this important cause

• Autism – Awareness of early detection and the need for education and intervention are so key to positive outcomes for children living with Autism

• Childhood cancer – 720 kids diagnosed every day in America – why research and awareness is so important

• Childhood hunger – a cause that’s closer to home than we think and not just an overseas problem

• Customer response to Bibs for Kids, donations and partnerships

• The holiday season: thankfulness for good health and a reason to give

• Ways to help when you don’t have kids who wear bibs or don’t have babies in your life– donate $5 and have a bib sent to a child in need

Where to find Lauren:

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2016-12-20 16:30:00

Eps 72: Denise LaRosa shares her children's book, her podcast, building community, and OPRAH!

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DENISE LAROSA is the founder, host and CEO of Mom Talk with Denise LaRosa, LLC, a multimedia platform designed to motivate, inspire and inform mothers along their journey in motherhood. Denise utilizes her parenting experiences and background as an elementary educator to bring mothers invaluable information and resources on parenting through her podcast, blog and workshops.
A devoted wife and mother of two precious girls, Denise is also an elementary school teacher. She earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in dance (Magna cum Laude) from Radford University in 2003 and graduated from Carlow University in 2008 with a Master of Education degree in elementary education.

Empty Shoes is Denise's first children's book. She plans to write many more for you to enjoy. USE PROMO CODE JOYFULCOURAGE for 20% discount on Denise's book!
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2016-12-13 18:00:00

Eps71: Rosalind Wiseman is on talking about friendship roles and teaching dignity for all

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Today’s guest is Rosalind Wiseman, a mom of boys and political scientist who works with teenagers in a professional capacity through an organization called Cultures of Dignity. We are going to talk about the social lives of teenagers. Join us!

“Look for your champion moment and step in.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The struggle to balance maintaining friendships and handle power imbalances and how that flows into abusive romantic relationships later on
• Media depictions of relationships and how they impact teenage perceptions of acceptable and normal behaviors
• Impacts of the election cycle on teenage behavior and normalization of racism and bad behavior and the resulting need for parents to promote inclusion
• How to promote diversity and equal dignity for all by helping your children recognize the difference between healthy curiosity and put-downs
• The importance of coaching your child on how to participate in respectful dialogue and redirecting conversations without reinforcing stigma
• How to support teachers in a changing political climate while they deal with teens struggling with uncertainty
• The role of education in supporting problem solving and critical thinking
• Common roles in teen social groups and the associated challenges of raising: queen bees, side kicks, banker, mastermind, associate, bouncer, entertainer, conscience, champion, victim/target, pleaser, the messenger
• Helping your kids practice for their champion moment
• Backstabbing and the role of the messenger
• How to teach your kids that a disagreement isn’t the end of the relationship
• How to use and coach the SEAL formula – how to speak when you are angry
• The similarities between conflict in teen relationships and videogames battles
• The difference between bullying and lack of relationship skills
• Giving space and listening to boys during puberty
• Relationship repair following insights acquired during parenting education

Resources

Queen Bees and Wannabes
Masterminds and Wingmen
Owning Up

Where to find Rosalind:

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2016-12-06 16:30:00

Eps 70: Luna Leverett Helps Us get Real About the Holidays

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Today’s guest is Luna Leverett, a mom to 12 and 11 year old, and a public speaker who helps overwhelmed women find peace in life by simplifying things. We are going to talk about getting real with the holidays. Join us!

“Your job as a mom is to build a protective hedge around your family and not let them get stressed out and over-stimulated by all the ten thousand things”

• Being the magic makers: doing all the things
• Creating happy memories not just of the holidays and of parents for your kids
• Christmas cards – do you really need to send them?
• Managing expectations – fantasy vs reality
• Avoiding resentment
• How to design the holiday you want to have – focus on the 3 Ms
• What is YOUR mission? Separating that from expectations of others
• Minutae –picking activities and details that support your mission
• Move it – assess which activities that you can enjoy at another time of the year to focus on your mission
• Elf on a Shelf – effectiveness as a behavior modification tool, another thing on your to do list
• Giving yourself permission not to do the same things as everyone else – peer pressure
• Focusing on the things that bring you joy
• Taking the “shoulds” out of the season

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Courage to me is head down, get it done, life is going to be hard at times and you might doubt yourself or feel other people doubting you and you’re just going to have to go out and do it regardless. But joyful courage to me is a picture of having chin up, smile on your face, and for me, parenting. It takes a lot of courage to take on the responsibility of raising what needs to grow up to be responsible adults and those little lives are in your hands for such a young age. But you can do it scared, or you can do it with joy even in the arguments and even in the hard times, that there’s always joy to be found. If it’s just the sweet relationship you have with each of these people in your family that gives you what you need to go out and do the courageous job of parenting with your chin up, with a smile on your face.”

Where to find Luna:

Website

Facebook

Podcast: Confessions Behind the Minivan

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2016-11-29 04:20:44

Eps 69: Laurie Prusso Hatch Helps us Understand Hurtful Behavior in Young Kids

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Today’s guest is Laurie Hatch, a “radical grandma” with strong ideas and opinions about how children who can be raised. She has eleven kids, 44 grandkids and has worked in education, now consulting and training. We are going to talk about kids under 5 and how to handle aggressive behavior. Join us!

“If I could teach parents one thing it would be: never expect kids to share. Kids do not share until the ages of 4 and 5 when it becomes important to them to have a playmate who stays with them and collaborates”

“Sharing is one of the most inappropriate expectations we have in childhood and a huge trigger. We were taught to be nice and share and that if you don’t share you aren’t nice.”

“About the time we start to figure out parenting, we are done”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Exploring the language we use to describe behaviors our kids engage in

• How separating ourselves from our children’s behavior changes how we describe and perceive it

• Sibling rivalry and how we help create it

• The role of supervision in mitigating sibling conflict

• What is scaffolding and how does it relate to correcting behavior?

• Setting reasonable expectations around kid’s ability to self-regulate: improvement vs. mastery

• Child development and how that impacts how sibling conflict plays out

• Resolving conflict through curiosity

• Naturalist observational report: talking to kids about what happened absent of judgment and assumption

• Sharing expectations: why and when developmentally kids share and how expecting it can create challenges

• Biting and tantrums in context: how language and maturity impact these phases

• Backtalk versus advocacy: reframing sassy behavior

• Repetitive behaviors: chances to try different approaches to resolve conflict

• Nurturing in the heat of conflict: why it helps and how to do it even when it’s hard.

• Solutions vs punishments. Focusing on the goal and expected behavior and being permissive aren’t the same thing, resolution doesn’t need to be punitive

• Relationship repair and how to recover fromparenting missteps

• Spanking – where does it come from and what else can you do in the moment

• Post-conflict recaps: encouraging perspective taking and problem solving

• The role of family meetings: connecting rather than blaming

• Parenting education helps learn about parenting process

• Triggers: why do we have them and what they can teach us about ourselves?

• Self-care and parenting – how journaling can help

• Problem solving without fault

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Joy is the essence of being centered in truth. Courage is heart. I try to live so my life and heart are centered on the things I know are true. I have limited knowledge so I’m continually looking for that. I draw on my courage so that I can speak out in active ways that are in harmony with what I believe. Joy is not fleeting, it’s not like happiness. Joy is a constant and a choice in life. If you have joy in your heart, you’re able to endure challenges and adversity because you have this constant centered on truth."

Where to find Laurie:
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2016-11-22 16:30:00

Eps 68: Dropping into Ourselves with Sara Harvey Yao

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Today’s guest is Sara Yao, a leadership coach who transitioned to self-employment on the birth of her child. While her book doesn’t focus on parenting specifically, the principles are incredibly relevant to parenting. Join us!

“It’s about how often you can be present, not how often you can be perfect.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is a leader and how does it relate to parenting? The value of presence, stability and connectedness relative to skills competency Impacts of going on autopilot on parenting and family relationships The practice of pausing to break autopilot Reactive tendencies (complying, detaching, and controlling) - what they are and how they develop The way presence and mindfulness create choice in parenting Modeling - how we pass on our reactive tendencies to our kids How to take a “presence first” approach to parenting to overcome our own reactive tendencies Cultivating presence – how to become more mindful “Survival fear,” sleep deprivation and hormones and the impact of an adrenalized state on our parenting How to start small to create more awareness more often to build a habit of mindfulness. Mindfulness, perfectionism and self-compassion: recognizing increased presence shouldn’t create an expectation of perfection Tuning into body sensation to be present and noticing Breathing techniques – “box breathing” to calm you down when your nervous system is riled up

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I have such deep respect for myself and for others when they are just willing to examine and question – when they do, the liberation that comes from moving out of a pattern or coming to and waking up, that to me is the epitome of joyful courage. Have the courage to look, feel free and at choice again.”

Resources:

Her book, “Drop in: Leading with deeper presence and courage”

Her book, Get Present

Where to find Sara:

Facebook l Twitter l Her website

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2016-11-15 16:30:00

Ask Casey Eps 7: Talking about emos with reluctant kids

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2016-11-11 05:17:06

Eps 67: Nicole Schwarz and I puzzle out sibling conflict questions from the community

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Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, from Imperfect Families. She’s a mom of 3 girls, a parenting coach and child and family therapist who focuses on helping parents use positive, respectful strategies with their kids. Today we are talking about sibling conflict. The questions we are discussing come straight from the community - join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• How to keep sibling conflict to a dull roar with a relationship focus in your parenting

• Balancing the desire to step in with giving space for them to work it out for themselves

• “Say what you see” approach to conflict resolution by describing it

• Role of modeling and coaching for creative solutions

• Deescalating techniques to resolve conflict

• Understanding the role of neurological development on decision making in conflict

• Having empathy for a sense of injustice and encouraging empathy in your kids

• Teaching kids that “people get what they need” and how that might be different and lead to perceived inequity

• Understanding impulse control limitations and flooding and how it leads to physical acting out

• Using proactive practice and play based knowledge to avoid future conflict

• How to focus on what led to acting out to avoid shaming while encouraging learning

• Exercising compassion around evolving nature of self-regulation

• Understanding jealous and resentment around new babies and the needs of other siblings

• Introducing the concept of mixed feelings to kids who are too young to have that insight for themselves

• Coaching around sharing toys and how to place limits on it – sharing power, soliciting and implementing solutions from your kids

• Improving connection to reduce rivalry – using one-on-one time to address your child’s jealousy

• The value of shifting focus from our kid’s behavior to our own behavior – recognizing it’s the only thing we can control

• Contextualizing power struggles as kids trying to navigate their world

• Reframing “bossy” behavior in a positive way and channeling it for good

• Changing how we see tattling

• The value of redo’s and self care

Resources:

Brain in the Palm for Kids video
Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber
Peaceful Parents Happy Siblings: How To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends For Life by Dr. Laura Markham

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2016-11-08 16:30:00

Eps 66: Sheri Gazitt Shares her Wisdom Around Raising Adolescent Girls

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Today’s guest is Sheri Gazitt, founder of a company called “Teen Wise” which focuses on teen issues like bullying, perfectionism, stress and friendship issues. She’s a mom of 3 girls in their teens. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Navigating your teen’s confusion and search for identity The “trying on” process teens go through as they evaluate the pieces that form their identity and how to support it The impact of stress, peer pressure and expectations on families Definitions of success and challenges when they don’t align How to support your daughters through their exploration of true self The evolving nature of the “true self” Moving our coaching from “Be yourself” to “Figure out who yourself is” and why it’s necessary Role modeling values but recognizing your teen may not share your values. How not to take your teen’s behavior personally The importance of healthy adult relationships How to maintain a relationship when your teen is pulling away What girls say they need from parents Navigating conversations when your child’s confidences reveal a need for outside interventions The value of leaving space for teens to have emotions Wardrobe and helping our teens navigate a sexualized climate How to keep your parenting goals in sight when navigating challenging behaviors The power of forgiveness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“It gives me very positive vibes. It means we are happy with ourselves about what challenges we take on and parenting is definitely one of those challenges. It means to be happy and joyful even if we make mistakes, if we fail at something horribly, just to be joyful about the fact that we have that challenge in front of us and we are willing to take it on and give it our all."

Resources:
Reviving Ophelia

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2016-11-01 15:30:00

October Bonus Eps: Sproutable Founders talk about supporting parents from birth to five

So happy to have the founders of Sproutable.com on the show today!! Alanna Beebe and Julietta Skoog are on a MISSION to be super helpful and supportive of parents raising kids under five. They are on the show to share their offer and what inspires them to work with families.

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2016-10-27 15:30:00

Eps 65: Raising Boys with Tosha Schore

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Today’s guest is Tosha Schore, known online as “Your Partner in Parenting Boys” and a mom of 3 boys. She partners with parents to help their boys thrive – teaching parents to practice self care, connect with their boys deeply to encourage open communication, coaching them to set limits in a loving way and to use play strategically in their parenting. Join us!

“My mission is to make a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time.”

“Parenting is difficult because to do it well you must look inside yourself; you need to know what makes you sore and what really pushes your buttons. Looking at oneself, really looking inside is a challenge, the thing is, the consequence of not looking at oneself is even worse.”

“If we want to guide our children well, we have to first look at our own stories.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The value of getting ourselves into “good parenting shape” and listening to each other non-judgmentally to ease frustration The importance of boys being able to feel their feelings and avoid the “boiling pot” – embracing the body’s natural way to heal from our hurts What keeps parents from feeling like it’s ok for their boys to feel their feelings? Learning to be unattached to your child’s reactions to limits The impact of isolation on the parenting experience Stereotypes of masculinity and how they impact emotional intimacy How to transition your boys from exhibiting aggressive behaviors to being more calm and increasing accountability by reducing fear The importance of not losing sight of your boy’s goodness despite poor behavior Working towards discipline from a place of connection The value of being curious about what’s underneath anger How to parenting in a way that honors the developing brain Addressing off-track behaviors through connection and taking a proactive approach Helping kids handle the pressure to save face Techniques to address separation anxiety How to set healthy limits in a loving way while creating safe spaces for exploration Supporting boys through loudness and recognizing it for what it is

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Working in this life for what you feel is important – being you. Courage means being me and supporting my children and the people I know to be them fully. There’s nothing more joyful than being real and full and who you are and the gift you have to give.”

Resources:

Positive Discipline – Jane Nelsen

Listen – 5 simple tools to meet your everyday parenting challenges – Tosha Schore & Patty Wipfler

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2016-10-25 15:30:00

Eps 64: Eric D. Green - 1 Awesome Dad Holding Space for the Peaceful Parenting Conversation

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Today’s guest is Eric Greene, a father, husband and children’s rights activist. His work through his website, his Facebook group and private consultations focuses on peaceful parenting. As a father of one, his son has inspired him to explore parenting approaches that honor his desire to be the best parent he can be. His goal is to help improve the lives of children by helping parents learn better ways of raising children. Join us!

“Peaceful parenting is not permissive, it’s setting limits and boundaries in a peaceful way.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is peaceful parenting? How applicable is peaceful parenting to parents of more than one child? What does “Growing the pause” mean and how do you do it? Peaceful parenting as a practice and the need for repetition Recognizing peaceful parenting doesn’t change that kids are still kids The role of mindfulness in peaceful parenting How to be firm and still parent peacefully Building resiliency in your kids Mindset shifts in peaceful parenting – moving from trying to control your kids’ behavior to trying to control what’s going on within yourself The difference between peaceful and permissive parenting Practicing no buts” empathy Peaceful “parenting practices The value of “hugging it out” to find a solution Looking for opportunities to share power Common struggles among parents trying to parent peacefully Traditional gender roles and peaceful parenting Supporting your co-parent to parent peacefully The importance of self-care and self-compassion in peaceful parenting How to take baby steps to positive parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“The courage to be joyful. Brene Brown talked about how the most vulnerable state you can be in is joy.That takes courage. It takes courage to be joyful.”

Resources:

The Intentional Parent Project
Positive Discipline – Jane Nelsen

Where to find Eric:

His website
Facebook
Twitter
Peaceful Parenting Community Facebook group

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2016-10-18 15:30:00

Eps 63: Dr. Joanne Foster and I Explore the Ups and Downs of Extra Curricular Activities

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Today’s guest is Joanne Foster, an educational consultant and author of several parenting and educational books. Her work focuses on supporting and encouraging children’s well-being, intelligence, creativity, self-confidence, and productivity. As a mother of two and grandmother of three, she has over 30 years’ experience working with gifted children. She recently wrote an article about the lure of extracurricular activities. It’s a topic that every family has to face and deal with in their own way. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why extracurricular activities should complement what they’re learning in school Opportunities and demand How much choice should you give your children? The perceived pressure that parents feel regarding extracurricular activities Too much vs. too little Should you ever let a child QUIT an activity? Helping a child pick and choose activities Examples of extracurricular options that DON’T have to be stressful Advice for parents about setting boundaries Why kids need help in developing accountability for decisions

​What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“For me, it means using my intelligence, drawing on past experiences, acquiring supports when needed, harnessing my creativity, and having faith in my ability to confront changes and challenges.”

Resources:

www.beyondintelligence.net.
Being Smart about Gifted Education
by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster
Beyond Intelligence
by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster
Not Now, Maybe Later: Helping Kids Overcome Procrastination
by Joanne Foster

And an article that Joanne was inspired to write after our interview:
Too Invested in Your Child's Activities and Performance

Where to find Joanne:

Her website
Facebook

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2016-10-11 15:30:00

Ask Casey Episode 6: Thoughts on Potty Training

2016-10-07 16:00:00

Eps 62: Conscious Parenting with Lori Petro

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Welcome! My guest today is Lori Petro, an advocate for children and families. Lori is a conscious parent educator and a mom to a young daughter. Our discussion today is around raising caring and sensitive children. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why a “conscious” parent educator? 13 Principles of Conscious Parenting (from Alfie Kohn) Behavior and Motives: Look UNDER the surface How we make kids be reactive The connection with our child is THE most important thing Children with unusual sensitivities Three areas to understand sensitive children: relationships, stress, and skills Explosive behavior and self-regulation Peace and mindfulness Noisy environments can be overwhelming Skill building Fixing stuff in my life Looking for signals What are they trying to tell me? Be who you are right now

Resources:

www.teachthroughlove.com
TEACH through Love Facebook Page
The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary

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2016-10-04 16:00:00

Eps 61: Amy McCready Helps us Teach our Kids Money Sense

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Welcome to an amazing show with Amy McCready, back again for another conversation! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, which provides online training for parents of toddlers to teens. She was with us in Episode 10 when we discussed the Me, Me, Me Epidemic. Amy is the mother of two college-aged kids and is the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time and The Me, Me, Me Epidemic. We’re talking about money, and how to encourage and empower kids in their sense of money. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Most of us don’t have much training in money management! Four systems of money management and the problems with each: Money as needed Money as reward Money as payment No strings attached allowance The benefits to the “no strings attached” allowance Suggestions for allowances and kids’ finances Realistic budgeting for kids’ expenditures Tools to use to get kids to contribute around the house The difference in a chore and a contribution “When-Then” statements Family meetings: brainstorming solutions Loans and credit scores---for kids!

Resources:

www.positiveparentingsolutions.com

Find Amy on Facebook, too!

If I Have to Tell You One More Time by Amy McCready

The Me, Me, Me Epidemic by Amy McCready

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2016-09-27 16:00:00

SEPTEMBER WORLD CHANGER: Grant Gibbs Shares About Hippo Roller Water Project

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What an honor to get to share the conversation I had with Grant Gibbs, the executive director of The Hippo Roller Water Project.

From the website:

"Designed in Africa for tough rural conditions, the durable Hippo Roller makes it extremely easy to collect up to 5x more water than a single bucket, by simply rolling it along the ground."

Listen to the conversation, click the links below and find out how YOU can be a supporter of this important work.

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Join the cause!

Joyful Courage is joining the Hippo Roller team in their effort towards bringing 200 Hippo Rollers to Haiti.

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2016-09-22 16:00:00

Eps 60: Sandy Blackard Helps With the WHINING

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Welcome! I’m excited to introduce you to my guest today! Sandy Blackard is an award-winning author and parenting coach. As the mother of two grown daughters, Sandy reached a frantic point in her own parenting challenges that led to the passion she has for helping parents acquire tools and tips that bring SUCCESS! She’s here to share her wisdom with us, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How “play therapy” set Sandy on her course What does “Say what you see” really mean? Listening, interacting, and retraining how you see the world Name that strength Acknowledgement vs. Praise The transformation of a rule-breaker Powerlessness vs. perceived helplessness A child’s three basic needs: experience, connection, and power How to negotiate power struggles How to handle whining Downstairs and Upstairs Brain Modeling authenticity Aligning the child in their greatness What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Courage comes when I’m facing a challenge. It’s a reminder of what’s waiting on the other side of the challenge.”

Resources:

www.languageoflistening.com

Say What You See by Sandy Blackard

Find Sandy on Facebook and Twitter

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2016-09-20 16:00:00

Eps 59: Back to School With Nicole Schwarz from Imperfect Families

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Welcome! My guest today is Nicole Schwarz, who joined me for Episode 39 about helping kids deal with negative self-talk. She is a parent coach, child and family therapist, and the founder of Imperfect Families. All of us parents are in some phase of that back-to-school transition time, so let’s hear Nicole’s thoughts on this subject!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The nighttime routine: getting in the mindset of an earlier bedtime Essential family routines for back-to-school The power of shifting from “but” to “and” Urgency is contagious The importance of daily jobs for kids Why kids NEED to make their own lunch Homework: how parents can be supportive and available How to support rather than shame “The bad-kid cycle” How to stick with your kids through emotional blow-ups Why you can’t assume the problem OR the solution

Resources:

www.imperfectfamilies.com

Find Nicole on Facebook (Imperfect Families),
on Pinterest (Nicole Schwarz),
and on Twitter (NicoleForFamilies)

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2016-09-13 17:00:00

Ask Casey Eps 5: Why Intentional Parenting?

This week I am going a bit rouge and spending time talking about this whole "Intentional Parenting" thing I am throwing around all over town...

I share thoughts and feedback from parents who dug deep in the #JoyfulCourage10 program and speak into the very human need for connection and meaning.

Intentional parenting is about us, friends. It is about us managing our own baggage to show up better for our kids. Listen in and let me know if you have any questions!

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2016-09-08 18:00:00

Eps 58: Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer

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Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?” Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road Variables in blending families The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents A magical connection between parent and child Kelly’s advice for Special Time: Plan it and put it on the calendar As much as possible, let it be child-led Incorporate non-competitive games Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!) Use bedtime routines Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap Have an older child help with dinner preparation How connection helps diffuse power struggles Tools to repair and recover from hurts Why parents need to say “I’m sorry” Don’t give up when a teen is resistant Ideas for saving Special Time money What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!”

Resources:

www.thinkitthroughparenting.com

Find Kelly on Facebook and Twitter (@posdisparenting)

Become a Positive Discipline Parent Educator at Kelly’s 2-day workshop in Greenville, SC, in October

Email newsletter: Find out more and sign up for these parenting tools on Kelly’s website!

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson, Ed.D.

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2016-09-06 16:00:00

Eps 57: Sharon Ballantine Talks Teens and Their Need to Pull Away

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Today’s guest is Sharon Ballantine! With 3 children to parent, she turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Join us!

Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children.

In this episode Sharon also discusses:

How to find answers within yourself You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery” Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change. Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine

Connect with Sharon:

Website - sharonballantine.com

Facebook/sharonballantine

Twitter/LifeCoachSB

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2016-08-30 15:01:00

Eps 56: Beth Caldwell on Raising Kids While Living with Cancer

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Welcome to an inspiring episode with my friend, Beth Caldwell. Beth is a mom of two, a former civil rights lawyer, and a blogger who lives in Seattle. In 2014, at age 37, Beth found a lump during a breast self-exam, which turned out to be metastatic cancer already in her bones. You’ll appreciate Beth’s genuine honesty about our topic today: as parents of young children, how do we deal with illness, trauma, death, and loss? What do we tell them? How much is TOO MUCH for them to handle? You don’t want to miss this conversation, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Beth’s cancer journey from finding the lump until now The feedback from Beth’s frank and open blog: 99% positive Currently, her cancer is in her brain, right arm, and liver New breakthroughs with new drugs The worst part of chemo? Fatigue How to talk to kids with age appropriate language about cancer Don’t hide the truth: share what’s important for them to know Her son’s recent speech about advocacy for better research How to be open and create a safe space for their questions Be mindful: don’t live in fear and trauma Why Beth insists on “planning ahead” How cancer affects your spouse

What does “joyful courage” mean to Beth? “Courage is not an absence of fear; it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.”

Resources:

www.cultofperfectmotherhood.com

"The Cat is Out of the Bag" Beth's son finds out she will die of her cancer

www.metup.org

The Cancer that Wouldn’t Go Away by Hadassa Field

I Still Just Want to Pee Alone (series by Jen Mann and others, including Beth!)

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2016-08-23 16:00:00

Eps 55: Jo Langford Talks Porn, Sexting and Social Media

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Jo Langford is a therapist and sex educator from Seattle, WA. Our conversation today will cover porn, social media ediquette, and sexting (yikes!). In a culture that is becoming ever more sexualized, how do we keep our kids safe and smart about what is out there? Joe and I have a very candid conversation about conversations to have with our children, while still maintaining relationship and family values…

Highlights:

Jo has two kids, a middle schooler and an almost middle schooler. He is living his work! He’s been changing the world and making it better since high school. Joe trains parents, teachers and staff of organizations such as the YMCA and the Boys and Girls Club. Harder for kids to NOT see porn, than it is to be ABLE to see it. Families are getting in touch with Joe because their 10-16 year old is looking at a lot of porn parents talk about it and child continues to engage in it. What conversations you can have with your kids when they are noticing all of the opportunities to see/look at porn. When you see porn you can never “un-see” it. Instead of “how do I keep my child from being exposed to porn?” today, we need to be asking, “how do I handle it when my child sees porn?” – this is the reality based on statistic Open conversations are key… Keep them talking, by practicing your neutral face and manage your own stuff when they come to you to have tough conversations. The message becomes “I can handle what you bring me, no matter what.” What happens in the brain? Kicks up the pleasure centers, big hit of dopamine… If they continue to watch, the brain gets desensitized and wants to get to the next level. Talk to kids about building boundaries around tech. Encourage them to have real relationships, how to unplug, how to manage friends/people who sext. Rules/guidelines around where the phone/screen lives at night… Don’t wait until you NEED the guidelines – put them into place now. “Monitoring” software that Joe recommends – builds muscles of restraint and self control when kids have some access while also knowing that parents will see where they go – “we are trying to raise good grown ups” Qustidio – controlled through wifi – put the browser on kids devices. Controls, time limits, helpful. Disney’s Circle – easy to use, hooks up to wifi, all devices get put into categories (grown ups, teens, kids) and put time limits on use, also over 3G. AWESOME! Best strategy is to put most of the ownership and responsibility on the kids. “Not about me trusting you, it’s about you showing that you are trustworthy.” Joe has amazingly helpful PDFs on his website Making agreements together is key to our kids follow through. The internet is forever! You leave a trail…. Grown ups are the models of what is appropriate/inappropriate – be good role models! SM challenges Joe sees with parents – Snapchat, no way to monitor because it all disappears… “Deeper end of pool” – super popular. Starting out with Snapchat is a huge mistake – kids need to start with FB or IG, and wade into social networking pool to learn how to interact online. Snapchat is more for later/older teens. Roll out the SM access, rather than giving kids full access from the beginning. Let them flex and develop their muscles. Get on the apps they want to use with them, let them teach you, normalize communicating with each other through this media. How do we help our kids deal with sexting? Statistically 20% - 30% of teens send pics, doubles when it is only “words” Girls sometimes start the behavior because they know the boys will respond. Joe advises the boys to respond with “this isn’t something you need to do… here are three things I like about you besides your boobs” – our girls are getting the wrong message about how to connect/get attention. Joe has a PDF about sexting – great prompts for powerful conversation. Kids have less hangups about sex and seem to be more comfortable with their bodies, but there is an abyss they can tumble into – we want them to be more discerning and thoughtful about who they share that with. Musical.ly – lip synch app. Conversations about song choice and messages they are sending to the world. Others make meaning/assessments of you (kids) based on what you put out there…. Developing a discerning mind… All about practice.

Where to find Joe:

www.beheroes.net

Facebook l Twitter

Spare Me the Talk – written for teen boys

Spare Me the Talk the Girl Guide

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Taking risks that make you feel good about yourself.”

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2016-08-10 05:50:06

Eps 54: Deborah Reber from TILT Parenting Talks About Supporting Differently Wired Kids

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Welcome! My guest today is Debbie Reber, the founder of TiLT Parenting, an online destination and podcast. The website was the result of parenting a “differently-wired” child with neurological differences. She found it hard to find information and support for the challenges that parents face when ADHD, autism, and dyslexia are the diagnoses. Her family moved from Seattle to Amsterdam three years ago, where she homeschools Asher today. Debbie’s desire was to create a community and a podcast to give parental support and to help kids feel accepted, understood, and heard. Let’s learn more together!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Preschool experiences: disruptive behavior and meltdowns Year-by- year education plan Assumptions that others make about ADHD & ODD Challenges of living in Amsterdam The Tilt Parenting Manifesto, based on true acceptance Atypical kids are everywhere—at least 20% of the population Why we don’t need the Shroud of Secrecy Ten Tilts to Shift the Game Amazing response from other parents The Vision? Shifting the whole parenting paradigm When options are limited for “normal” activities, like camp When normal strategies don’t work The benchmark mentality—usually by age 6 Using resources Become fluent in your child’s language The problem-solving approach, and tweaking and tweaking and tweaking Joy in the growth of the child Self-care for parents is important! Asher joins in on the podcast for special episodes!

What does “joyful courage” mean to you?

“Having peace and joy is something I want parents to have in their experience. It takes a lot of courage to show up and be vulnerable in your relationship with your child and to lean into it. Embrace what is and notice the little things that bring peace and happiness.”

Resources:

www.tiltparenting.com
Connect on Debbie’s Facebook group also!
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey

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2016-08-02 16:00:00

Eps 53: Rebecca Michi Breaks Down Sleep

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My guest today is Rebecca Michi, a children’s sleep consultant and mother of two daughters. In her work with families over the years, Rebecca found that sleep issues were a common problem. This realization led her to specialize on the subject and offer coaching help to many parents. I’m thrilled to get her insights into this issue—and( let’s be truthful),haven’t we all had some pull-our-hair-out moments? Whether you’re a brand new parent or the parent of teens, Rebecca has great tips to share. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Temperaments and sleep patterns are unique to each person. Rebecca’s average client is 8 months old! Most children need help falling asleep and STAYING asleep. Her philosophy? Support parents in their parenting style Unique family dynamics Sleep: Why it’s a very basic need Sleeping “through the night” is usually defined as 5 consecutive hours AFTER midnight. “Good sleeper” or “bad sleeper” At bedtime, focus on relaxation and physically slowing down. Other bedtime routines can be singing songs, reading books, and quiet play. Negotiables and non-negotiables about bedtime Giving children SOME choices gives them healthy empowerment. Teens’ sleep patterns change (but they STILL need 8-9 hours!) Limit evening electronics and bright lights (use incandescent bulbs) Rebecca shares the guidelines for number of sleep hours needed, from ages 0-3 months to 13 years. It’s normal to wake 2-6 times each night. The goal for your child? The ability to get themselves back to sleep when waking Don’t make sleep or the bedroom a means of punishment! What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means going forward on your parenting journey, even when it’s unknown, and trying to enjoy it! Look at it in a positive way.”

Resources:

www.childrenssleepconsultant.com

Find Rebecca on Facebook, too!

The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley

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Brain Informed Parenting - A Webinar
This week for Wednesday Webinar (7.27.16), I will share some basic brain science that you don't need to be a genius to understand. When we have a basic understanding of our kids brain development, and our own, it can shift the way we interact with our kids, deepening our relationships and keeping us focused on teaching skills. You DO NOT want to miss this hour!

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2016-07-26 16:00:00

JULY BONUS EPS: Krista Petty Raimer joins me to talk about adolescent girls and GLAM CAMP 2016

I am THRILLED to have my friend, mentor and CO-CONSPIRATOR on the show today to talk about being women, mamas, and our middle school girl's workshop, GLAM CAMP 2016! Krista Petty Raimer is the founder of Boldly Embody Life and a beacon of lite and transformation to all who have the pleasure of crossing paths with her.

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2016-07-22 15:07:05

Eps 52: Sarah MacLaughlin and I talk Race, Privilege and Parenting for a Better World

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Welcome! My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin, a compassion coach, child behavior decoder, parent educator, author, speaker, and warrior for kindness. Sounds like a busy woman, doesn’t she? There is more! She is also the mother of an eight-year-old and is a licensed social worker in Maine. Sarah was a guest for Episode 30, when she discussed Setting Limits. I’m so excited to have her back to help us make sense out of some of the troubling current events in our country. How do we raise our kids to treat ALL people with dignity and respect in the midst of a predominantly white culture? How are we raising our kids to make a better world? Join us for this important and timely conversation.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The responsibility of parents today Stop talking and LISTEN! Making it all make sense to kids Implicit bias: What is it? Being rich vs. being wealthy Why we fear discomfort Our hierarchal society (it exists) Finding opportunities for diversity What’s NORMAL? The anti-bias classroom Why we can’t ignore US history Why being “colorblind” is NOT the answer Kids—they are ALWAYS watching! How to confront others and express your discomfort Is your home “whitewashed”?

Resources:

www.sarahmaclaughlin.com

Use Sarah’s name to find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Love First: Parenting to Reduce Racism, Sexism, Homophobia and Other Forms of Hate, by Sarah MacLaughlin

Laying the Groundwork for Acceptance and Inclusion, by Sarah MacLaughlin

Talking to my White Child About Race, by Sarah MacLaughlin

40 Ways to Raise a Nonracist Child, by Barbara Mathias

EDITORIAL: What I Said When My White Friend Asked For My black Opinion on White Privilege, by Lori Lakin Hutcherson

Thoughts From A Middle Class White Mama, by Casey O'Roarty

White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh

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2016-07-19 16:00:00

Eps 51: Tracy Cutchlow Discusses Fostering the Growth Mindset Early

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is Tracy Cutchlow, the author of Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far). The book fulfills Tracy’s passion to help new parents with information and support as they embark on the parenthood journey. Tracy also writes a blog and articles for the Washington Post and Huffington Post. Tracy and her husband, Luke, live in Seattle, where they enjoy life with their four-year- old daughter, Geneva. Unbelievably, Tracy wrote her book during the first 18 months of Geneva’s life! We’ll talk about the tools and wisdom in her book and the topic of helping our youngest children develop a growth mindset. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The unusual format in her book that makes it helpful for busy, new parents Development challenges of very young children “How many times do I have to tell you?” Why children follow their desires (even when they don’t follow OUR desires) Our expectations vs. normal development Why parenting education should be included in well-child visits to the pediatrician Behaviors: Why they meet the child’s innate needs of experience, power, and connection Why children seek connection, but will settle for attention Look at their behavior through the lens of their needs. Growth mindset: What is it? Acknowledgement vs. praise: What’s the difference? How empathy fits naturally into the growth mindset What it takes is small tweaks in our language Why our kids NEED to make mistakes The power of teaching kids about their brains

What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means taking action, but having a lightness and a playfulness—looking for the good instead of the bad.”

Resources:

www.zerotofive.net (Find parenting tips and more!)

Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far) by Tracy Cutchlow

Find Tracy on Facebook and Twitter: Zero to Five Book

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2016-07-12 17:00:00

Ask Casey Eps 4: Making Sense of Sibling Rivalry

Excited to dig into sibling rivalry today on the Ask Casey episode!!

A listener wrote in:

My kids - particularly my 8 and 9 yo - feel like they have to compete with each other all the time. Every time one does something/gets something different from the other, they tend to mention to the other almost like a taunt. I think on one hand they want their sibling to be happy for them (like mom or dad would be), and on the other hand, I think they want to show how much more special they are. Even if it is innocent, the other kid will still take it as a put down as if it's expected and react with shock, become grudgingly upset, and whining. It is so annoying and constant. It even goes so far as every question I ask has to be directed at one individual bc they will get upset over who answers first. They will even just smile in a nonverbal taunting sort of way to get the other one upset. This happens anytime of day from when they first get up to evening. It happens at home, in the car, in the store. They don't usually do it if there are other kids their age or a little older around - I think bc they get embarrassed. I've seen them snap out of it instantly. It seems to happen less at bedtime maybe because of routine and parent led family time? When it happens my physical response is to get tense in my face and jaw, my breath gets short, and then I feel tension in my shoulders. Emotionally, I start to feel exasperated. Yes, this is all probably normal on some level and we are working deliberately to include special/individual child led time with each kid. Bugs and wishes has helped bc they feel like others hear them and respect them more. Just looking for the next step to take it to the next level. We don't want to foster competition in our family we value working together and supporting one another. I want them to be able to be happy for their sibling without feeling less. I feel like just writing this out is helping form some ideas to try, but I would love to hear yours as I'm sure mine are not the only kids who tend to do this. (I was fiercely and painfully competitive with my sister growing up). Resources for parenting siblings: Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber and Mazlish Peaceful Parent, Happy Sibling by Dr. Laura Markham Eps 37: Dr. Laura Markham on holding space for siblings to get along

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2016-07-07 17:00:00

Eps 50: Kate Orsen, Hand In Hand Parenting Expert Talks about Listening for Cooperation

Kate Orson is on the podcast today, and I absolutely love where our conversation went!!

Kate's bio from her website:

KAte is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children. Originally from the UK she now live in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and our four year old daughter Ruby.

Kate has written articles for a number of different parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

Kate offer parenting workshops, consultations, both online via skype or in person.

I reached out to Kate to talk about getting children's cooperation around chores. In talking to her, and learning more about the Hand In Hand parenting approach, our conversation lead us down the road to understanding how intentional listening and presence with children can invite the very cooperation we are looking for.

Kate wrote an article titled 25 Tips for Having Fun While Cleaning Up

Here is the Montessori list of age appropriate chores ((super helpful!))

Things to remember when we are hoping for cooperation:

set limits lightness play show faith and trust your child's ability listen practice special time

More about "stay listening"

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website i facebook i twitter

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2016-07-05 23:09:32

EPS 49: Talking Point from the Stanford Sexual Assault Case and the Orlando Shooting With Amy Lang and Jen O'Ryan

Welcome! Today’s episode features TWO guests, Amy Lang and Dr. Jen O’Ryan. Amy is a sexuality educator who helps parents have conversations with kids about healthy sexuality; she previously joined us for Episodes 8 and 33. Jen holds a PhD in human behavior and specifically works with children and adolescents in gender minorities, especially LGBTQ kids. She joined us for Episode 35. These conversations were prompted by the important talking points which emerged from two recent news stories: the Stanford rape case and the Orlando nightclub shooting. Join us for these important conversations!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

From Amy:

The Stanford case boils down to consent: How do we help our kids be smarter than that? Bad decisions and entitlement: a dangerous mix Teach kids about consent: Use the words permission, asking and giving, and agreement. When everyone is “out of their heads,” there is NO CONSENT! Yes means YES. No means NO. Stop means STOP! With young kids, respect their right to say no to unwanted hugs/kisses; as adults, ASK for a hug/kiss. How to use transition phrases to awkward moments “Tricky people” Be explicit with kids about family rules. Plant seeds about sexuality conversations. Teach them NOT to expect entitlement. Amy’s book about dating, to help kids figure out their dating values (See Resources below) Why we need to model conflict resolution for our kids “Yes” girls and red flags in dating—Are you ready for sex? Be open, available, and neutral for your kids.

From Jen:

With news of any tragedy, it’s better to give kids small pieces of information that they can process rather than overwhelm them with ALL the details. How to “check in” with your LGBTQ kids Jen’s experience in London this week with a drag queen show paying tribute to the Orlando victims Adults have communities and support systems in place, but most kids don’t. The human element of these victims: brother, sisters, sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, etc. Social change is a product of humanization. The verbage to use? LGBTQ, queer, etc. Remember that kids process information at different speeds than adults. Have conversations with kids about safety, dangers, reassurance, and empowerment. The best response is always unity and solidarity. With 5-7 year olds: listen and watch how they play, and make space for them to express feelings. With older kids: create safe spaces for them to talk, and check for signs of depression or social withdrawal. It’s OK to talk about it!

Resources:

Dating Smarts: What Every Teen Needs to Know to Date, Relate, or Wait by Amy Lang

www.birdsandbeesandkids.com

www.birdsandbeescourse.com (Amy’s new online course for parents!)

www.savvyparentssafekids.com

Tea Consent video (on youtube!)

www.mykidcameout.com (Jen’s website with resources, blog, and email info. Find her on Facebook, too!)

Healthy Sex Talk: Teaching Kids Consent, ages 1-21

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2016-06-28 17:00:00

BONUS EPS: Maria Dismondy, Award Winning Author

So happy to welcome Maria Dismondy to the show for my June BONUS episode!! Maria is an award winning author and has written many books for children that engage and inspire them to consider the skills needed to be a good friend and problem solver. She spent time in the classroom before having her own children, and uses her time in schools to inform what she writes about in her books.

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Maria's books:

The Littlest Linebacker - A Story of Determination
Chocolate Milk Por Favor - Celebrating Diversity with Empathy
Spoonful of Sweetness - and Other Delicious Manners
Pink Tiara Cookies for Three
Spaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun - Having the Courage to be Who You Are
The Juice Box Bully - Empowering Kids to Stand Up for Others
The Potato Chip Champ - Discovering Why Kindness Counts

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Conversation starters from Pinterest

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2016-06-23 17:00:00

Eps 48: Taming the Toddlers and Haters with Julietta Skoog

Welcome! My guest today is a dear friend, Julietta Skoog, who is a positive discipline trainer. She joined us as a guest on Episode 4 about Family Meetings. It’s hard to believe that we’re here at Episode 48 now! I’m so thrilled to have Julietta back again so that we can all benefit from her wealth of parenting knowledge. She teaches many classes and workshops for parents, in addition to being a school counselor and psychologist in Seattle, where she works with hundreds of students. Her most important parenting work, however, is at home with her children, ages 4 and 7. Today’s topic is all about Toddlers—raising them and dealing with those around us who might not agree with our parenting methods. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Toddlers are biologically driven to explore the world through visual learning and touch. We need to find a way to bridge between our world and their world. They need to know that you hear them and understand them. Connect with them, see them, and hear them. With 2-3 year olds, redirection and distraction can be effective tools to move them on to what they need to do next. What it means to “get them to the second location” With older toddlers, use curiosity questions and give them a wait time. With younger toddlers, limit their choices to ones that you’re ok with. Mutual respect is essential—even with toddlers! Help them get excited about the next step with PLAY. Use deep firmness and structure. How should we handle destructive behaviors? Speak consistently Model connection and firmness Supervise! Model and help them learn empathy Transitions cause anxiety for kids, so do your prevention work!

In dealing with others’ opinions, remember that we’re all challenged as parents; we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have.

Resources:

www.besproutable.com (Julietta has video examples and other parenting resources.)

Julietta's website l Facebook

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2016-06-21 16:00:00

Eps 47: Honoring our Inner Voice with Kris Prochaska

Welcome! My guest today is Kris Prochaska, a former therapist who uses her intuition, diagnostic skills, and ability to read people’s energy. Her desire is to coach women in how to embody sacred leadership at home and at work to listen and live according to their inner voice. Kris was a 2015 TEDxBend speaker and is the author of Life Well Spoken: Free Your Inner Voice and Prosper. She is a busy mom to Anja, 7, and Eli, 11, and is happily married to—and still in love with—her hubby, Mike.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Kris began her career journey as a therapist, but tired of focusing on what’s “wrong.” She wanted to discover what’s “right”! Kris approaches her coaching sessions under the premise that the client really does know best. Kris discusses her TED talk experience and the responses she received to her topic: Why don’t we see our kids as equals? Kris shares the irony in her TED talk in that she was not in alignment with her natural energy and truth. The goal in parenting is NOT to control our kids, but to teach them to use their tools to become their very best. Our kids are equally deserving of dignity and respect, but that doesn’t mean there are no limits or boundaries. The parenting attitude should be, “What’s in the highest and best good for our family in the long term?” We should listen to the voice of our kids and let them be a part of decision-making. We’re afraid if we teach them to listen to themselves that they will run rampant. The “little voices,”—do YOU hear them? They seek to make you look good, stay safe, and fit in-- -no matter what. How do you tell the difference between your “little voices” and your intuition? The “little voices” will make you feel small, constricted, and pressured. Your true inner voice is expansive, calm, and peaceful. Your energy shift can affect those around you.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “When we have the courage to step into that inner voice place and what we know, it takes courage to do that over and over again. The returns are infinite. That’s the blessing we give to the world.”

Resources:

www.krisprochaska.com

Find her on Facebook and Instagram: MessyMysticMama.

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2016-06-14 16:00:00

Ask Casey Eps 3: Back Talk

Here is what I got from a listener:

Hey lady!

As I said in my post, Sheane (my teacher ;)) is really volatile right now, and so much of what she's saying is full of disrespect and sass. Oh, and often high volume. It's driving me nuts. I suspect it's because summer is upon us, and she is worried about the transition, having to say goodbye to her teacher, etc., as she's so sensitive so it's freaking her out. If I say, "Please sit down and finish your breakfast" (she gets up several times during mealtimes, mostly to cartwheel), she'll yell, "MOM! Stop telling me that! I was going to!!!" Or, she's started to respond, "I don't care!" or "I don't have to!" Shaun and I have really been working on our tone with each other and the kids, so I feel like we're really modeling ways to disagree, ask questions, etc., without being disrespectful. And, we've been working on our connection with her, each of us committing to ensuring that she is feeling that sense of belonging and significance. So, I'm somewhat stumped now as to where to go with this. Often she's outright saying, "NO!" or is moaning and groaning about every situation, even when choice and inviting language is used. I did just take the "is your child sensitive" quiz that was posted on the FB page, and she scores off the charts. Thoughts? This child is teaching the hell out of me.

So grateful for parents who reach out for support!! Enjoy this episode of Ask Casey as I do my best to share advice and feedback on this behavior that drives us ALL mad!!

Back talk video

Article on consent – good man project

“Our kids are doing the best they can with the skills they have.”

What/How questions

Connect before correct

Get curious about your child’s experience too

Offer the opportunity for a redo

They need to have the space for you to say “that wasn’t the best way to handle this situation, let’s try it again.”

Practice being non-attached (don’t take it personally)

“Tell me about that…” and then LISTEN DEEPLY

The goal is to help our kids build skills to navigate disappointment in a way that isn’t hurtful to others, themselves or the environment around them.

Soothing basket PDF

Hold space for them to be uncomfortable and trust them to get to the other side

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2016-06-09 17:00:00

Eps 46: Dr. Michele Borba and Why Empathy is the Antidote to the Selfie Culture

Welcome! My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba, a globally-recognized educational psychologist and parenting, bullying, and character expert. Her aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience to break the cycle of youth violence. She has delivered keynotes and workshops to over 1 million participants on 5 continents and authored 24 books translated into 14 languages. Her latest book is out on June 7, and is titled Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Parents and educators will benefit greatly from Dr. Borba’s wisdom and insights. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Michele has experience as a special education teacher and working on school shooting prevention and bullying prevention programs. Much of the world’s violence narrows down to the primary need of empathy. What is empathy? The ability to “feel” with someone, to step in and understand where another person is coming from. Empathy has emotional and cognitive components. In researching her book, Michele learned from Holocaust rescuers that empathy was modeled for them by their parents, so it was natural for them to care about helping others. In the last 30 years, empathy in children has dropped by 40%, while narcissism has increased by 58%. Michele explains “The Selfie Syndrome” and how it kills empathy. Michele shares the following about learning empathy: It’s a “womb-to-tomb” scenario, so you can start learning at any age. Children are hard-wired for empathy at birth. Infants go through the first step of empathy when they attach to their mothers. Around age 1, emotional literacy begins when a child understands another’s clues to sadness or hurt. The problem today is that children are learning to tune in to digital devices and not to each other. #1 Tip: Teach your child to look at the color of the eyes of the person speaking to learn to “tune in.” Michele’s book teaches activities to cultivate empathy, to listen better, and to stand up to a bully. How to teach children the A, B, C’s of recognizing stress The “empathy gap” of overwhelmed kids Many “self-regulation” techniques are recommended in the book. Why we MUST teach coping strategies to our kids! How to teach them to take care of someone else’s heart Why saying “I’m sorry” is NOT the best option Michele gives some baby steps that parents can take as a starting point to increase empathy in their kids. “Think Big, Start Small”---choose ONE thing to do Michele has “Bully Buster” techniques and skills in the book. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Joyful Courage is the most wonderful concept you can imagine. Having courage brings real joy. We need to build kids from the inside out. It’s the real miracle point of your heart opening to another.”

Resources:

www.commonsensemedia.org

www.micheleborba.com

Find Dr. Borba on Facebook and Twitter and find her books on Amazon.com.

2016-06-07 16:00:00

Eps 45: Deborah MacNamara helps us Make More Sense of our Kids (and humans in general)

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a brilliant voice in parent education and if was so fun to get to know her on the podcast!

From her website:

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is on Faculty at the Neufeld Institute and author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) She presents, teaches, and writes on all facets of child and adolescent development based on the relational-developmental approach of Gordon Neufeld. She is also in private practice where she offers counselling services to parents and professionals in making sense of learning, behavioural, and developmental issues in kids. Deborah is a dynamic teacher and experienced counsellor who makes developmental science come to life in the everyday context of home and classroom.

She was an amazing guest and I KNOW you will be left is awe of all you have learned while listening to our conversation!!

Show highlights:

Core of her work is making sense of kids, to the adults that are responsible to them

Childhood is the unfolding of human potential – separate social and adapted human beings

Rest, Play Grow is about children ages 2-6 years old.

It takes 5-7 years for brains to resemble adult brain. Before then, their brains are impulsive, they are all about themselves, their goal is to focus on oneself and become a separate person. They are ego-centric

Play is the leading edge of development

Warm up act in preparation

Most of the growth happens for this age during play – free of consequences, kids are free to be expressive and exploratory…

Children express emotions at play – keeps them balanced and at the surface

Play is the unfolding of our early occupations

Play that leads development when they are playing on their own…

Release a child to play after offering contact and closest first… they know their attachment needs are met an they can move into play.

… Under three they stay pretty close to parent

2.5 – 3 signs of venturing out and spread their wings to try things our. Promote this by using contact and closeness first and set them up to play, then slowly move away and give them space to play

What is the space that your child engages in?

Temperament matters – 1/5 children are more sensitive and stired up by their environment… they take a little bit longer to be satiated with connection

Give each child what they need for play to unfold

Resistance and opposition – counter will instincts – instinct to resist others when we are feeling co-ersed

We have our own agendas and they have theirs

Attachment – if a child is not in active attachment with us (engaged) we have kind of disappeared

Growth occurs within relationship – we want to keep them receptive to our message.

Acknowledging the child has their own interest and move forward anyways. Children do need to realize that at certain times, the resistance is futile.

The more the relationship is in tact, easier it is for kids to roll with it.

Say no and give them permission to have their feelings.

Emotional self control is something we can get to – over time.

Encourage expressing feelings

Help them feeling feelings

Mixing their feelings

Reflecting - that it is about the child’s relationship with own feelings

In the practice – get to a place of deepening and developing relationship with others

The relationship must be with oneself in before one becomes a social being

In order to have a relationship with oneself, an adult must have a relationship with us...

A child must know who they are first, before they become a social being… The adult is responsible for helping the child know who they are.

Help child become civilized relating with emotional expression… Yes please, lets all make this our goal!!

Where to find Deborah MacNamara:
http://macnamara.ca/

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2016-05-31 15:30:00

BONUS: Aromatherapy Lessons from Victoria Sexton of Natural Goodness Skincare

In this bonus episode, I talk with my friend, Victoria Sexton all about how to use aromatherapy for wellness.

She breaks down what essential oils are, how to use a diffuser, and how to handle it when theres loads of snot and a cough (thats when I typically cross over to the over the counter stuff).

I know you will find value in this show and walk away feeling super excited about using aromatherapy in your home. My diffusers been ordered.

From Victoria -

Antibacterial Essential oils:

Orange
Eucalyptus
Rosemary
Frankincense
Lavender
Peppermint

Note: Do not apply essential oils to infants. Use a diffuser instead. For kids years 2 and above use a dilution of 1% of essential oils (6 drops per ounce).

How to follow Victoria:

www.naturalgoodnessskincare.com
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2016-05-26 15:00:00

Eps 44: Rebecca Eanes talks about Parenting the Sensitive Child and her Journey to Positive Parenting

I am so honored to have Rebecca Eanes on the podcast this week!!

Rebecca Eanes is a best selling author, the founder of positive-parents.org, creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond, and a contributing editor to Creative Child Magazine where she does most of her writing currently.

Her books are The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting which has been a #1 best seller in it's category on Amazon, and a co-authored book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early Childhood, which has also been an Amazon best seller internationally.

Her new book, Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, will be released on June 7, 2016. You can preorder it now at Amazon.

Blog posts and articles by Rebecca mentioned during the podcast:

Parenting the Highly Sensitive Boy
Disciplining the Sensitive Child
Create A Calm Down Area
Does Time-In Reward Children?

Books mentioned on the podcast:

The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron
The Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff
Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffleman

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Positive Parenting: The Essential Guide NOW

With your preorder you will receive exclusive access to her Facebook Book Club experience where you will get support from Rebecca, complimentary PDF for each chapter, support and accountability for lasting change, AND be entered to win books, ecourse and parent coaching sessions with top parenting coaches!!

Follow Rebecca:

www.positive-parents.org
Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond Facebook Page
Positive Parents on Pinterest
@BeckyEanes on Twitter
@RebeccaEanes on Instagram

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2016-05-24 17:00:00

Eps 43: Jiovann Carrasco Talks Mindfulness and Parenting

Welcome! My guest today is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center, a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How Jiovann began practicing meditation in 2008, as a result of the anxiety and panic attacks from his stressful job as a therapist at a group home How Zen meditation changed Jiovann and allowed him to connect with himself like never before How does Jiovann define mindfulness? “Attending to whatever arises in the present moment without trying to change it or judge it.” Jiovann explains the benefits to mindfulness in parenting. Why Jiovann took a popular course on Positive Discipline and became a certified parent educator Jiovann explains how to bring mindfulness to even the everyday mundane tasks required in parenting. How Jiovann structures his early morning meditation practice and time with his kids How kids already know how to be mindful and present WAY more than adults Fearful thoughts and worries are what our minds naturally focus on; mindfulness finds ways to shine the spotlight on anything else in the present moment. Jiovann recommends two books: Planting Seeds by Thich Nhat Hanh and Sitting Still Like A Frog by Eline Snel. Jiovann explains the basics of his 6-week, on-demand, online course. See details below! What does joyful courage mean to Jiovann? “Mindfulness is one of the most courageous things to do. It’s intentionally moving toward the fears, and joy and happiness are natural by-products.”

Connect with Jiovann:

www.austinmindfulness.org (Find information on the course, Follow Your Breath, including meditation audio, downloadables, journals, practice logs, videos, and access to the Facebook group. The normal price is $299, but through the end of 2016, the course is available for 50% off. But wait, it gets better!

FOLLOW YOUR BREATHE MINDFULNESS COURSE:

For JCP listeners, take an additional 35% off, which brings the price UNDER $100!) --- CLICK HERE FOR THE DISCOUNT!

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2016-05-17 16:00:00

Ask Casey Episode 2 Setting Screen Time Limits

A question from Maria…

My 6yo loves his ipad and tv, like I'm sure they all do. I don't allow him to play non-stop and he's generally ok with boundaries. My issue is he's always asking. ALWAYS. I'm forever saying no, or later, or ok for half an hour, or after you do this or that. I'm the bad guy when he really wants to and I'd rather he do something more constructive. I'd like to put the power in his hands, instead of mine, but how. I thought about giving him a weekly limit and letting him go free, when his limit is met, no more screens. But how, he's 6 and doesn't really get time management. Plus, school days vs weekends (and now summer) are different. Right now he doesn't have homework, but when he does, screens should be very limited (I'd imagine) and I don't want to break a habit when that starts. On the weekends, in the morning, he gets to play/watch until dad and I get up and make breakfast. Than maybe more later, but it depends on what we're doing. Ugh this is only going to get worse when he gets older.
I'd like to set some limits he can follow on his own, so I'm not the dictator. One that won't allow him to be on it for hours. His attitude is awful if he's been playing a long time, shoot that happens to me too!

I am not an expert on screen time – we are first generation of parents parenting kids with crazy access to screens, also we are the first parents to ALSO have this access. We are the models Time on the screens is time not connecting with other human beings in our life Root of the problem is disconnection No perfect answer No screens Vs No Limits Lots of room in the middle for skill development, self regulation practice, time management exploration Have a conversation about what you are noticing and invite him to speak into his experience Look at the week and the days – then decide what could work for you, what he would like, whiddle it down to a place where you are both satisfied Blog posts: Earning Privileges Earning Privileges, Revisited No magic number of miutes Comes down to provide an opportunity for your six year old to be a part of the problem solving process We must give them experience for practicing negotiating, offer/counter offer Notice rigidity Showing up with your plan in mind will not be helpful Go into the conversation to deeply listen and be open minded Use visuals so that he knows when screen time is Give opportunities to be autonomous Try the solution for a week and revisit – tweak if necessary Our children are full of creative ideas When we are a part of the problem solving, we are more likely to follow through with the solution Use daily special time to connect and continue to strengthen relationship When we strengthen relationship with our kids we are increasing our kids sense of belonging and significance When you notice things are challenging, turn your lens towards the relationship

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2016-05-12 18:00:00

Eps 42: Sarah Remmer helps us revamp mealtime

Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Sarah is the mother of three young kids, so she knows the struggle! In her client work, Sarah noticed that the common denominator was the way they were raised in dysfunctional relationships with food. She rebranded and turned her specialty to helping parents raise kids with healthy habits and positive, functional relationships with food for life. Her practice has been thriving, as she is now recognized as a top pediatric nutritionist. Sarah discusses the biggest challenges in feeding kids; if you’re a parent, then you’ve experienced one or more of these! How a recent blog post by Sarah focuses on the “role reversal” that takes place between parents and kids at mealtimes Why kids should NOT stick exclusively with their favorite snacks, like yogurt or bananas Boundaries are important and help create structure. Sarah advises NO short order cooking, NO special meals, and NO snacking after meals. Desserts are tricky! Why you should NOT require “3 more bites of broccoli” before dessert! Why kids are naturally drawn to energy-rich foods like sweets and carbs Eating a wide variety of foods as a toddler will broaden your child’s palate! Ask your child, “How can I make this food yummier for you?” Bad habits CAN be changed! How to involve kids in meals and meal planning Sometimes, kids are truly NOT hungry! Sarah explains your “long-term feeding lens” vs. the short term. What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having the courage to start fresh. Forgive yourself for unhealthy habits. Be kind and end mealtime power struggles.

Connect with Sarah:

www.sarahremmer.com
Facebook
Twitter

Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site!

The Super Healthy Kids Blog

Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it)

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2016-05-10 15:30:00

EPS 41: Megan Barella Talks about Navigating Parenting as a Trauma Survivor

Megan Barella loves to help parents unlock their parenting powerthrough her classes and coaching programs. As a Certified PositiveDiscipline Parent Educator, she brings a holistic approach to helppeople live and parent in connection with their highest selves."The Getting to Gold Project" is the program Megan is developingfor parents who are trauma survivors. Megan loves to cook, dance,do art projects, and spend time in the woods with her 7 year oldson in the Portland, OR area.

Highlights from the conversation:

- The stress response systemtakes over
- Through awareness we can bring what ishappening internally into the open
- Parenting is incredible,courageous work
- Dan Siegel, Parenting From the Inside Out
- We want our kids tothrive!
- BeckyBailey of Conscious Discipline – “Awareness is the first agentof positive change”
- Be a gentle observer –awareness + self compassion ((you tubevideo))
- Hand over Heart
- Mistakes are opportunities tolearn
- Power of Repair
- Showing up the best we canwith the tools we have
- Our mistakes are notus!! Our patterns are what we have taken on to survive…
- Narrative therapy
- “I am not defined by mymistakes”
- Our body reads stress ASfear
- The power of our positiveintent

Join the Parenting for the Next Generation community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingfortheNextGeneration/

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingForTheNextGeneration
Pinterest: https://uk.pinterest.com/MamaMegan1/
Instagram: @mama_megan
Twitter: @MamaMeganBlog

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2016-05-03 17:00:00

BONUS EPISODE: Raffi Talks About Music and the Center for Child Honouring

Raffi Cavoukian is well known for the music he makes for young children... Many parents today were brought up with that music and are now sharing it with their kids. I spent many a day in the car singing Baaaaaaby Baluuuuuga to my littles and am so completely THRILLED to have the chance to talk to him on this podcast!!

It was so much fun getting to know Raffi! He candidly shares his story of singing folk music to adults, to sharing songs with children - learn more about him by clicking here. He talks about the deep respect he has for young people, and the fun he has when he gets to entertain them.

Raffi is a social activist, and shares about the Center For Child Honouring he founded near his home on Salt Springs Island. The mission of the centers invites people to "be a part of the global movement that views honouring children as the best way to create sustainable, peacemaking societies."

And of course, we talk about some of my favorite songs!

I am so grateful he took the time to talk to me.

Resources mentioned on the show:

Center for Child Honouring
PDF of the Child Honouring Covenant and Principles
FREE download of Take A Breath - a song about self regulation

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2016-04-28 16:00:00

Eps 40: Ryan Hamilton Talks About The Life Of Dad

Welcome! Today’s guest is Ryan Hamilton, one of the co-founders of the “Life of Dad,” a social media network for dads. He is changing how dads are represented in the parenting arena and is helping moms be more effective at sharing parenting tools and tips with their male partners. Let’s jump into conversation with Ryan!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Ryan has been a computer geek/tech guy all of his life; he now sees his son following in his footsteps in those interests.

Ryan works full-time in the advertising industry, but runs his business on the sides for dads.

Ryan shares how “Life of Dad” evolved from a heart-wrenching personal story of one of the co-founders.

The purpose of “Life of Dad” is to enable a father to share his story via social media.

Ryan became involved in the endeavor during a tumultuous time in his life, when he was going through a divorce, job loss, financial collapse, and depression.

Ryan began blogging about the darker side of parenting.

Ryan discusses how trends and parental role expectations have shifted as dads have pushed for change.

Many new resources and dad communities are making change and allowing dads to have a voice.

Co-parenting has changed in today’s culture of divorce; Ryan shares how he and his ex-wife make it work for them.

Ryan decided to make the journey to veganism about two years ago, when he was depressed and suicidal.

He began with being vegetarian, but then transitioned on to veganism.

The “cleaning up” of his diet branched out to affect all other areas of his life.

Ryan’s advice to other dads is to stay in touch, never feel alone, and reach out to your peer groups. Check out the resources below!

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Resources:

Life of Dad - Website I Twitter I Facebook I IG I You Tube

Ryan E. Hamilton - Twitter I Facebook

Dad 2.0 Summit

National At Home Dad Network

City Dads Group

Dad Bloggers on Facebook

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2016-04-26 15:00:00

BONUS EPISODE: Casey answers questions from listeners

I am so excited to offer a monthly podcast episode that is dedicated to answering questions from the community. Today, I speak about situations that were shared by April and Sarah, both members of the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Community...

From April:
My 7 year old is the youngest of three girls. She gets plenty of attention but seems to constantly be begging for more. What is a healthy amount of attention and how I do I limit it? She constantly interrupts her dad and I whenever we are talking to her other sisters. It's as if she can't handle them getting any attention. I don't know how to phrase a question. She is the youngest child who has gotten spoiled with attention because she was the only one home with me while the other girls were at school. Now she expects all the attention all the time and it isn't fun for anyone.

From Sarah:
Ok, here is a hot topic at our house! How can I help my kids get along (or many how can I help my son deal with jealousy)? I have an almost 8 yo son who is much more introverted and independent and a 5 yo daughter who is a bubbly, outgoing people person. She gets lots more attention from people in general just because she is outgoing and comfortable talking to people. But my son is also in school all day and she is not yet so we are having some struggles with jealousy (being purposefully mean to his sis) and defiance. It will still be one more year before she is in school all day like he is. I give him 1-1 time but there just aren't enough hours in the day to give him the same amount of time.

I have a feeling that their stories, their challenges will resonate with the whole community. Please listen in and let me know what you think!!

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2016-04-23 00:35:59

Episode 39: Nicole Schwartz, Discussing How to Shift Our Children's Negative Self Talk

Welcome! Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, who wrote an article recently that caught my attention. Her blog is www.imperfectfamilies.com, and the article was about Helping Kids Deal with Negative Self-Talk. Nicole is the mother of three daughters, and is a parent coach with a license in family therapy. She now devotes her work to online coaching and writing her blog. She loves working with families on positive, respectful parenting techniques.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The two things in kids’ lives that bring the most negative self-doubt How two kids can be doing the same thing, but one will have negative self-doubt and one will be fine How you may think you are supporting your kids in their negative self-doubt, but you may be doing THREE KEY THINGS wrong! All parents face the question of how much to push them and how much to support them.

Nicole has tips to help you connect with your kids in moments of frustration; the key is to find ways to connect with them.

As a parent, you have opportunities to help your kids through their negative self-doubt; the key is to help them with important life skills.

Links and Resources:

Connect with Nicole: Website | Facebook | Twitter

The blog post that started it all... How to Respond to Your Child's Negative Self Talk

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2016-04-19 17:00:00

Eps 38: Dina Emser, Positive Discipline Lead Trainer, Breaks Down Encouragement

Dina Emser is on the podcast today digging into what encouragement is really all about…

2016-04-13 15:01:00

Eps 37: Dr. Laura Markham on holding space for siblings to get along

I am so so excited to share this conversation with listeners!! Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages!

I was beyond honored when she agreed to come on my show...

Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig into how one on one time with each of our kids actually helps the sibling bond grow.

Dr. Laura's bio from her website:

Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.

The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine.

Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24!

Resources mentioned:
Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids
Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings
John Gottman's work with couples and marriage

Where to find/follow Dr. Laura's work:
www.ahaparenting.com
Facebook

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2016-04-05 16:30:00

Margit Crane Looking at ADHD in a New Light

I am so excited to have Margit Crane on the podcast today! She is fun and hopeful and full of really helpful information for ADD/ADHD children and the grown ups who love and work with them.

From Margit's bio:

Confused and frustrated, people are drawn to Margit’s bright-eyed optimism, her natural communication style, and her no-nonsense, real-world solutions. They fall in love with her humor and compassion, realizing that she is their strongest advocate and biggest fan. Clients feel heard and understood, and they trust her to support each of them, together as a family and, separately, as individuals. She blends an uncanny and authentic understanding of children and teens with adult wisdom and experience, and a long career as a trailblazer in the field of Attention Deficit Disorder, school success, and child-parent dynamics.

Margit and I spend time discussion what ADD/ADHD is and what it isn't, when to consider if our child is a ADD/ADHD, and what the steps are to connect and hold space for these special kids.

Resources mentioned:

Getting Schooled - a free ebook from Margit that helps parents navigate their child's school experience
www.wrightslaw.com - articles, legal resources. support

How to find and follow Margit:

http://margitcrane.com/
Facebook - Gifted with ADD
Twitter - BrilliantADHD
Pinterest - Gifted with ADD

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2016-03-29 15:00:00

Eps 35: Jen O'Ryan and how to support our LGBTQ youth

So excited to share today's show with you!

Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities.

Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth.

Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies.

Resources mentioned:

Jen's website My Kid Came Out
Jen's local workshop So your kids came out, now what?
- listeners will get $5 off with promo code "joyful"
Recent posts on sexuality and supporting LGBTQ youth
PFLAG - Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTQ

Where to find Jen:

Her website - www.mykidcameout.com
Twitter - @pagingdrjen
Facebook - Paging Dr. Jen

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2016-03-22 15:30:00

BONUS EPS: Brandie Weikle and the New Family

I am super excited about this BONUS episode!! I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast.

Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission.

We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting.

Mentioned:

The New Family Website
The 1,000 Families Project
The New Family Podcast
Positive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook Group

Mentioned New Family Podcast Episodes:

Eps 50: The Ex Next Door
Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your Family
Eps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Eps 3: Parenting a Transgendered Child

Where to find Brandie and The New Family:

www.thenewfamily.com
Twitter
Facebook
Instagram

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2016-03-18 16:00:00

Eps 33: Building Relationship in the Kitchen with Amy Knobler

Amy Knobler is on the podcast! Amy is a personal chef, mama and Positive Discipline Parent Educator from Pasadena, California. In candid conversation, she shares her passion for bringing kids into the kitchen…

Do you love dinner preparation? Are you like me, feeling annoyed and resentful each day when it comes time to create a meal for your family?

Listen in as Amy spins a new perspective around meal prep and how it can be a relationship builder AND a time for life skill development.

From young kids to our teens, the kitchen can be a place for connection… A place where we can all increase our sense of belonging and significance.

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Resources:

Click here to get your own pack of Positive Discipline Parenting Toolcards
Seven Easy Ways to Include Your Kids in the Kitchen by Sarah Remmer
Check out the PDF from Amy with concepts and a yummy kid friendly recipe on the Joyful Courage website!

Where to find and follow Amy:

www.cooktoconnect.net
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my@cooktoconnect.net
Cook to Connect Facebook Group

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2016-03-15 16:00:00

Eps 32: Kelly Bos - Navigating Two Parenting Styles in One Family

So grateful to have Kelly Bos on the show today! Kelly is a psychotherapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others.

Today we are talking about navigating parenting styles in our family.

As I say on a regular basis, parenting is a journey, right? Have you started to notice that when we say "yes! I want to be with you forever!" we are also saying yes to the journey of relationship???

And it's not always easy.

We show up with baggage - we show up with our own lens that has been developed through the experiences of our life... AND we sometimes forget that we aren't all looking through the same lens...

Listen in as I talk with Kelly about how to be more proactive and forwarding in our conversations with our partners, and build stronger connections with them in the process!!

Where to find Kelly:

Her website: http://www.kellybos.com/
And on Facebook

Articles for further reading:

What to do When Your Parenting Styles Don't Mesh by Kelly Bos
When Parents Disagree on Discipline by Amy McCreedy

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And please know that you are invited to join in the conversation over in the Live and Love With Joyful Courage Facebook group! It is a place for support and celebration - full of parents who are intentional about showing up as their best self (even when it's hard to do) with their families!!

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ALSO, check out the offer I shared at the end of the podcast - The Calm and Connected Parenting Program through Mazlo. Consider trying out this program to take some small steps towards making big changes in your home.

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Click HERE for more about one on one coaching with me!!

2016-03-09 01:20:39

Eps 31: Emily Roberts is on Talking Social Media and Kids

I love Emily Roberts!! There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share... She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and sharing it on the show.

Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children.

Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids....

This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!!

Resources mentioned:

American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of Teenagers
Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You Are

Other articles and interview with Emily:

An interview about social media addiction
What Every Parent Needs to Know about Cyberbullying

Follow Emily's work:

One her website
On Facebook
On Twitter
On Pinterest
On Instagram
On YouTube

Let me know what you are thinking!! Join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook group - a crowd of like minded parents do the best they can to be their best on the parenting journey!

2016-03-01 18:00:00

Eps 30: Setting Limits with Sarah MacLaughlin

Sarah is a social worker, a compassion coach, a play promoter and warrior for kindness... How can an interview with her be anything BUT amazing???

We discuss limit setting, brain development and how to navigate our kids emotional outbursts in a way that is helpful and not hurtful.

Resources mentioned:

Dan Siegel:
- Whole Brain Child
- Brian in the Palm of the Hand video

Where to find Sarah:
- www.sarahmaclaughlin.com
- Facebook
- Twitter
- Pinterest
- Instagram

Helpful articles by Sarah:

Easing the Stress of Power Struggle

Why I Praised My Son for Threatening to Throw a Bowl at Me

How to Set Limits with Kids Without Harshness, Fear or Shame

Thank you for listening!!

Don't forget to join the conversation over at the Live and Love with Joyful Courage page on Facebook!!

2016-02-23 19:00:00

Eps 26: Exploring Parenting Styles With Sarina Behar Natkin

I find it so empowering to explore parenting styles with moms and dads. It seems as though once we become more aware of our style, our pattern, we become ever more able to move in the direction of who we WANT to be.

Listen in as Sarina Behar Natkin, from GROW Parenting, digs into the different styles, their history, and how to maintain a more balanced, connected approach to parenting. It was a fun and informative conversation that listeners are sure to relate to!!

Find out more about Sarina and her offers:
www.growparenting.com
www.facebook.com/GrowParenting
https://twitter.com/GrowParenting

Remember that you can ALWAYS join in the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Group - we would love to have you!!

Find out more about the February Carry the Future Baby Carrier Drive here - making a difference in the lives of families around the world!

2016-02-23 05:20:46

LIVE COACHING: Ending Bedtime Battles

So grateful and honored to have Leisha on the podcast today to puzzle out the rub she is feeling around bedtime with her two young daughters.

Do you ever feel like things spin out of control at the end of the day? Do you feel like you swing between too kind to too firm and back again?

You aren't alone!

Listen in to this live parent coaching and notice where the conversation is resonating with you... We are on a collective journey - lets learn from the learning of others!!

Interested in getting some coaching on the show?? Click here to apply.

If you haven't already, join in the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook community!

Thank you for listening in!!!

2016-02-19 17:00:00

Eps 29: Cathy Kawakami of Middle Ground Parenting How we help our kids by not helping them

Cathy Kawakami is on the show today and we are talking all about the ways we can encourage our youngest kids to explore their capabilities.

Sorry folks, the bad news in a lot of the reason our kids don't believe they can do things is because we spend so much time and effort telling them that - and they're getting the message!! Then we get frustrated that our kids are uncooperative or don't want to contribute - it's crazytown!!

Cathy and Casey offer a bunch of ideas around how to set up an environment that is designed for kids to grow and thrive, to gain life skills and the belief that they can have healthy control over their life.

You can find Cathy at:
her website www.middlegroundparenting.com
And on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MiddleGroundParenting

Don't forget to join our growing Facebook community for like minded support and conversation - Live and Love with Joyful Courage

2016-02-16 08:07:53

Eps 28: Bonus Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit

Oh friends - this is a good one!!

My new friend (and someone we should all have on speed dial), Susan Stiffelman is on the show today talking about the Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit.

THIS IS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY for all of us to learn from some of the most AMAZING speakers and thinkers of our time.

Dr. Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child and creator of Brain in th ePalm of Your Hand Byron Katie, developer of The Work Rachel Macy Stafford, author and blogger behind the Hands Free Revolution (she has been on the show and is super fabulous) Glennon Doyle Melton. author and founder of online community Momastery Roasalind Weisman, author of Queen Bees and Wanna Bees and amazing human

And there are MOREand they are ALL amazing humans - and ALL amazing humans with SO MUCH WISDOM TO SHARE!!!

Listen in to the episode and when you are ready to sign up for the telesummit, just click this link ----> http://bit.ly/1nYBPCF

Its FREE!! More information and registration is here ---> http://bit.ly/1nYBPCF

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AND don't forget that we are doing the Baby Carrier Drive for Carry the Future through the month of January - more information on THAT goodness by clicking here
---> http://www.joyfulcourage.com/carry-the-future-drive/

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And keep up with the parenting conversation in our facebook community, Live and Love with Joyful Courage - WE WANT YOU THERE!!

BIG HUGE LOVE TO YOU ALL!!

Get in touch with any feedback or questions as casey@joyfulcourage.com

2016-02-11 10:38:40

Eps 27: Amy Lang talks Middle School "Dating" (YIKES)

Amy Lang of birdsandbeesandkids.com is back on this show and THIS time we are going next level....

We are talking about dating and middle school.

You all know that as a mother of a 13 year old, this topic is near and dear to my heart... Amy breaks it down for us, offers insights to contemplate, and may make a few of you a wee bit uncomfortable with her no-nonsense talk about what it developmentally appropriate at this age.

The result is a fun, informative and candid conversation that may take you back to your own middle school dating years....

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1985.....

Awkward boy, "Uh, do you want to go with me?"

Me, "Sure."

My mom, "Where are you gonna GO???"

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Bwahahahaaaa --- listen in!!

We do talk about sex, so the show may not be one you want to play over the speakers of your car or home.

Follow Amy:
Sign up for her newsletter on her website - www.birdsandbeesandkids.com
On Facebook
On Twitter
On Instagram

Enjoy!!

2016-02-09 14:00:00

World Changer Bonus Episode - Carry the Future

I am so EXCITED to share this BONUS podcast with you all!! I had the honor of talking to Alison Soracchi from Carry the Future about the incredible work they are doing, providing baby carriers to refugees in Greece.

This conversation is an emotional one, and really highlights how meaningful a small gesture from one human being to another can be... Alison shares stories about the work volunteers are engaged in here in the states, and paints a picture of how the volunteers on the ground in Greece are living the vision.

Just listen. No doubt you will be inspired :)

You can find out more about Carry the Future at www.carrythefuture.org
You can find out more about Operation Refugee Child at https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/operation-refugee-child-carry-the-future-mission#/
Find Carry the Future on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/carrythefuture
On twitter at https://twitter.com/carry_thefuture

Joyful Courage will be teaming with Grow With Me Boutique
to run a baby carrier drive in February

Locals can drop off new or gently used carriers to Grow with Me Boutique here in Monroe any time during the hours of operation. OR listeners can send carriers or supplies for Operation Refugee Child to the drop off center through Carry the Future (click here for details on where to send - and click "donate") Be sure to write a little note that you are participating in the Joyful Courage Baby Carrier Drive so we can keep track of the impact of our community!!

Thank you for listening!!!

Don't forget to you the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook community and keep up with the conversation!

2016-01-29 02:47:14

Eps 25: Ariadne Brill talks About Raising Attached Babies

Ahhhh, babies. We spend so much time preparing for their arrival and then BAM - they totally turn our world upside down and we can't remember WHY we ever though parenthood was a good idea....

Hahaha, well, maybe that wasn't exactly your experience....

Ariadne Brill, parent educator, writer and the force behind the insanely helpful and popular website, Positive Parenting Connection, has returned to the podcast this week to dig into raising babies with a healthy attachment. This conversation is so useful for parents who are living and loving the smallest and newest among us...

Listen in for tips on connecting and creating the very beginnings of a foundation for empathy and compassion.

If you have friends or family that are expecting a new baby, or have recently been blessed with one, pass this show on to them - they will thank you!!

You can find Ariadne and her work at:

Her Website - http://www.positiveparentingconnection.net/
On Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/positiveparentingconnection/
On Twitter - https://twitter.com/positive_parent
On Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/ppconnection/

And don't forget to join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Group Page!!

2016-01-26 13:17:44

BONUS EPS: Parent Talk

It was so fun to have the chance to speak one on one with a listener about the challenges she is facing with your your son.

Listen in and notice how universal some of the feelings and thoughts are that you hear Stephanie speak into...

The parenting journey is a collective experience. You are not alone!

2016-01-23 07:12:36

Eps 24: Navigating Power Struggles with Debbie Zeichner

Who doesn't get into power struggles with their kids???

Listen in as Debbie Zeichner, LCSW and parent coach, and I discuss the triggers for power struggles and how to navigate them in a way that leaves your kids with MORE skills and MORE likely to cooperate.

Sound good?

Check out Debbie's website : www.debbiezeichnerlcsw.com
And like her facebook page: www.facebook.com/debbiezeichnerlcsw

2016-01-19 14:00:00

Eps 23: Denise Dryden on moving past our story to be a more conscious parent

This podcast interview is a long one, because the conversation was just that good.

Listen in as I talk with Denise Dryden, integrative coach, about how we can shed the stories and emotional baggage we show up to parent with so that we can be conscious and available to the child we find in front of us.

One of my favorite quotes from the conversation is Denise encouraging parents to think about in regards to their children, "what do I see that is unique and different, and how do I let them lead me into the future?"

She is a wise woman and it is my honor to know her!

Here are some links mentioned in the podcast:

Brandy Carlile - The Eye
Denise's website - www.denisedrydencoaching.com
Denise's Ecourse - Parenting the New Earth's Children
Follow Denise on Facebook

2016-01-12 04:44:48

Decide to Rise in 2016 SHORT SOLO SHOW

I love you people!!!

Thank you so much for all you have given me in 2015. This show is short and sweet today, as I know you have things to do and people to see (as do I).

I announce the winners of the Subscribe-A-Thon Giveaway (finally)!!

I share a poem from Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map.

I invite you to let go of what brought you down in 2015 and invite in what you want for 2016.

Enjoy!!

2015-12-29 23:37:54

Christmas Eve Solo Show

Hellooooooo Friends!!!

Merry, merry, happy, happy... Hoping this podcast finds you well and joyful. Listen in to hear some exciting news about the year to come, details about how to be a part of the giveaway, and inquiry about how YOU will make e2016 the BEST YEAR for YOU!

Big huge love to all of you.... Honored you are out there listening and supporting and celebrating all we can do to make the world better!!

2015-12-25 03:36:42

Eps 22: Amanda Rue discusses how to stay sane and ENJOY the holidays!

Amanda Rue, the force behind the popular blog, Dirt and Boogers, is on the podcast today. She has created a FABULOUS resource for parents around how to bring more calm and connection to the holiday season.

I don't know about you, but this came at the perfect time for me!

Resources mentioned:

Check out Amanda's Ebook, Take the Chaos out of Christmas, by clicking here.

Mama's Anger Management cCourse

The Stop Yelling Challenge on Facebook

Where to follow Amanda:

Her blog/website www.dirtandboogers.com

Dirt and Boogers on Facebook

Dirt and Boogers on Instagram

Dirt and Boogers on Pinterest

Dirt and Boogers on Twitter

2015-12-15 13:05:00

Eps 21: Jessica Lahey breaks down Autonomy-Supportive Parenting and how to empower our kids by letting them fail

Such a great conversation!

Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure...

It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure.

Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)...

We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are!

Mentions:

The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey

The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail

Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom

Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com

How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims

The Price of Priviledge by Madeline Levine

Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST!!! Special perks could be coming your way --- just search JOYFUL COURAGE PARENTING PODCAST on iTunes and hit that purple SUBSCRIBE button!!!

Feedback? Questions? Contact casey@joyfulcourage.com

2015-12-08 08:28:08

Eps 20: Jessica Prentice talks about her children's book - The Duck With No Legs

OMG. I can't believe how great it is to be a podcaster!!

For today's show, I interviewed one of my oldest friends!! How lucky am I??? This conversation, with Jessica Prentice, is all about her book The Duck With No Legs and all of the underlying themes and messages that show up in the sweet, heart warming story.

We get into all sorts of discussions in this show - from spirituality, to overcome perceived disabilities, to living with the discomfort of not being the child we think our parents want us to be (not to mention parenting a child who marches to the beat of his own drum)...

You are going to love this show!

I do say "asshole" one time, so I marked the episode as explicit - sorry about that. :)

Mentions/Resources:

I bring up Nick Vujicic - a parapalegic motivational speaker who has an incredible spirit and message for the world. You can find him at www.lifewithoutlimbs.org or watch his youtube video about Never giving up by clicking here.

Click here to get a copy of The Duck with No Legs from Amazon.

Check out Jessica's graphic design work at www.sillybird.com

Find Jessica on Instagram @sillybird

2015-12-02 07:04:55

THANKSGIVING SUBSCRIBE-A-THON SHOW!

Hey hey!!!

Thank you so much for playing and being willing to subscribe to the show - I value you and am honored that you find value in what I put out into the world!!

Here are the deets of the giveaway:

I have super cute Joyful Courage SWAG to give away!! I can't figure out how to post pics here, but I will put them up on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage facebook group page.

I have FOUR shirts and FOUR hats to giveaway -

The shirt is baseball style with red arms and the Joyful Courage logo on the front.

The hat is a trucker style green hat with a white front and the JC logo.

I have TWO Center Parenting Ecourses to giveaway -

This is an online course that you receive over the course of five weeks. Included each week are videos, audio meditation and workbooks that teach the positive Discipline concepts and guide you towards finding your most centered, authentic self while on the parenting journey. It's awesome! Learn more here.

And finally, I am giving away a 3 month coaching package -

This is the GRAND PRIZE and I am super excited to offer it up to one lucky winner! The 3 month coaching package is two hours of coaching a month, which can either be broken up into 2 monthly one hour sessions, or four monthly half hour sessions. You will have access to me via text and email between sessions as well... This offer is a POWERFUL way to really deepen your practices and accountability towards being the parent and the human you want to be. Learn more here.

To qualify for ALL of the offers, please head on over to itunes and write a review for the podcast. This link will help you figure out how to do it from your iphone or ipad:

http://www.imore.com/how-rate-or-review-podcast-your-iphone-or-ipad

If you use an android device, you will need to access itunes through your computer and directions for doing that can be found here:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-parenting-podcast/id996079418?mt=2

To qualify for the swag (shirts and hats) and the ecourse, please leave a FIVE STAR RATING on iTunes. Use the link above to do this, the difference being that you don't write a review - just leave the stars :)

To qualify simply for the swag, shoot me an email at casey@joyfulcourage.com and let me know what your favorite episode of the podcast is and why OR why you LOVE the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast!!

Oh man, hopefully that isn't too complicated --- let me know if you have any troubles and I will be happy to help! Big love to each of you and THANK YOU for being on the journey with me!!

xoxo - Casey

2015-11-26 13:30:00

Eps 19: Dr. Monica Holliday discusses how to talk about the violence in the world with our kids

There are a few things that are tough to talk about with our kids. One of the toughest, I think, is talking about the violent things that happen in the world...

My guest today on the podcast is Dr. Monica Holliday Sherman. Monica is a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago, and she completed her doctorate in clinical psychology at The Adler School of Professional Psychology, with a concentration in childhood and adolescence.

She is a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and she regularly facilitates parenting classes in the Chicago community. You can find her on Psychology Today here.

She is also my friend, and someone I trust to speak to this topic from a very thoughtful, experienced place...

As tough as this conversation is, it is important for parents to be talking to their kids about the state of the world. AND, as a community of parents, it is equally as important to get support from each other about how to best support our kids.

My hope is that this show does just that.

Resources mentioned in the interview:

Video of father reassuring his young son that France is their home.
Purple Wagon - "A site for people interested in parents and children, and their explorations and discussions around war, terrorism and peacemaking." Loads of resources for parents here.
Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD

Other resources:

Talking With Children About Disaster also by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD
Talking with Children About Tragic News Stories by Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection
Terrorism and children:Tough Conversations that Matter by Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD or Roots of Action
Explaining Terror to Kids is a NY Times article that covers a French newspaper for kids and how they are engaging in real conversations with kids about the attacks

And more suggestions from Monica:

Books are my go-to when I'm wanting to extend any of these "big" topics into ongoing conversations with my kids. Here are a few to read WITH your kids, relevant to what's going on in the world today: Finding heroes amidst terrorism. I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai (there is also a Young Reader's edition) Multicultural competency. The Cow of No Color: Riddle Stories and Justice Tales from around the World, Nina Jaffee Explaining refugees. Sometimes it helps to look to history for examples -- one of the most written about examples of children fleeing war zones is the Operation Pied Piper of 1939, when children were evacuated from London during WWII. The beloved Paddington character is even based upon these events. --The Sky Is Falling, Kit Pearson --Visitors from London, Kitty Barne (out of print) --Lion, Witch, and the Wardrobe and Bedknobs and Broomsticks are both storylines based on children having to evacuate. --If your kids are American Girl fans, the book Happy Birthday, Molly! incorporates a story of a British refugee coming to live with the family after being traumatized by living through bombing raids. Please get in touch with any thoughts or feedback on this discussion or any of the other podcasts!

2015-11-24 14:00:00

Alanna McGinn tells us all about how to make SLEEP happen...

This conversation landed close to my heart... While my kids are now sleeping in their OWN beds, in their OWN rooms, ALL NIGHT LONG, that was not always the case.

And while my nighttime parenting choices weren't always the same as everyone else, they didn't follow the mainstream advice, I did the best I could for my babies...

The thing I really love about Alanna and her approach to supporting parents with sleep, is her willingness to meet parents where they're at. She really believes in the idea that there is a right approach for each family, and that it is going to be related to what works in each family...

As any parent knows, there is no one size fits all here... AND it is possible to help your child, and yourself, get better sleep.

Listen in!

Where to find Alanna -

www.goodnightsleepsite.com
www.facebook.com/goodnightsleepsite
www.twitter.com/GNSleepSite
http://pinterest.com/gnsleepsite


Join the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Community here.

And don't forget to SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST THROUGH ITUNES!!!
Click here to get started....


2015-11-17 14:00:00

Eps 17: Bonnie Harris on Connective Parenting

What a great time I had talking to Bonnie Harris of Connective Parenting! She is so full of wisdom and insight... Which wasn't surprising AT ALL to me :)

I have been following Bonnie's work for years - drawn to her gentle, logical style and advice. I subscribed to her newsletter list and read her books and often am known to quote her in my parenting classes.

This lady is for real.

AND I am honored to share our conversation with you!!

Click on the links below to follow Bonnie:

www.bonnieharris.com

www.connectiveparenting.com

facebook.com/connectiveparenting

twitter.com/harrisparenting

I also mention the THANKSGIVING GIVE AWAY to podcast subscribers during the show. Click on this link to watch a short video with how to find the podcast app on your iphone.

Big love to you all and happy parenting!!!

2015-11-11 07:29:27

Eps 16: SOLO SHOW The voices in my head...

This solo show is my own download around how resistance has been showing up in my life and what I am learning from it. We all have those voices, right? The one that says to us, "who cares, do what you want..." and the other that speaks from our soul and reminds us of who we really are.... Yeah, I dig into that.

I talk about my friend, Molly Knight Forde who is BRILLIANT and my guest on Episode Seven...

I mention the book, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo (its super fabulous).

It's the world according to me, and I invite you to come on in and stay awhile. Let me know what you think, and if you are enjoying these solo rambles or not (I hope you are, because they are really fun to record).

Big huge love to you all!!

2015-11-03 16:00:00

Eps 15: Krista Petty Raimer and the Self Care Challenge

How much do I love this week's guest????

TRUCK LOADS!

She is my friend and teacher, she inspires and coaches people all over the planet, AND she has taken time to sit down and puzzle out the self care challenges that SO MANY parents face.

I know you know what I'm talking about because you share it with me all the time - there is no time to take care of myself... I feel guilty... time for me is at the bottom of the list....

I am telling you - not only have I HEARD it all, I have also EXPERIENCED all of these limiting thoughts and beliefs and allowed them to keep me from engaging in what is one of the most important pieces of parenting - SELF CARE.

You will love the conversation I had with Krista. Listen in and let me know what you think!!!

You won't be able to get enough of her!!

Are you local and interested in finding out more about GRACE Seattle???
Click here for all the deets.

I also did a podcast about my experience at GRACE New York recently --- if you want to hear more about my experience - check out that show!

Here are some places you can go to stay connected to Krista and her work:
Her website: http://boldlyembodylife.com/
The Facebook Community: Global Grace
Follow on Instagram: globalgrace_

And don't forget to head over to the Joyful Courage Facebook community and ask to join in the conversation - Live and Love with Joyful Courage

2015-10-27 13:00:00

SOLO SHOW: Recognizing our patterns and thinking tree

Inspired by the mamas currently enrolled in the Raising Siblings Ecourse - this is a deep dive into why I always begin my work with parents by inviting them to pay more attention to how they respond physically and emotionally to their kids behavior.

Once we recognize the way our body responds, we can begin to do the work of teaching it a new way of being.

Listen in!

** This is marked explicit because I say "pissed" and "bullshit" - so heads up for that!

Check out all of my online offers at www.joyfulcourage.com/online-offers/

2015-10-20 08:37:10

Eps 14: Teen Assertiveness with Emily Roberts

I was introduced to Emily Roberts on a Facebook group for parent educators that I belong to... I knew right away that I wanted to know more about her when she introduced herself and shared about her work with tween and teen girls...

I bought her book, Express Yourself, and quickly realized that this woman is LEGIT! This book, which I am currently reading out loud to me seventh grade daughter is PACKED with so many nuggets of wisdom for our girls... Not only that, I am finding that I am learning so much from the tips and advice that Emily shares...

In this podcast interview, Emily and I discuss her book, plus the importance of supporting our girls in growing their assertive muscles... We touch on friend drama, social media dos and don'ts, as well as why knowing the outcome you want is the first step to actually getting there.

Emily is a dream. I think you will enjoy the conversation as much as I did!

Follow Emily:

On her website at theguidancegirl.com
On Facebook at Guidance Girl
On Twitter at @GuidanceGirlEm
On Instagram at @GuidanceGirlEm
On Pinterest at Guidance Girl
On You Tube at The Guidance Girl Channel

2015-10-13 13:00:00

SOLO SHOW: Finding Grace in New York

I had an amazing experience with 49 other women at a workshop in New York... When I shared about it on social media, the request was made that I share more on the podcast.

So here you go.

I am so grateful for the journey I am on... So grateful to be alert and alive and awake to all the possibilities that exist in my life. So grateful for the teachers and the opportunities that have come my way....

Thank you for listening in.

Click here for more information about the Grace Workshop happening in Seattle in November.

2015-10-06 13:00:00

Eps 13: Katie Hurley on Parenting to your child's temperament

It was such a pleasure to have Katie Hurley on the show! I have been sharing her work on the Joyful Courage Facebook page for a long time and speaking to her about her new book confirmed what I had come to believe as a reader of her writing; she is a thoughtful, brilliant voice in the parent education community.

Katie's new book, The Happy Kid Handbook is an amazing tool for parents to learn how to meet their kids where they are at, temperamentally. Her work reminds us that the need to get to know our kids is vital in creating an environment where they can excel, both socially and emotionally.

Being an extrovert raising kids that fall across the extrovert/introvert spectrum, I was excited to dig into this with Katie. I know that you are going to love listening in to the conversation too!!

Visit her website: www.practicalkatie.com

Follow Katie:

Instagram: @katiefhurley
Facebook: Practical Parenting by Katie
Twitter: @katiefhurley

2015-09-29 13:00:00

Eps 12: STOP YELLING with Andy Smithson

I am really excited to have Andy Smithson, of TRU Parenting, back on the podcast! He was my very first guest and a parent educator that I have been following for a while now.

There are a lot of things I like about Andy, I think it is so refreshing to have a Dad's voice speaking into the parenting experience. His blog posts and articles are always so helpful and full of tips and tools that can be put into action right away. He has lots of kids so I KNOW he is in the practice of walking his talk, and that always scores a lot of points with me...

Today we are talking about yelling. Ugh. Yelling is the worst - it makes our kids feel bad and it leaves US feeling bad and so unskilled. Andy has an ecourse that is starting the beginning of October... I have so much faith in this program that I am an affiliate of the program (meaning: I get a kickback when you sign up through me).

So listen up and soak in the zen vibes of Andy Smithson.

Here are some links to the resources mentioned on the show:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud

Andys Quick Calm Technique - FREE DOWNLOAD

Super Better by Jane McGonigal

21 Day Stop Yelling Coaching Course - Sign up now!

2015-09-15 17:00:00

Eps 11: Rachel Macy Stafford and living the Hands Free Life

“I am an ordinary person living in the same distracted culture that everyone else is living in…”

And that is exactly what is so inspiring about Rachel Macy Stafford.

She is an ordinary person whose work is making an extraordinary impact on parents from around the world.

Most of us found her through her blog, www.handsfreemama.com - her writing drew us in and touched our soul. We also joined her Hands Free Revolution on Facebook, to be even more connected to her and the community space she has created.

Because there is something really special about this ordinary person.

I am thrilled to be interviewing her on the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast. Honored that she was willing to take the time to talk to me and share her journey, her vulnerability and her wisdom.

Her new book, Hands Free Life: 9 habits for overcoming distraction, living better & loving more is full of nuggets that will bring you to your knees.

So, so good. Listen in…

2015-09-01 21:00:00

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Andy's the man!! He has helped so many parents find their calm and move forward in solid relatinship with their family.

This "solo promo" is designed to get the word out about his latest offer for parents.

Click on this link to go straight to the sales page for more INFO and to REGISTER :)

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Knowledge is power, people!! Empower your parenting!!

2015-08-29 04:38:17

Eps 10: Ending Entitlement with Amy McCready

August 11th Amy's latest book cam out, The Me Me Me Epoidemic: A Step by Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over Entitled World

Amy McCready is a Parent Education MACHINE! She has an amazingly popular Facebook community, and offers so many

Inspired by the work of Alfred Adler…

“The biggest difference comes when we change ourselves.”

Certified in Positive Discipline

Shout out to the recovering yellers!!

“...I love working with parenting and helping them bring out the best in themselves.”

Adlerian theory- strategies are based on respect, respect for the child and respect for the parent… All human being have a hardwired need for belonging and significance. We need to feel connected – to family, classroom, community. I need to make a difference, feel like I matter…

Behavior is goal directed – always take it back to the child’s sense of belonging and/or significance.. Getting to the bottom of this is what lasts long term. Get below the surface!

Connection without Entitlement??

It’s messy….

The book begins with Mind, Body, Soul Time… Spending one on one time and attention with your kids, where you are fully present, mind, body and soul. You are fully present. Can be 10 or 15 minutes – this contributes “buckets” to belonging and significance to our kids. Powerful opportunity for connection.

Create an environment that allows kids to learn that their actions and choices have outcomes - some positive, some negative. Entitled kids aren’t connected to outcomes.

Focus on - What went wrong? What can we do different next time?

Natural Vs Logical Consequences…

“Solutions are always consequences, consequences are not always solutions.”
- Jody McVittie

They’re not helpless!! Take a step back – what are you currently doing for your kids that they are perfectly capable about doing for themselves?

There is a balance between helping each other out and when you are consistently doing things for them that they could be doing themselves… Back off, little by little.

Biggest mistake that is feeding into the entitlement epidemic? Smoothing their way --- smoothing out all their potential obstacles to keep out kids from experiencing discomfort. Does not give them the opportunity to develop resiliency.

What is a baby step for creating change for parents who recognize their have been contributing to the entitlement of their kids? Shift responsibility for one or two things….

Thank you Amy!!

Find Amy and her offers online:

www.amymccready.com
www.positiveparentingsolutions.com
Positive Parenting Solutions on Facebook

2015-08-17 23:15:06

Eps 9: Whose problem is it? Joint problem solving with kids...

Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle!! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy!

Marcille studied the work of Ross Green –
Lost at School
The Explosive Child

He writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challenges

Parents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay!

The brain likes it’s own ideas best!!

David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group

CPS has 3 main steps –

- Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view
- Define the problem
- Brainstorm solutions together with your child.

Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges….

Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on.

“Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.”

Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that)

The problem is always underneath the surface…

“Kids do well if they can.” – Ross Green

Example:

Child won’t turn in his homework.

What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions arehelpful)

Consequences don't necessarily teach skills…

What are the lacking skills behind the behavior?

P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe)

Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk

Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionally

When intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills are low…

P – Permission… Giving yourself permission to engage and getting child’s permission

E – Empathize… Understanding problem from child’s perspective –stay neutral and specific – “Tell me about…. (the problem)” then validate their concern

S – State your concern… Short and sweet “My concern is…”

O – Options… Brainstorm options for solutions that are a win/win for you both

S – Select and idea to try… Must be realistic and mutually satisfactory

Try it out, make a date to review and see how it’s going…

Seeing our kids as a person who wants to do well, but have something in their way towards that success….

Watch the video below --

Click here for Marcille's handout on the steps of P.E.S.O.S.

Marcille Smith Boyle
Website - www.workingparenting.com – blog, free gift, newsletter
Facebook – Working Parenting
Email - marcillesmithboyle@gmail.com

2015-08-07 07:22:45

Episode 8: Talking Birds and Bees and Kids with Amy Lang

What a GIFT to have the opportunity to interview Amy Lang of Birds+Bees+Kids! We had a great time discussing what to be talking about with our kdis when it comes to bodies and sex and staying safe...

Nothing is off limits here - from where babies come from to blow jobs to birth control --- listen in and get informed and then TALK TO YOUR KIDS!

Like Amy says, being INFORMED is being EMPOWERED to make smart choices!

LISTEN IN NOW!!

2015-07-20 10:05:00

Episode Seven: Meditative Parenting with Molly Knight Forde

Listen in on this great conversation that I had with Molly Knight Forde about the journey to meditation and how it can change everything when it comes to the parenting journey...

2015-07-07 04:48:36

Eps 6: The Safety Talk

Podcast with Kim Estes

Intro – music feedback? Mention speakpipe

Kim Into with Family – two daughters, middle/high schoolers

Savvy Parents Safe Kids

www.savvyparentssafekids.com

Patty Fitzgerald - Safely Ever After

Lots of strategies… not just “this is what you do in the moment”

Being home alone… 2 tips:

Don't open the door, acknowledge the door –

In a strong voice: “Who is it?” followed by, “I can’t help you…” and walk away.

Know what to do if there is a fire –

Get out of the house and use a neighbors phone to call 911

Practice!!

Talking about having an “out” for sticky situations… Teach your kids language to use and practice the language…

Free range in the world is safer than free range online.

The internet is a place, not a thing….

Safety radar isn’t quite as tuned in….

PDF of Super 10 Rules For Safety

Don’t scare them, it's not helpful

“Family” safety rule

Check in – make it a family thing

Lead by example

LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!!! Leave a comment on iTunes!

2015-06-09 06:33:56

Eps 5: Talking Tweens

2015-05-06 07:03:54

Eps 4: Family Meetings

This was such a fun conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Julietta Skoog. She is such a powerful model for what it looks like to parent small children with Positive Discipline - I love watching her in action!

PLUS, she has been doing Family Meetings with her girls since the youngest was in a highchair!!!

Listen in and let me know what you think!

You can find more information on Julietta at www.juliettaskoog.com

You can find more about the Family Meeting Ecourse I mention at the end of the course by clicking here.

2015-04-10 07:35:54

Eps 3: Solo Show

This is a solo show, meaning, it's just me. Listen in as I share what my purpose is and how I want to make a difference in YOUR world! Get an inside look at why I am passionate about this work and what fuels me to keep sharing it with you....

Click here to find out more about coaching with me.

Click here to find out which live and online offers are coming up.

2015-04-09 11:31:40

Eps 2: Making Agreements

What a gift it was to spend time talking to Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection! We dug into how making agreements with our kids helps them to develop a sense of trust and capability - while strengthening our relationship with them along the way. Ariadne has some great ideas around how to bring more ease to mealtimes and shares some resources for parents for teaching and modeling self regulation.

Resources for listeners:

Check out Ariadne's book on Amazon - Twelve alternatives to time out

From Positive Parenting Connection - A post about creating a Chill-Out Corner with your child

The latest Joyful Courage post around making agreements - What was our agreement?

Find Positive Parenting Connection on Facebook,Pinterest, and Twitter

2015-04-09 07:23:24

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