UnF*ck Your Brain

We often think romantic relationships have a natural progression, right? You meet the perfect partner, you start dating, and as things get serious you start talking about your future together — which usually involves moving in together, marriage, and maybe even kids. But the truth is, you and your partner always get to decide what your relationship looks like - even if it’s different from society’s expectations. This week on the podcast, in the conclusion of a 2-part series, the Gentleman Consort and I discuss getting to decide what our relationship looks like, how we’ve grown since we began dating, and what we love most about each other.

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This week, my partner, the Gentleman Consort (GC for short), is making his podcast debut and you’re going to get a behind-the-scenes peek at our relationship! In part 1 of this 2-part series, we cover the gamut from first impressions and first dates, to the GC’s introduction to thought work, to feeling disappointment in a relationship, to how perfectionism and communication affect your relationships.

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Just a few weeks ago we closed out our last Clutch College Live for a while. Over the course of the 3-day, live, in-person and virtual event, minds were blown and breakthroughs were made. A lot of what I coached on had to do with goals — and I want to share some of the amazing takeaways that came out of that weekend.

Tune in to find out the real reason you don’t set goals, what we’re actually afraid of when we’re agonizing over a decision, how to be prepared for the inevitability of your brain offering you an old thought that will not help you reach your goal, and how life is always 50/50, no matter what.

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How often do you spend time thinking about what’s possible for you? As women, we’re socialized to make ourselves small and not go after what we really want. That in order to have what we want, we have to suffer for it now to get our ‘reward’ later. But when we surround ourselves with other people who can help us hold space for the larger vision we really want for our lives, that’s when the “impossible” really starts to feel possible. Listen to this special episode to learn why we’re really afraid to imagine what’s possible and how women are changing their lives inside the Clutch. Doors to the Clutch are open now through November 8, 2022.

Giving yourself permission to want the things you want *and* to go out and get them is one of the most powerful decisions you can make in your life – and it’s also one of the hardest. This week I continue my conversation with my friend and mentor Brooke Castillo where we dive into the feeling of worthiness, why it’s ok to want more than what you have, and how tapping into what you really want helps you show up most powerfully in the world.

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I’m extremely proud of all of the work I’ve created as a coach. But if I had to pick one thing I’m most proud of, it just might be the incredible, supportive community I’ve helped create inside the Clutch, my monthly feminist coaching program. New Clutch chickens are always amazed that a community of this size, with this much diversity, is truly showing up to engage in thought work *without* any drama and is working to create whatever results they want in life. Listen to this special episode to hear just a few of the incredible stories of how women and people socialized as women are changing their lives inside the Clutch. Doors to the Clutch are open now through November 8, 2022.

What does it mean to have authority over your own life? When it comes down to it, having authority looks like having your own back, no matter what happens. This week I’m talking with my mentor, friend, and the person who trained me to be a coach and showed me how to have my own back no matter what, Brooke Castillo. Tune in as we discuss how we define authority, what the ultimate claiming of authority is, and how you can take the first steps toward claiming more authority in your life.

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In this bonus episode, I’m giving you a little taste of a brand new collaboration I’ve been working on. I recorded five brand new podcast episodes for Radio Headspace, and I’m releasing the first episode today on the podcast. Tune in to this collaboration with wellness app Headspace as I dive into neuroplasticity, one question you can ask yourself to begin shaking things up inside your brain, the pitfalls of perfectionist thinking, and more.

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Women are taught that someone else always knows better than we do. Even in areas where women are stereotypically presumed the authority, like running the household, we’re still constantly told that we don’t know what we’re doing! (Think all of the messaging about how we should parent our children or how we’re doing meal prep all wrong.) Tune in to this week’s podcast episode to find out how this socialization plays out in our lives, what is the most important thought work you can do, and how you can start taking back your authority.

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“Maybe this is dumb, but… ,” “I know I shouldn’t feel this way… ,” “Does that make sense?”

These may seem like simple, innocuous words, but they’re just an outward example of the many ways that women and people socialized as women don’t trust their own authority. It’s no wonder that as women we struggle with people pleasing, seeking validation, and not being able to tune into what we really want - we’re literally socialized to do these things.

But from October 24-28 I’m hosting a live training series designed to help you grab your authority back so you can make decisions about your life from a place of empowerment and confidence. Tune in to this special bonus episode to learn more about the Claim Your Authority (AKA Stop Giving a Fuck What Other People Think) Challenge and how you can claim your ticket today.

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On this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m going to share what thought work really is, teach you how thought work is more than just working on your thoughts and show you how it encompasses your emotions, values, social conditioning, and more.

Tune in to find out why your body is actually a key part of thought work, learn one crucial aspect of my teaching, and hear why I think there’s no problem that thought work doesn’t help.

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This week on the podcast I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Elizabeth Sherman, Jill Angie, and Karen C.L. Anderson, as we begin to unravel how socialization affects the way women feel in their midlife years.

Tune in as we talk about why midlife is a great time to re-evaluate the relationship you have with yourself and the boundaries you hold with the people in your life, how to not allow your stage in life define your identity, and a better, more empowering alternative to the anti-aging tools society tells midlife women are a necessity.

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This week on the podcast I’m joined by one of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Lindsay Poelman, and her husband, Danny, as we discuss what it’s like for men to recognize their own patriarchal socialization.

Tune in as we talk about how patriarchal conditioning is not a zero sum game, how patriarchy can be oppressive to people of all gender identities (not just women), and why the feeling of disempowerment in privileged white men can actually lead to positive change.

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Something incredible happens when you introduce intersectional feminism into your coaching - you move from coach to change-maker. And my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching student Stephanie illustrates the transformation brilliantly in her ACFC reflection.

Tune in to this special bonus episode to hear how Stephanie’s life and business have transformed as a result of this work. Applications for ACFC are open through October 7.

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Have you ever wondered when you should manage your mind versus when you should take action? Would you like to know the single question that will get you 90% of where you need to go in a coaching session? Are you curious about what my best piece of business advice is for new business owners?

Tune in to this week’s episode as I answer these and more questions from coaches about business and coaching. You’ll find out why there’s no such thing as knowing your niche, how you can get your clients to take a different perspective, and how to know when to switch from offering 1:1 to group coaching.

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In this bonus episode, I dive deep into the perfectionist brain with my friend and coaching colleague, Dr. Katrina Ubell. Tune in to my conversation with Katrina to learn why not all coaching tools work for all brains, how perfectionist thinking can hold us back from reaching (or even setting) our goals and how it keeps us stuck in a cycle of allowing anyone but ourselves to be the authority over our own lives.

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Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our bodies simply don’t work the way we want them to. Maybe it’s an occasional occurrence for you or maybe it’s something you live with every day. We take on all sorts of messages about what health is (and what it’s not), how we get healthy, and how we stay healthy. But is all of the social messaging we absorb really helping us measure health? Or is it something that has been designed and packaged to tell us how to measure our own morality and worth?

Tune into my conversation with two of my students, Deb Malkin and Michelle Kapler, to learn why health is so challenging for so many of us, how we try to control our health, and how (as usual) trying to control something we can’t control, can make everything feel worse.

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Self-confidence goes by many names - self-love, self-esteem, self-regard. But no matter what you call it, it’s important to dig deep and examine whether yours is conditional or unconditional. When you’re constantly looking to outside factors to feel good about yourself, that’s conditional self-confidence. Conditional self-confidence has a big impact on our relationship with ourselves, but what are the larger implications?

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the impact conditional self-confidence has on the way we seek out security, how it can create unhealthy patterns in our relationships with others, and how you can start cultivating unconditional self-confidence.

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Being a first-generation immigrant and experiencing dual socialization (of any kind) profoundly shapes how you experience the world. And that’s exactly what I talk about on the podcast this week with two of the coaches from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching, Ana Lopez and Cris Berlingeri.

Tune in to learn how dual socialization can help you clearly see how our thoughts are subjective, why it’s important to define cultural traditions vs. non-cultural traditions, and about the power of thought work to help you create the kind of life you want to live.

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I get a lot of questions from people who are new to thought work that have to do with gaslighting themselves. It’s a totally normal concern and one that I’ve talked about many times on the podcast. But here’s why it’s so interesting. It comes from the assumption that your original unconscious thoughts are better or carry more importance simply because it is your original subconscious thought. Why are we giving more importance to the first thing our brains spit out than the thoughts we intentionally cultivate ourselves?

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why our original thoughts aren’t necessarily our most helpful thoughts and how the most real or ‘you’ thoughts can be the ones you choose intentionally.

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Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different “worst case” scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more “prepared” for what’s to come? Humans evolved to fear uncertainty above all else, which kept us safe from starving to death or being eaten by a predator…but now, it’s a recipe for crippling anxiety.

Tune in to today’s episode to learn how to solve your uncertainty problem so you can transform your fear into peace and acceptance.

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Most coaching training teaches that all coaching tools apply to everyone the same. That coaching is black and white. But when you’re aware of different lived experiences, different identities and systems of oppression in the world? And you understand how to navigate those with your clients in ways that help them feel empowered? That’s coaching in technicolor.

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn more about my intersectional approach to coaching, why I think intersectionality in coaching is so important, and how you can learn my framework to bring this work into your own coaching practice.

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For most people who dip their toes into the world of thought work for the first time, there are usually some questions that come up around subjectivity and reality. “If all thoughts are made up in our brains - is anything really true? How do I know if something is true?” But the truth is, our brains are making things up all the time. We’re actually hallucinating all the time (and no, you haven’t been unwittingly dosed with mushrooms!).

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn about the way our brains create our realities, why accepting something as reality first can make it more difficult to change your thoughts about it later, and why you should decide what to believe on purpose.

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Twice a week I lift weights with a trainer. This way of moving, yes, strengthens my body, but it has also done wonders for strengthening my brain. So what is the connection between mind and body? And how do we unravel the internalized messages we receive about our bodies to find where true confidence really comes from?

In this special release podcast episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the Thick Thighs Save Lives podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow authentic confidence (no actual weightlifting required!).

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A lot of people want to become entrepreneurs to enjoy the freedom that comes with being able to call your own shots. But at the first hint of any of entrepreneurship’s hallmark instability, they usually take it to mean they’re doing it wrong. This inherent brain error of only fantasizing about the positive and rejecting the negative is one I see play out time and time again in all facets of life.

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn about the inherent brain error and how it can hold you back, and the incredible difference it can make when you accept the full experience of whatever you choose.

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Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life.

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At first glance it may seem like it’s a ‘bad’ or ‘unhelpful’ thought that’s holding you back from finding your perfect partner, landing your dream job, reaching the next revenue goal in your business, or having the kind of friendships you’ve always wanted. But upon further inspection, you may find that this thought is actually doing important, protective work in the background - especially if it’s one that you’ve tried time and time again to shift with no success.

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn how changing your thoughts about your thoughts can be just as transformative as changing the thoughts themselves, what rejecting yourself ahead of time may be protecting you from, and the importance of looking at both sides of a belief.

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The mindset women have around money has been affected in no small part by how we have been socialized. At my Feminist Business Mastermind a few weeks ago, I shared three main money mindset lessons that all women - whether you own a business or not - should hear.

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why understanding the nuanced difference between asking and offering is so important, why women have been socialized to believe they’re bad with money, and the importance of making sure you’ve carefully chosen your thoughts before you make an offer.

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Some of you know that I was a reproductive rights activist, advocate, litigator, and academic before I became a coach. So I am sadly not surprised by this decision as the writing has long been on the wall. But here's what I have to say as a coach:

The Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade.

How do we meet this kind of challenge, from a coaching/thought work perspective?

Today is a day of mourning for anyone who cares about human autonomy and freedom. This ruling is a violation of the rights of anyone who can get pregnant, and in keeping with a long history of patriarchal control over women/childbearing bodies. As usual, the burden will be worse for people of color, disabled people, poor people, and anyone else living in a marginalized identity or a retrogressive state.

Thought work is not about finding a “silver lining” in human rights violations. It is not about seeing oppression as “perfect” because it exists.

It is about equipping ourselves to return to the fight.

It is about increasing our own resilience, to show up for what we believe, even when we seem to be losing.

It is about reclaiming our own ability to make meaning of our struggles and our lives, no matter what circumstances we live in.

It is about power in the one place that no one else can control: The inside of our own minds.

This work is about liberating ourselves from the inside out, so that we can continue to work to liberate the world.

So allow those emotions today. Anger, sadness, fear. Cry, grieve, scream, howl.

And when you’re ready, manage your mind. Choose what you want to believe – about this decision, about this world, about yourself, about your capacity to hold your experience, to find joy, to create change, to help others.

Many terrible Supreme Court decisions have been overturned in time. It is worth continuing the fight.

If we give up in our own minds, we are giving up on the world. That's how the patriarchy wins. Don’t give up.

P.S. If you want more guidance: I recommend Episode 31, What About Sexism, and Episode 70, Clean v. Dirty Pain.

P.P.S. The quickest thing you can do to help equalize abortion access in a post-Roe world is to donate to local and state abortion funds that will pay for women to travel to states where abortion is still available. You can google to find one close to home or you can donate to the National Network of Abortion Funds here: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/supportabortionfunds?refcode=nnafwebsite
Here is another list: https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/abortion-funds-to-donate-to-how-to-help-1351451/

While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’t the way things work, especially for people socialized as women.

My guest on the podcast this week, founder and CEO of Squad Isa Watson, has masterfully navigated the white male landscapes of science, tech, and now startup, as a Woman of Color, and has used managing her mind to succeed in each of them.

Tune in to learn how creating opportunities for yourself and discomfort go hand in hand, why learning to be your own hype person is so important, how managing your mind can help when going through proper institutional channels (like HR) fails, and the difference between mentorship and sponsorship (and why you should intentionally cultivate the latter).

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Listen in as Kara answers questions like "Is the Clutch a cult?" and more in this bonus Q+A episode.

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Doors to the Clutch are now open! They've been closed since last year, but you can join now through Tuesday, June 21. Listen to learn what kind of transformation is waiting for you when you join the incredible Clutch community.

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Have you ever wondered if we (or the entire human race) would enter into total anarchy and violence in the absence of self-judgment, worry over other people’s feelings, or agreement on ethics or morality? More importantly, have you ever wondered *why* you think that would be the case? It all boils down to whether or not you think humans are inherently good or inherently bad - to what you believe the nature of humans is.

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why it’s so critical to examine and intentionally choose your beliefs about human nature, how women’s socialization adds an additional complicated layer to the way we view human nature, and the role our beliefs about human nature play into how we motivate ourselves.

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Annual mile markers, like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays prompt us to reflect on the past year. The act of reflection helps us to cultivate appreciation and enjoyment from our past experiences, but doing it in thoughtful ways is actually a really effective way we can work to create our future intentionally.

I recently celebrated my 41st birthday, a milestone in my business, and my anniversary with my partner, and took time to do my own little ritual of reflection by answering just four simple questions. Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn what the four questions are and how the answers can help you create a future so good, you can’t even imagine it right now.

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People socialized as women are particularly susceptible to suffering from the burnout our entire country seems to be dealing with. That’s because they’re taught from an extremely young age that they have to take care of everyone else before they take care of themselves.

This week I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Ali Ryan and Marissa McKool, as we look closely at how we define burnout and uncover the roles patriarchy and productivity play in it.

Tune in to learn how you can begin to heal your burnout by figuring out what your unconscious commitments are and by identifying thought patterns about your to-do list at home, and how changing your thoughts around rest (while it may feel terrible at first) can help you prevent future burnout.

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It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way we make, sell, and buy stuff. It can affect the ways we place value on the actual human beings who do the work, which in turn can lead to burnout, hustle culture, and even ableism.

In this episode I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Students, Tina Koch and Rachèle Summers, as we discuss the tricky triad of internalized ableism, productivity culture, and capitalism.

Listen in to learn how you can begin changing productivity-related tendencies by examining the ‘shoulds’ in your life, how the first step in changing your internalized ableism is to approach your thoughts around it with compassion, and how you can begin pushing back on hustle culture and build emotional resilience by learning to sit with cognitive dissonance.

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There’s been a lot of talk about the invisible load the last few years (especially through Covid when women were literally trying to do it all). Pushing back against the invisible load can look like “dropping the ball.” But “dropping the ball” isn’t always safe for those socialized as women who also belong to other marginalized identities.

Listen to this interview with two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Amelia Pleasant Kennedy and Shawna Saumel, to learn how the invisible load is connected to your emotional and physical energy, the importance of negotiation in a relationship, and how living in other marginalized identities can exacerbate a woman’s drive to achieve and do more.

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It’s natural to want to stay in our comfort zones, to hang out or work with people who think like we do, to feel like we belong. But if you feel called to be a change maker in this world, you may find that you’ll have your greatest impact by stepping out of your insular world and into one where people don’t believe the same things you do. You may also find that fear of rejection will kick in full force when you think about striking out on your own.

Listen to this podcast episode to learn the truth about seeking out belonging, how belonging can keep us stuck, and how to navigate the tension between belonging and making change.

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Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).

So, if your brain is hung up on what other people are thinking about you, what can you do to get some relief? Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the very thought I recently coached one of my colleagues on that can help you give less of a sh*t about what other people are thinking about you.

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Marriage and money. Opinions on these two topics certainly run the gamut. But whether you’re currently married, planning to get married, or marriage is the furthest thing from your mind, women’s relationship to money can be a tricky thing to unpack. And there’s good reason for this: the patriarchy has had its hands in women’s relationship to money since humans have roamed the earth.

So, how do we begin to understand some of the thoughts we’ve long held when it comes to money, and shift them if we want to? Tune in to this week’s episode as board-certified dermatologist and wealth coach Dr. Bonnie Koo and I take a look at prenups, the twofold reason women tend to make less money than men, the importance of contracts in marriage and money, and more.

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Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?

Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, but defensiveness IS a quality you can shift if you’d like.

Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify defensiveness, what defensiveness has to teach us about our relationship with ourselves, and questions you can ask yourself to begin diffusing defensiveness now.

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UnF*ck Your Brain is looking to add a Director of Programming and a full-time Clutch Coach to its growing team!

Listen to this episode to learn more about the Director of Programming and Clutch Coach positions, or head straight to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring for details on how to apply!

We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more trivial things (like someone cutting in line at Starbucks).

When a psychological concept goes mainstream, it’s bound to be understood differently by different people. So, what IS trauma? What is NOT trauma? And if we want to change the relationship with our trauma and the way it makes us feel, how can we guide ourselves to think differently about it?

Tune in to this week’s episode as podcast host, New York Times best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual leader, Gabby Bernstein shares about her own trauma treatment story and the role curiosity and compassion have played in it.

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We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do we like a house in the suburbs or a condo in the middle of the city?

And there’s nothing wrong with preferring one thing to another, whether it’s in dating, friendship, or where we live and work. But it is always worth examining the reasons behind our preferences and, if we want to, working to dismantle any thinking that’s causing us to have them.

Tune in to this week’s episode as celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman and I talk about changing biased preferences in dating or in any other area of your life.

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We often hear platitudes like “if it’s meant to be, it will be easy,” or “if it feels hard, maybe it’s not meant for you.” And while these phrases are usually said to make us feel better about work, relationships, or whatever the situation is at hand, there’s a danger in them, too.

The truth is, emotional growth often feels TERRIBLE, so if we find ourselves constantly shying away from resistance or difficulty, we may also miss out on opportunities for BIG growth. Tune in to learn how to discern what’s worth emotional difficulty and what’s not.

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What is the difference between therapy and life coaching? Are the two modalities at odds with each other? When might you want to seek a therapist vs a coach to support you?

In this week’s podcast episode, therapist and life coach Mollie Birney joins me for an exploration of these questions and more. Tune in to learn more about both therapy AND coaching, and how both modalities can support your own mental health journey.

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Coaching is about more than affirmations and good vibes. If you’ve ever wondered about the neurochemistry of thought work, this episode is for you. In it, I will interview Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist and bestselling author who can speak directly to why cognitive coaching tools are so effective - and how they can transform your brain and life.

Tune in as we discuss how to use cognitive neuroscience to tackle internalized oppression and create the life (and world) you want to be in.

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Are you a feminist who is sick of feeling burdened with an invisible workload in your relationships? In this special interview with Master Certified Life Coach and bestselling author Susan Hyatt, you will learn how to reconcile your feminist ideals with your real-world relationship dynamics… without feeling frustrated or bitter. Tune in to learn how to use coaching tools to liberate yourself from both patriarchy AND resentment in your relationships.

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What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how you want to live in the world? In this episode, you will learn the question I ask myself to instantly gain perspective and clarity on what matters most to me. Tune in to learn how this question can change your life, too.

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Are you an entrepreneur looking to explore how you can infuse your business with coaching principles? Or maybe you’re simply curious what is possible when you bring coaching tools into the workplace?

In this episode, you will learn about the impact of embracing thought work tools at work, especially as a manager. If you’re curious how coaching can be used to empower employees, this episode is for you.

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One of the most common pieces of advice that women receive is that they should build their confidence - but where does insecurity actually come from, and what does “building your confidence” look like in the real world? Is it all power poses and affirmations, as Pinterest would have you believe?

In this special release episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the 51 First Dates podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow your confidence (no chanting in the mirror required!). Oh, and you’ll get all the juicy details about the worst date I’ve ever been on.

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There’s a common belief that being single is a lonely, dreary slog, especially for folks who are ultimately looking to partner up. In this week’s podcast episode you will learn how to love the f*ck out of your single life…whether you’re single by choice or are looking to change your relationship status.

I’m joined by Shani Silver, podcast host and author of “A Single Revolution,” for a conversation about how to reframe the way you think about and experience single life. This episode is powerful even if you’re currently partnered, because the more you love your relationship to yourself, the happier you will be in your relationships.

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Do you struggle with burnout? If so, you can thank our capitalist, patriarchal and puritanical society for that. In this special episode with Caroline Dooner - burnout expert and author of The F*ck It Diet and Tired as F*ck - you will learn how to use coaching tools to overcome burnout for good. (And no, this doesn’t look like just taking more vacation time!)

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I recently wrapped an amazing 3-day virtual event on goal-setting with my Clutch chickens, and the breakthroughs were so good that I wanted to share them with you.

Tune in to this episode to learn all about why you may be closer to achieving your goal than you think, why being wrong is the GREATEST thing, and more.

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Society has a way of leading you to believe that the path laid out in front of you is unchangeable. But just because you see other people following the same path, doesn’t mean you have to follow it. In fact, embracing the power you have to create new ways of moving through the world is how you own your agency and create change in the world. Today, I’m having a conversation with Trudi Lebron, one of my personal coaches, who specializes in diversity and inclusion work and creating just and ethical businesses. Listen in as we discuss how you can create opportunities for yourself by claiming your agency, and how that can translate to creating business and institutions that treat people better. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/221

Are you a strategic thinker who enjoys both data and storytelling? A graphic designer with a passion for thought work? Or an experienced project leader who loves keeping lots of moving parts and people organized and focused? If so, you could be the next UnF*ck Your Brain team member.

Listen to this episode to learn more about the Marketing Director, Graphic Designer, and Chief Operating Officer positions, or head straight to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring for details on how to apply!

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a coach or work for one? Or, perhaps, how different your experience would be if you used thought work tools at work?

In this episode, you will meet one of my employees - Elana McKernan - and learn how we use coaching tools and philosophies to build our company culture and shape our work experience.

Whether you are in the coaching industry or not, you will leave this episode with a better understanding of how you can utilize coaching to level up your own work experience.

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Do you tend to put your self-development teachers on a pedestal, taking their words as absolute truth and feeling super stressed out if you ever disagree or anyone suggests they might be wrong?

You’re not alone. Most people who are drawn to self-development are looking for The Answer To Everything. But the truth is, we’re all trying to make sense of this strange experience of being a human - and the more you defer to others as an authority in your own life, the less you are able to take ownership of your experience of the world.

In this episode, you will learn how to relate to YOURSELF as the ultimate authority - and why doing so will impact everything in your life.

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Have you ever achieved a goal in the hopes that it would make you feel more confident and less anxious, only to find yourself a week later, asking, “uuh…now what?” If you’re expecting your New Year’s resolutions (or any other achievements) to change how you feel about yourself, you are misunderstanding how your brain works and setting yourself up for disappointment.

In this episode, Victoria Myers of the Nourishing Women Podcast joins me to discuss why you have to address the thoughts behind your resolutions if you want to create a new relationship with yourself. This is required listening for any of you who are considering setting big goals in 2022!

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The problem with most resolutions is that they hinge on the idea that when the clocks roll over to the new year, you will become an entirely new person. In this episode, Caroline Dooner of The F*ck It Podcast will join me to discuss how to establish REALISTIC, achievable intentions or resolutions for the New Year, so that you can create the mental infrastructure to make real, lasting change in your life (but only if you want to - we’ll also cover why the premise that you need to change at all is a flawed one!). Before you sit down to write your 2022 New Year’s resolutions, listen to this episode!

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You know that thing your kid (or anyone, for that matter) does that drives you insane? And how it sets you off every time? Have you ever stopped to explore why that “trigger” exists in the first place, instead of just trying to “fix” it? If you search a bit deeper, you'll find that it probably stems from your childhood, and how you were parented. Once you have the why, you can use it to uplevel not only your parenting, but also your relationship to yourself. Tune in as I talk with clinical psychologist, Dr. Becky Kennedy, and we discuss how triggers can serve an essential role in our overall system, why they exist, and what you can do about them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/216

Your biggest obstacle to mind-blowing pleasure isn’t your partner’s inability to find your g-spot or your inability to find a partner or your limited drawer of sex toys...it’s actually your thoughts.

If you find yourself stressing about your appearance during sex (solo or with a partner!), worrying about your partner’s pleasure more than your own, or feeling like your desire is dependent on whether someone desires you, tune in to this interview with August McLaughlin from Girl Boner Radio. In it, we explore some common orgasm-blocking thoughts, and how to rewire your brain so you can jump-start your libido.

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Do you think that you have to be mean to yourself to achieve your goals? Our culture conditions us to associate self-criticism with achievement, and to believe that if we’re kind to ourselves as we pursue our goals, we’ll never get sh*t done.

Here to challenge that narrative is bestselling author, lawyer, syndicated daytime talk show host, and motivational speaker Mel Robbins. Tune in to learn about how Mel came to realize that her self-critical habits were harming her more than they were helping her, and how you can achieve more than you ever thought possible by motivating yourself with kindness.

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Coaching is like magic when you’ve identified a “problem” and want help creating something new in your life. But what about the times that you genuinely, truly, cannot figure out what the fuck is going on with your brain? When you’re feeling angry, sad, or lost and you can’t pinpoint why for weeks or months or even years at a time?

Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to hold space for yourself even when you don’t understand what’s happening in your brain - and how to turn these experiences into an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with yourself.

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Many women have the sense that they’re not good enough or worthy enough unless other people think they are. Why? Because society has taught us that we need to put everyone else’s needs before our own, and so we develop some codependent thought patterns to evaluate our worth. Instead of learning to validate ourselves, we rely on outside approval to feel good about ourselves.

This week, I’m talking to Victoria Albina, nurse practitioner-turned-life coach, about how this codependency affects our nervous systems and can impair our brains’ abilities to function. Tune in to find out how to regulate your nervous system, how to stop people-pleasing and seeking external validation, and how to believe that you’re already worthy - starting today.

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Have you ever set out on a journey of self-love only to find that the path wasn’t as easy or straightforward as you thought?

In this week’s episode, I talk to clinical psychologist Dr. Shefali Tsabary about how to have a radical awakening (which happens to be the title of her newest book) that leads to uncovering the beliefs and patterns that you have today, so that you can move them out of your way on your journey to loving yourself.

Tune in to find out why radical self-awareness without compassion for yourself is not *real* self-awareness, and how you can have a radical awakening of your own.

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How often do you find yourself obsessing over what another person is thinking? In this Greatest Hits episode, you will learn why focusing on other people’s thoughts and feelings is a losing game, and how to set yourself free by focusing on your own thoughts and feelings.

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Feminist coaching isn’t just for radical leftists or people who identify as progressive. In today’s episode, you will meet two life coaches who graduated from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program and who identify as more politically and religiously conservative than I do. Tune into this podcast to find out how these coaches incorporated feminist principles into their coaching practices - and their lives - while remaining true to their personal beliefs (and how you can, too!)

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Whatever your personal belief system and religious background, if you are a human in the world, then it’s likely that you have been impacted by patriarchal religious ideologies.

On today’s podcast, you will meet a very special guest coach and graduate of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Certification program, Amy Logan. Amy calls herself the Ex-Mormon Coach and she helps people who are on the other side of Mormonism reconcile their new identity. Tune in to gain insight into Amy’s journey of questioning and eventually choosing to leave the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

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As coaches, we know that our thoughts create our results, right? But in order to coach our clients effectively on their thoughts, we have to understand the CONTEXT from which these thoughts emerged. Someone whose cultural history involves persecution and multigenerational trauma may not resonate with the coaching that “everything will happen as it’s meant to,” just as someone who has learned explicitly and implicitly that their sexuality is wrong or bad won’t respond to coaching that does not take this history into account. In this episode, you will learn how approaching your clients with radical curiosity and learning to spot how their thoughts have been shaped by their cultural context will enable you to coach clients with lived experiences that differ from your own. In this special episode, guest coaches Rachel Hart and Dr. Sonia Wright join Kara Loewentheil for a conversation about why understanding your clients’ context is so important, and how committing to curiosity and nonjudgment will help you navigate your own blind spots as a coach.

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Are you worried that wanting more money is greedy? Does talking or even thinking about money make you uncomfortable? Whether you love money and want more of it, think money is the root of all evil, or anywhere in between, this episode will help you understand why unf*cking your thoughts around money is such an important feminist issue.

You will meet three graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program - Chernique Vertus, Keli Jackson, and Natasha Tekeste - for a frank conversation about why women find it so controversial to want money, what keeps women from making more money, why making money is a social justice issue, and how to use coaching tools to shift your money mindset.

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Many coaches believe that once they become certified, they will be equipped with the tools to coach anyone on anything. It’s a lovely thought, but maybe not so helpful when you’re in your tenth session with a client who just stares at you blankly as you try to explain, for the 50th time, how their thoughts are creating their results and why that’s a great thing. While there are certainly powerful frameworks out there, the coaching principles we learn aren’t one-size-fits-all. One single tool or framework isn’t going to work for everybody, and that’s ok. In this episode, Kara Loewentheil and Simone Seol will discuss how to bring more openness, nuance, and discernment into your coaching, so you can coach clients of different backgrounds and lived experiences effectively.

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Does saying “no” make you feel like you’re going to die? Are you so fixated on taking care of everybody around you that you neglect yourself? People socialized as women are taught that they are responsible for everyone else’s thoughts and feelings, and that their value comes from taking care of others…so it’s no wonder that so many of us struggle with people-pleasing.

On this episode, you will meet three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students - Maggie Reyes, Sara Fisk, and Sonia Wright - for a conversation about where people-pleasing comes from, how it manifests in their clients, and how to interrupt your people-pleasing habit.

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Coaching tools didn’t descend from the heavens. They were developed by humans whose social context impacted the way they saw the world and their clients, including what they even viewed as a “problem” to be solved in the first place. In other words, those coaching modalities that you know and love? Yeah, those were made up. Before you abandon all meaning and run off into the woods, tune into this episode to learn why understanding this is exactly what will elevate your coaching. Kara Loewentheil and Simone Seol will discuss how learning the intellectual history of modern coaching concepts and embracing the subjectivity of coaching modalities will help you deliver powerful coaching to clients with radically different backgrounds and beliefs than you.

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Are you hesitant to identify as a feminist? Conversely, do you struggle to understand why any woman WOULDN’T want to identify as a feminist? Cultural messaging around what feminism means is so pervasive that even proud feminists often have to shed cultural narratives that feminists are angry, humorless man-haters. When you look at the history of feminism through an intersectional lens, it becomes even clearer why some women - especially BIPOC women - may not identify with the movement.

In this episode, I am joined by four of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching (ACFC) graduates to discuss their discomfort with the label prior to joining the certification, and how ACFC changed their relationship to feminism. Whether you strongly identify as a feminist, or you’re unsure about whether you want to be one and what that even means, this episode will help you understand your own blind spots around why other people may not relate to this movement as you do.

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Do you understand how the legacies of slavery, colonialism, and genocide have shaped the world we live in? If not, you are missing an incredible opportunity to deepen your coaching and serve your clients and the world. In this episode, coaches Kara Loewentheil and Simone Seol will teach you how you can avoid whitewashing your coaching by understanding your historical context, the context of your clients, and the context of the coaching industry as a whole. Listen in to learn why broadening your historical literacy is so vital to creating a coaching business that meets the demands of a multicultural world.

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Are you a coach or thought work aficionado who wishes the industry would step it up to meet the demands of a complicated multi-cultural world? In this special episode, you will get a preview of a brand new podcast that I created with my dear friend and fellow life coach, Simone Seol: Outside the White Box: Elevating the Coaching Conversation. This is the first episode of a limited series that will weave together unofficial expertise in history, sociology, anthropology and thought work to challenge the “white box” of mainstream self-development and elevate the coaching conversation. Tune in to learn all about how to elevate the industry by embracing complexity in your marketing.

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Do you love setting goals and imagining what your life will be like when you achieve them? And then do you spend so much time living in this imagined future that you skip the part where you actually have to, you know, build the habits required to achieve that goal?

If so, you’re not alone. But you’re also missing the crucial ingredient for success: Taking consistent, imperfect action toward your goal. Tune in to this episode to learn why habit formation is the REAL key to changing your life - and how the concept of goal sobriety will help you achieve your dreams.

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Do you analyze text messages from romantic interests like you’re peering into into a crystal ball, constantly scanning for evidence of their interest (or lack thereof)? Do you feel like your future happiness is completely at the mercy of the dating apps? In this episode, conscious dating and relationship coach Clara Artschwager and I dig into common dating anxieties and teach you how to let go of dating anxiety for good.

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Patriarchal beliefs are so ingrained in our society and social conditioning that they permeate how we view the world, others, and ourselves. In this episode, I am joined by global speaker, life coach, and author Andrea Owen to discuss a 4-step process to unlearning your internalized patriarchy so you can figure out what you REALLY want in life and make some noise in the world running toward it.

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Even if you’re not a Brené Brown fan, you probably think that vulnerability is a powerful way to build intimacy in a relationship. But did you know vulnerability is even MORE powerful when you use it to strengthen your relationship with yourself? Learn how in this greatest hits episode.

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Are you waiting until next year to pursue a big, audacious goal? New Year’s Resolutions are like catnip to perfectionists, but in this episode, I’ll walk you through how to achieve a goal at ANY time, of ANY size, without using it against yourself. Tune into this episode to learn how to work WITH your perfectionist brain to blow your mind in the next few months of this year.

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Most people think of creativity as the ability to make art - to paint, sing, write, sculpt, etc. But even if you don’t consider yourself a “creative person,” you are creating your life, every day - your relationships, your career path, even the food you eat for lunch.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by three graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching course - Elana McKernan, Judith Gaton, and Kori Linn - to discuss how you can use coaching tools to claim your creative authority and create ANYTHING you want in life.

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Do you believe that goals are only worthwhile if they seem extremely challenging? Do you worry about what will happen if you set a goal that is literally impossible to achieve? Do you start out eager to create a new habit and then do a complete 180 and want to rebel against the new “rule” you’ve created for yourself?

In this Listener QA episode, I’m working through common challenges that listeners face when setting and working toward their goals. Tune in to learn how to use coaching tools to set great goals and then overcome all your brain’s drama in order to achieve them.

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Do you struggle to find work-life balance? Women are socialized to believe that they can have (and should WANT to have) it “all” - and then they experience pressure to create work-life balance for themselves. But the concept of balance (and the idea of what women should want) is a gendered and economically privileged one.

In today’s episode, I’m joining four amazing graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program for a conversation about how to define what having it all looks like on YOUR terms, and how to think about the idea of a “balanced” life in a way that serves you.

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Do you find yourself judging or doubting your decisions all the time? Do you tend to defer to the advice of friends, corporations, media, and even strangers rather than trusting yourself? You’re not alone. Women have been conditioned to see everyone BUT ourselves as the expert on their lives. In today’s episode, you will learn how to claim authority over your life and go from hesitation and confusion to unapologetically owning your life and taking powerful actions every day.

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Tune into today’s Listener Q&A episode for an exploration of some common areas in which the patriarchy f*cks with our brains. You will learn how to use coaching tools to deprogram patriarchal conditioning so you can: feel great about getting help with domestic tasks, stop feeling like you’re in competition with other women, stop shaming yourself for feeling proud of your accomplishments because you think you should be more “humble,” and more.

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Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different “worst case” scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more “prepared” for what’s to come? Humans evolved to fear uncertainty above all else, which kept us safe from starving to death or being eaten by a predator…but now, it’s a recipe for crippling anxiety. Tune into today’s podcast to learn how to solve your uncertainty problem so you can transform your fear into peace and acceptance.

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On today’s episode, you’ll get to meet Hannah Berner, a hilarious stand-up comedian, host of the “Berning in Hell” podcast, and a member of Bravo TV’s “Summer House.” As someone who is not connected to the life coaching/self-help field, Hannah will offer a new perspective on how thought work plays a role in her life and her experiences. Our conversation will help you understand the messaging that women absorb from society that keeps them doubting themselves and their value, and how to use coaching tools to feel happier in your professional life and your personal life (no matter what your goals are).

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Most of us believe we’re at the mercy of things that we feel triggered by. We blame them, we avoid them, and we even avoid thinking about them. But what if the kindest thing you could do for yourself was to lean in and get curious about them? In today’s episode, you will learn how to use coaching tools to turn intense negative emotions into opportunities for growth.

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UnF*ck Your Brain is hiring a Marketing Director! Are you a great writer who’s obsessed with developing content strategy, geeking out on analytics, overseeing marketing initiatives, and getting life-changing coaching tools into the hands of as many people as possible? If all that sounds like a dream, you may be our next Marketing Director. Listen to this episode to learn more about the position, or head straight to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring for details on how to apply!

Sure, we all want to have a better body image…but what does that actually look like in practice? In this week’s Listener Q&A episode, you will get concrete advice on how to use coaching tools to improve your relationship with your body. Tune in to learn why your weight is NOT an accurate barometer for your health, how to let go of old stories that have kept you feeling powerless around food, how to use coaching tools to help with symptoms of PMS or other hormonal imbalances, and more.

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I recently wrapped an amazing 3-day virtual event with my Clutch chickens, and the breakthroughs were so good that I wanted to spread the Clutch College love by sharing my top 4 takeaways with you. Tune into this episode to learn: 1) How you are way more creative than you think you are, 2) why you have to ACCEPT your current reality in order to change it, 3) what self-love REALLY means (spoiler: it doesn’t require feeling blissed-out and in love with yourself 100% of the time), and 4) what you’ve gotten wrong about human nature (and why that’s actually a good thing).

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What do a feminist life coach and a Mormon life coach have in common? A lot, it turns out, when it comes to thought work. On today’s episode, you will meet Jody Moore, mother of four, friend and colleague, and the most influential Mormon life coach in the world. Tune in to learn about the history of our unlikely friendship, how coaching has enabled us to have difficult conversations with people who have beliefs that conflict with ours, why it’s imperative to step out of black and white thinking in order to achieve any goal, and more.

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Have you ever struggled to forgive someone? You’re not alone, but thought work can help. Tune into this week’s Greatest Hits podcast episode to learn how your resistance to forgiveness is harming YOU, and then learn a simple process that will allow you to forgive anyone (including and especially yourself).

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Is the current online accountability discourse a productive, meaningful, and proportional response to systemic injustice? Or is it a punitive expression of a carceral mob mentality? In the second part of this special two-part series, I invited three of my colleagues and advanced certification students - Master Coach Brenda Lomeli, Master Coach Brig Johnson, and Clutch Coach Amber Taylor - to have a nuanced discussion about why so many women fear being “canceled,” how online accountability conversations emerged from restorative justice practices, and why it’s so important to unpack any strong reactions you are having to the concept.

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Whether you call it call-in culture, consequence culture or "cancel culture,” you likely have an opinion about the current online accountability discourse. On this special two-part series, I invited three of my colleagues and advanced certification students - Master Coach Brenda Lomeli, Master Coach Brig Johnson, and Clutch Coach Amber Taylor - to discuss the range of actions and conversations that get lumped together, sometimes unhelpfully, in this movement. Join us for the first part of the conversation in which we explore accountability in the context of white supremacy, racial and social justice, online social dynamics, and psychology.

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Do you believe that you have to quit your job in order to take any action on starting your dream business? That you can only be happy if you have a very specific kind of life? That you have to cut someone out of your life because they did something you dislike? These are all examples of black and white thinking, one of the most pervasive - and limiting - ways of looking at the world. Tune in to learn how embracing shades of grey will open up your life and expand your impact in the world.

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Do you have a phobia or fear that you want to get under control? Do you want more out of life, but struggle with indecision and confusion about how to change? Have you ever wondered why some people thrive in certain environments, while others have to coach themselves a ton just to make it through the day? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll explore these questions and more.

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Are your efforts to challenge sexism, racism, and other oppressive systems leaving you frustrated, overwhelmed, and burnt out? Tune in to this week’s Greatest Hits episode to learn how to use coaching tools to create social change without draining yourself or feeling angry all the time. When you learn how to liberate yourself from fear and judgment, you create endless energy to liberate the world.

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Because discussions about abortion tend to be so polarized, it can be difficult to unpack your thoughts and feelings about the decision, even though more than 1/3 of Americans will have an abortion in their lifetime. This week, I’m joined by Amanda Kingsley, a Certified Life Coach, Doula and host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast, to explore the prevailing thoughts many women have about their abortions - and how to let go of unnecessary pain and suffering around the decision.

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Do you ever feel shame scanning the self-help aisle of the bookstore? Do you roll your eyes when you see life coaches offering self-help courses on your IG/FB feed? It may surprise you, but the embarrassment or shame you feel toward self help is 100% internalized patriarchy. In today’s episode, you will learn why self help has more in common with ancient philosophical traditions than with self-indulgent spa trips, and why your own self-help practice is so important.

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Do you tend to make rejection mean there’s something “wrong” with you? Have you ever wondered how to know when a relationship is “toxic”? Do you struggle with a partner who is more extroverted than you are? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll answer some of your most burning relationship questions and share the role thought work can play in common relationship issues.

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You may think you aren’t close to achieving a goal until you’re 99% of the way there and the finish line is in view. But actually, the biggest distance you can cover is in taking your first few steps toward your goal. Going from inaction to action is INFINITE growth. Once you’ve done that? You can just repeat the process until you reach your destination. In this Greatest Hits episode, you will learn how minuscule steps create exponential growth.

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Do you torture yourself on the way to a goal, in the hopes that you’ll feel different when you “get there?” Do you think of goals as shiny gold coins to collect in order to feel better about yourself? Do you undermine or discount your accomplishments? Tune into this episode for some mind-blowing wisdom from a live event I hosted earlier this year. You will learn how to reframe everything from your relationship to goal-setting, and learn how to develop the single most important skill to uplevel your growth.

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Want to learn what thought work and tarot have in common? In this week’s special episode, I have invited my friend, philosopher, writer, and tarotist Jessica Dore onto the podcast to discuss all things thought work and tarot...and to give me a mini-reading! Jessica has a background in cognitive and behavioral therapy, and uses the art of mysticism to help her clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves.

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Do you feel pressured to have a “life goal” or to discover your “calling” in life? Do you struggle with defensiveness when receiving negative feedback at work? In today’s Listener Q&A episode, I’ll answer some common questions about work and entrepreneurship, and share the thoughts I used to scale my business from $50k to 1 million, and beyond.

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Welcome to UnF*ck Your Brain! This podcast teaches you concrete, effective, mind-blowing tools that you can use to reduce anxiety, improve your productivity, dial-up your self-confidence, and dial down your insecurity and people-pleasing.

I’m Kara Loewentheil, a master certified life coach with degrees from Harvard and Yale – and a former high-powered career working for women’s rights. I’ve taken all the best neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, and coaching tools I know and combined them with feminist theory to create a set of powerful practices and life-changing ideas that will teach you how to liberate yourself from the inside out.

You can be the strong, empowered, confident woman you’ve always wanted to be – you just have to learn how to clear away all the negative self-talk and messages from the patriarchy that are keeping you small.

So let’s not sit here just talking about it – because I’m all about teaching you how to take smart action! You can start anywhere you like, every episode stands alone – just scroll and find a topic that calls you, and hit play. Join the feminist mindset revolution - your life will never be the same.

We live in a society that teaches women to put themselves last, and the more marginalized identities you live in, the more ways you are told you’re not good enough or worthy of taking up space. For those who live in marginalized identities, self-love is a radical political act that enables us to claim our worth and challenge oppressive belief systems. Tune into today’s Greatest Hits episode to learn how to cultivate radical self-love and how to use it to transform the world.

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Do you lay awake at night obsessing over why a new date or partner took 3 hours to respond to your text instead of their usual 30 minutes? Or maybe you start to feel avoidant when a new partner wants to hang out too much, and worry about losing independence in a relationship? Whatever your attachment style, this Greatest Hits episode will help you discover how it may be affecting your relationships - and how to use thought work to feel secure in your relationships.

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Do you tie your self-worth to how productive you are? You know the signs: Never feeling like you’re doing enough, criticizing yourself for being “lazy” or “unmotivated.” If you feel stuck in a cycle of burnout and self-criticism, this episode’s for you. On today’s podcast, I join business coach Simone Seol to explore cultural beliefs about productivity - and how shifting your own beliefs about productivity can help you compound your results.

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Do you believe that if you just got that new job title, got married, or achieved any other fill-in-the-blank-accomplishment, you’d be happy and confident? And then do you create unrealistic plans to achieve that goal and abandon them entirely when you inevitably stumble in the execution? Tune into this Greatest Hits episode to learn how your perfectionist fantasies are holding you back - and how to build integrity with yourself (and accomplish your goals) by letting them go.

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It’s no secret that I am an anti-diet coach. On today’s podcast, I’ll introduce you to my dear friend - and wildly successful weight loss coach - Corinne Crabtree. We’ll dive into our shared qualms with the diet industry, explore how Corinne holds space for unconditional self-love and body diversity in how she teaches weight loss, and discuss the top three lessons we’ve learned from each other.

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There are a lot of misunderstandings about life coaching out there - that coaching is about gaslighting and spiritual bypassing, that it’s about learning how to “fix” yourself on your own, that it’s only for privileged people. In today’s podcast, I break down the 5 biggest misconceptions about mindset coaching to reveal what coaching is really about: taking control of your experience of the world and generating more love and compassion for yourself and others.

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Most women feel immense pressure to be “normal.” We evolved to conform for our literal safety, and patriarchy has socialized us to fit in, to defer to the needs of others, to not challenge the dominant social norms. But in order to create an extraordinary life, you have to learn how to leave normal behind and be YOURSELF, fully, weird and wonderful as you are. Learn how in today’s episode.

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Why is it so valuable to set audacious goals, and how would it feel to have full confidence you could create exactly what you want this year? Find out in today’s podcast with Master Certified Coach and holistic nutritionist Brenda Lomeli, who has changed lives and shattered glass ceilings on the way to accepting herself fully. We’ll share 3 things we’ve learned from each other, how diversity benefits the entire coaching industry, and why it’s sometimes good to feel nauseous.

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Are you a perfectionist who wants to do something big? Most of the tools life coaches use to help their clients go after big goals don’t take perfectionist thought patterns into account, which sets you up to fail before you’ve even started. Tune into today’s episode to learn how to work WITH your brain and blow your f*cking mind.

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The year is almost over, which means a lot of people are making ambitious resolutions that they will fully abandon by February 1. Tune into today’s bonus podcast to learn how to use the concepts of constraint and massive action to break the cycle of abandoned resolutions and achieve any goal you make for yourself this year.

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Do you agree to do things you’d prefer not to because you’re worried it would be rude or uncomfortable to refuse? Whether you take on extra obligations at work or make subtle concessions at home to “keep the peace,” your discomfort with saying no is likely impacting every area of your life. Tune into today’s episode to learn how you can say YES to yourself by getting better at saying NO to others.

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This week, I invited fellow life coach, friend, and sales savant Stacey Boehman onto the podcast. Stacey is a Master Certified Coach who teaches other coaches how to sell and make money. Tune in as we explore the top three lessons we’ve learned from each other, where security and safety come from, and Stacey’s history of deer-related trauma (yes, you read that right).

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Do you get attached to the things you love? Many people wear their attachment as a badge of honor, thinking that loving something deeply means fearing its loss. In this episode, I’ll teach you why loving lightly - without attachment - is so revolutionary. You will learn how to love others lightly by committing to your OWN happiness, knowing that you will always love yourself and your life, no matter what.

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What happens when two coaches fall in (platonic) love? You’ll find out in this episode, where I’ll introduce you to life coach - and best friend of mine - Rachel Hart. You’ll get a window into how our friendship has transformed both of our lives, and find out the three most valuable lessons we’ve learned from each other.

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If you have insomnia, do you spend so much energy dreading the possibility of waking up at night that you literally can’t fall asleep? This is a perfect example of anticipatory stress, the stress we feel in anticipation of anything we label “bad.” It’s also the main source of our suffering in any situation we dread. Tune in to learn four simple steps you can take to feel calmer even if what you fear comes to pass.

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Do you define yourself by what you have or haven’t achieved in the past? If you’re in debt, do you think of yourself as someone who’s bad with money? If you’re perpetually single, do you think you aren’t capable of love? Most of us judge ourselves because we want to change - but doing so actually PREVENTS us from changing. If you want to change your life, you have to start by changing your beliefs about yourself.

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How often do you look at someone else’s behavior and think, “If I were them, I’d do that differently”? This may seem like an innocent habit, but it can wreak havoc on your relationships and stagnate your growth. In today’s episode, learn how to let go of your judgments and generate curiosity, compassion, and love for those around you.

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Do you ever notice a low hum of discomfort and anxiety when you do things that someone, somewhere along the line, told you that you shouldn’t do? Like, say, eat carbs or take a nap. In this episode, I’ll teach you a simple brain hack that will instantly dissolve your guilt and discomfort. Get ready to take control of your life and experience WHATEVER you choose with more ease, relaxation, and pleasure.

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Are you feeling anxious and worried about the upcoming US presidential election? Our brains are wired to fixate on anything in the future that they perceive as a potential “threat,” but you don’t have to let your fear consume you. In this episode, I’ll teach you how to wrangle your brain when you are spinning out about the election (or any other future-focused event you’re stressed about).

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A lot of people think that “your thoughts create your feelings” means they should blame themselves if they’re struggling, even if they’re dealing with the effects of trauma. Listen to this episode to learn how to ACCEPT what you’re feeling rather than judge it, and why applying this radical acceptance to your life will set you free.

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Do you know how to solve your own problems? Resourcefulness is one of the most important qualities you need to live an incredible life, but many of us have brains that just throw up their metaphorical hands and want to die whenever the smallest hurdle arises. Learn why resourcefulness is so important, and how you can develop this critical skill, in today’s episode.

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Is your brain haunting you? Most of us experience ghosts of old anxious thought patterns even after we’ve used coaching to feel more confident and secure. In today’s episode, I’ll teach you why these sparks of anxiety are so persistent, and what you can do the next time you experience a “haunting.”

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You would never go to a toy store for a gala dress, so why do you stay with someone who’s afraid of commitment, when you’re looking for a life partner? Why do you seek validation from a parent, when they’ve never once approved of your choices? In this episode, I’ll teach you how to stop seeking validation, love, and approval from people who will never give it to you - and how to give it to yourself, instead.

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Are you feeling hopeless, afraid, despondent, or angry at the recent passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg? In today’s podcast, I will teach you how to take hopeful action even when you aren’t FEELING hopeful, by using the coaching model to generate feelings of commitment. Hope feels good when it happens to arrive, but commitment will create a revolution.

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Do you wish your life looked more like those minimalist Instagram homes full of light and clean lines and constraint? In today’s podcast episode, you will learn about the patriarchal underpinnings of minimalism and why I embrace MAXIMALISM instead. Tune in to get a taste of what life could look like if you stopped restricting yourself and gave yourself permission to be as colorful, loud, and abundant as you wanted.

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Women are socialized to compromise our needs and happiness behind the needs of family, friends, even strangers. At the same time, we’ve also experienced situations where compromise is helpful and growth-promoting. In this podcast episode, you will learn a few simple questions to ask yourself so that you will always know when to compromise and when to stand firm.

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Most of us are so steeped in fatphobia that we don’t even realize it exists…and yet it impacts every aspect of our lives, from what we think about our bodies to what our doctors tell us when we are sick. Listen in to learn how I used thought work to overcome my own internalized fatphobia, and how you can set yourself free, too.

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Listen in this week to discover why the framing of intuition as something you use to categorize an experience doesn’t serve you, how it gets confused with feelings of anxiety, and the role of cognitive bias here. You need to examine the assumption that you should act on something without question if it’s coming from your intuition, and I’m guiding you through this process today.

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Listen in today to get a taste of what it’s like to join The Clutch where I coach every single week on topics like body image and thought work. I’m doing a listener Q&A to coach on some of the most frequent questions I get sent. If you’re loving what you’re learning here and want a chance to have your questions addressed, come join us there!

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Listen in this week to discover if you might be using thought work against yourself. There are two main ways that I see this play out very commonly, and I’m showing you why using thought work within these contexts can sometimes bring you awareness, but ultimately they are longer paths to getting to that point.

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Join me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have.

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Join me on the podcast today as I show you when it’s useful to think about other people’s models, when it’s not, and why. Making your mental and emotional state contingent upon what other people might be thinking, feeling, or doing is useless and a waste of energy, and my goal is to show you that you never have to know what someone else is thinking to decide what you are going to think.

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Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life.

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Join me today as I share the nuances that come with being an overactor and an underactor, and the antidotes for each type of behavior. Both types are self-critical and often feel miserable about their goals, and I’ll be showing you how balanced action is the key to your own growth and appreciation for the journey, no matter what you may be working on.

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Join me today as I show you what true closure is and how to get it. I’m outlining two things that many people believe will bring them closure if they had it, why these things are just lies our brains feed us, and the only thing that is really in your way of being happy right now.

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Join me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process.

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Today I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall.

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Listen in this week as I share a technique that I’ve found effective in connecting to your sexuality by embodying your own desire. This can feel uncomfortable and it may bring up strong emotions for you, and that’s totally okay and normal. The great thing about this work is that you can take it as slow as you want, without anyone else being involved.

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Join me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes.

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Join us today as Erika shares her experience of navigating racism and her own journey of finding her voice to speak up and have difficult conversations as a black woman. You’ll hear how learning the coaching tools has impacted her life, and she illustrates the nuances of how she uses thought work to process her experiences, allow her emotions, and take action.

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Listen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation.

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What I think the role of thought work is in moments like this and how we can use it to process challenging times and create change in the world.

I also address how white people can use thought work to get curious about our thoughts and to get honest about our own internalized racism. If you are a white person listening to this, I invite you to stay with me on this episode and to trust what I’m saying today so that it can be a tool for individual liberation and help us contribute to social change.

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Today I'm sharing two big reasons why you need to embrace the suck. We’re going to experience it at least 50% of the time anyway, so why not accept that and move through the world knowing that it sometimes sucks to be a human? There is no perfect way to do this, and willing to stay present is a skill that will help you embrace the other 50% that is full of joy and happiness.

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This week, I want you to hear from some of my Clutch students who have used thought work to change their relationship with money. I love that they each bring a unique perspective on this topic, coming from various fields and industries, and every single of them has used what they’ve learned in The Clutch to create a more abundant financial mindset.

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This week I illuminate the importance of this work in feeling secure in your moral value and worth, and why you, as a human, have inherent and intrinsic value just for existing. It’s no surprise that women tend to experience a lot of emotional drama when it comes to financial conversations or discussing their economic worth, and I’m untangling all of this on the podcast today.

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You can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today.

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Kara and Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School explore how the Covid-19 outbreak is presenting a unique opportunity for us to level up our thought work skills. Learn why loneliness, fear, and misery are not inevitable reactions to the crisis - and how to shift your thinking to get relief.

Listen in this week to catch Marissa and Deb share their experience around dating, breakups, social justice, and how The Clutch has helped them shift their perspective. This is such a rich and interesting conversation, and I know that the discoveries they’ve made throughout their time in The Clutch will show you what is truly possible for you too.

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I know all of you will be able to relate to having moments where your brain seems to go to worst-case scenarios; where you imagine all the horrible things that could potentially happen in your life, or what I call a “what-if parade.” Even though I’ve dedicated my life to the practice of thought work, I’m no exception, and today, I’m showing you why this is normal and what you can do when this happens.

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Listen in today as I show you how opportunities are available to you right now if you choose to see this crisis through a new lens. If you’re not currently living the life you want, I’m sharing some reasons why all of us humans tend to turn away from what’s possible for us, and finally, what it takes to create the life of your dreams.

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Join us on the podcast this week as The Clutch members, Bessie and Elizabeth, share their lessons learned and the best thought work they’ve done to transform their lives. I’m so excited for them to show you what’s truly possible when you learn how to manage your mind and I know that they’ll inspire you to do the same.

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Join me on this episode as I show you why humans tend to want to believe that our lives will start in the future, or that it will start once we have achieved something, whether that’s weight loss, finding a partner, or anything else. Putting your life off until things get back to ‘normal’ is preventing you from experiencing the freedom and happiness you could be having right now if you embraced your current situation, and I’m giving you the tools to help you do that today.

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This is a time of questioning and being curious of your patterns, belief systems, and actions that you’ve been able to escape from before the pandemic, and you’re going to see how it shows up for three of my clients. We’re addressing questions around living your best life right now, health anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, and getting things done in quarantine.

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Join me this week as I talk through what boredom actually is, whether it’s a problem, and how you can handle it better. Letting boredom just exist in your body can feel extremely uncomfortable, but you’ll be surprised at how much growth and new insights you’ll discover on the other side of it.

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Listen in today as I offer you three tools that I have found to be very helpful in my own life and with my clients with their health-related anxiety. Acknowledging the reality that you are mortal is the first step in finding peace with our current situation, and I’m walking you through how you can use these techniques to stay out of frenzy and anxiety.

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Listen in today as I show you why you can create value and money right now during a pandemic. Just because this is our current reality doesn’t mean you don’t have any control over your mind or the kind of results you can create anymore. I guarantee that taking ownership of your thoughts and choosing intentional thoughts around money will help you feel empowered and create any amount of money or value you want.

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Listen in this week as I show you how your brain creates mental habits, and how cognitive bias is a crucial element to understand in changing them. This concept is applicable everywhere in your life, at any time, and the two ways I’m offering to you today of how to prevent your cognitive bias from running wild is going to give you so much more control over your mental and emotional experience.

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Join me this week as I break down what it means to want something, the fundamental motivation for why you want something if you have an unmanaged mind, and two exercises you can use to determine what you actually want. I’ll also be diving into how women especially use thought work against themselves in deciding what they want for their lives.

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In the midst of what feels like chaos and frenzy, most of us are seeking some stability and familiarity. Staying focused and productive in some area of your life and feeling connected to other people are two ways of doing this, and I’m offering my recommendations of how you can do this reasonably and realistically.

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Join me on this episode as I highlight why your mental health matters the most right now. You’ll discover what is possible for you when you prioritize this over your physical state, and how undermining it is actually deteriorating both your body and mind.

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Join me as I walk you through the difference between your thoughts and your feelings, and how to identify what a feeling is. From there, you’ll be able to start the process of intentionally creating emotions that you want to feel, and at the same time, you’ll be able to allow emotions that feel uncomfortable in your body without resisting them.

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Discover exactly why we get sucked into believing that we can control other people and external circumstances, and why letting it go is the only path to true freedom. Any feeling you want to have can be achieved by relinquishing the belief that you can or should be able to control anything outside of yourself. To do this, I’m offering a set of questions you can ask yourself that will focus on the things you can control.

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Too often, we believe that the thoughts we have are unchangeable, and so we try to control everything outside of us to try to feel better, which is impossible. Instead, what I’m offering you today is a technique called neutral thoughts that will guide you in actively choosing thoughts that serve you.

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Join me today to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on in your brain right now. This first step is crucial to changing the state of panic that you might be experiencing. I’ll also be highlighting how the news and social media can feed into the frenzy that your mind is going through.

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Join me this week to discover how you might be disempowering yourself by not embracing the agency you have over your own life. There is no right or wrong, failure or success. You can have any adventure you want, and there is no wrong story to write.

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Join me as I share some tools that you can practice to help you see why you might be feeling fear right now, as well as some reminders about the news and social media and the role it plays in your mental health. Acting out of fear will always feel terrible, and so I’m sharing my pandemic mission statement and some affirmations that you can use too, to help you be in control of your brain and manage your thoughts.

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Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, I’m showing you how to start creating true transformation in the long-run.

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Discover the true impact of patriarchy on our brains through the concept of heuristics. I'm giving you the basics of how our brain unconsciously absorbs the messages we’re taught and creates reasoning shortcuts, and then how that ties into the patriarchy and our experience as people socialized as women.

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As you learn about thought work and start using these tools to change your life, it’s only natural to want to speed things up, change all of your beliefs, and start getting the results you want right away. Something I’ve seen every single one of my students do at some point is ‘silver-lining’ their thoughts to feel better, and today I’m showing you how this isn’t conducive to the process and why it doesn’t work.

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Join me this week to discover how practicing the skill of managing your mind can be the greatest gift you can give yourself. I’m now more kind and compassionate to myself in moments of intense suffering and negativity, and you too will get to see the transformations that are truly possible if you apply this work.

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Join me this week to see if you can identify with some of the limiting beliefs I was holding onto around family and romantic relationships, and see how you could free yourself of thoughts that aren’t serving you. Make sure to tune in next week as I dive into friendships and other social relationships too!

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On today’s episode, I’m diving into my relationship with my body image, work, and money mindset, and how that has shifted over the years of doing this work. A lot has changed since I first started in 2015, and I’m sharing the progress I’ve seen in those areas, as well as the habitual thought patterns that occasionally still show up.

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Listen in today to gain a new perspective on why it’s so hard to fundamentally understand that other people have totally different thoughts to you, and how you buy into the assumptions you have about what’s going on in their brain. If you don’t know what a model is, I’m giving you the basics to help you understand this concept better, and I’m also sharing my interpretation of what empathy really means.

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Listen in as I take a deep dive into entitlement, how it shows up and why, and a new way to start thinking about the results you want that will save you time and energy, instead of sitting in entitlement, which drains all of your resources and leaves you in emotional drama.

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This week, we’re talking about the past and how you think about it in terms of forgiveness and blame. As most people are looking to the future now that 2020 has begun, I’m taking it back so you can start seeing your future in a new way and release yourself from the suffering you might be experiencing.

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I’ve received questions on podcasting and how to be a credible host, what I think draws people to coaching and how to be a coach people are drawn to, and my thoughts on carrying your clients’ emotions as you coach them. I’m also responding to some questions you guys had on confidence and my best advice on how to be successful.

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This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.

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I hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life.

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Join me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain.

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I’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers.

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This week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life.

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Listen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong.

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Join me this week as I share the process I use when I feel triggered to grow and learn more about myself. I want this episode to act as a reminder that taking actions to move away from what feels bad isn’t a solution, and that there is so much missed opportunity when you do this.

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Listen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined.

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The questions I've received over the past week were so interesting and thoughtful, and I’m excited to address these topics on the podcast today.

They range from how thought work aligns with the concept of mindfulness, questions about coaching others and how I facilitate coaching sessions, to whether there is a right or wrong reason to practice thought work.

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The topics I’m covering range from general questions on classic thought work issues to some more specific questions from life coaches that I think will be super helpful to all of you. From the importance of niches, the belief that external factors could make you happy, to letting go of your emotional childhood, I’ve got it all covered today.

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It can be absolutely crippling and produce more anxiety than necessary, especially when we preemptively think about how we’ll feel when we have to get out there and perform. So this week, I’m approaching this concept from a slightly different perspective to show you what it really is, how we often exacerbate this negative feeling, and how to start resolving it.

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If there are things you want to achieve in your life or business but you’re worried about the expense, or not having enough time, or whether it’ll all work perfectly the way you imagine, today’s episode is for you. I’m highlighting these thoughts that have been running in your mind day in and day out, to help you look at them, and decide if you want to keep them.

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In this episode, I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful.

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The human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me - especially my partner at the time - but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar? Today, I’m taking a deep dive into this concept to show you how it applies to anyone in your life, including yourself, or any circumstance you experience.

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Join me this week to discover how the infinite 1% tool can shift your mindset completely. The difference between not doing anything and doing something 1% is huge so I hope you embrace it and start implementing this in your life because you will see some amazing transformations.

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Join me this week as I break down the way we process the feelings of safety and danger. These feelings are no exception to thought work, and it’s something we need to work on to teach our lizard brains that our perception of our safety is our responsibility and can be managed.

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On this episode, I’m covering some really common themes that I see a lot. If you’re working on your social anxiety, if you’re struggling in your relationships, or having anxiety-producing thoughts in the middle of the night, this one is for you.

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Do you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals.

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This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I first learned in yoga – beginner’s mind. I’m all about growth and evolution, and as humans, we naturally want to advance in anything we do. With that in mind, I’m delving into why learning to cultivate the beginner’s mind is crucial to actually improving your skills and advancing in your abilities.

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On this episode, I'm diving into why some of us - mostly women - struggle with the reality of aging. I'm exploring all factors, from our cultural stories and stereotypes to the archetypes of women that play into our identities as we move through different stages of life.

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We're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely looking them in the eye.

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Discover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life, so come join us in The Clutch if you need more support on this topic!

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I've got two tools that are seemingly straightforward in helping you break any of your ingrained numbing habits, but it's going to require lots of practice in order to use them to your advantage. Breaking habituated patterns takes effort because most of the time it's happening unconsciously, and it often makes us feel anxious when we act against our own will, which is why these tools are going to be challenging but life-changing.

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Working on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to.

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This week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep.

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This week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life.

If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed.

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Join me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life!

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Join me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way.

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Today, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward.

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Trying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one!

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Dr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind.

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As we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder.

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Listen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings!

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Join me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong.

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On today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention.

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There is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change.

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Join me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching.

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My goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life.

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Introducing: The Clutch. An online feminist coaching community where you can learn how to create true, authentic confidence in your own heart and mind - and bond with other bad-ass women who are doing the same.

The world is always coming at you, with new challenges. But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back.

Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback and support in changing your thought patterns, navigating the world, and creating your best life.

Because a good clutch goes with any outfit and holds all the essentials you need. Because clutch is exactly what you need exactly when you need it. And the Clutch is exactly what your brain needs, whenever you need it. Conversations that dig deep. A community that helps you grow.

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On a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern.

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If you're confused or frustrated because the steps you're taking aren't working or getting you any closer to your goals, I'm giving you the answer today. Discover where you might be going wrong in your endeavors to get what you want. What I'm sharing today may seem obvious, but you'll be surprised when you slip back and catch yourself relying on actions alone to create your results.

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Tune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business!

Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote!

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Where you're most commonly going wrong in your thought work and why the answer to your questions never lies in simply choosing the right action to take.

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To help you on your path to becoming your best selves, I designed a workbook called Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done! Text your email address to 347-997-1784 and then text "feelbetter" when it prompts you for the secret password.

I'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists.

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Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lowercase).

Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

I see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again.

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Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

Discover the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how embracing this concept can diminish so much unnecessary suffering in your life. Emotional pain and misery are bound to come up, but this tool is going to help you flow through it with less resistance.

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On this episode, we’re covering topics of dealing with unsolicited advice from others, what to do when you’re someone who’s being “rude,” and body image issues.

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Join me today as I break down the three elements of a regret thought pattern and share how you can start feeling better today by changing your thoughts. You don't have to change what happened in the past. You only need to change how you think about it.

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You don't have to change your negative thoughts right away - it's okay to sit with them for a bit. I like to call this the Struggle Bus. You might be struggling with some negative emotion, but you're still moving forward. You're still showing up to do everything you need to do.

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On this episode, we’re diving into topics like addressing things that are outside of our control, social anxiety and insecurities, meeting your own needs, the five love languages, applying thought work to physical pain, and more.

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Join me this week as I answer questions about what I think about antidepressants and other medications, dealing with Trump supporters, boundary violations, thought work around “toxic” family members, people pleasing, and more.

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Join me this week to learn how to believe new things harder. I share the three mistakes I see in thought work when people are not believing hard enough and how to get past them. Believing new things on purpose is work. It's going to feel like work. That's the good news. Because the good news is if it feels terrible sometimes, you're doing it right.

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Tune in this week as I talk about dealing with your past regrets, body image, speaking your truth, mending (or not) relationships, dealing with recurring thoughts, and much more!

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Let’s start this year off with a chat about self care as many of us will be making resolutions to take better “care” of ourselves... and then falling back into old habits 3 weeks later. Join me today as I break down what self care really is and why managing our minds is the ultimate self care practice.

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Tune in this week as I answer questions on the topics of managing “toxic” family members around your kids, thought management around physical touch, controlling your mind around uncontrollable circumstances, and more.

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In this episode, I talk about the differences between jealousy and envy and how they relate to other emotions. They both hinge on the thought that you need something external - money, a certain job, a romantic partner, a friend - to be happy and that you will be unhappy without it. Join me today to hear why confidence alone won't solve issues with jealousy.

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Join me this week as I answer questions on the topics of self-love, people with intuitively-managed minds, changing go-to thoughts, finding love, dreaming about your problems, and more.

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Understanding FOMO and taking the steps to work through your thoughts around your current or future circumstances can make a tremendous difference in the level of happiness and fun you’re allowing yourself to have in any given moment. Listen in to hear how!

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Listen in as we explore topics like handling criticism and feedback, intuition vs bad thoughts, managing intrusive thoughts, the struggle between choosing comfort vs growth, and more!

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Join me today for a tough look at how so many of us are letting our fears of shame and rejection keep us from putting ourselves out there enough to reach our goals. I can't tell you how many "no"s you need to hear but I can say that every no gets you closer to the "yes" you want and the only thing holding you back is your unwillingness to hear the no.

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A lot of us are paranoid about what other people think about us, especially in social situations. But just because your mental default is to worry about other people's opinions about you, doesn't make this a permanent state of mind.

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Join me as we get into topics like managing your mind under the influence of alcohol, mind over matter, cultivating confidence, managing thoughts of resentment, being around people with different religious beliefs than your own and more!

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This week, we have another installment of the Listener Q & As. In this episode, we dive into topics such as dealing with overwhelm, empathy vs compassion, fortune-telling, teaching thought work to young kids, relationships, boundaries, and more!

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On this episode, we take a deep dive into the topic of trust and explore the common misconceptions about it that are holding you back. After listening to this episode, I’d like for you to get curious about what trust really means for you and whether it’s necessary to have it for others at all.

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This week, I am back with another round of questions from all of you and my tough-love answers. Today, we’re digging into a number of topics such as dealing with ‘problem’ coworkers, letting go of shame around past mistakes, feeling more lovable, and helping others.

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Today, I want to teach you more in-depth about people-pleasing and why I think we should stop using that terminology. Join me today for People-Pleasing 2.0 and discover how this behavior sabotages your authenticity and perpetuates dishonest relationships. Plus, I share a couple of steps to ending this deceptive cycle. Awareness is key, my chickens. Notice your thoughts and you can change them!

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In this episode, I’ll talk about the assumptions most of us make about friendship and discuss why it’s important to refresh how you think about your friends. Listen in as I reveal how you might be blocking yourself from fully enjoying your friendships – then I’ll tell you what you can do to flip this script and appreciate the many friendships the world can offer you if you just know where to look.

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Join me this week as I answer more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from boundaries, relying on external validation, cultivating self-confidence, family and relationship issues and more.

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This week, I explain what a boundary is and why everything that you have previously known about boundaries is most likely wrong (or at least highly unhelpful). Join me as I show you what a boundary is not and how to tell if you’re ready to set a boundary and how to do it in a way that serves you and your emotional state.

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After the last listener Q & A episode, I got a lot of great feedback from you guys and have since received a ton of new questions. Today, I am answering more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from relationship advice and workplace issues to my morning and nighttime routines.

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Constraint is one of the mind management tools that has had a huge impact on my ability to achieve ambitious goals, and quickly and exponentially grow my business and podcast. And on this episode, I am excited to show you how you can properly use constraint in your life to create more time, hit big milestones, and level up any area of your life.

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This week, I want to talk to you about the concept of catastrophizing, or imagining all the possible future negative scenarios that could happen and emotionally reacting as if they were real. We take a look at why we do this and how it impacts the results we have in our life. I share three simple but powerful tools that will help you kick your catastrophizing habit to the curb.

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On this episode, we take a look at why restricting yourself from having or doing something that you want – whether it’s food, alcohol, or spending – does not work. Join me as I show you how to change your thinking from restriction mode to the type of thinking that will help you achieve the positive results you desire in all areas of your life.

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I get a lot of emails, Facebook, and Instagram messages from you guys. And although I love to hear from all of you, due to the sheer volume of these messages, I can’t respond to all of them directly. So today, I’m answering some of your questions and exploring the topics that you’d like to get coached on. For this episode, I’ve chosen questions and topics that many of you struggle with and I think all of you will learn from.

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On this episode, we take a look at the reality behind drama and who really causes it in your life. I explain why you should actually consider spending more time with people who you think affect your vibe and show you exactly what you need to do to totally escape drama and toxic people with only a small change.

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A bonus interview with Jami.

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Are you usually emotionally exhausted by the end of the day? Do you obsess over whether other people are upset with you (even if there’s no actual evidence to support it)? If you can relate to any of the above, it’s a sign that you don’t have appropriate boundaries and you don’t have emotional resilience. Discover whether you’re emotionally reactive to what’s going on around you and how it may be affecting your day-to-day.

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I believe that most people misunderstand what potential is and what it actually means. This is a deep topic that has a lot of ramifications for how we think about the past and the future and what we can achieve in our lives. Listen in as we take a look at the difference between being past-focused and future-focused and how each approach affects the results you see in your life.

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You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you want to believe them. I then show you how you can come up with your own new helpful thoughts that are in line with your goals.

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Listen in as we take a look at three thought errors that are running in the back of your mind, holding you back from working on your emotional health and making progress. Join me as I show you how you can make a few simple mindset shifts that will deeply enrich not only your life but the lives of those around you.

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A couple of weeks ago, we talked about perfectionism and how so many of us love to make unrealistic plans and never keep them or see them through to the end. This week, I want to take a deeper dive into the topic of perfectionism – the insidious trait that many smart people suffer from – and look at two powerful tools for managing it.

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On this episode, I want to talk about why you should consider welcoming negative emotions that come up in your life and how this practice can help you live a rich and fulfilled life. Join me to discover how to develop a better relationship with yourself and enjoy a well-balanced human experience.

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So many of us go through life without really making decisions for ourselves or understanding the decisions we made. Then one day, we wake up and find ourselves surprised at how we got to where we are, not sure if we even wanted it for ourselves. So how do you break that cycle of living by someone else’s rulebook and getting the results you don’t want in your life?

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I often see many of my clients trying to use a gratitude practice against themselves in a way that can be quite harmful to their mental health. In this episode, I want to talk to you about how to tell if you’re misusing gratitude or maybe even using it as a weapon against yourself. Join me to discover what you can do to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start thinking about gratitude in a way that serves you.

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This week, I want to teach you one of the best tools that I learned from my coach – the power of asking better questions. Join me as I explain how asking dead-end questions is affecting your brain and show you how to ask questions that stimulate your brain to find answers that will move you toward goals.

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On this episode, I talk about how your reaction to other people’s gender-based discrimination may be impacting your emotional state and creating unnecessary suffering and drama in your mind. I explain how judging, resisting or resenting others for their thoughts actually keeps you stuck in the constant loop of judging yourself.

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On this episode, I explain why, no matter what ideologies you internalized over the years, you DO NOT have to earn pleasure and you’re 100% entitled to it. We also take a look at the important distinction between real and false pleasure and why neither should be a solution to any of your emotional problems.

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This week, I decided to give you a behind-the-scenes look at my annual review and share the important lessons that I learned along the way. Join me to hear 5 most important things that I've learned from going through the process of growing my business 5x times and find out how you can apply these lessons in your own life and business/career.

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On this episode, I want to explore why, contrary to the popular belief, being a leader is not about an attachment to a certain outcome and dependent on controlling others. Join me as I share what you need to do to become a great leader who is able to inspire and advocate for her ideas effectively.

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A bonus interview with Shira.

If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/program to learn more about what UnF*ck Your Brain Program can do for your life.

In this episode, we explore what it really means to be busy and why we choose to inflict busyness on ourselves. We take a look at the two forms of the “I’m so busy” that we use in our daily lives and why both of them are highly unhelpful. Tune in to find out how you can stop using “busy” as a way to stress yourself out and find out how to never feel too busy to make real progress on your important projects and initiatives.

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A bonus interview with Nancy.

If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/program to learn more about what UnF*ck Your Brain Program can do for your life.

Today, I want to give you a sense of what the deeper, second level teachings that we do in the UnF*ckYour Brain program look like and teach you an advanced level topic - taking responsibility for other people’s feelings (Emotional Adulthood 2.0). We take a look at how your prior programming is causing you to feel responsible for how other people feel and act, and why it is actually not a loving thing to do.

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Today, I'm going doing something a little bit different. As our flock grows, I know that some of you may not know much about me or my story - where I came from. So today I'm going to share with you a little bit about me. I'm sharing this with you so that you can see that where you are now, the heaviness you feel, the pressure, does not have to be your future reality.

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On this episode, we take another look at the real reason why, when presented with two or more choices, we often get paralyzed, unable to make a decision. From the questions you need to ask yourself to help you make a decision, to how to deal with the doubt, fear and regret, you’ll learn how to be a more decisive person, able to love the result of whatever decision you make.

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On this episode, we dive into the reasons why confusion is an indulgent emotion and why you actually like to stay confused. We also explore exactly where confusion comes from and why there’s no such thing as a right or wrong decision. I'm sharing a step-by-step process you can start using today to begin relieving confusion about anything in your life to make uncertainty, indecision, and fear a thing of the past.

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We are taught as children, that our parents are supposed to meet our needs – emotional and material. When we grow up, we are “supposed to” substitute other people, like friends and romantic partners, for our parents, who should also meet our needs.

On this episode the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, I explain why this type of reasoning is insane and teach you one of my favorite tools for revolutionizing your love life.

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On this episode, I want to talk to you about what actually creates lasting transformation. It’s an integral step in the process of unf*cking your brain that many of you miss simply because you’ve never been taught how to do it. Are you ready to see what you’re really capable of accomplishing?

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This week on the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, we’re doing something bit different. On this episode, I want to teach you through a 2-way conversation – a 20-minute coaching call with your fellow listener, totally live an unscripted – on the topic of dealing with a difficult person in her work life.

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