Hooked On Life

TW: Suicide & Sexual Assault

This episode will talk about how hope can saves lives and how it saved mine. I created this podcast with the intention of sharing my stories and experiences with people that need it. I am in a position now where I can talk about this objectively, as I am no longer impacted by these things. Never lose hope that things will get better and that your life will become joyful again. Your life can and will improve, and suicidality does not have to be the end of your life.

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Hey! Welcome to the beginners guide to open relating. Topics covered in today's discussion include 1) Self reflection on our own views and perspective on relationships (1:00) 2) What are different open relating dynamics and how are they different to monogamy (2:00) 3) Why do people choose to be in open relationship dynamics? (09:38) 4) The benefits of open relationship dynamics (12:15) 5) The experience of jealousy and/or compersion in these dynamics (16:00) 6) How to find these alternative dynamics or experiences as a individual or couple (18:35) 7) Conversation starters, must haves and personal mistakes of the past (22:15) 8) Resources (28:44)

This episode talks about my experience at my second ever Hedonism sex party in Perth. I talk about how it's set up and the fun I had, including my first ever fmf threesome with a couple!

This episode discusses the concept of not being "queer enough" and the difficulty, fluidity and diversity of sexuality. It will draw on my learnings from my Sexology studies, life experiences and deep introspection. It will talk about the 5 types of attraction, useful models of sexuality, sexual diversity, the use of labels and my personal forever changing and developing experience of being queer. Have a gay day you absolute beauty

Today I discuss my experience of 6 months love & sexuality coaching with Michelle Kasey. I talk about why I needed this, what I wanted to achieve, and what massive breakthroughs I had in this space.

Hey sexy humans. Just an informal chat about my personal experience of my first sex/swingers party. I talk about how it works, what goes down, exhibitionism, voyeurism, ethical non monogamy, polyamory and honoring your no's and boundaries in this environment. Hope you enjoy xx

Today we have a special guest on the podcast to talk all about how to not give a fuck. Kiah Mummery, 'Keeks' and I, talk about how to not give a fuck about what other people think, especially when it comes to exploring and expressing your sexuality. Tune into our conversation all about her OnlyFans, our sex stories, experience of STIs, the social stigma sluts experience, and how to live a life that you'll look back when you're 80 in the nursing home feeling satisfied that you didn't hold back. You can find Keeks on social media, balancebykeeks on instagram, balancedbaddie on Tiktok & Keeksuncensored on OnlyFans. If you like this episode please leave us a rating ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

This episode tells you everything you want and need to know about travel nursing in Australia! The how, what and why? How to overcome your fears, my favourite experiences so far and my exciting year ahead as a travel nurse!

This episode is on how to be alone and love your own company. The relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life! Loneliness, escape, self esteem and anxiety are all parts of the battle to enjoy our own company and they are analysed in this episode. 6 epic tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself and how to enjoy your own company will be shared! Find me on Instagram - @Hookedonlifepodcast & @VanessaHook_

This episode was inspired by Xana's divorce party. Xana is a friend over at keep your gin up podcast whose divorce has finally gone through and is celebrating this! I talk about relationships that are on thin ice and how to navigate your thoughts and options for saving the relationship. I provide thought provoking questions and processes for making your decision on whether to end it. I also discuss the sunk cost fallacy and loss aversion bias which impact individuals ability to leave relationships even when they're incredibly unhappy.

This episode discusses the concept of the 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman: Physical touch, Quality time, Words of affirmation, Gift giving and Acts of service. It consists of a explanation of each language and what behavior within a relationship that individual would find loving vs upsetting. It refers to a quiz you can do online to find out your primary love language as well as the book you can read to find out more. It also describes a scenario of two individuals that have different love languages and only express their own and are unhappy as a result. The message here is that it is important to know your own and eachothers love language so that you can love eachother better and have more fulfilment.

This episode seeks to educate people on narcissism and it's current effect on society. It discusses as follows. 1) what is a narcissist and narcissistic traits to look for in individual. 2) The 8 strategies narcissistic people use in their close relationships to maintain control and power. 3) What is a trauma bond and how does it contribute to difficulty leaving toxic situations 4) The power and control wheel and it's use within domestic violence cases. 5) Introspective questions to ask yourself if this resonates for you and your close relationships 6) recommendations for YouTube channels and books on these topics

This episode discusses a consent and pleasure based sex education for men. It talks about things men should have been taught and modelled growing up, as well as things women wish you knew about the way their body works. It discusses key issues and topics such as consent, sexual assault, rape culture, foreplay, female anatomy, the orgasm gap, erogenous zones, respecting boundaries, top tips for butt play, how to locate and stimulate the male gspot, the use and alliance with sex toys in the bedroom and what a real stud is vs just an asshole.

This episode dives into a sex education for women that actually encourages and teaches safe and pleasurable sex for women as opposed to restrictive, male orientated models of sexual experiences. It discusses self pleasure, loving your vulva, the orgasm gap, 4 types of orgasms, consent and sexual assault, why you shouldn't fake an orgasm, how communication makes a difference and the importance of strong boundaries and respect. Personal reference made throughout to deepen significance and discussion of topics.

This episode takes a deep dive into anxiety: what is its purpose? What does being anxious feel like? what are some of the different anxiety disorders? (GAD, panic, OCD and phobias). What are the predisposing factors to having anxiety? What are some excellent coping mechanisms for anxiety and how to prevent/lower your experience of anxiety. And last but not least, two amazing books that could change the way you see your anxiety. Dare by Barry McDonagh and The power of now by Eckhart Tolle.

This episode discusses 5 doable ways or steps to get yourself out of a low state of mind whether that's due to mental health, situational or reasons not understood. Through allowing, acknowledging and validating our emotions we can hold the space for ourselves to move through bad times to find the good days yet again.

Today we talk about the 4 attachment styles: stable, avoidant, anxious and fearful avoidant. How and when attachment styles form, what each of them look like in an adult and how to choose the best partner based on your attachment styles and needs.

This episode breaks down some of the common and experienced pros and cons of solo travel. The cons are discussed with ways to better manage or resolve these concerns. With the intention of you leaving with the realisation that you shouldn't let the lack of company prevent you from getting out there and living the full life you crave.

This episode goes into depth about why it actually hurts ourselves more to hold onto the past than it does to let go. We talk about self induced suffering as a result and pose reflective questions to get you pondering where and who do you need to let go of?

This episode we talk about why breakups are actually a celebration for all parties. I share how you can shift your view of a great loss to a great gain, my top 5 tips for getting over your ex and even recommend a book for you to read! For the broken hearted, recently departed and the newly single and struggling ❤️