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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

https://www.husbandmaterial.com/
What Is God Doing In My Trauma? (with Matt Wenger)

We need a theology of trauma. In this episode, Matt Wenger powerfully invites us to view our trauma through the lens of Jesus's life, death, and resurrection. This episode is a preview of our new online course at healyourtrauma.com

Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for Christian men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. Boulder Recovery uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy.

EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT: Today, Matt Wenger and Drew Boa are releasing a new free online course called "10 Ways To Heal Your Trauma: Resolving The Roots Of Porn And Sex Addiction." Get free access at healyourtrauma.com

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Mon, 18 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0700
How To Create Connection In Any Conversation (LIVE)

Do you long for connection, but it feels impossible? In this episode, you'll learn extremely simple tools and techniques to create connection in any conversation—using your eyes, face, voice, and words.

Helpful phrases:

  • Tell me more…
  • What’s it like for you...
  • How does that affect you?
  • That makes sense (because)...
  • It sounds like / I hear you saying…
  • It seems like something shifted…
  • That stood out to me…

Resources mentioned (including paid links):

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Mon, 11 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0700
Why Men Don't Talk About Their Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

There are over 40 reasons why men don't talk about their sexual abuse. Let's break the silence. In this episode hosted by Mike Chapman and Doug Carpenter, survivors of sexual abuse share vulnerable stories of harm and healing.

Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of the HM fellowship for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting.com/contact

Check out Mike's new podcast: Healing For Male Survivors


Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Husband Material Coach, and the author of Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com

Husband Material episodes about sexual abuse:


Resources mentioned (including paid links):

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Mon, 04 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0800
How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudill walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful.

Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disclosure training and certification course, and they provide the highest level of support for professionals using their Restoring Truth Model. Learn more at kintsugirecoverypartners.com

Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father.

Dr. Janice Caudill is an APSATS supervisor, CSAT supervisor, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist supervisor, Certified Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist, Certified Intimacy Anorexia Therapist, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is the Founder of Intensive Recovery Healing and Intensive Recovery Coaching. Learn more at intensivehope.com

Buy Dan and Janice's books! (these are paid links)

For you (the blue books):

For your partner (the green books):

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Mon, 26 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0800
Healthy Fantasy vs. Unhealthy Fantasy

Your imagination is not bad. Learn the 4 main types of fantasies, how to evaluate the healthiness of a fantasy, and what to do with your healthy/unhealthy fantasies!

Related episodes:

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Mon, 19 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0800
A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

What is grace, and how does it apply to sexual recovery? Jonathan Daugherty inspiringly explains how grace is not "soft" but the most powerful force for transformation and freedom from porn. Pride, shame, and comparison all melt away under the core truth that you are worth the life of God's son, and that can never change.

Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken, and founder of the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men. He also hosts the weekly radio program, Pure Sex Radio. Jonathan lives with his wife and family in San Antonio, Texas.​

Buy Jonathan's books (these are paid links):

Meet Jonathan, Drew, and other sexual integrity leaders at the 2024 Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit in Colorado Springs, CO!

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Mon, 12 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0800
Singleness & Same-Sex Attraction (with Dr. Greg Coles)

If you're single and you experience same-sex attraction, this episode is for you. Dr. Greg Coles offers insight, humor, delight, and hope that defies typical Christian categories of what a "good and beautiful life" can look like.

Greg Coles is an author, speaker, and scholar at the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. Check out Greg's books (these are paid links):

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Mon, 05 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0800
Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic examples of what these two approaches look like, sound like, and feel like when you are...

  • Reaching out to a friend after watching porn (failure vs. feedback)
  • Sharing vulnerable parts of your story (harsh and critical vs. gentle and kind)
  • Checking in with your small group (lots of accountability vs. lots of attunement)
  • Feeling the urge to watch porn (battle our sexuality vs. befriend our sexuality)
  • Being sexually attracted to someone (fear and shame vs. curiosity and compassion)
  • Celebrating 6 months without porn (behavior modification vs. becoming mature)


    • Drew Boa, Doug Carpenter, Henry Brown, and Jordan Castille are all members of the Husband Material Leadership Team.

    Related episodes:

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    Mon, 29 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0800
    Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)

    How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerful approach to outgrowing porn. Learn why we need to work with parts pre-emptively, how to "break the spell" when you're in a trance state, and practical ways Jesus can meet our attachment needs.

    Dr. Gerry Crete is a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of trauma, addictions, and anxiety disorders. He is a former president of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association, founder of Transfiguration Counseling, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Dr. Gerry has long been passionate about integrating principles of the Christian faith with effective mental health treatment.

    Buy Gerry's new book (this is a paid link):

    Litanies of the Heart: Relieving Post-Traumatic Stress and Calming Anxiety Through Healing Our Parts

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    Mon, 22 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0800
    What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

    How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she needs after a trigger tornado has passed. Discover how her triggers can become opportunities for healing!

    Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is the founder of Betrayal Healing and host of the Betrayal Healing Conference. She is passionate about helping women find their strength and pick up the pieces of their broken hearts after sexual betrayal, so they are able to see beauty, joy, and adventure again.

    Join me at Tammy's Betrayal Healing Conference from January 22-26, 2024!

    NOTE: This description contains an affiliate link.

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    Mon, 15 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0800
    Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)

    What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a story of difficulty, chalk artisan Philip Leach creates a visual representation while coach John Kilmer offers attunement. Then we invite Jesus into the story and watch the chalk art change. The result is jaw-droppingly beautiful and incredibly meaningful.

    Watch the video of this episode here:

    Philip Leach is a worshipper and friend of Jesus who enjoys expressing creativity and building joyful connection through snow sculpting, Immanuel Doodling, deliberate appreciation, and facilitating times of quiet listening and art. His journey has included lots of hand-painted pottery as well as two decades of presenting “chalk talks”. His primary passion is joining other men in breaking free from anything that’s keeping us from enjoying life, and then practicing skills to move forward powered by Joy.

    John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus Christ who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com.

    This type of experience is now being offered every week inside Husband Material Academy (HMA). The doors to HMA are currently open! Join now before the doors close on January 14 at joinHMA.com

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    Mon, 08 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0800
    12 Reasons To Stop Shaming Yourself

    Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, what's more powerful than shame, and what you can do instead of shaming yourself.

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    Mon, 01 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Help Your Partner Heal (with Carol Sheets)

    How can I help my partner heal from the impact of my porn and sex addiction? Psychotherapist and author Carol Sheets reveals what sexually betrayed partners need most, and how you can "help her heal" when you create safety, practice empathy, offer validation, and take ownership without going into shame. This episode is super practical and full of great ideas!

    Carol Juergensen Sheets (LCSW, CSAT) also known as "Carol The Coach" is the author of many books and workbooks about sex addiction and partner betrayal. She is also the creator of ERCEM: Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model.

    Carol is also a guest speaker at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 5-6, 2024! Join us at thepornfreeman.com

    Books and workbooks featuring Carol Sheets (these are paid links):


    Learn more about Carol at sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com

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    Mon, 25 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Blessing vs. Cursing Yourself & The Story Behind Your Porn (with Chris Bruno)

    How do you shift from self-condemnation to self-compassion? Chris Bruno reveals how to discover the story behind your struggle with porn. You'll learn what it looks like to rediscover your true "masterpiece-ness" even in the throes of a porn relapse. Our deepest healing lies in turning to the God who knows and created us in His image.

    Chris Bruno leads Restoration Project and ReStory Counseling, where he helps people come alive. He is a licensed professional counselor who has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts.

    Chris is also a guest speaker at The Porn Free Man 2024 Online Conference on January 5-6, 2024! Learn more at thepornfreeman.com

    Check out Chris' online courses at ReStory Labs

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    Mon, 18 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    What can sexual fantasies teach us? How should we analyze them? In this episode, Drew and Doug vulnerably share and analyze each other's sexual fantasies so you can understand what this work practically looks like and how to do it well.

    The best place to start is Husband Material Academy, which opens up on January 1.

    Learn more at joinHMA.com

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    Mon, 11 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Introduction To Sexual Symbolism

    What desires are commonly symbolized by the penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet? Find out in this short and sweet introduction!

    Related episodes:

    Here is the video I mentioned: Trauma and Sexual Fetish | Where Do Fetishes Come From?

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    Mon, 04 Dec 2023 07:00:00 -0800
    Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach (with Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson)

    What is the Immanuel Approach? How can it help Christian men outgrow porn? Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson unpack this amazing way to change your brain and heal your heart through connecting with Jesus experientially. You'll also hear a refreshing reminder of how Jesus relates to you with unconditional love, even in your deepest shame.

    Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson are the founders of Face To Face Ministries. They are passionate heart healers who have dedicated their lives to activating and equipping men and women with tools backed by brain science to accelerate personal breakthroughs through connecting with Jesus using the Immanuel Approach.

    Check out Cathy and Melinda's podcast here.

    Immanuel Sessions are designed to help you connect with Jesus, receive healing from emotional wounds and trauma, and uncover lies that keep you from living out the truth of who you are in Christ. There is no agenda other than to help you connect with Jesus and allow Him to lead you into greater healing, freedom, and wholeness.

    Schedule an an Immanuel Session with Face To Face Ministries here.

    Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 27 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Can Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)

    What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sexual recovery with medication such as naltrexone. You'll get wisdom about what to expect and how to decide what's right for you. Adam also addresses common objections and concerns about receiving psychiatric assistance with compassion and clarity from a Christ-centered perspective.

    Here are the case reports Adam mentioned about naltrexone:

    Interested in learning more? Bring your questions to our Live Q&A with Adam O'Neill on Tuesday, November 28th @ 7 PM Eastern Time inside the Husband Material Community.

    Adam O'Neill is a Certified Physician Assistant who practices Christian Psychiatry in Virginia, where he is licensed to prescribe medications. Adam graduated from Thomas Jefferson University with a Masters of Physician Assistant Studies in 2019. Prior to that, he attended Wheaton College in Illinois, where he earned his Bachelors in Psychology. Learn more about Adam O'Neill & Associates at aoavirginia.com

    Buy Adam's book (this is a paid link):
    The Mind After Eden: Psychiatry in a Post-Fall World

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    Mon, 20 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0800
    What Is A Pornographic Approach To Recovery?

    How has porn impacted your approach to recovery? Learn 7 pornographic styles of recovery and what healthy recovery looks like instead.

    Pornographic recovery is:

    • isolated
    • escapist
    • avoiding pain
    • impatient
    • passive/consuming
    • cold and harsh.

    Healthy recovery is:

    • relational
    • embodied
    • embracing pain
    • resilient
    • proactive/creative
    • warm and kind

    The idea of "a pornographic style of recovery" is based on Andrew Bauman's concept of "a pornographic style of relating" (PSR) as described here:

    Other Husband Material episodes mentioned:

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    Mon, 13 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Helping Men Feel Safe To Open Up And Heal From Trauma (with Dr. James Reeves)

    What helps men feel safe to open up and heal from trauma? Dr. James Reeves (the pirate pastor) tells the story of facing his childhood wounds, building a hospital church, and creating the Fearless Series—which is fantastic!

    The Fearless Series for Men is designed for Christian men to get the conversation started about childhood sexual, physical, or emotional trauma and how it has affected their lives.

    Check it out:

    Dr. James Reeves has been a pastor for more than 40 years. He nearly resigned, but chose to confront his past, and then used his newfound freedom in Christ to build a "hospital church" based on addressing emotional wounds. James is a regular speaker at conferences across America about how the local church can minister effectively to survivors of sexual trauma.

    Interested? Email James at Jamesreeves68@gmail.com.

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    Mon, 06 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How Porn Recovery Can Transform Your Church (with Sam Black)

    What if your church was a safe space to outgrow porn? Sam Black explains how porn recovery ministry leads to less work for pastors, more generous donors, more passionate volunteers, and a legacy of health for the next generation.

    Sam Black is the Director of Recovery Education at CovenantEyes. He has edited 16 books on the impact of pornography and authored two: The Porn Circuit and The Healing Church.

    Buy Sam's new book (this is a paid link):

    The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography And How To Fix It.

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    Mon, 30 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Escape Creepy Conversations Before Sexting

    Have you ever felt uncomfortable or unsafe while chatting online? In this episode, I’ll share practical tips on how to escape creepy conversations… and 5 reasons why we sometimes don’t. At the end, you’ll hear real-life examples of how I have responded to unwanted sexual communication.

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    Mon, 23 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing From Rejection, Racism, And Betrayal (with Roy Kim)

    Have you ever been rejected? Roy Kim explains how rejection and internalized racism drove him to pornography. He also opens up about what it's like to struggle with with porn as a pastor—and as a male betrayed partner. Roy offers real hope through the power of compassion and community.

    Roy Kim, M.Div, CSAT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Southern California focusing on sexual addictions and betrayal trauma. He is a former pastor and enjoys partnering with pastors to educate churches about sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Roy facilitates groups for sexual addiction, and betrayed partners, and facilitates specialized groups for pastors with sexual addiction. He also hosts the SA Speakeasy Podcast, which centers around sexual addiction conversations.

    Connect with Roy here...

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    Mon, 16 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn And Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (with Andrew Loyd)

    Do you know what it's like to struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in addition to porn? Andrew Loyd does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Andrew unpacks how OCD and unwanted sexual behavior can be related. With curiosity and compassion, he also highlights the path to healing. This episode is important!

    Andrew Loyd is the founder of Restored Story Coaching. He is an ordained minister, Certified Enneagram Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He is passionate about helping people find greater hope and healing through the power of kindness. He works with men and ministry leaders to identify and rewrite the shame scripts running their lives so they can live with greater freedom and purpose. Andrew lives with his family in Eugene, Oregon. In his spare time, Andrew loves playing guitar, songwriting, competitive axe throwing, and pairing a good cup of coffee with an excellent book.

    Book a free 30-minute session with Andrew: calendly.com/restoredstory/30min

    Learn more about Andrew at restoredstorycoaching.com

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    Mon, 09 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    David’s Sexual Story (Sermon)

    Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a taste of church with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assurance of pardon, and Christ-centered preaching by Drew Boa.

    This sermon was delivered on September 10, 2023 at the Husband Material Retreat.

    "God loves all parts of you and me. He did not come to destroy our parts. He came to redeem our parts."

    NOTE: Watch the video of this episode here.

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    Mon, 02 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Reintegrative Therapy (with Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr.)

    What is reintegrative therapy? Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. explains his approach to treating trauma and how it can help men outgrow porn. Joseph also shares insights about sexual attraction, sexual development, euphoric recall, and the importance of being able to choose your own values and goals.

    Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, researcher, and clinical director at The Breakthrough Clinic in Southern California. He received his Ph.D. in 2009 from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

    Joseph is the president of the Reintegrative Therapy Association, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization in which trauma treatment is the goal, and sexual attraction change is often the byproduct. He is the author of multiple peer-reviewed, published articles on Reintegrative Therapy.

    To participate in Joseph's new research study on memory recall and sexual arousal, email losangelesresearchcenter@gmail.com. Find out more information here.

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    Mon, 25 Sep 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    What To Do When You Feel The Urge To Watch Porn (with Dan Johnson)

    How do you handle the intense urge to watch porn? This was Dan Johnson's dilemma. Dan struggled with porn for over 20 years. After re-confessing to his wife, putting filters on all his devices, joining a community of other men, and seeing a certified sex addiction therapist, he was still not experiencing the freedom he was longing for. In this episode, Dan shares the specific strategy he used to finally outgrow porn.

    Dan Johnson is a husband, a father, and the creator of The P.A.T.H. Plan and The New Paths Podcast. Dan is passionate about giving guys a practical, effective plan for the frontline of the porn struggle: how to handle and process the intense urge to watch porn.

    Download the free PDF: newpaths.me/plan

    Listen to the podcast: newpaths.me/podcast1

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    Mon, 18 Sep 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Heal Shame And Self-Contempt

    Have you ever struggled with shame or self-contempt? In this episode, you'll learn the simple formula for healing shame through vulnerability and connection. You'll also hear a vulnerable, shame-filled part of my story I've never shared publicly.

    What if shame is actually not a curse, but a clue to our hearts and what we really need?

    Shame is a normal human emotion that shows us how much we care.

    Instead of using shame as a weapon, let’s use it as a window into where we need to heal.

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    Mon, 11 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0700
    Appropriate Touch Between Men (LIVE)

    Touch is one of our most basic human needs. But many of us have been deprived. How can men outgrowing porn embrace healthy physical touch with each other—and prevent harm? Find out in this panel discussion with Certified Husband Material Coaches Drew Boa, Stephen Thomas, John Kilmer, and Mike Chapman.

    You'll learn:

    • the importance of safe touch for emotional and sexual development
    • cultural differences in physical touch between men around the world
    • rules about touch for members of the Husband Material Community
    • how to keep yourself and others safe from unwanted touch
    • why you need to listen to your body and trust your gut
    • what to do if you get a connection erection (aka "broner")
    • how to fill your "touch bucket" in a safe, healthy way

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    Mon, 04 Sep 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing Your Marriage After Gay Porn (with Tamara Lichfield)

    This episode answers unique questions for married men who have sexually acted out with gay porn or other men. You'll learn what partners go through upon discovery of gay porn, why transparency matters, and how we can pursue connection with other men while continuing to rebuild trust with our wives.

    Tamara Lichfield provides support for women who have experienced betrayal trauma at Becoming Shatterproof LLC. Tamara has been trained by APSATS (Association of Partners Of Sex Addiction Treatment Specialists). She is a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach, a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, and a Certified Resilience Professional.

    You can reach Tamara at becomingshatterproof@gmail.com

    On Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof

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    Mon, 28 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    The Inner Child Challenge Workshop (LIVE)

    In this workshop led by Drew Boa, you'll learn how to connect with your inner child like never before.

    To complete the exercises, you will need:

    • A piece of paper (digital documents will NOT work for this)
    • 3 different crayons or colored pencils (if not, just use a pen)
    • A posture of curiosity and willingness to try something new

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    Mon, 21 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Why You Need A Recovery Action Plan (with Nick Stumbo & Trevor Winsor)

    How do you take action after relapse for growth and healing without using shame or punishment? After a porn relapse, what do appropriate consequences look like?

    Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor are members of the Executive Team at Pure Desire Ministries. Together, they host the popular Pure Desire Podcast.

    Free tools mentioned in this episode:

    Register for the Pure Desire Summit at puredesire.org/summit!

    Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director for Pure Desire. He has been in ministry leadership for over two decades. He was in pastoral ministry at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington for 14 years. Nick has a Bachelor's in Pastoral Studies from Crown College, an MDiv from Bethel Seminary, and is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). He has authored two books, Setting Us Free and Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame.

    Trevor Winsor is the Marketing Director for Pure Desire. He has been in ministry leadership for 10 years. Trevor is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). He has a Bachelor’s in Psychology from Corban University, a Master’s in Ministry & Leadership from Western Seminary, and is a licensed pastor. Trevor is passionate about integrating trauma and addiction healing with spiritual disciplines to produce holistic healing.

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    Mon, 14 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    From Rock Bottom To Recovery Coach (with George Morning)

    In this episode, you'll hear the inspiring story of George Morning ("Coach G"). We talk about the challenges faced by black men and men of color in outgrowing porn—and how societal pressures, misconceptions, and the normalization of addiction intensify these challenges. Coach G highlights the importance of finding relatable support and the power of positive internal dialogue.

    George Morning (Coach G) is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach. After 30+ years as an addict and losing family, finances, and faith, Coach G sought recovery in 2013 with The Mindful Habit. Since then, Coach G has helped thousands of men and women overcome their addictions, create healthier relationships, and live passionate lives.

    Check out Coach G's book: HabitLand (this is a paid link)

    Email: habitlandcoach@gmail.com

    Website: beyondhabitland.com

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    Mon, 07 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time

    In this episode, I'll share 7 things that shifted my sexual fetish to become less intense, less frequent, less disruptive, and less arousing. NOTE: I believe trying to alter sexual attraction is both unethical and unhelpful. My fetish has not been removed or replaced, and that is not my goal. Rather, my fetish lost its power through a series of shifts that took place as I pursued healing and freedom from porn.

    Here are the 7 things that helped me:

  • Talking about the fetish
  • Understanding the fetish
  • Appreciating the fetish
  • Acknowledging the fetish
  • Completing the action
  • Receiving the real thing
  • Stopping the behavior

    • Related episodes:

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    Mon, 31 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    A Story Of Healing Through Psychodrama (with Rick Carlson and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    What does psychodrama actually look like? In this episode, Rick Carlson tells the amazing story of his psychodrama process at the Husband Material Leaders Retreat.

    Register now for the upcoming Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreat

    The early bird discount ends on August 1st.

    Rick Carlson is a Recovery Pastor, Life Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at comebackcoaching.org

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is an author, clinical psychologist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com

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    Mon, 24 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Experience Healing Through Psychodrama (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    What is psychodrama? How can it help men outgrow porn? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why this powerful type of therapy creates profound healing experiences and accelerates freedom from porn.

    Picture this: you're on stage. You're the protagonist in your own drama, undoing and redoing the story of your life. But you're not alone. Your director is attuning to you. Your auxiliaries (other actors) are supporting you by playing the roles you need them to play. Your audience members are witnessing your process as they share in your healing. You find yourself saying things you've never said, feeling things you've never felt, and doing things you've never done. That's what psychodrama allows you to do.

    Dr. Doug introduces the basics of psychodrama as well as techniques like doubling, spiraling, role reversal, and using props. We talk about the need for creativity and spontaneity while staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit and the needs of each group member. We also marvel at the beauty of inviting Jesus into this process. At the end, you'll learn how we are incorporating psychodrama into Husband Material (both online and in-person) to help men heal and outgrow porn.

    For online psychodrama:
    Apply to join a Level 2 Husband Material Group (space is very limited)

    For in-person psychodrama:
    Register for the Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara! (September 8-12)

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is an author, clinical psychologist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com

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    Mon, 17 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    I'm Fine Syndrome (with Stephen Thomas)

    Have you ever pretended to be fine when you're really not? In this episode, Stephen Thomas explains "I'm Fine Syndrome"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and how to crush it. You'll learn the importance of honoring your wants and needs...and the power of being authentic. Admitting you're not fine is an act of bravery and the first step towards true freedom.

    Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has enjoyed freedom from porn and hookup culture for over 14 years. He is a Certified Husband Material Coach who provides coaching for individuals, couples, and groups. Stephen is passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them.

    Learn more at stephenthomasconsulting.com

    Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/group

    Facebook: facebook.com/stephenthomasconsulting

    Email Stephen at stephen@stephenthomasconsulting.com

    Text Stephen at 864-881-1749

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    Mon, 10 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Secrets Of Sex And Marriage (with Dr. Michael Sytsma)

    "He said at 74, I am having the best sex of my life. At 74, my penis only occasionally shows up for the party. But I am still having the best sex of my life. I wish I had known in my thirties how to have this kind of sex."

    What is sex ultimately about? How can married couples enjoy sex more? How do you deal with differences in sexual desire? In this episode, Dr. Michael Sytsma offers a robust theology of sexuality AND clinical wisdom on how to unlock arousal, increase intimacy, and have fun in the bedroom.

    Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. He has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and is the founder of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc.

    Buy Mike's new book: Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that Make all the Difference (this is a paid link).

    Learn more at secretsofsexandmarriage.com

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    Mon, 03 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Making Sense Of Masturbation: Case Studies And Spicy Questions (LIVE)

    Can masturbation ever be neutral or healthy? In this episode, I'll explore complex moral questions about masturbation. Together with a live audience, we'll analyze 10 situations you may have never considered before:

    • A toddler touches his penis to feel pleasure
    • A young boy learns to masturbate from his uncle
    • A teenager masturbates to regulate his emotions
    • A teenager masturbates while imagining a cheeseburger
    • A single man committed to celibacy discovers "core-gasm"
    • A single man who has never masturbated escapes purity culture
    • A man masturbates without lust to try to wean himself off of porn
    • A married man masturbates without his wife's knowledge or consent
    • A man getting a vasectomy masturbates to obey his doctor's orders
    • An elderly man massages his penis to warm up for sex with his wife
    • A married man masturbates to connect with his disabled wife

    You'll also hear insights about how to talk with children about masturbation, how to stop masturbating, and more.

    Regardless of your particular view, this thought-provoking conversation will leave you with more curiosity, more compassion, less confusion, and less shame. Listen! You won't regret it.

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    Mon, 26 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Making Sense Of Masturbation: Science, Scripture, And My Story (LIVE)

    What is masturbation? How does it affect the brain? What does the Bible (not) say about it? What will happen to me if I don't masturbate? In this episode, I'll share insights from neuroscience, the New Testament, and my own story of masturbation.

    I've been researching this topic for the past 13 years...so I have a lot to share! You'll learn why myelination matters (even in masturbation without fantasy). You'll hear how masturbation combined with pornography has increased widespread erectile dysfunction (including in my life). You'll find out what happens if you don't masturbate (hint: you'll be okay). You'll also learn the difference between lustful intent and simply noticing an attractive person (what purity culture didn't teach you). Most importantly, you'll ask better questions and develop a more mature perspective on masturbation!

    Come back next week for part 2 of this teaching.

    Resources referenced:

    Bible verses referenced:

    • Matthew 5:27-28
    • 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6a
    • 1 Corinthians 6:12-20

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    Mon, 19 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn And Third Culture Kids (with John Kilmer)

    Growing up between worlds, third culture kids face unique challenges in developing their identity and sense of belonging. Can these experiences create a higher risk of struggling with pornography? John Kilmer reveals the impact of moving during crucial developmental stages, and how unprocessed grief and loss can lead to unwanted sexual behavior. Through John's story, we discover the burden AND the beauty of being a third culture man.

    John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus Christ who is passionate about men's inner healing work. As a child, John traveled the world as the son of missionaries. These early experiences deeply shaped his worldview, fostering curiosity and adventure. John lives with his wife and children at Deerhaven Farm and Retreat in the rural hills of northeastern Washington. He enjoys canoeing, photography, hiking, and leading men's healing groups, both at his property and online.

    Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com.

    Book a discovery call with John here.

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    Mon, 12 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn, Autism, and ADHD: Embracing Neurodiversity (with Candice Christiansen)

    How do neurodifferences like ADHD and autism relate to unwanted sexual behavior? How can embracing neurodiversity help us heal and outgrow porn? Candice Christiansen offers powerful perspectives and practical advice. This interview is delightful!

    For neurodivergent individuals (and same or mixed neurotype couples) who are struggling, Candice is here to help you gain clarity to make your relationship, intimacy, and sex as enjoyable, wonderful, and pleasurable as possible!

    Candice Christiansen is Autistic, ADHD, and a NeuroDifferent thought leader in the sexual recovery world. She is an "autism sexpert" who provides therapy and intimacy coaching to neurodivergent adults and mixed neurotype couples. Candice also provides EMDR and IFS therapy to complex trauma survivors with a variety of sex, relationship, and intimacy issues.

    Candice is the founder of Namasté Center For Healing.

    Learn more about Candice at candicechristiansen.com.

    You can also email candice@namasteadvice.com.

    Resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 05 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Confront Parents With Compassion

    Have you ever thought about confronting a parent, but you're not sure how? In this episode, you'll learn the right questions to ask yourself when considering why and how to confront your parent(s) with compassion.

    Three important questions to ask:

  • What happened (to them and to me)?
  • How do I feel about what happened?
  • What do I want going forward?


    • Recommended reading (paid link):

    Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents, by Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

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    Mon, 29 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing With My Parents (with Yvonne Boa and Sandy Boa)

    In this episode, my parents share the good and the bad of how they raised me, and how we are healing. It's a story of vulnerability, repentance, and redemption.

    "All families have difficulties. If you bury them, you grow apart. If you get them on the table and solve them, then you can heal from that." —Sandy Boa

    "Don't be afraid to go to the person and ask for forgiveness, because God's healing you and he's gonna heal the other person too. If you truly trust Him and you go with God, it's an amazing journey. Not easy but amazing." —Yvonne Boa

    Yvonne and Sandy Boa are my parents.

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    Mon, 22 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Adult Children Of Sex Addicts (with Dr. Ken Adams)

    What happens when you grow up in a family affected by sexual addiction? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams reveals the burdens carried by adult children of sex addicts.

    This conversation is especially helpful for those of us who inherited sexual shame from our parents. You'll learn why and how to release shame that has been passed down to you...and how to stop the cycle of generational trauma.

    Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on sexual addiction, shame, and enmeshment. Learn more at drkenadams.com

    Buy the first-ever book for adult children of sex addicts (this is a paid link):

    A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts by Kenneth Adams, Mary Meyer, and Culle Vande Garde

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    Mon, 15 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Three Keys To Becoming Husband Material

    What does it mean to become husband material? In this episode, you'll learn the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-leadership. Stay until the end for special appearances by 12 Husband Material Men!

    New opportunities:

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    Mon, 08 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Introduction To Outgrowing Porn (wth Dr. Robert Masters)

    What does it mean to outgrow porn? Dr. Robert Masters unpacks this concept (which he created) with stunning depth and clarity.

    Robert Augustus Masters is a psychotherapist, group leader, and relationship expert with a doctorate in psychology. His intuitive, uniquely integral work, developed over the past four decades, blends the psychological and physical with the emotional and spiritual.

    Learn more at robertmasters.com.

    Buy Robert's books (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 01 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Emotional Abuse (with Dr. Jake Porter)

    What is emotional abuse? Dr. Jake Porter explains how to identify emotional abuse, heal from it, and stop emotionally abusing others.

    Dr. Jake Porter is a Board Certified Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and the Founder of Daring Ventures. He is also the creator of Couple–Centered Recovery, a model for overcoming attachment wounds in couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal.

    Connect with Jake at drjakeporter.com

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    Mon, 24 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Directing Sexual Energy In Singleness

    What do I do with my sexual energy—especially if I'm single? In this episode, you'll learn the two types of sexual energy, why singleness can feel like a curse, and God’s good design for sexuality in singleness. You'll also hear real life examples of Christian men directing their sexual energy into deeper connection, pleasure, and creativity.

    Resources mentioned in this episode:

    • God & Sex (sermon series from Reality San Fransisco featuring Dave Lomas)
    • Finding Intimacy And Community As A Celibate Gay Christian (podcast and video by Preston Sprinkle featuring Art Pereira)
    • Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance In The Age Of Indulgence (book by Anna Lembke; paid link)
    • The Lord Will Fight For You (song written by Drew Boa, performed by Husband Material Men)

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    Mon, 17 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Use The Body To Outgrow Porn (with Andrew Bauman)

    In this episode, you'll learn why healing must happen in your body. Andrew Bauman reveals why talk therapy is not enough, what "the body keeps the score" actually means, how to use the body to outgrow porn and real-life examples of embodied healing. This interview is awesome!

    Andrew Bauman is the founder & director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC). Andrew is an author and licensed mental health counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology.

    Buy any of Andrew's books (these are paid links):

    Also mentioned in this episode:

    The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, And Body In The Healing Of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk

    Interested in healing? Sign up for the upcoming virtual retreat with Andrew Bauman: Becoming Husband Material (May 5-7)

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    Mon, 10 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Role Playing Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

    In this extended episode, you'll hear 8 dramatized examples of mistakes men make while relating to women they have sexually betrayed and traumatized. You'll learn how to offer validation, own your impact, build your confidence, and be proactive. This session from The Porn Free Man Conference will show you exactly what (not) to do to help her heal.

    Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's also the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP).

    Resources mentioned in this episode (including paid links):

    Sign up now at husbandmaterial.com/becoming-husband-material

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    Mon, 03 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    How Do You Define Pornography?

    In this episode, you'll learn 2 ways to define pornography, 6 pornographic styles of relating, and what it means to be sexually healthy and mature.

    Resources mentioned by Andrew Bauman:

    Sign up for the Husband Material Virtual Retreat on May 5-7 featuring Andrew Bauman!

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    Mon, 27 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing From Spiritual Abuse (with Chris Inman)

    In this episode, you'll learn what spiritual abuse is and how to heal from it. Chris Inman tells his story of being spiritual abused as a boy and how it has affected him into adulthood.

    Chris Inman is the creator and facilitator of Porn Free Masculinity, an online intensive recovery program for men struggling with porn and compulsive sexual behavior. He invites men to consider how the blessings and trauma of their stories have curated their unwanted sexual brokenness. Chris helps men transform their addiction into abundance through story work and facilitating healthy recovery practices in a group dynamic. Professionally, Chris is a Certified Professional Recovery Coach (CPRC), a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP), and an Unwanted Certified Guide. He spent 15 years in vocational ministry as a youth pastor and currently serves as a Local Elder at the People of Mars Hill in Mobile, AL.


    Learn more at pornfreemasculinity.com

    Email Chris at chris@pornfreemasculinity.com

    Resources mentioned (including paid links):

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    Mon, 20 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Bullying And Same-Sex Attraction (with Jordan Castille)

    How can bullying contribute to same-sex attraction? Jordan Castille tells his story of being bullied, how that impacted his sexual development, and how Jesus brought him healing and freedom from gay porn.

    Jordan Castille is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Sex Addiction Specialist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He and his wife Cherise have two boys. Jordan loves Jesus, people, video games, working out, learning how to fix things, legos, and his church community. Jordan also does one-on-one coaching and small group coaching within the Husband Material Community.

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    Mon, 13 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0700
    Unburdening Sexual Arousal (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

    In this episode, Dr. Peter Malinoski guides Drew Boa through the process of unburdening sexual arousal using the internal family systems model (IFS). This type of healing experience can bring tremendous freedom from porn and unwanted sexual behavior.

    Disclaimer: This is what we call a demo, which is short for a demonstration. Demos are a common way for IFS therapists to practice with each other and to show others what IFS is like. Demos are not therapy or counseling. In sharing this demo, we are not trying to teach people how to do IFS on themselves or others, but rather demonstrating what the IFS model can look like in action. Unburdening protocols are taught in formal IFS Level 1 training from the IFS Institute. IFS Level 1 training is required to do unburdening protocols and to be called an IFS therapist.

    Clinical psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski is president of Souls and Hearts and host of Interior Integration for Catholics, a podcast helping Catholics embrace their identities as beloved sons and daughters of God. Peter specifically addresses the topics of freedom from porn and masturbation in episodes 51-56 of his podcast. Contact Peter here.

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    Mon, 06 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Guided IFS Experiential Exercise (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

    In this episode, you'll be guided through an exercise using the internal family systems model (IFS). Dr. Peter Malinoski demonstrates how to connect with your "parts"—including parts that might be attached to porn and unwanted sexual behavior.

    Clinical psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski is president of Souls and Hearts and host of Interior Integration for Catholics, a podcast helping Catholics embrace their identities as beloved sons and daughters of God. Peter specifically addresses the topics of freedom from porn and masturbation in episodes 51-56 of his podcast. Contact Peter here.

    More IFS meditations:

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    Mon, 27 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Experience Healing Through IFS (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

    In this episode, you'll learn why healing experiences are essential for outgrowing porn. Dr. Peter Malinoski explains how the internal family systems model (IFS) can help us heal by meeting the five attachment needs we all have.

    Clinical psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski is president of Souls and Hearts and host of Interior Integration for Catholics, a podcast helping Catholics embrace their identities as beloved sons and daughters of God. Peter specifically addresses the topics of freedom from porn and masturbation in episodes 51-56 of his podcast. Contact Peter here.

    Five Attachment Needs:

  • A felt sense of safety and protection
  • A felt sense of being seen, heard, known, and understood (attunement)
  • A felt sense of being comforted, calmed, and reassured (soothing)
  • A felt sense of being valued, cherished, and treasured (expressed delight)
  • A felt sense of being supported in becoming one’s own unique best self

    • (from Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller - this is a paid link)

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    Mon, 20 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How Much Does She Need To Know About The Porn? (LIVE)

    Have you ever wondered how much your crush, girlfriend, fiancée, or wife needs to know about your relationship with porn? In this episode, you'll learn the appropriate level of detail to share when you're single, dating, engaged, or married. This episode is challenging and necessary.

    ✅ Free document: Resources For Partners Of Husband Material Men

    Download other free documents at husbandmaterial.com/documents

    Further reading on therapeutic full disclosure (including paid links):

    NOTE: "If you are a partner, you have a right to request a formal therapeutic full disclosure. You also have a right not to receive a disclosure if you don’t want one." —Vicki Tidwell Palmer

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    Mon, 13 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How Porn Affects Children (with Benji Nolot)

    If you were exposed to porn at a young age, this episode is for you. Award-winning filmmaker Benji Nolot explains why children are not voluntary consumers of porn, and why self-compassion is essential for healing. You'll get a powerful glimpse into the humanity and vulnerability of men and women on both sides of the screen.

    Benji Nolot is committed to the abolition of modern-day slavery by campaigning to shift cultural mindsets and laws that would abolish commercial sexual exploitation. He founded Exodus Cry in 2008 after being inspired by the life of William Wilberforce. In everything he does, Benji is driven by a conviction that every person should be free.

    How you can be part of the solution:

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    Mon, 06 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking (with Benji Nolot)

    In this episode, you'll learn four ways pornography fuels sex trafficking...and what we can do about it. Award-winning filmmaker Benji Nolot reveals what goes on behind the scenes of pornography.

    Benji Nolot is committed to the abolition of modern-day slavery by campaigning to shift cultural mindsets and laws that would abolish commercial sexual exploitation. He founded Exodus Cry in 2008 after being inspired by the life of William Wilberforce. In everything he does, Benji is driven by a conviction that every person should be free.

    How you can be part of the solution:

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    Mon, 30 Jan 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Sexual Fluidity And Sexual Plasticity

    In this episode, you'll learn two concepts that can give you less shame and more hope on your journey of outgrowing porn.

    Resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 23 Jan 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    What Types Of Change Are Possible? (with Rich Wyler)

    In this episode, Rich Wyler answers tough questions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. You'll learn what it looks like to work through internal conflict around sexual arousal and personal beliefs. You'll also learn why unconditional love and acceptance is our starting point.

    Rich Wyler is the founder of Brothers on a Road Less Traveled (“Brothers Road”), a non-profit, multi-faith, international fellowship of men. Brothers Road is primarily for men from bisexual and same-sex attracted backgrounds who do not identify with the label “gay” and prefer instead to explore and address underlying issues.

    In 2002, Rich created the powerful Journey Into Manhood experiential personal-growth weekend. Rich holds a bachelor’s degree in corporate communications and a certification in life coaching from Coach Training Alliance.

    Connect with Rich:

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    Mon, 16 Jan 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Habits That Heal (with Shawn Bonneteau)

    What habits are most helpful for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau presents a beautiful menu of ideas to transform habits without pressure, perfectionism, or "shoulding" all over yourself in 2023.

    Shawn Bonneteau is a Christian pornography recovery coach and podcast host at Secret Habit. After quitting porn in the summer of 2017, he has spent his life pursuing God's call to transform relationships through coaching men to find freedom from porn. Shawn is a certified Husband Material coach, certified sexual addictions mentor and an inner child recovery specialist. He spends the majority of his time coaching men all over the globe in both 1-on-1 and group settings. He has a deep passion for speaking and has had the privilege to share with tens of thousands of men and women on the topics of porn addiction, masturbation and erectile dysfunction over the past 4 years. Shawn lives in Halifax, Canada with his wife Helena and daughter Violet. In his spare time he loves to watch hockey, play the drums and watch a good mindbender from Christopher Nolan.

    Resources by Shawn:


    Mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 09 Jan 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    Becoming Porn Free In 2023

    In this episode, I'll recommend 3 resources to help you outgrow porn in 2023. Stay til the end to hear a big announcement about HMA (the doors are closing).

    As promised, here are my top 5 episodes of Husband Material:

    Register now for The Porn Free Man 2023 Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023.

    Get your free pass at thepornfreeman.com

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    Mon, 02 Jan 2023 08:00:00 -0800
    How Do I Help My Hurting Spouse? (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

    How can I help my partner heal? When she is "throwing rocks" at me, what can I do? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci shares 10 rules for healthy interaction with your grieving partner:

    10 Rules:
    1. No Explaining
    2. No Surprises
    3. Validation, Not Defensiveness
    4. Don’t Wilt (Be Confident)
    5. Don’t Let Your Inner Child Speak To Your Partner
    6. See Her Pain
    7. Walk Into The Fire
    8. Communicate Before Going Out In Public
    9. Own Your Impact, Not Just Your Intentions
    10. Prepare Yourself Every Morning

    Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's also the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP).

    Buy Eddie's latest book (this is a paid link):
    Why Men Struggle To Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots

    Eddie will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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    Mon, 26 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Emotional Fitness (with Sathiya Sam)

    What's the difference between emotional health and emotional fitness? Why does it matter? In this episode, Sathiya Sam explains what emotional fitness looks like and how you can leverage the added stress of the holiday season to become stronger.

    Sathiya Sam is an entrepreneur with a passion to see people’s lives transformed. DeepClean, a program that helps men overcome pornography addiction, is Sathiya's most recent work to date. His proven process for freedom has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives. He is married to his lovely wife Shaloma and based out of Toronto, Canada.

    Listen to Sathiya's daily podcast: Unleash The Man Within

    Connect with Sathiya on Instagram @sathiyamesam

    Sathiya will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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    Mon, 19 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Be A Great Lover (with Dr. Keith Gregoire)

    What does it take to unlock a woman's sexual pleasure? Dr. Keith Gregoire explains how sex actually works, why we need to redefine sex, and how men can become better lovers.

    Keith Gregoire is a pediatrician who is passionate about building great marriages and equipping couples to parent well. He is co-author (along with his wife, Sheila Wray Gregoire) of "The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex." Together, they have been speaking to couples around the world for over fifteen years, providing healthy, evidence-based, biblical advice for your marriage and sex life.

    Excellent books by the Gregoires (these are paid links):

    Learn more at baremarriage.com

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    Mon, 12 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0800
    Authentic Manhood (with Dr. Joe Martin)

    What is a real man? Dr. Joe Martin exposes the lies we believe about our value as men, in contrast to the example of authentic manhood set by Jesus Christ.

    Wrong perceptions of manhood (what society says):

    • Occupation
    • Compensation
    • Education
    • Reputation
    • Intimidation

    Authentic manhood is determined by:

    • Leading spiritually
    • Rejecting passivity
    • Loving and serving sacrificially

    Dr. Joe Martin is an award-winning speaker, author, educator, and certified builder of men. He’s the author of nine books and the host of Real Men Connect, the top-rated podcast for Christian men. Learn more at realmenconnect.com

    Dr. Joe will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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    Mon, 05 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    What If I'm Sexually Attracted To Myself?

    Have you been sexually attracted to yourself, or someone just like you? In this episode, you'll learn three types of self-attraction, my own personal story, and what to do if you are sexually attracted to yourself.

    Come to my workshop "What Do I Do With My Sexual Attractions?" at The Porn Free Man online conference on January 6-7, 2023. It's free. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

    Here's the Seinfeld clip I quoted: "Falling in love with someone who's just like you" - https://youtu.be/NVDT1ARABvE

    Related Husband Material episodes:

    Also check out my free video series with Jay Stringer, The Sexual Fantasy Framework: sexualfantasyframework.com

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    Mon, 28 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    What's it like to be a male survivor of sexual abuse? In our very first community-based episode, Husband Material men tell their stories of sexual abuse. You'll learn how to respond appropriately to the needs of male survivors.

    Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of our community sub-group for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist, author, and moderator in the Husband Material Community. Contact Doug at douglascarpenter.com/contact

    Jordan, Chris, Kevin, Daniel, "Chaz," and Roger are all members of the Husband Material Community.

    Resources mentioned:


    Husband Material episodes about sexual abuse:

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    Mon, 21 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Find The Boy Within The Man (with Chris Bruno)

    Is there really a boy inside every man? What does "healing the boy" practically look like? Chris Bruno delightfully demonstrates how to find your younger self and bring him home. This interview is amazing! You'll come away with greater awareness, curiosity, kindness, and healing.

    Chris Bruno is the Co-Founder and CEO of Restoration Project, and Founder of ReStory Counseling, devoting his life to helping people come alive. He is a licensed professional counselor who has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts.

    Buy Chris' new book (this is a paid link):
    Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage

    Other books by Chris Bruno:

    Take the free assessment:
    Midlife Tremors of a Man's Journey

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    Mon, 14 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Break Up With Porn

    Outgrowing porn is not easy. The process is often messy and prolonged. That's why some men have found value in writing a formal break-up letter to pornography. This episode will give you a simple structure to write your own break-up letter. You can also use this structure to break up with an abusive partner or any other unwanted sexual behavior, fantasy, or attachment.

    Download the free PDF worksheet: How To Break Up With Porn

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    Mon, 07 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Emotional Safety (with Alex Avila)

    "Our most vital relational need is to be emotionally safe...we cannot truly connect with anyone if we don't feel safe in their presence." —Alex Avila

    But what is emotional safety, exactly? How can you tell if a person or relationship is safe or unsafe? Christian therapist Alex Avila explains what it looks like to protect our hearts while giving and receiving "safer love."

    SAFER LOVE:
    S = Slow and soft
    A = Appreciation
    F = Feelings
    E = Empathy
    R = Responsibility

    L = Listening
    O = Openness
    V = Validation
    E = Empowerment

    Alex A. Avila is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex addiction therapist who meets with men, women and couples to help them overcome trauma, connect emotionally in their relationships, and rewrite their sexual scripts. Alex also facilitates couple’s workshops and couple therapy intensives, men’s sexual recovery groups, and online relationship classes.

    Learn more about Alex at alexaavila.com

    Join our Live Q&A with Alex on November 8, 2022 inside the Husband Material Community

    Buy one of Alex's books (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 31 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    How Can Fathers And Sons Outgrow Porn Together? (with John Fort and Lucas Fort)

    "Your failure in sexuality is what qualifies you to talk to your son about sex in the first place." In this fascinating episode, a father and son tell their story of learning to talk about emotions and sex together. John and Lucas Fort explain what does(n't) work, what's (not) appropriate, and why imperfection is necessary for connection.

    Buy John and Lucas's book (this is a paid link):
    Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship

    John Fort serves as Director of Training for Be Broken Ministries, where he helps men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. John is a co-founder of the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit. John has authored or co-authored ten books, including Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship.

    Lucas Fort grew up talking to his parents (especially his father) about personal topics like feelings and sexuality. He uses what he’s learned to help parents and their children better understand each other while navigating the topics of sex and pornography.

    John and Lucas live close to Portland, Oregon.

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    Mon, 24 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Is Covenant Eyes "Shameware"?

    Anti-porn accountability software has come under scrutiny after an article in WIRED Magazine described Covenant Eyes as "shameware" and "just another way the church controls you.” In this episode, you'll hear what's going on, what I think about accountability software, and how to decide if it's right for you.

    Article in WIRED Magazine: The Ungodly Surveillance of Anti-Porn ‘Shameware’ Apps

    My top recommendation for accountability software: Covenant Eyes

    For those of you who use accountability software:
    “If your CovenantEyes or Accountable2You apps are acting funny as of late, there is a very likely reason! Covenant Eyes and Accountable2You were removed from the Google Play Store, and there's a chance your services may have been disrupted. If that's the case, check your email for instructions they have sent to get your software active again and working (there is a workaround which may include reinstalling or activating from their websites). So far this has affected Android users. It's still unclear what repercussions this may have for iPhone/iOS users. So please be watchful. Stand strong, courageous men, and don't allow any software glitches to affect you on your journey to outgrow porn!” —Kolton Thomas, founder of Reclaimed Recovery

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    Mon, 17 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    From Pain To Purpose (with Rick Carlson)

    Rick Carlson spent years running from pain, hiding from others, and hating God... until everything changed. In this episode, Rick shares his story of prenatal trauma, physical differences, self-hatred, substance abuse, porn use, and his healing journey over the past 12 years.

    "Your greatest pain can become your greatest purpose." —Rick Carlson

    Rick Carlson is the founder of Comeback Coaching. As a Certified Husband Material Coach, Life Coach, and Pastor, Rick is passionate about walking with men who feel left behind or believe they are less valued. Rick specializes in coaching men who are overcoming various addictions. Rick's faith-based approach offers compassion for men to discover the deeper reasons for their struggles and outgrow unwanted sexual behaviors. His goals are to help men know that they matter and provide an opportunity for healing. Rick loves to see men make a comeback!

    "Rick has helped me reframe and understand my porn use and compulsive sexual behavior not as the main problem, but as a pacifier, helping me get to the root issue that is underneath. He is real, relatable, and wise, and is willing to challenge you in the best possible way." —Daniel

    Schedule a free coaching session with Rick Carlson here

    Contact Rick at rickcarlson2020@gmail.com

    Learn more at comebackcoaching.org

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    Mon, 10 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn, Anxiety, And Depression (with Ben Bennett)

    Do you know what it's like to struggle with depression or anxiety in addition to porn? Ben Bennett does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Ben unpacks how mental health challenges and unwanted sexual behavior are related. Using a mix of science and Scripture, he also highlights the path to healing. This episode is important!

    Ben Bennett is an author, podcast host, and speaker with Josh McDowell Ministry as the Director of Resolution Movement–a global movement helping people overcome hurts and struggles and thrive in life. Ben helps individuals young and old understand and work through the underlying factors driving the unhealthy patterns in their lives.

    Buy Ben's book, co-authored with Josh McDowell (this is a paid link):
    Free To Thrive: How Your Hurt, Struggles, And Deepest Longings Can Lead To A Fulfilling Life

    Connect with Ben on Instagram @benvbennett

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    Mon, 03 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)

    Listen to my sermon about embodied brotherhood from the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara.

    Psalm 133 (NIV 1984)

    "How good and pleasant it is
    when brothers live together in unity!
    It is like precious oil poured on the head,
    running down on the beard,
    running down on Aaron's beard,
    down upon the collar of his robes.
    It is as if the dew of Hermon
    were falling on Mount Zion.
    For there the LORD bestows his blessing,
    even life forevermore."

    The Beauty Of Brotherhood
    Sermon on Psalm 133 by Drew Boa
    Sunday, September 11th, 2022

  • Embodied brotherhood is precious & rare
  • Embodied brotherhood is powerful & refreshing
  • Embodied brotherhood is eternal

    • Watch the original video recording of this episode here.

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    Mon, 26 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Wisdom After Sexual Betrayal (with Marnie Ferree)

    Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story of grief and growth after discovering her own sexual betrayal trauma.

    Marnie Ferree is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Nashville, Tennessee, where she directs Bethesda Workshops, which provides Christian-based treatment for sex addicts, their partners, couples, and teens affected by sexual addiction. Learn more at bethesdaworkshops.org.

    Buy Marnie's books here (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 19 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing From Sexual Betrayal (with Dr. Sheri Keffer)

    What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about it. She even guides you on how to share this episode with your wife or girlfriend without triggering her. If you're married, your wife will love hearing from Dr. Sheri!

    Dr. Sheri Keffer is the author of Intimate Deception (paid link) and a regular cohost of New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California. Through her own personal story of recovery, Dr. Sheri understands the trauma symptoms often associated with sexual betrayal. As a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and a Consultant in EMDR, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what’s needed not only to heal but heal well. Dr. Sheri also holds a degree in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. You can follow her on social media on Instagram or Facebook @drsherikeffer.

    Have you been impacted by sexual betrayal?
    Take Dr. Sheri's quiz: braveone.com/takethequiz

    Buy Dr. Sheri's award-winning book (this is a paid link):
    Intimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Betrayal

    ***For A Limited Time***
    Check out Dr. Sheri's BraveOne Community for women healing from intimate deception betrayal trauma

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    Mon, 12 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Attunement: The Key To Connection

    Attunement is the ability to be aware of and respond to another person's needs—and our own needs, too. In this episode, you'll learn the building blocks of good attunement, why over-attunement is unhelpful and exhausting, and how to practically sharpen your attunement skills and improve your relationships.

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    Mon, 05 Sep 2022 23:00:00 -0700
    Bent On Men, Part 2 (with Harrison Bly)

    What does redemption look like for men who experience unwanted same-sex attraction? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares his story of freedom through vulnerability, sonship, brotherhood, and redefining masculinity.

    Harrison Bly writes with a firm and unusual resolve about male sexuality. He uses story as a way to make sense of taboo subjects that are often over-simplified and misunderstood. Secretly gay in a conservative Christian world, Harrison compromised authenticity only to find shallow acceptance. On the crooked path to manhood, Harrison fumbled in the dark between ideologies on faith and homosexuality that failed to acknowledge his deepest wounds and longings. But through unplanned and unlikely relationships, Harrison discovered the transforming power of male love that reframed his obsessions, cravings, and curiosities, challenging everything he had come to accept about his masculinity and sexuality.

    Buy Harrison's book here (this is a paid link):
    Bent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And Faith

    Learn more at bentonmen.com

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    Mon, 29 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Bent On Men, Part 1 (with Harrison Bly)

    What does it look like to untangle unwanted same-sex attraction toward men? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares vulnerable stories from boyhood that shed light on why and how he sexualized masculinity.

    Harrison Bly writes with a firm and unusual resolve about male sexuality. He uses story as a way to make sense of taboo subjects that are often over-simplified and misunderstood. Secretly gay in a conservative Christian world, Harrison compromised authenticity only to find shallow acceptance. On the crooked path to manhood, Harrison fumbled in the dark between ideologies on faith and homosexuality that failed to acknowledge his deepest wounds and longings. But through unplanned and unlikely relationships, Harrison discovered the transforming power of male love that reframed his obsessions, cravings, and curiosities, challenging everything he had come to accept about his masculinity and sexuality.

    Buy Harrison's book here (this is a paid link):
    Bent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And Faith

    Learn more at bentonmen.com

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    Mon, 22 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    What Does The Bible Say About Purity? (LIVE)

    The word "purity" must be defined without the damaging messages of purity culture. In this episode, I'll explain 3 types of purity in the Bible. I'll also share a vulnerable story about my own lack of purity. Then at the end, I'll answer questions and clarify the true meaning of purity.

    Free resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 15 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Track Your Heart (with Josh Glaser)

    How do you discover the deeper roots underneath surface-level sexual symptoms? Josh Glaser guides us in "tracking the heart," revealing where unwanted thoughts, feelings, and behaviors come from.

    Josh Glaser is the Executive Director of Regeneration, a Christ-centered ministry equipping men and women to live God’s good, holy, and beautiful design for relationships and sexuality. He is the creator of Awaken, an online community and 48-week discipleship series for men pursuing sexual integrity.

    Listen to Josh's podcast:
    The Becoming Whole Podcast

    Buy Josh's book (this is a paid link):
    Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents

    Connect with Josh and his team of coaches:
    regenerationministries.org/mens-coaching

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    Mon, 08 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Teach Children About Sexuality (with Adam + Karissa King)

    What should sex education look like in today's world? Adam and Karissa King explain why parents must teach children about sexuality from a young age—and how to make these conversations easy, effective, and even fun.

    Adam + Karissa King are a licensed coach/therapist team and the founders of Dear Young Married Couple. They understand the pressure Christian parents feel to give their kids a godly understanding of sexuality. That's why they partnered with Korena Hendryx (a biology teacher and sex education expert) to create Having the TalkS: A Guided Conversation Game On Sexuality For Parents And Children.

    More resources by Adam + Karissa:
    Having The TalkS (because one just isn't enough)
    The TalkS Resource Guide (recommended books)
    Dear Young Married Couple Website
    Dear Young Married Couple Podcast
    Dear Young Married Couple Instagram

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    Mon, 01 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Internal Family Systems And Jesus (with Kim Miller)

    Are you frustrated by internal conflict? Tired of being overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings? Kim Miller explains a Christ-centered approach to internal family systems (IFS). You'll learn the 5 steps of "taking a you-turn" so every part of you can encounter Jesus and be led by your Spirit-led self.

    Kim Miller (MTh, LMFT) is a speaker, retreat leader, and co-author of Boundaries For Your Soul. She’s certified in Internal Family Systems Therapy and Imago Relationship Therapy.

    Buy Kim's book (this is a paid link):
    Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies

    Download the free worksheet: Taking A You-Turn (5 Steps)

    Learn more about Kim at kimberlyjunemiller.com

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    Mon, 25 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 2)

    N is for Ninety Days
    O is for Outgrow
    P is for Plasticity
    Q is for Questions
    R is for Redemptive Risk
    S is for Supernormal Stimuli
    T is for Trauma & Traumasexuality
    U is for Unwanted & Unwanted Workbook
    V is for Vagus Nerve & Polyvagal Theory
    W is for Worship (special playlist)
    X is for Ex- (example breakup letter)
    Y is for Yes!
    Z is for Zero

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    Mon, 18 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 1)

    In this episode, you'll learn 13 key concepts for outgrowing porn based on the first 13 letters of the alphabet. Check out the list below for further information about each key concept (including paid links):

    A is for Alexithymia
    B is for Breathing
    C is for Co-regulation
    D is for Dopamine
    E is for Eroticized
    F is for Fathering
    G is for Group
    H is for Holistic
    I is for IFS
    J is for Journey
    K is for Knowledge
    L is for Lust & Love
    M is for Mindfulness

    Next week, I'll cover the second half of the alphabet!

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    Mon, 11 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Neglect: Hidden Trauma (with Stephen Thomas)

    How do I know if I was neglected? And what can I do about it? Stephen Thomas unpacks 6 types of neglect, why neglect fuels shame and addiction, and what we can do as we recognize ways we have been neglected.

    Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has enjoyed freedom from porn and hookup culture for over 13 years. He is a Certified Husband Material Coach who provides coaching for individuals, couples, and groups. Stephen is passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them.

    Contact Stephen Thomas:
    Website: stephenthomasconsulting.com
    Email: Stephen@stephenthomasconsulting.com
    Phone: (847) 863-3106

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    Mon, 04 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Redeeming Heartache (with Cathy Loerzel)

    Heartache has a pattern, and so does healing. Author and therapist Cathy Loerzel explains the 3 types of heartache, and a powerful path to healing for each one. Learn how your past has uniquely prepared you to experience more joy.

    Cathy Loerzel founded the Allender Center with Dr. Dan Allender in 2010.
    Together with Dan, she is the co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals True Calling (this is a paid link).

    Connect with Cathy at cathyloerzel.com.

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    Mon, 27 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    The Five Types Of Intimacy

    What is intimacy? How can I find it? Most intimacy is not sexual. Most intimacy is spiritual, social, emotional, mental, and physical. Learn why each type of intimacy matters, and how to experience each one without sex or porn.

    Resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 20 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Get Your Man Cards (with Henry Brown)

    Men are lonely. How can we develop deeper friendships? Introducing Man Cards: a card deck of conversation starters for men designed by Drew Boa and Henry Brown. In this episode, Drew and Henry introduce Man Cards and show you how to use them.

    Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.com

    Man Cards make it easier for men to go deep. Inside are 52 questions of varying levels of vulnerability to help you and the men around you be fully known. Cards are ranked, so men can choose how deep they want to go. Man Cards are perfect for small groups, road trips, or everyday conversations. Use them to improve your communication skills, get to know other men, and have fun while doing it! Stop hiding from others. Reveal the real you. Get your Man Cards!

    Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.com

    Henry Brown is a ministry leader, AFOL (Adult Fan Of Lego), and moderator for the Husband Material Community.

    Resources mentioned in this episode (including paid links):

    Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.com

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    Mon, 13 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Why Porn Is A Solution (with Matt Dobschuetz)

    You'll never outgrow porn if you believe it's the problem. In this episode, Matt Dobschuetz explains why porn is a solution, and the surprising reason why one particular type of porn has appealed to him. This man overflows with kindness and hope!

    Matt Dobschuetz is the host of Porn Free Radio, the top-rated podcast for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. Matt is a diehard Chicago Bears fan, a coffee enthusiast, and a lover of old-school hip hop. To learn more, visit Matt at recoveredman.com.

    Buy Matt's new book here (this is a paid link):
    Porn Free: Becoming The Type Of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn

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    Mon, 06 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Long Distance Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Mike)

    Do you ever wish your friends lived closer? In today's world, long distance friendship is more possible and pervasive than ever. What are the blessings and drawbacks of this? In this episode, Husband Material coaches talk about how to maximize authentic connection, both long distance and locally.

    Join us for a weekend of beauty and brotherhood at the Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara (September 9-13, 2022). Sign up for the "Early Bird Discount" before July 9th to receive $150 off at husbandmaterial.com/retreat.

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    Mon, 30 May 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Becoming Emotionally Mature (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

    What is emotional maturity? How can we increase our emotional intelligence? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci explains the three components of emotional maturity, why men struggle to love, and what we can do about it.

    Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of a new book: Why Men Struggle To Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots.

    More resources by Dr. Eddie Capparucci (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 23 May 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    What is the difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter powerfully explains this concept and why it is absolutely essential for outgrowing porn.

    This episode is taken from our new course on Healing From Sexual Abuse.

    Learn more at husbandmaterial.com/healing-from-sexual-abuse

    Related episodes:

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    Mon, 16 May 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Should I Count The Days Since I Last Used Porn?

    Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count, and what works for me...

    2 bad reasons: Legalism & License

    3 good reasons: Celebration, Compassion, & Curiosity

    What works for me? Listen to this episode to find out 😉

    If you loved this episode, you will probably love my book, Redeemed Sexuality. Buy it here (this is a paid link): Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation In Community.

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    Mon, 09 May 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn And Centering Prayer (with Matthew Lyda)

    What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering prayer:

  • Resist no thought
  • Retain no thought
  • React to no thought
  • Return to God

    • Matthew Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and a poet. He is the author of Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers (paid link). Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. Take Matthew's free 5-day course on centering prayer here.

    Please join us for "An Evening of Centering Prayer" inside the Husband Material Community on Wednesday May 11, 2022 at 4:00 PM Pacific Time.

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    Mon, 02 May 2022 02:00:00 -0700
    The Gospel And Trauma (with Matt Wenger)

    How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma and outgrowing pornography.

    Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues and their impact on faith. The program uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy.

    The next Boulder Recovery intensive is June 18th-July 2nd, 2022. Seats are limited. If you're interested, contact Boulder Recovery here.

    Learn more about trauma-induced sexual addiction here (this is a paid link): TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction, by Dr. Michael Barta.

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    Mon, 25 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Heal Your Inner Child: Older Brother Coaching

    What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coaching.

    Older Brother Coaching is my unique approach to healing the inner child, which has led to hundreds of breakthroughs for Christian men outgrowing porn. In this episode, you'll learn the three steps of Older Brother Coaching. Then at the end, I'll lead you through a guided meditation to experience it for yourself.

    Resources mentioned (including paid links):


    This episode is a preview of Husband Material Academy (HMA), the all-in-one solution for Christian men outgrowing porn. If you loved this episode, you will love HMA...

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    Mon, 18 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    The Blessing Of Being Reported (with Rich Moore)

    What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and propelled him into healing. Rich also reveals how to know if you should report yourself or someone else to local authorities.

    Rich Moore is the Associate Director of Men's Groups for Pure Desire Ministries, and a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Rich has been involved with Pure Desire for over 20 years and serves a foundational role in helping churches start a Pure Desire group ministry. Rich is also the author of The Silent Battle: One Man's Fight for Freedom.

    Contact Rich Moore at rich@puredesire.org

    Pure Desire Resources:

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    Mon, 11 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing Racial Trauma (with Sheila Wise Rowe)

    What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about how racial trauma can be healed.

    Sheila Wise Rowe is a truth-teller who writes passionately about matters of faith and emotional healing. She advocates for the dignity, rights, and healing of abuse survivors, those carrying racial trauma, and racial (re)conciliation. Sheila is the author of the award-winning book Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience, and her newest book, Young, Gifted, and Black: A Journey of Lament and Celebration. Learn more at sheilawiserowe.com

    Recommended books about racial trauma (these are paid links):

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    Mon, 04 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Why Didn’t I Like Vaginas?

    If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn.

    Books about sex and purity culture (paid links):

    To understand how purity culture keeps men trapped in porn, take my free mini-course at outgrowporn.com

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    Mon, 28 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    How Does God View My Body? (with Matt Cline)

    What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like.

    Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on helping 1,000,000 people live porn-free and powerfully by 2030. He is also co-host of the Pure Victory Podcast. Matt lives in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada with his wife and two young sons.

    Restored Ministries Resources:
    Pure Freedom Journey - restoredministries.ca/purefreedom
    Cleansing Hour - restoredministries.ca/cleansinghour
    Other support options - restoredministries.ca/gethelp
    Wives & girlfriends - restoredministries.ca/partners
    Instagram - instagram.com/restored_community

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    Mon, 21 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Toxic Shame vs. Healthy Shame (with Dr. Jake Porter)

    Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questions from science and scripture.

    Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Daring Ventures and host of the upcoming Choose Connection Online Summit for couples in recovery from addiction and betrayal on March 25-27, 2022. Husband Material is partnering with Daring Ventures to promote this awesome event using affiliate links.

    Get your free ticket to the Choose Connection Summit here: https://drewboa.krtra.com/t/4PhNgRjQJqa4

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    Mon, 14 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0700
    Vulnerability 101 (LIVE)

    What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...

    If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group

    Resources on vulnerability (including paid links):

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    Mon, 07 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    The Power Of Identity (with Sathiya Sam)

    Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure identity, how to strengthen your sense of self, and why he recommends self-care using the 5 love languages.

    Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker who helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean™️ – a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn. This work has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. Based out of Toronto, Canada, Sathiya is happily married and a die-hard basketball fan.

    Listen to Sathiya's podcast: Unleash The Man Within

    Buy Sathiya Sam's new book (this is a paid link):
    The Last Relapse: Realize Your Potential, Reclaim Intimacy, And Resolve The Root Issues Of Porn Addiction

    This week, Sathiya is giving away a few copies of The Last Relapse inside the Husband Material Community. Join the community at husbandmaterial.co

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    Mon, 28 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Rags To Riches To Ruin To Redemption (with Dr. Joe Martin)

    "You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity. You don't. How long do you wanna keep playing this game of the pity party and this shame when I got so much more planned for you?" —Dr. Joe Martin

    In this episode, Dr. Joe Martin shares his incredible story of God bringing redemption out of poverty, abuse, addiction, and divorce. He also reveals the 5 components of a kingdom man, and how to address voices of accusation with your God-given authority.

    Dr. Joe Martin is an award-winning speaker, author, educator, and certified builder of men. He’s the author of nine books, including: “Man Accomplished: 50 Challenges to Help You Be the Man God Made You to Be,” “Are You the Man: 201 Lessons I Wish My Dad Would’ve Taught Me,” and “The Real Man Spiritual Leader Blueprint: 21 Practical Ways to Love and Lead Your Family."

    Joe is also the host of Real Men Connect, the top-rated podcast for Christian men that focuses on mentoring, training, and discipling men on how to be amazing husbands, awesome fathers, and extraordinary leaders. Learn more at realmenconnect.com

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    Mon, 21 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Reframe A Porn Relapse

    What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewing relapse as feedback (not failure), the benefits of a growth mindset (not a fixed mindset), and the 3 types of feedback you must receive.

    Research mentioned in this episode (this is a paid link):


    Other Husband Material resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 14 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2 (with Mike Chapman)

    What is "normal" for survivors of sexual abuse? And what does healing look like? Mike Chapman offers validation and wisdom based on years of research and his personal healing journey.

    Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn.

    Mike also facilitates a free private group for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse for members the Husband Material Community. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com

    Download the free PDF: What Is CSA Normal?

    Other resources mentioned in this episode:


    Join the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat on February 25-27: Healing From Sexual Abuse

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    Mon, 07 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1 (with Mike Chapman)

    You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn.

    Contact Mike for coaching at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com

    Mike also facilitates a free private group for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse for members of the Husband Material Community.

    Another forum for male survivors of sexual abuse is available at MaleSurvivor.org

    Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
    The Body Keeps The Score, by Bessel van der Kolk
    Victims No Longer, by Mike Lew

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    Mon, 31 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Was I Sexually Abused? (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening up about his own early sexual experiences... and how resolving sexual confusion helped him find freedom from gay porn.

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and professor of psychology. He and his spouse, Mary Carpenter, LMSW are the founders of Insight Counseling Services in Rochester, Michigan.

    Buy Doug's new book (this is a paid link):
    Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development

    Sign up for the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat: "Healing From Sexual Abuse" (February 25-27, 2022) at husbandmaterial.com/retreat

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    Mon, 24 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Introduction To Healing Prayer (with Leslie Weinzettel)

    What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing prayer, because Leslie Weinzettel offers incredibly helpful guidance on how to pray for one another in a way that is truly healing.

    Leslie Weinzettel has been practicing and growing in the ministry of healing prayer for the last 17 years. As a former staff member of Christian Healing Ministries in Jacksonville, FL, she shares from her many experiences of praying for others, receiving prayer herself, gleaning from the wisdom of seasoned leaders, and providing training for other prayer ministers. She currently lives in Wheaton, IL with her husband and two young daughters where she actively serves as a prayer minister in her local church.

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    Mon, 17 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Building A Porn-Free Body: Momentum (with Alex VanHouten)

    In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all.

    Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and founder of the Betterment Company and the Better Daily App. Alex lives in Greenbrier, Arkansas with his wife and two boys.

    Here is Alex's new Mastermind:
    Better Man Challenge (LIVE)
    Use the code "BOA" to save $50

    Other resources mentioned in this episode:

    • Vitamin D 5000 IU
    • Magnesium Bisglycinate
    • Free workouts at darebee.com
    • Fitbit Charge 5
    • Garmin Vivo
    • Strava

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    Mon, 10 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    Building A Porn-Free Body: Motivation (with Alex VanHouten)

    How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can strengthen your sexual integrity. Along the way, Alex shares a wealth of insights from science, Scripture, and his own story of freedom.

    Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and founder of the Betterment Company and the Better Daily App. Alex lives in Greenbrier, Arkansas with his wife and two boys.

    Here are Alex's three different podcasts:
    Defining Dad Bod Podcast
    Better Daily Shortcast
    Pick Up Your Cross Bible Study

    For a deeper dive into the new science of health and fitness, join us for part 2 of this conversation on next week's episode...

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    Mon, 03 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0800
    The Beauty Of Elephant Seals

    Find out why northern elephant seals are my favorite animal, and how they have helped me unlearn self-contempt.

    More About Elephant Seals:
    "Seven Things That May Surprise You About Elephant Seals!" (article by Valerie Shore)
    Friends Of The Elephant Seal (check out their Live Beach Cam)

    More Resources To Outgrow Porn:
    Husband Material Community
    Husband Material Coaching
    Husband Material Courses

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    Mon, 27 Dec 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Make Sex Great (with Sheila Wray Gregoire)

    What if everything you’ve been taught about sex has set you up for disappointment? In this episode, Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how sex can become truly great—for both partners. She also unpacks the harmful teachings of "Every Man's Battle" and challenges husbands to make love, not just intercourse!

    Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, the largest single-blogger marriage blog with one million page views per month. A sought-after speaker, she’s also an award-winning author of nine books and the host of the Bare Marriage Podcast.

    Buy Sheila's excellent new book here (this is a paid link):
    The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught And How To Recover What God Intended

    https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com
    https://instagram.com/sheilagregoire
    https://facebook.com/sheila.gregoire.books
    https://twitter.com/sheilagregoire
    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdO1v4LdyqZV-m_VMlH5VGg
    https://greatsexrescue.com/

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    Mon, 20 Dec 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    Appropriate Nudity Between Men (LIVE)

    When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my own experiences with nudity, and share what I have learned.

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    Mon, 13 Dec 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    Healing Sports Wounds (with Stephen Thomas)

    We live in a sports-centric culture. Have you ever felt like less of a man because of this? If you sometimes measure your masculinity based on athletic performance, this episode is for you. Stephen Thomas will explain the concept of "sports wounds," the 3 types of sports wounds, and how to heal so you can become more confident and secure as a man!

    Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. Stephen is a Certified Husband Material Coach and recently launched his own business so he can focus his efforts on helping men get free and seeing couples repair their marriages.

    Web Site:
    StephenThomasConsulting.com

    Facebook Page:
    Facebook.com/stephenthomasconsulting.com

    Apply for individual, couples or small group coaching with Stephen here:
    StephenThomasCounsulting.com/services

    Contact:
    Stephen@stephenthomasconsulting.com

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    Mon, 06 Dec 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    Solutions For Stress (with Marcus Spaur)

    Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays!

    Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at marcus.spaur@gmail.com.

    You can sign up for a free coaching session with Marcus Spaur here.

    34 Tips For Self-Care:
    ‣ Drink a cup of hot herbal tea
    ‣ Sit in the sun and notice the warmth on your skin
    ‣ Pet a cat
    ‣ Go for a walk
    ‣ Take five deep, slow breaths
    ‣ Tense all the muscles in your body, hold for 5 seconds, then release them
    ‣ Call a safe friend and share how you are feeling
    ‣ Give yourself a hug
    ‣ Do gentle yoga
    ‣ Pray
    ‣ Meditate on a comforting verse or scripture or an encouraging word
    ‣ Listen to soothing music
    ‣ Take a long, warm bubble bath
    ‣ Let a mint dissolve in your mouth and focus on its sensation and flavor
    ‣ Get up and move to another room or a different environment
    ‣ Journal what you are feeling
    ‣ Draw or paint
    ‣ Take your shoes off, go outside, and let your toes feel the earth beneath you
    ‣ Take a nap
    ‣ Put on comfortable clothes
    ‣ Snuggle into a soft blanket
    ‣ Light a scented candle
    ‣ Turn off all your devices for 30 minutes, sit quietly and breathe
    ‣ Shift your posture
    ‣ Hug a loved one and don’t let go until you relax into their embrace
    ‣ Do something that made you happy as a child
    ‣ Laugh out loud
    ‣ Splash in a puddle
    ‣ Get a massage
    ‣ Connect with a supportive group: Bible study, small group, 12 step community
    ‣ Sing out loud
    ‣ Stretch
    ‣ Play on a playground
    ‣ Write down 10 things for which you have gratitude

    —Excerpted from Altogether You Guided Journaling Worksheets (page 17) by Jenna Riemersma. Get more tips, videos, and free resources at jennariemersma.com.

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    Mon, 29 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    Five Truths About Forgiveness

    Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths:

    1. Forgiveness is not permission.
    2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice.
    3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process.
    4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly.
    5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift.

    "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32

    Living in forgiveness is living in freedom!

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    Mon, 22 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    The Orphan Spirit (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

    Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King.

    Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of two books (these are paid links):


    ***NEW COURSE ANNOUNCEMENT***
    Healing The Inner Child: Video Course For Christian Men

    • 6 Hours Of Video Training
    • 12 Page Companion PDF
    • The Inner Child Assessment


    "I discovered things from my childhood that I had no idea that happened or affected me. I learned about tools to become a better man every day." —Sak

    “I understand more about myself. The information was incredible and delivered with compassion—an amazing balance of clinical and spiritual advice.” —Larry

    “The work that Eddie, Drew, and other leaders at the retreat were able to do is a refreshing approach to freedom from porn that allows us to love ourselves." —Jay

    Buy the new video course on Healing The Inner Child at: husbandmaterial.com/healing-the-inner-child

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    Mon, 15 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    The Image Of God In You (with Jenna Riemersma)

    The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors.

    Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).

    Jenna also provides dozens of free resources at MoveToward.com.

    Text JENNA to 33777 to receive...

    • A free "Move Toward" Worksheet
    • A guided meditation for sex addiction
    • A guided meditation for betrayal trauma


    Buy Jenna's book here: (this is a paid link):
    Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems Therapy

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    Mon, 08 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0800
    How Jesus Reverses The Curse

    If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara.

    How Jesus Reverses The Curse:
    A Case Study From The Life Of Peter

    Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa
    Sunday, October 10th, 2021

  • The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with Jesus
  • The Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassion
  • The Redemption: Peter courageously follows Jesus

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    Mon, 01 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)

    Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man.

    Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address trauma, cross addiction, out-of-control sexual behavior, as well as sexual inhibition, intimacy anxiety, gender disorders, and sexual identity confusion. You can email him at michael@sexualityproject.org.

    Highly recommended: take Michael's free assessment, The Play & Positive Affect Inventory.

    Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
    Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From The Myths Of Boyhood, by William Pollack
    Play: How It Shapes The Brain, Opens The Imagination, And Invigorates The Soul, by Stuart Brown and Christopher Vaughan

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    Mon, 25 Oct 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    The Power Of Unfiltered Poetry (with Matthew Ray Lyda)

    Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry!

    Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers. Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him at matthewlyda@gmail.com.

    Take the free 7-Day Filterless Poetry Challenge!
    (and receive personal feedback from Matthew Ray Lyda)

    You're invited to the Husband Material Poetry Recital on October 26 at 5 PM Pacific Time! Access the link to join inside the Husband Material Community at husbandmaterial.co.

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    Mon, 18 Oct 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    The Cure For Comparison (with Dr. Michael Tso)

    Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness!

    Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integrates biological, psychological, relational and spiritual aspects of personhood.

    Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
    The Inner Voice Of Love, by Henri Nouwen
    Redeemed Sexuality, by Drew Boa

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    Mon, 11 Oct 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn Is An Abusive Teacher

    How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experience sexual re-education.

    Resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
    The Psychology Of Porn, by Andrew Bauman
    Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, by Gail Dines

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    Mon, 04 Oct 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Sexual Discipleship (with Dr. Juli Slattery)

    "Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us rethink sexuality according to the story of God, rather than the toxic sexual narratives of porn and purity culture.

    Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy. She is also the author of ten books and host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli." Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.

    Get Juli's book (this is a paid link):
    Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design And Why It Matters

    Also check out Juli's free resources at AuthenticIntimacy.com and SexualDiscipleship.com

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    Mon, 27 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Overcoming Enmeshment (with Dr. Ken Adams)

    How does enmeshment with a parent lead to sexual brokenness? And how can we heal from it? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams will inspire you to break free from inappropriate loyalty so you can regain your passion and purpose in life.

    Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on enmeshment, covert incest, shame, abuse, and sex addiction. Learn more about Dr. Adams and the Mother-Enmeshed Men Workshop at overcomingenmeshment.com.

    Free Resources:
    Take the Men's Enmeshment Impact Survey
    Take the Enmeshment Resilience Questionnaire

    Books by Dr. Ken Adams (these are paid links):
    Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners
    When He's Married To Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment

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    Mon, 20 Sep 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies

    Do your sexual fantasies ever feel confusing or disturbing? Have you ever wondered why they are so powerful, or how they work? In this episode, you will learn my exact formula for interpreting sexual fantasies.

    If you don't understand your fantasies, you will have a love/hate relationship with them. However, sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you learn how to interpret them. You can become less ashamed, and more accepting of yourself. You can also become less fixated, and more flexible. This will help you strip porn of its seductive power!

    Download the free worksheet: How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies

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    Mon, 13 Sep 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Why Attachment Is The Key To Healing (with Dr. Jake Porter)

    Attachment is at the core of who we are, why we struggle, and how we heal. Dr. Jake Porter explains attachment in a way that is powerful, practical, and personal. Listening to this episode is insightful and delightful!

    Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Couple-Centered Recovery, a model for treating attachment wounds of couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal. Jake is a Christian psychotherapist who has taught and presented research on the topics of theology, counseling, trauma, and addiction around the world.

    Connect with Jake at drjakeporter.com or daringventures.com.

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    Mon, 06 Sep 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Form A Triad (LIVE)

    Get wisdom on how to practically build brotherhood with 2-3 other men. At Husband Material, we call groups of 3 men "triads." In this episode, you'll learn why we recommend triads over accountability partners, how to form your own triad, and what real men in 3 different triads are currently doing to help each other heal.

    3 Ways To Form A Triad:

  • Join the Husband Material Community (free)
  • Join Husband Material Academy (low cost, low commitment)
  • Join a Husband Material Small Group (high cost, high commitment)

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    Mon, 23 Aug 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Healthy Male Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Doug)

    Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of us never learned these things. If you long for deep, satisfying brotherhood in Christ, this episode is for you.

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    Mon, 16 Aug 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Your Brain Off Porn (with Greg Oliver)

    Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture.

    Dopamine & Norepinephrine = anticipation and arousal
    Oxytocin & Vasopressin = bonding and mate selection
    Serotonin & Prolactin = soothing relaxation and sleep

    If you would like a summary of all the research we shared today, email Greg Oliver at greg@awakenrecovery.com.

    Greg is a certified Sexual Recovery Pastoral Counselor and the Director/Co-founder (with his wife Stacey) of Awaken, a ministry that helps individuals, couples, and ministry leaders find hope and resources for sexual brokenness. Awaken offers in-person & virtual recovery meetings, 1-on-1 and couples coaching, and recovery intensives & workshops. Learn more at awakenrecovery.com.

    Other resources mentioned in this episode:
    Slave Master: How Pornography Changes Your Brain (by Donald Hilton)
    Supernormal Stimuli (summarizing research by Nikolaas Tinbergen)
    Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong (by Johann Hari)

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    Mon, 09 Aug 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    The Pirate & The Monk (with Nate Larkin)

    One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, how he came out of hiding, what he is struggling with right now, and how to do the 4-point check-in he uses with his friends on a daily basis.

    Nate Larkin is the founder of the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. Buy Nate's book here (this is a paid link): Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men To Authentic Brotherhood

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    Mon, 02 Aug 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Theology of the Testicles

    What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised!

    This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson).

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    Mon, 26 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell)

    Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell introduces the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig unpacks different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We also talk about how emotional/spiritual health is totally different and so much better!

    Dr. Craig Cashwell is Professor of Counselor Education and Clinical Mental Health Counseling at William & Mary, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. You can email him at cscashwell@wm.edu.

    Books featuring Dr. Craig Cashwell (these are paid links):
    Shadows Of The Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing The Shadow
    Integrating Spirituality and Religion Into Counseling.

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    Mon, 19 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    From Crisis To Closeness (with Clinton and Charity Muñoz)

    This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More.

    Learn more about Restored 2 More here:
    Restored2More.com
    Restored2More Podcast
    Restored2More Instagram

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    Mon, 12 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Bullying And The Inner Critic (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

    The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied, and how to heal from the effects of past bullying.

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is the founder of Insight Counseling Services in Michigan. This week, Doug is giving away a few copies of his book (this is a paid link): Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male inside the Husband Material Community here.

    Resources mentioned in this episode:
    Inside Out (Disney/Pixar Film)
    Internal Family Systems
    Self-Compassion.org

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    Mon, 05 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)

    What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.

    You can find a visual summary of this episode here.

    Resources mentioned (these are paid links):
    The Body Keeps The Score, by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
    Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb Dana
    Polyvagal Exercises for Safety & Connection, by Deb Dana
    The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory, by Dr. Stephen Porges

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    Mon, 28 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Healing Mother Wounds (with Dan Hitz)

    What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, remove his self-hatred, and allow him to feel safe with women.

    Dan Hitz is the Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries (a member of Restored Hope Network). Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Michigan, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional [CCTP], and has been trained in EMDR.

    You can email Dan at dhitz@recmin.org.

    Related resources by Dan Hitz:
    Overcoming the Mother Wound (article)
    When My Mother and Father Forsake Me (article)

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    Mon, 21 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson)

    What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood.

    Jeremy Williamson is a Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restorationcounselingnoco.com.

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    Mon, 14 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Emotional Times And Seasons

    Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn.

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    Mon, 07 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Psychology And Spirituality (with Dr. Ken McGill)

    How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction that is both clinical and compatible with Christianity.

    Dr. Ken McGill is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He is the author of Cultivating Love Book Series (this is a paid link): https://amzn.to/3hUNmlv Learn more about Dr. Ken at drkenmcgill.com.

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    Mon, 31 May 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    How To Measure Freedom From Porn (LIVE)

    Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is!

    In this episode, I'll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate your sexual and emotional maturity and my #1 most meaningful measurement.

    Register my upcoming free live class, "How To Outgrow Porn," at outgrowporn.com!

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    Mon, 24 May 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual Abuse (with Wendell Moss)

    Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor Wendell Moss tells the story how porn re-enacted sexual abuse from when he was a boy, and what happened when he was confronted by the fierce kindness of God.

    Wendell Moss teaches at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology and The Allender Center. Although he is privileged and delighted to work with both men and women, Wendell loves to create contexts of healing for men, especially African American men. Contact Wendell here.

    Books and resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
    To Be Told, by Dan Allender
    Healing The Wounded Heart, by Dan Allender
    The Cure, by John Lynch, Bruce McNichol and Bill Thrall
    Redeemed Sexuality, by Drew Boa
    Pure Desire, by Ted Roberts

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    Mon, 17 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Healing Brother Wounds (with Marcus Spaur)

    Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it's like to be scarred by a sibling, and also what it's like to heal more deeply than he ever imagined. He has over 6 years of freedom from porn... and a passion for helping other men become the best possible versions of themselves this side of heaven!

    Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is the newest Certified Husband Material Coach, joining Drew Boa and Stephen Thomas in working with individuals and leading small groups this summer. Contact Marcus for a free coaching session at marcus.spaur@gmail.com or (509) 870-7081.

    Apply to join an upcoming Husband Material Small Group with Marcus, Drew, or Stephen at husbandmaterial.com/group

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    Mon, 10 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Unwanted Sexual Attraction

    Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for you.

    What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction?
    1. Talk about it
    2. Understand it
    3. Appreciate it
    4. Manage it

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    Mon, 03 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (with Shawn Bonneteau)

    Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model.

    Download Shawn's free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here.

    Shawn Bonneteau is a professional mentor and the co-founder of Secret Habit, where he and his wife Helena equip & empower people to heal from the harmful effects of pornography. Contact Shawn at https://secrethabit.ca/contact/

    Listen to Shawn and Helena Bonneteau's Secret Habit Podcast!

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    Mon, 26 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Embrace Conflict (with Jay Stringer)

    Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer.

    I recommend Jay's book more than any other (this is a paid link): Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To Healing

    More Resources by Jay Stringer and Drew Boa:


    Jay will be joining us for an exclusive Q&A event and special announcement this week on Wednesday, April 21st, at 2:00 PM Pacific Time. This Zoom Meeting will be hosted inside our community app at husbandmaterial.app. Get the app and we'll see you there!

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    Mon, 19 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    BONUS: Drew's Spiritual Warfare Song

    Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17.

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    Mon, 12 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -0700
    Seven Strategies For Spiritual Warfare (LIVE)

    We are not in a war against sexuality (which is good); we are in a war against evil. Come learn 7 strategies for spiritual warfare based on the Temptation of Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11... and hear my special spiritual warfare song!

    Download a free one-page summary of this episode here:
    husbandmaterial.com/43

    NOTE: In the middle of this presentation I started weeping. Don't be alarmed! It's okay. God was ministering to me. I believe my tears are not a sign of weakness, but strength.

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    Mon, 12 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)

    In a marriage devastated by porn, when and how should sex come back into the picture? In part two of this two-part series, Adam King and Karissa King explain how to slowly but surely restore sexual intimacy to be better than it ever was before.

    Adam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose. They serve couples all over the world through online marriage counseling and coaching.

    Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links):
    FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More Connected
    REALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant Other
    SEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having Sex

    More DYMC Resources...
    Podcast
    YouTube
    Instagram
    Website: dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
    Phone: (916) 678-1797
    E-mail: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

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    Mon, 05 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)

    In a marriage devastated by porn, how do you rebuild trust? In part one of this two part series, Adam King and Karissa King share the 5 steps every couple must take to rebuild trust (for both spouses).

    Download the free PDF guide here: 5 Steps When Trust Has Been Broken

    Adam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose. They serve couples all over the world through online marriage counseling and coaching.

    Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links):
    FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More Connected
    REALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant Other
    SEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having Sex

    More DYMC Resources...
    Podcast
    YouTube
    Instagram
    Website: dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
    Phone: (916) 678-1797
    E-mail: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

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    Mon, 29 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    The Art Of Affirmation (with Stephen Thomas)

    We believe practicing verbal affirmation is absolutely essential to outgrowing porn. In this episode, Drew and Stephen will tell you why, and share practical strategies for how (not) to do it.

    Qualities Of Effective Affirmation:

    • specific and precise (not generic or vague)
    • evidence-based (clearly not made up)
    • focused on the person (not the performance)

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    Mon, 22 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Healing Father Wounds (with Chris Bruno)

    How does porn relate to your father? If you have been under-fathered, what does it look like to be re-fathered? And how can we become fathers who reverse the curse of sexual sin and shame? Let this conversation with Chris Bruno open your eyes!

    Chris Bruno is the Founder and CEO of Restoration Project, a ministry restoring the hearts of men. He is also the leader of Restoration Counseling and a married father who enjoys mountains, rivers, and hammocks.

    Chris has authored two books (these are paid links):
    Man Maker Project: Boys are Born, Men are Made
    Brotherhood Primer: A Journey Into Genuine Masculine Friendships

    Get 2 months of free access to "No Regrets," Chris Bruno's online community for fathers, here: restorationproject.net/husband-material

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    Mon, 15 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700
    Transform Your Thought Life (with Sathiya Sam)

    Let's change our brains. How can we take back control of our thoughts and transform our core beliefs? My fellow Canadian friend Sathiya Sam is here to show us how.

    Sathiya Sam is the founder of Deep Clean, an online recovery program that helps Christian men overcome porn. Connect with Sathiya @sathiyamesam and check out his program at getadeepclean.com

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    Mon, 08 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    Nine Tips About Triggers

    What are triggers? How do triggers work? And most importantly, how can we take back control when we get triggered? This episode will answer each of these questions clearly and concisely...and at the end, I'll explain my own B.O.A. Technique for effective regulation.

    Download the free one-page summary: Nine Tips About Triggers

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    Mon, 01 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    Holy Sexuality & Singleness (with Dr. Christopher Yuan)

    Hear Dr. Christopher Yuan's amazing story of coming to Christ, surrendering same-sex attraction, and embracing the gift of singleness.

    Dr. Christopher Yuan has taught at Moody Bible Institute for over ten years and his speaking ministry on faith and sexuality has reached five continents. In this episode, we dive into his newest book: Holy Sexuality and the Gospel.

    Dr. Yuan is the author of three books (these are paid links):
    1. Out of a Far Country: A Gay Son’s Journey to God, A Broken Mother’s Search for Hope
    2. Giving a Voice to the Voiceless: Reducing The Marginalization Of Same-Sex Attracted Students
    3. Holy Sexuality and the Gospel: Sex, Desire, and Relationships Shaped by God’s Grand Story

    Learn more about Christopher at christopheryuan.com



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    Tue, 23 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0800
    A Pastor Finds Freedom From Porn (with Bernie Anderson)

    Outgrowing porn can be especially difficult for pastors and ministry leaders. Hear how Pastor Bernie Anderson got found out, but found a way out...and how God found a way in!

    Bernie will be a leader at the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat. Sign up now to join his small group!

    Buy Bernie's book here (this is a paid link): Breaking The Silence: A Pastor Goes Public About His Battle With Pornography

    Email Bernie at banderson33@me.com

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    Mon, 15 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    What Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?

    What should I do with my sexual desires—my attractions, urges, impulses, cravings, fantasies, aches, longings, and yearnings? I've been on a quest to answer this question for 15 years and finally found an answer worth sharing...

    Download the worksheet for this episode with 35 desires and 4 directions for each one:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/35-desires-and-4-directions

    P.S. Don't forget to sign up for the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat!

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    Mon, 08 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    Blind Spots In Relationships (with Eddie Capparucci and Stephen Thomas)

    We all have blind spots. But what are they? If we knew, they wouldn't be blind spots! Listen to a lively conversation between 3 leaders as we talk about the blind spots we commonly see in ourselves and the men we coach.

    Eddie, Drew, and Stephen will all be leaders at the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat on "Healing The Inner Child" on the weekend of February 26-28!

    Get the details and register now at husbandmaterial.com/retreat

    Other free resources mentioned in this episode:

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    Mon, 01 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    Jesus Is Our Pure Hope (with Jasper Hall)

    Let's redefine purity: it's a relationship, not an accomplishment...it's about presence, not performance...and according to Jasper Hall, it comes from Jesus.

    Jasper Hall is the President of pureHOPE, a ministry equipping men and women to pursue purity through relationship with Jesus. Jasper brings a sense of calm and assurance to people who feel anxiety about navigating a sexualized, digital age. Learn more at purehope.net

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    Mon, 25 Jan 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    When Porn Seems Like The Only Option...

    Do you ever feel trapped? Let me give you 5 empowering choices when it feels like porn is the only option...and along the way, I'll tell a story I've never shared in public before.

    This episode comes with a free PDF worksheet.

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    Mon, 18 Jan 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    What Is A Sexually Healthy Man? (with Andrew Bauman)

    Many of us grew up without a clue about what it means to be a sexually healthy man. That's why I'm so grateful for Andrew Bauman and his new book, "The Sexually Healthy Man." Join us for a rugged conversation about true masculine sexuality.

    Andrew J. Bauman and his wife Christy run the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma, where they "provide high-quality experiential, narrative-based psychotherapy from a Christian worldview." Andrew is the author of several books, including The Psychology of Porn, A Brave Lament, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness.

    Get Andrew's new book: The Sexually Healthy Man

    Take Andrew's online quiz: Are You A Sexually Healthy Man?

    Connect with Andrew and read his blog at http://www.andrewjbauman.com

    Join our free private community for men: http://husbandmaterialmen.com/

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    Mon, 11 Jan 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    Fight The New Drug (with Clay Olsen)

    The global anti-porn movement is gaining momentum. In this episode, you'll hear about it directly from Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug. Fight The New Drug (FTND) is a youth movement dedicated to raising awareness of the harmful effects of pornography and other forms of sexual exploitation. Learn more at fightthenewdrug.org.

    Here are 2 amazing resources by Fight The New Drug everyone needs to know about:

    Brain Heart World - brainheartworld.org
    This is a 3-part documentary series about the effects of porn. It's funny, fascinating, and free.

    Fortify - husbandmaterial.com/fortify
    This is a mobile app that helps you enjoy life without porn. It's free with the option of upgrading for premium features. Support Husband Material by using the link above to create your account.

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    Mon, 04 Jan 2021 07:00:00 -0800
    How To Relate Like An Adult

    Learn the two styles of relating you need to outgrow in order to enjoy the freedom of life as an adult.

    Interested in outgrowing porn? Learn more at outgrowporn.com.

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    Mon, 28 Dec 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Marnie Ferree: Meet The Three Bears

    Within each of us, there are three bears in three chairs. Listen to Marnie Ferree explain why, and you'll understand yourself in a whole new way.

    Marnie C. Ferree is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Nashville, Tennessee, where she directs Bethesda Workshops, which provides Christian-based treatment for sex addicts, their partners, couples, and teens affected by sexual addiction. Learn more at https://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/

    Marnie is also the author of No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction: https://www.amazon.com/No-Stones-Redeemed-Sexual-Addiction/dp/083083740X

    No Stones is one of my all-time favorite books!

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    Mon, 21 Dec 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Greg Oliver: Prepare For A Porn-Free Christmas

    It's the most triggering time of the year! Have yourself a healthy little Christmas with tips from Greg Oliver as shares the 4 challenges we all face at Christmastime, the CPR method for staying healthy, and how to redeem the hand you use to masturbate.

    Greg Oliver struggled for over 25 years with an addiction to sex & porn. Since 2009 he has been on a journey of healing and recovery. Greg is a certified Sexual Recovery Pastoral Counselor and the Director/Co-founder (with his wife Stacey) of Awaken, a ministry that helps individuals, couples, and ministry leaders find hope and resources for sexual brokenness. Some of the resources offered by Awaken include in-person & virtual recovery meetings, 1-on-1 and couples coaching, and recovery intensives & workshops. Learn more at awakenrecovery.com

    Contact Greg by emailing greg@awakenrecovery.com.

    You can book a session with Greg at awakenrecovery.com/coaching.

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    Mon, 14 Dec 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Stephen Thomas: Shame Is A Terrible Friend

    Shame sucks. In this episode, Stephen Thomas shares a childhood story of humiliation, his struggle with porn and same-sex attraction, and how he found lasting freedom through radical vulnerability.

    Stephen is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 12 years. He has led multiple Pure Desire groups and is now joining Husband Material as a private small group leader. Stephen is passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them.

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    Mon, 07 Dec 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    The Gospel For Sexual Sinners (Live)

    How does the gospel speak into sexual brokenness? This episode is all about who Jesus is and who we are as sexual beings in Christ.

    Free resource: check out my list of Identity in Christ statements with Scripture references included at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/37

    Spoiler Alert: In the middle of this episode, there is a rap. Bet you didn't see that coming! In case you're wondering, the song is "The Cross (3 Hours)" by Shai Linne.

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    Mon, 30 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Josh Glaser: Lust And Love

    What's the difference between lust and love? Hear from Josh Glaser as he shares his story of healing and we talk about what it means to not just avoid lust, but grow in Christ-like love.

    Josh Glaser is the Executive Director of Regeneration, a Christ-centered ministry that helps men, women, and families to learn and live God’s good, holy, and beautiful design for sexuality.

    Check out Josh's podcast at regenerationministries.org/podcast

    Contact Josh to inquire about coaching at regenerationministries.org/coaching

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    Mon, 23 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    How To Fall Asleep Without Porn

    If lust is your lullaby, this episode is for you. Learn the unique reasons why porn serves as a sleep aid and how to find a better solution.

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    Mon, 16 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Laurie Krieg & Matt Krieg: Same-Sex Attraction In Marriage

    People say Matt and Laurie's marriage is impossible. Laurie's same-sex attraction and Matt's addiction to pornography almost led them to divorce. But this impossible marriage—and all marriages—are made possible by God.

    Laurie Krieg is a writer, speaker, and ministry leader whose mission is to teach the church how to approach sexuality with the gospel.

    Matt Krieg is a licensed professional counselor and director of counseling at Caring Well Counseling.

    Laurie and Matt are the authors of the new book, An Impossible Marriage: What Our Mixed-Orientation Marriage Has Taught Us About Love and the Gospel. Together, Laurie and Matt host the Hole in My Heart Podcast and live in beautiful West Michigan with their three young children.

    Buy their book here: https://www.amazon.com/Impossible-Marriage-Mixed-Orientation-Taught-Gospel/dp/0830847936/ref=as_li_ss_tl?tag=impossiblem02-20

    Listen to their podcast here: https://lauriekrieg.com/podcast/

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    Mon, 09 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Dr. Eddie Capparucci: Porn And The Inner Child

    Behind the scenes of sexual addiction, the inner child is running the show. Porn is his pacifier and lust is his lullaby. So who is this kid, and how can we help him heal? Join me and Eddie Capparucci as we discuss the 9 types of inner child...and why the road to recovery runs through your childhood.

    Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sexual and pornography addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of "Going Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction."

    Eddie's book and other resources are all available at https://innerchild-sexaddiction.com/

    Eddie will be joining us this week for a Live Q&A about The Inner Child inside our private group for men at husbandmaterialmen.com. Hope to see you there!

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    Mon, 02 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Dr. Doug Carpenter: Trauma And Masculinity

    What does it mean to "be a man"? What is true masculinity? Dr. Doug Carpenter cuts through the clutter and defines masculinity in a way that empowers men to be who we really are.

    Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist and the co-owner of Insight Counseling Services in Rochester, Michigan. He's the author of "Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male."

    Buy Doug's book here: Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male

    Doug will be joining us for a Live Q&A Call inside the Husband Material Men Facebook Group this week. Bring all your questions about trauma, masculinity, and gender-role conflict!

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    Mon, 26 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Six Skills To Help Men Outgrow Porn (LIVE)

    Learn the G.R.O.W.T.H. model for helping men outgrow porn:

    G = Going First
    R = Repeating & Rephrasing
    O = Observing
    W = Weaving & Waiting
    T = Telling The Truth
    H = Having Fun!

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    Mon, 19 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Rodney & Traci Wright: How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex

    How can we help the next generation develop healthy sexuality in a pornographic world? That's the question Rodney and Traci Wright answer on today's episode.

    Rodney & Traci are the authors of How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex. They're passionate about helping parents communicate healthy sexuality with our kids. In their work for Pure Desire Ministries, Rodney and Traci share their personal journey of recovery and hope based on 30+ years of experience as speakers, pastors, and counselors. They have raised three children and currently reside in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho.

    BONUS EPISODE: Rodney and Traci will be joining us for a Live Q&A Session inside the Husband Material Private Facebook Group on Sunday night, October 18th. Join the group so you can attend the Q&A at husbandmaterialmen.com

    Buy How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex here: puredesire.org/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex

    Email Rodney at rodney@puredesire.org or call him at 208-691-3872

    Email Traci at traciw@puredesire.org

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    Mon, 12 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Why You Should Treat The Sabbath Like Sex

    Does the Sabbath seem like a boring, outdated obligation? It's not when you treat it like sex!

    Download the free “Design Your Day Of Delight” worksheet at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/design-your-day-of-delight

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    Mon, 05 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Crystal Renaud Day: Women Struggle With Porn Too

    Guys, we're not the only ones who need to outgrow porn. Shout out to all the ladies following Husband Material even though it's meant for men! Whoever you are, you'll love this conversation with Crystal Renaud Day.

    Crystal is the host of the upcoming SHE Virtual Recovery Summit for women struggling with porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Don't worry, men are invited too. Register for this free online conference at shevirtualsummit.com

    Crystal Renaud Day is the founding director of SheRecovery.com (formerly Dirty Girls Ministries), an online ministry helping women overcome porn and sexual addiction. Her books include Dirty Girls Come Clean, 90 Days to Wholeness, and Dating Done Right.

    If you're a woman struggling with porn, join Crystal's private Facebook Group for women here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/218309822664020/

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    Mon, 28 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    How To Outgrow Porn (Intro to HMA)

    In this presentation, I'll share the most powerful way to change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship without fighting an exhausting battle against your secret sexual desires. (Get the video at outgrowporn.com)

    You'll learn:

    • Five reasons why purity culture sets you up to struggle with porn
    • The secret trick to "hack" your sexual fantasies and strip porn of its seductive power
    • How to completely eliminate the risk of relapse (without getting accountability software or giving up your smartphone)

    And at the end...I'll introduce the all-in-one solution for Christian men outgrowing porn: Husband Material Academy (HMA)!

    Join HMA at http://joinHMA.com

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    Fri, 18 Sep 2020 08:00:00 -0700
    Bless The Boy Within You (LIVE)

    Men don't get hooked on porn...boys do. In this episode, I'll guide you through an exercise to help you build trust with the young boy in your heart who was originally exploited by porn.

    This LIVE episode is a sneak preview of my brand-new program, Husband Material Academy (HMA). To learn more, visit joinhma.com

    Not sure if you want to join HMA? Come to my FINAL free live class this Tuesday night, September 15th @ outgrowporn.com

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    Mon, 14 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Three Proven Power Tools To Prevent Porn Relapse

    Outgrowing porn is about so much more than eliminating unhealthy behavior. At the same time, preventing relapse is a necessary short-term skill, which you can develop and improve. In this episode, I'll explain three proven tools to help prevent relapse..and my #1 tip for how to use these tools effectively.

    Download the "Relapse Prevention Toolbox" one-page worksheet here:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/free-pdf-relapse-prevention-toolbox

    Get more free training at outgrowporn.com

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    Mon, 07 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Healing Sexual Bulimia

    Do you binge on porn and then purge it all from your devices, promising to never look again? In this episode, you'll learn 2 ways to stop the cycle of sexual bulimia.

    More training at outgrowporn.com

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    Mon, 24 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Rosie Makinney: Help Your Girlfriend Heal

    What if you're dating someone while outgrowing porn? How can you support each other effectively? Join us for a conversation with Rosie Makinney on what it takes to save your marriage before it starts!

    Rosie Makinney is the founder of Fight For Love Ministries and the author of Fight For Love: How To Take Your Marriage Back From Porn.

    Are you a boyfriend or a husband? Invite your significant other to join Rosie's free confidential group for women, Fight For Love Fellowship: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FightForLoveFellowship/

    Other resources for girlfriends and wives:
    Hope Redefined
    The Naked Truth Project
    BeBroken Ministries
    Pure Desire
    Betrayal Trauma Recovery
    Recover for Women
    Bloom for Women

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    Mon, 17 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    How To Break The Spell Of Domination & Submission (LIVE)

    In the porn you prefer, who's in charge? If you're usually dominant or submissive, have you ever wondered why? In today's episode, we’ll unpack 2 sexual fantasies featuring power dynamics of domination & submission.

    Apply for Husband Material Group Coaching at husbandmaterial.com/group

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    Mon, 10 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Why Anger Is A Prophet

    What if your anger is not a problem, but a prophet with a message that just might heal you? This episode will challenge you to rethink anger so you can stop using sexual behavior as an outlet for eroticized rage.

    Join this week’s LIVE episode this Thursday (about power & submission) inside our private group for men at husbandmaterialmen.com

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    Mon, 03 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Dr. Cameron Staley: Free To Be Present

    If you're feeling frustrated and exhausted from fighting a battle against yourself, this episode is for you. Join me for a conversation with Cameron Staley revealing the power and practice of mindfulness!

    Dr. Cameron Staley is a clinical psychologist, porn researcher, and the creator of Life After Pornography, an online program proven to reduce unwanted pornography viewing in adults. Cameron specializes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an effective treatment for reducing unwanted porn viewing.

    Check out Life After Pornography at lifeafterpornography.com

    I'm also excited to share Cameron's podcast on mental health and pornography:
    podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-life-after-series

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    Mon, 27 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Guided Meditation with Dr. Cameron Staley

    This bonus episode will guide you through an experiential exercise in mindfulness.

    You can download the mp3 meditation for future listening at husbandmaterial.com/cameron.

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    Mon, 27 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    From Distracted To Disciplined

    Have you ever struggled with ADHD or distraction? When you can't focus, freedom from porn becomes almost impossible. That's why in this episode, I open up about my own journey through ADHD, as well as 4 helpful tips that will take you from distracted to disciplined.

    Extended Training Video (Free From Day One): husbandmaterial.com/free-from-day-one

    Resources mentioned in this episode:
    freetofocusbook.com
    fullfocusplanner.com
    habitica.com

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    Mon, 20 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    The Secret Behind Sexual Fetishes (LIVE)

    Have you ever been sexually attracted to something weird or uncommon? Have you ever wondered if it’s okay to pursue that sexually with another person?

    In this episode, you'll learn how sexual fetishes develop and what to do if you have one...with plenty of time for Q&A from members of our private group at husbandmaterialmen.com

    Want to win a free "fetish & fantasy" private coaching session with me? I'm giving one away to a random reviewer of this podcast. All you have to do is write a review on iTunes and send an email to drew@husbandmaterial.com to let me know you wrote it, and you'll be entered to win.

    Reviews are how people know if they should listen or not, so if you like the show, please take a minute to write a review. Thank you so much!

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    Mon, 13 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Nick Stumbo: Free To Be Known

    Discover how Nick Stumbo found freedom from porn, even while serving as the lead pastor of a church!

    Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and Co-Host of the Pure Desire Podcast. He's also the author of Setting Us Free: An Unexpected Journey Of Grace, and Safe: Creating A Culture Of Grace In A Climate Of Shame. You can email him at nicks@puredesire.org

    In this episode, we walk a lot about the power of groups.

    Join a Pure Desire Group here: https://www.puredesire.org

    Join an Unwanted Journey Group here: https://www.unwantedworkbook.com/groups

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    Mon, 06 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    How To Find A Great Mentor

    Learn my formula for finding great mentors who ask YOU to spend time together!

    Upcoming LIVE Broadcast: Sexual Fetishes. You're invited to participate in the recording of an upcoming LIVE episode about sexual fetishes, inside our private online community for men. Sign up to join us on Thursday, July 2nd at http://husbandmaterialmen.com. There will be time for Q&A, so bring your questions!

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    Mon, 29 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Guided Meditation by Jenna Riemersma

    This bonus episode will guide you through an experiential exercise in IFS therapy.

    You can download the mp3 meditation for future listening at husbandmaterial.com/jenna.

    Jenna's new book, Altogether You, explains the power of IFS from a Christian perspective. Use this link to buy the book and support her work: https://amzn.to/2TsNWK7

    Connect with Jenna and get more free resources at https://jennariemersma.com/

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    Mon, 22 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Jenna Riemersma: Move Toward, Not Against

    Get ready for a magnificent conversation with Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Jenna Riemersma – my former professor and the first female guest on this show!

    Jenna also recorded an exclusive guided meditation exercise for us, which you can download here:
    www.husbandmaterial.com/jenna

    Jenna Riemersma is the Clinical Director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is a teaching faculty member for the International Institute For Trauma And Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Her new book, Altogether You, is now available! Use this link to buy the book and support her work: https://amzn.to/2TsNWK7

    Connect with Jenna and get more free resources at https://jennariemersma.com/

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    Mon, 22 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    When You Get An Erection...

    What do you do when you get an erection? Use these 3 tips to bless your body instead of cursing it.

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    Mon, 15 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    The Exact Path To Freedom From Porn

    Discover exactly what it takes to succeed in achieving total freedom from porn.

    This episode was recorded LIVE inside the Husband Material Community, a private online group for men outgrowing porn. To join us for future live episodes, visit husbandmaterialmen.com

    Download the Porn-Free Path Worksheet at husbandmaterial.com/23

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    Mon, 08 Jun 2020 10:00:00 -0700
    What Does The Bible Say About Porn?

    Most people don’t realize the Bible talks directly about porn. In this episode, I’ll share three New Testament teachings on “porneia” and reveal the beauty and power of each one.

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    Mon, 01 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Andrew Bauman: Free To Grieve (Part 2 of 2)

    Today we have two Andrew B's on the show! Join us for a two-part conversation on how to handle beauty, how to go through grief, and how these healing journeys release us into greater freedom from porn.

    Andrew J. Bauman and his wife Christy started the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma, where they "provide high-quality experiential, narrative-based psychotherapy from a Christian worldview." Andrew is the author of several books, including The Psychology of Porn, A Brave Lament, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness.

    You can connect with Andrew at http://www.andrewjbauman.com

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    Mon, 25 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Andrew Bauman: Free For Beauty (Part 1 of 2)

    Today we have two Andrew B's on the show! Join us for a two-part conversation on how to handle beauty, how to go through grief, and how these healing journeys release us into greater freedom from porn.

    Andrew J. Bauman and his wife Christy started the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma, where they "provide high-quality experiential, narrative-based psychotherapy from a Christian worldview." Andrew is the author of several books, including The Psychology of Porn, A Brave Lament, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness.

    You can connect with Andrew at http://www.andrewjbauman.com

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    Mon, 25 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Five Failures of Purity Culture

    Discover 5 reasons why I believe purity culture is the number one enemy of freedom from porn.

    Sexuality Meets Discipleship ebook: https://www.drewboa.com/ebook

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    Mon, 18 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Sathiya Sam: Free To Choose

    Find out how Sathiya Sam developed emotional fitness, self-awareness, and freedom to enjoy his sexuality!

    Sathiya Sam is the founder of Deep Clean, where he helps men overcome pornography through a step-by-step process to experience freedom in their relationships, identity and future.

    Connect with Sathiya at www.sathiyasam.com

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    Thu, 14 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Why Porn Is A Pacifier

    Learn how porn functions as a pacifier, and how to outgrow it without fighting the battle.

    Download the Sexual Fantasy Framework here:
    http://www.sexualfantasyframework.com/


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    Mon, 11 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Why I Bought “Porn For Women”

    Listen in on the surprising lessons I learned from a little book called "Porn For Women."

    Download my free course on sexual fantasies:
    http://sexualfantasyframework.com/

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    Thu, 07 May 2020 09:00:00 -0700
    Should I Delete Instagram?

    Discover if deleting Instagram is right for you. I want you to make this decision with confidence.

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    Mon, 04 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Shawn Bonneteau: Free For Life

    Find out how God delivered Shawn from deep self-hatred and saved his marriage.

    Shawn and Helena Bonneteau are the founders of Secret Habit. Their mission is to help young men and women heal from the effects of pornography.

    Listen to the Secret Habit Podcast.

    Connect with Shawn here:
    https://www.secrethabit.ca/
    https://www.instagram.com/secrethabitministry/


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    Thu, 30 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Does Marriage Makes It Easier To Quit Porn?

    Hint: the answer is no. Learn 3 reasons why marriage is not a solution to sexual brokenness.

    Visit Dear Young Married Couple for more amazing online content and counseling.

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    Mon, 27 Apr 2020 06:00:00 -0700
    How to Process Your Past

    This one simple shift in language unlocks massive transformation as you heal from porn.

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    Thu, 23 Apr 2020 09:00:00 -0700
    What's Your Attachment Style?

    Discover your personal attachment style, how it affects your sexuality, and how it can be changed!

    For much of the content in this episode, I am indebted to The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast, hosted by Adam Young.

    Download Adam's excellent attachment worksheet here.



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    Mon, 20 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Trevor Winsor: Free From Secrets

    Find out how God healed Trevor Winsor from love addiction!

    Get the full video interview at husbandmaterial.com/trevor.

    Trevor Winsor hosts the Pure Desire Podcast. Connect with him on Instagram @trevormwinsor and @puredesirepdmi.

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    Thu, 16 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Four Ways To Reparent Yourself

    Underneath every sexual struggle, there is a little child who needs love. This episode will show you how to be a father to your younger self.

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    Mon, 13 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Same-Sex Attraction

    Multiple listeners have asked me to address the topic of same-sex attraction.

    This episode is my response. It's not a lecture. It's an invitation to listen to your story.

    Get the Unwanted Digital Workbook here: https://www.unwantedworkbook.com


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    Thu, 09 Apr 2020 11:00:00 -0700
    Where Do Sexual Fantasies Come From?

    Your sexual fantasies are not random. They are telling the story of your heart. Listen to that story and your fantasies will lose their power!

    Watch The Sexual Fantasy Framework Video Series here

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    Mon, 06 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Frank Rich: Free From Limits

    Frank Rich destroyed his laptop to remove access to porn. What happened next?

    Find out on today's episode!

    You can connect with Frank on Instagram @thesuperhumanfrank.


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    Fri, 03 Apr 2020 09:00:00 -0700
    Should I Tell My Parents I Struggle With Porn?

    Learn how to decide whether to tell your parents about porn—and a formula for EXACTLY what to say to them.

    Get your Top 10 Tools To Quit Porn In 2020 here.

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    Mon, 30 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    The Truth About Penis Size

    Get the facts so you can stop believing lies you hear in middle school locker rooms.

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    Thu, 26 Mar 2020 17:00:00 -0700
    Four Levels Of Freedom From Porn

    Discover your current level of freedom from porn, and how to reach the next level up.

    LEVEL 1: MISERY
    LEVEL 2: MOTIVATION
    LEVEL 3: MATURITY
    LEVEL 4: MASTERY

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    Mon, 23 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Rocky Pisor: Free From Shame

    Find out how God gave Rocky Pisor deep healing from shame after revealing the sexual trauma he endured as a boy.

    Connect with Rocky Pisor at www.regener8mentoring.com/

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    Thu, 19 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    How To Handle Overwhelming Sexual Urges

    Stop fighting your sexual desires so you can express them in healthy and holy ways.

    Watch my new free video series with Jay Stringer:
    THE SEXUAL FANTASY FRAMEWORK

    For daily advice, follow me on Instagram

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    Mon, 16 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    The F.L.O.S.S. Method

    Use this simple strategy to unpack your sexual and emotional triggers at a deeper level.

    Get the full video and the free F.L.O.S.S. worksheet at husbandmaterial.com/11

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    Mon, 09 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700
    Ben Bennett: Free To Be Whole

    Ben Bennett was addicted to porn...then he was addicted to sexual purity. Discover how God delivered him from both addictions to experience true satisfaction, intimacy, and wholeness!

    Ben is a speaker with JoshMcDowell Ministries. He is the author of Living Free and the Flesh Series. Connect with Ben on Instagram @benvbennett.

    Get the full video interview at husbandmaterial.com/ben.

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    Thu, 05 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Ten Reasons To Quit Porn

    If you're on the fence about quitting porn, this episode is for you.

    The 10 most powerful motivations to quit porn:

    1. For Yourself
    2. For Your Brain
    3. For Your Body
    4. For Your Values
    5. For Your Faith
    6. For Your Marriage
    7. For Your Family
    8. For Your Career
    9. For Your Calling
    10. For Your Legacy

    Check out more reasons to quit porn by visiting
    https://www.brainheartworld.org

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    Tue, 03 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Your Struggle With Porn Is Not Your Fault

    In less than 10 minutes, I will try my best to convince you of this one thing:

    Your struggle with porn is not your fault.

    Don't believe me? Start listening...

    It's not your fault. It's your responsibility.

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    Thu, 27 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Accountability Is Dead

    Discover why traditional accountability is dead, and learn 3 ways to transform it!

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    Mon, 24 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Cooper Cadle: Free To Be A Father

    Find out how God gave Cooper freedom from porn to prepare him for marriage, ministry, and fatherhood.

    Get the video interview here:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/cooper

    Follow me @husbandmaterialmen


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    Thu, 20 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Three Secrets To Self Control

    When you feel out of control, use these 3 strategies to regulate your brain and body:

    1. Oxygen: Breathe Deeply.
    2. Attention: Notice Sensations.
    3. Attachment: Find A Safe Person.

    Download the FREE Self-Control Worksheet:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/8

    Follow me! @husbandmaterialmen


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    Mon, 17 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Thirteen Ideas For Incredible Allies

    Wondering what you should do with your allies? Here are 13 ideas!

    Here's the exact worksheet I use for weekly check-ins:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/checkin

    And here's the book I mentioned: Unwanted, by Jay Stringer
    https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720

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    Thu, 13 Feb 2020 13:00:00 -0800
    How To Find Allies (Without Being Awkward)

    Learn 10 ways to find awesome allies (online and in-person) WITHOUT the awkwardness.

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    Mon, 10 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Sexual Dreams

    If you've ever been troubled by your sexual dreams, this quick episode is for you!

    Here are my favorite Bible verses to keep me safe from spiritual attack while sleeping:

    Psalm 4:8
    "I will lie down and sleep in peace for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety."

    Psalm 63:6
    "On my bed I remember You. I think of You through the watches of the night. Because You are my help, I will rejoice in the shadow of your wings."

    Check out The Sexual Fantasy Framework here:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/fantasy

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    Fri, 07 Feb 2020 14:00:00 -0800
    Six Myths About Masturbation

    I'll share 6 myths about masturbation, 3 truths to hold onto, and my #1 tip on what to do!

    Wondering if your version of masturbation is healthy or not?
    Take my new free quiz: The Masturbation Meter
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/m



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    Mon, 03 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Why You May Have Lost Your "Streak"

    I'll tell you about my worst relapse ever, and how I avoided another one when my son died.

    This episode was recorded LIVE in the Husband Material Community!

    Want to join us for the next one?

    Get notified about future LIVE episodes by joining our community here:
    http://www.husbandmaterialmen.com

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    Thu, 30 Jan 2020 11:00:00 -0800
    Five Ways Your Phone Can Help You Quit Porn

    Have you ever felt like your smartphone is holding you back from quitting porn?

    In this episode, you'll learn 5 ways your phone can actually help you quit porn. You'll transform your phone from part of the problem into part of the solution!

    Five Ways Your Smartphone Can Help You Quit Porn:
    1. STAY ON TRACK
    2. CALL A FRIEND
    3. JOIN A GROUP
    4. TAKE A COURSE
    5. HIRE A PRO

    For more ideas, check out my Top 10 Tools To Quit Porn In 2020: https://www.husbandmaterial.com/top10tools

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    Mon, 27 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Redeemed Sexuality (Live at Messiah College)

    Here's the message I delivered at Messiah College Chapel.

    Culture inside the church promotes "repressed sexuality."
    Culture outside the church promotes "released sexuality."
    Jesus offers us something different: redeemed sexuality!

    You can buy the book, Redeemed Sexuality, here:
    https://www.amazon.com/Redeemed-Sexuality-Sessions-Transformation-Community/dp/0830821279

    Check out my old Redeemed Sexuality Podcast here:
    https://soundcloud.com/redeemedsexuality

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    Thu, 23 Jan 2020 14:00:00 -0800
    What To Do When You See Attractive People

    Download your free prayer guide here:
    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/4

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    Mon, 20 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Should I Use Accountability Software?

    Question: What accountability software should I use?

    Answer: Replace your stressful sexual surveillance with holy sensuality!

    But what about you...

    What's your #1 question about how to quit porn?

    Share your suggestions here:

    https://www.husbandmaterial.com/idea

    You might just be featured on a future episode!

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    Thu, 16 Jan 2020 12:00:00 -0800
    Three Steps To Smartphone Safety

    Get the video, blog post, and free worksheet at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/3.

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    Mon, 13 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Drew's Story Of Freedom

    Here's the interview with Patrick Carnes that helped me overcome sexual self-hatred:
    www.youtube.com/watch?v=i1pQfGD_MQI

    Here's the book I published, Redeemed Sexuality:
    https://www.amazon.com/Redeemed-Sexuality-Sessions-Transformation-Community/dp/0830821279

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    Thu, 09 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn?

    After sharing 3 ways to accelerate your freedom from porn, at the end of the episode, Drew will share his #1 secret to long-term sexual sobriety.

    Download The FREE Porn-Free Path Checklist here: https://husbandmaterial.com/2

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    Mon, 06 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0800
    Replace Your New Year's Resolutions

    In this episode, I'll help you replace your new year's resolution to quit porn with something better... a small-yet-powerful action step you probably haven’t been doing!

    Along the way, you’ll hear my personal predictions for 2020, and some wisdom from Star Wars Episode IX.

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    Thu, 02 Jan 2020 08:00:00 -0800
    How To Rebound From Relapse (Without Shame, Stress, Or More Relapse)

    In this video, you'll learn what a relapse is, and how to handle it in a healthy way!

    FREE Worksheet - How To Respond To Relapse:
    https://husbandmaterial.com/5

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    Mon, 30 Dec 2019 09:00:00 -0800
    Introducing: Husband Material

    Welcome to the Husband Material Podcast, where we help Christian men outgrow porn so you can change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship. My name is Drew Boa, and I'm here to show you how.

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